Meeting death on our own terms | DW Documentary

At the end of life, many people end up in a hospital. Whether or not they would prefer to die at home, more than half of the people in Germany die in intensive care units. Some die in nursing homes and a few die in hospices. Why is that?
Most people want to die at home. But only very few manage to fall asleep peacefully with their family. Take Ingrid L., who’d been in a coma for three months following a cardiac arrest and was on a ventilator. Her husband was desperately fighting for the doctors to follow her living will and let her die. "It's a horror! She never wanted to live hooked up to machines for months on end, like that," he said.
Modern medicine is making it possible to keep people alive for longer and longer. However, hospitals can also earn a lot of money by treating the seriously ill, especially in intensive care units. Intensive care physician Uwe Janssens believes that, when it comes to death and dying, economics often play a key role. People die almost every day in Janssens' intensive care unit at St. Antonius Hospital in Eschweiler. More and more elderly patients are on ventilators for an indefinite period of time. Doctors, nurses and the hospital's chaplain meet regularly to discuss ethics: Should a critically ill patient be assisted in dying, or kept alive artificially? What is the aim of therapy? What is the patient's will? What is medically feasible, what makes sense? Even for doctors, decisions at the end of a patient's life are never easy.
The film touches on a taboo in Western society. How can people be protected from artificially extended morbid illness, yet still receive the medical help they need and want?
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[@Austin8thGenTexan]

In 2013 my father died in a 28 bed nonprofit residential hospice in Tyler, Texas. I followed the ambulance for 30 miles from our family home to the hospice. The EMTs told me not to try to keep up with them should they turn their emergency lights/siren on to rush to a hospital during the journey. I then showed them a copy of the DNR orders, and they said "never mind. If he dies during the trip, just meet us at the hospice and we'll take it from there." I was so relieved. They took wonderful care of him for a week, and then he quietly passed away while I held him. He was 85, and suffering from congestive heart failure. None of this hospital bureaucracy nonsense. ❤

[@avalon1rae]

Blessings

[@nicholaslandolina]

He wasn't suffering he was neglected by the people that should have helped him

[@haloskaterkid]

My condolences. Being present with him while he transitioned from this life must have been such a blessing. I’m sorry for the ignorance some are unable to keep to themselves. May your father rest in peace

[@anne-marieriamitchell1140]

I assuming you are in the US? But it’s the same here in the UK but you must the letter signed by a doctor on hand or they will do cpr they have to without the letter

[@hamzamustafa7674]

😊😊

[@NS-my5ko]

I’m a hospice nurse and I’ve had several of my patients tell me they want to pass peacefully in the comfort of their own home. When the patient and family are on board with hospice, their passing can be beautiful, with minimal pain, symptoms, and lots of love and support.

[@koen6903]

My grandmother wanted this aswell, unfortunately the doctors deemed her too sick to do so. She died last october. I suspect another reason for not letting her go home, but it should be a persons right to die at home if they wish.

[@andresmattos7541]

WHY IS THAT IN EVERY VIDEO ABOUT HEALTH YOU ALWAYS SEE A RN SAY I AM A NURSE SO AND SO AND SO, ALMOST NEVER I SEE AND MD BOASTING ABOUT I AM A DOCTOR YATA YATA YATA.

[@juanitarichards1074]

@@koen6903 In NZ luckily all hospital and hospice care is free, so there is no profit motive. Many patients, like my mother, come home to die and have excellent care from the local family doctor and the district health nurse who support the family in the care of their loved one in their final days.

[@juanitarichards1074]

@@andresmattos7541 Below there is a comment by an MD....perhaps you don't read far enough.

[@kukuakukua]

As a former hospice nurse too, I agree with you 100%

[@gillianraney5814]

After a 20+ year career as a Paramedic, I feel like so many people are absolutely TORTURED in the end of their life. I would never want the level of suffering I see for my family or myself. In the US, healthcare is so money driven, that there seems to be no end to the amount of intervention hospitals will provide. Educate yourselves, make end of life decisions when you’re young and health, and protect those decisions with advanced directives in a will/trust. Those documents also protect your family from having to bear the burden of making end of life decisions for you.

[@harlinaindra4899]

sometimes it is hard to say, stop, no more medical interventions. People may see you as someone who does not make an effort to get better.

[@GloryDaze73]

I think this is good advice. I think people need to be more practical and pro active. I don't want to suffer at the time of death....i don't want to be kept alive by machines. I don't want pain at the moment of death.

[@marilynb8136]

My 80 dear old husband told me "no more doctors. No more blood draws. No more meds!!!". He had end stage renal failure and was just done. I agreed with him and made sure his wishes were observed. He died at home on hospice.

[@peterhanssens7260]

One of my siblings died of stage 4 breast cancer at home hospice care. She was not in pain and died peacefully. Her bedroom was full of love and comfortable, it all happens very quickly and you are relieved that the suffering is over. Cancer can be very unforgiving and emotionally very draining.

