My dad always said “when I have a drink, I feel like a new man, the problem is that this new man also wants a drink”.
@davt86156 ай бұрын
Real 💯
@ChescoYT6 ай бұрын
Great line! 😅
@i.mohamed50396 ай бұрын
Wise man 💯💯
@shayanvaziri52496 ай бұрын
🔥🔥🔥
@graziflorida43776 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@FAHayekSays10 ай бұрын
“First you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.” - F. Scott Fitzgerald
@OngoGablogian7310 ай бұрын
What did Scott Fitzgerald do to you?
@blockminingsolutions10 ай бұрын
Bunch of borsesh1t. Not taking accountability for your own free Will and will power is insane. Blaming some imaginary disease for not being able to stop doing something is taking accountability from your own mind and own life choices and saying it’s because of this etc. perhaps the problem is after taking one, you choose to not care anymore, he lowers his inhibitions and practices his free Will of not stopping.
@AnonymousF1110 ай бұрын
@@OngoGablogian73he wrote a book
@GTchum10 ай бұрын
@@AnonymousF11but why f. him?
@polski198610 ай бұрын
@@maxwellokafor1071 ever had a voice in your head telling you non stop to drink water because you are very thirsty and you can't cope without... welcome to alcoholism or any drug addiction
@Shadow3ffect10 ай бұрын
I’m an addict and alcoholic. Black out drunk with no shut off point but to black out. And did ICE for 7 years total it ran its course. But proud to say I’m 41 months sober Now.
@toddgittins569210 ай бұрын
Good job!!
@sallyg454410 ай бұрын
41 years sober. Congratulations. 🙏 By choice?
@alexcris534410 ай бұрын
That’s great! Congratulations 🤗
@ruthroberts826810 ай бұрын
Well done you 👏 😊
@jennymulhall81610 ай бұрын
41 months? That’s absolutely amazing. Really. I am a complete stranger but I’m absolutely delighted for you. Live well, my friend. ❤
@rebeccawiegand651614 күн бұрын
My ex-husband died two weeks ago to alcoholism at the age of 40. I have resented and been so angry every time he "chose the first drink" because he also couldn't stop the disease once it began. It ravaged his body with congestive heart failure killed him, leaving our three kids with no father. It's a family disease that destroys everyone around them.
@bernadettebarbaris184910 күн бұрын
It must hurt you to listen to people like Hitchins pretending they know what's up about a condition you watched a loved one die from. 💔 you have my deepest sympathy.
@DD-nu8jt9 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry hon. Wishing you strength and peace. 💚
@Diarrheagod3 күн бұрын
I wish I could give you and you family a big hug ❤ I’m so sorry for all you’re going through
@KeyboardWarriorOfTRUTH2 күн бұрын
❤biggest hugs hunny! Losing a spouse is very difficult especially with children. Somedays it's so difficult but I made it to the next day! Sending love ❤️ from one widow to another!
@ritatownsend74082 сағат бұрын
Oh, I’m so sorry. I think a lot of us understood your reaction. It is so incredibly frustrating to try and try to explain that they aren’t just hurting themselves but the family too. And, as we all know, it’s rare that talking has any effect at all. Or it’s your fault somehow. I lost my father to it when I was young. And my brother got wet brain disease, where alcohol pickles the brain. He’s in a state facility now. I live in an over 55 neighborhood and the drinking is unbelievable. You’d think they’d know better. Nope. It’s like a freshman dorm. At this age, they can’t even see that their wives and kids are just tolerating them and even making fun of them. It’s insidious. I truly hate alcohol and the status it seems to hold in society.
@jronche4 ай бұрын
My wife's uncle once told me, "Being an alcoholic is not how often you drink. It's not being able to stop when you do." True words.
@ChallengingRiff3 ай бұрын
Hands down…. Shit is no joke if it ever gets ahold of you. Trust me, I’ve been there.
@DaleCarlson-tl5vd3 ай бұрын
Agreed. Also applies to gambling with bankroll, Perhaps even porn pending your … load 😅 , And weed is weed 😊
@TzK6663 ай бұрын
Actually it's consistently drinking every day without fail... if you have 1 glass of wine per day your classed as an alcoholic.
@MyKarva3 ай бұрын
??? That's a double negative and makes no sense 😕.
@ChallengingRiff3 ай бұрын
@@MyKarva It’s obvious you’ve never been there or you wouldn’t have made this comment. It makes perfect sense if you’re an alcoholic. And yes, of course drinking daily or habitually would classify you as an alcoholic.. but the premise behind the quote is the ability to quit once you’ve started, which if you’re an alcoholic, is nearly impossible to do.
@inglestherightway10 ай бұрын
Matthew was vulnerable, honest and sincere. He'll always have a place in my heart.
@tayzk592910 ай бұрын
Sincere perhaps, but it's not "proved" what he's saying.
@krispeterson102110 ай бұрын
I have more experience the Mr Perry .. There are 1000s of alcoholics who can have 2 or 3 even 4 then stop.... So that's you have control.... It's that first thought of drinking say at noon or 3 pm.. thats control it self discipline. A self discipline problem . Typical liberal making excuses... its weak and backwards
@daleturman952210 ай бұрын
@@tayzk5929As an x addict, FACTS.......
@AngloIsraelite10 ай бұрын
He was also known to visit Epstiens Isalnd
@didothecat994110 ай бұрын
And he has a hole in his heart from being max vaxd
@xwarx100010 ай бұрын
“One drink is too many and a thousand never enough.”
@MrNichium10 ай бұрын
My brother
@olualafe357710 ай бұрын
Same as drugs.
@nonyabeeswax711110 ай бұрын
@@olualafe3577Not quite. With drugs, the government does everything humanly possible to destroy your life. The only way to possibly come back is to become a cheerleader for the drug war
@Zzzooooppp10 ай бұрын
@@nonyabeeswax7111 real schizo hours
@ShallowApple2210 ай бұрын
JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid. My thoughts will be on my new associations, people who are not using and who have found a new way of life. So long as I follow that way, I have nothing to Fear!
@verovero895215 күн бұрын
I was drunk in my past...I stop drinking when my first child was ill and died. I promise to God,that in his memory ,I would never drink anymore,for the rest of my life. Since than ,11 years. He saved me of this drug.
@ritatownsend740814 күн бұрын
Well done my friend
@user-fb7jr2fb1q14 күн бұрын
@@verovero8952 perhaps your child’s sole purpose for coming into your life was to save you from yourself. Glad you are sober.
@seagulls55613 күн бұрын
@@verovero8952 good man well done 🕊️
@NikkiScott113 күн бұрын
I am so sorry you lost your child but I am so happy you got clean.
@jasonhood975313 күн бұрын
I don't know you, but you sound like an awesome individual. Congratulations on your sobriety.
@MiniForklift28 күн бұрын
259 days sober here and never felt better, never thought I’d be able to do it either. RIP Matt, clear to see he was a genuinely good guy
@thenoneckpeoplerepresentat807426 күн бұрын
You don’t know if he was a good guy or not. The vast majority of hardcore addicts are not nice people.
@youknowwhat135226 күн бұрын
@@thenoneckpeoplerepresentat8074 ehh I'd say it's more 50/50. I've known plenty of addicts and alcoholics who were genuinely nice people that just made bad decisions. There _are_ plenty of addicts who are horrible people, though I think it's fair to say most of those horrible people were already bad to begin with, drugs just enhanced it.
@ZuuShuTankaei-os7yc26 күн бұрын
Gratz bro I'm trying myself I'm 3 days and climbing.
@scotts588626 күн бұрын
Congrats. Every day clean is a day won 👍
@scotts588626 күн бұрын
@@ZuuShuTankaei-os7yccongrats. One day at a time does it.
@user-zq4ck6gs2r3 ай бұрын
I'm 62 days sober
@ezdunit79102 ай бұрын
Stay strong bro. Working on a decade rn.
@petetownshend52972 ай бұрын
I’m sober since 6/6/24 after a three month relapse! Glad to be here!
@AnonAmerica112 ай бұрын
@@petetownshend5297that's like 10 days ago lololol
@pc62932 ай бұрын
Get it you got this
@terrelloates35682 ай бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾
@NoahLeFord2 ай бұрын
As a addict all i have to add is how much i admire him for being able to say "im a drug addict" on tv. It seems easy, but to make that declaration not in your mind but on tv is very brave
@NsTheNameАй бұрын
I’ve never tried drugs in my life, but I can absolutely believe it takes serious courage to admit it out loud and ask for help. Every day you take another step forward is amazing! Well done!
@Susan-on3gcАй бұрын
I think that's more down to the world he lives in, he knows it's out there anyway.
@JosieJosie_JАй бұрын
Truly. Having been addicted to most things and successfully quit nearly everything cold turkey, alcohol has proved itself to be the worst. I think heroin gets a bad rap from people that have never done it... it sucked hard but and thought I was gonna die, but once it was over, it was over for good. It was gone and not even a question about going back. Alcohol is a different beast. It's never gone. I'm sure everyone has different brain chemistry, so that may not be the case for everyone but I've known more than a few people that kicked H and say that alcohol is much harder to quit.
@sinisterplank3113Ай бұрын
It is indeed brave, and I think, important. Breaking the stigma is the only way we as a society can move from vilifying addicts, to helping them regain control of their life.
@morganseppy5180Ай бұрын
" Awareness proceed control" It's so important for ourselves to refect when we are "irrational". It's rational and is you take notice of what happened, how you felt, what that reflexive voice said, etc. You'll discover patterns, and hopefully then causes.... Please seek professional care if you have an issue that you want help with. These ideas have helped me
@yami-kay909917 күн бұрын
Matthew is extremely professional and collected while upset. Impressive.
@sarahdoanpeace362316 күн бұрын
Yes
@seagulls55615 күн бұрын
he sure was
@noeoleole691114 күн бұрын
I thought the same, especially with a topic that touched him so personally and deeply. He's really humble to admit his addiction too, later on of course, with the hopes to help others going through the same hell.
@Cheddar.042014 күн бұрын
That's because he went through actual counseling and such and learned to deal with it in a healthy way
@GretaThanos14 күн бұрын
@@Cheddar.0420before or after he died in a K-hole?
@AbsurdAlfred-sk7vh2 ай бұрын
2.5 years sober here. Was so hard to get past that first few months. If you’re reading this and struggling, it goes away one day.
@jasonlucas99372 ай бұрын
As an alcoholic, how did you do it???
@gbbarn2 ай бұрын
No it doesn't, it's a life-long struggle. You might think you're over it, that you have been sober for over a decade. But you only need one bad day.
@AbsurdAlfred-sk7vh2 ай бұрын
@@gbbarn Hey! that’s true. The withdrawal symptoms go away and are temporary. That’s what I meant. You won’t suffer forever through the dts or shakes or terrible feelings that come with it.
@oz_jones2 ай бұрын
Proud of you
@Cloud-sl1zk2 ай бұрын
Sad for Matthew. He clearly knew what a huge problem he had. He clearly had to fight EVERY DAY, to NOT take a drink, or take a drug. I suppose this happens after the body/brain becoming conditioned to habitually being overindulged with alcohol/drugs. I think the time to PREVENT this from happening, is as a YOUNG person. I think when a person USES these drugs to EXCESS---repeatededly---as a young person---they are CREATING the ADDICTION, which they then have to FIGHT against, the rest of their life. Young people BEWARE, it is NOT COOL, AT ALL, to get drugged or drunk HABITUALLY, or you will be CONTROLLED by your ADDICTION. Sad, but PREVENTABLE.
