The Last Chapter - End of Life Decisions

[@themulti-coloredcanary5795]

When that doctor said that he could go home and a breathing tube if his insurance company allowed it, it was like a punch in the gut Who the hell does the insurance company think they are if they dictate something like that! What a terrible healthcare system we have!

[@cindimccullough1951]

Insurance companies have been scamming us for years!

[@La_cubana]

🥲🥲🥲

[@Bigbaymonstermare]

I’m so lucky to be Canadian!

[@Bigbaymonstermare]

Years ago, I saw the movie “The Rainmaker” for the first time, about a newly minted lawyer played by Matt Damon, and an old “ambulance chaser” who failed his bars six times or something like that. The story is about a young man with leukaemia and the fight that the parents (mostly the mother, the father had real problems coping with the reality of his son’s illness), the young man and both Matt Damon and Danny DeVito’s characters have with the insurance company to cover his treatment. In the movie, during the testimony of a former employee of the insurance company (the insurance company did all they could to prevent her from testifying against them), it came out that every single claim that is sent into the insurance company is immediately declined. Basically, those who receive care are those who are diligent and harass the insurance company into covering their claims. As the mother repeatedly files claim after claim, it is revealed that the insurance company has even sent her a letter calling her “stupid, stupid, stupid”. Unfortunately, due to the aggressive nature of the leukaemia and the lack of insurance money to treat her son, he passed away before the end of the film, however, they do win their suit against the insurance company and receive punitive damages as well. It made an enormous impact on me. It was written as a screenplay by Francis Ford Coppola, based on the book of the same name by John Grisham. It made me so grateful for the Canadian healthcare system and subsequently, grateful for the NHS here in England where I live. Some Americans point out that we have to wait a bit longer sometimes and it’s known that Canadians go to the states for treatment sometimes. What most of them miss, however, is the actual number of Canadians deciding to purchase health insurance and go of their own volition for private healthcare in the US, is _extremely_ low, and the majority of patients who are sent to the US are covered by their province’s healthcare insurance, rendering the care free. They subsidise their travel and hotel costs as well, and those who are sent to the states are in dire need of care that the province cannot provide due to backlog of patients or in the more remote and sparsely populated areas, the simple lack of facilities and equipment and access to care. Never once have I received a bill for my healthcare. The closest thing to that, is in Canada, you pay for a portion of the ambulance, should you require it. To Americans, Canadians have access to cheaper pharmaceuticals than Americans. Whilst this is true, you pay for the cost of your medications. When I was a single mom, struggling to keep food on the table and a roof over my son’s head, I remember once having to forgo my $143 antibiotics and additional medication to feed him and to pay for his special prescription steroid cream for his exczema. The U.K.? It kind of wins as far as services and affordability. I have a chronic condition, a connective tissue disorder called Ehlers-Danlos, which causes chronic pain and a host of issues which has meant surgery after surgery in Canada and care in the U.K. and some surgery and many ER/A&E visits as well. I’m on a lot of different medications and they would cost me a small fortune in Canada (my mother was on similar medications and quantities and it cost her over $700 CDN a month) but here, over the age of 60 you get free prescriptions, under the age of 18, you get free prescriptions and under 18 you get free dental and eye care. If you’re between the ages of 18 and 60, you can buy a “pre-payment certificate”, so I pay £120 GBP/$157.37 USD once a year and I get unlimited prescriptions. Ambulances are free too. And I know it’s a small thing, but in Canada, when you stay at the hospital, you get the meal they’re serving that day. Here in the U.K., you get to choose off a menu. It’s a small thing, but as part of my hospital stays had to do with gastrointestinal issues and I was on heavier painkillers than I’m used to, my tummy was always up and down and having the option of choosing something that would suit my tastes and tummy was such a godsend at the time. Bottom line (I know this has turned into a veritable novella), I am so lucky to never have to worry about anything like this. If I need care, I don’t have to worry about what I have to sacrifice or go into debt. I never had to worry that my labour with my son was 50 hours long and ended in an emergency c-section. I never had to worry that when I had bad scar tissue and continued bleeding that resulted in haematomas under my incision that I would have to pay for another week in the hospital. By virtue of where I was born, I have the great luck and privilege of having my every need taken care of, health wise and can still live a happy life. ❤️

[@iffybaker5013]

Amerika is trash now

[@susannegriffin3088]

I have been a hospice nurse for almost twenty years. It's not always easy. I see the patient as not the only one I care for, but the entire family. Foremost, I consider it a honor to be able to help people in the greatest transition we will all face. I feel it an honor to care for the patient and family in this most significant time. I would not change my field of nursing, for anything.

[@geroddervin1026]

Susanne Griffin That's so sweet of you

[@Ann65.]

Susanne Griffin 💙 Truly.

[@pommiebears]

Susanne Griffin wonderful! I love your comment. 💐

[@teresamccabe5733]

Susanne Griffin Bless you

[@JulieR73]

Susanne Griffin God bless you!

[@stevemason5173]

Those Hospice workers are a special breed of people. I will be forever grateful for the care and compassion they provided for my mother, as well as my family through the last week of her life!!!

[@lilly243]

I worked as an hospice aide toward the end of my health care career. I got attached to my last client and cried when they called and told me she died.

[@josiehatfield-sharp8247]

❤😊😊

[@oliviabinkley5565]

My daughter is a hospice nurse and the compassion she gives all her patients and their family is amazing. She a living angel.

[@shoegal7]

She is indeed a living angel. Bless her. xx

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

God bless you for raising a special angel who, makes a huge difference for both patients and their family. I had dear ones who gave my mom awesome love and care and I often let them no that no matter the result for mom, I appreciate all they did for her, as well as the kindness they showed me. Mom had her birthday in ICU on January 1 and died 2 weeks later on the 15th 2019. My love and thanks to those who raised these dear angels. You raised them right guys. Live an appreciative family member from Canada. 💛💜💛💜👩‍⚕️👨‍⚕️👼🇨🇦

[@TeeNicole10]

❤

[@devinpeyton9265]

Do you know why she chose this line of work? If you really do, I would like to hear it.