[@susanspalluto4359]

Amen As it should be

[@vanessah4964]

My twin was dying of stage 4 metastatic cancer and it was a calm, peaceful death. Hospice is so important and family/friends that don’t want our loved ones to suffer. Lots of cuddles, medication, laughter and tears

[@chrisj8764]

Hospice care failed my father.

[@bethhelton3923]

Hospice did not help me. I only saw a nurse once a week. Took myself off after 6weeks.

[@ausept45]

Hospice offers no personal care. I called them the boppers. Bopp in and bop out. Your family will change your diapers,

[@bethhelton3923]

@@ausept45, so true. All they do is give morphine to shorten life. The families have to do the personal care

[@catalinacurio]

I don’t want to drag the dying process on and on, we should have the choice to die peacefully rather than taking up valuable hospital beds. Dying isn’t an illness, it’s a natural process.

[@emepleez]

My Mum is currently dying at home.... any time now....... I can't imagine sending her to the hospital at this point to be hooked up to a bunch of machines.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ -- Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@ennykraft]

I nursed my mom at her home till she died. She wasn't afraid of dying. She said she had a wonderful life and now it was time to go. Fortunately she had a wonderful doctor that made sure she was in no pain. The hospice nurse was useless. She opposed raising the morphine levels because that would hasten death. What the heck is a couple days more or less? When mom died, I was relieved because her struggle was over. Then I was heartbroken. After ten years I'm now happy to know that I was able to support her so that she could die the way she lived and I'm at peace. Sending you lots of hugs!!! You are doing a very good thing.

[@zinaidaparker4448]

❤

[@Peekaboo-Kitty]

What makes you think she will be hooked up to a bunch of machines? My mother died in Hospital and they didn't hook her up to anything.

[@emepleez]

My Mum passed 2 weeks ago.... she had a full dnr in place..... the person who was with her at the time, at her home, panicked and called 911. They were going to put her on the floor to administer cpr because she had faint shallow breathing. I was on speaker phone and yelled at the response team not to. Thankfully my Mum passed as they were observing briefly. Some places are different than others. I wasn't saying all hospitals would hook her up but was just saying I wouldn't take the chance. I hope your Mother had a peaceful passing. Take Care@@Peekaboo-Kitty

[@FloridaIsOneHellOfADrug]

Great video! I agree with Dr. Uwe Janssens , that it should be mandatory for every hospital to have an ethical policy/ committee. Dignity, not profit, should be of the utmost importance, at the end of life care.

[@CadyCadwell]

you do realize hospital is a business right. NOT charity. you'd think they'll do something a that isn't in their interest, which money money.

[@VMM34]

I wouldn't trust the nurses or doctors, or management in my local hospital. To put my life, or my health, or death into these people's hands would be insane

[@nohandle62]

They don't give a rip about dignity. 🤬

[@Peekaboo-Kitty]

How does anyone die with "Dignity?" It's such a lame term.

[@gcaltest15vusdcan32]

Excellent! DW has never disappointed me! Thank you again for such an excellent work. This make me think and plan ahead of time. ❤

[@DWDocumentary]

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[@-runningwithscissors-9766]

At what point does "Prolonging Life" become "Prolonging Death"?

[@madhuriprabhaorugunti7634]

Wonderful documentary, My Da was diagnosed with lung cancer stage 4. By the time I came to know, was too late. I pushed my family to get him into a hospital, but he refused and he passed away at home. I think this documentary has a closure to my guilt, of not being by his side. Just two weeks ago my Mom passed away from colon cancer. I now understand that death is a boon for people suffering. I’m a very spiritual person and now I have a sense of peace and hope that they are in a better place 😔

[@mohammedamirshamsi4579]

How old was your dad when he passed away?

[@madhuriprabhaorugunti7634]

@@mohammedamirshamsi4579 He was 70

[@larsonlevius1753]

In some cultures we celebrate death as we celebrate birth, each cycle of life has its own beauty and learning to embrace the temporary existence of all living beings is what makes the beauty of this world shine . I wish everyone can go past that and move on forward after passings of your closest souls 🙏🏻

[@bravequest8078]

Amazing. Which culture, I am curious? Death has been such a taboo topic all my life, no one talks about loss, we don't cry in front of each other.

[@katherinekramer7102]

Hindhu Bali. In toraja one of island in Indonesia the family kept their death family at home. Good it or KZbin it.

[@Pbav8tor]

The most important things a compassionate doctor can give their patient and the family is honesty. My mother and grandmother died at home as I intend to.

[@travelingdude33914]

My father died comfortably at home as he wanted. The hospice nurses were amazing

[@acajudi100]

In my sleep, and direct cremation. NO service. No hospital or drugs.

[@clarencejacksonjr.]

