HELP!!! My spouse won't let me get a motorcycle!

What do you do when your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend say NO to your desire to get a motorcycle? This week we will look at the story of one of my former students who faced this problem and we will talk about some ways that husbands and wives can settle this age old problem.
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[@emberducati9237]

My wife left a note saying, “this isn’t working,” on my Panigale, but she started up just fine.

[@Hurdl]

haha. Great :D

[@5280Roadrunner]

Comment of the year. Even my wife got a laugh from it.

[@Gammalgubbe01]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@MCrider]

THAT was funny!

[@gordonhenderson1708]

That's hilarious! Love it.

[@loveismotorcycle6281]

I was dating a girl when I started riding and she said "it's me or a bike". Dumped her and took the MSF course a few weeks later.

[@MattCassCook]

😂👍🏻

[@thomasche]

Way to go bro

[@loveismotorcycle6281]

Also, now have a much better woman that is totally cool with me riding, even if she isn’t keen on being the pillion. They are out there, folks.

[@TheBraveheart55]

Good for you my friend!!!!

[@dr.jekyll7908]

I told my wife i would like to get a motorcycle, and within the month she had helped me find one we could afford and also went and bought gear for me while I was at work. Absolute legend of a wife.

[@Steve-ec6ed]

either that or she took out a GREAT life insurance policy on you and didnt tell you.

[@dr.jekyll7908]

@@Steve-ec6ed haha maybe... Jokes on her though, I ain't dead yet 👌😝

[@jonathanvermillion7263]

Yes!

[@unclemikeb]

She is a keeper.

[@sailcraze]

That is rare.

[@wooksythewookie9832]

I'm so thankful for my wife. She told me, I can't stop you from riding all I can do is make sure you're doing it as safely as possible. She made a budget for me to get all the proper gear I needed: gloves, helmet, jacket, boots, even a solid pair of MC pants. She's incredible.

[@m-faccin]

Does she gives lessons? I might send my girlfriend to you wife school

[@shanep.9442]

Humble

[@Habitation333]

Sounds like a great lady. My husband and I both ride been together over 40 yrs and the biggest thing I've learned is love isn't a controlling thing, its a let the other grow thing. Just live life day to day and grow together. We each like different things and some things we have in common, thats what makes our journey together interesting. Breathe and let each other live life. Its good.

[@matthewlee4999]

Smart woman.

[@bobdecker2446]

Mine just increased my life insurance. 🤔

[@keystonedaytrip238]

She said “it’s me or the bike” , gosh I’m gonna miss her 😉

[@ttjbiggunner2025]

Ya that's funny but if your with someone you realy love it's hard

[@keystonedaytrip238]

@@ttjbiggunner2025 All joking aside ; I believe it . It’s a “problem” I wish I had :)

[@ilive4d80s6]

Well, luckily I'm still with my wife, and we got two grown kids now, and after that I finally convince her to get me a bike, and hers too. Of course I ride a cb300f, and she's riding a 150cc scooter

[@mr.solitude3352]

My wife is my motorcycle. The solo life has its virtues.

[@edwardjohnson5331]

AMEN BROTHER !!!!

[@scootinflh]

“HERE, HERE” raising my mug high!!

[@drumsnbass]

You’d enjoy the Better Bachelor channel on KZbin

[@petemorin3634]

My brother was foolish enough to say to my wife, “aren’t you wonderful letting Pete ride a motorcycle.” My wife’s response was great when she said, “ I don’t let Pete do anything. He does exactly what he wants.” A wonderful woman, 46 years married and counting.

[@ugetridofit]

"He does exactly what he wants" sounds like your brother is a selfish person.

[@steve00alt70]

​@@ugetridofit everybody is selfish in whatever they do.

[@darikdatta]

It is not worth being with someone who demands you give up things you love.

[@cisium1184]

This.

[@r.o.1330]

You're right. The motorcycle will be the tip of the iceberg. Signing up for a life of subjugation. That said I carry a huge life insurance policy in addition to what's provided by my employer. She'll live well without me!

[@smidkiff70]

That's spot on brother! Its a motorcycle now, what else will she demand next? Once that box is opened? It never gets closed.

[@TheBraveheart55]

Amen brother!!!

[@FrankZen]

Pretty much

[@mrsb5131]

My husband was going to get a bike and I freaked out, being the mother I am. Advised him it had to be a bike we rode together. I was still very hesitant. Most of it because I wasn't in control. Well, the hubs took his MSF course because it's required here, and then he encouraged me to take it too, just for kicks and our dealer was offering it at $69, a deal that can't be beat. Needless to say, I've been riding for just over a year now. We each have bikes. And now the biggest fights are who gets to buy parts first. Literally, best decision ever.

[@caseyw.8325]

My husband realized early on if he gave me that ultimatum.... I would have more room in my garage for bikes! He understands that my bikes are not going anywhere!