[@carolmccanse4468]

Olivia Binkley i beleive Hospice Nurses are earth Angels😇 God Bless your daughter and your family.

[@beverlylamon]

I took care of my daughter I was the one who brought her into the world and I closed her eyes when she left.

[@thalia6731]

Something a mother should never have to do, but you gave her the greatest comfort in the world, bless you.

[@LizasPaperPassion]

So sorry

[@sammic974]

What a wonderfully sensitive documentary about this very important issue. Not that I need it yet, but my partner and I have discussed it and he doesn't agree with my views on end of life care. In the UK we have no binding documents to help ahead of time, which makes me uneasy.

[@Carol-D.1324]

Beverly Lamon I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn’t matter how long ago it’s been, when your child passes away, it’s a pain in your heart that never goes away. God bless.

[@AnaKelly08]

God bless you, I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏🙏

[@josi4251]

At age 68, I am healthy and still teaching full time. I've had longterm relationships but no marriages and no children. I have a wonderful partner now, met purely by chance, who is 76. There's only my younger brother, who is divorced with no kids, and the rest of the family is scattered throughout the U.S. and the world. I've laid out everything and my wishes known, and I pray that I may have the opportunity to have hospice at home. My parents were both hospitalized at the ends of their lives but hospice was available. It was such a HUGE blessing for us. My brother couldn't handle it, but I stayed and was so comforted. My parents were there at the start of my life, and I was able to be there at the ends of theirs. They were married 64 years and passed 56 days apart.

[@johnoakes4143]

My longtime partner passed from cancer 20yrs ago. In those days we as same sex partners was frowned upon and I was ignored to a huge extent. Eventually I got Chris home and cared for him myself for six months until he passed. It was the the most amazing experience of my life. In those months we had experiences we would never have had if he was in care. He died at home in our bed as he wanted

[@lisastickytuna8668]

Thank you for sharing this. From what you’ve said, you give hime the best possible death, which is beautiful. RIP to Chris and best wishes to you from the UK xx

[@joanbowden3448]

What a beautiful story. Tysm for sharing. May chris RIP!

[@celticoceane]

Bless your heart the love you shared was the purest love there is Chris is at peace knowing he had your love and tender care when he needed you most, may he rest in peace, and blessings to you for sharing your story

[@lisastickytuna8668]

@@gregbuckenara8063 Eh?

[@lmf0114]

If we all could experience even one day, what you shared in six months ...what a beautiful world we would be in.

[@bobbybannerjee5156]

We should have the right to end our life painlessly when we want to, for whatever reason. It is none of society's business what that reason is.

[@heykerryann]

We fight so hard when it comes to abortion, “my body, my choice” but even though we die, we aren’t allowed to die. I’ve been waiting for a psychiatrist approval for almost 2 years

[@bobbybannerjee5156]

@@heykerryann Very good point. It's "my body" when I want to end a pregnancy which involves someone else's life. But it's not "my body" when I want to end my own. (Not that I am against abortion)

[@davinastanton3865]

@@heykerryann I couldn't agree with you more. I want when it happens to die with dignity. But here in Scotland it isn't allowed. Stay safe and take care sweetie. I hope you get what you want soon. With love. 🌹

[@davinastanton3865]

@@bobbybannerjee5156 I agree you also. Yes life is precious but we should have the right to die with dignity. Stay safe and take care. With love. 🌹

[@stephanieann1213]

Amen. I have been in chronic pain for 22 years. It has gradually gotten worse over the years. My body is failing. I have made several attempts and failed. I lay here and suffer. Why?! What benefits are there? For me? The system? Insurance?

[@nestaa49]

My husband passed February 24th and we had not had made arrangements but the doctors and nurses helped so much! We were at Indy VA and had excellent care;!! Husband had mentioned to us all that he did not want on a machine keeping him alive!! It came to me when I had to say okay!!! Hardest thing I ever did!!! Had a wonderful nurse and she told me he was in no pain!! And she saw to it that us in the family had whatever we needed!!! A room full of family; about 20 of us plus minister!!! Such a caring we shared!!! And he knew and heard us!!! Beautiful service; military!!! I still have moments!!! Miss him so much!!!!

[@gailenefuller8330]

Hug

[@padmathalamarla8246]

Lucky to have v big family...I have none.

[@padmathalamarla8246]

Lucky to have such a big family..I have none.

[@k.omalichablackwell5520]

My daughter 29 is in the hospital going on 2 months...she's jaundice and sick...I can't always go see her😢I have to work...she's in PA. Near jersey and I'm in cleveland..I work on the cta in the operating rooms...I git qord today she wants to stop treatment her kidneys are going and liver...I'm so distraught and saturday early morning I will go see her...my heart is breaking no parent should have to outlive their children....

[@GeorgeLampropoulos-vm6wb]

You should bring her home geez she is still 29!

[@ncguy207]

I can not explain how much this hit home for me. Losing mom was one of the worst experiences in my life. This video is spot on. I'm thankful to have had Hospice involved.

[@joyceanthony-huff2914]

So sorry

[@davinastanton3865]

Tommy I am so sorry also. I nursed my precious Mam at home, where she wanted to be. She had a brain tumour the size of a grapefruit. Not once did she complain. She was only 4 weeks home when she passed. 😢 I closed her eyes that awful morning. It was an honour to nurse her but at the end it was the worst experience, like you have said sadly. 😔 17 years on my heart is still broken.💔 Life will never be the same again. I love my precious Mam so much. There's not a day goes by I don't talk to her. With love. 🌹

[@stevenhensman2541]

You'll be seen your mum again that is a promised from me to you just remember my name when you do Stevie windows you will remember me he is not dead

[@TheCatzMeowMix]

Always remember this… “You never Lose the one you Love… as long as you Love the One you’ve lost.” I collect quotes. Ironically… this came from something I had watched about the L.A. County Coroner’s Office with Bill Kurtis. I haven’t been able to find it again since. A worker at the L.A. County Coroner’s Office was talking to a father that had lost his son to a Drive By Shooting. The people that did it Thought he was a Gang Member. He was Not a Gang Member. That father was told that and some other things while being called there to Identify his Son’s Body. I put that in my Quotes that I collect and Fully Believe in it. As long as the One You’ve Lost is Loved by You… They will NEVER DIE… and You Won’t Lose Them. They are only Gone Physically. =^..^= Meow.