My mother died in the hospital, and so did my brothers. My father died at home. I have an advance directive where I do not want to be on life supporting equipment if my death is imminent. I just want to be on medication to keep me comfortable.

[@russianaloha4576]

Im a chronic pain & dual diagnosis patient. The only thing i want is to be pumped so full of pain medication that im actually painFREE for once in my life. Even its only for my last day. I think whats the saddest part is the dying can get what they want or need but the living cant.

[@TishMclain]

I understand you completely I have chronic pain (arthritis) n COPD n fibromyalgia n can't get any pain medication to help relieve it Have had it for many years n its getting worse!

[@seekinmyshadowlands6875]

Amen sister ....

[@Chelle1214]

I have severe vascular EDS and I am so very grateful for my very competent and realistic pain specialist who keeps things bearable but a couple of days of absolutely no pain at the end would be really bloody nice

[@isimonsez]

For me, it all comes down to, will I have a good quality of life if I make it out of ICU/ventilator. If I am not able to walk, feed myself, bathe myself etc. I don’t want to continue living

[@socialistforum7055]

Oh yeah

[@christiaancoetzee2964]

I suffered a heart attack and stroke in the past 18 months (good health otherwise with no chronic conditions apart from a damaged heart) and this made me think about the best option should I have an option on where to pass. I am of the opinion that a neutral environment will be best for my loved ones as dying at home would in my opinion create a negative memory in that area of our home and my family would constantly be reminded of this event in their everyday life. A prolonged illness at home would also burden family and loved ones. I do not want to be kept on life support and being religious, I believe the very second of death is decided by God and therefore the thought does not alarm or scare me. I was told upon my last discharge to get my business and paperwork in order as I am a high risk patient and I appreciated the doctor's honesty (very professional to ensure. patient is well informed); however did not sit and wait for it possibly happening, but am enjoying life. Had some major improvement since and appreciate every day.

[@KiwikimNZ]

Aww that is such an unselfish way to think and very admirable of you. I hope you are doing ok ❤

[@TheRealHempress]

Don't listen to these people, they are run by an agenda that wants to put you under!

[@Veronica-tn2xc]

You're so right. You care more about your family than yourself and that's pure love. Stay strong please 😊

[@annaal7480]

I think you need to talk to your family. Maybe their opinion on home dying is different. My husband died at home suddenly and it was the reason for me not to sell the house for a long time, although I should have. It was too big for one person and I needed the change after his death but I was hanging onto it for 12 years.

[@fionasaunders7646]

Money money money it’s all big pharma, squeezing money out of patients and their family. Making money and making false promises.

[@yoursubconscious]

my fear is entering and "not being allowed to leave" and then die of sadness in the hospital.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ -- Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@VMM34]

That certainly would happen in my local hospital

[@sapphirerain70]

My father is the same way. He has Parkinson’s,chronic constipation, extreme weakness. He just came home from the hospital again yesterday. He had pneumonia for the 4th time since Christmas. He has had congestive heart failure and you can not understand a word he says. Caregivers are there during the day when I can’t be there. I spend every weekend with him. I live an hour away from him. I bathe him,do all the shopping and cleaning. The doctors and nurses plead with him to go into a facility as they have done for several months and he insists he is going to die at home. He hasn’t gotten out of his chair since he got home yesterday. He has a permanent catheter and he is too weak to empty it himself. I love my father and would do anything for him. I been taking care of him for years now and he’s declining so fast. I am tired. Family members call me constantly, and I just can’t sleep. I understand wanting to die at home, but when it becomes unsafe…😭..I am afraid to wake up and he be gone in his chair. It’s a lot of stress and I do it for him. But I am wearing out. I have a daughter who lives with me who is autistic. I love my dad to bits, but I will never put this strain on my children. I am not eating right and I am diabetic, I’ve already had a heart attack. It’s hard and exhausting. I feel bad for complaining but it’s the truth. I don’t want to lose my dad, but he tells me if I put him in a place I WILL lose him. I am terrified of having another heart attack and not being able to do anything to help him.😢

[@yoursubconscious]

@@sapphirerain70 - oh my!!! no words can give support to what you are going through. Though, know and remember, you got random ppl. who are listening. You are, needless to say, a very good person. Life is about these things. We have to accept the challenges (easier said than done, but...), so that we can share knowledge to those who might face similar challenges. You are a great example of "a power house of a person". keep strong! you're doing good things! 🙏

[@KiwikimNZ]

I personally think that elderly dementia patients who are living lives that are usually not very nice lives should be taken off all of the incessant medications keeping them alive it’s cruel

[@dianehess5520]

Well said.

[@bereal6590]

I see it as cruel as well prolonging lives that are miserable with severe disease. If I wouldn't out my cat through something that would make her life prolonged but awful, I wouldn't want it for myself either. My cat has the option to be euthanized but people are dragged through so much pain

[@jennybaber3563]

It's a hard call...my dad was in ICU and on life support for 6 months and he came out of it.

