Married to a neurosurgeon

In this vlog we'll be exploring what it's like being married to a neurosurgeon. My wife Sahar is a GP in London and has been married to a neurosurgeon for 6 years. She will be answering some Instagram questions about being married to a neurosurgeon and talking about some of the challenges and her experiences of being married to me!
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[@Brainbook]

Are you married to a doctor or a surgeon? What's life like for you?

[@felinefurreal8730]

Brainbook like heaven

[@maliaohana6770]

Brainbook my mother wants me to.

[@ankithere423]

preparing for undergraduate Medical entrance exam ,india...

[@gl4989]

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[@cbonbyrania2432]

Yes my husband is a urology surgeon. He is kidney surgeon in particular. I really wonder how can I take care of him and be more understanding. When I feel my needs aren't met, i can be really cranky. And I am scared I am not putting myself enough in his shoes. What he sees during the day, the injuries the cancer patients, and also the inhumane amount they make him work in the country we are in. For example when they force him to work and entire long shift after he had done a 24 hour shift. So he ends working 32 hours straight without any sleep. I wonder if there are certain sacrifices I need to make as a wife of a surgeon.

[@Kreeper_kat]

Not only is your wife beautiful and intelligent, but she is so supportive and understanding. The world is a better place because of both of you.

[@Brainbook]

Very kind words. Thank you

[@ArualCrisp]

Your wife is such a wonderful woman.. you both are wonderful! I cannot imagine how stressful sometimes being a neurosurgeon can be.. so much respect for you and your wife for doing what you guys are doing!☺️

[@Brainbook]

Thank you so much for the kind words Justina!

[@20somethingsworld97]

Imagine where both their lives would be at if the lovely wife didn’t step out of her comfort zone and show small act of kindness by reaching out to a stressful guy. This was amazingly sweet and it just goes to show that a simple act of kindness can go along way

[@sunflowers_n_coffee]

She's sooo beautiful

[@sadikadhaan4595]

Pretty

[@westfield90]

What a lovely talented family. You guys deserve a lot of respect juggling all the things life brings you but also handling challenging careers that save lives

[@DrAdnan]

Dang, a double doctor family. Props for making it work 💪

[@suha1055]

666 subscribers With no video challage fr man can’t believe he’s a medic as well

[@mustafaaa772]

Bro you literally just watch medical videos haha its good, you jus got 4 years gotta learn everything about medicine haha

[@ankithere423]

Your wife is very supportive and loving...hope one day every men will get such a supportive women in his life ...

[@Brainbook]

She is indeed

[@Zimtaldehyd]

hope one day every woman can get a husband that is as amazing as your wife and is ready to make sacrifices too so their wifes can chase their dreams as well if they want

[@MI-gu8lq]

I'm a woman and I hope my husband is as supportive as her one day too :)

[@Rclsllh]

Your wife is drop dead gorgeous and I love how you talk to each other. Keep investing in your family especially your marriage.

[@minidigger1000]

Your husband is a hero in my eyes, it wasn't him who fixed me but someone just like him I had a ruptured aneurysm back in March this year I'm now fully recovered thanks to people like your husband it was a neuro surgeon in northern ireland that helped me but it could have been any neuro surgeon you truly are blessed to have him

[@BirdFinder100]

Wives like this are so rare. Blessed man.

[@Brainbook]

Indeed I am

[@tylerhepplewhite7014]

You guys gave me hope! I want to study medicine, paediatric neurology to be specific and I always think about how am I going to have a family. You guys are so inspirational 🙌🏻

[@nikoperez7208]

I enjoyed this video. The love and understanding you have for each other is beautiful. I wish you guys the best of luck in everything you guys do !

[@nicolejackson7977]

As a female wanting to go into Medicine and have a family I find your's and Sahar's journey so inspiring! Thank you for sharing a part of your life on the internet ~ this is one of my favourite videos ever!! Please do more videos together sometime. I would love to know more about Sahar's journey to becoming a GP and having children :)

[@Brainbook]

I keep telling her she should make her own channel! Thanks for your kind words

[@undercovernerd6848]

Same here. I'm on the fence of deciding if I should compromise and just stick to pharmacy but I really want to do pediatric neurology. I dont know how I would have a successful career, marriage and happy kids.

