Positive & Practical Islamic Parenting | Sr. Hina Khan-Mukhtar

Based on her popular 1997 parenting article "Raising Children with Deen and Dunya," Hina Khan-Mukhtar gives spiritual and practical insights road-mapping ten ingredients to raise God-conscious children in the West:
1.) Dua, Dua, Dua
2.) Suhba (companionship) will make you or break you.
3.) The Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) was a living, breathing reality in our lives.
4.) Having fun wasn’t “haraam” in our home, but we kept the home environment as pure as possible.
5.) Our parents didn’t just “talk the talk”, they “walked the walk”.
6.) I wasn’t afraid to be the Bad Guy, but I never behaved badly.
7.) I always kept them close by.
9.) Talk to your kids…with love.
8.) We didn’t spoil our kids nor did we praise them too much.
10.) They had a pious father who engaged them.
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Sr. Hina delivered this seminar on May 7, 2016 at Institute of Knowledge in Diamond Bar, California. This talk was delivered via the Muslim Community Center - East Bay (MCC East Bay) in Pleasanton, California.
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Hina Khan-Mukhtar is a married mother of three young men and one of the founders of the homeschooling co-operative known as ILM Tree in Lafayette, California, which now serves over 35 homeschooling families in the East Bay. In addition to teaching Language Arts to elementary, middle, and high school students, she is also involved in interfaith dialogue. Hina was a monthly contributor to The Muslim Observer’s “Raising Our Ummah” column. She also writes for Seeker’s Guidance, where she shares parenting advice and ideas for nurturing spiritual traditions in childhood. Learn more about her at hinakm.com
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[@farwinarshad388]

1) dua.. 2) Comapanionship 3) Talk about prophet muhammad 4)Having fun( keeping the environment as pure as possible & The media how to handle ) 5)Practiced with preached (islamic principles ) 6)Friendly with children 7)Keep the kids close to u . 8)Do not praise too much 9)Talk to kids with love 10) engage the children( pious father )

[@megnelli]

I decided to re-parent myself as an adult starting in my late 20s after much struggle growing up. This is helping me tremendously to understand how to provide myself with an upbringing I needed. Thank you.

[@Amy623]

Masha'Allah! I feel exactly the same. Alhamdulillah

[@jessicaelkins2192]

Mashallah! How did you go about this? I’m interested for myself.

[@queencess93]

Same situation and same goals! We got this Insha’Allah

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[@queenslove92]

Forget TED talks this was GOLD.

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That's very true

[@khalaydaaziz864]

Assalaamoalikum i am from trinidad i have four kids n all practise their islam from an early age like yor friend son n all marry to muslim n practising muslim family alhumdulillah our second house is our masjid n our kids grow up their also alhumdulillah jus sharing

[@aytoz4232]

When I looked at her, I thought she was a young girl, but when she said my first child was born in 1997, I was shocked. Allahuma barik her age .

[@MARKAATIGA]

Say acuudu bilaahi minishaydaani rajiim

[@RIMJANESSOHMALOOG]

when I was 10, I started to pray at masjid, although my parents are not religious. I think my teachers had a part in this, but not all kids in my situation were interested in deen. I was drawn towards truth and to being good. There's qadr of course

[@mrsme2859]

May Allah reward you sister that was packed with practical and applicable lessons. Very up to date. Every parent should listen to this.

[@tibzig1]

Our maulvi saheb in Pakistan would come to the house on Honda 175 cc (Bright blood red) to teach us three brothers the Quran. I was 13, the 2nd one was 11 and the youngest 9. Our maulvi was about 40 ish but a very jolly and talkative fellow. This was the mid 1970s and telephones were an elitist luxury in Pakistan, and we had one! Thus, the following arrangement emerged. Two of the younger ones would recite and learn the Quran while I would take off on maulvi saheb's Honda around the block for a few rounds. He had initially taught me the basics of riding the bike. Maulvi saheb would teach the Quran and use the telephone while I would make a few quick passes and return to finish up my lesson. We all finished our Quran and eventually all also learned to ride that bike! Wonderful memories!