[@kerriepeterson1639]

I worked as a hospice nurse off and on for over 20yrs. The other time I spent in acute care. Hospice was by far the most gratifying and rewarding experience of my life.

[@jimc8848]

I myself do not fear death so much as my wife’s death. Any thought of it kills me. I hope we both live long healthy lives. I can’t imagine life without her at all. Edit: we had a baby in may!

[@richneu2327]

jim c me to

[@richneu2327]

Me too

[@rivera42johnson]

You guys are so sweet. Don’t let life take that away from you. Love your wives just as you do. ❤️

[@IwasBlueb4]

jim c.....often when couples are so close, and one feels they cant go on without the other., they often die within the same year....My aunt died 3 days after hearing my father had died.... it even happens to some animals who are couples....The bond is so strong...That's a beautiful thing you have there, Jim

[@louisianna5524]

I've known alot of Sweet couples who have lost their Be-loved an have followed them within 6 mths of loosing them... So sad, But that's what they wished for... My husband died in 2013 from Aggressive Liver Cancer Found out on our daughter's 27th Birthday an he was gone 3 weeks later.. I however couldn't leave to be with him as we have 3 Beautiful Adult Children an 3 Beautiful Grandbabies..To Look, Love an Take care off.... He got to meet our grandson Isaak but he died 13 days before his first granddaughter was born an another has been born since... We miss him every single bloomin day But I'm glad he's not in anymore pain as it was brutal in the end... Love an hugs to all xoxo 🧡💜💖💙

[@JarleFlaat]

The fact that they "have to look into the insurance company" to get you where you would be most comfortable is heartbreaking.

[@jennyrust8334]

I lost both my parents and they both went through hospice. Hospice is a wonderful service. They provide such a wonderful job for the families.God bless them.

[@TALLDRINKUVWATER]

When she looked at her husband and said "we've been married for over 50 years & we've had our ups and downs haven't we honey?" I almost started crying I had to stop myself. Oh so sweet to watch them together

[@YTStoleMyUsername]

Such a lovely couple ❤

[@bradclark9129]

Lost my Pop back in January. The Hospice Nurse we had was amazing. She helped our family thru it all. Hope y'all know how much y'all are appreciated. Much respect for all of you!!!

[@Happymoey1]

My husband is 55 years old and on his last days. I am not afraid. I read and read and read on what to expect. I have made peace with my husband's pending death. I am following his DNR and the same way I want whomever is in charge of me when it's my turn to follow mine. Your dad is at peace, make peace with yourself. God Bless.

[@tpfmike1976]

Hope all is well.

[@TeeNicole10]

🙏

[@leebachman3974]

I want to be ready and making sure I have Jesus in my heart and I'm saved .

[@terryroberts7647]

Amen that is the most important thing have Jesus in you're life

[@lindamerrill911]

both my parents had hospice my dad died at home my mom in a hospice facility these angels of mercy are truly wonderful God bless them all

[@karengilbreath2003]

When I reach end of life, I want to be in a cabin in the mountains with snow surrounding the cabin and a little creek running through the property..

[@rivera42johnson]

Karen Gilbreath sounds heavenly

[@Texasgrrl77]

Karen Gilbreath That sounds perfect. 💕

[@lydiacartagena643]

Karen Gilbreath sounds like a good way to go pieceful

[@dominicbourgoin7880]

Facts

[@galaxymail102]

Nice wish,if you AFFORD 😢💖

[@RobinMarconeCassidyRN]

Thank you for your story. I am so grateful that my family was able to keep my Dad at home while he struggled with Alzheimer's disease for 14 years. We are all nurses so we were able to do all of his treatment. Having said that, these years took a huge toll on my family both physically and mentally and it also tore us apart to date. Things started after my Dad passed away, comments were made that some gave all their time and some barely helped at all. So, all his care fell on a few people which is where the exhaustion started. People would ask if we needed help, or just ask them, but truth be told, they only said it to make themselves feel better I suppose. If you can do anything for a sick person, show them you care. It could be you one day. From cooking to errands or even a visit would be appreciated. It doesn't have to be big...just make it count. Trust me, it will mean the world to them.

[@angelinagulizio5830]

Absolutely When I think about people being alone it upsets Hospice is a heaven sent(my experience) God Bless Them ♥️

[@kmo3811]

I know how that is. My mom was an only child and when she passed my grandmother naturally was devastated as was us 4 adult children. As grandmother got older and needed more care, it fell on me. The others were "too busy" except for my younger brother who apparently only came around to hold his hand out as I noticed in her checkbook. I asked my sister to call her at least once a week since it made grandma happy to hear from her. Nope, don't have anything to say. I don't care tell her what flowers are blooming, how many birds you see around, what boats are on the lake...it doesn't matter..it's just hearing your voice that let's her know you care. There always seems to be the caregivers and the selfish or cold ones in a family when it comes to taking care of our elderly and/or sick family members. Shame on them.

[@jrmckim]

We took care of my grandfather with Parkinson's and Lewy body at home... 3 nurses and a doctor in the family and it was hell at times.

[@annwooten7789]

@@kmo3811 q

[@lbccarpediem]

Yes the mental health of the caregivers after time begins to diminish watching a loved one's memory fade away. I hate the years that were erased and taken away from us. He had to retire at the age of 60. He was an engineer and could no longer perform his job. He passed away at the age of 72. Actually alzheimers had started at the age of 55 but, he struggled until the age of 60. So, so sad to watch a love one pass with this dreadful disease.

[@KaiyaCorrbin]

As a CNA of 8 years, I have seen both the good and the bad of what there is out there when it comes to dying...but I will never regret giving my time and heart to the people I cared for over the years. They do become like family, whether you want them to or not.

