Thirty Years Worth of Marital Advice | Hina Khan-Mukhtar

[@fezisheikh3044]

3:10 Make Allah your main concern 7:00 Love and affection 10:30 Special routine 11:47 Passion and interests 14:00 Fulfilling sexual needs 14:52 Praying to Allah 15:40 Men need to be respected 17:48 Social media 18:24 Laughing rules 18:33 Make your home 19:30 Crucial points on contact with non mahrams 21:34 20:07 What does domestic bliss look like 21:23 Everything about you should be… 22:12 Conflict is inevitable 24:22 Self reflection and apologising 24:50 Everyone gets angry 25:55 Don’t be disrespectful 27:04 People aren’t mind readers 28:30 Sleep on it and snuggle it out 29:05 Avoid arguing infront of kids 29:32 Holding grudges and learning to forgive 29:50 Keep a sense of humour 30:48 Being a uniter and not a divider 31:26 Relationships with in-laws and parents 34:03 Don’t try and keep up with Joneses and don’t ever pay interest 35:02 Only complain to Allah and be grateful 36:33 The little things that irritate you: everyone has flaws 37:22 Happiness Vs Contentment: Don’t take one another for granted 37:58 Have a mentor in marriage: Needs to be a Muslim 39:40 Soar spiritually 40:28 Your spouse comes first 40:55 Grow spiritually together

[@ummeismaeel9545]

jazakallahu khairan

[@bhaagyam307]

❤

[@SomethingaboutScreens]

Jazakallahu khayran!😊✨

[@amannahossain06]

The main thing is..these advice is for those who's in their right mind😢..apart from that everything was been followed.. But if you don't have a right mind..then nothing works.😢

[@hiwarda]

Jazakallahukhair!

[@doug2835]

I have just learned more from you in 41 minutes than I have in the last 69 years of my life. I have been thinking of becoming Muslim for a while now and your talk is gently pushing me closer to that reality. Thank you so much for this video!

[@MCCEastBay]

Please let us know if there’s anything we can do to help. Praying for your success in this life and in the next!

[@manala2873]

I invite you to read the Quran

[@mouctardiallo9062]

May Allah make it easy for you embrace Islam wholeheartedly and keep u steadfast

[@Blaze0071]

​@@manala2873they'll need to be gently guided into that

[@superwoman7397]

Pray to the Almighty that he guides you to the straight path 😊

[@RawrItsAGhost]

She looks so happy, her face lights up whenever she mentions her husband, it's beautiful to see

[@Kayotesden]

MashaAllah

[@inayatbibi3326]

Ma sha Allah

[@11Khalid11]

She looks 30 years old. That in itself shows how happy she is 😊

[@Aymana44]

Yo❤😊😊

[@nuuhaa3294]

Ikrr Ma sha Allahh

[@ZikraSyed]

Exactly barakAllah feeha ❤❤❤

[@bmkidzonebmworld763]

When she said make Allah ur fisrt love, I hit the like button.

[@Dioums]

This woman is a blessing to humanity, married, soon to be married, and/or divorced couples. May Allah protect and bless her 🤲🏽📿

[@guljafari3269]

Thank you ❤ I just ended a little grudge I was holding against my husband . You advices calmed me and made me realise it’s not worth it

[@MCCEastBay]

It is a comment like this one that makes us feel that our work is worth it. May Allah bless you and your marriage! Aameen.

[@Ll_jfdk]

@@MCCEastBayAmeen

[@safra1998]

Hina, you have taught me so much in this video. I pray Allah blesses you and your husband & children with so much blessings & happiness. You’ve reminded me to remain calm and humble. Although this talk is on spouses, it oddly enough has changed me as an individual. The way I speak to my mum, my dad, my friends, family etc.. has all changed. This advice is not only for husband and wife but also for families.

[@MCCEastBay]

This type of feedback means more to us than you’ll ever know! Thank you for your thoughtful comment, and Aameen to your beautiful dua.

[@evasasa2360]

Married 24 yrs and this is so true. ESPECIALLY the triangle. when a spouse distances from Allah it really affects the marriage...and when they return, it renews the love.