[@locosmiley2008]

This woman is a gem

[@meeraalgheryani3345]

Incredible lecture, HIGHLY recommend

[@abaeem1694]

May Allah reward you for this wonderful gesture and efforts and May Allah guide the rest of us to the right path. Ameen

[@mosaviola1178]

Aameen Yaa ALLAH

[@imim9955]

Mashallah the best lecture ever!

[@kubrasth2760]

Such an inspirational talk! It also gave me a lot of anxiety as a mother of a 4 year old boy. I’m aware of the struggle raising a child in non-muslim community but the stories about the kids whose environment not controlled well and turn out to unfixable problems is very scary. May Allah guide us to the righteous path and help us maintain.

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[@febfabulous9391]

A story in suratul Kahf speaks about a boy whose father was pious, so yes the true piety of parents has surely a positive impact on children

[@njendu616]

Ma sha Allah ❤

[@momof3boyz]

Excellent talk! JazakiAllah khair. I'm halfway through just wanted to mention instead of saying, "they do weird things." I'd rather say inappropriate, disrespectful, or harmful.

[@hanansheriff8308]

Hold on to your kids why parents need to matter more than peers

[@shimmeringsunshine4312]

I’m so happy i came across this vedio. Jazakallahu khair sister for doing the hardwork for gathering so many examples for us. May Allah reward you immensely and bless you and your family with righteousness and guidance forever.

[@shaziarizwan4277]

JazakAllahu khairan kaseeran! I wanted to express my sincere gratitude to you. Rehmas, Barakah, and Fazal from Allah be upon you and your family for your efforts to uphold this lovely Islamic lecture! Ameen

[@hanoosh1100]

What a fantastic lecture, jazzak Allah kola khyr ❤

[@febfabulous9391]

I actually listened to this whole presentation and I cannot thank you enough. You've touched on the most pertinent points. Can you please highlight in the comments the 10 points. Dua etc etc

[@adzzed6422]

Salaam sister, you are truly an inspiration to muslima sisters, wives, grandmothers and etc. Culture is still a dominant influence in so many western Islamic societies perhaps 🤔 you can research and share your 💭 thoughts. (My bad if I haven’t seen it yet). You also touched on the subject of “family bond” In my opinion this implemented the core family values for which all parents (not only Muslim) should adopt. Thank you for such a thought provoking seminar and please forgive me if my words have offended anyone. Blessings Z

[@missiborauna]

I was not prepared to find a reference to 'Hold on to your kids' in this talk. It is a wonderful book and an eye opener.

[@shaistahussaini6580]

Jazak Allah khair for such a valuable input

[@abdessalambenbushayb]

Awesome. Thank you for sharing. May Allah bless you and your family. Please, keep more like this coming. I shared this video with several Muslim friends. May Allah reward you.

[@tyncha1]

May Allah help the Family who struggles with the addiction, I imagined the pain and cried. never thought that pornography could affect that much , thank you for sharing with us the information and stories.

[@mohamedsh9435]

Masha Allaah Sister, jasaaka Allaah khayr. I benefit a lot of dua which I don't do when I'm praying my children. Thanks

[@zahraibrahim3351]

Mashallah ,Excellent lecture. Thanks for posting it again

[@sayedpritom]

Thank you. May Allah reward you for the good work 😊

[@febfabulous9391]

SubhanALLAH! I will try and rmbr the 3 parenting ways I'm the word APA = Authoritarian Permissive Authoritative

[@naumanmustafa7728]

Masha Allah, very inspiring talk We Muslims usually are ignorant the factual life, and donor get educated, its right time to start now

[@rashdakhanam8763]

Maa shaa Allah, excellent tips.