[@tphilpin]

If you purchase a one million dollar life insurance policy on yourself you will find that you wife will buy the gas for your motorcycle and hand you your helmet.

[@davehamilton8034]

👍🤣

[@russellinthebush2897]

She might by the gas, but will she hand you your helmet or hide it?

[@ronoldcross8189]

😄😄😄😄😄😄

[@ugetridofit]

How true....How true....

[@jonathanvermillion7263]

Ooowheee!

[@richardmclendon8314]

When I told my wife I was considering getting a motorcycle, first thing she said was "Make sure you have life insurance". I do, but the jokes on her. She ain't the beneficiary.

[@davidcarr5718]

I had a wife that gave me an ultimatum - "Either me or the motorcycles". I went the very next morning to the Honda dealer and bought a brand new 1995 CBR 900. Then rolled the bike into the middle of the living room. We were divorced within 6 months. For me it wasn't just about riding. Did I need a boss or a wife in my life? Could I live my life under a threat? The answer is obvious. I can't understand why a grown man needs permission from their wife. If you are in that situation... might be time to make a change. Thanks for the excellent content sir.

[@shanep.9442]

I agree, it's degrading having your spouse tell you what hobby you can or cannot do.

[@drumsnbass]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@andrewso1353]

Ditto! When my girlfriend and I used to date, she felt asleep on my bike. She felt safe with me. Now she is my wife, after 10 plus years, after hit by a drunk motorcyclist she freaked out. I told her to give us time to get through the fear... Still waiting which I respect and understand.... I am lucky enough to own and enjoy varieties of motorcycles throughout our marriage... a rare find but still waiting to own another motorcycle.

[@tpilot_error404]

How about a man telling woman should not be riding , especially big bikes. If an individual is grown up it's their decision , whatever the gender of that individual.

[@kyle2109]

I rode for many years before starting a family and became a full-time cager. Over the years after the kids were born, my wife noticed me watching as every bike passed us on the road. One day she said, “if you ever come home with another bike, there better be a babysitter on the back, because when you ride I’m going with you.” Eventually I did get back into riding once the kids were grown, but instead of her riding with me, she took the MSF and bought her own bike so we can ride together.

[@MikeDaily]

Oh the joys of being single...

[@gallopingalumphus5390]

Truth! sir.

[@sjhoover41]

Yep. People feel sorry for singles like there is something wrong with you. I’m single - I’m not bothered/depressed/suicidal about in the least. Maybe that’s because of the stress relief of RIDING A MOTORCYCLE.

[@MikeDaily]

@@sjhoover41 IKR?

[@beepbop6697]

Easier to ask for forgiveness, than to ask for permission. ;)

[@markrobson322]

My wife made a comment when I bought my bike 10 years ago and didn't tell her, somebody has a motorbike, I haven't heard before, mind you, I'd had it for a month, I said yeah it's mine, her reply, well you be careful on it, thanks to your channel Kevin I feel safe knowing I have the road skills and strategies learnt from a master... all the best from down under 🇦🇺🏍️🏍️🇦🇺

[@barriewilliams4526]

I didn't want my (then 63-year-old) wife learning to ride but gave way & now at the age of 83 & after a 50-year layoff, I am back riding with her on my own bike 😁

[@sheets99]

Our first date has on a motorcycle 47 years ago. Still riding

[@johnnyrodriguez5311]

My dad was killed on some type of scooter right before I turned six, so it was my mom who was against me riding. I learned from friends then finally had "that" talk with her when I bought a bike at age 27. (Yes, I was scared to talk to her) Years later she got to actually see me riding and it made her feel better because I was being safe.

[@andrewso1353]

That is exactly what MC talking about being honest and responsible. No one mentioned some of the riders does lots of positive moves... raising money for kids during holiday seasons... etc

[@pirateadam3686]

I was in a brief toxic relationship with a very judgemental woman who demanded I give up my bike and my license. I left that woman as soon as court was adjourned.

[@richardshilling2958]

My daughter started flying gliders at 14 so me having a bike is a walk in the park for my Mrs

[@flyguy1637]

I am also a glider pilot and a retired airline pilot and I tell my friends the most dangerous part of my career was the drive to and from work.

[@richardshilling2958]

@@flyguy1637 I believe your right. I'm so jealous of my daughter. She spends well pre Covid all day at the airfield. She loves it.

[@flyguy1637]

@@richardshilling2958 That’s great news. My daughter followed my footsteps and is an airline pilot as well and she agrees that the commute to and from work is the most hazardous.

[@johngilbert1047]

Couple years ago I wanted to start riding, my wife’s reaction was “ok, be safe. I don’t want to learn how”. She was at least open to riding 2 up. Took the MSF course thru a local H-D dealership, bought my first bike a month later. We enjoy day trips on the bike, and we’re considering an overnight trip on it next spring.

