Meeting Her Birth Mother | Open Adoption Q&A

We reconnected with Tyanna's biological family and she saw her birth mother for the first time since she was a baby. We also answered your questions about having an open adoption.
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Hi, we're the Schoeller's! Welcome to our channel! We grew our family by adopting through the foster care system. Tyanna is the light of our lives. She is 3 years old! Rhianna is a certified registered nurse anesthetist aka a crna. Jon is a real estate investor. We have been working our way towards financial freedom over the years because family time is our priority. We love to travel the world as a family whether it's by plane, boat, camper van or train! We are also vegan and share lots of plant based food ideas. Thanks for joining us on this crazy, beautiful ride of life!
00:00 A little background
2:06 Seeing her birth mother
8:00 Why did you choose an open adoption?
9:20 Is the biological father involved?
9:46 What if she tries to take her back?
11:09 How did you explain who her birth mother is?
12:47 How do you set boundaries?
14:36 What does she call her her birth mother?
17:29 Will you let her go stay with her birth mom?
20:29 What if she loves her more?
24:15 Closing thoughts

[@veronicagriffin5054]

This little girl is so blessed to have these 2 as her parents 💓

[@mcormick41]

OMG YESSSS!!!! Such a blessing! I only can imagine what the most high GOD has in store for her future! I know it’s going to be amazing….!!

[@lyneadetyfitness]

SOOO BLESSED ...And to imagine some fathers abandon or mistreat their own flesh and blood it's appalling. May God bless this family.❤

[@HighechelNee]

THEY ARE HER PARENTS... THAT IS HER BIRTH MOTHER

[@jeaninesmith3467]

YES SHE IS SO SO BLESSED GOD BLESS THE PARENTS.

[@godslove7928]

They are wonderful

[@danyaensley1694]

As an adoptee since birth, I’m so proud and impressed with your maturity, courage and genuine unselfish heart for your daughter! ❤

[@jeanablake2302]

Amen -- maturity, courage & unselfish hearts -- that's a blessing.

[@LaVonnice]

This family placement is PERFECT! for Tyanna...you guys are GOD-given parents to her

[@gportis2008]

Why can’t you be happy for them all .. biological and adopted . I’ll keep you in prayer . Beautiful Family

[@keynahoyte6391]

The fact that you both understand Tyanna’s needs as white parents blows my mind! I am an adoptee and man you are winning as adoptive parents! ❤️❤️❤️

[@lovelocked5385]

White people are capable of Love. Shocker 🙄

[@7ioadee]

This is real love. No color, no culture, no religious criticism but pure love. Exactly what my God desires of us. ❤ God Bless this family

[@lenoahharris3247]

Yes Amen

[@sandrafortune5280]

Well said and so true ❤

[@SJGore-jp3lq]

Divine understanding. God bless your heart ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗

[@kevinbell1138]

Amen! Truly a beautiful thing!

[@msantagoe8209]

Amen!

[@indiaalmighty]

This is my first time watching this family. I am usually wary of transracial adoption because they raise black children with white families and totally ignore their culture. The fact that they are so open about Tyanna being a part of her family and seeing Black people around her is beautiful.

[@webelonginafrica44]

That’s what I love about it.

[@wendyreaves5347]

My thoughts exactly, but they both are doing a phenomenal job!!! I love it!!! ❤

[@ladeeharlemm5740]

I thought the same but I was smiling this whole video cause this beautiful baby will know where she comes from and who she is. May they all continue to be blessed 😇

[@Red-gy9gx]

Just wondering, does the birth mother want her back😮

[@wagnersilva6380]

​@@ladeeharlemm5740 😅mp

[@kennedyhuie3603]

I love how the dad doesn’t want her to love anyone else because he loves her so much that’s his baby ❤

[@josephinenduka6998]

Am an African ,you guys have shown her somuch love than any child could imagine. And please 🙏 you are her real mum and dad both number 1 and 2, even up to 10th times. And I pray that God will bless with more children from your womb.

[@blinx5229]

I’m just blown away by these two, that little girl is blessed beyond belief!

