'I LOVE YOU' - A Domestic Violence Short Film

University of Sunderland MAC276 project 2014.
A stylised adaptation of domestic abuse, I Love you depicts Emma's conflict between what she wants her life to be and the reality of what life has become that ends in a shocking conclusion.

[@KJ-kv7of]

For everyone saying "I'd never let a man do this to me": abusive relationships don't start this way. It's a build up of someone being manipulated into trusting someone, and the manipulation continues and the abusee doesn't realize they're being abused because they've already built a trust with the abuser. And when they do come to terms with being abused, there's often something tying them to their abuser so they can't "just leave," such as financial reasons, children, housing, and legal reasons that could hurt them more than the abuser. My heart goes out to all victims of domestic violence, women and children and men too. Y'all are stronger than you know.

[@waqasnaveed6178]

True

[@karyn23]

KJ 💫 Thank you! well said.

[@justanothamomma13]

Very well said, a lot of people don’t understand and always say “I will never let that happen” or just have such negative opinions about the victim “choosing” to stay. But no one will ever understand until your in that position, I learned that the hard way.

[@ms.harper7184]

KJ 💫 I use to be that person who said I’d never let a man abuse me and I ended up in one of thee most abusive relationships and couldn’t/wouldn’t leave. It almost killed me

[@judithbergmans2142]

Thank you. You onderstand it.its not easy to run away. Thanks..

[@tazmynnevanerp503]

The only time you should raise your hand to your partner is if you’re giving them a high five

[@haleyjones2204]

I give you a high five for saying it

[@jokesonmary12]

It's not funny though.

[@rram992]

Or if they’re trying to kill you(and I mean literally kill you)

[@x_yuziiii]

@@jokesonmary12 They never said it was funny 🤦🏾

[@evansyourboy5032]

😂😂

[@zeta1729]

Women. Are. Not. Your. Maids.

[@ohshiet2766]

Zeta men are not your toys

[@ohshiet2766]

Zeta so don’t assume men do end of conversation

[@miaa8500]

Oh Shiet This video is about an abusive man treating his wife as a maid

[@bazgul5790]

hiimisyausomach💮💥🌠🔅🔆🔆♣♥♠❔🔻🔺

[@maddieokefefe4874]

Nobody. Is. Your. Maid

[@msb358]

My mom was married to her first husband for 6 months. She left the night he hit her once -- ONCE!! She packed up and left!! He did everything he could to get her back, but she said, "NO" , and filed for divorce. She was my role model! She always said, "Don't EVER let a man define you or put their hands on you." I think my dad was a bit afraid of her. Lol! Because of her, I married my best friend and life partner -- 42 years now! We need more women like my mom!

[@satsumamoon]

Yeah, if all women left the moment they got hit there would be none of these abusive relationships. Its that simple. Your comment betrays your ignorance .

[@franceskronenwett3539]

Your mum was certainly a strong lady. There should be more like her.

[@maribrunnsteiner9621]

I left my ex almost 3 months after i noticed that he doesn't like if i suggest what i like ( which i think what i like are the normal ones and his were.. 😏🤦‍♀️crazy) esply on the bed and he turn his back on me and act like a child but he never hit me. He just want that i wear what he wanted me to wear. He never It was so scary then. I really prayed to God fervently that i can have the courage to get away from his house. Thanks God did give me the courage to do that difficult voluntary job just to have a courteous exit. Whewwww!

[@NO-ib1ip]

This is a positive outcome but also a VERY simplistic and naive view of domestic abuse and violence.

[@marlenemcmillan8891]

Nice story

[@sarahdunkley4935]

It’s not just physical abuse it’s mental and that doesn’t heal sometimes! Abusers are nothing more than bully’s with low self esteem.

[@ceciliaadorza4425]

I agree and they abuse others just to make themselves feel better.

[@ceciliaadorza4425]

@Rita Lovett so true..That's why we should have at least an idea whenever we are dealing with a narcissist..they just don't have the capability to feel empathy towards others no matter what you do for them.

[@magdanavarro90]

Agreed I experienced this and got out fast before he would do something else.

[@adamwalker2377]

And yet women bypass good, honest men in favor of these bullies with low self esteem. Interesting pattern, wouldn't you agree?

[@adamwalker2377]

@Denise Saunders you were exposed to plenty. You just didn't want them. Take responsibility for your choices. It's very therapeutic. I'm a single mid-30s healthy man with a good job, good credit, property, and (as far as I know now) good prospects for the future, and I have seen too much of this nonsense from women to consider marriage.

[@americano7643]

I've gotten to the dark and sad part of KZbin again.. damnit

[@kitkatbar2184]

Insane Kawaii i seem to find myself here alot as well. Hm.......

[@vadajo3177]

I was literally watching a video about people telling there crush they like them and now I'm here.

[@lillipenelle9920]

Insane Kawaii same why the f*** do I always and up here ?!

[@raynawilliamson2719]

Same I'm here a lot now that I think of it

[@glxygrl6446]

this dark and sad part is reality of most houses AND the video where people purpose their crush is not

[@neshamoodley5550]

She opens the jewel box because it reminds her of her childhood, her parents and her family. Remembering the wonderful life she had before being with him. You always have to have something that calms you down after such abuse. I keep my parents photo permanently in my top drawer to remember the wonderful life i had before the storm I am in. It's not easy to leave

[@annacmoreno1]

I think the music box is symbolic of the fact that nothing is going to change. " Beautiful dreamer" everyday it's the same routine of trying to please him, but it's just a dream, a fantasy.

[@jennawhittle3940]

Nesha Moodley I hope everything gets better and u find a way out ❤️

[@dearmumma3924]

Sending you best wishes

[@GigiPicasso]

It is though. You can leave. My mom stayed for 20 years and finally believed she could leave and did. Stop listening to the excuses of why you cant and just go. Anywhere is better than being beaten

[@loljordan1793]

Nesha Moodley I don’t know you but I hope that you’re living a nice and healthier life and got out of that relationship because a man who loves you wouldn’t hit you

[@sallybatboy]

stop calling them “wife beaters”. they’re ABUSERS don’t sugarcoat it

[@gigi4266]

how is that sugarcoating it? it's the same thing.

[@jannusaugustine7363]

@@OnlyLilynn44 Hahahaha , that's interesting 😂. Iam happy now

[@alman8908]

✨Cat✨ Nobody said that. But if a male abuser hit his wife, you can call them wife beaters aswell. That doesnt take away the fact that men get abused too.