[@FarkyDave]

My wife is very supportive of my riding. In fact, she bought me a brand new 2016 Yamaha FJR1300 a few years back. This past August, she took an MSF course and earned her license. So, I bought her a new 2019 Honda CB500F and she loves it. In fact, yesterday after work (we are school teachers), we took advantage of the 53 degree temperature and went for a ride together. What a blast to be experiencing that kind of joy together.

[@RevJay_Rides]

I once thought my wife would have difficulty with it. However, she actually loves it. She was more for the bike than for a hot rod car. And, in many ways I think I’m safer on my bike than I was in my fast car. On my bike, I am hyper aware of traffic and road conditions. In my car, I kept pushing the limits. If you push your limits on a bike, you would be in a more dangerous situation. For some reason, the bike turns me into a safer operator. Does anybody else out there feel the same?

[@Hurdl]

totally!!. on the bike you can see more of your surroundings. There are no A or B-pillars, which could blocking your vision. AND the bike is smaller than a car... even though it is an advantage as well as a disadvantage.

[@joej2353]

I feel exactly the same way. I’m a much more aggressive driver than I am a rider. I’m also much calmer on the bike. Because I’m more aware of what’s going on around me, I’m rarely taken off guard by what other drivers do and I can just handle it and move on. My wife doesn’t care for it at all. She’s made peace with it. I never lied to her about it, but it was the first major decision in 36 years done without consultation.

[@loveismotorcycle6281]

Having had both fast cars and bikes, I disagree. A sketchy situation in a fast car, even at high speed, is still less likely to kill you than a low speed accident on a bike. You can have a head-on collision at highway speed in a car and survive, but a crash at just over walking speed on a bike is still a dice roll even with safety gear.

[@loveismotorcycle6281]

I do agree that being on a bike makes you less likely to make risky decisions, but there is always the SMIDSY (sorry mate I didn't see you) factor that makes riding a bike more of a dice roll.

[@ronbatt756]

I'm sure I'm a better car driver now that I drive a motorcycle. My awareness bubble has increased.

[@FranBunnyFFXII]

Pretty much the first thing i hear about motorcylces when i talk about them around non riders "But that's so dangerous!" And if they're rather fat, I often respond with "Yeah well so is being morbidly obese but that didnt stop you did it?"

[@uthantdillon3896]

Bro 😂

[@bruceb.harrison3470]

I’ve ridden for years and my sweet wife has twice shown herself to be a perfect partner. When I was in my 30s I mentioned that I’d seen a cool bike for sale in a front yard. She told me I should go take a look. I did, but then found that I could get a brand new Yamaha 1100 for less than the used one, so we agreed and I got it. Fast forward 30 years. I was nearing retirement and not loving the work I was doing. She came to me one day and said,”You need some joy in your life. Why don’t you go buy the retirement bike now?” Within a few months of research, I had my 2018 Goldwing in my garage. It has been a joy just as she predicted, I’m going to keep them both!

[@Habitation333]

Ladies, if you dont want a man who rides then why hook up with them in first place. I myself love riding with my ole man so much I got my own bike and ride beside him now. It's his choice to ride or not , just like its mine, dont cause waves over something you shouldn't be trying to control to begin with.

[@andrewso1353]

Well said! My wife felt the same with my passion❤️

[@Habitation333]

@@andrewso1353 it's a good time to share or do alone. Ride safe .

[@gruntsjh]

Honesty is the best policy. My wife accepted the fact that I want to ride. She got in our car and followed me around town to make sure I actually knew how to ride, safely. That helped my situation at home lol.

[@amirnovini8386]

Kevin, one of your best topics! I have been a pilot for 35 years, from a Private pilot to a fully commercial four stripe jet captain. Fortunately my wife was never an issue at least outwardly by the rest of my family were! Then later in life I decided to learn to ride motorcycles, suddenly my wife was totally against it - I got two rider courses, wore full gear, signed up for the spring of 2021 intermediate/advanced class and she seems far more comfortable.....I immensely enjoy riding as I see much like flying a ‘skill sport’ that needs constant training and upkeep. So she is tolerating my new hobby which I take very seriously, just like I did with flying until I sold my last jet on Monday and hung my stripes!

[@nbt3663]

I told my wife, "I need to live again, I'm going to start riding." She def did not like it, but she knew i was not going to not do it, so she didn't say much.

[@robnrbrtsn]

When my hubby informed me that he was offered a job at Harley 4 years ago, I knew a bike was in his near future. I was not thrilled, but he is also an adult. He shared everything he was learning as he took the MSF class, and even a lot of videos from this very channel. The spring after he got his bike, I asked to go on a ride. I had a death grip on him, but we didn't die! He encouraged me to take the MSF course to be a better passenger, and after I passed, one more 2 hour ride on the back of his sportster was enough to convince me that I'd rather ride my own! Now I'm putting more miles on my Sport Glide than he does on his bikes!

[@SirLoinofBeef235]

No wife happy life!

