Married Man Came Out As Gay At 39, Date Ends In Heartbreak | First Dates Abroad

[@QueenoftheNorth]

If you didn't feel a spark, you shouldn't have asked him to go first. I feel so awful for him.

[@MrVintagecyclist]

If there was no chemistry from the start, why drag out the date. Tell him straight. I've been there & done it.

[@NairAthul]

@@MrVintagecyclist wait like you were in the show?

[@eduardoking8402]

Agree. Imo, the guy with the beard (Timmie) was just too egoistic. Didn't like him from the start. Felt he was arrogant. He kinda figured Richard liked him a lot and he wanted to be flattered by Richard first before bursting his bubble. Richard waa just too nice a guy, and desperate for love.

[@sammholly]

What a lovely man and so honest. I cried with him. Hope he finds a man worthy of him xxx

[@putzilutzi]

[@lve23ku]

the only thing i dont like about this clip , is that fact that guy knew he is gonna say no yet he let him go first ... thats the kind of gay man i dont like

[@MrJssm4]

Totally agree if he knew what he was going to say ... why put him through that... not good!

[@gericko4931]

@@MrJssm4 yeahh, like, wtf, making him suffer more for nothing

[@legendarymctaylor1853]

Immm your right...

[@jimduncan5860]

I hope when Richard watched this, he realized how lucky he was. It looks like he was spared from an arrogant narcissist.

[@ErnieKings27]

I know that was really low

[@LanaDelReySupremacy]

If your going to say no. Don’t make them answer first just say no save the humiliation

[@misssarah7268]

J I know right! So cruel!!!!

[@marquamfurniture]

Timmie... a 24kt shit.

[@Myview246]

exactly, what a dick

[@jzwalz51robin45]

You are so correct! Guess maybe he dodged a bullet, seeing as he was made to answer first.

[@ANIMEIIIANDIIIMUSIC]

scientific term - "a twat"

[@francesca1687]

"Do you think a spark might appear on a second or third date?" God loves a trier, bless him

[@harrymiller8538]

Sparks fly as one becomes comfortable with a suitor. I think that dark haired guy was being too vain. He is looking for someone who will be a provider and he nests!

[@dmm9714]

I'd like to ask the producers of this show if they are proud of this clip?

[@gougou2169]

I would do anything to meet someone like Richard. So humble, intelligent and sweet. He is a catch. I was so sad seeing him cry.

[@brina477]

I just wanna give that guy a hug.

[@Krees82]

He knew that he was going to say there was no spark but let the other one go first and say he liked him thereby humiliating him on TV. Self-involved and awful dress sense

[@jpansa147]

Guess he wants to marry an electrical pole. Hell of a bloody spark mate.

[@arisyaaziz3432]

Periodt !

[@stevenshepard3495]

This scene really broke my heart……I’ve been in this guys position SO MANY TIMES. You like them soooo much, but they don’t like you. You try so hard, you pay for dinner, and then feel so hopeful. Then that Douchebag made him go first, I saw the pain in his eyes when he told him he didn’t feel a spark. I’ve made that same face….and I broke down and cried too when they texted me they just aren’t attracted to me. Nothing hurts as much a rejection. I feel so bad for that poor man. 🥺🥺🥺😢😢😢😭😭😭

[@beepist5000]

It's a first date... Don't get so invested.

[@oniondeluxe9942]

You also immediately saw in his face when that other guy entered the room - He is not interested

[@stevenshepard3495]

@@oniondeluxe9942 yea but still it was just mean then that guy sat there and ate like he’s some prize

[@hatchibyebye]

he only say there wasn't a "spark" because he's not attractive. But if you know you're gonna say no dont ask him to answer first smh.

[@davidegan7888]

Javan uHnah Exactly that just mean.😒

[@richardkeating3575]

Maybe that's it but I think he was visibly shocked by the other guy being overly pushy about paying for the meal and presume that there would be another date.

[@hatchibyebye]

@Mr. Crash Bandi ok looking back, he dont look any much worse than the other guy. He just lacks a beard id say.