[@Blaze0071]

Distances from Allah? You mean are close to Allah

[@Gnabaj02]

No, they mean when a spouse is distant from Allah it negatively effects the marriage , as opposed to when they are close to Allah the marriage is good.

[@fungshui4850]

Mash Allah, 30 years! Could I also have her beauty secrets! She looks in her 20's Mash Allah. A pure heart is probably what it is.😊😊

[@freemanontheland507]

Ma shaa Allah...

[@katestigsdotter]

TabarakAllah ❤

[@katielarsen2630]

Seriously I thought she was 20 years old tabarak Allah

[@yasirmunazzah]

She’s happy in her marriage so it did not age her. May Allah bless our marriages. Iv benefited loads

[@momofpreciouspearls3124]

@@yasirmunazzahAllahumma baarik, may Allah bless her marriage

[@Khadija__.]

Neither i. Am married nor committed but have listened to this very eagerly . All credit goes to this beautiful lady by explaining so beautifully and in very easy way

[@immukhan4071]

I do not have enough words to thank you, may Allah reward you the best for giving such beautiful advice for marriage issues

[@sonoranherphaven1761]

This was one of, if not the best, marriage health and marital advice lectures/talks I've ever listened to.

[@Amanka745]

I am 20 years old unmarried girl .....but loved all advices insha allah it will be helpful for me in future ❤

[@jemilatsalaudeen1310]

Baraka lau feek my dear sister 💕. May Almighty Allah grant you the best reward in this life and hereafter.

[@dziri1796]

Assalamualaikum, First of all, my wife needs to see this video (which I already sent her). We have been married for 7 years now, yet no baby. Alhamdouli'Allah we keep hoping and trying. It is such a blessing to learn from an expert in mariage. The little details outlined are of a great importance. Thank you for your efforts....may Allah SWT keeps us steadfast and always guide us on His right path. Ameen

[@MCCEastBay]

May Allah bless you with a righteous and healthy progeny in an easy and timely manner! Aameen

[@simmran01]

Aameen!

[@oumydiallo558]

I was hesitant to listen, but I don’t regret it at all, Thank you for these precious advices. BaarakaAllah feek

[@Ambrin1987]

What does a woman want from a man? In short, the foremost thing she needs is security. She does not want a husband who makes her live in fear, like the one who often threatens her with marrying someone besides her (i.e. with a second marriage). Or he makes her feel that his friends and his gatherings with them are more important than sitting with her. Or because of his constant, long, unrestrained staring at women he makes her feel that he may abandon her (anytime). She wants a husband who respects her... and who consults her... and who does not belittles her... and who praises her beauty... her talks... her cooking (food)... and he does not degrades her in front of others. She wants her husband to give her tender loving care which she (badly) needs after long tiring work around the house, and with taking care of his kids. She wants true love... which makes her feel that out of all the women (in the world), her husband has only chosen her. Love which touches her feminity (i.e. makes her feel like she is a woman) . O husband! Do not be niggardly in spending over her (needs)... and fear Allaah regarding her rights... for she is one of the two weak ones... about whom the Prophet ﷺ advised us to take care of. 📚 [Shaikh Muhammad Ibn Umar Baazmool]

[@D-A-N-]

Thank you for that, I will apply this In Sha Allah.

[@Ambrin1987]

You're welcome 🙂

[@ks-io3lc]

Beautifully written sister !!

[@nooraljawad]

Not the best translation given it’s using the n word

[@ayshasyraj]

Thank you

[@imranniazi3983]

Fantastic lecture on marriage, this should be turned into a YEAR long course where the participants MUST change as they go through this program and should have workshops throughout the year. Advice and lectures are first steps but without actions, it only becomes intellectual knowledge and Islam is not a religion of just consumption of lectures…

[@canimou]

She said 30 years of marriage. To me she looks like a 20 years old girl… MashaAllah.

[@welloDK]

Even if I am unmarried yet, I learned a lot watching this video. Shukuren !!!

[@mananimo218]

I love this woman , may Allah bless her for spreading kind words and give her ajar for her kind work

[@Kayotesden]

We need more talks from this lady Hina... What a wonderful & practical talk.