[@ramoned7580]

I'm sorry but 6 months is not years

[@harlinaindra4899]

@@ramoned7580 it is expensive though

[@simonfraser1491]

Is he still alive? How is he doing now?

[@jugemujugemugokonosurikire4735]

​@@ramoned7580 Believe me, 6 months in this context feels like 10 years. Every second of every day you're just worrying about your family.

[@neen42]

​@@jugemujugemugokonosurikire47356 months is an unbelievably long time in this context.

[@TomaToma-z1n]

My grandma passed away in her own home peace fully

[@rachelfrees1268]

My kidneys have been failing for years. I’m 84 and will not have dialysis. Hospice will be my way to go. Praise God.

[@Austin8thGenTexan]

Peace be with you, sister Rachel... 🌷 🌿

[@mhermit]

How are you?

[@jetblack2460]

Hospice and palliative care those are the two words we need to know when it comes to end of life for any loved ones.

[@socialistforum7055]

Nobody believes you

[@socialistforum7055]

Nobody believes you

[@sanchezhandymen3444]

It was my experience that the doctors did not want to tell me my father was months away from dying. I think they try to be courteous and respectful of the family BUT it would have been better for me to know that he was at the end of life. I struggled deeply with the decision, and proper information would have made my decision easier. I just wanted the truth as hard as it was. I did place him in hospice and it was an amazingly beautiful, respectful death surrounded by his family. I set up my home to welcome visitors and he was able to say goodbye to all and at his pace and with dignity. He was so strong, and continuing to be grateful for all that life had given him. I was the one making all the medical decisions and it was hard and confusing and full of self doubt. But we got thru it and hospice was a blessing. My father was a man who liked to be well dressed, when he died we dressed him in his finest, the funeral home took him out the house looking like he was going to church instead of a hospital gown and all that goes with dying in the hospital. I know he would have loved that, it really brought us comfort in the middle of the pain. Not for vain reasons just plain respect for a great father. He was 91 years old, May we all find peace.

[@susanspalluto4359]

Amen

[@Sandywarhol645]

Canada is horrible for taking choices away. I was resuscitated, put into a coma and on life support, very much against my wishes, DNR, and directive, last year. It made me sicker and just made the road to the end much more painful. In my experience, physicians, nurses, etc, the people who are supposed to help you, harm you the most.

[@huluqi3972]

You have a fair point The modern medical is the same as the old ones, there are good ppl, there are bad ppl As ppl are about to go extinct under the aggressive modern progress, 'sadly' there are more bad-behavioured ppl than before(mostly due to greed/mass population), such means are now seen as the necessary path to survive/thrive as an individual, to achieve the same standards as the boomers under fierce competition for less/fewer food/resources

[@coolbreeze5683]

That's terrible. I'm sorry that happened to you. If you had a healthcare directive saying DNR, they were supposed to honour that! It's very strange that MAiD is accepted in this country yet they couldn't honour your wishes at that time. I've had my own issues with doctors. I have an autoimmune issue that can't be diagnosed and instead of investigating, they gave me a bunch of Clonazepam to take. Benzos severely harm people and I refuse to take them.

[@elizabethmcleod246]

I agree. I was 51 and my GP and every specialist she sent me to were dismissive of my 24/7 burning pain. I had a severely pinched nerve in my groin. I couldn’t sit. I couldn’t lie down and sleep. I was abused, misdiagnosed ( with cyclothymia ) and mistreated for over 10 years. All the doctors committed fraud, they misrepresented the truth in their consult notes and they just didn’t care. I was left poly drugged for years. There was a surgery in Minnesota that could help me. I paid to see a specialist there and I was properly diagnosed and sent home with a treatment plan. The doctors in Vancouver and New Westminster did NOT believe the US specialist and I was left to slowly die from lack of pain control and severe sleep deprivation. The health care in Canada is broken. I had to hire and pay a registered nurse consultant to advocate for my surgery in America. The doctors kept saying they’d help me to get it and they lied. It saved my life.

[@pegs1659]

Yeah, I have short term memory but issues because of Xanax. I was on it 4 years and cold quit taking it. It was rough, but I feel so much better.

[@Sandaesa]

Canada has become a nuisance under liberal and NDP Punjab gooormant duffers.

[@Stolimel]

My mother passed in 2006 of breast and liver cancer. she wanted to die at home but her pain could not be managed well and she ended up in hospice. She was surrounded and visited by family until the end. I was with her when she passed. It was a dignified and painless experience.