[@sham3152]

Yes, she certainly is!!

[@trinettemitchell3053]

Absolutely! But it also appears to me that they are blessed to have Tyanna in their lives

[@dwightpartlow6923]

Yes, children are always a blessing ! It's also a blessing to be reminded of the good in mankind during these difficult times. God bless !!@@trinettemitchell3053

[@cristamelvin4595]

Praise God!

[@maggiepierre9119]

May God bless you guys and it's very healthy for her to have contact with her biological mom and for her to be around her race and culture. You'll doing an awesome job rearing her!

[@MrsTaylor706]

I am a clinical social worker and do therapy with lots of adopted adolescents. You guys are amazing parents! You should be teaching adoption courses.

[@jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518]

Boom! Will this lead to the reality of what you suggested? YES AND AMEN to that. Over to God!

[@RABPWarrior]

Thank you for what you do for the beloved children of this crazy world.

[@icyldabaird8507]

Blessings, I wish there were more people like you in the world. Love is the solution to every problem ❤❤

[@beautybyjendayi6050]

I know it must’ve been hard a bit. God bless you both ❤ & Happy New Year !

[@lasonyacooper9692]

I agree.

[@antdan5787]

Dad is super protective of his little girl. I don't think she could love anyone anymore than you. It could match it but that will be the beauty of allowing her to love and receive love. You hear a lot of children say that they have no animosity towards their birth parents because they had a good upbringing with their adoptive parents. Just allow tyanna to love her parents without any guilt. She is blessed to have such loving parents.

[@user-od9qm1kw2v]

Jon is such a beautiful gentleman. Physically & emotionally 😇

[@glendavisser-kn5qf]

❤❤❤

[@ms.anthropik]

@@glendavisser-kn5qf I agree!

[@devonjohnson9529]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@tdotgento8576]

We need more families like you to adopt children out of the foster care system and show love, regardless of color.

[@hyacinthfrost3245]

Agree.

[@lyssacox7941]

So True and Children Who Have Been In The System For A Long Time. the Saddest Part Is That Still In USA And The World People Choose little Children More Than Children 11yr. or 12 yrs. and up, they still need love as well and are still shaped and molded it, who that person or persons or things are.

[@Blue-jq9wu]

I just seeing this 11-11- 2023 .I have seen this Family in my Tix Tix page , And both adopted Parents Love Love this baby girl💯 And for Dad my heart is so touch over his Emotions !!! He so in Love with his baby Girl💯😃❤️❤️🙏🙏

[@datricepowell]

​@@Blue-jq9wuĥĥ B

[@datricepowell]

​@@Blue-jq9wuĥĥ B

[@1Kweenk]

You put your daughter first.. This is beautiful... Meeting her black family is best for her identity.. I love that you say.. "it's not your story to share" OMG! the statement "we want T to have people around her that looks like her" Wow! You just get it.. perfect parents..

[@LineghieTheGeek]

I wouldn’t say her “real family” The schoeller’s are her real family. That’s her birth family and of course it’s important to know them

[@1Kweenk]

@LineghieTheGeek Whoops! You're absolutely right. My bad.. Will try & amend xx

[@thelegendarylou6856]

Yes they most certainly are ...

[@Elizabeth-ej5ut]

GOD BLESS YOU PEOPLE 💖 🙏 ❤

[@derandajohnson6393]

Woww, you two are the finest. Most admirable. Heavenly humble, loving, and caring human beings in this whole wide world. As far as I know, there have been no other individuals, no known stories, or examples, of anyone, or even natural parents who could more than you too. You're so Amazing. NO, No, no...absolutely no SPENDING NIGHTS, no time soon PeriodT. Remember, I love you guys with the Joy of Jesus Christ. Continue to do just what you're doing. It is totally obvious that you both genuinely love Tyanna as your own, and Your heart is true, and your reward is in GOoD's hands. Remain 🙌🏽 😇 ❤🎉😊

[@RDiana63]

"My tummy mommie." OMG...that is soooo adorable. She is very blessed to have you two as her parents. I love how you love her. 😊

[@timothymateega5088]