[@crazyfrog126]

Salaam. What an amazing talk. So many pearls of wisdom in so little time. . Jazakallah.

[@umulsabaah5492]

May Allah protect our dear sister and give her many more righteous years together with her beloved husband.

[@febfabulous9391]

Shukran for these priceless advices Apa! Marriage is not a bed of roses but rather a garden of flowers we walk through together embracing the beautiful ones and cutting out the bad ones

[@Super123At]

Honestly this was such a beautiful talk, I really like the words you used, very impactful

[@ayshasyraj]

This is so beautiful to watch, the advice and her peaceful and calming tone, this is masha Allah. May Allah reward you, may we be able to remember these and apply it to our homes ya rabb.

[@umarkhan-il1eh]

5 ways of love like providing service,time,gifts,verbal affirmation,talking things what we like

[@SaffyKaffy]

I wish I found this video sooner, I made all these mistakes, and may Allah(swt) forgive me.

[@MCCEastBay]

“When you know better, you do better!” Tawfiq, insha’Allah.

[@BuMohammed-q5v]

Amiiiin. May Allah forgive us all

[@iNikkah]

Ma sha Allah this is all true, one of the reasons why we created iNikkah to help young women create the foundations of a good marriage, all our mentors have been married more than 20 years, I hope pre marital coaching becomes more mainstream

[@Shaja0555]

Assalamu alaikum sis, my sister who is divorced for twice left with one infant 😞😔 please do dua for her may she get her soul met soon ins haa allah aaaaameen

[@healthyself7941]

Seems like a grounded, faithful person. Lovely smile!

[@alinajm5432]

As someone who has been married, this was very accurate and concise.

[@khomol]

SubhanAllah. She makes it sound easy, which isn’t. But there are multiple layers of understanding and goodness in this talk.

[@wworldwwidewwanderer]

Mashallah what a thoughtful, well spoken, insightful speech. Thank you and thank God for these gems of wisdom

[@aliadiaz8159]

Bless her. She is very wise and lovely lady. Mashallah

[@tahminarahman9145]

بارك الله فيك such a beneficial talk ! May Allah forever bless your marriage ‎آمين يا رب العالمين

[@ummukhairahjameelah7338]

Jazzakillahu khayran

[@ashmash4563]

Ma sha Allah this is amazing advice. I have learnt so much from this. ❤ But sadly there are so many men in the sub continent who don’t treat their wives as equals and advice like this does nothing for the poor wives. May Allah guide our ummah Allahumma aameen

[@shaziaijaz5863]

Yes true and in USA it's opposite these days girls are like sub continent husbands.

[@IndianSumaira]

This is those wives test, Allah surely loves them alot

[@MCCEastBay]

Sister Hina mentioned at the beginning of her talk that the tips listed here do NOT work for those people who are suffering from debilitating addictions, vices, personality disorders, or mental health struggles. The advice here only works for those who are coming from a certain frame of mind. May Allah make it easy for all!

[@ashmash4563]

@@IndianSumaira that is true. I hace friends who are suffering for no reason of theirs. SubhanAllah the whole culture is different back home. Like you said it’s their test and may Allah reward them. And may Allah guide our men to treat them properly. Allahumma aameen

[@ashmash4563]

@@MCCEastBay aameen! I was just focusing on the fact that the privilege most of us women who live in the west have compared to the Indian subcontinent. Ma sha Allah this video is the most beneficial video I ever came across about marriage. Not a single second was wasted or digressed from the topic. May Allah reward sister Hina immensely for her service to deen. Allahumma aameen

[@ZubairQuasim-n7e]

What a beautiful talk from the sister, unfortunately my wife and I have separated this year I’m not going to mock her or anything we both had our shortcomings I wish nothing just the best I hope Allah grants her the best of husbands, marriage is so difficult but if you are about to marry soon inshallah listen to this talk very closely it’s such amazing advice mashallah from our sister, May Allah make it easier on you all Inshallah in your marriages

[@sshafiq543]

May Allah bless you with ease, happiness and success. Ameen

[@unni786]

Great to see you provide good guidelines, in perspective of islam

[@zuweiraabdulkarim9456]

Even though I am not yet married I have learnt a lot from this video 😌❤️ Jazakhallah khairan Sister 🙏

[@YaishAAziz]

Jazakallah khairan sister n alhamdulillah.....great to know what U hv shared ....am a Muslim from Malaysia.....