@Lencaleena2 ай бұрын
11.5 years sober from heroin, my last go woke up to my friend all blue. Was a wake up call. RIP Gal Babich
@TerryAllenSwartosАй бұрын
I can’t imagine how any of that was for you. Be well.
@PrettyPufferPenquinАй бұрын
Sorry for your loss, but happy to hear you woke up. Stay strong. God bless.
@Dani4TrueАй бұрын
Wow. So sorry. Hope you are doing better.
@jMiLLz420Ай бұрын
13.5 Here Brother, Keep It Up & Keep Fighting ❤❤❤❤
@baybears9507Ай бұрын
How’d you do it?
@80islandiaАй бұрын
“I’m in control of the first drink” is the perfect way to describe it. Six and a half years sober here. RIP Matthew, and thanks for standing up and speaking out. ❤
@davidrickard7977Ай бұрын
His outcome suggests that he was incorrect
@jennyzhang4196Ай бұрын
@@davidrickard7977He has a choice. Unfortunately he didn't take control... RIP
@HorusHeroticАй бұрын
He's equally in control of the second
@j.r.arnolli9734Ай бұрын
@@HorusHerotic / It doesn't, always, work that way. Alcohol effects people, effects their mind, effects the control of their mind. He said it right; he can control the first drink, than..... non mind works equall..........
@musiclover331Ай бұрын
I have all kinds of ways to avoid the first drink. But no way to avoid the second and every subsequent drink after that. It's all unintentional self medication for undiagnosed causes of low serotonin, low dopamine, low oxytocin, or high GABA
@naninolovyou63888 күн бұрын
I miss you, Mathew….I met him in The Beverly Hills Hotel in 2005. I was there for the Rose Bowl and in burnt orange (Hook’em Horns). I heard someone calling out “Julie”. It was Mathew. He thought I was a friend of his. We laughed, talked on the way down to the cafeteria. When I entered, I saw a sea of red and one person made a remark about Vince Young, I looked at Mathew. He told the guy his stat was wrong and then said “Guys, don’t look at me, I’m a Bruins fan”. I picked up my food and we walked back up together. I will always love him for that. When I met him, he was not in a good place, he was heavy and looked tired but he was such a good man. He was a kind man. RIP Mathew
@AndyH-1310 ай бұрын
He had a clear understanding of his personal issues and was very honest, truthful and willing to share. RIP.
@brianday498610 ай бұрын
He understood it decently, but in fact as an alcoholic he actually doesn't have a choice even in using. He implied that his loss of choice comes after first taking it, but the fact is that he actually had no control over staying sober. That's the crux of the issue and one that, unfortunately, gets lost in the rooms of AA quite a lot.
@winniekhongkp10 ай бұрын
He appeals for help.. The control is to stay away from the 1st drink.
@YallaMiami10 ай бұрын
He is definitely drunk in this interview!
@chriswilcox338310 ай бұрын
Rip Matthew. I understand how people say u have a choice but like Matt said after that first drink and you’re an addict/alcoholic, there is almost nothing that will stop u from keeping it going for that night, even if u realize u hate what ur doing and will regret it in the morning
@teresaslo10 ай бұрын
look up MTHFR gene mutation
@andreadaley4058Ай бұрын
How incredibly vulnerable to use his own experience so publicly to debate this man
@Danaher7Ай бұрын
It was his whole life. He wrote a book about his addiction, so it became his identity.
@bryanaa196Ай бұрын
I don't think he won the debate though. He knows he will get hooked but kept having that first drink.
@The_Infamous_Boogyman27 күн бұрын
Who else's experiences would be use?
@The_Infamous_Boogyman27 күн бұрын
@@Danaher7it became his identity bc he wrote a book? Pretty sure it was his id bc it was his id, and he wrote a book bc that was his id.
@Uncanny_Mountain27 күн бұрын
@@bryanaa196 I don't think Hitchens understands that a belief is an ideology, the irony of your cult is you always assume Infallibility Which is the same hypocrisy So the difference is Perry at least has the humility to admit to error You are not so brave
@sidneyparker5706Ай бұрын
Well spoken and not disrespectfully either.
@bradfoster5700Ай бұрын
The grin on Matt’s face is like ‘you fool…’
@the_awakening604427 күн бұрын
Except he chose to have that first drink knowing he won't be able to stop. Also he chose to let his addiction control him instead of him control his addiction, life is made up of choices but the problem with alcoholics is they can't admit they made the choice so they blame the drink instead of themselves. I used to have a drinking problem but at least I can admit it was my poor choices that lead to that and not the alcohol. I always say never trust the words of an addict because the first thing they will do is make an excuse to have another drink, or another cigarette, or another hit of that drug, any excuse to justify to themselves why they need to keep doing it
@sidneyparker570627 күн бұрын
@@the_awakening6044 I don’t disagree with you. In fact I agree. I’m just saying he said it without an attitude. He disagreed but remained civil. Hard to do it seems these days.
@TheEpicSpire27 күн бұрын
Matthew is wrong. He chooses to have the first drink... and then blames that first drink when he chooses to have more. it is still his choice. no accountability for his actions is why he is the way he is now.....
@barryshaw73044 күн бұрын
Bet he wouldn't have gone to a cancer ward full of children and tell them he has a disease? He had a choice...
@stephengoddard509315 күн бұрын
As a recovering drug addict and alcoholic,the most dangerous drug is alcohol,and it is legal.!
@Enrique-h7s13 күн бұрын
And it is for a reason.
@mannyaztec12 күн бұрын
You are 100% right is the begging of all addictions in most Part !
@Minlaroo11 күн бұрын
My Dad was an alcoholic ( he did get sober at the age of 54) and I'm a former opioid addict- prescription opioids,no heroin or fentanyl. Idk know if I would say alcohol is the most dangerous drug but the fact that it's legal and available basically everywhere makes it the most tempting and hardest to stay away from for an alcoholic. That's what is scary and dangerous about it. Matthew Perry had it rough,being both an alcoholic and an opioid addict. Then there was the Ketamine and when he mixed it with the Buprenorphine (which is what I take) it was over. Buprenorphine(Subutex) is safe by itself but very dangerous if mixed with with things.
@skepchica9 күн бұрын
Legal and in your face everywhere you go.
@albeit15 күн бұрын
Prohibition of substances doesn’t really work. Not their manufacture and distribution. But restrict their use, we have to. Not for kids or around them, not at work, not not behind the wheel, not on the sidewalk. Those sorts of restrictions make sense.
@lansouthern469925 күн бұрын
So tragic he passed. There's such a gentle, sincere and sad energy about him. Rest peacefully, truly peacefully Matthew. 💔
@LieutDann22 күн бұрын
Most alcoholics and addicts have hearts of gold, when they’re sober
@freifrauzurlehde326121 күн бұрын
@@LieutDann I guess because of her sensibility and her deep comprehension of our life they drink.
@seankennedy428420 күн бұрын
Yea, he's not even sober right here. The character traits you assign to him are those of an individual who's blasted.
@Elizabeth-ey5nl20 күн бұрын
MATTHEW PERRY RIp your life wasn't in vain.Make awareness
@tomchapman482620 күн бұрын
You chose to drink if you took the first one based on what matt said.
@LottieBrown-qt7db5 ай бұрын
13 years sober from drugs❤ Rest in peace Matthew ❤
@brycepeddicord67635 ай бұрын
That's awesome! Drugs are awesome. Until they're not 😮 I should really think about going stone sober like you. Probably for the best
@JasonFelton-rm1rx5 ай бұрын
I agree with them both … I drank for over 10 years every day, and I decided one day to quit and that’s what I did And to this day, I can go out once a month. I have three drinks and go home. You do make the choice you choose to take that first drink knowing it’s gonna be hard not to take the second. You can choose to go home and not drink. It is a choice.
@Tiberius-845 ай бұрын
@JasonFelton-rm1rx Congrats man. I like to hear about people that can still enjoy it with control. I used to drink very heavily every day. The lady I married asked me to only drink on my weekends and to tone down how much I drank, after several incidents of me acting like a total douche. I've been doing that ever since, just drinking on days off, and not on my sunday. I dont drink a full day before work so I have a day of rest. I had to quit telling myself that I had to get drunk, or that I needed to get drunk. It was so childish. Now sometimes I drink water inbetween my beer to stay hydrated, lol. I cant do hangovers anymore. I like that the older I get, the less I feel that I need it, and I enjoy my sober days a lot more than I used to.
@angelaraycroft2335 ай бұрын
Congratulations ❤
@xenaxenaxena285 ай бұрын
@@TheWayIsPeace try and sit with that empty feeling and really understand the shape of it. What exactly do you feel is missing? When you understand that you can then start building yourself back up everyday with positive small steps and affirmations directly addressing that feeling. Hang in there
@heyEdem10 ай бұрын
The fact that he accepted his situation not trying to hide it and worked towards it deserves recognition
@emtyassasin394310 ай бұрын
Damned if you do damned if you dont.
@davidtrujillo14610 ай бұрын
Yes but also removes accountability and Blame
@jasonatkins611110 ай бұрын
@@davidtrujillo146 and no need to do anything about it. This is what undeserved money do to you. Just like winning the lottery
@chakubanga110 ай бұрын
NO.. Deserves correction... I am drinking.. Oh because the 1st drink mad me is not an excuse..
@uzaylgoril656610 ай бұрын
Bro he died ☹️
@25decembar18 күн бұрын
It's like telling people with depression to "snap out of it".
@tlocke590115 күн бұрын
is it though ?depression is with you always , a drink that gets into your hand then in your mouth that isn’t , yes the thought of i want a drink is but the action of pouring alcohol down your throat isn’t
@user-wy9ep8kq1f14 күн бұрын
EXACTLY!!! I suffer from severe depression, sever anxiety and PTSD. If anyone said that to me, I would be in total disbelief of what was said.
@tlocke590114 күн бұрын
@@user-wy9ep8kq1f it’s not the same though
@minnie38314 күн бұрын
not really. you cannot choose not being depressed.
@tlocke590114 күн бұрын
@@minnie383 but you can choose not to pour drink down your throat ….
@jadonlawrence49096 ай бұрын
Anyone who downplays addiction doesn't know what it is. Period.
@SettG46 ай бұрын
Weakness. The result speaks for itself
@_cookson6 ай бұрын
@@SettG4moron
@TriStar446 ай бұрын
@@SettG4 Ignorance. Your comment speaks for itself
@user-or5lt5eh4s6 ай бұрын
Lmao average andrew tate fan@@SettG4
@MK-6516 ай бұрын
Some people have different pain tolerances and some people have different addiction tolerances. Technically you could walk on a broken ankle but most people cant fight through pain like that. You can't blame someone for having a different limit then you might personally have.
@dresca250110 ай бұрын
He knew what he was. An addict. My respect for his honesty and his struggle. Rest well.