[@MI-gu8lq]

@@undercovernerd6848 Marry a guy who is willing to be home more often while you go out and be the breadwinner (the same thing that men do lol)

[@Why_did_YouTube_add_handles]

@@MI-gu8lqbad advice

[@thrilla72]

​@@MI-gu8lqLol that is terrible advice, very few women will be happy with that. Initially it might be nice that she is free to chase her career but her respect and admiration for her husband will dwindle. She will become frustrated having him depend on her financially. She will be around men who are more successful than her husband and will compare him negatively to those men. In my life, I've never seen a happy relationship where the woman earns significantly more than the man or works more.

[@potatoprsk]

Much respect for the both of you, thank you for all that you do in the healthcare world! This was a super interesting video

[@Brainbook]

Glad you enjoyed it and thanks for your kind words!

[@jesuslima4380]

greetings from Venezuela, love all your videos, im finishing medical school to then become a neurosurgeon ! you have a very beautiful family ! keep posting NS videos please !

[@Brainbook]

Good luck to you and thank you so much for your kind words

[@neiltanyu8428]

Great support system coming from the both of you. It's nice to have someone to look up to here.

[@Brainbook]

That's very kind

[@gracea3213]

Greetings from the US! Much respect to the both of you. I once asked my mom's neurosurgeon what life was like. He replied with, "you work too much, and you're never home to spend time with the family. But I love what I do." I'm planning to apply for the Physican Associate program next year (in the US) and one of my goals is to work in neurosurgery. Thank you for providing us with these videos.

[@Brainbook]

Yeh it's a shame. I think the hours are even worse in the US. Good luck in becoming a neurosurgery PA. It's a relatively new role here compared to you guys but people seem to enjoy it!

[@My.Lifes.Journey]

I saw a thumbnail for one of your videos a few days ago and subscribed just because it looked like something I would want to watch later...I'm so glad I did! Beautiful couple & family. Long life to you all!

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@cojut]

This is such a lovely video. It reminds me of the clip that has been circulating where the guy looks down at his wife's ex partner and goes "arn't you happy that you married a CEO rather than him" and she turns back to him and says "if I had stayed with him he would have been the CEO". Support is so important! And Sahar is such a lovely supporting wife, but the key thing is is that you recognize that she is, listens, complies with her requests (within reason) and that you have a wonderful connection and chemistry. So really the key is that you both work together! You are both such inspiration! It makes me think back at my failed marriage and how we both expected things from each other which the other partner was not happy or willing to give (not talking beforehand about our expectations like you did) . But I am sure I will do better next time! Thank you so much for posting this, I will keep it in mind :)

[@davefrancis4970]

Hi both, just a note to wish you both well. People forget the pressures on medical professionals and it's lovely to see you both so happy. Take care and all the best.

[@zakfarah3178]

You guys are so so lovely :) Thank you for saving lives x

[@sam.9602]

Shoutout all the way from New York! You have such a strong and beautiful family. I love all of your videos! Both you and your wife amaze me having the careers you do, having 2 children while maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Stay amazing, stay happy, stay healthy. Both of you are awesome. 😊

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@felicitykuitai1999]

Just found your channel yesterday and absolutely loving your content. May god continue to bless your family🙏❤. You have a beautiful wife with beautiful children ❤💓

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Thank you so much to the KZbin algorithm for recommending the video to me! Love ❤️ it

[@aneeshpande99]

You are a gorgeous couple!! Thanks a lot for the insight! Waiting for the video about how you were unsure if you wanted to do medicine, and how you made the decision. Keep creating these awesome videos!

[@Brainbook]

No problem I'll work on that asap

[@jejik.4723]

I'm so happy I found your video!! Becoming a neurosurgeon is my dream job but I was afraid that with how stressful and demanding the job was I wouldn't be able to have my own family. So I'm so happy that I found this video because it gave me hope. It gave me hope that I wouldn't have to give up starting my own family just because I wanted so desperately to become a neurosurgeon. I want to become a neurosurgeon but I'm afraid that because of how challenging and difficult the work is, I wouldn't be able to spend quality time with my friends and family. So thank you guys so much for giving me hope!!!