You two people are angels from God. I wish the world is full of people like you. Thank God you met each other

[@pirenegreen9612]

Thank you both for not changing her name and for making this an open adoption so that she knows where she came from. So respectful! You guys are AH-maaazing!!Thank you. 😊

[@tessahazel9736]

Watching this channel for the first time, very much impressed by it . Awesome family... blessings, peace, joy and happiness and love to you guys and your beautiful family ❤️ Great content!🥂💯🙏🏿

[@mariarideout2322]

Sending love, hugs and positive energy to Mom, Dad and Tyanna! I so admire how you both fiercely protects Tyanna's psycho-social wellbeing and overall care. May the love you have for Tyanna abound exponentially through the years. I pray 🙏 for God to continue protecting you both and grant you wisdom to face all challenges that lie ahead in raising your daughter. I get you guys making Tyanna aware of her birth Mom & cousins but as far as I'm concerned the buck stops with you two as her Mother & Father! ❤❤❤ Auntie from Virginia in America 🇺🇸 😍 09/21/2023

[@BeachBumEvvie]

Tummy Mommy🥹. That is so sweet.

[@JassouJean]

I was changing his name, so that she had the same family name as me

[@Gillian2791]

I was adopted 51 years ago. I know very little about my birth mom/family. This is great. If possible open adoption is the best. All the questions I’ve had over the years Tyanna will have the answers. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@daniellecannon2318]

God bless you

[@JuliaPedro]

The way her first mother hugged her and smelled her showed how much she'd missed and loves her.

[@deliamaya5282]

Entonces por qué la dio en adopción

[@RissaLovesBenAndJerry]

@@deliamaya5282sometimes life gets hard

[@margienichols4750]

Tyanna is incredibly blessed to have as her parents.What’s an expression of love to her, to have her biological mom and family included in her life. Thank you father God for this amazing family!

[@evongilford392]

Very Blessed.. God is good..❤🙏

[@robinetteposton1289]

I am an African American woman with 4 kids and I just want to say you guys are such a beautiful soul. This is an example of how humanity should be your love is pure for your daughter and you always have her best interest in mind. May the Lord bless you beyond measure, and his Grace be over you always 🙏🏾❤️💫🌈🏆🏅💯

[@naumebogere2609]

Amen 🙏

[@user-sd8vy1yb4r]

amen

[@lindajones5419]

Amen

[@tanyatrotman6854]

Amen 🙏

[@Anonyme67]

Everything is beautiful on the internet …

[@pamelagarlito7149]

The child has a smiling face all the time, she looks like a happy soul.

[@kealebogasmiley2979]

She is❤

[@kimberlydixon3950]

You both are so thoughtful and overall wonderful parents. You are the definition of great parents❤❤ wonderful humans, that little girl is blessed.

[@macualonsogonzalez1935]

Feliz, feliz👍💝💝💝💝🙏💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝From España🇪🇦🌹

[@touniekeopraseuth4364]

Tyanna is a pure joy and a happy soul.

[@Damj1514]

The ability to manage selfishness is not only good for Tianna, but also for your marriage. You two are demonstrating emotional maturity. Bravo

[@nene8806]

The maturity and overall decisions being made is ultimately about Tyanna and that’s all that matters ❤❤❤

[@wisecoachingwithdr.fredado2954]

Tiana has her birth Mom’s DNA and naturally will have a connection to her birth Mom. The fact that it’s an open adoption helps reduce anxiety about the “what ifs.”

[@cocosheabuttarosemaryqueen9204]

Why was she put up for adoption?

[@aussiechick23]

@@cocosheabuttarosemaryqueen9204 Yeah id like to know this too... Seems like her birth mum seems fine? Shes got other kids too.... no hate, just curious

[@mmsfoxxie1]

The Schoeller’s have said (and rightly so) that the answers you want are not theirs to tell. It will come from Tyanna herself when she is older and maybe wants to share that information . @@cocosheabuttarosemaryqueen9204

[@trinettemitchell3053]

​@aussiechick23 If you listen to the video, she mentioned cousins, not brothers and sisters. And we can all agree that, Perhaps she gave Tyanna up for adoption because she couldn't provide her with the life that she deserved.