[@barbiebeeks5280]

My mom was on hospice and i slept in her bed at night singing and reading to her and loving her the last week of her life. She died so peaceful thanks to hospice and im glad i got the last few months being with her and no regrets

[@pravinr197]

Thank you for the DW for such a nice documentary on Intensive care unit

[@DWDocumentary]

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[@bala247online3]

Indian culture teaches us "Vaidyo Narayano Hari" meaning Doctor is embodiment of God…I can see that honest and transparency in these doctors…tons of love and respect from India…hope to see the same commitment from all doctors in this cruel world…

[@coolbreeze5683]

For some doctors, it is a life calling and honour to genuinely help people and to take good care of their patients. Unfortunately, for other doctors, it is not their life calling and they do it for money or prestige. Treating it as a 9-5 job and gaslighting their patients. A doctor who is doing it for their calling are truly messengers from God. Those who do it for materialistic reasons are truly working for the devil.

[@chrisj8764]

@@coolbreeze5683 I agree - never regard a doctor as a God (from someone who is very grateful for the medical care I have received).

[@janesy7147]

"For many of them, DEATH is no longer the enemy." It may sound ironic given their condition but that is the ultimate claim of power considering DEATH is something most of us dread.

[@mwituamweene9850]

Triumph over the fear of death is the ultimate sweetness of life.

[@erikilla712]

I've been an acute care nurse working in hospital for 14 years in US. The hardest things I've seen is seeing a patient deteriorate on multiple admissions and family continuing to request aggressive and invasive treatments to keep them alive at all means/cost. I can speak of these many instances when the family is the one that wants to prolong treatment and hospitalization-not the doctors, nurses or even hospital, simply put if the family is not ready to let go, there's little recourse to take even with ethical commities in place- it's a long process to be able to let someone pass when family is involved, and/or a patient does not have Advance Directives in place . As the lady at 20:00min said-We have to learn to die, and I would add let go. When you see your loved ones suffering , hospice and palliative care is the best route, don't wait too long so they can transfer and make it home to pass in peace in their home..of course just my opinion.

[@churchofpos2279]

I worked as an RN for 30 years. If patients and their families had to pay the actual cost of aggressive treatment for someone , who is not going to recover, then I can guarantee they would not insist on prolonging their loved ones lives.

[@pearlyung]

Do not resuscitate is my wish

[@tracymcgrath1192]

As an end of life doula, home and not alone. The older I get, the faster life goes. We’re all so fragile. Equals that way. God bless 🙏♥️🌹 humbling. Best of humanity right here.

[@Selfishbynature1]

Awesome, very informative documentary. DW is the best channel for documentaries ❤

[@DWDocumentary]

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[@nilsanarvaez7947]

Another excellent documentary by DW! I love the translation.

[@mrc6301]

i have had af for 10years, 6 heart attacks and a wee stroke,. i have an active NRO ( no resus order) in place. i will have no pain only comfort and it will be over..

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ -- Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@Emy53]

My husband didn't want to be on any ventilators, but my brother inlaw was trying to demand that my husband be placed on a machine, against my husband's wishes. I knew what my husband wanted, and he never wanted to be here like a vegetable. He passed because he had kidney and liver issues, and had already slipped into a coma. I made the decisions for my husband based on his wishes. He was in hospice less than 4 hours, and he slipped away. They never gave him any meds, and all he had was oxygen.

[@PeteHob]

Your are an angel

[@juanitarichards1074]

I don't ever want to be kept alive artificially and this is reflected in my will. I have my best friend as my Power of Attorney who knows and agrees with what I want, as do my family. They all agree and feel the same way as I do. When our time is up our time is up. I do not fear death only the manner of my going. I also believe in euthansia when there is no hope and death will be prolonged and painful. I have seen first hand how all the pain relief and the best medical care is not enough for some cancer patients, my mother being one.......

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ -- Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@Shaftalooooo]

As a student Nurse, I aligned my life with saving lives. To watch this documentary and read comments. I have got a mix feeling but will always stick to what is matter to the patient would be important to me. On my hospital placement I found it very difficult especially when seeing people recover.

[@robertsherman9975]

Both of my parents passed away from cancer. They wanted to be cared for and pass in their home. Upon on passing, 10-12 of the 16 children were at their bedside. I couldn’t have allowed them to be cared for by strangers or in a care facility.

[@amandaamanda5398]

Not everyone wants to pass at home and with people around. For example, I want to pass alone on a remote sunny mountain meadow, with the view of snow mountains (such as the Everest). So the last thing I see is the holy snow mountain, the last thing I feel is the heat of the sunlight on my skin. And after that, I want to have a Sky Burial like the ancient buddhist tradition. I'm not buddhist myself, but it comforts me to imagine parts of me being with the birds hovering in the sky. There should be service providers to help people with the when, the where, and the how.

[@iona5439]

You won’t be with the birds… they’ll poop u out

[@Sandaesa]

Hospitals make millions by exploiting misery and pain all over the world.

[@breal7277]

Billions.

[@breal7277]

Don't forget big PHARMA.

[@KastenBuleleng]

My mother caught at 97 yrs old and died after 3 weeks in quarantine. Drs should not have prolonged her life for so long.