[@AdvertisingDream]

“No spark” means they are nice but you have no physical desire to sleep with them

[@MarkSummers-g2n]

He was staring at the other gentlemen in the next table

[@Jakeylicious7891]

This is the same that I noticed with First Dates Australia -- the people they hook up with each other have no chemistry at all. So far, First Dates Britain have the most successful couplings in the history of the series.

[@Goiriath]

Oh gosh, it's not a good idea to insist on paying for someone's meal if they want to split it, he looked uncomfortable there. It's like you're trying to bribe or guilt them into seeing you again, and it makes it really awkward.

[@alessle5507]

How sad for that guy, he is good looking and has a sweet heart, I believe that many guys would like to date with him

[@soundseeker63]

Once the younger guy's looks fade he will find himself on the receiving end. He might want to settle down with a companion but nobody then will be interested because he isn't young sexy and ripped. Guys, be careful how you treat people because time can turn the tables on you quicker than you expect!

[@jayhi5479]

soundseeker63 I agree Karma

[@soltanalosmi475]

Trust me..the "spark" for us gay people is usually " I didn't like the way you look". People caring for looks is not strange or bad but for gay guys is important, very important. That's way beautiful people will not suffer to find someone to love them. Some People will literally love you just for the way you look, i was this way when i was younger but thank god I worked on that.

[@elchicodelapartamento5123]

soltan alosmi worked on that or your looks just faded away...?

[@nosferatu8530]

Gimme a break, I bet you're still the same. All guys are like that. First looks, then personality.

[@Not-Ap]

I'm glad you've become more self aware as you've gotten older. Not many gay men do. I've lost track of the amount of older nasty queens to acts like the bearded guy, hell even a fair amount a younger ones, the next generation of ****. The spark is absolutely not the same thing for gay men as it is for straight people. Gay men love to pretend like we're just everyone else but the truth is that's not the case... at all. Episodes like this really show it. Heartless Bastard!!

[@Not-Ap]

@@nosferatu8530 Yeah well there's no need to be a ass about it unless you make ass into a whole personality.

[@oniondeluxe9942]

Very well put. Anyone saying anything else is just hypocrite

[@ronaldgiroux3307]

You see this over and over. The dark haired guy knew he was NOT attracted to the bloke w/ the glasses. He has a fantasy of being the wife and mother and the other guy simply did hit fit the husband/daddy type he is hoping to find. The bloke with the glasses’s heart is open and he is willing to explore the possibilities, it won’t be long for him to find himself coupled as he seems more settled whilst the other clearly has a type in mind to fulfill his rigid fantasy of gay family life.

[@davidmonkadventures4312]

Don’t be sad just have patience and you will find a great guy that you are looking for, cheers mate x x

[@compendioussuccient6784]

Am I the only person that would always say yes to meeting again just to save the persons feelings

[@jeffmorse645]

Keep at it, there are guys out there for you.

[@staffordstafford7443]

The guy is a prick for letting him pay and getting him to go first, however, crying after a first blind date is empirical evidence of a bullet being dodged

[@NairAthul]

I mean he got divorced and this was his first date as a gay man, so..I think it's a pretty sad situation to be in

[@richardkeating3575]

Actually, I think that the credit card thing was a very bad move, you can see the other guy pull away at that point. Gay men don't like being treated like a woman in a traditional straight relationship and after he dropped the marriage into the conversation and then followed it with this move I knew that that guy was out of there. He needs to learn that gay couples have a different dynamic and " let me pay for that", and "let me get the door for you" are not sentences someone in a gay couple wants to hear.

[@ReeceyboiMusic]

@@richardkeating3575 that’s cap

[@pavlokubov5536]

@@richardkeating3575 well it actually depends on the person, for example, I’m not against such nice manners and gestures as u may be 🤷‍♂️

[@rics1883]

@@richardkeating3575 I dont think thats true for all gays

[@amyg4983]

That guy just cares about looks way too much

[@wackity.7879]

Greg Storian he was honest. If you don't fancy your date, you don't fancy your date.

[@rexbobcat]

Yes but I think it's pathetic that he waited to be validated by the more vulnerable guy just so he could reject him.

[@Not-Ap]

Yes yes they do and it's destroying many men in the gay community from the inside out because nobody can live up everyone's expectations forever.