[@cisium1184]

I did not have a warm relationship with my mother, I have never married, and I have known very few women that I trusted completely - so clearly I am not the most well-adjusted man in the world. Nevertheless, I cannot wrap my head around the idea of anyone permitting his spouse to dictate whether he can or cannot ride a motorcycle - unless it were a legitimate case of unaffordability. Anyone who presented me with such an ultimatum would be on thin ice with me automatically.

[@davehamilton8034]

I don't know what that is, Kevin. I can't get my wife off my Harley! Makes plans every weekend. Can't get a minute alone with my bike!🤣 Youda best, Kevin!!😎

[@robtoma5650]

Time for you to buy her a bike

[@MotorcyclingwithCarl]

My wife asked me to stop riding when my son was born so I did. When he turned 21 I wanted to start riding again and it was a very long discussion but she agreed to let me get a bike and ride again. She always knew my passion for it so its not really what she wants but she knows it makes me happy.

[@fprintf]

My wife and I had the same experience up until getting the bike. She was still so worried about it that I agreed to do an off-road motorcycle (trials) instead. I must say I'm pretty happy with the arrangement so far.

[@DennisJPolson]

Great topic that hits close to home for so many. Thank you, Kevin!

[@dirtsurfer99]

Thank you for your thoughtful and well considered comments.

[@anthonydownes8769]

Absolutely great advice Kevin knees to the breeze regards Anthony from down under

[@1001CP]

A GREAT point today! It is so important to discuss the safety and the rewards of riding with your sig other. My wife knows she always comes first BUT she knos riding clears my head after a tough shif as a police officer and after I had to retire due to serious injuries from the job. She would not ride when our kids were young because if we went down hard we would both not be able to care for them. She still does not like riding. Im headed out this morning for a while while she is working from home. In a nutshell we respect each other enough to work it out. She is not fond of riding because of the danger but knows I have been riding over 50 years so not going o quit unless I have to. Then I will. Be safe my friends.

[@stephensledge13]

I am so thankful my wife was ok with me getting a bike. Her father rides so he actually made the way for me. Now my mom was not aware I was getting a bike. I was staying with her the night before my beginner MSF class and I had not told her about the class. It turns out she already figured it out and knew I had been riding because I had a bruise on the inside of my forearm where I had messed up practicing U turns in a parking lot, had gone in the grass some, lost traction and went down. Anyway she seemed to appreciate that I was taking the MSF course (military required) and she’s never voiced concern over it 12 years later. Long story but I agree about the risk. I don’t take unnecessary risk, riding a bike is about the riskiest thing I do. I don’t drink. I don’t speed (much) and I wear protective gear. I am the odd ball wearing a jacket with pads, FF helmet when everybody else is in T-shirts and half helmets. Great video!

[@cisium1184]

My Dad was a personal injury attorney and had a lot of motorcycle clients. He was older when I started riding and I did not tell him for two years. No ultimatum or anything, I just kept thinking of him lying awake at night, worrying.

[@andrewso1353]

I think everything has no sides, just like a coin depending how you handle yourself like MC said and suggested

[@PurpleOnThree]

Thankfully we BOTH have enjoyed riding mc's for the past 30+ years. And it's been a blessing to share the adventure together.

[@garystarnes5178]

My wife and I were back and forth for several months about motorcycle riding. Telling my wife about the MSF class is what swayed her opinion in my favor. I bought a 2008 GS500F in September of this year, took the MSF class the first weekend of November and have logged 400 miles in the mountains of east Tennessee in the last month. I am 50 years old and I am having a blast! Thanks for the great content Kevin. Maybe you can come to the twisties of east Tennessee sometime. :)

[@martinsikora8252]

Very helpful thoughts and perspectives Kevin! I changed my tactics in persuading my wife to let me back in motorcycling after moving across the pond where streets are narrower and she was not comfortable with me getting a new bike. AND IT WORKED!!! So I am getting back into the game and am SO THANKFUL for these advices! So see you on the road soon!

[@caseyw.8325]

My eldest son started riding behind me at 6yrs old. I do not Drink and drive! He is now 18 and on his 3rd bike! He rides a 1998 Valkyrie.

[@girishverma9780]

Early 40s here and I am among the fortunate ones where by my wife was OK wit me getting in to motorcycling. She says she probably wouldn't have back in the day when I wasn't as wise ;-). None the less, total noob here with a 5 day course under my belt, picked up a new Svartpilen 401 as my bike. Live in pacific coast and its been raining mostly so hesitant to ride the back. Till then gaining all the wisdom from MCrider and can't wait to get practicing soon. Thank you MCrider!!

[@roadglide]

100% on point Kevin. Truth with yourself and each other will set you free. MSF Course minimum and continued learning through training. Surround yourself with responsible riders who gear-up or go home. Life’s short, just buy the bike. Ride safely and ride often. Peace.