[@aussiechick23]

Yet she is allowed to come visit as she pleases because her other parents are giving her a better life. yeah nah, f_k that. She choose to give up on her daughter then she should move on. @@trinettemitchell3053

[@katea127]

Daddy's girl, love the way he jumped up out of Q&A to ensure his baby girl is okay. Well done to both of you.💝

[@mcormick41]

Me too! JUST SWEET! I’m bout to ask if he could be my dad! Lol

[@livingnow7017]

You gave your daughter such a beautiful, heartwarming, selfless gift! ❤

[@angelahall7147]

Oh Yes ❤😊❤

[@angelahall7147]

Give Glory to God for all this love. HALLELUJAH ❤❤❤❤

[@alprinaporter6444]

You guys are beautiful souls . Tyanna is blessed to be with you. Her biological mother is blessed as well to have Tyanna with parents like you guys that are willing to give biological mom a second chance to be in her life. This is what love looks like. Blessings and peace to you guys.

[@iamnaygei]

Wow ❤❤❤ As a Biological mom I appreciate Y'all selflessness and understanding of your daughters feelings and needs!

[@zen_mindset1]

You both have high emotional intelligence. Putting your needs aside for her says a lot.

[@darleneray9161]

Awesome 😊

[@rayray094life]

I was thinking that. They are so respectful and observant of others’ feelings. They make such great parents and Tyanna is such a light ❤

[@Magdalenekwawukume-xr7nl]

Oo am crying

[@thewaymin.]

Emotional maturity

[@aliahjones2401]

I completely agree! 💯

[@RABPWarrior]

Let’s send a HUGE hug to tyanna’s birth mom!!!!!

[@tulsacaupain2882]

❤ I do agree.

[@angeliaanderson6030]

I agree with you and hugs and kisses 😘

[@mzj7246]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@tthomas]

She made a great decision...

[@angelahall7147]

Oh YES❤❤❤❤❤

[@florencemesele6622]

Absolutely respect these parents. What they're doing is God's work. May God bless them. Love from🇿🇦

[@amyratcliff3843]

Don't worry guys she knows you're her mom & dad. Best of luck.❤✊🏾

[@bubumcheywood1456]

Best parents ever , selfless ❤️ even biological parents don't have this level of competency. I salute you 👏 🙌 this little girl is blessed

[@user-og3bu5ev7h]

And she is a blessing to her parents

[@brendabrenda6738]

Even the little girl stood up at her! wow

[@sharondease3551]

I beg your pardon.i would go to the end of the earth for my kids!..

[@stephanihenry4496]

All I CAN SAY IS THIS IS SUCH A AWESOME COULP...AND THIS BABY IS BLESSED!!!!❤

[@stephanihenry4496]

AS WELL AS THIS BEAUTIFUL COUPLE!! REALLY, JUST A COUPLE HELPING THE WORLD GO ROUND!!!!❤😢

[@beverleycollins9490]

When Tianna sees this video she will definitely know how much you both LOVE HER so MUCH…Real Love ❤️ & Pure Love ❤️

[@cityjuice.]

She gets her beautiful face from her birth mother😊 what a beautiful thing.

[@KeCee1979]

OMGoodness! As a black woman, your videos have been touching me to the core! Your channel just popped up as I was scrolling through my KZbin. I’ve been glued since. I’ve been crying, laughing, smiling all morning! Can’t even get my work done 😂God bless you. You’re perfect parents for Tyanna. She is so blessed to have loving, caring, nurturing (in all areas of her life) and beautiful parents like you two.

[@shantelh3093]

Yes I’m with you too so much love beyond measures

[@maryjohnson1144]

I've no question, just a comment. Tyanna is beyond blessed to have you two as parents. Rihanna, you didn't give birth from the tummy, but from the HEART. You and Jon are awesome parents!

[@TheSchoellerFamily]

❤️❤️❤️

[@sandybush6066]

I agree that Rihanna gave birth from the heart like some of my clients. But I see physical synchronization of the baby and her mom.