[@Not-Ap]

@@rexbobcat That's the norm in the Gay Community for the most part.

[@allenb.lacour3909]

So, was that like an ego thing? I know you're into me and I'm going to let you say it on TV so I can be the stud and turn you down. That was HORRIBLE!

[@nothanks1239]

I find it sad that he married a woman when he always secretly knew he was gay. I bet that must have been heartbreaking for the wife. If my fiance was secretly gay, I know I'd be devastated. I don't think I'd be able to trust anyone afterwards.

[@thatsgorg]

Gemma Whatley Same here, if you're working out your sexuality don't play about with someone's heart in the mean time. I've got no respect for those that do.

[@PittsburghHockey96]

Get over it, Gemma. It’s not like the orgasms he gave her were fake so she made out fine.

[@nothanks1239]

Will Dawson That's really not why a woman would be upset if she found out the love of her life was gay. There is much more to life.

[@future288ify]

+Will Dawson you really are a doughnut

[@future288ify]

+Gemma Whatley so true

[@pffortes]

I’m guessing that his emotions came out because he looked upon this first date as a beginning of living his life with authenticity.

[@Omgits7ito]

The date went really well he's a great guy. But I never wanna see him again #gaydating

[@microcosom4492]

3.48 -3.50 "I like pig butts and I cannot lie" - what an interesting advert behind the guy getting into the taxi. Don't you think?

[@Mollexi]

I hate when someone knows they’re not attracted to their date but make them pay anyway

[@charlesm440]

See this is exactly why dating isn't for me! It's a head f**k!

[@BarryElBeardo]

It's clear by the way they look and dress that they aren't compatible. Which is incredibly shallow but its also true. We can lie and say that personality wins over looks but when you first meet someone, the first thing you see is their looks. If the attraction is there then the personality can be make or break. If its not, a personality can only do so much because everyone deserves to be with someone who they are attracted to.

[@duvine3882]

True, in my gay vacation there was a hot fit short bearded guy with that mentality, word spread out; he was left out, goes both ways.

[@Not-Ap]

I just don't think that's true because I watched so many other first dates and that is not the case. I think it's mostly the case with gay men for whatever reason but not with straight men or women to the same extent.

[@tesskaiser2190]

Heartbreaking. Sometimes people grow on you. I knew what he meant. He deserves better.

[@skunktheshrink]

Don't you just hate the people who know they are going to say no but make the other person go first?

[@robsanders5808]

The guy on the left is a keeper...the guy on the right is a big queen,..he should marry an extension cord if he really wants sparks!

[@hustler212]

This was hilarious...

[@MarkSummers-g2n]

LOL

[@Noone9227]

Ah, the poor newbie has a lot to learn about the gay community! This is one of the most common stunts gay guys pull. He has no idea that he was just played. I really wish I had seen this when it was first posted because I have some really good advice. Read on. Considering he asked the guy what he thought before turning him down, this is the type of guy who’s looking for an ego boost by turning a guy down and to satisfy his narcissism and sadism by watching the guy get upset over it. The worst thing you can do with a guy like this is beg like this guy essentially did by asking if that spark was worth a second or third date, further inflating his ego and satisfying his sadistic needs of getting someone upset. He probably knew he was going to turn the guy down before he met him. Except for the married part, this exact same situation happened to me several times with guys who weren’t at all considered particularly attractive, and I had the upper hand in appearance. I called one of those out when he did it. Years later, he was still using the apps. Had another date with this boney old man that bragged about getting all these 20-year-old guys before he told me he wasn’t interested. So, I questioned why are you on a date with me? It made no sense. Another one of those had just lost his job. He called himself “Edd” with two “d”’s……loser!……and talk about a small world, I knew of him from foot fetish circles when he previously lived in DC the same time I did and met him again when we both happened to move back to the Midwest. He used to stare at guys with a “I just look but don’t approach” stare. He had this sort of “cat & mouse” thing going on, and no one ever went up to him. Anyhow, let my guard down and got burnt. The lesson here is this: If a guy pulls this stunt and asks you if the date went well for you before he tells you anything, say it didn’t, leave, take solace in that you got his goat and didn’t fall for his trap, and move on with your life. You can also take solace in that these type of guys will never find a meaningful relationship with substance and will be lonely when their looks run out, if they had them to begin with, and they get old. (BTW, that “we’re better off as friends” crap is BS. He’ll never see this guy again unless he runs into him at a club.)