[@annazakpiktova4529]

It sounds just as bad you're being stupid

[@saturniidmoff]

Wife beater is far worse of a label than abuser. That’s not a sugarcoat

[@asjahbarksdale2583]

rip to all the people who had there head phones on and loud when she slammed the glass cutting board

[@visionmyasia9466]

Right when I was reading this It happened && i Almost died.

[@lilyisabel5420]

I had headphones on😭

[@nooralmalki4424]

+Asjah Barksdale i swear i stopped the video after that happened to search for this comment lol

[@asjahbarksdale2583]

Nora Nick Lol same

[@nooralmalki4424]

Asjah Barksdale :)

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

Let's pray for everyone who are on this kind of relationship. And also, let's hope that they'll find the strength to leave as soon as possible. :'(

[@jazzdhaliwal887]

This is not easy to leave the whom you love we need to think about kids and also our parents

[@drunkchicken648]

THIS IS NOT LOVE

[@hal2166]

Drunk Chicken the sad part is eventually the longer this goes on that’s what the victim perceives as “love”

[@msuleman7786]

The man who rise his hands towards his wife is no longer a man Domestic violence is a crime and wrong If she loves you and you should love her, care her, protect her But if you are beating her how you are his man whom she trusted

[@siriuslyfuckingphantomhive9549]

You are very wise, well said

[@divyasingh4505]

@Almighty Sagittarius Yeah, it is very difficult to trust men here.

[@lordsesshoumaru8596]

lmao, look at the replies...yes good boy mohammed now a woman can manipulate you into forfeiting your masculinity...idiot

[@dudeno5811]

Should've told this to my dad before he left

[@TiffanyALuna]

Wife beaters need to be burned alive and castrated as they are not worth being called a man.

[@cheyenneleigh9015]

That girls vanity is more organised than my life.

[@bgfspacecowboy9446]

LOL same XD.

[@indiangirlreacts696]

true girl

[@timmyturner4384]

Cheyenne Leigh exactly

[@nobody9127]

Cheyenne Leigh and spelling

[@bluebe3671]

Cheyenne Leigh

[@bakedfreshly]

I stayed in a abusive relationship for 5 years. It probably took a year for him to put his hands on me, and I was so "in love" that I was always blaming myself. I ended up cutting off all my friendships because whenever I spent time with friends, I somehow ended up being abused by him. I was hiding the bruises and hurt from my parents because I didn't want them to call the cops or get him in trouble. I completely cut everybody off and was stuck in a position where all I had was him. New Years Eve, we went to a party and I was sitting there talking to an old friend, and later in the night my boyfriend asked "why were you guys whispering"? and i replied that we were not whispering, we were just having a conversation. He had been drinking, which made him mean and even more abusive. We talked in the car, and he hit me upside the head a couple times and hit me in the face. My nose started bleeding, and he locked the doors as soon as I tried getting out of the car to go back inside to get help. He drove off, and left the party and I spent all night being verbally and physically abused. He took me back to his house, and made me sleep on the floor with no pillows, no blankets. Eventually everything calmed down, and he fell asleep after thinking I was asleep. I left, and never looked back. My heart hurts for people who are abused and can't find a way to get out of it. You are worth so much more.

[@AshIsAWolf]

The same thing happened to me. Tey wait until you have this image in your mind of who you think they are so it's harder for you to leave because you loved who you thought they were so much. Makes you think "well if they started off being sick great...maybe this is all my fault"

[@bivos3071]

Thanks for this honest story. I've been there, I know the feeling. Thank God I managed to leave.

[@maddieokefefe4874]

Oh sh*t are you ok? If not get well soon?! I don’t know what to say this almost made me cry

[@deannasalem9195]

You should have called the Police. No stupid excuses. He could violate another woman or children.

[@anand-uk8ek]

Hey there...can anybody plz answer my question....as in my country there is arranged marriages so I have a query....that u marry ur boyfriend so ...when he is ur boyfriend u could easily observe whether he is cruel or aggressive....if u find out so ...then don't marry him....isn't it simple

[@andymorris358]

My stomach was doing flip flops and my heart was in my throat the entire time watching this. I left an abusive relationship almost two years ago. It wasn’t physically abusive but abuse is abuse not matter what kind.

[@melanieamberly7118]

This brought me to tears bcos this is too relatable. Well, ive been with this guy for 3 years. When we started dating, he was fine. Sweet and caring. But then he turned abusive. He would hit me, and now my arms and legs have scars all over it. He even slapped me in front of a crowd and forced me to do stuffs i didnt want to. He would even asked me to lend him money. All i knew was, my life was never happy. I would cry and cry, every night asking God what is happening to my life. He would even control my life, as in what i wear, friends i hang out with, ny social media and outings with family. I swear, i nearly felt like killing myself. But i finally broke up with him, although he didnt agreed. 1 year later, i ended up with this totally sweet man. He swept me off my feet and he's actually my best friend since 2013 ❤ and he respects me and loves me. And he said, he has a crush on me since then. Im so happy and blessed that God sent me an angel like him. And we've been together for 7 months now ❤

[@divyasingh4505]

I am so happy for you that you found your true love💗

[@melanieamberly7118]

@@divyasingh4505 thankyou ❣️

[@saturniidmoff]

That crowd must’ve been full of blind people

[@melanieamberly7118]

@@saturniidmoff yeap, they didn't even offered to help :')

[@stevethebuilder9823]

@@melanieamberly7118 How are You now? Is eveything going fine

[@forestfairyyy]

This brought tears to my eyes.. Reminds me of when my father would beat my mom.. Words cant describe the sorrow.. If youre in a violent relationship or abusive relationship, leave it..

[@dp5296]

+Callies Journey This is SOOO disgusting.

[@forestfairyyy]

+安苹果 and you are sooo irrelevant. I'm sorry that you don't understand life, must be a shame that you have to judge other people.

[@dp5296]

Callies Journey Who did I judge? All I said was the domestic violence is disgusting.

[@forestfairyyy]

+安苹果 Oh I'm sorry, I took your comment the wrong way, my apologies. But yes, domestic violence and abuse is a terrible thing.

[@dp5296]

Callies Journey Feel sorry for you too, really tough to go thru those experience.

