He'll Say These 4 Things When He Really Loves You | Relationship Advice by Mat Boggs

[@matboggs]

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[@kathleensloan7201]

What made it crystal clear to me that my love was reciprocating my feelings was when he started calling me "honey." Simple & basic but a giant sign that his feelings toward me had moved beyond friendship to a romantic relationship with me.

[@kathykobos8980]

My guy is such an angel/hero! He totally amazes me and impresses me constantly. I do craft shows and use various props for display. I showed him my thrift store "find", a mannequin torso, which was chipped and cracked. Before I could say anything, he right away said he wanted to take it and sand it and paint it and construct a stand for it. He was absolutely on fire with ideas to make it like new for me. This is just one example of many, and I mean many, ways that he shows me he wants to fix things and take care of me. He volunteers himself all the time, and it feels sooooo good! I don't even ask him, he must love me a lot.:) My ex was not like that at all!

[@jenniferadelialatif]

I literally blushed and teared up listening to you point-by-point. My man did all of these things and the way you said it validate that he really loves me, and I commit to keep learning on how I can always be grateful of his love. Thank you 🥰

[@flameelorm]

I am a man but i love watching Mat because it gives me more insight into understanding myself. Unfortunately, some women take us for granted if we do all these.

[@gritsonamission]

Well, those women don't know what's up. Maybe they need to watch a few of these videos.

[@aprilslays0381]

He just told me the other day that I am his happiness.💕... He told me that he was thinking about me real heavy I asked him what was he thinking about exactly, and he said that he was thinking about ways to keep me in his life permanently... He tells me constantly that he's "into me"...He always calls when he's at work" just to hear my voice" he mimics what I say or how I say things a lot lol...it's crazy cause I don't like the sound of my own voice, but he loves it as well as my accent. I truly love hearing him speak also he has a deep country accent I tell him all the time🥰

[@jacquelynhoagland3371]

I have noticed shifts in my partner's behavior at different points, like shortly after "the talk." Before, I knew there was no commitment, and I was okay with that because I wasn't looking for a marriage partner. Within a couple of weeks, he took me out to dinner, gave me a card, and put his arm around me for the first time. The following weekend, he gave me a bud vase of roses. I was so pleased, but in the back of my head, I'm thinking, "What happened to that can take you or leave you guy?" Jumping to the present, he's admitted he loves me and is very caring but has gone from seeing me a couple times a week to seeing me 6 out 7 days last week and wanting me to ride along with him when he plays golf. Today, he told me, "You know, you can still come over even if you don't feel good." I have arthritis in my knees and hate to keep him awake tossing and turning when I'm having bad nights. So another change that tells me he's more committed. Another thing I notice is that he is getting me little things when's he's out and thinks of me. I really appreciate all the little things he's doing for me, too, that makes my life a little easier. He's such a great guy! I think I'll hold on to him.😊

[@rocketstar5214]

As long as im here i u don’t have to worry about anything,,, thats phrase from him give me security and safety emotionally.. which i love it

[@destmichael]

My husband has a lot to say, but he does say he needs to hear the sound of my voice. Will call me out of the blue. He took me to a museum on our first date. Encouraged to talk the entire time. It was wonderful.

[@imeldaaying7817]

What an amazing phrases you have identified that is happening with my current relationship status. Now I believed that everything that he says showed the reality of him being in love to me. I praise God for giving this man to me. All what you’ve said Matt is just spot on. Thanks again Matt for all the inspirational topic you’ve shared❤

[@kayhillman8628]

I listened to Irene (and you) on AffirmaJams! Loved the lyrics and beat. Thanks for mentioning Irene’s beautiful voice❣️🤗💃🏼😘

[@devinachandrapuspitaadriar7366]

My man says let me look after you, I'll make you happy and also he text me and call me. I love him soooo much. We are in LDR relationship. We plan tk meet in person this year. He's gonna fly to my cou try this year 🤞🏼❤

[@robertaparker9694]

Yes...thank you for putting this together, because that is just what I have in the total gentleman that is in my life...I have listened to you for some time now..& I appreciate you for what you do

[@ellengrace4609]

1. Let me take care of that for you. 2. How is that for you? 3. I just wanted to hear your voice. 4. We should go there (or do that sometime).

