Married at First Sight Season 15, Episode 16 (Therapist/Relationship Expert Review)

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Stephanie Lee, a therapist/Relationship Expert provides her personal and professional opinion/advice on this episode of season 15’s Married at First Sight.
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[@bathos22]

Nate is intelligent. Which is why he is able to swat Stacia's belly aches with clear reasoning. I like Stacia and I'm definitely rooting for them, however, good for Nate for firmly pushing back and communicating to Stacia that he can walk away In effect saying, 'you are not the catch you think you are to me'. "I take peace before marriage anyday" - Nate. 🎯 #TeamNate.

[@debmck30]

I was impressed with Nate standing up for himself in saying he chooses HAPPINESS over marriage. I was like Yes. Stacia is gorgeous, smart, a business go getter with money, but she is a control freak as well. You gotta think how every day life will look with someone like that.

[@successfullyme]

Completely agree! If she doesn’t get it together, she will make them both miserable

[@bathos22]

@@debmck30 Everyday life will be tough. The bit about wearing socks in the house so oils on your feet don't get on the carpet had me 👀👀👀 Imagine never walking bare foot around your own home. Does this apply to curling up on a couch. God forbid your oils get on the upholstery.

[@yvonnedonaldson53]

You have to wonder what happened in her childhood that has caused her to become so controlling. She needs a stepford husband.

[@bathos22]

@@yvonnedonaldson53 Maybe she was raised by controlling parents - the "a child is to be seen not heard" upbringing.

[@bathos22]

Also, Stacia needs to stop being self-absorbed and hear Nate when he says her harping on him triggers feelings of not being good enough. That was powerful when I heard him say this. This is when an expert could have helped her see that.

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

They make such a big deal about decision day. You can not know for sure after 8 weeks if your partner Is the right one for you-well unless there's been some abuse, contempt or zero attraction. Then you know he or she is the WRONG partner. Trust means retaining belief in the big picture of the relationship even in the face of some minor temporary doubt, based on a huge preponderance of positive past experience with the person. But you need a lot of positive experiences to establish that picture in the first place. At 2 months or even 3 months you haven't known ANYONE long enough to construct any sort of big picture of your relationship; you're still in the 'data-gathering 'phase, and it can take 7-8-9-10 months...or longer. My husband and I met on a blind date and we clicked right away. We spent the next 4 weekends seeing one another. So we had about 9 dates and at that point he became very serious about me -he was 35 and I was 26. He was ready to be married in another month or two- I wasn’t. He really wanted to get married ! I was crazy about him but wanted us to get to know one another better. I said let’s get engaged and get to know each other better. So we did. And a few months later we went to pre-marital counseling and the therapist confirmed that we had much to offer one another and were a good fit. So we set a wedding date and we ended up marrying 10 months from our first date. I highly recommend pre-marital counseling. We were fortunate that we had the same values and were educated and attracted to one another. But we didn’t really “know” one another -even after 10 months of dating! We both had good jobs and he owned a house- mortgage free. I had a one year old condo that had a small mortgage . We both owned new vehicles. Neither of us had any debt We both had savings. So we had lots going for us. I liked his mom and sister and he liked my mom & brother. We each liked one another's friends & extended family.

[@rosemanos5123]

ITA. Every week I say the same thing - Alexis doesn't want Justin and I'm not sure she even likes Justin. I predict she'll say no on D Day and, hopefully, Justin will say no , too, and move on. Lindy and Miguel exhaust me but I'm sure they'll say yes on D Day. They need individual and couples therapy to last. Krysten is settling with Mitch. If they say yes on D Day, they'll be over by the Reunion. Nate is the best man this season. He's really surprised me with his insights and maturity. Stacia needs to dial it back and stop being controlling. I believe they'll say yes on D Day and will last if Stacia stops trying to control everything..