[@jtay7610]

@@TheSchoellerFamily .

[@kemmyrogers3273]

You both are amazing parents this little girl is so blessed and ya know her birth mother loved her enough to let her go cuz she couldn't give her what she deserved and needed this is so beautiful we need more ppl like this God bless this whole family

[@jv-sc1fs]

Beautiful 💕💕🥰🥰

[@kimmersxa]

“Awesome! Tummy Mommy!” That’s so adorable and awesomely straight forward. ❤

[@DiverseDalliance786]

I love this for Tyanna. To grow up in such a loving supportive family but also get to keep in touch with her bio-family and identity.

[@lorettahawkins1645]

It's sad that all people could not be happy for these adopted kids. Love is colorless and all kids deserve to be loved.

[@tj-ts5mo]

I am an African American women. It makes me so happy to see the love you have for Tiona. She is definitely in the right home , with loving parents.

[@TradBarbie]

You're from Africa?

[@Marissa-gz2ts]

@@TradBarbie out of the whole comment, that’s all you took away from it? who cares where she’s from.

[@gabbyb025]

I also love how they keep her hair in natural hairstyles so she learn to love her whole self at an early age. Usually I see people try to flat iron their hair and never have them around other blacks to detach them from their black roots.

[@Bishopmoni]

Actually I too am an African American woman and when I say I am in fear for that child I truly mean it this child is constantly in revealing clothing and seems to always be caught in some questionable poses with her parents at time.....I don't like this at all and this seems like a really unsafe environment for the child

[@TradBarbie]

@@Marissa-gz2ts Me, and I don't care about your thoughts.

[@venitaperez9375]

Soy adoptada y lo único que aprendí fue a dar amor ❤️ y recibí muchísimo amor de mis padres valores que hoy gracias a ellos VIVO EN PAZ TRANQUILA Y MUY MUY AGRADECIDA CON DIOS🙏❤️

[@Eminems_woman_4_life]

I love how u guys call her bio mother her mum as well. Little Tyanna has got 3 VERY loving parents

[@goodday5941]

You can never be over protective. You two are her parents. It’s LOVE ❤❤❤❤❤!!!!

[@gesdocteur7807]

You are the greatest parents I ever seen. That girl is very lucky to have you as parents. What she gets from love and comfort and everything else. She wouldn't get that kind of life style with her birth daughter.

[@JackieGouche]

I love how protective you guys are over Tiana❤

[@anitawhittico7142]

I Love that you all are so open and loving, its not about color religion anything just Love!! God Bless this Family!!❤🙏🏾

[@5995Jiol]

Same here ❤

[@englishmj]

Protecting your daughter is priority. You guys are great parents.

[@crystalnix3865]

You two aren’t just amazing parents but are a wonderfully cute couple. There is so much love in your videos it’s contagious. Your family is really wonderful. You addressed very real emotional questions that even happen in non-adopted families. The question of do you think your child will love the other person more is a realization I think all families go through. Thank you for posting.

[@kseaglewings6835]

Tyanna is blessed to have you both! Awesome parents. And Jon, loving the protective and caring Father role! Children need that!

[@janewashington1729]

Especially girls need that. It gives them the confidence that they need, in order to make intelligent, wise decisions about who they will share their lives with ! Cudos to both of you !❤❤❤

[@lindawilhelm350]

As a fellow mom of adopted kids with open adoptions, don't diminish your role as her #1 mom. Don't refer to yourself as "2nd mom". You are the #1 mom bc you are raising her.

[@Hazel_256]

This is such a weird thing to say... It's not about #1 or #2. It's about ensuring she's loved and cared for.

[@Usapatriette]

Exactly, Linda.

[@CherieButler]

She is is no way diminishing herslef. She is acknowledging the chronological order. They know how important they are to her and vice versa.

[@kameshacardona575]

She ABSOLUTELY IS 2nd, Mom

[@user-ko1id4vw8d]

Exactly EXACTLY!!!! 🎯

[@DebraHammondpop2]

Tyanna's is living her best life thanks to you two! It's ALL about LOVE!!