@hewadsaad137810 ай бұрын
The biggest defeat is to accept what you are and never struggle for change, That is the biggest failure.
@eyubbardakci154410 ай бұрын
Respect for his honesty? Do you have that respect for a pedophile that comes out and admits his "addict"? Man stfu
@smxkingalonebeats289510 ай бұрын
@@hewadsaad1378addiction is lifelong even if you aren't currently using. You don't change addiction, you can only change your behaviors.
@user-if1kc8wy5w10 ай бұрын
I was here men do this alot.
@baddonkey7510 ай бұрын
Yup and to be the big man and acknowledge that, and for the third party to lay attack after is bullshit, matt handled his ass
@terim.04042 ай бұрын
You can see the pain and anger on Matthew's face. Its heartbreaking.
@sly92632 ай бұрын
Easier to call it a disease than your lack of self control
@beefnacos62582 ай бұрын
@@sly9263facts.
@subadanus63102 ай бұрын
@@sly9263easier to blame the person for a lack of self control than it is to admit it's a complex problem and they need help from a support network
@itsdylanjenkins38972 ай бұрын
@@sly9263that's why it doesn't originate from addicts, it originates from peer researched journals and clinical tests. the understanding of which is above your paygrade, it doesn't need to make sense to you.
@Brando23Commando2 ай бұрын
@sly9263 addiction is a compulsive mental obsession. No different that people who smoke or speed or eat too much. You can say it's just lack of self control, ans it is. But it's way more cunning than that.
@susiebrown811115 күн бұрын
Mathew Perry is absolutely 100%, correct. He's stating an absolute fact of the disease of alcoholism
@ritatownsend740813 күн бұрын
Thank you! It’s called addiction for a reason. Most of us can drink or do a drug and not get addicted. Aren’t we lucky. But that’s just it, luck. We don’t have to fight so hard to not pick up another drink bec our brain is not wired to it as strongly as an addicts is. We absolutely are not having the same experience inside. It took me years to understand that and stop being so judgmental. This guy is an ass who I think is just jealous bec he’s the brother of Christopher Hitchens who was a very heavy drinker and yet wildly successful in his professional and personal life. Even Chris apparently thought his brother was obnoxious and snobby.
@briann552410 күн бұрын
There is nothing in the brain that makes you do this though. Can you point to a single study which shows the brain controls a subset of the populations behaviour to drink alcohol?
@skepchica9 күн бұрын
@@ritatownsend7408 We also lost Christopher because of his addictions. Peter's stance is predictable.
@Minlaroo8 күн бұрын
@@ritatownsend7408 I just wrote a long comment saying something similar. I find this man snobby and infuriating. He knows nothing about addiction. I'm embarrassed for him. It astounds me that after over 1 million deaths in America from the opioid crisis that started in the 90s( The Sackler family and their lies about Oxycontin-) that there is still so much judgement and ignorance about addiction. There's a book and a movie called Dopesick starring Michael Keaton that came out years ago. I highly recommend that anyone who has an addict in their family, especially an opioid addict, and they don't understand why their family member or even close friend acts the way they do in their addiction, watch Dopesick. If you don't have time for that, at least Google how addiction changes the addict's brain chemistry. I can't listen to this judgemental man speak for one more second. Unbelievable.
@lovineveryminuetofit131410 сағат бұрын
He started the alcoholic disease? You should maybe think about getting help.for yourself, the sooner the better. Tell you therapist what you juat told us.
@Neknadeg9 ай бұрын
As an alcoholic myself, I am truly impressed by his honesty and openness on that topic.
@markstokes71109 ай бұрын
when you have not exhibited self control for as long as Matt did, there is no shame only excuses.
@sumonnostelga93699 ай бұрын
you always have a choice. you just looking for excuses
@Neknadeg9 ай бұрын
I don't drink anymore. But I will always be an alcoholic. @@sumonnostelga9369
@renaestudier32729 ай бұрын
Read his book. It's heartbreaking accountability. 💔
@nelsonward58299 ай бұрын
It’s not honest when you admit to saying your first drink is a choice, and then refuse to believe it was your choice.
@jenrich11110 ай бұрын
admire his honesty and understanding of himself
@dcsnare315x10 ай бұрын
You admire the ignorance that lead to his death?
@jenrich11110 ай бұрын
@@dcsnare315x The cause of his death is really none of our business - poor guy. Explain what you mean by ignorance?
@dcsnare315x10 ай бұрын
@@jenrich111 Poor guy for sure. By ignorance I mean he convinced himself and fully believed something that wasn't true. If he understood that he DOES have the power to stop, then perhaps he would have felt some hope to recover. One always has the power of choice. Always. To believe otherwise is dooming oneself.
@js712710 ай бұрын
@@dcsnare315x Evidently you are a millionaire because you believe yourself to be so. If you are not it must be pure ignorance that you are not one.
@dcsnare315x10 ай бұрын
@@js7127 People who believe they can become a millionaire have a better chance of becoming one than someone who doesn't. When it comes to life and death, it's wise to adopt the mentality that will enable you to live.
@carlosbarahona860910 ай бұрын
Rest in Peace Mr. Perry. He was honest. May you be remembered for your honesty, kindness and generosity. Gone way too soon :(
@DJRickard201010 ай бұрын
Maybe he didn’t have a choice over the first one
@erraticjoe49910 ай бұрын
@YTSFACTS4444yes, he died last week. Its only been global.news.....
@napez412610 ай бұрын
& the laugh he provided all of us
@robynalvin284910 ай бұрын
Yes, Perry was very authentic and relatable. And correct. The first drink was his choice, and he had to probably had to move Mountains to make sure that he was never in a place where he really wanted to have a first drink.
@robynalvin284910 ай бұрын
@YTSFACTS4444 Yes, he died about a week ago .
@danielle622815 күн бұрын
He spoke so calmly and clearly to this uneducated man about something that had such a huge impact on his life. He sat there calmly while it must have been extremely difficult not to react. He responded in such an excellent way… I wish he was still with us… Maybe he would have been if we lived in a world where addiction was taken seriously and actual help was provided. Not the kind of help that is cheapest, but actual help and support. Support from everyone. We don’t need to understand everything to be supportive. We can have no clue at all and still be there for someone. We can ask them how we can help and visit meetings so we know how to not enable, but still help. But being famous comes with its own problems. It must have been lonely. It’s so sad that he is gone… I haven’t been able to watch friends since I heard he passed. Chandler was my favorite 😢
@vikkievenden99889 күн бұрын
uneducated man 😂
@Minlaroo8 күн бұрын
I completely agree with you. I find this man that Matthew Perry is talking to be uneducated, judgemental and infuriating.
@vikkievenden99887 күн бұрын
@@danielle6228 now go and look up Peter hitchens and see how uneducated he is 🤣 they are both dead !
@cormacbowman659510 ай бұрын
Please stay strong people. My dad just passed away because of his addiction. If you are sober, keep going!
@vicm153310 ай бұрын
Sorry for your lost!! My uncles passed from addiction to Crystal and Alcohol
@cptbabyface980410 ай бұрын
My dad passed about 21 years ago a month before my 10th birthday. He died from liver failure from all the drinking he'd done in his life. He didn't have an easy life so I don't blame him for what he did but seeing him slowly turn yellow and then be confined to the very bed he would die in made it so that I would never pick up an alcoholic drink in my life. Those who experience addiction and overcome it are some of the strongest people in the world. I'm sorry your father wasn't able to break his addiction in time. You never really know the battles that others are fighting.
@metsatroll9 ай бұрын
I buried my life long friend because of alcoholusm last saturday and i'm also alcohlic. We were only 35, he was younger than me.
@sarasweightlossjourney14329 ай бұрын
@@metsatrollI'm sorry😢 how often did he drink and what? I'm struggling with alcoholism currently and need help 😢 I'm 43
@sarasweightlossjourney14329 ай бұрын
@@metsatrollI'm truly sorry for your loss. 😢
@GR_BackingTracks2 ай бұрын
"I have control of the first drink..." That's wisdom speaking right there!
@TheGeenat2 ай бұрын
Even that level of control, although it sounds nice and it’s a good mindset to build a healthy lifestyle that takes precaution very seriously - thus highly increasing the likelihood of staying sober, is not necessarily true. I sort of think that the same mental process that makes using seem like not a choice once you have the first one (and no one can explain exactly why that’s the case) is the same thing that one might go through when exposed to enough emotional stress. It like free will isn’t really a thing. But there are things you can do nonetheless to reduce the likelihood of a certain outcome (using), to a degree.
@AngloSaxonVanguard2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@jl29372 ай бұрын
So I guess the moral of the story is don't have the first drink..
@seanowens10062 ай бұрын
Right - it's like someone jumping off a bridge saying they have a disease because they can't stop gravity. How about not dff the bridge
@rosarosalia8452 ай бұрын
Then perhaps you should not have that first drink of you have control of the first drink. So in way the journalist has a point.
@SadieStewella10 ай бұрын
My father is a recovering alcoholic and his sentiment is the same as Matthew Perry’s. He would tell me “one drink was too many and a thousand was never enough.” He’s 37 years sober and I’m so proud of him. Addiction is a deadly disease and the addicts in our life need our tough love and support ❤
@jimmieowings309210 ай бұрын
Good luck!! It's so hard to stay on the right track now days.. I fight it everyday.
@jimreilly693310 ай бұрын
The man takes a drink, the man takes to the drink, the drink takes the man.
@mrb264310 ай бұрын
Fornication music Intoxication Devils 3 tools since Adam
@TheJasoncash8310 ай бұрын
Cancer is a disease. Addiction is a choice. You can't just choose to not have cancer. How do you bear addiction? You choose to
@rahbid12110 ай бұрын
That's why. Make alcohol haram end of...
@allandoherty92366 күн бұрын
Easiest thing in the world is to sit on your high horse Judging others about a problem you’ve never had
@x-raycat3235 ай бұрын
I am an alcoholic I consciously choose every day not to buy alcohol or accept if offered. This is not easy for me but I feel good when I wake up in the morning.
@bushraa65275 ай бұрын
try fasting and stopping for the sake of GOD, love GOD more than your desires
@x-raycat3235 ай бұрын
@@bushraa6527 no thanks That's not healthy for me it's all about health and staying strong sometimes I will get a beer and can't help myself but it's better than drinking a gallon every nite
@FlacoFlow809NY5 ай бұрын
God bless u my brother 🙏🏼 stay strong 💪🏼
@kittyvanzandt44075 ай бұрын
I'm proud of you. You are powerful and strong. You've got this friend. :)
@EthanScarlett5 ай бұрын
Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Keep doing what you're doing.
@JordanCarlin-qy5ed10 ай бұрын
"Dont ask why the addiction, ask why the pain" - Dr Gabor Matè
@BelovedbyAdonai10 ай бұрын
🎯❗️
@braidynchapman510310 ай бұрын
Nah ask why the addiction for sure
@SM-xz9kb10 ай бұрын
100 percent!!
@Nightingale4710 ай бұрын
@@braidynchapman5103The answer to your question is always gonna be pain. Whether it's physical, mental, emotional etc.. Now ask why the pain
@jillybeangaming10 ай бұрын
this this this this this...