[@bummymaj422]

Justin is afraid of rejection if he makes a move. I think he has tried before but not reciprocal. Alexis is just going through to end the series. No chance for them

[@audacity2hope645]

Justin is not confident. I think his trying is awkward and not satisfying. I think he was just as awkward in other relationships. It’s not easy being in this situation and the sex makes no sense in their situation. They were always incompatible. Times up. They need to say the obvious and move on.

[@RDCFemmes]

@@audacity2hope645 Akward people need, special people. I love akward men but you have to also be assertive. Can'tbe akward and a doormate, that is so unattractive.

[@audacity2hope645]

@@RDCFemmes I agree. Justin’s awkwardness was accompanied by weakness, failure to accept responsibility, marked immaturity and roller coaster emotions. It’s draining and, like you, I think it’s a turn off.

[@dtayism]

Again:... Stephanie Lee ..... They need to hire you for a therapist position at MAFS

[@successfullyme]

💗💗💗

[@julietterockhead2652]

You’re spot on with your insight on each couple this episode, especially Nate and Sasha.Was very hard to watch this week.Can’t wait to see the outcome.

[@gloriarogers90]

Hope is well - we missed your post after decision day!

[@bathos22]

The 90% Alexis claims definitely doesn't ring true. She's stringing him along whether intentionally or not. Yes, it was weird hearing a mother tell a 6'7" grown man to get freaky. I thought Justin felt uncomfortable that his mom said that to him but then he goes telling Alex about it. Huh! Seems he's grasping at anything to give her in hopes she stays.

[@loletamontgomery2679]

Where have the experts been? What actually is their role with the couples and individuals? Justin, Lindsay, Stacia and Mitch have needed individual counseling for a while. If the experts are accessing the footage, why aren’t they intervening to actually help??

[@barbaracronin4164]

Kristen does not seem to understand that RESPECT is based on SELFRESPECT. When she grovels she’s is not respecting herself. It also doesn’t seem that Mitch is requiring that.

[@bathos22]

Really love your insightful reviews. I agree, while I applaud Krysten's emotional maturity, I agree, her I'll-take-what-I-can needs to go. Great insight ❤️

[@tanyafeatherstone3303]

Stacia is trying to force him into lying. She has not told him that she's maddly in love with him. She's unrealistic with her expectations 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ReneeDeborah]

Yes. Yes. And YES!!!!

[@yvonnedelories4780]

Totally agree

[@bathos22]

She probably thought taking his name as soon as they met would parachute him to "burning love".

[@dmp04]

The theme of the show seems to have changed over time. It used to be that the couples would spend 8 weeks finding out if the relationship was worth continuing. It has turned into they have 8 weeks to fall in love. That is not realistic. How many times do we see declarations of love, and the next week they want to break up?

[@phyllisward8682]

Great review Stephanie. I can't wait for the reunion show cause that's when the claws come out.

[@robinblackwell9481]

I'm glad to hear you're Team Nate - me too. I feel like Stacia is expecting him to fill a void that she needs to find healing for - I hope they can find their way past it all. I was also really happy to hear you call out Alexis for saying she's 90% there - I don't believe it either. A no from both of them on decision day feels like the healthiest move.

[@Featherheather81]

Alexis knows she doesn't like Justin. I don't know why she keeps giving him false hope. Stacia is on a timeline to have kids. At 37, she doesn't feel like she has time to wait. She literally wanted a husband to "plug and play" so she could keep her timeline in tact. That's why she did the show. Krysten and Mitch are growing on me...but if he can't love her the way she needs, then she shouldn't settle. Lindy and Miguel just get on my nerves. Constantly acting crazy and then apologizing all the time is getting old.

[@audacity2hope645]

Thanks for your review🤗. I agree about all of the couples. I feel terrible for KrYsten. I find myself wishing the experts would step up and talk her out of saying yes if she seems so inclined. I don’t see their long term viability cuz Mitch doesn’t seem that into her. My jaw dropped when he mentioned going slow and needing a break🫣.