[@Eddluvsya]

The guy with the glasses is not ugly. Why is everybody saying that?

[@Masterme733]

Rejections are just a part of life & it's simply make us even more stronger person :)

[@211cozmo]

Why is he crying. Like he’s never been dumped before.

[@GioGoiBoi1]

rather than calling it a “spark” why didnt he just say he didnt fancy him which is totally clear i felt so sorry for the guy when he started crying you can see he really liked him but then is that because its one of the few guys hes had this kind of interaction with i wish him all the best x

[@jahipalmer8782]

I never believed in or cared about a "spark" but I know some folks really like that magic feeling. When I met my husband on our first date I just liked hanging out with him sufficiently...

[@carrotjuse]

He's better off that the bearded guy leave now, rather than later, when he has more invested. The bearded guy is kinda creepy.

[@harrymiller8538]

For him to say no sparks he felt. Well sparks fly when you have gotten to know someone. His date was attractive & nice as well as open. Hope he finds the right mate for him.

[@bomdever8268]

the YES lifted his ego high up. The best encounters are the ones you have no expectations about

[@Thomas-fu8vp]

Richard is wonderful. Simply charming.

[@wernerburger7254]

Rejection is a terrible thing unfortunately. But it is also a fact of life. Hope he found someone eventually. Someone out there is looking for what he has to offer. ♥️

[@ken10137]

Awww...😓😓😓I like that mature guy... don't know why young guys like me i like those daddies 🤦🤦🤦😁

[@lottielove7383]

Felt sorry that he paid the bill, And the other guy let him inspite of his intentions not see him again. How awful.

[@deborahscott8125]

Aaw bless him hope he finds someone and takes his time and enjoys life along the way x

[@ralphlyda4545]

Chap without the beard, you're the good-looking one. Plus, you're very nice! You'll find someone nice, and hopefully the rude chap with the beard will find his equivalent.

[@KCLee-rn5cq]

What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger, god bless all of us happiness.

[@irememberla6460]

I could tell right away by the guy's body language and face that he wasn't into him...too bad!

[@ZenBenzineX]

he knew from the beginning... no we know what he was embarrassed for this guy to pay; he was ready to say know.

[@ernestortiz2674]

OMG 😦😧😥😭😭 I wanna hug him now. Well SOMEBODY fucked up by pairing these two! How can you live with yourself after watching the outcome? Hang in there man... You'll find someone that's going to value you for who you are. Life's a Bitch sometimes but I think it helps mold you into a better person. Keep calm and smile on. X❤X❤

[@kuchimaxie5388]

2:47 as they say The music stopped like a mofo :D

[@michaelhere5147]

Physical attraction plays a role in creating "sparks," but in the rejectee's defense, it seemed as though the tatted guy was looking for a hook up - even though he painted a different picture about having kids and growing old with somebody. Onward and upward, huh? At least, it was one date and both were able to move on without any emotional investment.

[@lunalove9395]

aww i really felt for him when he started crying. poor guy. he seems lovely. it'd be nice if they could set him up with someone else.

[@josephsvennson5694]

At least he wasn't lying when he said he's always been asked for a 2nd date...I think he's a bit of a hustler and the engineer never stood a chance but hey...you live and learn.

[@212Michael]

Wow, whomever tried matching these two up must have known it wouldn't have worked out. They are two completely different types. Way to set up the guy who just came out for TV drama seeing you guys tried hooking him up with a guy who looks like he'd be more than happy to go do crystal in the back room of some leather bar.

[@marsofcasa]

Exactly what I was thinking...

[@212Michael]

What it was was producers pairing up two guys where anyone could tell you the brown-haired guy would never go for the newly out and proud blonde guy. It's just my personal opinion the producers knew exactly what was going to happen and played it for that not giving a rat's ass the blonde guy would end up feeling like total crap and instead knowing he would feel like total crap and that's exactly why they put this pair together.