@kitkat31556 ай бұрын
My father’s whole family are alcoholics. He doesn’t drink at all for that reason. Growing up when we went to dinner parties and seeing him being the only adult not drinking, I always felt so proud of him and respected him so much for it. He said he wanted to set a good example for me. ❤
@KeweenawPatriot6 ай бұрын
You'll see that only the junkies and alcoholics are agreeing with perry. Addiction is a choice. And weak people always blame their bad choices on everything but themselves.
@watamatafoyu6 ай бұрын
Hitchens missed the point that Perry was choosing to not take the first drink. It doesn't matter whether he could choose to take the next or not. Why did Hitchens want so badly for Perry to drink?!
@Timmyhk26 ай бұрын
Stunning and brave
@amostlyreasonableguy6 ай бұрын
@@watamatafoyuhe didn’t. And didn’t say that either. You do have a choice whether it’s the first drink or the second. If you didn’t you’d be murdering people to get alcohol after a few sips if it wasn’t available. Just because it’s a strong pull towards craving doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice. The science is that the urge is strong not that you literally don’t have free will, which is why addict talk is so nauseating.
@matthewbunker10076 ай бұрын
@@amostlyreasonableguyI take it you’re a “normie”? Here the deal, imagine if you chose to have an anesthesia that put you into a partial comma where you don’t remember what you’re doing and are severely impaired as well. Pretty much in a “trance” The decision was sober and conciliation but what happens during the impaired period is foggy and you lost control of your actions. Taking more of the drug is not a conscious act. The trance has taken over and the “spirit” of the addict is no longer making the decisions, it’s the drug doing it for the addict. Maybe this analogy helps ?
@travisyayes634314 күн бұрын
I am a drug addict and alcoholic and i know the truth is that it is my choice and saying different is just an excuse. Being addicted to drugs or alcohol means that you must use to avoid physical and mental withdrawal.
@lifeofsnz221612 күн бұрын
@@travisyayes6343 well said
@ThebestDrywaller2 ай бұрын
I love matthew perry rest in peace. A truly amazing soul ❤
@carolhill6017Ай бұрын
He has an emotional dependency on the feeling that it gives him. He just wants to feel better and better and better but in the long run, it’s ruining his health.
@amythompson770016 күн бұрын
@@carolhill6017He’s gone over, so this is an old interview.😢😢😢
@KimNeville-vr8hn4 күн бұрын
@@amythompson7700 Well golly gee whiz! Thanks for pointing that out, Captain Obvious! 🙄
@carolinesarian71717 ай бұрын
So impressed by the way Matthew handled himself. He stayed calm, didn't raise his voice, and was totally frank.
@WhiteBandanas7 ай бұрын
Well obviously he's weak😂😂
@persona89917 ай бұрын
He died and Hitchens was right
@user-sm9jy2jm1i7 ай бұрын
And now he's dead
@davidswanson56697 ай бұрын
I’ve never been around this debate, perhaps because I don’t drink. But I am familiar with the notion of agency, and how some choices begin to take away your agency. For example, deciding to play around with sex, and then getting pregnant, leads you to less agency for whether or not you want a kid. Some people believe that killing the baby is a feasible choice, while others realize that adoption or parenting are feasible choices too. Drinkers seem to think that drinkers only have one choice after the first drink - to drink more. No, they also have alternative choices that they are able to make. They just don’t want to do the hard thing. It’s hard to parent, it’s hard to give up a kid for someone else to take care of, but it’s easy to just kill it before ever having to meet it. Next I’m gonna hear how abortions are just part of a sex addiction.
@nakkadu7 ай бұрын
What did hitchens say that was right?@@persona8991
@human_bot_7 ай бұрын
I applaud Matthew Perry's courage to openly admit his addictions. He is absolutely right. I have 12 years clean, and to this day, I still make a conscious effort to avoid people, places, and things that could possibly lead me to that first drink or drug
@JackyHeijmans7 ай бұрын
Stay strong! ❤️❤️❤️
@mattmarzula7 ай бұрын
Matthew Perry was a celebrity crybaby trying to get attention any way he could by preying on the very sentiments you're expressing here. It's not brave. It's airing your dirty laundry for attention.
@JackyHeijmans7 ай бұрын
@@mattmarzula I disagree. I believe many people with addictions will be helped if they can speak about it, share their experiance. It may encourage others to quit too, or to hang in there staying clean. It can help if you hear others go through same. What you are saying is that people should not speak about their problems, and keep it to yourself. That is not healthy. He had enough attention, he really didn't need to beg for it.
@human_bot_7 ай бұрын
@@JackyHeijmans thank you!
@human_bot_7 ай бұрын
@@mattmarzula smh. You clearly know very little about addiction. At the end of the day, you are entitled to your opinion, even if it is wrong. Then there are some people who just want to disagree for no reason
@maniacal18707 күн бұрын
So in the end, Matthew proved Hitchens correct. He makes a choice NOT to take that first drink. The choice is and always was HIS.
@willsiewert98710 ай бұрын
What a special gift for him to share this type of humility. So needed in not just Hollywood but the world.
@sheliabryant399710 ай бұрын
@wills. X 186,000. 🌺
@SaltyAlaskan7910 ай бұрын
What f****** humility? He's lying to everybody's face saying he can't control his arm bringing alcohol to his mouth. Give me a f****** break
@AS-yz2iz10 ай бұрын
What humility? He's not taking personal responsibility, that's what he's doing.
@acetate90910 ай бұрын
BS. As someone who knows numerous recovered addicts it's 100% a choice. That's not to say we should vilify or shame addicts but Perry is pretending like he had absolutely no agency over his choices. I had always heard that he got sober, which was obviously a choice, and that fact alone destroys his victim mentality. I wonder if he seriously believed it was good messaging to tell young people that existing as an addict isn't a choice and there's no point in trying to quite?
@patrickjones826310 ай бұрын
Hold on kids. Can’t bash something you’ve never experienced. Alcohol is PROVEN to lower inhibitions, and give you a high. The mind of an addict is structured so that when the limbic system is activated when consuming alcohol, they almost completely lose their ability to regulate their decisions. It’s all about feelings at that point. You idiots have no clue what being an addict means. People don’t get to that point without feeling like shit about the decisions they make, yet they lose the ability to regulate their decisions once they are high. It is what it is, nobody likes it and there is no point arguing what an addict goes through. Yes an addict has physical control over the act of drinking, but the mind rationalizes the behavior until lives are destroyed.
@shaylove378610 ай бұрын
Wow. My dad was an alcoholic. Once he took one drink he would be on a drinking spree for the next several months. I did not know that this was a common trait. My dad stopped drinking and got immersed in church and never touched alcohol again until died. The latter 20 years of his life was a blessing for him and our entire family.
@PGVTO10 ай бұрын
Amazing story. He realized that he needed to never touch alcohol again, once he accepted that, he moved on with his life. I believe it’s a choice, a choice to stay away from bars and the liquor store.
@user-lh3uk6by3i10 ай бұрын
That's what Hitchens is trying to say. Personal responsibility is not popular in our postmodern culture
@TipsyGizmo10 ай бұрын
Everything always starts with a choice. Don’t ever let anyone attempt to use emotion to claim otherwise. I used to be a drunk. I didn’t start drinking till I was 30 and for ten years I would give up shifts at work to have time off to drink. Hell, I would even pay people to take the shift. Can’t have no call no shows and keep a job. For about 5 years I worked enough to pay my bills and drink. I ate poorly, was out of shape. But thankfully my mind is strong and I was able to quit cold turkey. I thank God every day. I share the same addiction but he has other things that also contribute to that extreme bender after having one drink. It’s definitely common for some alcoholics to get paid Friday and not be seen again for a week. Most of us don’t know how to use our brain to help us. Humans over think the wrong way and pollute our thoughts. If we can cut through the BS and stop lying to ourselves we can all fight our demons. I was so bad that I’d go to sleep with 3 beers on the table and if I woke I’d pound one. Then the next if I woke again. Some nights I woke at 4 am in cold January and started drinking all day. Those were all choices made by me. If you have a hard time finding that inner you, talk to someone. It’s there it just need to be woken up. God bless anyone struggling
@stephenkrambeck658910 ай бұрын
If you want to learn more read the Doctor’s Opinion from the AA big book, it’s interesting whether or not it applies to you. Sounds like your dad got all he could out of the program, great to hear.
@stumpf993810 ай бұрын
I’m happy you were able to have your father at the end. It’s good that he stopped. I wish the same for mine.
@LeCrowTV10 ай бұрын
The lip shake and pause after he said “can’t stop” was so genuine, RIP Matthew
@23Butanedione10 ай бұрын
Wow it's almost like he CHOSE to end up there
@23Butanedione10 ай бұрын
"So genuine" he was a multi millionaire who couldn't get it together with everything handed to him. Then he's here on tv giving excuses as to why he can't control himself. Yeah what a great guy lol
@LeCrowTV10 ай бұрын
@@23Butanedione ah yes because money can solve all problems… ffs you sound like a child
@brendajaramillo489310 ай бұрын
Dear GOD please have mercy on us!!!
@KRistyrose97810 ай бұрын
@@23ButanedioneI think he explained the situation. Maybe see if you can turn on the captions?
@four-twenty420516 күн бұрын
Honestly what Matthew said was 100% correct. I can't have just one beer. One turns into 20
@gnewts315515 күн бұрын
If you’re undeveloped mentally, sure.
@870expressmag27 күн бұрын
The worst thing I've seen is someone telling an alcoholic to just have one drink.
@brandonmartin578522 күн бұрын
your supposed to be able to stop drinking. i sip till im buzzed then set it down or put it away for later. What makes them drink and not able to stop? other than themselves. americas had this issue with all drugs.
@870expressmag22 күн бұрын
@brandonmartin5785 Yes, that's how it's "supposed" to be. For many, it's casual, but for some, it's an addiction. My friends mom was killed by a drunk driver when we were kids. Ironically, his dad had a very hard time dealing with it and started drinking, and it killed him years later. He couldn't stop.
@Wildflower68722 күн бұрын
@@brandonmartin5785 you "sip til you're buzzed and then put it down" because you are not an addict. It's as simple as that. Not everyone who has a drug and alcohol problem is an addict. Your ability to stop is exactly what makes you 'not' an addict. There are genetic and environmental factors that make a person more or less susceptible to certain types of addiction. These are the realities of human behaviour that have been studied at length and it's simply not enough to assume that there is a 'one fits all' for addiction, trauma, mental illness, whatever have you.
@Goodyear177622 күн бұрын
@@brandonmartin5785did some quick research on binge drinking, looks like various European countries rank much higher than the US in terms of incidence of binge drinking. Perhaps you just see a lot of American media/content about the subject
@carlamarlene292722 күн бұрын
Hubs drives over the road. Home only 4 days a month. I NEVER drink when he's home.
@phuckweed6 ай бұрын
Rare to see a celebrity not spouting some prepared script, but being an open, honest human being. Much respect ❤
@southbug276 ай бұрын
Actually, he was lying about being clean & died of a drug overdose. I was disappointed to find that out. I think he wanted to be the guy got clean & saved people from the hell he went through & saved other families from the hell he put his family through. I absolutely respect the fact that he used his fame & platform to try & help; I wish he had succeeded.