[@seriouslyflawed]

A very good discussion on what can be a tricky topic

[@SMKreitzer1968]

Well put together Kevin, hope that helped some folks out! I've been riding many years now, since I was a kid. My wife will ride as a passenger, and my kids too, they bought me a harness for Father's day so I have been taking them for rides for years. I am definitely one of the low risk riders, its all faster than the bus, bicycle, or walking and I don't drive. Thanks for the great content, God bless and stay safe.

[@MCrider]

Thanks Shayne!

[@jadedparadise19]

Great video Kevin! This could be an entire series.

[@paulcosbrook1952]

Be nice to see some feedback, wife is the keen motorcyclist. Or they both give it a go. Then Kevin will have some more material to work with. I am fortunate because I would tune a girl's motorcycle and let her ride mine ( small 2 strokes ). She became my GF now we are married with a 44 yr old daughter with a bike and a 46 year old son who rides ours when he can.

[@h.stephenpaul7810]

A few decades ago I was confronted by my then wife who said "You have three kids and a bike. Choose." That was a no win situation for me and honestly I couldn't disagree. I sold the bike but the deal was I could, on occasion, borrow a friend's bike for a quick ride. It worked out. Now I have three bikes and the wife is gone.

[@iallso1]

My partner has been a health and safety professional for the last 17 years, she accepted, slightly reluctantly, that I needed to ride a scooter in my work life. Initially she was not keen for me to purchase a bike for commuting and riding for pleasure. The commute using public transport was a real pain in the butt, so two months after getting my learners licence she agreed to me buying a bike. I Initially looked at a new MT-03, but she was hesitant at the prospect of spending so much on a new bike and so I purchased a second hand bike from a dealership at half the cost. I involved my partner throughout, she went in to bat on my behalf to get the best deal we could. The compromise, and its not much of a compromise really, was that I would ride in appropriate gear at all times. I purchased helmet, jacket, pants, boots, and gloves along with the motorcycle. She also encourages me to take the time to attend ongoing training, so far twice a year. She has no interest in riding, or being a passenger, and I don't push that. She has commented that she can see how much I love riding and has no intention of stopping me from doing so, she just wants me to stay safe and come home at the end of the day.

[@topherdalrymple6535]

I got lucky when I met my Wife.i used to ride colts for a living and when i quit i needed a new thing, a thing with a mitigated amount of danger and fun . Now i own a Harley Davidson sportster, alls well.

[@Bavenbushcraft]

I have to say, my wife is amazing! Even happy to contribute towards a bike purchase... Seriously! And she has no interest in bikes herself. So a big shout out for her being awesome! I have made clones, they go on sale in January!

[@normc4603]

Another great video!! Thank you Kevin.

[@MCrider]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@realist-2024]

My wife was worried but to her credit she understood it was my life and it was something I needed to do...she supported me.

[@t.s.racing]

A " believer " knows that HE'S in control. When you're called home, you're going home. Doesn't matter if you're on a motorcycle or feeding the homeless. MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL.

[@okiefred8399]

When I boughtught a 2015 street glide the guys at pig trails HD said it was the first time they'd seen the WIFE talking the husband into buying a new bike.

[@katrinalattrell4659]

My husband did not know how to ride when I met him, so I taught him. A few days after the honeymoon, he told me we were married and that no wife of his was going to ride a motorcycle. I told him to get busy finding her, because a brand new marriage like ours would certainly be easy to dissolve. That was 50 years ago. He rides an older Vulcan, and I ride an Indian.

[@glenns6923]

As my wife used to ride with me when we were younger, she has no desire to ride today, im ok with that and the pasanger seat is always open when wants to ride again. Be honest!! My wife asks me ever so often, "have you had any close calls?" and im very honest in my answers ....99% all great! 1% of the time i had a car pull out in front of me or .?. Do to MC Rider and others and my own knowledge im able to deal with it! do to your GREAT input of knowledge. Thank you very much for your time. And just that 1%!! I hear riders all the time every time they ride "wow" man that was close!! I don't what to ride like that!!!! Thanks again and God Bless.

[@cuffeteaghlach5617]

My wife refuses to ride but totally supports my love of riding.

[@williamwintemberg]

Kevin! That grin at the end spoke volumes! LMAO!!!

[@worldofzap]

My wife falls asleep on the back of my Ultra. 🤣

[@BigChuck525]

Mine passes out.

[@dgross2009]

None of my friends and family want me riding. I've heard about their injuries, friends deaths, one recently, and just respond by saying that it's something I always wanted to try and now love it so much I'm willing to put up with the risks. All I can do is try to be responsible, no drinking and riding, wear gear, watch KZbin instructors like this one, and try to practice in parking lots etc.

[@bullsfan3705]

My wife is a legend. I told her I wanted to start riding. She did the class (a couple actually) with me. We had so much fun and now there are 3 bikes in the garage. We go for rides together as much as possible.