[@AaronAtkins1.]

My mother was not getting better. She had metastatic cancer. So she came home and we looked after her the last 3 months before she died. She was sent home with the injections ready so that when she became sicker they were able to give her a syringe driver. She was around all her loved ones downstairs in a hospital bed and this comforts me. She was getting upset in hospital. So she went home and when she needed intravenous antibiotics to manage certain infections they were able to give those at her home. I think its great if patients can be supported to be at home or in a hospice setting at the end of their life. It should be upto the patient and their wishes considered.

[@terryelizabeth2841]

Unless I missed it, what didn’t come out is what it’s like when a person is resuscitated from cardiac arrest. All of these elderly people have broken ribs and crushed chests after resuscitation that’s what it looks like.

[@SleeplessinOC]

Ugh …the thought of bones being broken or crushed or hurt in anyway ALWAYS make me wince .

[@classicrocker889]

If you can pass at Home , I think that is Best.

[@mikrobyo1790]

why would you care your dead

[@Mrwhosetheacrobat.]

😂😂😂

[@mrnarason]

Before your dead dummy​@@mikrobyo1790

[@huluqi3972]

It's how to die rather than where to die It's the dying process while you are still living@@mikrobyo1790

[@paranoidhumanoid]

If you're conscious or even semi-conscious, and you had the choice of dying cofortably with family and pets next to you in your own room, or some strange doctor and his staff in a cold hospital room, which would you choose? @@mikrobyo1790

[@mhermit]

I don't want to die in a home in which my surviving family would have to continue to live.

[@dadssong427]

Wonderful way to portray the real fact of life, loved every bit. Thank you.

[@Witchfoot.Incorporated]

If they’re brain dead, they left already.

[@bobsthea]

I do understand paramedics, doctors and nurses really want to safe life, but the person ailment feel by themself not government or anyone else on that matter even my own next of kin, so, if my illness feels too hard for me to bare, i might want to end my life at that moment and this should be legally inforced anywhere

[@Huldru]

My father passed away in June 2023 with doctor assistance. Unfortunately the process here in Canada is not very streamlined. He had to live with weeks of unnecessary indignity and stress before passing in the hospital. He would have preferred to pass weeks earlier in his own bed.

[@Idontcare8318]

There comes the need for Advanced Care Planning and Advance Directives documentation where an individual with chronic and advancing condition engages in an inclusive conversation with family and healthcare providers about future treatment while still mentally competent. It is all about a dignified and peaceful death in line with desires and preferences. Beautiful and enlightening information.

[@linehempel162]

I refuse to end up,enriching Dogters and hospitals,i dayly work with breathing dead patients,i have long-term plans as a RN,and my family are aware

[@jacquilambneveroncethought281]

Well I have a DNR which gives me some assurance that when the time comes I CAN JUST GO.

[@Fan-zx1lz]

A law of assisted Dying like in Switzerland that has to be brought into Germany too to handle these kind of situations. At this last end of Life stage a peaceful exit must be provided. No more suffering. Assistance in dying is the best to provide in these situations of extreme illness, no need to do any cross examination, this is insane level of torture for any human.

[@lovely-mk4rt]

We are Stardust

[@vvelasco54]

The Lender case is so sad but thank goodness they agreed on palliative care.

[@Oldeagle66]

I already have end of life plans. Doctors can pull the plug without family notification and ship me off to a body donation area.

[@alidabotes6264]

I also have a Living Will & my family know where it is filed. Initially they were angry but as they've grown older they understand. I've a chronic disease since my early 20's but it only permanently disabled me at 38. I'm now 75 & getting weaker. I will decide when the time is right. I also have a DNR attached to my Will & Living Will. I do not want my children to stand around my bed waiting for me to kick the bucket. I don't want them to have to go through that stress - it's unnecessary! .

[@iadorenewyork1]

Same with me, including the body donation. I am here in the U.S. Good for you, being prepared.

[@Pbav8tor]

Thanotopsis. Be not afraid. I've been a caregiver, and we can make choices. We can talk with our loved ones.

[@hiongun]

I'm quadraplegic lying on a nursing hospital, 54 years old. I expect me lying at least 15 years more, and I want to live on for now. I see everyday older patients suffering here without any meaningful life. When a patient dies, the first feeling for the passed is 'finally good for him/her.' Everybody knows that at least 1/3 of patients here are 'dead bodies, barely alive.' It's better off inject pacifying medication inducing a peaceful, decent death. But that's a serious homicide. We need a social discussion on using more actively some death-conducing medication, without risk of being accused.

[@amandaamanda5398]

It feels ridiculous that in a world acclaiming individual freedom and personal choices, we are so deprived of making the the biggest and final decision on our own life. I want to have the option of ending my life on my own terms, in peace and comfort, but the world doesn't even allow me to do research on my options. Every single time, search engines and AI bots gave me phone numbers of hotlines, which is not just annoying, but also utterly disrespectful ---- I should have the right to make decision on my own life, and the world should respect that.