[@toynazi]

The Hospice staff in Huntington WV were such a blessing in my Mothers death in May of this year. They are angels among us! After almost a 20 year battle with cancer after a scan they found it was spreading very rapid. She had weeks to live. We braced for what was coming. She had recently moved in to my sisters home due to it not having stairs. So she could move around with her oxygen. They detailed exactly how it normally starts from beginning to end. They visited daily for just a few days before her body started to shut down. With all the family around, Her kids and grand kids all there in the house. Everybody got to spend time with her and speak to her. Her pastor even came to visit and she knew he was there. It was a house full of love and comfort. She passed very peacefully on May 10.

[@debbiebruderbruder1494]

😊

[@debbiebruderbruder1494]

Hospice does a great job. So thankful for them.

[@blakesasha3517]

“You can go in piece when you’ve got that much”. She was talking about her family, not her money. So sweet.

[@trubrit5036]

When I was first diagnosed with Stage IV Cancer, I did NOT want to die. I was going to fight, tooth and nail. Someone said to me, 'you will know when it is time to die' and I'm like 'No, I will NOT want to die'. Well, it has been several years, and I had a massive heart attack, and now I know what my friend said is true. I am at peace with dying. When it happens, it happens, and I will not be messed around with. It will be my time to go. I really like a Doctor who doesn't 'pussy foot' around me. This is a very straight forward, well presented video.

[@CandlesRLife]

I will pray for you ❤

[@mommyof3_908]

I think it is a common misconception that death is bad. When in reality, all of us GET to go and be with Jesus when it is our time. None of us are meant to be here on Earth forever. Heaven is glorious and when it is our time, Jesus and all of our family and friends we have lost will be waiting for us. God bless you. ❤

[@runnyb898]

I hope Jesus is waiting for me . My trust is in him

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

God is ready are we dear soul? I can say I know I am through the blood of Jesus Christ. God bless.

[@cynthiamcwhorter6721]

I've put my faith in Jesus and I trust in Him.

[@joekng9924]

Jesus has been waiting for you your whole life, and will be there for you.

[@lisamoroney3036]

Text him

[@RobinMartz-x9f]

You can be sure!! I’m sure!

[@prevost8686]

We had a Hospice help us care for my father the last few months of his life. I have nothing but the highest respect for them. They became part of our family.

[@Texasgrrl77]

Both my parents died in hospice. My mother in 2020 and my father last Thursday August 15 2024 on my mother’s birthday. They were married for 56 years. He died peacefully and without pain just like he wanted. He died 2 days after he was admitted into hospice. The nurses and aide’s were wonderful and kind. I will be greatful forever for them. My father had his advanced directives and will complete when he died. We were blessed to have good advice.

[@mcddetectrespect.7467]

Isn’t it a shame that his last days where he wanted to go home depended on an insurance policy. No one should have that happen to them.

[@maha77]

I have the good fortune of being in ICU and being told I wasn't going to survive, experiencing that fully, and still being here years later.

[@geraldineevans3494]

Ok we

[@geraldineevans3494]

You can get me

[@geraldineevans3494]

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[@yvonnemorrow2251]

Maha77, do you use this experience to TESTIFY for the Lord God Almighty? To tell of his MERCY, GRACE?

[@TeeNicole10]

🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@JDAbelRN]

Well done, West Virginia. A wonderful documentary that pulls no punches, an appropriate documentary for end of care patients and their families as well as health care professionals involved in decisions families are faced with. I am a Registered Nurse and plan to utilize the ideas presented in my practice. More programs like this should be made public as our nation ages.

[@kenzierocks1240]

I live in SC and both my grandmother’s dyed at home...one in 2016 and the other 2018. as well as my dad, who passed away in 2019. Not once did a hospice nurse stay around the clock. We were given meds that I had to administer and understand that was necessary, but I felt like a murderer. I actually called and told them so. They would say call if you need us. My family and I had to call a few times and it was NEVER we’ll be there ASAP. It was “ let me try to walk you through the situation” we needed them to come help us in person!, My one grandmother NEVER liked to take medicine. She was eventually bedridden and instead of liquid medicine for one of the prescriptions I had to try to get a pill down her throat and she tried to bite me. Constantly trying to get out of the bed....for a solid week, until her oxygen machine started acting up and a young man showed up to swap it out and said the side rails need to be moved out of her reach and also so she can”t try to swing her legs out. It took a medical supply technician to help us with that. The nurse just looked at us when we told her. My mom didn’t sleep for a week!, I got a first time nurse; with Hospice; for my maternal grandmother and my dad. My dad was battling lung cancer and scared out of his mind. The nurse told him Hospice doesn’t cure, they care. It was her demeanor. I called the office and told them not to send her back, to send another nurse. What she said was true but that’s not how you greet a dying man!, NEVER did a nurse offer to do hair for my grandmothers. I think Hospice organization is a wonderful thing, but I definitely think some are better than others. These nurses in this video need to give lessons!,

[@Dustwitch]

Wow...I went through the very same thing. My mom died at home in 2014 and I still feel confused and guilty.

[@marysaltlife1427]

Pretty much sums up my experience. Then was asked if I wanted to volunteer FOR them. No.

[@lbccarpediem]

Spot on here in NC. The hospice nurses were not very helpful. I finally got rid of them.

[@Sashazur]

I was caring for my boyfriend with terminal cancer at home, we had hospice nurses visiting a few times per week - each visit was only maybe half an hour, just to check on him, give advice and meds as needed. They were great and it was all we needed, since he was lucid and his pain was under control. But if he’d been in worse shape or uncooperative it would have been a different story.

[@camshaftshaft2711]

All the people in this line of work are angels 👼! Here on 🌏! Thank you very much for what you do angels of earth😊

[@styroyou]

ALL Critical Care doctors are medical terrorists...fact.

[@jessemedley4269]

Angels of death maybe

[@RodneyFreeman]

This was really hard to watch. I lost my wife to stage 4 colon cancer in 2015. Through it all, five years worth we fought the battle together. In the end, hospice was a God send. My wife was able to pass at home with me and the kids at her side. I too worked in health care for 22 years... The biggest lesson I had to learn was to step back and let others help. That's what hospice did. They helped us, guided us and surrounded us with love. My experience.

[@lourdesserrano1459]

I'm very sorry for your loss!

[@janeokeeffe5297]

Sorry for your loss

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

God bless you.