[@cindinorbut3891]

Love this and makes sense! I have seen this in relationships!!

[@PeteCooper-jf4me]

Yea To me I don't really your material things all I need is your time and care

[@JuuC]

I'm learning to believe more in what he do, his actions rather than his words. I've been told those phrases before and led to nothing

[@bistravoda3687]

Yes, me too...

[@shellyylovesGod]

Just be careful with the "we should go there" point, as it could be a sign of possible love bombing... I've gone out with a few guys that would say "let's go to xxx soon", "we should check out xxx next month", and they often don't match it with action or even remember that they said it to me later on.

[@4SunshineandWhiskey]

Yes, the "future planer." To me that's the guy who does a hook-line-an-sinker. The "let me tell her what she wants but never intend on doing guy. Doug was like that. Always saying he wants "forever" with me, but wouldn't commit because he couldn't. None of his relationships before me worked because of this and the females he was with saw that an left him. I called him out on it and gave him a chance to make effort to actually do something and he couldn't so I moved on. You can't sit around and wait for a guy like that to put in his effort and actions. They either are going to or they are not, and we have lives to live and should wait for no one. ✌️

[@lauralazar5806]

@@4SunshineandWhiskey ugh yes, that guy. whats their hurry? it doesnt feel genuine, it feels rushed.

[@Hudson1910]

Yep. All talk and no action.

[@musicbrazilian7065]

​​​@@4SunshineandWhiskeyHe is the smooth talk bulshitter who is angry at his parents but take on women as revenge. He knows he is hurting you when he make promises he has no intention of turning into reality. He needs a therapist not a girlfriend.

[@carmenli805]

Yes, he all talk but no action too. He always says “we should go together”, but always not. He always plan and travel with his female friends, take care of his female friends, but not me😢😢😢After that, he told me where they go and show me the photos, he feel very happy but I feel I am fool, I feel I am not his girlfriend, just a listener, a normal friend.😢😢😢

[@SoulBeauty1111]

1. “Let me take care of it.” When a man truly cares about you, he looks for opportunities to serve you, contribute to you, or make your life easier. 2. “How is that for you?” This kind of question speaks to the heart of a man. A man that’s deeply interested in you wants to make sure he understands your experience. 3. “I just wanted to hear your voice.” Calling you just because the sound of your voice is calming/soothing to them. 4. “We should go there.” A great indication that he’s picturing you in his future. He makes plans for you.

[@catche85]

Apparently this applies to platonic love too, because my best friend (who I know loves me of course) says/does all these things but definitely doesn't consider me a romantic option.

[@GwenApMannanan]

Oof that’s a different issue and could be ADHD hyperfixation or someone who lovebombs their friends. Be careful of people who make you feel like they are interested when they are not.

[@Sweetzerlandia]

@@GwenApMannanan tread carefully, I say this with love. The person's best friend probably really does love them. I know we feel it's cool to drive by judge people's relationships at a glance but just ya know, be cool ♥

[@GwenApMannanan]

@@Sweetzerlandia I will not. I’ve had friends do this to me before and they are not true friends. They’ve proved it over time. People who send romantic signals to platonic friends and don’t consider their effects on people are flying red flags.

[@GwenApMannanan]

@@Sweetzerlandia not to mention, I’m not judging on first glance, I’m giving another point of view. Having more points of view allows people to consider more critically and then make a decision. Which is the point of trying to learn, isn’t it? Life experience matters and some people think everyone has their best interests in heart when the fact is not everyone does. Learning to recognize who does and does not is a part of keeping ourselves safe.