[@Krees82]

Michael Allen I agree with you. They were very different types and I could tell the bearded guy wouldn't be into the blonde guy. Gay men can be so shallow like that

[@astrius4125]

The blonde isn't into the other either, he just doesn't know yet. Being with a guy that is much hotter than you only makes you insecure in the end. It doesn't work out. Looks are important to some extent.

[@ale3jandr0]

They Just weren't compatible. No need to go accusing one of the guys of being a junkie on no grounds. you sound jaded, did a fit bearded guy turn you down or something lol

[@LincolnTheLabrador]

Does there really have to be a spark? I mean come on! That's the reason to have another date!

[@tomburke247]

Give me humility, intelligence, humor and depth over a shallow puddle any day. Donegal guy - keep searching bud, there are plenty of people out there who know the difference between Airbus and Air Coach (lol) and won’t flap their mits over RuPaus’ latest facial scrubs 😎

[@stephenkk2009]

The engineer is a nice person. I bless him already found his Mr. Right. Blessings from Hong Kong.

[@D3c3pTion]

Can we get an update, ugh I feel for this guy ❤😢

[@christianphipps5410]

Everyone’s mad at the guy who broke it off. Well would you rather they just keep dating get married have some kids and then have him divorce the guy. Like if you aren’t attracted to someone on the first date why would you keep going. All of you should respect that this guy didn’t want to date the other man. I feel empathy for the guy being told no but I also no how it feels to turn someone down

[@wotheheck]

Well, why ask him to go first instead you could just go first and say no to save the humiliation of the other party. And coz of that, people will call him with all the nasty names and there's nothing you can do about it.

[@jamesbm971]

@@wotheheck well said. What an absolute prick to allow the nice guy to go first. He's an arrogant prat and unattractive in every sense

[@francopena627]

This was a long time ago. I wonder if he found someone. My eyes got teary.

[@karasays01]

its good it did not work, imagine the heartbreaking if he was breadcrumbed? i appreciate his courage to share his story and go on a blind date.

[@kerryfrancisco4788]

If no spark from beginning, dude pay ur half then! You led him on...

[@mikes2529]

Not finding someone attractive on a date is a horrible position to be in if you have a conscience to be fair the the bloke

[@JoineeHollis]

My heart. His heart. They broke together.

[@NibberKSmooth]

'Spark' meaning he likes it DIRTY.

[@charlesm440]

By spark he means looks! Men are so shallow, but I wont lie I am the same!

[@josh91bc]

Gays are the most shallow, always looking for a 10 when they are a 6.

[@josephsvennson5694]

@@josh91bc you again.

[@jzwalz51robin45]

The rejection was not so bad. But the rejecting guy should have said it first, to allow the other to save some face.

[@t0ny260]

F*cked up! He knew the other guy was into him! SMH damn he was hurt!

[@tomiszati9479]

I'm a pasty chef, I work with kids, I'm a cyclist and a swimmer, know where to go out anywhere I land but you don't know what Airbus is? He is better off without you.

[@xxf4795]

To let him go first was realllyyy rude.

[@lorlast5204]

don't be afraid of rejections. that means a better one will come 🥰hugs

[@23scottishguy]

OMG I was completey heartbroken for the guy that got rejected, I'm sorry but the guy is absolutely stunning both physically and personality wise , if I was in a gay bar and I saw that poor guy id grab him with both hands and wont let go, he is so adorable and kind and loveable its a shame the other guy is gonna miss out, big time cause there wasn't a spark come on give the bloke a chance for fuck sake grrrrr

[@momotsuyuonce9473]

I'm actually happy for them both though, He directed the guy to something he most likely deserves.It was kinda harsh though but it did gave him a harsh lesson.

[@jimmytheexpat5719]

I like the guy that got rejected I was wishing I could meet someone like him. If you’re doing another show with him I will be the blind dates please if you need one

[@XxK47YxX]

Can we all just spare a thought for that mans poor ex wife. I can't even imagine :(

[@ooogwaygames6014]

I maybe 3 years late but this is so sad.

[@imaphoenix7692]

There's nothing wrong with him saying no. It's better to say now than down the line, this leaves him the opportunity to find someone he'll rlly like down the line.