[@kritikaupadhyay8478]

You don't hurt the person you love.

[@ebmariam]

Kritika Upadhyay agree 👍

[@starfallsky3168]

What I've noticed is that other than the physical abuse, the verbal harrassment sounds exactly like what I hear from teachers. Am I the only one who thinks it's wrong for teachers to talk to students lime that? Like with the the glass he just started yelling "Do you think this is funny?!" Deapite it being an accident and I've noticed teachers do the same kind of thing to children. Teachers are there to help us learn not to teach us to endure that abuse.

[@india239]

Starfall sky I’m a teacher and I’ve never spoken to a child like that in my life. You’ve had some awful teachers

[@Julia-rj4vq]

India M lol all of mine are like that

[@rohan_3128]

You are a snowflake my teachers used to beat our ass and I don't even care about that because that made all of us mentally and physically strong

[@robinbrown2256]

@@india239 when I was in school, teacher used to do that. Some were wonderful and kind, but there were some that made me never want to set foot in a classroom again. I remember when I was in the 5th grade, I played the violin, as all 5th graders had to pick an instrument to play. When I was in the 6th grade in Middle School, I took a orchestra class but had trouble keeping up with the rest of the class. I didn't participate in the what they were doing. Well, the teacher that was covering the class held me hostage after class, screaming at me and berating me for at least 15 minutes for not participating. I just remember him yelling at me and shaming me, and the paralyzed feeling i had, standing there through that. And I recall one of the things said was something similar to "do you think it's funny?" I felt like it was my fault, anf that I deserved the abuse. That was the last day I ever set foot in a music lesson. It was sad that it happened that way.

[@jokesonmary12]

@@rohan_3128 so beating someone's ass up makes them "strong"??

[@lola.girltime]

people always say “just leave him!” no you cant just leave him because he could find you or force you to stay with him. people always say “fight back” sometimes its hard to fight back when a man is abusing you and controlling you. abuse is serious and no one knows what its like if they havent been through it. everyone assumes you could just run away and start a new life but its never easy to just run away or say no when you are in an abusive relationship. never assume that people can just fight back or just leave him because it will never be that easy

[@crystalhenderson5795]

Love shouldn't hurt.People don't understand unless they have been there

[@BigRazzmatazz]

If it hurts... it. Is not. Love. It's domestic abuse.

[@crystalhenderson5795]

Thank you it's a learned behavior.Its a horrible thing to go thru some women don't ever make it out it becomes normal. I plan on getting more informed. About it so many women end up dead

[@biminipenn]

+Crystal Henderson my mom:(

[@sashsangmo7392]

It shouldn't. I feel her I do

[@nikorusakura1068]

This brings tears to my eyes because it is too relatable. My last relationship was extremely toxic and full of manipulation. My ex would hit me, force me to do things I didn't want to do, and "punish" me for things I did wrong. I stayed with him for a year, so insecure and scared that I couldn't even break up with him. One month after the toxic relationship ended, I met a man who swept me off my feet, and still does.. every day. 😌 I have never been so happy in a relationship in my life, and I am the happiest I have ever been. I am at peace. Update: I’m married to the same dude.

[@janellirving4625]

Nic Needs A Dab How is everything with your new man?

[@ellieiamaio4454]

Nic Needs A Dab oh darling good for you

[@katprinner7429]

why would you stay with him when he has HIT you? i dont get it.

[@ahmadmahdee9495]

seee things turn out right .....when u stop being shalllow and go for the nice guy................

[@ld9162]

Ahmad Mahdee Wow that was incredibly rude. Just... Wow, I'm actually impressed how obnoxious that comment is

[@surabhichakraborty481]

I guess it's better to stay single than being in such a horrible relationship!!! May whoever has been through this whether a man or a woman will find freedom and peace. Love you all.

[@gabrielacastillo9640]

I cried while her getting 👊 I was in a bad relationship with my ex he use to beat me and make me think he actually loved me and how sorry he was. He went to jail and thats how I knew it was time to escape and now I got my freedom back😭💖😊

[@sofiasabatino2735]

Why do the actors talk so quietly in this???

[@ruthdarby4824]

That's what I was wondering

[@Lowerthanemily]

Because it's a university video, mine weren't nearly half as good as these

[@screwyou9133]

Sofia Sabatino I know I can barely hear anything xD

[@meilikecheese7078]

They aren't talking quietly it's the filming device that's not picking up a lot of sound

[@celestialdove3344]

....you can turn up the volume ya know

[@daniellerachel590]

The only issues I have with this are the super unconvincing acting and the voiceover parts...

[@kitkatbar2184]

Danielle Rachel i agree. Being a recovering victim of 3 yrs of abuse, its never that nice or easy. And i gota say i NEVER told myself "its ok. He loves u." I knew the truth. But i wuz terrified.

[@janellirving4625]

Danielle Rachel Yes, the voice-over parts aren't needed.

[@theclairebaire]

Wow she cook him dinner Clean home Treat him with respect And this is how he treat her?

[@Werewolf0216]

I have a longtime friend who left her abuser and stayed with me. I’m a man...she and I always had a romantic undercurrent to our relationship but she would always pick an abusive guy over me. Finally when she left her latest abuser to stay with me, our romance sparked and we grew closer than ever. One day when she was helping an elderly couple, we planned for me to pick up take-out for when she got home. I also got her flowers to surprise her...and I cleaned the house. I wanted her to know that a man could be considerate. However, she didn’t show up when we planned. I called her and she was back at the home with her abuser. She said the house was a mess and she needed to clean it. I said, I just picked up dinner like we planned, and I have a surprise for you, and I cleaned the house so it would be nice for you...yet there you are cleaning the house of a guy who is a slob and doesn’t even appreciate what you do, when I do value your contribution to the home. She told me I just don’t understand.

[@user-dm8nd5fc3d]

@@Werewolf0216 stay with her

[@chocolatebar1592]

@@Werewolf0216 sorry to hear that

[@thesehandsart]

@@Werewolf0216 she has been made to believe that is her true value, she can't accept kindness because she has been taught that she doesn't deserve it. If you truly care for her then help her help herself and for her own sake, she needs to be whole and healthy in order to make healthy choices in her life and relationships. Another thing, look up love bombing... she may be mistaking your kindness for the grooming her abuser did at the beginning of their relationship, and honestly when you are in crisis(which she is) predictability(she knows what to expect from her abuser)will win over the unknown(what will happen with you, she is completely unsure of herself). There is so very much more to it, but I hope that I've provided some helpful and insightful points that will perhaps give you a better understanding(though not comprehensive) of where she is emotionally right now. I hope that you can continue to be there for her, even if as a good friend, support and someone who knows what is happening is what she needs.