[@marias9524]

Maybe he does but he is scared the feelings aren't mutual. Just saying. Or he is afraid of ruining the friendship.

[@lindsey361]

I'm so grateful you taught me about healthy relationships, iv been with my fiance for almost 2yrs and if I or my 4 children were going to scare him off he'd be gone! I'm so happy with him ❤

[@shamrockgirl6595]

Thoroughly enjoy your insightful videos 📹 have learned a great deal👍

[@gracepurcell7825]

I'm so glad I found this channel..this stuff is gold!!

[@janetatuniquerawfoods2361]

I have experience with these subtle communications. This is a warm video and helpful. Especially getting rid and letting go the guys that are not for my best interest.! I was pleasantly surprised to have the man I know now… message me and voice message me…. ‘I’m crazy about you’ and You make me crazy… I was concerned And figure it’s good in his world. He messaged it again the other day. Crazy for you. We are long distance right now. Thank you Mat.

[@moya3180]

Mat this is just what I needed to hear, thank you.

[@bobbiewilliams8587]

My fiancé reminded me that there’s nothing it’s no longer about me but it’s about us he said to me and I are OK but it’s actually about us and we. I love him a lot and he has been there for me through thick and thin so I understood what he meant.

[@christyrobinson6827]

Thank you for this advice ❤😊

[@pricesunbury59]

My wonderful man is like that he worries about me. He tells me that I am his happiness. He also tells me that he has thought of me a lot lately.

[@tinamcbey3569]

He told me "You are my home one day, my heart." He said "Your touch gives me butterflies" and "Im all you need anyway" "Ill help you with whatever you need." "You are my dream. Everything I ever thought about, you are"

[@Domi-mf2db]

I will protect u and wont let anyone hurt u

[@MsLilac88]

Hello Mat, I always feel intrigued by your amazing relationship advice videos, these are great words of wisdom. 😊

[@janinedance102]

Any videos for married couples?

[@aracelyd.6455]

Thank you for sharing this important video. 🌻🧚🏻‍♀️

[@candysymchyshyn7075]

Your on my mind all the time, can't stop thinking about you when I'm at work, or gym

[@IRISHLASS273]

Sounds like Carrie and Doug in King of Queens.

[@shamrockgirl6595]

1] Let me take care of it. 🤗 2] How is that for you? 🤔 3] I just wanted to hear 🙉 your voice. 🗣 4] "We" should go there.🚶‍♂️ "We"...... "Us"...

[@oronsayemercy8703]

I keep learning Matt😊😊 God bless you

[@zenaidayvettehernandez3721]

I was texting a guy but I felt that he wasn’t really serious about me because he never asked me out on a date. We texted for about 6 months but I felt that his words and actions did not match. I just walked away but I really felt that I was falling in love with him. I just felt that he wasn’t really into me. Was I wrong about walking away from him??

[@siyukiito3312]

1. Let me take care of it 2. How is that for you? 3. I just wanted to hear your voice 4. We should go there

[@GlobalLeaderPearl]

You are a praying Man❤thank you,Sir.

[@beverlybird7667]

I had a guy once who kept saying that he was crazy about me...he said it a lot...finally it switched to I love you but for along time it was...I'm crazy about you

[@pamchesler242]

I have been getting messages from a man that are non-verbal who happens to be my next-door neighbor and yet he’s too uncomfortable. It appears to talk with me lol I’m at a loss because I like him too so what we do is we wave to each other and smile, and that’s been going on for exactly one year now I’m starting to run out of ideas as to how to approach this person when everything between us says that we want to connect, but it seems like he’s afraid for some reason… I am out of ideas as to what to do to approach him… And iby the way, he has done so many things over the years but mainly this past year without saying a word to be protective of me and I don’t need to go into what those things are it’s just more than just neighborly support. Shall we say I can tell he’s protective of me, but he does it in a nonverbal way and add a distance I can just tell because it’s so obvious that this person likes me but I’m quite frustrated because I know that we both want to connect. I don’t know him well enough to understand what he is nervous about. Is there any suggestions on how I can help the process along?