[@binaiykarim1075]

I got this video in my recommendation, which is really nice , I’m a medical student. So I’m gonna subscribe to the channel . And you guys are so adorable together

[@Brainbook]

Thanks so much!

[@joselyngarcia5332]

I just recently got interested in your channel! I think it’s very interesting and amazing even thou I’m not a doctor but a psychologist. Congrats!!! Hi from Colombia.

[@Brainbook]

Thank you so much Joselyn and hi from England!

[@TomJChurchill]

Just stumbled across your channel and as a 2nd year George's medic, you both are an inspiration.

[@Brainbook]

George's is our home!

[@karenpny]

Beautiful family and candid conversation.

[@Brainbook]

Thanks a lot Karen

[@TiaTravel247]

Thank you for posting this awesome video!!! I love that you both explained how to cope with patient deaths and being supportive of each other career goals!!! It would be awesome if in a future video Dr. Sahar showed a day in the life of an GP in London and a mother! Great content :)

[@Brainbook]

I keep telling her!

[@danadilley9260]

Wow! Both doing what you love and supporting one another! That's marriage at it's best! ❤️ Continued sucess to you both.

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@hamzanaushad1864]

Very insightful video specially for a prospective medical student like myself, who's recently started feeling excited about Neurosurgery after reading Do No Harm😂. It's beautiful how you two have been so steadfast and patient throughout your marriages. Wish you two the best and also looking forward to a video where you finally announce you're a Consultant!! 😊👍👍

[@iqratube]

God bless you both and kids will all the happiness and success; lovely channel; keep up the inspiration 🌸

[@malcolmnowlin2860]

I am in love with a neurosurgeon, so this helped me tremendously! I now understand her better. I understand the on call life much better and how I can help and support her! Thank you very much! You have enhanced my life with the things you shared today!

[@ankitkawale9748]

I'm sorry for asking u such a difficult question 😂😂 Thanks for answering Your wife has such a charming personality God bless you both !!!

[@Brainbook]

Haha thank you for the question! Do you think she should have her own channel lol?

[@simran2796]

@@Brainbook Yes!!!!

[@ankitkawale9748]

@@Brainbook Definitely.

[@sadikadhaan4595]

@@Brainbook sure YES !

[@irn37894]

Sahar is an Iranian name. Iranian women are lovely. Wish you all the best in life dear Dr. Alex.

[@MOusliima4EVerrr]

Aww you guys are so cuttee mashallah!!! Couple and Dr goals right here!! 😍❤️

[@Ninanananoo]

What a lovely couple. Thank you for all you do :)

[@paxconsciente3352]

not only do you save lives but you save me from my boredom .. also your wife is one of the most beautiful people i've ever seen ! congratulations sir !

[@noorulemaneman5335]

One good thing about you is you reply the viewers ✌🏻🙌❤️💝😍

[@Brainbook]

Haha trying my best. It was a lot easier before the spike in subscribers!

[@janessamarie6310]

so my boyfriend is in college to be a neurosurgeon and i didnt know what our future would look like if we got married. This was super helpful. Thank you guys so much for making this video and having this channel talk about my questions and fears with being with him. Love you guys and good luck with future challenges.

[@Brainbook]

Really happy that this was useful for you and good luck in the future!

[@unknownrockin8971]

I love your bonding . May it grow stronger ! Even I want to be a neurosurgeon in India

[@Brainbook]

Thank you and good luck!

[@moviebod]

You two are amazing. Two children are hard, we found four was "where did the 90s go?" I hope you are all keeping safe. Alex needs to be a neurosurgeon as he understands how the brain works. There is no doubt about that.

[@yanik8]

You guys are amazing! Im also obsessed with medicine, i am on my way to interventional cardiology. Btw, alex you’re wife is gorgeous. Beautiful family 🙏🏻

[@TaniaSofiaM]

My partner is a medical student who wants to become a neurosurgeon and we are in a big distance relationship for 2 years now .It is very challanging and it will always be ,i can also get an idea from videos like this even every relationship is different . Its hard but as long as you love and respect each other there's no reason to give up . I am very proud of him .

[@motivatialspeeches8886]

nice

[@anthonyhernandez3546]

Are you guys still together? Does true love actually exist in this world?