[@rosierosiecheeks768]

I'm very sorry for loss I hope you have started to find peace and enjoy life again.

[@1951kvk]

One Easter after dinner our family talked about our final wishes. My father attempted to drink himself to dearth & lived for two weeks in hospital. I made sure his wishes were followed. I cared for my Mom at home until she died. Being able to take care of them was the greatest blessing in my life!

[@franktrautman2092]

I’m sorry this is inappropriate but I can’t help it he said he was trying to drink yourself to death and you made sure he had his wishes I know I know I’m just saying

[@camshaftshaft2711]

Putting my father in hospice was the best decision we as a family made me my mom couldn't keep my dad comfortable at home my dad was never happy he was so messed on drugs and the cancer pain was getting worse so we took the doctors advice and put my father in to hospice and the following day my dad was happy alert and his pain was under control! The treatment he received from the doctors nurses and psw's and volunteers was unbelievable! They treated my father with the most respect and they treated him as if he were their father! The hospice gave me my hope in humanity back I truly believed that humanity was done for but the people at the hospice renewed my hope in humanity and I have changed the way I act! You never know what someone is going through! Iam not quick to judge anymore! God bless the people who do end of life care they are true angles ❤️😊

[@Fe26man]

I'm so sorry for your lose. It made me upset and physically sick reading your comment and realizing your dad's doctor didn't allow him sufficient pain management until he decided to die. That's awful, and an accurate representation of how doctors won't allow almost all patients suffering moderate to severe pain the proper medication. The medical system has been advanced enough for decades at this point, to help patients to not have to suffer the majority of all pain with.

[@lindawallace1623]

@@Fe26man i think you are confussed as to what hospice is. And pain medication is very regulated and often times can only be administered by a licenced profetional.

[@juliemclain5841]

My sister put my father in a retirement care center where they did not have the ability to care for him as she took him off all of his medication and hospice only came to visit him once a day. He suffered at her hand and it disgusts me. I can't imagine putting anyone in that position: no water, food, bathroom, so utterly degrading and empowering for this woman that is a Reverend in the Wesleyan church even after cheating on her husband while on a mission trip in Columbia and doing this to our father. Didn't even give me the opportunity to tell him goodbye as he died cause she was mad that I had pointed out the truth of what she was doing and had done. Disgusting

[@sallyclay1974]

I'm happy to see caregiving, agencies, all over the US, that keep patients in their homes, instead of warehousing them in a state institution.We have made progress, in the 21st century.

[@EmilyDaria1]

That nurse was incredibly honest and forthcoming. I appreciate that kind of honesty. ❤️

[@kimshatteen222]

What a beautiful documentary about how to face the end and how peaceful all the people seemed with their fate.

[@crystalinabacteria3430]

I'm caring for my dad 24/7 at home. He wants to stay at home so when the time comes we will have an end of life team help. I don't want him to go to a home or hospital. It feels right

[@Yolduranduran]

My mom was end of life for like 2 to 3 years. About 5 of the people that came to see her thinking it would be the their last chance died before she did. You just never know. My mother has a very strong will and faith that helps a lot. Please she has had the best medical care and family support fron my dad and her kids, including me. Above all it is in God's hands.

[@debbiekeithley7440]

I would like to be surrounded by my family outside in a hammock. With the breeze swaying and the laughter of my grandchildren as they are playing.

[@janedoe-ex5wo]

That's lovely

[@Happydays14385]

How gorgeous

[@gloriafontenot1621]

I can't believe what I'm hearing he said quote we could be saving billions of dollars if we don't keep the people on life support and if their families had discussions yep it's an evil world healthcare should be free in the first place!

[@brandonsexton6738]

WOW! I have worked in Healthcare for 15 years. Worked in all kinds of hospitals. We treat, well the good ones, treat the dying and their family with much respect. The person that said it's all about the money has never worked in that type of job. If they had they would have seen how the families and patients do NOT want to die. They want to live as long as possible no matter what. Some families will keep their loved one alive on the vent long after the Dr.'s have advised them to let go. Now of course there are exceptions. The people that work in hospice, and are actually caring, are something very special. They are a light for the rest of us to follow. I pray I have someone to look after me when it's my time, so I treat every pt how I would want to be treated. God bless.

[@sadpepe7937]

Keep living no matter what? Speak for yourself! I'm severely ill and I definitely don't want to live no matter what. And it's my right to decide against this life.

[@susandebord5922]

And some families are collecting Mom’s SS check while she’s alive.

[@alsonvp855]

One of my uncles came down with cancer and spent his last four months in the hospice. Being the cheeky and jovial guy he was, he quickly became very close to the Doctors and Nurses there. He would joke with them and tease them as he used to do with us at home. In his final moments, all of us were by his bedside crying and holding his hands. I noticed a nurse who would always watch us from outside and dab her eyes with a tissue. I remembered what she told me "As a hospice staff, we were trained not to be too close to any patients lest we get emotional during their passing. But your Uncle was such a nice funny guy. I can't imagine the hospice ward being so quiet without his loud voice and bellowing laughter. " To these hospice staffs, you have my utmost salute and respects. I can't imagine how tough it must be for you guys to be so close to someone and see them pass on within a few months, and this cycle goes on repeatedly. Thank you for taking on such a tough job!

[@Alexfolsome1121]

The nurse... What a wonderful person!!! Someone that should be honored

[@Badgerbadger1]

The military was actually what facilitated my discussion with my parents about this issue. You have to have a will and care directive before you deployed, and send at least one copy to your next of kin. In explaining what I wanted I got the opportunity to learn what they wanted, and while it wasn't even remotely pleasant to discuss I have a great peace of mind that the decisions have already been made should something happen to them.

[@metropcs7560]

I appreciate Hospice here in South Bend, Ind. My mother was a nurse and she planned ahead, I was blessed to be with her during her last 2 years. Signature Nursing Home and Center for Hospice were the best. I stayed day and night with her, always with the Lord on our side. Thank you nurses and doctors for all you do!!! Memorial and St. Joe Hosp. Showed Geraldine C. They respected her and her career with them. It was a journey I will never forget. To meet nurses she worked with was amazing!!! God bless these Angels. She was one true angel as well!!!