[@mariannami8049]

Just plain “ I love you “ before a relationship develops further doesn’t tell me the full emotional story. My ex husband used to say ILY multiple times a day but still went out with his mistress and later on his new wife. Therefore, I’m looking for other clues mentioned here that are more realistic, significant, and tangible like let me help yoi, we/ us, and others. Or hearing him visualizing and verbalizing realistic plans like traveling together, setting projects etc.

[@pamelaharrell6361]

Amen and thank you

[@yuliaborozdina5830]

So true! Thank you very much for yet another fantastic video!

[@positivel5530]

When I called out the pull back he said I have done things over the last month that have caused stress and now he associates me with stress

[@desiemehrabian1133]

Men say- high maintenance or needy- ugh! We need to get rid of those who say that. Men can be needy and high maintenance too!!!!

[@naturallyyounaturallyme1324]

Thank you.

[@jocelyn2662]

Indication of love to me was when my man said, " Oh man, I'm in trouble", with a huge smile on his face. I knew then 😄

[@BR-ng1kp]

I've been with my man for two months now. He's using all those phrases and he seems all in, but if feels too soon. He tells me it's different and ne has never moved this fast or felt so much this quickly with someone else. It feels sincere, but it's scaring the hell out of me because it's so fast. Is it love, or is this a red flag? I'm usually quick to sense a guy with emotional issues, and i'm not getting that vibe, but again it feels so fast.

[@LisaGemini]

My love language is acts of service so any time he changes my car’s oil or washes it I’m in love! ❤

[@rachelmulveen2314]

I have a lovely boyfriend and we told each others we are happy I am happy to have a lovely boyfriend who I love him I would never leave my boyfriend we are happy and we both in true love ❤❤❤

[@victoriacosta-hg2dj]

My man says alot is I am his world

[@desiemehrabian1133]

Why is it hard to say “I love you”? My guy says “I want to take care of you”, “I’m doing my best to take care of you”

[@tomeikabraithwaite7033]

You mean the world to me baby.

[@grammylu4358]

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[@lebenessbebe2686]

Hello mat boggs i have been your follower for five years, because of your advices am almost getting married to the most honest man i have ever seen in the world. He is a German am an African but its working perfectly. Please can you dive into the black world 😂 abit thanks. By the way my meaning to a good man has nothing to do with richness but honest.thanks and hope to hear from you soon.

[@emilyhawbaker5152]

Tell me about your day...

[@susan6906]

Is it the opposite when they fall out of love

[@naowright9308]

I think the "needy" that is wrong is the needy attached to narcissism. They have to have you for no one but themselves.

[@Milycabrera92]

What if the guy made the mistake of calling u by another girls name( he said is his friend and the girl is married) they haven’t met in person cause they met each other on tandem app for language. The thing is as woman is hard to let pass mistake like this and worst it happened before going to bed. We are in long distance rs. He said good night girls name and emojis. Even he said he was going to type it in her chat but typed on mine. Which at that time he was talking to me. He refuse to aknowledge he just made mistake in calling me by other girl name. He said that girl doesn’t mean anything for him. After that, he went cold feet to tell that is better friendhip now without exclusive even when he said he’s got feelings for me and doesn’t want to lose me as a person he has spend time with for so long time. He told me he really likes me and that he’s connected to me. He doesn’t want another woman or similar woman as his female friend. After he told me that. He said that is better we friends first without exclusive When before he asked me exclusive. We already had plans he even could see me in his future moving with him. But i don’t know if it is a yellow flag Or a red flag. I broke up with him.