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Mashaallah Allah bless you . Plz share this incredible video

[@azeezatadigun7171]

Masha Allah. Thanks 😊

[@SearomJung]

Thankyou ❤

[@birjeesshamim8602]

Excellent lecture Very beneficial Jazakallahukhairan kaseeran kaseera

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JazakAllah ♥️

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Mashaallah excellent job❤❤❤

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MASHA ALLAH ❤️

[@saimatx]

JazakAllah khair ❣️

[@birjeesshamim8602]

Jazakallahukhairan kaseeran kaseeran Excellent lecture, very beneficial for all of us Insha Allah

[@Amish07]

maa sha Allah tabarakallah❤

[@febfabulous9391]

Beautiful prophetic dua is regarding friendship. اللهم اني اعوذ بك من خليل ماكر عيناه ترياني و قلبه يرعاني and I think that's beautiful. Please translate it for your followers shukran

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Really great advice ❤

[@coneemathew9786]

Salaam. Great job sister

[@WahidgulReshtony]

May Allah give me such a spouse like you ❤

[@thinkactwisely1618]

Jazakallah sister very good advises

[@safdarali7019]

Great speech Masha Allah 🤲🏼🤲🏼🤲🏼 Keep doing this SADQA JARIA

[@wellborn5200]

Sadaqathun jari'a

[@user-hh6ef2of9s]

true practising make perectt hence we need to take care and make a routine to our kids to practise all these

[@mohammadkamal9795]

You are very high educated person and you have well knowledge of islaam

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MashaAllah 👌 ❤

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MashaALLAH thanks

[@corazondimasangcay8723]

salam po ustad I hear your discussion is good for children get learning about the Quraan.alhamdulilah.

[@VOUSTUBER]

I watched the weird stuff as a child...the days of VHS tapes. It was summer time in the 80's. It was group of us teenagers. Somebody in our group had a big brother and got the tapes and we would watch them in the day time when our parents were out to work. Fortunately for us it was mostly curiosity and nobody in our group acted out with each other and the group was mostly boys and a few girls. Thank Allah my curiosity was met during that summer and I never had a desire to consume more of those types of films later. I had a conservative nature and really thought those videos were very vulgar...I thank Allah for his protection during those years. I wasn't a Muslim during those years.

[@amaanullah13]

Masha Allah

[@mdjanina8308]

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[@abdullaha4686]

Well detailed explanation thank you sister

[@drgasbashir7817]

I thought that I can't have practicing family in western but after this video, I think it's possible and depends on your approach in shaAlh

[@shrkn1105]

Really helpful video. May allah bless you for this.

[@bozenagaek2264]

MASHA ALLAH

[@PeymanSultan-wn6iw]

Masha Allah

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VERY HIGH CREDID LECTURE ###LIKE FOR RECMMEND

[@febfabulous9391]

I would like to add another special Quranic Dua in chapter 46 verse 15 for all parents رب أوزعني ان اشكر نعمتك......

[@Amro-elbosaty]

@29:15 - Tip 4 Having fun wasn’t “haraam” in our home, but we kept the home environment as pure as possible.

[@abahruslan937]

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Well said

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Congratulations 🇧🇩🌺💐

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Alhamdulillah good

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The Life of perfection

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Assalamualaikum war wab,is good

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[@malaqutub5499]

Can someone please write the parenting book she mentioned

[@MCCEastBay]

“Hold On to Your Kids” by Gabor Mate

[@mehrunisa9241]

Book name?

[@MCCEastBay]

“Hold On to Your Kids” by Gabor Mate

[@khanofcaledonia6413]

Parenting in the west by Mohammed Bashir..

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You Impressive me

[@hockeysquad3468]

selam alkem can you link the book ? or a picture of the book

[@MCCEastBay]

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers a.co/d/2R3XvpR

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[@susi-ch]

There are good advices. But some are not advices, but personal experiences. So you dont have to take all the advices, make your own based on your family and your deen of course. This has to be clear.