[@sherriroberson542]

My Daddy was on hospice the last year of his life. They were so awesome. He looked forward to seeing his team. I can't say enough about how great they were.

[@possumbold]

I was on a ventilator and it was sewed to my neck so I couldn’t pull it out. It was awful and I don’t want it again. My doctor operated on me knowing I wanted to end my life. I wanted euthanasia and he knew it. That was 8 years ago. Am I happy? No. I haven’t eaten for 5 years, I’m on so much pain relief because I wasn’t expected to survive 6 months. I’m on drips that I self administer. I’m very angry about it as I was at peace when end of life care started.

[@goodtravels2000]

This was an excellent and compassionate presentation of the benefits of having an Advanced Directive and having Hospice Care.

[@FurbyGender]

I filled out my first advanced directive when I turned 18. Good thing, just a few years later when I was in my early 20's, I ended up very sick and on life support. In 2011, I was electrocuted and again was on life support. Both times the doctor disagreed with my decision to not remove me from anything however, he was shocked when I survived both times with minimal brain damage. Since then I've had 2 mini-strokes. The best thing I have ever done is to have an advanced directive.

[@Mistfall254]

God had other plans for you, I too was in that situation but I was a preemie at just 24 weeks and the physicians and nicu team tried to remove the ventilator, and give up on me.

[@susanmoreland2671]

God bless you sweetheart...

[@thalia6731]

You're kicking arse Furby 👊

[@camshaftshaft2711]

Your like a cat lol 9 lives

[@theresatyler4043]

God Bless ur Will to live..!

[@thelandofopie]

May all go as you planned, blessings to you both at this precious time

[@debbieallen2686]

I use to work for a hospice company. I've never felt so honored in my life. I love my patients and the family. I also was a private sitter again it was such a honey to get to know these people and their families. They all have passes away now but I know one day I will see them again and be able to visit and talk to them again along with my family. I thank God daily for the lives and the friends I made.

[@sarabanas1447]

As wonderful as all hospice workers are, the next step (and SO long overdue!) is the dying with dignity for all states in this country, I cannot think of a more compassionate thing to offer all of us for when our own time comes.. it’s terrifying to think of how so many people felt the need to travel overseas for such options, I’m so glad that more states are offering these options now as well!!

[@2525besty]

Proud Hospice nurse, at work right now taking care of a patient with no family She is 102 yrs .Having a peaceful dying journey..

[@donnaryland9976]

Getting older is so hard but getting old & diagnosed with cancer is horrific. There are 80% of elderly that do NOT want to be a burden on children. When your dying u really just want to stay at home in your own surroundings. Hospice took care of my mother & father in law to the end of their life & it really meant so much to the terminally ill patient. I’ve told my boys don’t put me in a nursing home . I asked my children would u want to leave your home or die in peace in my home. I really appreciate hospice & all they do to prepare patients for that finial days of their life.

[@reenh462]

Brought back so many memories for me. My mom passed away from stage 4 brain cancer. She fought the cancer for 5 months. She was on hospice for only 1 day before she passed. I miss her so much.

[@pamelarose1055]

It takes a very special kind of person to be a hospice worker. As far as I'm concerned they are Angels😇They were there for my Mom during her last stages of life.God Bless all of you 😇💖🙏❤

[@maryannchaisson6742]

Hospice is treating the whole person. We have here our little Province PEI, Canada. The volunteers, nurses, doctors , all wonderful, caring and compassionate - such a beautiful way to help families die with dignity, as it (death) will happen to us all, no matter if we speak about or hide in terror. Personally, I’m very glad we have this system.

[@gerberfamify]

The U.S. Is so backwards and behind when it comes to education and understanding Dying with Dignity.

[@evamitts7241]

I so agree with you Suzanne. I was a hospice nurse as well. For me to be welcomed into a family in that precious and intimate time when a loved one is approaching death was an honor. There is beauty in those moments. Old wounds are often forgiven and relationships are renewed. Just being witness to the unfathomable love taught me so much. The gift of care families give to the dying builds the foundation for comfort after loss. A beautiful thing.

[@janesmith4h]

I volunteered in hospice for 2 years. I was Blessed to be able to spend what for most was their last moments. I was 👌 until a close family member was wheeled in. Tha was A LOT! Much love to all of these caregivers. It takes a special kind of person. ❤

[@tyriedle]

I love everybody my ears ring every other day you guys make me ignor my ears ringing to where im comftable in my own head not to cuss and yell at my ears ringing every other day thank ❤ you for helping me make it in life now whenever i watch you hospic care thank you again hospic care. My name is ty riedle im 56 years old now im not ready to die just yet i wanna live right now

[@kaoldt97]

Having been in this position myself with my husband having a massive stroke and heart attack at 43, I wish we had paperwork in order. However, we had talked about it and I knew his wishes and I followed them. I was grateful that I knew what he wanted if we were ever in that situation.

[@applejellypucci]

Hospice is a beautiful thing, I used to be a VITAS volunteer and it taught me so much about the final chapter of the journey. It may be the end of life, but not the end of love.

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

Amen.

[@DaveSeavy]

I know some here are having difficulty with some things that were said in the video, and that's perfectly understandable. Death is not a subject we like to think about. For me, death has been a big part of my life. I'm a retired funeral director, and I'm now dealing with esophageal cancer. Now more than ever, I've come to believe that straight-forward discussion - while difficult initially - is in everyone concerned's best interest. As a cancer patient, I require my oncology team to be very honest with me, without trying to sugarcoat the harsh reality of cancer. I don't believe there is any other way to make solid judgments and decisions without frank dialogue. We have the right to know; the responsibility to know, etc. After all, it's our life. We need to be fully informed if we're to make decisions regarding our medical care. The majority of esophageal cancer patients don't survive a year after diagnosis. With this in mind, I can make the best decisions possible, to ensure that I know when it's time to stop treatment and place the emphasis on comfort.

[@user-xn9fe1jr6y]

God bless you u dave.