[@Milycabrera92]

2 years already

[@pricesunbury59]

My man has already ask me that. He ask me how is that for you. He has ask about my voice too. My man has a beautiful deep voice. He has been working hard here lately but he talks to me when he gets home. He has made plans like that for us. He wants for us to go to Hawaii, and we are talking marriage too. He does use the let's do that. He tells me he loves me a lot.

[@carolhatton1945]

He kept saying you are so special

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

I had stalkers tell me the very same thing, and they were obnoxious. Reported those creeps. It helps more now when I found a real Bible based man who doesn’t follow the Bogg criteria. :)

[@tamaralandreneau8005]

Ok, so he told me often, that I'm beautiful , I'm precious, and sweet. He told me he loves me. He told his best friends about me. He told his Mom & Dad about me. His Mom said, ok, when are we gonna meet this wonderful lady? He sais, soon ! He jokingly said he'd have to marry me! He bought an expensive, hot pink life jacket, in anticipation of taking me fishing. He took me to the Lake and we went to the store and he bought me 4 pairs of Crocs, for going fishing. He took me bass fishing, at the lake, several times. He took me to a tackle shop and saw a hot pink hat and asked if I'd like it, bcuz it'd match my life jacket. While he & his friends discussed the storm that damaged his awning on the Camper, I was quiet & completely, off topic, he blurted out, telling his friends in front of me, that , " This woman is a wonderful woman, with a great heart and she's a Cajun" !!! 😳 I blushed a lot and said, softly, "Thank you, Baby!" ☺️ 😘 We returned to the camper and he jokingly said, "My Wife won't ever cook for me! as he looked straight into me eyes; he jokes all the time !!!! I said, in a sassy Cajun attitude, " Well, maybe if you let her, when she asks to cook for you, Your Wife would cook dinner for you! 😝 He laughed. We had so much fun, fishing because we both, love to fish. In the beginning, he asked me if I smoke or drink. My answer was never smoked & only a glass of Rose', once in a long while. He asked if I have/want pets. I said, no, I've had many and I just don't want the fur everywhere, anymore. He was elated! I was surprised. He said, that's great, you don't smoke, drink, or have pets !!! 😝 He said, I don't either ! 😁 FF to the 3rd fishing trip; he began to pull away, shortly after declaring in front of me, to his 2 friends, that I'm such a wonderful woman with a great heart ! Yep! He totally, pulled away! Then, 1 week later, he broke up, with me ! So, what am I to think? What am I, to do ? How am I supposed to handle this, when he still calls me, every 2-3 days ? 😳😲🥹🥹 We were so good together and we're enjoying each other, so very much !!! He admitted that he has had a really bad situation in the past, caught his fiancee cheating with his best friend and swore never to marry or fall in love. Help !

[@elizabethcarter1175]

I'd tell him your truth ie that you really care for him and didn't want to break up. However you respect what he has told you about his past relationship and his decision to never marry. You, on the other hand, do wish to be married to a great guy in the future. Since he already knows that he will never marry, you need to move on with your life and be open to meeting and dating new people. The frequent phone calls need to stop as you aren't his girlfriend anymore. Tell him you will get in touch with him in a few months. In other words, say goodbye. I don't know what is going on with him but I do know that you and he are not on the same page. So cut him loose and find a better man who shares your life goals. Don't spend another minute letting this guy control the situation and hurt you. He just isn't the right man for you. He has told you who he is- believe him. He has shown you who he is- he broke up with you. Good ! Better now than after years of dating! There is a better man out there for you. I know it. Elizabeth.