[@bathos22]

I can see Krysten and Mitch saying yes on D-day not because they are that into each other but because they think the alternative (being single) is worse.

[@maureencottrell5823]

If my MAFS husband wanted a break after 8 weeks I'd be like boy bye.

[@audacity2hope645]

@@maureencottrell5823 🎯KrYsten needs to love herself. This should be a definite no.

[@audacity2hope645]

@@bathos22 I hope she thinks about his needing an immediate break, the filthy way he lived, his extreme environmentalism, his failure to support her dreams, that she is not who he wants, that he does not give affirmations even when she tells him what to say, that he is not that into her. I’m hoping she chooses herself🙏.

[@audacity2hope645]

@@maureencottrell5823 ditto that🎯

[@hattiedennard6724]

A great review ❤ This season has been an up hill battle 😢.

[@bathos22]

I can see Mitch and Krysten, on D-day, taking the half- a-loaf-is-better-than- nothing option. Stay together until THE one shows up.

[@heavensqueen839]

I like your idea of 4 week on, 4 weeks off. That’s what happened during the Covid season, season 11. And that format saved Karen and Miles.

[@audacity2hope645]

I, too, questioned the role of production or editing of couples’ conversations. Some transitions didn’t seem to follow. Like you, I felt that when Alexis said they would be better off as friends, it didn’t follow from what she’d said previously. KrYsten seemed like she would accept what Mitch was saying one minute and then come back to it with a slightly different take a few minutes later. It’s easier to overlook incongruent transitions episode to episode, but draws more questions when it’s seemingly within the same scene or a few minutes apart.

[@SoldbyKLove]

I received my Sip and Share game. I'm looking forward to playing this after reviewing some of the cards. I'm waiting for decision day. It seems as if they had to bring on the drama to get everyone ready. The reunion is when it really hits the fan. I look forward to that more than decision day.

[@successfullyme]

Yay! Hope you enjoy it! 💗

[@bathos22]

Was your mom watching with you to hear Justin's mom tell him to get freaky? Curious about mama's reaction and you shrinking at the exchange on your TV. Gurrrl😂😂

[@successfullyme]

Mama didn’t watch this week, thank God! 😩😂😂😂😂

[@bathos22]

@@successfullyme Thank God is right. Exhale.😂

[@ariadnebene8413]

I've been tired of Krysten almost from the beginning when we found out about her dating a man for five years who she knew was sleeping on neighbors couches when they first met and the only thing that made her finally wake up and leave was the fact the mistress confronted her. Like you've said about Bihn and Morgan, everyone is harping on Mitch because he's so *obviously* a problem like Morgan was, but they are forgetting to look at Krysten. Like Krysten, why do you constantly keep begging for scraps from this guy when it's clear it's like pulling teeth to get a measley compliment naturally from him? And at this point a sis is tired of her begging because that outburst with all the couples, experts, and guest experts there was for nothing if you don't change your ways. This is why I feel like she's part of the problem. Not just Mitch at this point.

[@SIMARSONG]

Stacia is pushing Nate, but does she actually love him? Is he just part of her "plan" to get married, have a man crazy in love with her, then have a baby? He is obviously not feeling the burning love that she want to experience from him.

[@sloan1438]

FACTS ABOUT ALL YOU SAID I ROCK WITH YOUR CONTENT I JUST WASN'T FEELING YOUR CHOICE OF LIP STICK THIS TIME

[@yvonnedonaldson53]

Alexis is NOT going to say yes. She been playing games with Justin from day one.

[@RDCFemmes]

Been busy but was able to catch up with your reviews.

[@senowineblackwine6130]

What’s Stacy is saying he was in a two year relationship living with a woman and he wasn’t in love with her she does not want that to be her she just need some clarification.