[@realjoanna]

Not a spouse, but my mom had a fit. I was 51, no kids or responsibilities. I had been riding a year when I finally fessed up. Now she loves to hear about all my adventures.

[@wflentge]

The Safety Course idea is great. My wife and I had been riding together for about 7 years when she announce that she wanted to take a rider's course. I agreed and we got her enrolled in a ladies course to which she went with one of her girlfriends. She completed the course and I offered to buy her her own bike, but she didn 't want one as she was fine co-riding with me. I asked her why she took the course and she responded so she would be comfortable if an emergency came up while on the road and she had to ride it for help. Well we still ride together and it has been about 25 years now.

[@Marcus_from_OZ]

My wife made it clear that she didn't like my bike, or the amount of time I spent working on it, so I gave it to my brother. After about a month of spending all of my free time with her, when she went shopping, when she visited her friends, when she went to the hairdresser, she suddenly piped up one day with "when are you getting a new bike". It only took a month, but she's happy now.

[@doglegjake6788]

i grew up in irving and in 1977 i went to trade school in dallas i rode a honda 100 enduro when i was 17 , i rode it from irving to acard and corinth in dallas every day even in snow , rain , black ice , and the summer heat , it was the greatest since of freedom i ever felt in my life and i can say i never had a problem or a wreck at all it was awesome and i still want that since of freedom , i now hve a harley deuce that is show room perfect but i can say i dont trust other people on the road texting and driving so i just keep the bike in my living room just to look at it ... it would be nice to have that since of freedom back for sure

[@jps8941]

My situation is different, my wife cared very little about my safety she was more concerned about the 4000 i spent on my first bike . That was the Catalyst that destroyed the marriage but i have no regrets.riding a bike is the best thing i ever done should have done it years ago.Bikes before ............ and bros.Thanks to Kevin for all the training videos it gave me the confidence to ride and enjoy it so much.

[@mikec1254]

when I got married 32 years ago I already had a Motorcycle. Wife said she had 3 things she would like me to do. 1. always remember our anniversary & her birthday. (i have) 2. I can't have a girl friend ( don't want one) 3. Don't go to strip clubs . (well that cost money I could spend on my Motorcycles) Plus that shows a disrespect to your wife. . Still married and I have 4 motorcycles right now. She never said a bad word about me buying bikes so I think I can follow those 3 things she asked for . In my life i have had 8 motorcycles I still have 4 of them. If i buy more she will be fine as long i take her on at least one bike trip a year. Plus my wife knew i would never get rid of my motorcycle. I will quit riding when i can't get it off the kick stand or i need a gps to find my way home from the gas station that is a mile from my house.

[@gordonhenderson1708]

I was hospitalized after a nasty, my fault crash four years ago. Many of the hospital staff called bikes "organ donors" or "murdercycles". Their condescending remarks hurt. Just what a patient in the ICU needs to hear. I got back on a bike as soon as I could. I know what caused my crash and changed those habits. My motorcycle is life, and freedom. It's living. Enjoy living evryone!

[@NalinKhurb]

Bless you sir, keep the rubber side down

[@gordonhenderson1708]

@@NalinKhurb Thanks. In the hospital worker's defence, I know they see a lot of horrible injuries. I couldn't do their job.

[@kodiak536kodiak536]

My wife grew up with her father riding a Goldwing... I haven't had a bike in over 25 years and forgot all about riding one until.... I was looking to buy a new car for her and gone to dealerships for a new car. Looked at Camaro, trucks and ended up at Honda. Car salesman kept pestering us, one after next... I got fed up and we left car dealership. I told her I used to ride a bike, a Honda and they NEVER even bothered me when I bought my last new bike, a 1982 Honda CB 750 Nighthawk. She then told me about her dad and how she used to look forward to rides when her turn came to ride...2 sisters and a brother in family, one bike. So, I said to her let's go look at a bike, NOT that I want to ride one again after 25 years. 30 minutes later, we were at local Honda dealership, NOBODY even bothered to greet us or pester us desperate for a sale...we had to ask. Well, needless to say, we bought a bike that day. I wanted a sport touring, she wanted a cruiser... VTX1300R is what she settled me on. We're on our 3rd bike, 2nd Goldwing after that VTX. I had no issue with my wife NOT wanting to ride. Actually, she's the one who normally want to go for a ride on my days off.😎👍😁 Just went to Chesapeake yesterday from N.C, a 7am to 5pm ride, just go grab some lunch at L & L Hawaiian BBQ. She know I CAN'T resist that🤤😁

[@johnc8910]

I am lucky. I was riding when I met my wife in 1972. In fact, she wrote the check for my FJR1300 in May 1984. OK, it's a joint account, but you get the point.