[@Werewolf0216]

@@thesehandsart I guess I didn't finish the story, though it is a long one, but ultimately she did return entirely to him, and turned against me...this even after he hit her in the face again. I agree, there was an aspect of her starting to not trust me, and misinterpret my intentions...so that she wondered if I might be as bad or worse than her abuser for relatively minor offenses in comparison...when there was no comparison (the "f.e.a.r." aspect of PTSD -- false evidence appearing real). As far as "she needs to be whole and healthy"...I disagree to an extent -- one thing that made her feel like she couldn't be with me was the pop-psychology idea that "you can't be with someone if you don't love yourself first"...so she felt like if she went from him to me she was doing something wrong, even though I would never treat her as awfully as he did. Also, the pop-psychology idea of "you have to be OK on your own before you can be with someone else". Well, she didn't have the financial means to be OK on her own. So, I blame and despise the therapist who told her these two things, because it enabled her to go back to the abuser instead of stay with the man who wanted to treat her well. I suppose those ideas are well-meaning, but I don't think true at all, and in this case was detrimental. And, as you said, choosing the familiar over the unknown for fear it could be even worse. Unfortunately she will not allow me to be there for her now...she is thoroughly enmeshed in a trauma bond where she now sees me as the threat instead of her abuser.

[@imsotox]

This reminds me of that girl on dr Phil that was saying that if your bf hits you then he loves you because he’s taking a risk of going to jail for you. Smh. If he even laid a finger on me..where’s the belt.

[@maddieokefefe4874]

Sim Mckenzie Mess with sim McKenzie Time for skinning frenzy This got dark quick sorry

[@sorellemercedes3179]

Sim Mckenzie A finger? So how do you guys kiss, hug, cuddle, and have children?

[@rayans6875]

You know that’s not what they mean come on

[@india239]

Sim Mckenzie oh yeah? What a perverted thing to say And if only jail time was a reality

[@domaa4k981]

lmaoo"wheres the belt"

[@ceasargarzautsa]

Looks like an interesting video but volume is extremely low.

[@azoutdoors2344]

Wife beaters are nothing but cowards. Why don't they try beating up a 6 foot 200lb. man instead. I wish that I had a beautiful, loving, caring wife like that.

[@playboyx1114]

What if the wife beater was a 6 foot 200lb man himself? There isn't a specific height for abusers.

[@playboyx1114]

@Hagane Len I've seen plenty of men who wanted a wife lmao

[@stingyfromlazytown8612]

John Kickass - Umm because they know they’d beat their asses beat. Is that even a question lol of course you want to go for someone easier

[@dawnlovett1]

They wouldn't take on a man because they know he would knock them out cold

[@TiffanyALuna]

You should've NEVER been single.

[@analisa3305]

"just leave him " yeah i was in one, he beat me when i tried to leave,

[@india239]

Ana Lisa leavingbis the most dangerous time :0(

[@carmensnew]

Bless you... I hope you are safe now my love x

[@lovepower4899]

I’m sorry but there’s always a way out ! It’s your life or his

[@india239]

Love & Power if there was a way out for everyone there would be no partner and child murder

[@lovepower4899]

India M if you say that you will get killed regardless. I’d rather die trying to escape than die in submission . I think we as women need to learn self love and self respect which will stop us from letting any man or woman abuse us. Not everything has to be about a man or having a boyfriend . Focus on you and your careers and goals. The right one will come along when you’re happy doing what you love with self love ❤️ 🙏

[@animelover359]

She is so pretty, her house is amazing, and her accent is beautiful! But that man is rude!

[@xnixrixx390]

That isn't a man, that's a fucking PIG

[@saturniidmoff]

Just rude?

[@anastasia10017]

you call brutalizing her "rude" ??

[@angeline398]

Hell naw , if a man touches me imma get the whip!

[@darkiesnuff1165]

ItzAlxxma amen

[@sn00ze51]

ItzAlxxma AMEN SISTER

[@Fionabejeweled2001]

Id bring out my inner Buffy the vampire slayer or Xena warrior princess

[@diamondsland7401]

Go head girl!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@leomulholland6892]

Get nae nae while.youre there

[@chelseaemerald7292]

I get the message. I do. The filming was done really well. But, the acting.. I just couldn't emotionally connect with her. I don't know if I'm the only one, but I just couldn't.

[@paigehc6659]

Chelsea Emerald same

[@katprinner7429]

Chelsea Emerald the WHOLE thing was ASS👎👎

[@jonquilbrown5897]

Kat Prinner like you

[@jbrown3364]

I couldn't either

[@sabriablue226]

He’ll yeah 😂

[@brandeiswilliams4798]

Why am I low key hiding in the comments while watching😭😭🤷‍♀️

[@sophiagonzales5948]

L

[@NickshubhaNickshubha]

He doesn't loves you , he loves the idea of you being in love with him

[@Rachelscotland5]

This makes me so angry , i know everyone thinks it would never happen to them , i myself keep thinking the girl should just shout back , hit back but not only would that make things worse i'm sure it must just be so scary . infuriating that this is still happening

[@canuckswin3487]

oh my gosh!! Please please please talk to someone, I know its easier said then done but please know there are people out there who want to help, but you have to let them!!

[@Jorday006]

canucks win I don't think she meant herself

[@purplepantha11]

This will never stop chick

[@canuckswin3487]

AceEpicRockstar she just said "I" like four times.

[@mommyandme2268]

purplepantha11 really

[@bbymads]

my ex-boyfriend was emotionally abusive. we were together for only half a year, but his constant abuse still haunts me to this day, nearly two years later. i doubt myself in ways i never did. i don’t trust people like i did before. i hate what he did to me, but i’m also glad that i saw it to the end. i’ve never seen myself in such an angry, blind-hatred towards someone i would beg to love me. it’s a demonic cycle. no one can just get up and “leave”. it’s so much more than just leaving the situation. it’s leaving your life, the shell of the person they made you believe you were. it’s saying: “i fucking love you but i hate myself now because of you. and i think i deserve more.” it’s the most difficult thing i’ve ever endured and i hope no one, woman or man, has to go through that. if you’re going through it now, i hope you see how much it is truly damaging you. it’s okay to want more for yourself. you are not selfish for realizing your worth. you got this!