[@kimdavis9197]

You both are amazing parents! May God keep your family protected and blessed. ❤❤

[@prettywoke6328]

Her biological mother is so beautiful. They are twins❤

[@healthyscents]

You two restored my faith in humanity ❤stay blessed.

[@antdan5787]

Dad when they said can she do sleepovers 🤣😂🤣😂 did his jaw drop. Love the fact that they love her so much that tyanna isn't doing sleep overs.

[@SanzL1]

Best parents ever to a little girl who is a beam of light! These wonderful parents will only make Tyanna shine brighter, if that’s even possible! We will all be blessed! Look our, world, Tyanna is coming!

[@GFTV2.0]

THANK YOU FOR LOVING HER. SHE IS ONE WE DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT. DAD YOU ARE MY BROTHER ! ✊

[@thelegendarylou2335]

Nicely articulated. I'm a criminal justice retiree, and trust me, these lovely, selfless, balanced mom & dad, people like you both, make our jobs easy. Ty is truly one we won't be worrying about. But she is clearly a daddy's girl;))

[@Patricia-rt8cf]

It would be wonderful if all young parents have the mindset that you two have. The little girl is blessed. Thank you both.

[@joannamanley2983]

Just wonderful! As an African child who spent the first four years of life in private foster care, it would have been so much better for me like this. I went back to my biological mother and experienced trauma and attachment issues. I am about to reach 60 years of age and reflecting. You guys have a beautiful approach. All the best ❤

[@patricialouisrealtor5660]

Wow!!! She is copy and paste of her first mom. Same exact smile ❤

[@theresacrockett8559]

I agree with the sleeping over issue. My mother never let me sleep at any ones house. Although all my friends were welcome to sleep at my house anytime..and they did. I was resentful at the time, but as the years passed I have thanked Mom a thousand times over. We found out years later that some of my friends were being molested at the so called nice homes by so called nice brothers and fathers. It was very sad and traumatic for these little girls. Thank you Mom for your recognizing the danger and protecting me.

[@wafo133]

Same😊

[@daniellebrogan8699]

I agree I slept over at 15 for a babysitting job amd got sexually abused, il never let my son stay out apart from parents

[@riajones4337]

This child is loved by everyone and the approach of involving her blood relatives is commendable as it assists her wholistic development .

[@gillianmoore7219]

I'm a new suscriber. You guys have a heart of gold. Tyanna is beyond bless.

[@Ummkelechi]

I just met my biological brother a year ago! It’s a very nice feeling to connect with family!!

[@nancygreen3705]

The fact that Jon was teary periodically during this video shows how much he cares for his baby girl! I love you guys! 💗

[@katrinacrisp6520]

The man is a Predator. And what happens In the dark will come to light.

[@dstreet43]

Omg, yes!! Jon is not playing about his baby girl. I love it

[@marjorjorietillman856]

It makes me tear up too! It’s beautiful!

[@bernedettekuteyi3843]

Jon wait, till she is ready to go to College I can imagine him putting a spy camera to watch his baby girl. Or when she brings home her first boyfriend 😂😂😂😂

[@lillieparnell7461]

U and Jon are so sweet I love watching your vlog I my self just love u mom smile and jon how he make u a Tianna so happy and she has chose the greatest an best family in world an I love baby girl happiness an she is a Water baby an daddy girl an mom helper I love u both😢

[@19901NOREEN]

Oh my God! I really really appreciate your openness and honesty. Biological or not, you two are SUPER PARENTS! The Lord bless, cover and guide you both. 💕

[@danielarjona1492]

The more people that can love Tyanna, the better. It's so cool everybody saw it that way.

[@__shadyyyy__]

You guys are truly blessed! The love in this video is so beautiful 🙏🏾 baby girl is so blessed to have you all praying for you all and this beautiful journey ✨🙏🏾

[@Theresa-gp3vz]

I like when the adopted parents keep an open adoption. Help to prevent the talk later and constant curiosity the child will have as she grows older.

[@RABPWarrior]

Tyannas birth mom seems like a sweet and loving young woman, proud of her.