[@danield831]

Why is it that whenever you mention to somebody; (friend, acquiescence, stranger) that you own/ride a motorcycle inevitably someone in the crowd will tell the most horrific story about a friend of a friend who was horribly maimed or killed in a motorcycle accident. I swear I can't count the number of times it has happened: " My uncle Bubba got his left testicle ripped off in a motorcycle accident".....Well gee thank you for telling me that. It makes my life so enriched, in knowing this....that was such an uplifting story.....is this supposed to make me feel better??....eye roll!!

[@danield831]

Sorry make that ** acquaintance NOT acquiescence

[@davidfisch7654]

My wife used to ride pillion with me. We just bought her a bike, and man, is she ever into it! She'll take MSF, and is watching videos and learning everything she can. Soaking it up like a sponge! Now her parents...they're not happy with us

[@timbarnett3898]

Yeah, I had wife tell me not to ride motorcycles! She's not with me anymore!

[@fernandosanchez-gd7oe]

Thank you , i hope my wife will understand this video so we both can tske the course side by side.

[@alp3781]

I own same bike as yours. My girl is so edgy when I go for a run or to work and I do understand her. She always says to me, who am I to dictate what you do or not with your hobbies. A leash belongs to a dog. I so appreciate her thinking. They need to take it or eat it, or leave !!!!!!

[@matthewschmidt1013]

We had been married about 23 years. She has always been dead set against motorcycles. I told her I was taking the class to see if I could pass. Would I even like it. To get it out of my system. After passing I told her I'm buying a bike. She said "I know". Still married (28 years coming up) and she still isn't a fan of me riding.

[@tim_gifford]

I can relate. We were married for 25 years when I told her I’d signed up for MSF BRC. She wasn’t happy but since I had just completed chemotherapy the prior year and in remission, she wasn’t going to make too much of a fuss. When I bought a used BMW K1200LT a few years ago, she decided to try riding pillion with me. (I’d had two other bikes prior). Heated seats and armrests sold her plus we always ATGATT. I bought a new Goldwing earlier this Fall. She insisted on test riding it with me. It met her approval for comfort, so we bought it! I’ve now been riding for 15 years and still married!

[@nairobi203]

Needed a vehicle and decided to go for an Aprilia 900 Shiver. It was never an issue to buy it and to ride it AND also to take not only her, but also my at that time 9 year old son and 10 years old daughter for longer or shorter rides. Actually one of the most enjoyable ride was with my daughter through Europe 2 years ago. I know of colleagues and friends who gave away their ride, because they became father or because their spouses did not want... Feel sorry for them By the way, since I ride a bike my whole driving way changed for the more safe way, not only on motorcycle, but also by car. I interiorised Road strategy (McRider concept -:). The best thing you can do....

[@tededmondson]

Rode a bike through N Vietnam back in 2000 at the age of 24. No training. Barely any safety gear. Nearly died several times, but loved every second of it and swore I'd get it done properly at some point. Fast forward 20 years, kids now late teens, and I figured if not now, when? I knew my Mrs would shut me down as soon as I raised the issue and we'd have a massive row. Given that I didn't know whether I'd actually like it or not, I figured I'd postpone the row until after I'd tried to get my licence, figuring if I didn't like it or just couldn't pass the test (UK test is different to USA) then I'd avoided a row. And it nearly came to that... Had a couple of dodgy days on the bike during training. But I passed and LOVED it. So the row happened. And she said a flat no. Been over a year since I passed and I keep looking longingly at bikes for sale, but haven't been allowed to get one yet. Hopefully after lockdown I might be able to.

[@daveco1270]

My mom was anti-motorcycle and that kept me from getting a bike for years. After she passed away from cancer I decided it was time to finally get a bike. Life is short, you gotta do what makes you happy. Nothing is 100 percent safe, but there's certain things you can do to keep the odds of living in your favor. I like to go read the motorcycle accident stats every now and then. I find it helpful to be able to break down the numbers. I think half of all motorcycle accidents involve alcohol, so by not drinking and riding, you improve your odds greatly. We also know that younger men tend to get in more accidents than people over 30.. That's a combo of ego and testosterone and thinking you're young and invincible. So ride like an old man whenever possible and your odds of staying safe go up even more. . : ) I just turned 50, so riding like an old man is getting easier for me.

[@kuino1739]

I'm a new rider who bought a bike last Christmas and start riding every chance i got by summer i was riding like 3 times a day and my wife start not liking that to the point where one day I came back from riding and she was pissed off cause we had plans any way I didn't remember but she start to going off on me saying that lately I was all about the bike that I was mounting my bike more than I was mounting her !!! of course I found it really funny and start laughing and that pissed her even more. funny story ! She's getting used to it now

[@pstain2019]

Mine found out when she pulled into the garage. We were done a month later. Obviously she wasn't the one for me. My harley has never disappointed me. No regrets!

[@fridaythe13th389]

My wife 1/2 jokingly told I needed to increase my life insurance if I was gonna buy a bike. I upped the accidental policy and then I got the Harley. I’m happy and so is she. 😂

[@jimgravante6497]

And I must add that when I’m about to take a Bike Ride, my wife now tells me to “Use all your skills out there,” instead of please be safe...that puts me in the proper mindset.