@samsara-summermooncomehome58816 ай бұрын
And look what they did to him.
@samsara-summermooncomehome58816 ай бұрын
@@southbug27And you believe that?
@user-hm3yk1yd3j6 ай бұрын
The whole diatribe was pre-scripted by the 12-step bullshit society.
@paolopagliaro9806 ай бұрын
Much respect for what? For delcaring is dependence? Nobody is born unable to stop drinking; if today he's addicted it's because he choose in the past, several times.
@Matthew-LAMFАй бұрын
14 months sober. I'm sorry Matthew that the addiction took your life. You were a beautiful man and will live on in spirit through your acting. We all loved you so much, you brought us such happiness. Rest easy now Matthew, thank you making us laugh and bringing such joy to our lives ❤
@WhisperingWempeАй бұрын
Well done I'm 82 days sober. Longest streak was 12 years🎉
@Matthew-LAMFАй бұрын
@@WhisperingWempe you're a freakin' champion. I know many people who have lost their lives to addiction. So keep kicking ass ✌12 years wow💪
@WhisperingWempeАй бұрын
@@Matthew-LAMF thank you One day at a time🌱
@lgbtqia-pride-is-wrongАй бұрын
I did not take his life, wake up to who did
@neilmclellan9978Ай бұрын
Keep it up, keep kicking ass my dude, still fight it 13 years sober now. And my kids defo help.
@buddavidson670217 күн бұрын
I am an alcoholic. I have to stop myself after my first drink. And at times it is very hard but even when I'm drunk I can stop. The struggle is very real and a wonderful opportunity to become stronger
@briann552410 күн бұрын
Check out the freedom model for addictions
@JL-hk8vl10 ай бұрын
When a man is speaking the truth, he is not a coward, and will walk through the fire. Rip Matt
@torrel807410 ай бұрын
It's not brave to admit a problem and then say its not his fault
@Alfakkin10 ай бұрын
❤
@fuzzyacorns685510 ай бұрын
@torrel8074 thats not what hes saying....
@Alfakkin10 ай бұрын
@torrel8074 it is brave because society teaches us to be strong and not fidget in front of temptations...weak people are strong when they admit their weakness and demons...he articulated the problem quite well
@stringbean151110 ай бұрын
@@torrel8074r:woosh
@MrsCasa10 ай бұрын
For those of you who don't understand Matthew, you are blessed. For those of us who do understand, remember, we do recover. 29 years, 4/23/1994.
@TerreiaHamer-mp5ws10 ай бұрын
Thank you, I am very blessed, and I am also empathic. I don't have to go through something to understand the severity of it. I can not imagine not being able to stop drinking, I think God I don't have a problem with alcohol. I hear Matthew saying he can control that first drink, and that is a choice, but after the 1st drink, the choice is taken away, and you lose control of the situation. I don't think anyone chooses to be an addict, and not everyone who tries a vice becomes addicted...
@MrsCasa10 ай бұрын
@@TerreiaHamer-mp5ws very true. I would certainly never have chosen to be an addict. But I can tell you this, and many may not understand, but I'm glad that I am. I live a program now that not only helps me stay off drugs, but it has changed everything else about me as well. I wouldn't be the person I am today (admittedly, flawed) without this program and where I started.
@goldfishonthefloor449 ай бұрын
32 years 4.30.91
@SweetyD20239 ай бұрын
Some do, some don't obviously.
@DM-ul5yc9 ай бұрын
Not that blessed. I had a severe depression about ten years ago. Now the apathy in me is so strong I don't feel desire for anything in this life including drugs and alcohol.
@gilbertobarrios15535 ай бұрын
Addiction, like depression is something you don't really understand until you go through it.
@samb2025 ай бұрын
Ive been an addict (def worse than most of y’all) and depressed and both were a choice. The only time where it’s slightly logical to claim otherwise is when physically addicted.
@VNeto945 ай бұрын
@@samb202 it's a choice to keep the way it is. It's a choice when you can fight against against by seeking professional help.
@DrGrinsp00n5 ай бұрын
not true but your entitled to your own opinion at least in the USA
@kavya9145 ай бұрын
Yess
@johnknope16645 ай бұрын
I went through addiction it is a choice. I've also been miserable most my life until I decided I could be happy.
@toddmcclellan55578 күн бұрын
Im an alcoholic but I've been sober for 5 years, and he's right.
@jeremyrude688310 ай бұрын
Addiction hurts everyone. Yesterday, today and for many days to come and go. Rest in peace Mathew
@searcherT10 ай бұрын
you said a mouthful!
@Mote7810 ай бұрын
He did it to himself. Sad.
@daytondane161710 ай бұрын
This is definitely a truth i've never heard before
@picilocarnal10 ай бұрын
Mathew lost big time!😮
@jasonphillips190210 ай бұрын
@@daytondane1617it’s common sense truth. If you’ve ever been addicted yourself or know someone who has come out of it , they will usually agree. They just had to make the hard choice and be honest
@MetalHead101210 ай бұрын
7 years sober here, one day at a time. RIP Matthew. 🙏 We miss you.
@margieshelnutt900610 ай бұрын
Congratulations
@PaperclipProphets10 ай бұрын
Congratulations, you are a conqueror and my prayers for thousands of days more 🙏
@Kevin-mk6jo10 ай бұрын
U will return. Weak minds always allow a substance to control them. Yeah congrats on being an adult and doing the right thing.
@brianreed827110 ай бұрын
Congratulations 👏
@GregoryGlasgow10 ай бұрын
Hi. I am over 3 yrs sober 🙏
@matthewchrist908210 ай бұрын
I dated an alcoholic for 3 years. She would drink listerine if there was no alcohol in the apartment and she didn’t have money. She destroyed everything in her life including our relationship. Addiction is real
@jeffreybouche381710 ай бұрын
I’m an alcoholic with a short stint so far in recovery and I can completely relate to her. Pretty much lost everything in my life twice because of it and legal issues too. Alcohol is terrible and I hope she’s doing better now. Sorry you had to go through that, I know what I’ve put my significant others through.
@wendklenff13310 ай бұрын
@@jeffreybouche3817 hope you´re feeling better now, every person has more than one chance in life, if you are self-aware it´s more than 95% of the addicts can do, masive respect for that and good luck with your journey, believe in it :)
@eliasspeed588210 ай бұрын
No one’s arguing it’s not real it’s just that it’s not a disease or some uncontrollable thing. It’s like anything else in life you can give in to, you can also not give into it
@donbrown128410 ай бұрын
@@eliasspeed5882 Some people literally can't.
@matthewchrist908210 ай бұрын
@@eliasspeed5882 you just argued it’s not real lmao
@kenferrin735011 күн бұрын
He said right at the end. The first drink is YOUR choice. “I’m a drug addict so I’m not to blame for my decisions, it’s an illness”. Yes, being delusional and not accountable is an illness.
@ezdunit79102 ай бұрын
Working in a decade sober. My wife was sent to me 14 years ago and through her love patience and really hard work she’s (we) turned my life around. Without her I wouldn’t have made it. I remember every single time I look at her how lucky I am. Stay strong out there and find your rock to anchor yourself.
@Jsize2 ай бұрын
Asking for and receiving help is a life skill. For all the tough guys out there who want to comment about not being tough enough or whatever, to an actual alcoholic, quitting is impossible to do alone. Most things in life are impossible to do alone, and if you think otherwise, just re-examine yourself.
@OGC_GSG_2 ай бұрын
Good for you for recognizing her and respecting her enough to change. I too was saved by an amazing woman mine was opiates for 26 plus years but she was patient loving and truly cared for me and in seeing that this person was not going to leave me so I needed to either die faster to help her or fix myself. It's an amazing thing finding the love to break the cycles. Awesome to read what you wrote. Ty for sharing. Have a positive day
@RexHeuermann2 ай бұрын
I'd like to get to know your wife 😉
@sambarclay25932 ай бұрын
Your lucky you have a compassionate wife, cuz let me tell you...many women today would see you as a burden or problem weighing their life down and leave. I'm glad you had her.
@harry538312 ай бұрын
Sent to you? Thai bride from Ebay?
@croatiancroissant28776Ай бұрын
At 40 years old, it finally caught me. I was drinking 3 fifths a day, plus whatever I came across. Went to rehab 3 times. If I’d known better, I’d have seen this coming when I was a freshman in college. One drink was never enough, and I always drank more than everybody else at the party. I was chasing a feeling that couldn’t be caught. Now, the only way to avoid issues is to avoid the first drink, and it works well for me. Clean 6 years and doing fantastic.
@dracorpgroup27 күн бұрын
So happy to hear that. One day at a time. Good luck to you. Alcoholism begins in many ways and for many reasons. My father never drank. My mother never drank. Most of my many uncles were heavy drinkers. Thankfully, I grew up in a quiet household; no drinking, no arguments, no drugs, no violence. I never drink, well, maybe one glass but it stops there. Again, all the best for your.
@croatiancroissant2877626 күн бұрын
@@dracorpgroup thank you for that. Best to you as well.
@ezioauditoredafirenze835225 күн бұрын
@@croatiancroissant28776All the best. You stay on that road 😃
@Ilovethethoughtofbeingbetter22 күн бұрын
You say rehab 3 times. So I have a question. Alcoholic here myself. Would you say rehab is worth it or can you just do it by yourself? I have a Job, I have bills, im considering going to rehab but if I do I literally lose everything I've ever worked for, house, car... Etc. So I'm wondering if I just do the 12 steps, start goin to AA meetings, can I just do it on my own as long as I make sure I do not drink taking it one day at a time or is rehab completely necessary because I've heard of Soo many people going to rehab 3-4 times before they get sober so to me it seems like it's almost a waste of time. Yes or no?
@wintertarzanjagrup25277 ай бұрын
I have respect for people who tell truth instead of all lies
@406MenaceRacecar7 ай бұрын
Perry didn't understand Step One. He was under the impression he was in control. He missed it, he died as a result.
@wintertarzanjagrup25277 ай бұрын
@@406MenaceRacecar i guess taking drugs is a form of lying to yourself . I would know . 12 years down the drain. all friendships and ex's all gone . .
@406MenaceRacecar7 ай бұрын
@@wintertarzanjagrup2527 Here's the deal, if he says he took Step One knowing there is "no effective mental defense against the first drink" but then he says he just has the power of choice, in his mental defenses, then he was a walking contradiction. Get it? Step One in AA is up to page 43 in their book, describing this problem. With no booze in his body it seems he was Powerless, beyond human aid. Yet here he was using human aid and his mental defenses against the first drink. Again, humbly I say most of the members have no idea that being Powerless against the first drink means WITHOUT any alcohol in your body at the time. Otherwise it's just like any other person, if you shouldn't drink then DONT DRINK... no illness, no alcoholism. But the people who understand the Step One admission , this minority of the alcoholics become WILLING... TO DO WHATEVER. . it takes. They go through the recovery program without having to be reminded to do so, without encouragement, KNOWING they MUST become recovered or else they'll drink against their own will. Matthew drank even though he chose to NOT DRINK.
@CaterinaDomenech17 ай бұрын
Me too. I prefer that, that those who think are better because they have never been in that position like the other interviewer.