[@christineplaton3048]

This teaching that Allah is a part of the marriage, above the spouses making it a Blessed relationship is also what Christianity teaches

[@strivingslave5962]

1. Make ٱللَّٰه your main concern. 2. Know love languages. 3. Have something special between two of you and guard it. 4. Have your own passion projects (have healthy interest in their interests). 5. Fulfill sexual needs Pray to ٱللَّٰه to put love in your spouse’s heart. Men need admiration, respect, and honor. Don’t correct partner in public. Don’t disrespect partner infront of kids. 20:24 What does domestic bliss look like? 20:56 Make home the eye of the storm. 24:22 Self reflect and dong be too proud to apologize. 25:03 Everyone gets angry. If spouse is angry, be quiet.

[@unni786]

❤

[@Zaga33]

جزاك الله خيرا

[@umme4085]

جزاك الله خيرا

[@umme4085]

​Show your partner this video. May they be guided to be kinder and more understanding and i pray you both can work it out@@fionahassimlaher7073

[@fezisheikh3044]

Time stamps 3:10 Make Allah your main concern 7:00 Love and affection 10:30 Special routine 11:47 Passion and interests 14:00 Fulfilling sexual needs 14:52 Praying to Allah 15:40 Men need to be respected 17:48 Social media 18:24 Laughing rules 18:33 Make your home 19:30 Crucial points on contact with non mahrams 21:34 20:07 What does domestic bliss look like 21:23 Everything about you should be… 22:12 Conflict is inevitable 24:22 Self reflection and apologising 24:50 Everyone gets angry 25:55 Don’t be disrespectful 27:04 People aren’t mind readers 28:30 Sleep on it and snuggle it out 29:05 Avoid arguing infront of kids 29:32 Holding grudges and learning to forgive 29:50 Keep a sense of humour 30:48 Being a uniter and not a divider 31:26 Relationships with in-laws and parents 34:03 Don’t try and keep up with Joneses and don’t ever pay interest 35:02 Only complain to Allah and be grateful 36:33 The little things that irritate you: everyone has flaws 37:22 Happiness Vs Contentment: Don’t take one another for granted 37:58 Have a mentor in marriage: Needs to be a Muslim 39:40 Soar spiritually 40:28 Your spouse comes first 40:55 Grow spiritually together

[@currymonstaah]

To follow and worked in both my laptops. Jazzakallah khair!!!

[@mrgjini8757]

What a beautiful talk! Allahumma barik

[@shaibunafisat2156]

May I get to experience a blissful marriage even though it seems so difficult to come by. I trust Allah to bless me with a good man soon.

[@RasikaNishanti-kq1rz]

Ameen

[@sanamm.1834]

Ameen insha Allah :) im Sure Allah swt will bless u with a beautiful marriage

[@duceysane3322]

Be good woman you will get good man

[@hl7806]

@@duceysane3322you right but been good doesn’t guarantee a good spouse,Allah chooses,infact Allah test good women mostly with bad husbands. Same with Men too

[@kaz9242]

Good men are easy to find

[@hest2635]

Please set up social media accounts for Hina, especially on tiktok and the likes and create lots and lots of short videos of her talks. She should be even more popular than Sadia Khan.

[@skmehetabahamed5194]

Beautifully explained ❤

[@shahnozanorova8775]

MaShaAllah she looks sooo young🤗😍😍😍

[@Blaze0071]

I know right. Barakallahu fiha

[@cvrw-gx2kf]

These 41mins felt like 4 mins, thanks for sharing such lot of info

[@Emanf_05]

I'm 18 and single. Inshah Allah i will follow the advices after I'll get married

[@MCCEastBay]

May Allah (swt) bless you with the best company. Aameen.