[@rachelmelling5904]

just discovered your channel and i love it... ❤️

[@1nsane295]

you guys are great, hope you guys stay safe are love your work !👍👍

[@ellie0079]

Lovely couple. Wishing you a blessed marriage.❤️

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@ruhammacristinapayano5374]

She's great man. Creating a space where your spouse is free to develop it self and be happy, that's real love. I hope you learn to love hear in her love language and show it with actions everyday. Good luck to both!

[@drtehmas]

You both are inspiration to young residents like us

[@phoenix-rage]

The key to being a neurosurgeon with an awesome life is a good wife. Truly inspiring !

[@allysonroyston9671]

You are both such a super smart couple and have a beautiful family❤️

[@Brainbook]

Thank you that's very kind of you to say.

[@betteryourgerman]

......super Video Work...good inside info, how it all works....well, well done !!! ...

[@Amalioji2]

God bless you and your family, you guys are great.

[@SuperKhan440]

Lucky you have an supporting wife!!!

[@subhashnisarta8040]

Thanks so much for the introduction with me and for the married life but fefore how this good life happened because of everyone has not the same life but who knows the value of this gifted life, So as per your experience and example in your video three four different types of life like different in ages, nature, intelligent, and in which areas they come from as well as society and many things related with the life we can't judge and imagine for the particular person because of everyone is different from their own nature. today's of this new age everything is possible but how much we connected with the life is most important for the future, even human being is ok we understand it but sometimes animal's can also love and prayers for the human being.but if we can understand their language, attitude, and their nature they're also like to us So relationship is like that too and thanks again for your making the good life.

[@CisforCozy]

you both are so inspiring

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@Shihtzumom]

I like the bright and confident appearance of the doctor. As if patients undergoing surgery would comfortably relieve their fear of surgery😊. And you and your wife is so beautiful. 👍🤩

[@ml708]

Couple goals! ❤️

[@Brainbook]

Haha thanks

[@turnerrebeccaa]

My younger sister 24 is an oncology nurse. So I understand the weird schedule and working around her. As well as letting her vent after a long day. You two are a great team!!

[@mohanranakoti4572]

The more I watch your vlogs the more you are becoming my inspiration...... ❤️ #dreaming_to_be_a_neurosurgeon

[@ramaymd]

Have a good life😊...spot on about doctor's lives though!

[@GhanaboyPharmD]

Just got on your channel.. Great video!!!

[@Brainbook]

Thank you

[@inikatoisgreat3076]

Heads off to you sir for working hard all day long for the people tremendous respect and appreciation to you ❤️

[@subigya01]

Absolutely amazing ❤️

[@ThatMedic]

Power couple 💪🏽💪🏽

[@lehulutube9063]

I like your honesty

[@1elkhills]

Thank you for posting.

[@Frankincense_]

You guys are incredible :)

[@AyushiTandon00]

One of the best video ever 👌👌👌

[@Brainbook]

😅 thank you!

[@gwenteph4336]

You re such a cute couple may god bless you and ur children ❤️❤️

[@Brainbook]

Thank you very much

[@lllmlnrrr]

Such a cute couple and such a beautiful family!

[@Brainbook]

Thank you Anya!

[@sadikadhaan4595]

Nice job bro !

[@kristincarlson1861]

Beautiful wife 💜 Beautiful couple 💜 God bless your family 💜💜

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@docontrials6830]

Edit: I said something uncool out of jealousy, I’m changing my comment. You lucky bastard.

[@decembersveryown5935]

Probably what i was thinking. Maybe outta jealousy or outta understanding reality.

[@yashbatra]

Sorry I don’t understand

[@yazdanyounesi2788]

Amazing family. Wish you all the best 👍🏻🌹❤️ God bless you 🌹

[@shradhanjaliprusty3944]

Yes now a days all are unhappy searching happiness every where though happiness is inside them must watch your lovely video.

[@AyatAljobori]

I hope you appreciate your wife

[@Brainbook]

Yes I do

[@anjulmoon3377]

@Z 1 Looks are subjective. Being a neurosurgeon is objective.

[@shawnlynch9658]

You don't have to tell him that

[@474yx]

Shut up

[@raulh5008]

It goes both ways.