[@nnena3631]

Exactly, women can often FEEL a mans thoughts toward he ever expresses them. He always looks vacant, detached, emotionless and slightly annoyed to me. I can understand why she's concerned. He has shown more emotion over places to live, than his own wife. If I can see it as a viewer I'm sure she can feel it. She said from The beginning she questioned his intentions some of her castmates agreed. There was something he was giving off for them to draw that conclusion. I'm also concerned about how quickly he jumps to anger.

[@wentzel812]

@@nnena3631 I guess you would be concerned with most of us getting angry with her then. Controlling people make people angry, it's normal. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@wentzel812]

Comparing her relationship with Nate to another he had in the past based off 2 months of meeting him doesn't sound like a great idea. She needs to chill.

[@AlwaysLisaLisa]

Justin has a virgin/low experience vibe. It’s ok whatever parent adult child relationship people are ok with. Keep it as private as possible. Lastly there’s another way to advise basically the same thing😊

[@candy20091]

She was young too an she kept it real not a problem.

[@tanyafeatherstone3303]

Good morning from So. Cali.🥰

[@successfullyme]

Morning Tanya! 😊

[@moniquesmith9930]

GM😊 I say… throw the whole season away😂

[@successfullyme]

😂😂😂😂

[@yvonnedelories4780]

I agree! It's ridiculous to expect someone to fall in love in two months. Stacia got on my last nerve! I've pretty much been team Nate for most of each episode. Stacia is tiring and I wanna talk to her Mom about Stacia. Sit your daughter down and tell her the truth or hell her Mom behave the same way? I wanna know what's happened? Stacia PLEASE get therapy!!!

[@debmck30]

I agree with your review. Justin needs to mature and I cringed when he discusses his sex life with his Mom. Maybe that conversation should have been with his brother.

[@sharonf8005]

Why is Miguel responsible for tampering Lindy's behavior.. she's immature and needs counseling to help her get the tools to manage her own emotions.. I think Miguel really likes her but he is tired of managing her he is letting his mental health go

[@successfullyme]

I don’t think he is responsible. I didn’t say that.

[@justcallmebon2684]

I disagree about Stacia. She has a valid concern regarding Nate. Of course 2 months is too soon. But Nate has stated that he has been in a 2 year live in relationship where he wasn’t in love. So it makes sense that she would be concerned about his ability to love despite him claiming to be getting there. She doesn’t think there is adequate emotional depth and I think there’s a reason why. He may not be growing in intimacy with her in a way that she can feel and that’s valid.

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

Yes but she needs to let it unfold. She keeps ASKING. It's too much. The party of the least interest is the party of the most power. The one asking puts herself in the one-down position.

[@nnena3631]

@@shelleycharlesworth5177 She is invested (too early imo) heavily, postings, last names, wanting a baby right away inviting him to the new estate..lol so she is concerned about his level of commitment. I agree she should have held back and observed, but I also understand her apprehension

[@nnena3631]

Not to mention there was a reason she and the girls were questioning his intentions of being on the show. He has a KZbin channel is some sort of influencer, has business debt and a failed business, and I'm not convinced he has a real place to stay he seems very preoccupied with not being homeless as if he's been there before or isn't close from it...Nate imo won't be able to attach to a woman until he comes to grips with how he was affected by his mom's abandonment

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

@@nnena3631 I agree! She strikes me as desperate! Nate strikes me as a hustler with a questionable background. That BS he was spouting about a bankruptcy lasting only 6 months was absurd! WHY does any woman want a man like HIM? What assets does he bring to the table? I loved my husband and so I guess I was lucky he owned a home free and clear and he owned 2 new vehicles, plus he had a good job and NO debt. At age 36 when I met hm he was well established.

[@beewoke]

I agree that Stacia’s concerns are valid. The problem is he is giving her an answer which she chooses to ignore because it is not the answer she wants. That’s the problem. The others voted him least genuine and she questions his commitment but keeps charging forward. I fear her concerns will be self fulfilling as much for how she rolls as he🫣.