[@pettyprincess4328]

Madison Martinez 💙💋

[@maddieokefefe4874]

I hope you feel better about this soon Also I bet you are awesome in many ways and you deserve to be surrounded by nice people!

[@shttingrainbows1550]

He sounds like a piece of garbage and you're better off without him.

[@sarahwoodward8250]

Thanks 🙏

[@VampireMacky]

Speaking as a man, none of this behavior makes any sense! As I see it, as long as a woman shows love and devotion to a man in one way or another... who cares what’s for dinner? Who cares how the table is set? Just so long as something is in my stomach, I’m grateful!

[@joslyn2139]

Love doesn't hurt. Its being abused that hurts. Its being disregarded that hurts. Its being forgotten and lied to that hurts. It's being tortured that hurts. Its never love that hurts, and if you're hurting, it clearly isn't love.

[@kaimccarty1938]

I see in the comments saying that men are stronger than women so it's not okay for them to hit women but it's okay for women to his men. I am a 13 year old girl who proudly disagrees. If a women abuses a man its ok to hit her back or push her and tell her to stop and if it's gotten to the point where it's really bad you leave her. Same thing for the women. I've always been taught in school to leave a relationship where I am abused I need to leave because that person does NOT love me.

[@leannahollis6420]

Kai McCarty I agree a woman shouldn’t hit a man , nor a man hit a woman . However I don’t care if a woman stands in his face and hits him to his tooth falls out !! A man should never hit a woman !! WALK AWAY

[@karenmeadows-rogers8948]

No one shouldn't put hands on someone else regardless of gender.

[@hellooldfriend3223]

Kai McCarty oh your 13 too i agree as well abuse has no gender

[@elizabethpadilla109]

I agree but if he disagrees its still not ok to lay hands on her its disgusting what that guy did and what hurts the most is that it actually happens

[@adriennerobinson8984]

I agree and disagree, nobody should hit another especially in a relationship and I don't think anybody said it's okay for women to hit men, it just that men who are on average more stronger can most of the times physically restrain a woman or push her off in self defense. Of course there are exceptions like if she's attacking with a knife or she is bigger than the male and is beating him like Mike Tyson. Typically women have feel more powerless in that situation since the man is more likely stronger than her and can usually inflict greater damage though again there are exceptional cases.

[@giggidygoo17]

I can't hear what she's saying

[@yasminaelmalhouf9898]

stedz bk "trust him" for 500323times

[@lyndsaysrebornnurseryoffib4241]

stedz bk me either hard to understand!

[@jojosiwa8509]

stedz bk sane

[@LilBearJe]

how can a girl love a man who beats them up. hell naw. if my girl ever made me mad I just go to my car and go for a ride and come back when I am cool and discuss what's wrong.

[@maddieokefefe4874]

Johni Espinoza Imagine this Situation 1 The frog sits in the pan The owner of the stove blasts it to 1000 Celsius Frog jumps out Owner of stove: get back bro Frog: um no looser Situation 2 Frog sits in pan Owner of stove slowly increases heat so the frog stays even if it’s hot Owner of stove: I’m just warming your butt for you it’s chilly out Frog: um ok Frog: slowly burns

[@rachealarichard858]

I wish I can find a man like this.

[@user-fd9rb3pl5b]

I don't know why I love like this man!!! on this video and I don't have a problem if he treats me like that

[@sanaparweenansari2333]

@@user-fd9rb3pl5b seriously

[@user-fd9rb3pl5b]

@@sanaparweenansari2333 yeah iam serious

[@afsana8968]

This is something I’m scared of That’s the reason why don’t get in relationships

[@niib9627]

if my man ever hits me hes going to die

[@xrainbowxdashx4159]

Same here

[@xrainbowxdashx4159]

Yea really? Bet u couldn't even hit a fly! And attually I can nock some one out in one punch! So umm yea. Think about that next time u think or call a girl a pussy. O and by the way I'm not a cat I am a female who can nock u out.

[@Add183]

I'm just commenting here so I can see the whole conversation

[@chloecassem190]

nii b Same here

[@hopelynnmckinney6980]

nii b It's not that easy.. you'll never understand until you're in that situation and when you love someone you think it's your fault

[@xXLeRainbowLlamaXxx]

It's disgusting what men can do to the people they say they love

[@fagatron8950]

xXLeRainbowLlamaXx and women

[@courtney457]

xXLeRainbowLlamaXx women can do it too

[@greshamsmith3923]

Yeah, and women do that too you now...

[@suntaffy-p9845]

This is the most uncomfortable short film I’ve ever watched, but that makes it all the more realistic. Nice work. :)

[@PurplePandas4eva]

"Oh tell me you love me". The feeling I got when I was with you. I knew you didn't mean to do it when you'd say you loved me after. I was dumb back then to think that's what love was. When I got too comfortable I couldn't escape. You always said I wouldn't find a man who love you like I do. But, if I didn't do this or that, then you would show me the hand. Telling me it's normal for couples to fight but we fought way to much. It was you who caused all the problems. I wish I would have understood what domestic violence was before meeting you. However, I have grown from the pain I once felt. I don't take shit from anybody now. I found a guy who treats me like a queen and has never raised his voice or put his hand on me to hurt me. You can find your person out there! But you have to let go of the abuser. He can no longer control your life unless you let his thoughts consume you. Everyone deserves happiness and love.

[@EliseBrook]

I could tell she was British by her makeup

[@Stefy-kw6bl]

and her accent too

[@EliseBrook]

+Stefy 45213 obviously but before she spoke

[@pelly1020]

Yeah 😂😂

[@scarlettsinclair6042]

Elise Brook how 😂

[@YourMom-yp6ev]

OML ME TOO

[@nadinelangan2962]

I've been watching all these short films about Domestic Violence and I was wondering, how come they're all about women being abused. Men get abused too.

[@chrisspace4254]

Because people will comment 'why didn't he hit back?'

[@nadinelangan2962]

+Christina Jazmyn but girls can hit back too

[@chrisspace4254]

With girls, no one asks that, because women are expected to be weak and not fight back, men are expected to fight back. Similar to how when a woman is raped, shes always first asked what she was wearing.