[@Back2traditional]

This was 41:51 minutes of family value. Alhamdulillah

[@dentalmanuk]

Every talk in line with quran and sunnah is worth listening soecially its important to follow quran for marital life as two diferent peopel get along for life. Im happily married for 17 years to a different natioanlity and had no fuss or nothing like traditional marriages simply by following a Quranic order for a pewceful marital life i.e. 1. Mutual Love 2. Mutual respect ❤❤❤..

[@zahrasnasiarab1718]

❤❤❤

[@yas4578]

Thank you so much Jazaka Allah May Allah bless you beautiful lady mashaAllah, I love your talk and how Islam, pysocology and experience completing each other, very inspiring. May Allah guide us to practice and mainly keep our hearts connected to Allah full of takwa ❤

[@KhadeejahKhan-o3z]

Amazing lesson jazarkalla khairun

[@fatimajarju6813]

I pray Allah continues to bless her marriage ❤

[@hajeh]

Such valuable advice. Jazaki Allahu khairan.

[@aamna9274]

This was absolutely mind blowing !! Too good. Masha Allah. May Allah bless her to deliver more fun videos , Insha Allah 🤲🏻

[@user-wv7rh9bl5i]

What an incredible recording. Thank You for sharing all the knowledge, Mashallah ✨

[@MissLoca901]

Loved this, thank you for the talk!

[@pheroguy]

Mashaa Allah great lecture, may Allah bless you with more beneficial knowledge Amin

[@mohammadnazrulislam7524]

excellent lecture I salute your wonderful deliberations

[@fatimajarju6813]

I am not married but this is so great to listen ❤❤❤

[@yasminechafei7441]

Great , To the point , positive and very instructive to any couple .

[@longloismariam7767]

Dear ! May Allah reward you thousand fold for such beautiful advice ! Mashaallah you are the embodiment of your speech , may Allah keep you safe and happy ( ever after as they say 😊 , Jazakallah kheir

[@andreabetter6018]

Amazingly informative and inspirational. Thank You!

[@gadijaisaacs2032]

Jazakala Khair from South Africa 🤲🤲🤲❤️

[@fattymxq3863]

So beautiful... Thank u so much, learnt so much.. need to be shared widely..

[@tanzilarizwan6950]

Best marriage advice video ever ❤️ May Allah bless you ❤️

[@zuhaira26]

I love how direct and simplified your advice is , MashaAllah Easy to follow I also agree with your advice May Allah swt grant me a pious partner who will drag me to heaven Allahuma ameen

[@MCCEastBay]

Aameen to your dua!

[@juliethrodriguez296]

Jazakaaah kher for such an amazing speech!! So useful

[@trustinalqadir2982]

Maa sha Allah, Jazak Allah khairan

[@hasnakazmouz6249]

Great talk, Allah protect you and your family

[@MutahirRasool]

Beautiful lecture! Jazak ALLAH.

[@donnablumenberg6624]

Alhamdulillah! May Allah bless and reward you for sharing.

[@NamatovuAsia-k8h]

MashaAllah thank you very much it's really amazing ❤

[@hamdhanawaz]

Most of the pieces of advice are not inly to maintain healthy husband and wife relationship but for every relationships❤❤❤..... nice picpeces of advice

[@barakahboutique2706]

Jazak Allah khair for beautiful teachings no one taught us b4 i got married...but Alhamdulillah all by the help of Allah swt me n my hubby always learnt so many lessons together n always wanted to make our lives easier...this i felt thats the blessings from Allah swt on our married life. We have gone through many ups n downs...bitter times.. but realise our mistakes n apologies to each other...n then for our kids to show them what should be married life. Alhamdullilah i randomly clicked on this video many duas to sister that showed many beautiful ways how to make it more perfect. Insha'Allah whatever i was lacking behind i will work on that. N also i will teach my kids too ❤❤❤SubhanAllah many good souls r still on this earth n blesses to listen to you. May Allah swt reward you abundantly sis🤲🤲🤲❤Ameen sum Ameen

[@PharmaThoughts-KM]

JazakAllahkhair sister.

[@emeer5508]

this is perfect for couples who 3:40 in are right frame of mind is best what she told it’s for normal couples

[@skywalker2176]

I’m glad she mentioned it, it makes a big difference. Although it’s very challenging for the ones with mental issues but don’t lose hope Allah can sort it ALL out. Islam has cure for Everything AlhumdEllah!