[@amandaamanda5398]

I imagine there should be licensed End-of-Life service providers. You submit your applications to a committee explaining why, how, and when you want to end your life journey. If you meet certain legal standards (such as being terminally ill or permanently paralyzed), you can get served immediately. And if you are physically healthy, there could be a delay mechanism. For example, if you are over 40, you must submit application 3-years in advance; and if you are between 16 and 25, you have submit the application 10 years in advance, and re-apply annually. Psychologists will review your application and see if you can get help during the time. But in the end, if you haven't changed your mind in 3 to 10 years, then your application is automatically approved.. Then an EoF service provider comes in and helps you end your journey on your terms.

[@IamThatiAm420]

13 states offer assistance in dying if you have a 6 month prognosis.

[@vickiwaatti1076]

I want to go like my mom did. Totally out of it because of pain meds (she was in hospice but, at home) and just fade out with her family around her. She had congestive heart failure. The beautiful thing was hospice gave my dad an unlimited amount of the pain medicine and they also gave him an earth magnet in case her defibrillator went off. He would be able to put the magnet on her defib. and it would stop it from firing. He never had to use it.

[@PeteHob]

I hope and pray that is how my end comes

[@rosexo5778]

I think everyone. Every one of us should have the right to choose the way we want to die if we faced with that choice. It should be yours alone to make.

[@Emy53]

Families should not hold a doctor or hospital responsible for someone's death, especially if they are in poor health and no hope of recovery. These patients are actively dying....let them go in peace.

[@rosebailey3537]

Hospitals are businesses....make no mistake.. .the Hospitals get paid hundreds of thousands of dollars at your loved ones expense.

[@lzalab2286]

That’s is why it’s important to do your advance directives while you still young and oriented to your surroundings have it sign your self with lawyer and have it notarized( make multiple copies) that will save a lot of burden for your family and government.

[@chasjadmahmood4875]

In Islam when someone dies we say, "To Allah (God) we belong and to Him we will return". It's so soothing because He's the most beneficent and most merciful.

[@JC02official]

I would not be able to control my emotions having to see people die every day

[@rayflective]

I live in LA, the health care system here is NOT for the interest of the patient, I've been treated and become much much worse and been struggling everyday.

[@Mr.Carter97]

In my childhood, I was wishing to control my death by a button 🙂. Now I have become a doctor and I'm saving people's lives ❤🎉

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ -- Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@amywan1653]

Great respect to nurse Alice !

[@aikoysabelle]

i am a filipino working here in japan as a registered healthcare attendant in one of the nursing facility for 13 years or working i saw lots of people dying and choosed to die on our facility instead of dying at the hospital.its better to died in a peacefull manner compare to the hospital.

[@marcelaramirez2124]

When I’m 100 and I can finally say, I lived my life ….. I can only dream !

[@lindarice8876]

beautifully done, thank you. In the state in America where I live, we have the EOLOA Law. My husband took the option of assisted dying at home with a Hospice Doctor who administered a medication for him, after living with terminal cancer for 7 years. It was a blessing for him, for our entire family to surround him and bear witness.

[@suzanne296]

I'm going to turn 62 in summer and dying is my biggest fear.

[@ritahorvath8207]

I have been watching many many people telling about their near death experiences here on KZbin. Theiŕ faces ALWAYS lighten up when they start to describe what they have seen after leaving their bodies. An elderly gentleman said he is looking foreward to it every day. Going home, going back into love and light.

[@yamil.343]

You’ve still got a long way to go. Focus on the present & be in the moment. Works for me when I get anxious about it too. I’m 52. 😊

[@bethhelton3923]

I fear death myself. Have all my life. I am old now and have heart disease. My days are limited. No spiritual help.

[@gracepence7428]

Ask Jesus to be your Lord and Savior I promise he takes away the fear of death.

[@bethhelton3923]

@@gracepence7428, never took away my fear of death, that was when I was very devout. Now, I am old and have heart disease. Who really knows what happens at death.

[@katherinecarpenter4677]

Having no living relatives, when i do pass, it'll probably be holding the hand of a nurse i don't know.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ -- Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@Bluebird19-ll8su]

Me too, katherinecarpenter

[@catalinacurio]

That nurse will be someone who will know you tho, you can talk to them about anything with no concern.

[@gloriadrummond1874]

I’ll be holding Jesus’s hand 🙏❤️

[@Loveforbeauty442]

It’s just disheartening that we can’t differentiate if doctors are doing treatments for money or for the patient😢. This money thing is pure evil when it’s influencing every decision made

[@theconqueringram5295]

I don't know, but if I end up brain dead I would want to be allowed to die.

[@barbarasara4033]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@amwinenana9911]

DW thanks for this,you guys are the best,u have prepared me now for topics that were taboo before

[@DWDocumentary]

Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment.