[@KonaBroLP]

If men fight back they will be treated as if they threw the first punch. Society is unfair because society works together to make itself unfair.

[@notcats3549]

True but it is fact that men are stronger than women. Yes, as a female I believe we are strong but it's fact that men are meant to build muscle while women are meant to slim down. I've always wanted to get this off my chest I just hoped it isn't taken the wrong way

[@katarinabaird2856]

People always say theyd fight back if they were in that situation but before an abusive partner is physically violent they recondition your mind.

[@Emd315]

2:40 headphones users take time to turn down your volume real quick. Your welcome.

[@daniyaansari7767]

Emd315 tnk u so much for informing dear...

[@jaimedrum]

Hallelujah. Get this person a medal

[@chocolatebar1592]

Yes.AND at 5:30 and 5:33 also at 5:38 I would have said come on now,let's all calm down and finnish our meals

[@edithsjoberg4643]

This is so cliché! Women who are being abused doesn't have to be all quiet and shy. Men who abuse doesn't have to have muscles and being cold buisnessmen. Same thing the other way around: women who abuse their men doesn't have to be fit tomboys and men who are being abused by their women doesn't have to be skinny and "girly".

[@kwasiwilliams5014]

Yeah I agree, I also find this video very simple, stereotypical and uninformative. Was looking for a more realistic play out of the dynamics of abuse.

[@edithsjoberg4643]

Exactly! They should have collected some facts before making this awarenessvideo.

[@user-kk2pc7ik7t]

It seems to me that even sometimes they both hit one another.

[@edithsjoberg4643]

Yeah, that is probably more common.

[@karlaacosta8283]

Abuse happens to everyone and anybody no matter what race, gender, sexuality or religion etc. it is something that needs to be stopped.

[@brandonmclean9907]

My dad was abusive. It's a terrible thing, abuse, and if you are experiencing it, speak up. I will never hit someone I love, not even someone I dislike. And if I see abuse I will be kicking some ass. I hate it, I would get beat for little mistakes, or sticking up for my mom when she got beat on, or for things I didn't do. If you are in a similar circumstance, plz, speak out, stand up, don't let it go on

[@maddieokefefe4874]

Are you ok? I had an abusive father to but not this bad?!

[@rubyleach5553]

I know how it feels. My step dad gets abusive when he's angry with me. Then he pushes me and screams at me

[@rainbowgirlism]

@@rubyleach5553 😥

[@rainbowgirlism]

Ruby, please call cps

[@ravenclaw4814]

Hi. This is ruby leach. This is my other account on my tablet. I want to but then he's gonna find out I talk about him to other people and get even angrier with me

[@yesindeed4215]

I want everyone here to know that this can happen to males too. It’s just less likely as most men are stronger than women

[@ohshiet2766]

Yes Indeed actually no there have been many cases where the men have been badly beaten by their wives recently a man was killed by his wife in India she had hit him in the head causing him to have brain bleeds he died at the hospital

[@lisadoesntlivehereanymore3527]

Yes Indeed --- Yes Indeed.

[@divya9612]

No it's because women are more gentle than men

[@alex41201]

Its not really less likely for men to be abused but it is less likely for men to come forward about being abused

[@taracollins5597]

I agree that abuse is not only from males. While its true that most men are stronger than women, I do know of a couple of men who were indeed abused by their female spouses. The abuse often starts as verbal, and escalates. The women will sometimes either have children (if married) & or get pregnant (with a boyfriend) and use the children as leverage. The men understandably want a relationship with their children, or feel they need to stay now that the woman is pregnant.....and the women use that. They threaten that they will take the kids away, or call the police and lie that they are being abused. Also, some men were raised to never lay a hand on a woman...ever...so they don't hit back. The cycle continues, regardless. Its so incredibly sad that ANYONE abuses their spouses, male or female. No one deserves to be treated that way.

[@januarywynter6632]

When he punched her in her stomach, I felt that

[@JustHannah93]

Hi guys thanks for all the comments. I was the producer of this film and although we recognise there are technical faults with the piece and it's not exactly the way we wanted it to turn out in the end, we are very happy that it has raised so much awareness for domestic abuse.

[@dawnlovett1]

If this is the way he show's his wife/girlfriend that he cares then god help the person he's got no feelings for whatsoever

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

He thinks winning and control are love

[@siriuslyfuckingphantomhive9549]

My mom's mom was in an abusive relationship my dad's mom was is in a toxic relationship my dad abused me my mom and my siblings my sister was in a very toxic relationship and so was my brother I had toxic freinds Physical abuse Sexually abuse Emotional abuse Psychological abuse All of it is Abuse their is no kind of abuse that is worse than the other it all hurts YOU!

[@harford15]

Domestic abuse doesn't always leave visible marks. Not all abuse involves punching, or even hitting. This was a good video in general, but it does gloss over the other forms of abuse. Most people see things like this and (rightfully) think it's awful. But by showing only the most commonly seen form of abuse, at least in movies and PSAs, it makes it seem like it's not abusive if it's only verbal, or even just humiliation. That is my soapbox :)

[@sofiamariayein3678]

I had to scroll down when he beat her.. this is sick.

[@atiithe]

+Artist Sofi Don't worry kid, it's not real.

[@vizunip8773]

no look at it like you would look at a dead body

[@rosebailey7671]

Ik u was like “XD oh god.”

[@leslieangela9114]

its real because it happens every damn day.

[@ridazakaria6899]

Artist Sofi I know me to man

[@m310trading4]

One night I was in my deep sleep, someone screamed very loudly that woke me up. I didnt want to wake up but I thought I should check so I opened the door. I saw the woman from the next door lying in a pool of blood and one man came out from the room. I yelled at him and woke other neighbours up so he was afraid when many people approached the scene. I called the police. I got to know later that he kicked her while she was feeding her baby. She just gave birth to her third child 3 months ago. I dont know how hard he kicked her even the main door was broken. He was put in jail. I also learned that he wasnt even earning money and his wife is the one who paid for everything. I feel for the children who had to see that abusive father. Such a shame!