[@marie-laurence1308]

Why she abandoned her ?? She’s not so sweet

[@karenmckenzie5931]

What lovely, caring parents!

[@judymcgowan2881]

@@marie-laurence1308 you don't know why she was in foster care. And do you know why she gave her up. You don't need to call her not sweet !!!!🥺 You are not nice by saying that.

[@PrettiestGemini]

@@marie-laurence1308Girl shut up you don’t know this woman.

[@DorisAcheampong-cr8rt]

​@@marie-laurence1308he knows she abandoned her?. You don't know her mother story!!

[@TK-ud6us]

I love how they have made this all about Tyanna. Just hearing him talk about making sure she is surrounded by love and they both want her to know who she is and where she comes from, it just makes my heart smile. I love how they set boundaries. We live in a world where people feel entitled to know everything, especially if you are on social media. My favorite part is when he made it clear that although they get questions all the time like where has her family been all this time, but he stands firm in stating that is their story to tell. Love it!! So many people are so quick to judge and are so demanding. You can tell he stands firm in protecting his wife and his child's peace and space. This is such a loving family and I wish them nothing but joy and God's blessings.

[@SoLaris639]

This is beautiful!! This is the way to go.. my family has an open adoption and it is so harmonious. The children feel loved and this is the best ❤

[@GoddessTheOldeGodd]

This is what all children need. Love from everyone who loves them!! Bless y'all for truly having her best interests at heart.

[@juanitaevans2715]

Speaking from experience, finding out about my birth family had no impact on the relationship/bond I had developed with my adopted family. Prayerfully, Tyanna won't ever have to endure some of the misery that I endured when my bio mom began competing for my attention/time (in my late teen early adulthood life). She wanted me to call her mom and call my adopted mom by her first name, she wanted me to visit her first on Mother's Day, those types of things. She began making me feel like I was betraying her and told me that in so many words. I never told my adopted family, but I was a nervous wreck during that time of my life. I pray that Tyanna never have to deal with anything similar from any member of her bio side of the family. I beg of you to keep the lines of communication open with her especially during her teen years. I kept it all in to avoid hurting my adopted mom, but it reeked havoc on me mentally, emotionally, and physically. She then gave me the ultimatum (while in tears) to make a choice because she was tired of sharing me. I never verbally responded to her; but I did begin to emotionally and physically pull away - it was too traumatic for me. The timing of your video is perfect. I shed many tears yesterday (8/13) when one of my bio sisters drove in from out of state and we were able to spend time together. Sorry for rambling. I said all that to say that the bond and love that Tyanna has developed with you guys is unbreakable. I do have a tugging in my heart to spend time with my bio mom and get to know her but there is absolutely nothing in the world that she can say or do that would ever make me doubt/guess/challenge the love in regard to my family that loved, nurtured, and raised me. Never fear being replaced. Even if she spends time with them, you will always be in her heart and on her mind. You can't replace real love; at least that's how it was for me. I've never watched your videos with dry eyes because I see Tyanna in me. If you are ever touring the OKC area, let me know. I'd love to extend a warm embrace to each of you. You two will never know the magnitude of your life decision to open your heart and home to this little angel.

[@sherrydonaldson4709]

This is beautifully written and is good information from someone who has 1st hand knowledge of this type of adoption/experience.m. That you for sharing.

[@varnettiekohres5760]

Thank you for sharing . It is good to hear it from the child's perspective. It is sad to hear thst some parents would play with and manipulate a childs feelings .

[@CatsAndPokemon]

this is important information. thanks for sharing

[@1browngirl29]

My friends were adoptive parents and raised a child until 14 when the birth mom came into to picture and created such havoc. The family ended up being ripped apart because of the tug of war and lack of boundaries that enticed the adopted child to want to live with birth mom. Eventually the child refused to go home to adopted parents. It’s important to set boundaries, communicate with all parties, and importantly prioritize the child talk to the child AND no sleep overs. No alone time anywhere. Maybe when she’s 18 she can do whatever but not until then

[@lozzyloo258]

I think you're an amazing, strong woman. I cried when reading your comment. I can almost feel your pain when reading it. I am from London but if u ever want to talk to someone I would always be here to listen, even write?