@Tarotcooks7 ай бұрын
👍
@skepchica9 күн бұрын
The fact Peter Hitchens did this interview is captivating. His brother, Christopher was one of the most brilliant minds of our time, yet met with an early demise because of his own addictions. Given their relationship of being polar opposite, his cold stance makes sense. Need to watch this whole thing.
@mtnstrand28196 ай бұрын
I have so much respect for the late Matthew Perry's brutal honesty. Most people lie about their shortcomings. Rest in peace GREAT MAN.
@waylindowell73655 ай бұрын
Glad he's gone dude sounds like a huge pussy "I don't have any self control and I'm a sad sack of a man" what a loser
@678friedbed5 ай бұрын
except he was lying. he can stop after the first drink. he chooses not to.
@zakattack4675 ай бұрын
Mathew Perry is a pussy for choosing to drink and use
@senorpapasfritasconqueso5 ай бұрын
@@678friedbedyou're such a great listener
@AdamOwenBrowning5 ай бұрын
@@678friedbed some people genuinely cannot fight the compulsion to maintain their intoxication. Whether that's a weakness of character, a moral failing, a mental problem, whatever. It's just the truth. it's a choice, sure, and a choice so heavily clouded by their mental problem that calling it a choice is a bit ridiculous. One drink ruins their inhibition to not continue drinking. If someone says "after one drink I cannot stop" you do not press them to drink.
@guambyguambelle186410 ай бұрын
Matthew Perry helped people learn what addiction can do to ANY life. He fought as hard as he could.
@rodgevernick905110 ай бұрын
Teaching people that it’s understandable to be degenerate alcoholic because medical science says it’s not your fault. What a beta cuck. Rip bitchboy chandler bing
@Mineisbigger10 ай бұрын
Nope he didn't fight as hard as he could have
@cidquakenbush30210 ай бұрын
Absolutely 💯% FACT
@cidquakenbush30210 ай бұрын
@@MineisbiggerHow did he not? He wrote about it, became clean and helped others that had an addiction. He was a savior for many. He quit ALL drugs and Alcohol, how did he not fight at his fullest against it?
@sj549310 ай бұрын
@@Mineisbiggeron what basis do you say that?
@TheEatShizzel6 ай бұрын
I come from a family of addicts. I’ve chosen to keep away from everything because of that. I chose to not drink because of the fear it could destroy my life.
@kristinlarsen95756 ай бұрын
love that, and I’m just the same. Sobriety is a choice whether you’re an addict or not.
@angielambertson64896 ай бұрын
Smartest thing you will ever do!!!!! ❤
@M.G.G.1526 ай бұрын
why screw with the enjoyment of sober thinking - i like reading , chess…
@PMSSTOOGE6 ай бұрын
The thing is, not everyone is privy to this information before they take that first drink. Then it's too late.
@lyndonbauer17036 ай бұрын
@@PMSSTOOGE Not everyone's privy to free will? what on earth...
@neenachaudhry-willis481123 сағат бұрын
Kudos to Matthew Perry on speaking up and educating on the proven science behind addiction.
@westonharley158010 ай бұрын
He was well aware of his vunerability. His candid admission is commendable. If only our politicians were so open and honest. RIP Mr Perry.
@aaabbb-rn6sj10 ай бұрын
He was retarded, you always have the choice, rest in piss lol
@frozensunset10 ай бұрын
This really has nothing to f****** do with politics you low IQ f****** minion
@frozensunset10 ай бұрын
It's so baffling that the world has controlled your mind
@frozensunset10 ай бұрын
Someone literally can't even have alcoholism and sit here on camera and say how week they are and enable the making a good choice without you bringing a politics does that say something about your f****** b******* man
@dayzroleplayer10 ай бұрын
@@frozensunsetHow has it? Elaborate or your words mean nothing
@thegarethdav22 күн бұрын
I’m glad finally someone is admitting alcohol is a drug
@MyLiverismyEnemy21 күн бұрын
Alcohol is one of the worst drugs. And we sell it on every street corner.
@mattmccusker763915 күн бұрын
Not just a drug, but A toxin.
@ertugrulsanskopar824815 күн бұрын
@@MyLiverismyEnemy username checks out
@NellieSilvers121515 күн бұрын
Al Jourgenson from Ministry was an alcoholic, long time heroin addict plus had other addictions. On the 'Just One Fix' filmclip, his stumbling/staggering and nodding off isn't faked. They had to keep propping him up on his stool because he was stoned off his head. He said out of all the addictions he's had, alcohol was the hardest to kick. He got off heroin cold turkey but needed help to stop drinking. I'm the opposite. I was drinking Jacks or Beam (whatever was handy) straight from the bottle before getting out of bed to numb myself for the day but kicked the alcohol quite easily. I'd had alcohol poisoning more than once so I guess that helped me stop. Now I can't STAND the smell of whiskey, scotch or bourbon🤢. It's the heroin that hit me hard. 20+ yrs later and I still have that particular monkey on my back. Even though I'm on methadone. Anyone who says addiction's a state of mind need to go through withdrawals and/or DTs. Definitely no mind over matter there.
@seagulls55615 күн бұрын
sugar is a drug apparently it is more addictive than cocaine
@gbshaw10710 ай бұрын
Before I had even realized I had a substance abuse problem, I felt for this man. Even after knowing the consequences from people telling me time and time again how life crushing addiction will be, my curiosity still overcame my will power. After going through my decades of struggle I’m now 3 years sober and eternally grateful for those who showed me how. Knowing the mental battle drugs can have on a person, I truly hope Matthew Perry is at peace.
@alexunderwood982510 ай бұрын
Amen may you stay blessed and sober
@nancymcnally784910 ай бұрын
After I realized that I was addicted, I told myself I could stop but it just got worse and worse and worse. Hiding it was so exhausting. I finally almost died and I can't go back. 11 years sober. Congrats to you and thank you for sharing your story! ❤
@drmorqWarrenProject10 ай бұрын
Dont ever give in! I know how lucky I am.. I dont have an addictive personality. And I at 66 years old have lost too many friends to addiction, as well as way too many enemies. I would rather have them here fighting me or fighting alongside me.
@JD-zh5nv10 ай бұрын
I would say look at William Burroughs but maybe you're just a cautionary tale.
@JD-zh5nv10 ай бұрын
@@nancymcnally7849I did all kinds of stupid stuff that resulted in my own misery but accepted my responsibility and stopped. The actual problem was you only told yourself to stop. Not that you actually did. All that one last time, I can stop anytime but I chose not to, I'll stop tomorrow, addiction is the only disease you can cure by a pragmatic outlook and staying home. The truth in my opinion is that opium addicts are why the gooberment makes it hard for people legitimately suffering from chronic pain to get opiates. Alcohol and nicotine kill more people than opiates but those seem to be acceptable losses. If you're diabetic you may find ozempic, wegovy, mounjaro, etc difficult because overweight lazy denialists need it to lose weight while diabetics have to scramble to switch to whatever they can get. The overweight people won't die without those drugs but diabetics could. What happened to Adderall for all the people with ADHD going into mental crisis because the dea limits how much can be made and so went into mental crisis because they couldn't get it for over a year and still can't. No wonder America has become such a shit show. No one admits to having any responsibility. If Donald Trump ends up in jail or Biden ends up in jail it will be their own fault. Quit accusing everyone else for your own inadequacies. Sack up.
@ankitamenon878013 күн бұрын
Writing a book doesn’t give you a degree in psychology or medicine- addiction is very hard to control, the dopamine rush takes over to the point where it’s literally painful to not use whatever it is
@skepchica9 күн бұрын
He's aware. Peter and his brother Christopher were two incredibly brilliant minds that's views stood on polar opposite side. Unfortunately, Christopher's own addictions caused him a long, difficult fight with cancer which he lost at too young of an age. Peter's stance is predictable.
@ankitamenon87809 күн бұрын
@@skepchica I’ve heard of other similar situations where that would’ve resulted in relatives being more sympathetic. However, I can understand the reason for his point of view, regardless of whether it’s true or not.
@skepchica9 күн бұрын
@@ankitamenon8780 They had a very strained relationship. Some people mask pain or get mad at the wrong things because it makes it easier to cope with the loss.
@FullyAlive3310 ай бұрын
He handled that with such grace. Some people will never master the art of having a civil conversation with someone they disagree with but this man had it down.
@annabees10 ай бұрын
That's what you do when you don't want to just make a point but have people understand and embrace it 😊
@crownjr267310 ай бұрын
Yes, I agree with the lady the mother of my kids as one of them would never agree.
@judycastro58110 ай бұрын
Yes indeed! What the world needs now: communication bridges!!
@lars277610 ай бұрын
It's a lot easier when the other person isn't constantly interrupting, talking over him, or screaming. It takes two people to have a civil conversation.
@ashleymorris174710 ай бұрын
He was taking a real teaching moment. I love it. I think his point is so important that people don’t understand. It’s always the 1st you’re in control of then it’s literally chemistry.
@billljones9793 ай бұрын
For those who don't know what he talking about, consider yourself lucky, addiction is real and it'll tear the best down, rip Matthew
@vitald87962 ай бұрын
At the end of the day it's you. I used to drink nearly half a bottle of Jameson a night. And decided I wanted to stop. Haven't drank since. Tired of grown ass people who can't take accountability for their actions. It's 100% on you.
@dau10242 ай бұрын
@@vitald8796 if you can stop on your own you aren't an alcoholic mate
@jounazi81252 ай бұрын
@@vitald8796night? So you in reality didn't Have a major problem becouse you werent drinking all Day.
@notusingmyrealname152 ай бұрын
@@vitald8796 Nothing you say will matter. Your addiction wasn't as bad as theirs, or you were lucky you could stop, etc, etc... It's all the same denial that they made a choice to use, and to become an addict.
@vitald87962 ай бұрын
@@notusingmyrealname15 idc. Stop making excuzed cause you aren't grown up yet to stop doing what you know is killing you. Your a grown ass adult, no one to blame but yourself. It's your own fault.
@MarkytheCat7310 ай бұрын
His honesty shows his strength. Rest in peace.
@lIllIIIllIl10 ай бұрын
What strength
@Life.Is.Cruel8510 ай бұрын
Strength is not doing it in the first place!! Anybody can speak truth,, not anybody as the strength or discipline not to do what is harming them. This guy is pure weak. No strength here, just dude speaking truth.
@robertgallentine109510 ай бұрын
your ideology is absolutely disgusting. People fall, everyone makes mistakes. I hope one day you open your eyes and learn some compassion and understanding. Hope one day you grow to be a real adult.
@Life.Is.Cruel8510 ай бұрын
@@robertgallentine1095 🤣 chill out Joel! Bout people fall, yeah agreed but why they fall, cuz they damn weak!! You didn't say sh*t but a word. Those who can resist temptation of any kind, is someone who as self control, meaning strength. Those who give into temptation are those without self control, meaning weak. Speaking facts as nothing to do with being compassionate or not!! Bout my comment is disgusting. That comment alone shows a lot bout you!
@smash64smash10 ай бұрын
Funny enough he is being dishonest here to himself and everyone he’s speaking to. All just boils down to an obsession with offloading personal responsibility onto another entity besides yourself.