[@firekat5376]

I grew up in a home where my mom was in a domestic violent relationship with my dad and trust me the memories will always be there so end it and if u have kids keep them away because they will be affected for the rest of their life even if u don't think they will

[@amrwrestler4525]

I would never beat my girl

[@pettyprincess4328]

A.M.R 4Life!! 💙

[@ravigodara8909]

Xxx

[@ravigodara8909]

Xxx filem

[@sohinichatterjee7341]

Be my man then 😂

[@divyasingh4505]

@@sohinichatterjee7341 😂😂😂

[@alliikhan3644]

I can't even think to hit a woman.... How is it possible to hit a woman I can shout may b in worst case of anger...but hitting to hurt her ... ? She is too soft to even grab hardly ...

[@mar-wr4io]

+allii khan exactly

[@DaWanderr]

I won't hit a girl unless that bitch hits me like she wants to hurt me

[@videolover0548]

Well if a boy hits me well let's just say you won't see him yes sorry I'm violent jk but I can still stick up for myself and it is wrong for a girl to hit a man and a man to hit a girl is wrong

[@laralova9119]

Dude you mean woman and men? I'm tired of the "YOU CANT BEAT A WOMAN BECAUSE THEY ARE WEAK AND INNOCENT". We're not made of glass and just treat all genders the same. It feels like you don't care about hitting men when I'm reading your comment

[@laralova9119]

proZac I'm not bitching, I'm saying that both genders should be treated equally. Most people think men could handle getting hitted like it's nothing but that's false

[@andreacrystal2588]

The speech is so quiet!!! I CANT HEAR

[@jeshea7373]

And there aren't any caps!!!

[@aliyajade7581]

Headphones make it easier to hear. Much easier.

[@lj1847]

Ik but other than that its ok

[@helenesofiad679]

What did she say at the table that have angered him? I couldn't hear either

[@chocolatebar1592]

@@helenesofiad679 that's just what I was thinking.

[@brishtysharma9515]

I am from India. I thought it happens only in India. but din't ever think it happens all over the world. I wish the day comes very soon when all women can raise their voice against these kind of humiliation, exploitation and torture. I am feeling so proud to have my father as my mother's husband. Love you so much #Papa for always being an understanding husband to my mother.

[@vaishnavisambre122]

Yes brishty same here I also thought that domestic violence only exist in India. Bc India is male dominating orthodox & in India if any married girl or if the girl is in relationship Then her relatives parents only suggests & manipulates that this things are common in every relationship so you have to adjust with him

[@divyasingh4505]

@@vaishnavisambre122 All are dumb retards with no gutts over here, both men and women. It is not about gender but about power and dominance and in every society the weak has to suffer and our society has always weaken our women but now things are changing for good !!

[@vaishnavisambre122]

@@divyasingh4505 yes it's true Not only women bt sometimes men also becomes the victim of domestic violence This is not about gender It's all about individual's ego & now both male & female are egoistic. Giving a long speech on true love is very easy bt such psycho personalities doesn't know exactly that what is true love For them physical & sexual abuse is very normal in married relationship

[@divyasingh4505]

@@vaishnavisambre122 Yes my sis !! Because of their ego people like us suffer !!

[@15908150503able]

Just don't understand how these men can do shit like this to their loved ones? Can you really call this a relationship or love if one of the partner is this abusive? I'm male too and I believe countries around world should criminalise psychological torture, emotion abuse too for their respective Anti-Domestic Violence Acts. Domestic violence is a serious issue! Respect and Trust are the most basic foundations for every true loving relationship! A relationship without trust or respect, it's not a relationship.

[@spiderz4811]

Very true wise words

[@jessi3271]

Yes they should.

[@sarahwoodward8250]

Thanks for the info x

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

Read Lundy Bancroft, he'll tell you.

[@skylerhmoore]

Am I the only one who's thinking "who is she talking to?," in the beginning of the video. I truly do love this video though.

[@lindajackson2382]

She's talking to herself, Emma.

[@kathya4160]

She’s probably giving herself some support to get through the nite

[@delaneydavis6407]

Me too

[@shonaharris9328]

She’s developed some self negative talk and trying to develop a more pleasant inner voice to calm her self down. I remember doing this.

[@hopeslover6778]

oh hi skullfuck

[@tarawest6552]

This hurts my heart so bad . We ALL NEED TO INTERFERE ALOT MORE IN PUBLIC WHEN IGNORANCE OR HATE IS BEING DISPLAYED BY ANYONE💙 I challenge you all this: Don’t just walk away when your gut says something may be wrong or someone could be in great danger . Interfere & get involved , it could save a life. Tell your girlfriend that sh+t isn’t normal when you see them being mistreated. Challenge is to save the world one kind way a day

[@littlewillow2274]

You're not obligated to interfere.

[@airianacarver1529]

I will never understand the need to birate or abuse a partner. Man or woman. I feel terrible for epically men, they suffer in silence out of humiliation, pride, and just because it's the "normal" for a woman to hit a man because she can't hurt him, right? Men can very well be in this too and I hope one day, there is a domestic violence movement for men and they finally get to speak against their abuse without embarrassment, or shame. If you're a man reading this and your partner is hurting you, just know like women you don't deserve it either, please get someone and speak out. Trust me I know, was bitten, kicked, punched, pushed while pregnant I've been that women, I've been through a lot more. I hope one day to speak out for ALL abuse victims. Male or female.

[@moosemagic3551]

Haha when he dropped the glass it was actually quite funny cos the glass didn't even break! Lol

[@janellirving4625]

MooseMagic Wait a minute! He drops the glass, and he acts like it's her fault?

[@JJMHynes]

Whether ur man or women, if u r being abused by ur partner, leave them NOW!!!

[@melatimohdsalleh1880]

J.J.M.Hynes that’s right. That’s what I did.

[@chloehoopes1522]

It's not that easy wtf

[@darkboy5804]

It isn't that simple. You start thinking you can't live without him. The abuser becomes a sort of drug for the abused partner. Gender doesn't matter. And please spell properly, I can barely read your comment.

[@GigiPicasso]

It is that easy. If my mom could leave after 20 yrs of abuse with 5 small children no money no where to go then ANYONE CAN LEAVE. The abuser just banks on you thinking you cant so youll stay. Break that thinking and break the cycle. Ppl can only do to you what you will allow

[@yuhgetintoit478]

It that easy bro...

[@anand-uk8ek]

I'm never gonna still continue to love that man who is abusive.....I would quickly end taht relationship ....that's not a love...