[@robnrbrtsn]

In Wisconsin, "watch out for deer" is the same as "I love you."

[@AmerSheikh]

She said ride..I am happy to see you happy riding 😉

[@Bob-fy8bt]

I always wanted a Honda Nighthawk 750 and I found a cherry 1992 model a few years ago with only 750 miles on it. The guy that had it bought the thing and didn’t tell his wife. It was such an issue for the that he never rode it. I love that bike! A lot more miles, but it’s still in mint condition.

[@MrTattooed81]

Buy the bike if she loves you she will support you even when your wrong. If you loves you she will pray for your safety.

[@boggsie62]

A 99 Triumph Speed Triple found me one day so I went home and told my wife "I'm buying a motorcycle"! What kind she asked, a Triumph I said...oh that's cool...gotta pic? I think google does. Found it as I hold it up for her to see I hear...that's not what I was thinking!

[@dougfisher1885]

I am very Lucky when it comes to this subject my wife loves to ride and absolutely loves Harleys I started riding when I was 17 so their wasn't much room for debate and already had a ,90 softail custom paid for she wasn't to crazy about the seat on the 90 and it rode kinda rough so she bought me a 03 road king ( whoo) I'm very lucky to have her not just for that for every thing she does for me

[@shannonchurchill4556]

I had been without a bike for several years when I met my future wife in summer 2013. I did a Yamaha demo event at Malcolm Smith’s that fall and rode the newly released FZ-09. The following January I randomly told her that I had half a mind to go buy one. “So go buy one” she said. That’s when I knew I had the right girl. We’ve been married 5 years now. Side note; after a few close calls with typically distracted SoCal drivers, I decided I didn’t want her on the back if something ever happened, and started to convert it to a single seater, removing the passenger pegs and adding a seat cowl. She said “To me that says ‘single’”. I said, “To me, that says ‘no passengers’”. She seemed to be OK with that.

[@egjones1976]

My wife told me that she was peregrinate 6 months before my 40th. My response was that I was going to have my mid-life crisis and get back on a bike after 15 years. Her response was I "could" get a bike and my M endorsement as long as I wear my gear all the time. Easy deal to make.

[@derekhunter5040]

She was morphing into a falcon?

[@vincentmcclain9307]

We both took the class separately She bought me an 05 springer classic I took her for a ride she got off and said”If you think I’m riding back there your nuts,” The next year I bought her a soft tail deluxe.Her next bike was an 2011 Street Glide and now a 2017 RoadGlide S we have had some real fun over the years.wear our gear, read up each spring.We are 62 years old with no intention of quitting He dad was a motorcycle cop she has his DNA.There are a growing number of lady riders jut get out there !.

[@chrismooney5737]

I’m thankful for my wife she never had no problems with me getting a motorcycle I talked about getting for many years but at the same time I was afraid of getting one but wanted one so bad still and she told me if you wanna buy one and do it and this year that’s what I did I rode about 3 months and I didn’t really mess up none did really well besides when I put it in my building I thought I put the kick stand down and yea lol then I had this car came into my lane she was on her phone and she hit me I came off the bike flew into her car my arm went through her windshield got a pretty good bit of stitches had bruises all over my body and my wife didn’t even say your not gonna get another motorcycle or nothing I like that few months I went bought my 2nd bike she even went with me when I bought it

[@paulcosbrook1952]

I was on a group ride one day when a female pillion fell off as her rider left the road. I supported her in the gutter as she had sore ribs and possible broken wrist, until the ambulance arrived. End result she dropped her partner/rider and learnt to ride herself Now she can ride her cruiser better than he ever could.

[@flextron5]

I had a similar problem with my mother. Always concerned when I rode and even at 50 yrs old would give me a "lecture" Figured what she didn't know would hurt her since I lived in another state. Kept the secret for years until my wife decided to return to riding. The short story is we went for an easy ride to get her re-acclimated. She ended up dropping the bike on her leg which required a trip to the hospital. At the same time my son who was deployed in Afghanistan tried to call me and I had to tell him there was an accident and I would call him back. Well he got curious and contacted my niece who called my sisterr who called our mother. Well the truth got out and she found out within 15 minutes of the "accident" from halfway around the world. I never heard the end of it and still get lectures .....

[@gordonwheeler6630]

My wife was great only thing she said was not to call the bike by a lady's name as she said there's only room for one lady in this marriage 😁i said ok as long as i get to ride it 😂😂😂

[@paulh6591]

Luckily for me, I was already riding in the mid-1980s when I first met my future wife. I ride every day as transportation, and that's been going on for decades, so she's used to it.... but she's not so happy about my new interest, powered paragliding. She has an MC endorsement, got her to ride an '86 250 Honda for a while in the 90s.