@charliechristian109714 күн бұрын
Here we witness a grown man refusing to take accountability for his actions.
@Max-yb1mx9 ай бұрын
His confession is beautiful.
@Deliahszepinzky9 ай бұрын
yes may he rest in ^peace
@slewcharles9269 ай бұрын
Bullshit....... you are in control EVERY A TIME THROUGH YOUR ADDICTION..... you make your own choices people... it's NOBODY ELSE'S FAULT....... it's your fault.... it's NOT CHEMICALS CONTROLLING YOU... it's you controlling yourself..... face the truth and grow
@kyzz969 ай бұрын
🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
@coffeecup3699 ай бұрын
BEAUTIFUL???
@kelleraltidor40979 ай бұрын
Lol. Beautiful cause you want to follow in on his footsteps. Drink thenpn say its3not your faulr1😂. Useless hmans
@maruschke291110 ай бұрын
You can see how he is emotionally fighting against the inner rage. I wish someone could had helped him to gain strength. 😢 I miss you, Matthew!
@stardomentertainment107610 ай бұрын
God bless you and one day I hope too see you in heaven
@tonybabineau564210 ай бұрын
I feel bad that he passed but there are millions that struggle with addiction whether it's eating gambling porn smoking drinking drugs only difference between him and most of world he's famous and people make excuses for him
@user-ux1bi4sy9s10 ай бұрын
He died from Drug Overdose…. He unfortunately had bit to many LINES
@erikajgonzalez10 ай бұрын
@@user-ux1bi4sy9she did not!
@sharonameskamp689310 ай бұрын
He definitely looks like a mess. I thank God I Never got famous! The Devil is real. Look at Hollyweird!
@UberPassАй бұрын
I’m an addict and this is very true you stay away from the first bad decision and there won’t be any thing to regret
@gianmartialАй бұрын
Absolutely.. hadn’t a sip of alcohol for over 3 years but that shit will stick in my head forever…
@jakebarton3341Ай бұрын
U say "bad decision", but why would u do it in first place if u feel that way. To me that sounds absolutely backwards. I use and i love to use and never regret.
@Ekid33Ай бұрын
Yeah I think I agree with both people here. All of the facts Matthew Perry is stating are true, addictive habits have a tendency to self-perpetuate like that. However, I have to side with Hitchens that society should hold him as responsible for the 2nd drink as for the 1st. Factually speaking, free will does not exist. We are physical systems driven by a combination of deterministic and random processes, and each of these precludes the concept of free will. You can't pick and choose where to claim "My BRAIN made me do it!" and deny that you made one particular decision with free will. Either we should hold ourselves accountable for every action we choose, or for none of them.
@Paul-hp6zpАй бұрын
I agree,I've been there,still am,first drink on it goes.
@zerkingproАй бұрын
Stil can always quit people do it. Mentally tough people Atleast the Weaks one never recover. The weaks ones never loved there family. The weak ones abused there family til they got that bad. Don’t feel bad for people who are addicted they fucked everyone in there life over without hesitation
@JTAPtv15 күн бұрын
Lack of discipline doesn't equal lack of accountability
@marcuspiercr639213 күн бұрын
@@orianjuarez3074This man's not talking about someone who literally will die from alcohol withdrawals. In this context, they are talking about someone who has not been drinking for years, picking up a drink and claiming that it's not his choice. First of all to grab that first drink, but then somehow say that his whole idea revolves around the fact that it's after the first drink that it's not his choice Even though he's literally going on to say that he is choosing to have the first drink which leads to the rest. So yes it is a choice. You idiots by his definition either way. He's talking about if he himself after years of being sober were to drink again. It's not a choice to do that. It's just something that is guaranteed to happen and if he does do it by choice see that's how it doesn't make any sense. I can't even say this properly because his idea is that stupid. You can't choose to have the first drink while not choosing to have the first drink. It's impossible we're not talking about withdrawals here. We're talking about the actual addiction mentally mentally you are choosing to and flat out How has anyone ever gotten sober if it's not a choice😂😂 stop giving into your weakness stop using this as an excuse to be weak. You always have a choice and you could always be doing better The only thing keeping you on drugs is you no one else. It is your choice and yours alone. There is no one forcing you to do those drugs. There is always steps to get off of drugs and you are not taking them. No one is taking your choices away. No one is forcing you to do anything. No one is forcing any attics to do Anything at all? They are choosing to do this drug or alcohol. That is their own fault and their own choice. Anything other than this is just a week delusion you're telling yourself to justify your actions😂
@marcuspiercr639212 күн бұрын
@@orianjuarez3074when I say "you" I mean anyone that is doing drugs. It is a complete choice just because something is difficult to do doesn't mean that it's not an option😂 anyone can get sober by choosing to do so. Anyone can stop doing what they're doing in that moment by choosing to do so. Especially someone who drinks. You know how hard it is to get addicted alcohol. You would have to consistently drink for like three years straight like every day. I know people who actually did this and did not have any withdrawals when they quit. So yeah, choosing to drink that long is a choice That excessively there's no other thing it could be but a choice😂
@JTAPtv12 күн бұрын
@@orianjuarez3074 I'm a former addict. Gotta make the choice to use to become an addict.
@marcuspiercr639212 күн бұрын
@@orianjuarez3074as someone who has been addicted to drugs, anyone saying other things than the fact that it's a choice and that it's a choice that needs to stop is just someone justifying their own weakness. I'm not saying it's an easy thing to quit. All drugs are hard to quit. All addictions are hard to quit. Continuously doing them is a choice. This is a fact You can choose to stop. You can choose to start to do better and honestly society telling people that they don't have a choice is ruining this country but whatever keeps thinking you're helping people by telling them they don't have a choice and they need to keep doing drugs😂
@marcuspiercr639212 күн бұрын
@@orianjuarez3074and as a nurse, you should understand how much placebo really does affect people telling all these people that that's how it is that there is no choice In any way. Really does not help I mean I know that's not exactly how it's being said. They're not saying exactly you don't have a choice. You need to keep doing drugs but on a certain level that's really how it's sounding and to a person doing drugs. That's what they're going to think they're going to think well, dang everyone's saying that they didn't have a choice and they had to keep doing it. So I'm going to use that same exact excuse and keep doing it myself. You get what I'm saying. This thought process does not help anybody
@uthoshantm10 ай бұрын
Massive respect for honesty and courage.
@printingwithpeek489710 ай бұрын
Honesty and courage of what? He admits that he chose to lead a path that he placed himself in to begin with.
@peopletakepicturesofeachother10 ай бұрын
@@printingwithpeek4897It take some dignity to not lie to ourselves and to others. It's not a pretty thing to admit that you are an addict, in a national television broadcast. It is an act of courage, at least he's facing, or openly talking about a difficult subject.
@joshuasims735710 ай бұрын
as a drug addict myself i agree with the guy that says its a choice😮
@printingwithpeek489710 ай бұрын
@@peopletakepicturesofeachother No one is saying that he isn't keeping his dignity by doing that, but so say that he didn't get there by choice from the start is a stupid statement
@HasleyMareli-xk6gq10 ай бұрын
@@printingwithpeek4897shut up fool thats an illness just like the one you'll certainly die one day
@AudreyW1997Ай бұрын
A year and half clean from meth and narcotics. I am so thankful to still be alive today
@kcal181Ай бұрын
Congratulations! 🎉. I'm proud of you! I know we don't know each other, but I've lost friends to that shit and I know the escape from it is difficult. So, I truly mean when I say I'm proud of you. ❤ Keep up the hard work! Please know I'm rooting for you. Always
@softyzz69Ай бұрын
Congratulations!! Keep it up. I've been in drug assisted rehabilitation for 5 years. I feel more sane not being high all the time
@ryanmesser01000Ай бұрын
Congratulations me too ❤
@cryptidian3530Ай бұрын
Let's fudging go, girl!
@dawsondetrana5496Ай бұрын
Amen, 5 years for me
@d3d3d3vulpus92 ай бұрын
As a former drug addict and a former alcoholic. The only way for you to stop is to choose not to do it. 1 drink leads to multiple, one line leads to multiple, one blunt leads to hotbox competitions.... If you want to be sober. You have to remove yourself from all future possibilities of relapse. Friends that want you to relapse are not friends. My best friend showed up to my house on my 28th birthday with a case of beer and I told him I have been sober for 2 months. He respected my decision and never asked me to drink with him again. Edit: I should add that I'm about to turn 34 and I'm still sober. True friends won't tempt you. They will support you.
@KakojeMoguceАй бұрын
Thank you
@canmcneelyАй бұрын
You’re like me, my drug of choice was “more”. So yea, choosing “no” to the first one is most certainly the correct choice
@bradsanders407Ай бұрын
You and your friends sound hella lame lol
@EstrayOneАй бұрын
The best quote I heard (don't know where it's from): "One drink is too much because 10 is not enough".
@NateWill-lb8imАй бұрын
I'm proud of you.
@LilaBukvic12 күн бұрын
I wished that somebody could save him before he died. Beautiful man he was. Prayers for whole his familly and prayers that he found freedom in the light. He will always live connected in our heart ❤❤❤❤
@KidFresh7110 ай бұрын
Was so lucky to meet Matthew Perry, in a business context. I introduced myself in such a dorky way: “Hi, I’m Jesse from Canada.” The rest of the meeting Mr. Perry teased me, in a good natured way. “Nice to meet you, Jesse from Canada. What do you think, Jesse from Canada?” He kept everyone laughing and loose. He was just like his character on Friends, but with more kindness and less snark. It was a celebrity encounter I will always cherish .
@t2d74810 ай бұрын
Wow, Jesse from Canada, what a delightful story From Tony from England
@bobbye473110 ай бұрын
Cool story bro. Canada is a good country and you’re a good man.
@johnnysins415810 ай бұрын
He sounds annoying.
@cmdrdyland10 ай бұрын
You need to lighten up@@johnnysins4158
@1roze4me10 ай бұрын
I appreciate you sharing this good story with us, Jesse from Canada! What a great memory!
@antoniopalmero406310 ай бұрын
My brother lost his battle with alcoholism after he struggled to come to terms with 2 family deaths within a year , one of which was my 18 year old son . My younger brother and I found him face down on his bed after he had chocked on his own blood following a esophageal rupture ( burst throat stripped by alcohol ) he was the 3rd death our family had in 18 months . My son died 18 , my brother 44 and my father 63 . I’m sitting here aged 57 with a heavy heart and struggle daily with depression which sometimes includes laughter , some days I want to live and some I don’t .
@nbisho0110 ай бұрын
Sorry for your loss, hoping you continue to find things in life that bring you joy comfort and remembrance of the loved ones youve lost. Keep fighting there’s always something to live for
@gregoryholstein303310 ай бұрын
@antoniopalmero4063. I’m so touched by your story, I’m sorry for what you have been through, please accept love, peace & empathy from me.
@idid186610 ай бұрын
Been there as well...brother, father and best friend, who I grew up with, gone within a year! Hang in there buddy...keep yourself busy!