[@teresamariecaglehitt]

I finally got away 20 years ago. It didn’t start horrible, scary, demeaning. He was loving, caring, playful, gentle, supportive. Then so very slowly began the control . So sneaky & sly you don’t even see it. Then, the put downs on a bad day..flowers & dinner to apologize. Then the put downs become shoves, shoves become slaps, slaps become..well you already know. Even begin blaming yourself with “ well if I made it the way he wanted” or “I should have asked before doing the wash” or “ I should’ve just told my mom to call earlier in the day”. You really don’t see it coming. Then it’s almost too late.

[@armeniangirliee]

This made me cry. You are so strong ❤❤❤ I am proud of you

[@hannahallen7740]

I HAVE THE SAME MUSIC BOX

[@InvayderFrostbyte]

+Hannah Is Lame Me too O_O

[@claudiac8385]

+Hannah is lame, lucky you

[@sophiabuckley7646]

+Hannah Is Lame it sounds familiar i think i used to have it what is the music box?

[@sailorjaywah7676]

mee too

[@Zophiezoz]

SAME HERE.

[@hannaengle]

Let me say one thing and one thing only: if a man ever hits you or hurts you purposely, he does not deserve a second chance. It's not "because I love you." He's not a good man, and no matter how in love you are, you need to see that it's not healthy and not okay.

[@violetanndoherty6872]

Not every relationship that’s abusive involves being with a man. I was in the most abusive relationship of my life for 10 years with a woman. It’s so difficult to explain how as a woman you can fe abused by a woman. But trust me is a lot more common than most people think

[@mooncakenina139]

I cant really hear her and her dropping the tray of mushrooms in the beginning jumped the shit out of me lol

[@nicowbz]

“U CANT EVEN SET A TABLE!” “U CANT EVEN KEEP UR NERVES IN” Honestly... THROW THE FORK IN HIS EYE

[@TheDestructor920]

"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a mans character. Give him power". _Abraham Lincoln

[@ajoastanley171]

Jesus....my heart is really bleeding.This is not love,his a monster.

[@foolishdrunk2181]

Funny how cruelty to children gets ignored

[@saturniidmoff]

When, where, when you search domestic violence short film the very first video that showed up for me was one that centered around children

[@sheridanfroggatt]

Unfortunately I have been in relationships that have been violent towards me, I made the mistake of staying because I was too scared to be alone. I am now happy and taken to a very gentle man who I plan on one day marrying, the abuse stemmed back to when I was only a child from my Grandmother. but I ran away, I seeked abuse in relationships as it was the only thing that even now makes sense to me. it was just how it is. but seriously girls and men, if you get treated in such a way, leave. get some self respect, and leave. don't take shit, from anyone.

[@leenjad5897]

Sheridan Froggatt omg ur a real hero what u just wrote actually helped me

[@deborahspence8560]

Forgive, Forgive, Forgive. Toughen Up and take it. Learn Tolerance. ( Unless, of course, your life is in danger).

[@nadiyakaralash7878]

If I were making this film I were to make the woman leave him. I think this would be a video to empower watchers so they too can make a stand just like the character in the film.

[@eden7881]

Nadiya Karalash But also at the same time it trivialises the situation and gives people the impression that abusive relationships are easy to get out of. It’s a lose lose thing.

[@theapenner7558]

But it’s not that easy

[@LPS_0007]

THIS SCARED ME ALOT!

[@caileymurphy4862]

Me too .....

[@madsmaryann5141]

Same

[@philswift791]

I am man who was verbally abused, gaslit, my wife hid money from me etc. When I left I slept in homeless shelter, then the woods. All of this was after 7 weeks of radiation therapy for prostate cancer. Had I been a woman I could have found shelter in the town I lived in. There were no such places for me to go to. I ended up going back when I was told I was Terminal. This didn't stop the abuse. Now I have survived cancer that every doctor said does not happen. Finally I have broken free of her. Can we depict the reality of abuse for both sexes please. It would have been nice to have some support.

[@bellanatale4614]

the girls nose is perfect omg

[@chikitabowow]

That's just plain wrong, using that much horse mushroom for a stew? It's going to come out all bland.

[@Cherry-sy6jz]

chikitabowow I agree, bloody ridiculous

[@bennyandme8221]

This is a lesson for all the girls like you and I that we have to be carefull who we choose and don't live with it run away forever!!

[@bloomingflow3r_]

This was very touching to me as I was in a domestic relationship before. The thoughts she has were so similar to mine, and the way he constantly put her down... it’s crazy how much a human can take. This was a very good video.

[@bani7069]

Being madly in love is understood.. but love comes with respect, If your partner doesn't respect you better leave them alone to die..

[@coralime2298]

At first I was like why tf is he getting in on the wrong side. And then I was like oh...

[@geetakalhans7187]

How could anyone be in love in such relationship? Here he is hitting her so cruelly and still she is in love with that man. I can't believe anyone can love such a merciless human. Just unbelievable!

[@katalincatchpolenefister8954]

They stay because of fear. I think it's difficult for them to leave. The longer they stay the harder to escape.

[@harley_arrow]

Reminds me of the films *sleeping with the enemy* and *the burning bed* 😢

[@TheMoggyMinder]

Speak louder 😡

[@BigRazzmatazz]

The volume goes up for a reason.

[@Add183]

😂

[@Reimu8]

I know right!

[@elainamcclendon5593]

GravityFallout omg..😭😭😭😂

[@mycalrexroad4986]

Kelly Cassidy ikr

[@eme5947]

if my man raises his hand at me during an argument or shows any sign he was gonna hit me i'm leaving

[@stingyfromlazytown8612]

eme - It’s not that easy sometimes

[@millietomlinson1022]

Don’t give someone 100% of your love and attention if they only give you 50% ❤️❤️ Please don’t be like this man, everyone deserves to be treated with respect😇

[@DorothySbornak]

To anyone in an abusive relationship reading this get out. I'm a survivor and I know it will never get any better. I left only after he cut some of my hair out, threw away my clothes, and my makeup away hoping to make me less attractive to other men. If they looked at me in his eyes it was my fault. People may laugh and make fun of you for staying because they're ignorant as to why you do but until they experience it first hand they cannot and will not understand. It will hurt for a while after leaving but that pain is only temporary. If you want to live please get out.

[@shaziasaund2203]

In this video the lady is so lucky that at the end she can show that she is sad when her husband kissed on her forehead, but in real life wife has to kiss back otherwise she will be beaten again.