[@D_isco_D_ancer]

"Death is a taboo subject". I would not say Taboo but very dedicated subject for obvious reasons. It should NOT be taboo and its should be a normal part of life.

[@ANKA.OUTLOOK]

Wow, another wonderful documentary as we expect from DW.

[@radosawszmid7822]

My biggest dream would be to die together with my wife at the age of 90 or so, peacefully during our sleep, so that neither of us would have to suffer the loss of his loved one. If that's not the case, I believe she could handle it but I'm not that strong... Thank you DW Documentary for what you're doing for us!

[@DanielleRadicanin]

My mother walked out of ICU after an MI that left her heart irreparably damaged. She took a cab home and died alone. I had to watch the undertaker take her away in a body bag. It was a horrible final memory.

[@mikeglenn5212]

Definitely not only have that conversation with your loved ones but put your will in writing. I lost my wife 12-19-21 to covid. We had that talk on life vs hooked up to a machine that she didn't want to be keeped alive if her quality of life was poor.

[@Witchfoot.Incorporated]

I’m in America. I wonder if, once we know our loved one is dying, is it legal to take them home? My mom signed a DNR before going in for triple bypass surgery.

[@smajd86]

Yes, you can take them home. (Retired hospital attorney here).

[@juanitarichards1074]

In NZ we can.......they help and support us all the way, our hospital staff.

[@mother8696]

Yes.. retired RN

[@shvanR9]

same experience when about ten years as an assistant lecturer and clinic work when I saw them they do everything for life when life never deserves it , life is good and beautiful but it doesn't mean to be a slave of your health to live one or two days more, just accept you have to die one day, after you can live your life peacefully

[@rosep9866]

On my own term's... Filled with meds no pain that's the time when you most need pain meds when you have cancer it's pain is unbearable...

[@jjss6804]

100 % agreed the meaning output in this video, I am in UK, wondered what this going in UK, what procedure should I take to finish my life in my own will, and the medical staffs have to follow it>

[@Fallenfromgrace1990]

It is so weird to think death as an enemy when death is literally freeing someone from suffering. Death should be embraced and not be feared. It should be celebrated.

[@charlesbrentner4611]

My mom passed March 25 of 2018. She began passing on a Tuesday and it was Thursday afternoon (in a nursing home) when she finally passed. She received liquid morphine every hr (by mouth) to keep her comfortable. I was there for her.

[@maiacalloway6549]

Palliative care can go on for years. In an ideal society, we would have equal access to medical aid in dying, palliative AND home hospice. It should be up to the patient.

[@didiuldsidi6700]

No one wants to die in hospitals the reason is in your subconscious. Hospital environment is like a battle field where you fight to survive so dying there isn’t peaceful setting . Home in contrast 3:45 is where you find peace if your home is your home I mean home where you had a good life .

[@teamcougars]

After I had a massive ischemic stroke 9 years ago I put a DNR on file at my hospital no worrying about my husband and children having to make the decision in the future 😢 I don’t want to survive another stroke existing isn’t living 😢

[@paulonganga-hv9mx]

Death is a hidden secret of which no one knows about it coming but as for me i appreciate each and every moment i spend on 🌍

[@kingmaafa120]

Yes 👏

[@bernardofosu3815]

a great sense of respect 4 human life

[@roxyb03]

In US profiteering can go either way depending on insurance, applicable laws, hospital contracts etc. Sometimes prolonging suffering by extending life too long or in other cases rushing patients into palliative/hospice care (who could have had a chance at a good recovery) if more money can be made by making room in ICU for a more profitable patient.

[@sainiamarjeet]

AYUSH is an acronym for Ayurveda, Yoga and Naturopathy, Unani, Siddha and Homeopathy and are the six Indian systems of medicine prevalent and practiced in India has solutions for uncurbable diseases in Allopathy/Hospitals hence patients should give a chance to it than waiting to death.

[@somerandomfella]

Profits and career before patients.

[@buddyoo4942]

The aim is not to commit "KILL" - whether by yourself, your loved ones, the doctors, or caregivers.

[@cartlone2732]

Pass at home sleep peacefully..

[@teyhoonboon5853]

Most people prefer to die in hospital instead of dying at home because hospital can prolonged their survival rate. When my mum approached dead, she was so scared and worrying after life. My family started reciting Amitabha with trust and confidence for 8 hrs. It turned out a big surprise, deceased mother smile and look good despite she died. There were many cases of terminal ill people reported by reciting Amitabha to deceased showed similar response like my mom. It is good idea to do clinical trials to give deceased a chance of happy experience to meet death.

[@mayetchells8884]

Dying is NOT losing a fight, we're not competing with our body to stay alive! Death is normal, dying is normal. I prefer to trust my body and my mind, death is normal and I will gladly die, pain free, comfortable and safe