[@tamaralandreneau8005]

@@elizabethcarter1175 Thank you. I have left him alone. It hurts, terribly, but, I deserve to be treated like a Treasure ! 😁

[@elizabethcarter1175]

@@tamaralandreneau8005 Good for you! Smart woman. I know it hurts. For awhile, you were happy, felt loved and could see a future with him. Now, it seems he took that all away. But he didn't. You are still lovable, you will still be happy and now that he is gone, you will be available to meet an honest man who shares your life goals. I know you are grieving what you think you lost, but--you 'lost' a man who played with your feelings, knowing he was never going to stay with you. This is not a man who knows how to love a woman and commit to her. This is not a man that YOU want. Tell yourself that every day and the hurt you feel will go away more quickly. You are.going to be ok. You are a good, strong and lovable woman. You will be happy again. Elizabeth

[@yvesgysel9834]

His right. You should look at his actions, not his words. A guy wants to take care of the people, he loves. Family, best friends and his woman. Fixing stuff for you... On the other hand a guy wants the respect and appreciation of his woman. That's the way a man feels loved. You show him genuine appreciation and respect. Oh boy, he will never leave you and he will comfort you, listen to you, if you want to vent. Solving problems. Now I stop reveling more secretes about men.😂😂😂

[@michelleelliott3827]

I'm unsure what to think of this video. I'm 9 months in to my relationship with my boyfriend and he still hasn't told me he loves me. I feel like a gal pal that is pretending to be a wife. 🤷‍♀️

[@adventureray5139]

Never pretend to be a wife. Increase your standards, value yourself, and if did not see your worry. Leave.

[@Hudson1910]

Most men in know are only interested in themselves and what you can do for them. Now at my age, I don’t care anymore. Happy for those that do find love though.

[@simplesenser]

i have been married for 15 years now and i have never heard these things from my husband :) i dont know if it is me or him. too bad.

[@OnEE.spEEks]

Ha! Husband asks Me How is that for You? Only when I'm done in the bathroom and then be with Him He says Everything come out alright?😂

[@barkharani2693]

I'm the first one to leave a comment.. Yipppiiii😅

[@maggiemaggie2685]

When they allude to future plans with you too soon, that is a red flag.

[@dave-j-k]

How soon is too soon?

[@tammylaronde8593]

Yes it is.

[@tammylaronde8593]

@@dave-j-kThe quickest I’ve had a man make future plans was the second text he sent at night, on the day that I met him. That was definitely too soon. Love bomber.

[@Jbbhrt86]

You started about when your guy takes a emotional step back like your wife called you out on… did you do an episode on this? My man seems to be doing that

[@MER7]

Contact HG Tudor that can assist women who get involved with a narcissist- maybe you can interview him???

[@sarafelis3258]

I asked him why he loved me via text and saved these words: He said: "Because you are my only love. The goddess that I met on that balcony who was looking at me eyes full of peace and love, it was you. It wasn't another person, it was you, darling. I didn't stop looking into those eyes and I couldn't stop feeling joy and peace spilling over my heart. You were there for me, you cared for me, when no one else believed I deserved it or I needed it. But you did. You did it, my dear."

[@nalubegamariam8980]

❤❤❤❤

[@helensanderson7092]

My boyfriend never says any of these things to me. It's a casual thing he says. No serious relationship just casually

[@mattendo-retrogaminguk3584]

Hey guy you got one thing slightly wrong. We normally like hearing a female voice as the female voice is more relaxing. When we’ve had a particularly difficult day just hearing a female voice can help to destress us

[@maryrouse9821]

No man had ever loved me, so I have no idea.

[@Smileygld123]

My exhusband couldn't say most of this....

[@famealemrotse3879]

Looking for a serious and good man but can't find him for so long. All I've met only wants to play and fooling me

[@tomeikabraithwaite7033]

I can do with out you

[@tamaralandreneau8005]

Did you mean to say, ' I CAN'T do without you?

[@elainemerrill6762]

….nope nada zilch… no one like that

[@rezotydnic]

6 years in and he doesn't say any of these. Damn.

[@stephaniebacak3928]

I don't know what planet you're from or live on be on Mars but this is a rarity in today's world so I'm 55 have not met anybody like that yet there's a new pandemic going on it's called narcissism

[@sovanndaily9194]