[@syedahmed5539]

Best of luck to both of you with your professional and family life. By watching your video together I felt that you guys have that special bond between yourself and although it would be a pretty hard slog, you will be able to stick it together to the end. Dr. Ahmed

[@Brainbook]

Thank you very much!

[@dimitriosfromgreece4227]

Love from Sweden brother ❤❤❤❤

[@siddhant104]

Even i want to be a neurosurgeon. During my rotations, mostly i used to hang up in neurosurgical OT. Nothing gives me sense of happiness other then neurosurgery. Lets hope one day i can be one. Both of your bondings really made me remember my first day at med school. I met my girl but unfortunately after my graduation she left for her country and things changed. However , the best part of her was that she knew I cannot live without being a neurosurgeon and trust me noone has supported me more then her in my life to be a neurosurgeon. Sometimes i hear she still wants me to be neurosurgeon and never leave my path. You both are pain in ass... you made me recall all our memories we spent together for whole 5 years out of 6 years of our med school.. love u both. God bless you

[@lukasenkaS]

Such a cute couple!

[@femie6464]

7:42 My favourite quote!!! 😀

[@uri5416]

Awesome Video! i know what i'm in for now!

[@broloading1754]

This is a fucking awesome KZbin channel when i was younger i always wanted to be a surgeon just never knew of what lol unfortunately that never happened. But i still love that line of work

[@Brainbook]

Thank you :)

[@bolanlejohn3459]

Hi Alex. It's nice coming across your profile. My boyfriend shared your video- Day in the Life of a Neurosurgeon on call, and I then watched your other videos. I am on the path of becoming a Neurosurgeon. I come from Nigeria and currently live there but I have written IELTS and about to take my PLAB exams. Please I want to ask, what are the steps to take in my path to becoming a Neurosurgeon? Could you break down the specific details of what it entails if one wants to become a Neurosurgery resident in UK? And I sincerely would not mind being mentored by you. Finally, I must say this video is so lovely and got me smiling throughout. Your wife is so beautiful and I love how the both of you have come to understand each other and love and support one another. Thanks for sharing this video and many others that you have shared. I will be looking forward to your reply.

[@investorsingh6734]

My favourite videos so far on relationship advice both side effort is required this makes me feel so good that I love my work but my past relationship she hated me spending too much time working, no support at all lol I self doubting my self but this is freaking amazing and Sarah is intelligent women, Alex is a man

[@TheDantheman12121]

I was a stay at home dad for about 5 years while my wife worked 12 hour shifts at a care home dealing mainly with dementia patients and cannot imagine having to do all that i did while also doing a job especially if it was as a gp.

[@stogowski59]

It will be great if you make a film about basic skills that medical student who want to be a neurosurgeon should master :D

[@laceyhall1122]

I am married to a surgical rep. They have the same crazy hours. Anyone in medicine can attest I’m sure

[@Brainbook]

Oh gosh. I don't envy reps. Their work schedules are horrendous with all that travelling and uncertainty :(

[@majdak6847]

Great family good luck on everything .

[@Brainbook]

Thanks Majda

[@flipsydan]

Doctor goals for me

[@mokshadpurahoo5]

great video!

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@indiabliss]

Lovely, lovely people 💕

[@Brainbook]

Thank you!

[@mahmoudtalaat131]

Awesome !

[@miahuerta355]

Beautiful couple !

[@Brainbook]

Thanks!

[@TheJabberCrew]

It sounds like it is very similar to being dual active duty. Everything in our lives revolved around 24 hour duties and deployments.

[@Brainbook]

I can't imagine how tough that must be. A few of our trauma surgeons are military and the constant threat of deployment must be so taxing on family life

[@pencilboy34]

I wanted to become a doctor when I was younger due to my father being a Pulmonologist, but as I got older I realized this lifestyle is not for me. I couldn't imagine myself being happy and balancing a hectic work/study life and a social life. nor did I have a true passion and desire to even become one. More power to all doctors/surgeons who find true passion for this lifestyle. I went into business instead and now I make very good money and able to enjoy myself and my passions. glad I didn't have a father who pressured me to become a doctor. But I still enjoy learning every aspect of the human body and watching these super heroes go about saving lives every day.