[@assalaami8000]

MashAllah wonderful advice. I feel every piece of advice is applicable to both husband and wife.

[@louloubalikcioglu]

From Algeria , thank for your lecture ❤

[@انساحمد-ض9ف]

Aslamoalicom Dear Sister HANI. Thanks for your excellent topic you have been selected to expose this information about your personal experience to other brother and sister it's great job to deliver our personal experience and to explain the situation of great relationship between cuapule. The main element Allah relationship it will determine the guide us to right relationship between cuapule. Wish you all the best success and blessing. 💙💚💙💚💜👍

[@ashmash4563]

JazakAllah Khayr ❤

[@summerrain6125]

Not even Muslim but this is such sage wisdom. Can someone explain what shes saying after Allah? It sounds like "sapanatallah". Im sure i didnt spell that right but what does it mean?

[@MCCEastBay]

She is saying, “Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.” "SWT" is an honorable phrase used by Muslims to praise Allah whenever they mention the name of God. It means “the Most Glorified, the Most High.”

[@summerrain6125]

@@MCCEastBay thank you for informing me. I also started researching other Islamic phrases used to describe God. Very enlightening.

[@ninaagni4470]

Thank you for the advice. Look forward to having a harmonious family.

[@comedyalbums7202]

Sadly i have decided not to marry because indian muslim woman generally don't love their husbands unconditionally😢😢😢 and they always meaning always neglect them they are more focused on children and they never cry for their husbands if they die

[@sanji546]

Yes. Muslims marital therapist are much needed

[@norlailafe8523]

Assalamualaikum, im thankful Alhamdulillah to stumbled upon this video, I don't hv those senior who could impart me with marriage wisdom so my info always comes from watching islamic talks , alhamdulillah there are tips that i need to implemented and rethink my own mind set.. jazakillah

[@swtfrd]

Alhamdulillah MashaAllah such beautiful pieces of advise. May Allah blesses you for your good deeds

[@rizwanai8753]

JazakaAllah khair for sharing, and Allahuma Barik lahum

[@hanaanharith3496]

All this is wonderful in 'normal' marriages. Where you are able to apply a certain method and see its benefit. If you have a narcisstic partner (or other unrecognised personality disorder that otherwise makes them seem normal) it is utter hell on an internal emotional level and none of these advises are for you nor can they help. Your simply deceiving yourself and its like getting blood out of a stone. Please realise not all marriages will benefit for all this wonderful advise if its falling on a rotten heart. Sometimes it's best to cut your losses and put all this wonderful effort into yourself, children and other projects ❤

[@toyinramos]

I agree with you. Pray Allah changes them

[@nak.lanang]

What is normal nowadays actually not normal according islamic way of life. So this advice don't work for majority of peoples i guess

[@MCCEastBay]

Sister Hina mentioned at the beginning of her talk that the tips listed here do NOT work for those people who are suffering from debilitating addictions, vices, personality disorders, or mental health struggles. The advice here only works for those who are coming from a certain frame of mind. May Allah make it easy for all!

[@emeer5508]

@@MCCEastBay100 right

[@skywalker2176]

I know where you are coming from mental issues is a pain for both, one who has it and the one facing it. Sometimes both. But good news is Allah can cure it all, it’s never too late. Take help from Quran Tasbeeh (zikr) and most importantly salaah n dua ❤️

[@wafiqessop4034]

beautiful piece.

[@RecipesRumble]

JAZAKALLAH KHAIR ❤

[@samehaxj]

Really great reminder

[@YanaAlly]

MashaAllah Tabarakallah, thank you for sharing ❤️ May Allah SWT bless you and all of your family...Aameen Yaa Rabb 🤲🏻🙏😇

[@AhmedMohamed-no3xq]

Mashallaah great advice May Allah protect our marital

[@ibrahimhossain5732]

SubahanAllah Allah SWT bless you and your family in Jannahtul Ferdous

[@imranaboo433]

Great talk jazakumullah.

[@mannorizah4944]

Alhamdulillah! Good Sharing Thanks