[@joshbaker9517]

RIP

[@Mistfall254]

May God eas your final chapter on the mortal plane and be there to help and guidance you when you cross over.

[@drdata1967]

Dave Seavy best of luck.

[@ronmayberry5649]

Dave Seavy

[@BecD1983]

My beautiful mumma has stage IV terminal peritoneal cancer. She is currently in hospital under great care, but will move onto permanent hospice care at a facility. It is what works for OUR FAMILY. She will not be left in there to rot I promise you that. At the end of her life, she just needs comfort and love, and that’s what she’ll get.

[@cyrenacorrell6401]

I am both my aunts & my mother's power of attorney. I know what they want at the end of their lives , because they told me what they want. They also told me how they want their funerals. I told them they need to write everything down so no one is in a disagreement. I have grieved for them both already. Now we are living our lives

[@jvolstad]

I'm a retired soldier and a volunteer at my local VA Hospital. I help out in the VA/CLC (Hospice).

[@freeamerican6784]

There should be an end of life procedure offered to ALL terminally ill people that gives them the option to end their suffering in a time of their choosing without pain and without the permission of any body or any government entity. Period. A suffering animal is allowed a quick and painless transition and so should every human being. Allowing anyone to die in pain is unacceptable.

[@geroddervin1026]

Free American I agree whole heartedly

[@lucyterrier7905]

Free America. You do have that choice. One can be given pain meds. But if you're talking euthanasia, it gets extremely complicated, not from doctors but from the lawyers. Any long lost relative can crawl out from under the woodwork & potentially sue because he wasn't notified of your wish. It's a nightmare post death. Imagine the rabid lawyers while dying?

[@KanonxHana]

@@lucyterrier7905 It could be solved by things like the Death with Dignity laws, like the ones we have in Washington and Oregon. I know a lot people don't agree with it on the basis of committing suicide goes against the will of God and will send you to hell, but I think it should be an option for people who are terminal and in massive amounts of pain. Sometimes pain medication can't make it all go away, you can still be in pain. So I think it's important that people be given the option to die on their own terms if in a situation that allows it, allowing them to be in control of everything. If they can be given an option that would allow them not to suffer longer than they would have to with a terminal illness that causes them extreme suffering, then why not allow that ?

[@kalo924]

Totally agree Die with dignity, without pain. I'm sick of right- to- lifers sticking their snoots in where they don't belong

[@missylynne7944]

There are States that now allow end of life care... Calif is now one of them and I know Or.is another and there are more... A doctor here orders. a combo of drugs to be drank ...it goes from there....I don't know how willing all doctors are to order the drugs...

[@GuadalupeGuacamole]

From nurses everywhere....thank your this video...THANK YOU. ❤️

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

Thank you to nurses and doctors everywhere for the time and love you give us and our loved ones. You deserve more thanks than you get, so THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU.

[@maryannewebster4100]

Hi everyone its Maryanne here from the UK that poor husband of this sweet woman he wants to go home were he can pass away peacefully in his own home with his family and friends with him and its not fair that the insurance is playing fair and at all i know he has a tube but he needs that if he wants to pass away peacefully in his own home with his tube they really should let him poor people xxxx

[@7beers]

Superbly made documentary, showing an intelligent, pragmatic point of view on a subject that couldn't be any more important.

[@JoesGoldenGarage]

Very sad ending for Dr Bruce Foster. He was a great man. Helped lots of people. Rip

[@clarencejacksonjr.]

I have an advance directive, life insurance, and my funeral arrangements done. My brother passed away last year and he didn't have an advance directive. He was in the intensive care unit for almost three months. It was very hard and painful to try to figure out what he wanted.

[@Kate-fi8oh]

God bless every hospice nurse on earth

[@joanbowden3448]

Thank you!

[@shenqilu4470]

first time facing the end so directly, finding myself so naive before. hope everyone have an happy ending, hope the young can live better...how many people can face the end, fearlessly, happily...There is something need to do.

[@cherylreuter4008]

God Bless Hospice workers, they were amazing when my dad was passing 😢

[@huckster66]

Nice video. My father was lucky he passed away at home in his favorite reclining chair. I was sitting next to him when he took his last breath. No struggling just went quiet. The way I hope to go out.👍

[@mariannatexas]

When I come to the end of life, I would not want any agressive medical intervention, especially breathing machines! My companion wanted us to fight for him which we did and at the end he was unconscious for no less than 4 weeks! It was a horrible experience emotionally and three years later it still hurts. When my dad was diagnosed with colorectoal cancer he wanted to fight but his doctor said to take him home, keep him comfortable, and let him pass in peace. He was 76. We did what the doctors wanted because financially that was the only option we could do. Now my mother who was 66 we did everything we could to keep her alive until her heart started to fail. Then we stopped and that is another sense of regret and pain even 22 years later. Please do yourself and your families a great service and let them know what you want and how you want it and sign these orders for your doctors.

[@capturedbyken2936]

An advanced directive has been brought up to me a few times (have cancer) but I've always said "I'll think about it" ...this is making me want to go ahead and go through with it

[@mtj5758]

young wraith lol

[@keneishawynn453]

@young wraith Hateful...but this is the world today. No surprise

[@keneishawynn453]

@@mtj5758 until it happens to you...Ppl are a disgrace

[@krc2143]

You could have something like - Captured ByKen - are you still with us? Or something more with a little tact

[@krc2143]

Hoping Captured is still with us and in remission :)

[@izyltex]

Rest in Peace to everyone who has unfortunately passed, I'm sorry if you lost a loved one or more.

[@janetswalley7708]

It is so so Important to have health care directives. When my husband had stage 4 lymphoma, we were unprepared for what was ahead. We weren’t married yet and had no paperwork prepared . My husband suggested we marry at Mayo Clinic. My husband said bring in an attorney to draw up all our directives . Then when he went into remission and now going on six years . We hired an attorney to prepare a living trust . All done should something arise .

[@lbccarpediem]

You are truly blessed. ❤

[@meloneemurray7547]

I so wish I had an Amy here to help me to take the caregiving weight off of my husband's and kid's shoulders. I have MS and it's progressing now. I never thought my life would be like this.