@streetsurfer119010 ай бұрын
That’s rough you have my condolences
@PInk77W110 ай бұрын
I came from a large family At 40 I had no deaths in the family Then 5 deaths in 4yrs. Mom dad 2 brothers and one sister in law. Life is messy. I don’t drink or do drugs Ever. I go to church and ask God for help. Much love from Coleman TX
@arkcorps913810 ай бұрын
Say what you want but he was very brave to be this open about his issues, I know most of us would be too embarrassed to have this conversation
@cc1k43510 ай бұрын
I would say he knew he had no choice BUT to have that conversation because he didn't much want to go there again. 😢 He actually seemed very determined, at last. Rest in peace, Matthew.
@thomashovgaard313410 ай бұрын
brave? hes drunk
@blorbb539810 ай бұрын
Brave is not a word here when he is denying being able not make a choice to stop being an addict. Difficult? For sure, but not brave.
@cc1k43510 ай бұрын
@thomashovgaard3134 Actually, I suspect it's ill fitting dentures from tooth loss and a somewhat haggard appearance from all the years of substance abuse.
@francescastillo824310 ай бұрын
@@thomashovgaard3134: Right. He is either drunk or high on something.
@acu11212 күн бұрын
3 years ago I brought home 3 beers, my mom said nothing for a few minutes, then she asked me are you going to be an alcoholic... Made me think, I gave her a life long promise, I'll drink one beer a week on Friday. I kept that promise still after she passed away.
@ArthurSiozio10 ай бұрын
Took balls of steel and AUTHENTICITY to stand and speak his truth.. RIP Mat 🙏
@VotdTrades10 ай бұрын
It doesn't take balls to act like a victim and pretend not having self control is a disease. I say this as a drug addict myself
@theuntalentedone352710 ай бұрын
No the balls of steel are on the journalist, sticking to his beliefs when everyone else is saying otherwise.
@fifthpint457110 ай бұрын
@@theuntalentedone3527 That's Peter Hitchens - opinions about him are mixed but he definitely has the stones. He was the guy who absolutely disagreed that waterboarding should be classed as torture and, to prove it, he underwent the procedure himself. He lasted 10 seconds and changed his mind publicly.
@ancojonker593210 ай бұрын
Nobody is forced to do something they dont want, everybody has free will
@almadeunrebel10 ай бұрын
balls of steel would have been to not drink. im sure ❄️ followed
@kylierowe947910 ай бұрын
Appreciate his honesty. He's not afraid to be vulnerable and expose his weakness.
@patrickt108710 ай бұрын
You mean "was"
@tjluthe10 ай бұрын
@@patrickt1087not even necessary
@CD-vb9fi10 ай бұрын
@@tjluthe No... it does seem necessary. People care more about this guy who destroyed his own life through lack of control, but don't care about someone else that was not at fault for their own death. People have this "death cult" like mentality when it comes to famous people. Perry, Ledger, Carradine, Petty, Prince, and many many others... all dying from various "addictions". Instead of rebuking sin, we celebrate sin... and when someone calls it out... people like you come out of the wood work to try and stop it. It's like you want more people to die as a victim instead of understanding their life is more valuable to them than clowns like you!
@richardkoen684810 ай бұрын
He wasn't honest. He died never taking responsibility for his choices.
@kennethburmeister811910 ай бұрын
Sadly that's what most people see. The best part of this is the most glossed over. Mr. Perry found a way to stop himself to not take the first drink, he came to understand himself (his choice). That's the point Hitchens should focus on. Because that's where the control lies. Of course we are humans (animals) and we have behavioral circuits that drive us into bad habits very often. Even when we devise a system to control ourselves it will always be implemented imperfectly. We are wired to focus on the negative, evolutionary selection, and naturally we are drawn to news cycles and gossip/politics which reflect that. Focusing on his vulnerabilities is far below focusing on his tenacity to overcome those through responsibility. Sadly I think Mr. Perry is focused too much on the miscommunication of Mr. Hitchens way of putting things instead of coming to see the good in overcoming his own adversity through that conversation.
@Lea_and_Henry10 ай бұрын
RIP Matthew. You brought a lot of joy to people’s lives.
@tonycarl46510 ай бұрын
He's dead?
@5222k10 ай бұрын
Like you know him personally or something. So shallow.
@MrKrabsCumSlut10 ай бұрын
@@5222kthey meant him being on friends brought a lot of joy to people, not necessarily himself. which is true a lot of people loved that show
@natashastorm965814 күн бұрын
I am an alcoholic. My husband is not. We have been married 43 years. Matthew is so correct. My husband totally gets it. We have a system. My husband has the alcohol locked up in a safe, and he makes me and him 2 or 3 drinks, but he says , " I would never say enough.
@lorrainerae928910 ай бұрын
If you have no experience, you don't know. He had experience and was brave enough to tell the world about it. RIP
@alvarosanchez446110 ай бұрын
Brave is to grow up and know ppl love you and you need to change not tell the world and that’s somehow brave . Get your shit straight (no if’s or buts )
@nyrea816310 ай бұрын
@@alvarosanchez4461okay sorry not all of us have perfect meanigful lives I’m literally homeless and have no one but Mary Jane you’re so entitled and privileged it’s disgusting
@nyrea816310 ай бұрын
@@alvarosanchez4461like come on way to tell everyone you’re either a child or have had no hardships in your life
@alvarosanchez446110 ай бұрын
@@nyrea8163 I have one beer after that I can’t control myself 🙄. Sad that his dead but that’s on him . Got no self control go hind under a rock
@marharytabahovich118510 ай бұрын
Yup the same when people talk about abuse never being abused. They don’t f***** now how to be in that situation
@rowell66910 ай бұрын
Thank you, Matthew Perry, for shining a light on people who get left in the dark. It’s rare to see someone stand up for a drug addict or an alcoholic.
@jeremygriffith527910 ай бұрын
You're absolutely right I praise this man and I pray for his family
@antichoice110 ай бұрын
He was just being weak.
@Helena-ox7cr10 ай бұрын
No, after following active actual drug addicts in replacement medical treatment for drug addicts and how the society treats them will absolutely enforce them to get some support from a drying when the society around them reverily discriminates them and fails them! Plus most suffer from adhd or add which means a normal rewarding system is not working as intended after doing something normally rewarding like completing a task. Think about never getting a feeling of satisfaction from doing anything. And how You treat them.
@thumper8410 ай бұрын
He still though is in denial. The choice comes with the first drink. If you know you cant stop at one drink, then choosing to drink the first is choosing every drink after that because you know one always ends up in a 5 day bender.
@user-ln2go4xp6d10 ай бұрын
@@thumper84that’s why he said he’d protect himself from having that first drink. do you not watch what you comment on?
@jaybolfar943310 ай бұрын
Rest in peace, my friend many of us suffer from addiction. You will be missed.
@Sanzabaar10 ай бұрын
Right here, my man. We work every day to stay away. Rip Matthew. I feel this 100%
@Mr.Phoreskin10 ай бұрын
It’s most likely related to an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex (adhd/autism spectrum disorder). The executive function is greatly impaired resulting in poor decision making and it doesn’t stop there. If you are interested or curious, I recommend researching the topic and making an appointment with a good therapist/psychologist (or whoever diagnoses and treats these issues). If you are adhd or autistic, Just learning about the disorder(s) will help anyone who suffers. There are a lot of good resources available today to help with stuff like this. Almost every addict I’ve known (including myself) is neurodivergent.
@Fukyourfeelingslol10 ай бұрын
He wished death on Keanu Reeves in his book. he's a T W A T
@pedrod222810 ай бұрын
Matthew is dead??
@hikeskool10 ай бұрын
You knew him?
@tommyphalen910017 күн бұрын
The sad part is he was touring the country telling everyone how clean he was and how hard it is to stay clean. During this time he was doing drugs and denying it.
@MXG_Productions10 ай бұрын
I always felt a profound sadness for this man in life. I really, truly hope his soul is at peace.
@godlygamer91110 ай бұрын
It is, because souls aren't real and he's dead
@mattfuentes467810 ай бұрын
@@godlygamer911it’s an expression it doesn’t literally have to mean his ghost leaves from his body and goes to heaven or something. A soul is just the personality or qualities the person has that control their body.
@man_without_fear651810 ай бұрын
@@mattfuentes4678theyre real alright and unfortunately his didnt go anywhere good
@GloFazo10 ай бұрын
He's not special there's literally hundreds of millions of people on earth who struggle with this exact problem and don't get to disclose it on TV and actually face major consequences for it so in reality you should feel happy for him because he's better off than most
@Repent2Christ10 ай бұрын
Truly hope he accepted Jesus as Lord and savior 🙏
@NotWokebutAwake.2 ай бұрын
12 yrs sober this December!!!🎉 RIP Matthew!!😢❤
@sunnyb831Ай бұрын
Does it mean you have not touched alcohol in last 12 years or you have been drinking in control
@jimbusmaximus4624Ай бұрын
@@sunnyb831that's not what sober means
@mrchubman101Ай бұрын
@sunnyb831 There is some debate in the sober community about the definition of sober, but going by the dictionary sober means complete and total abstinence from mind altering substances outside of necessary prescriptions.
@NotWokebutAwake.Ай бұрын
@@mrchubman101 I lost my husband to addiction. He drank 2 cases of beer a day and did hard drugs behind my back and I only found out once he uN alived himself. But a doctor got me addicted to pain meds. All 95lbs of me. And I won't argue with any of you AA and NA ppl about abstinence and all your rhetoric and bs. If it weren't for a new wonderful doctor when I moved introducing me to subs I wouldn't be here to even tell my story. Just bc I take a drug that tricks my brain yet doesn't get me high, does not mean I'm any less sober than the next person. I went from a $200 a day habit to a program, weaned myself down to where the subs would even work for me and I'm still scared to death of the withdrawls. If it weren't for the withdrawls that can take years for you to feel right again, I would have flushed them years ago. But they saved my life and gave my kids their mom back and I Lead a normal legal and happy life. And hopefully one day I won't be a slave to taking this drug either. But then again I already have to take about 10 others not even related to my sobriety so what's the difference if I take it til I die. It's what gave me life again anyway. And F 🖕the doc who got me hooked in the first place bc of kickbacks and incentives back then. But I'm glad I got off street shit before fentanyl came along. But you can argue all you want. I wake up to a productive life every day and I'm not high and don't even think about getting high. So I'd say it's pretty successful. I don't drink at all. 🤷♀️🥱
@warmfeetwinner760Ай бұрын
Go on, have a drink
@aaronvargas600410 ай бұрын
It’s extra sad when the victim of addiction is outspoken and is well aware of it, and how powerless said addiction can make them feel. RIP Matthew Perry
@the_wolfofmen10 ай бұрын
Don't smoke anything, that people tells you it just makes you lose weight
@DeepValueOptions10 ай бұрын
Hypnosis cures all addictions
@mairiconnell628210 ай бұрын
Ditto to Chandelier
@BST-lm4po10 ай бұрын
Gambling is another horrific addiction! I've seen many people unable to control it. Like Matt said, the most willpower comes before the first drink or before the first bet, after that the addiction takes over!
@DeepValueOptions10 ай бұрын
@@BST-lm4po why not get hypnotized?
@EricaNewGirl3 күн бұрын
Sober 13.5 years. I love when non-alcoholics/addicts try to explain addiction to people who have lived it and probably, if they’ve managed to stay sober long enough, can explain it far better and more articulately.