[@mstowmgtow3000]

Tip: If ever you go on this show and your date asks you to answer "do you want to meet again?" first, say No. I've seen this too many times with both sexes. It's like people get an egoboost from rejecting someone on TV. I feel sorry for the rejected guy cuz he paid for the date too.

[@Britvian1982]

I pretty much echo the same opinions as everyone else, he shouldn't of let the guy go first, because for one it is incredibly mean and nasty. But in one way, it automatically shows what that guy is like as a person, he didn't need somebody like that. Whoever he finds, they will appreciate him more than he did. I know certain people can be edited in certain ways on television, as I said, what the guy did was mean and he should of said it first to save him humiliation and to be a bit more tactful, rather than, "There was no spark, we are better off as friends." It would of been better if he said, "Look, I like you as a friend, but whoever you find in life, you are a great guy, very talkative and such an interesting life story and character, it may not work out for us in that way, but whoever you find I hope they treat you in the way that you deserve." End long rant lol.

[@josh91bc]

The bearded guy was way less attractive than the other guy, his loss.

[@IliaTopturo]

The bearded guy is Timmy and hes a fucking model😂😂

[@Supcharged]

now now, let's not lie ahahaha

[@Supcharged]

@Mr. Crash Bandi Having a beard a dressing up = catfish? What? The blonde easily looks older and light coloured eyebrows do not work well with aging. The brunette looks around 38 the blonde looks 48

[@Supcharged]

@Mr. Crash Bandi That's dumb, that's like saying doing a nice hairstyle is also catfishing lol hair facial hair and body hair are all part of the body. Do you also drag every girl on this show for...wearing makeup? That aint even part of the body

[@Supcharged]

@Mr. Crash Bandi You haven't addressed the second part of the question. Do you also drag every girl on this show, and also some of the gay guys, because they were literal makeup? And is there a problem with wearing makeup even if beards were to be counted as makeup (i still dont agree but move on to another issue)?

[@bovitosumi735]

Me too married when I was 24 yrs old. And I learn I was gay when I was 32 yes old. Now I had s son who is now 15 yes old. I had s partner who is 35 now he too is married. Iam 42 now. We use to have affair but NVR acpt our admit , what will we do

[@manystar]

I think he is beautiful and awesome, his lost

[@johnfuture4328]

Hey there, I'm from California 34 yrs old single gay,, are you???

[@Njoofene]

I get the feeling that this guy was not crying because the egotistical and shallow dude rejected him. My take is, he was crying because he felt that he has found someone he liked and comfortable enough to divulge too much info about himself to, which ended up being thrown back at his face. This guy will come out of this not trusting anyone or always very weiry.

[@kodiet81]

The guy on the right is an absolute narcissist and I would have walked away in the first minute of meeting him ....

[@raedjibrail]

His lose. You're an attractive man. Think Richard was attracted to the idea of meeting someone like Timmie, rather then the man himself... Would just say allowing Richard to pay for the meal, when you had no intention of seeing him again is a low blow.

[@kenzoali4295]

I was searching for horror movies and i end up here another thriller

[@mgblue]

His little smug smile when he said he would like to see him again, what a horrible person he is, destined to be alone.

[@AlexGonzalez-sg5oc]

Aww💔💔💔

[@IPJ2009]

Bless his heart, there is someone out there for everyone. It will come when you least expect it. As for the other guy...A true gentleman would have insisted on going first and spared him the humiliation of the dreaded no.. Mr Beard..self obsessed, egotistical and totally an ugly person, why would anyone want to date such a man??..Straight or gay! Love is a many splendid thing...

[@cgshka2818]

You’ve got to kiss many frogs to find your prince! Never give up!

[@Lepewhi]

Poor guy. There are nice guys out there. He'll find someone that loves him. As the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.

[@23scottishguy]

btw if the guy who got rejected sees this post I'm single and I would love you forever n ever and never let you go much love n hugs xx

[@alexandercordova6454]

Aww poor thing. :( I feel really bad for him

[@gepeagatha7873]

Iam gonna cry 😭😭😭😭

[@thangvuong9196]

Two bottoms usually don't work out.

[@therocpd]

Thang Vuong 1 simple solution... double ended dildos

[@wilsonsothernames]

life is so brutal and beautiful