[@heykerryann]

I know you may never see this (old old comment) but I wanted to say I’m dealing with MS myself and I’m honestly wondering how you are today.

[@davinastanton3865]

@@heykerryann 🌹❤🕊

[@007jimmymac]

Near the beginning a man says "I want to die at home." What happens when your kids won't let you and you end up in a horrible Nursing home? Even a doctor will many times not release you to your own home if there is no one to care for you should you end up not able to care for yourself. Even strangers can intervene and have you placed in a home, and if there is no one to speak on your behalf- your nightmare begins.

[@IronFistVelvetGloveX]

there's worse scenarios than this. What about people that can't even afford the nursing home, or kids that don't want to help their own parents who never did anything bad to them, or people living in their cars or RVs etc? If you are truly that upset by the state of affairs regarding this subject maybe offer to become someone's advocate or the person who makes sure the advanced directive wishes get followed.

[@reopat14]

I am in Iredell County , NC and we have a similar House. My Wife passed there some four years ago and there isn’t enough praise I could shower on them.

[@nenblom]

I love these hospice workers and what they do. God bless y’all and your patients.

[@dot-to-dot]

My parents are in their mid 70s now and I have begged them for years to please get this stuff taken care of so that my brother and I do not have to come in and try to make decisions or pick up a bunch of pieces of a mess that they left behind.

[@karenhargis3682]

I enjoyed being in hospice than the hospital when I was an RN... I even volunteered as a hospice aid for less pay bc I loved taking care of the family

[@lisaplayer1299]

Bless you all!!! ❤🙏🏻

[@matteen12]

These hospice care workers should make 100 thousand a year.

[@SweetKristen]

mcgavin I'm a caregiver at a hospice agency in Florida.... I make 9.50 an hour and unfortunately, that's pretty normal. It's disgusting how little caregivers, CNAs, etc get paid. I mean I do what I do because its an honor and I love it.... But being paid a proper amount would be nice.

[@brittanyweeks3402]

mcgavin I worked at a nursing home as a CNA getting paid minimum wage (7.25 hr) I loved my job is the only reason I done it

[@Ann65.]

Brittany Weeks Thanks to you, Kristen and all who give so much to their fellow human beings. Yes, it is an honour.. but for you to be paid at least a little more, receiving much more public recognition for the importance of the work undertaken, is only right.. xo

[@spartypants4872]

I work in respite care and I am paid low wages also but for me it's not about the money. It's such a rewarding job

[@poisonXbuXmusic]

They should make way more money for sure. They're terribly underpaid

[@AURADRCalifornia]

God bless Hospice Care. Both my parents wanted to be at home. They were so supportive to us. Again, Angels walk among us💞🌎 Peace-out

[@NickanM]

*In my family we took an evening around the kitchen table with some tea and discussed all togheter what we want in case of the worst happening to any of us. My sons were teens then and it was very interesting to hear their thoughts about death and dying. I feel good knowing what each member in my family wants in care, organ donation, who is going to be the one making decisions and so on. Me and my better half has written down how we want our funerals to be, my mom did that and it was a priceless help in the middle of our grief. No one is immortal and death is coming no matter if you sweep it under a rug or not.*

[@maryannchaisson6742]

NickandM what a wonderful idea! More families should do that. Death, after all is just the final journey. Thanks for sharing!

[@tracyd693]

Bruce seems like a great doctor. I really appreciate his approach to healthcare, especially end of life care. I would never have thought of end of life as being exquisite, but thinking about it, it could be.

[@stephwally]

Plot twist: I just googled him and he murdered his wife and then killed himself in 2013.

[@danikacortez691]

I was 19 when my dad suddenly had a heart attack. Things and information went so fast it was hard to grasp anything. All I thought was I was going to lose him. They wouldn't tell us how bad it was they for a while wouldn't even tell us what's going on. Going into a room of one of the strongest men I have every know had is shirt of, IT'S, oxygen, tunes, an EKG just was something I will never forget. All I remember is saying there were flying him out 2 hours from mt home. Me and my mon got home literally just threw things in a suitcase and left. The hardest part was not know how he was doing, would he make it there, what will do to him when he got there, was he in pain and it was hard for me and my mom to just grasp all this. We got there and it was 10 at night he was up in his room sitting up seemed just like himself and everythinf went so well and he was home 3 days later. The hardest part was me not being prepared. The unknown about what would happen and coming to reality that I might lose my dad now. That I am 19. Just been graduated a year and he won't be with me through my wedding, college graduation, kids etc. This was 4 years ago. He his doing great back to himself and he always told me and my mom. He doesn't want to be resesitated he does not want to be in the hostpital and when he passes he doesn't care what we do because he will be gone but he wants to know that we will all be ok

[@steveclinton4084]

Hello Danika how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family and also your dad too

[@janiceyoung7273]

God bless you dear lady.

[@dianetandy1757]

I’m in the uk. List my mum to cancer she had made the choice of not having any treatment it wouldn’t have saved her or given her much more time. She deteriorated very quickly but what I noticed with her so called care was it seemed to disappear. There was no support for my dad or myself and my sister. When she passed there was no support after. It made the worse time in my life losing the most important person in my life so much more difficult not understanding her cancer of why they couldn’t operate and how the hell to cope after. It’s 26 yrs on and I’m still crying even while typing this

[@lizslilcorneroftheinstitution]

I am about to be 47 in 3 days. I have seen the amazing side and the horrific side of not having documentation on what you do and do not want done if you become incapacitated, on life support and then while actively dying and the death/funeral services. Seeing the horror that can happen fueled me to refuse letting that happen to me. But more importantly, putting that type of responsibility and guilt on my spouse and kids. It’s hell when clear directions are not provided! When I was pregnant with my first daughter at age 21, I had my wills made, my living will, have them To the pertinent people (family, local hospital and primary doctor). Even back then I was able to create these documents with very little effort, all by myself. Now there is so much info on the internet, it’s virtually a cake walk! Please don’t put that guilt in your family!

[@FayeAnnisAuntieTrouble]

I have tons of respect for the Hospice workers. My Uncle was in their care when he passed from cancer, and my Grandma in law was in their care when she passed!