[@nickellcrawford3576]

You guys are amazing 😂 I really enjoy watching yall. Her birth Mom even adds to the love. We need more real down to earth people. This is Love ❤️

[@amason8636]

I absolutely LOOOOOVE your family. The IMPORTANCE of her connecting with her bio family and having her build connections and see reflections of herself. I have seen other families on IG ( who hv a show on HGTV ) and to live and be surrounded by who look nothing like you and it seems there is no effort to have the child see beautiful images or connect w/ other black children or form a village. You are doing an amazing job! Being a parent is the most difficult job but so rewarding. May God continue to cover and bless you all

[@anomalybutterfly910]

As a bi-racial child of adoption, open adoption is beautiful ❤️ I wished when I was younger that I had that with my birth family. 🦋

[@sherei9530]

What questions and confusion did a closed transracial adoption cause for you?

[@humphpreycorrell3482]

No. I wouldn't let her spend the night @this time in her lift. She is much. To Young❤

[@paztribe437]

To all agencies and organizations, birth families and adopted family: These are the Model parents for the adoption story. As an adoptee, I state this. I have so much I want to comment on regarding this phenomenal mom and dad. I'm commenting at a later time when I've gathered my thoughts and processed my emotions. Thank you for your informative videos and the most beautiful loving parents any child would hope to have. I truly have so much love for you all, my heart is full!

[@evangelist-wekiatv3189]

Awwww I just came across your post and I must admit, you guys are the real MVP❤ I really feel emotional seeing this real love. Going through your posts I only see pure love. Loving your daughter with everything ❤

[@sirganjanista7838]

Please know that I discovered you 2 this morning, and already you're my hero. I can't have kids and wanted to adopt or do foster care, and I needed something to connect my heart and my brain. I had fear about going through this process, and in 1 day, I know I'm ready. Thank you so much for sharing this page with the world because you're a part of the reason I am no longer scared. I don't know you, but I love you both!

[@phillymom917]

Honeys, we see the love in every post. You are all truly blessed!

[@user-xo8mg2iu1p]

I love that John said that she’s not allowed to love nobody more than him I feel the same way about my little girl

[@MsShay-jp6py]

The love that he has for her is GOD'S PLAN!! This baby is BLESSED!! ❤❤

[@michellecampbell5092]

Tyanna is so adorable and funny! ❤😂❤ taking your time is wisdom and I’m sure the birth mom understands that.

[@bettyodari3274]

Wow,just seeing and subscribing to this channel first time. All I can say,this is pure love, remarkable, absolutely loving and I wish this kind of love can spread in the entire universe.

[@ardisbush7326]

❤Beautiful. May God continue to bless each and every one of you. Thanks for sharing your story so that others may learn what true love, sharing and giving really is. ❤❤

[@mikaelakellogg]

I am adopted from China (closed in 1996). I am forever grateful for my adoptive parents, they’re decision to open their home to me gave me the best life I could ever imagine. Seeing that clip of your baby girl with her birth mother brought me to tears. I’m sure Tiannas birth mother had hesitations & doubts about if she made the right decision & seeing you two raise her to be an amazing young woman is the most precious thing. God bless all of you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@justycewittawhy5082]

I think its awesome that she gets to also know her birth mom and her family because adopted kids always feel a void later in life once they realize everything. This connection will definitely eliminate a lot of those issues adopted kids develop. Great content!

[@cassiephillips9011]

I couldn’t have said it better!!you literally took the words out of my mouth !!But everything you said is so very true!!!!I love the way they went about there adoption as well!!!!

[@frannyfaye2683]

So true! Thank you for saying this! ❤

[@princessedestulipes3456]

C'est tellement vrai ce que vous dites, elle a beaucoup de chance cette petite fille

[@louvretreekay12_]

are you adopted? Are you talking for everyone who’s adopted right now? 😂 Some ppl feel a void even when they’re not adopted unfortunately, and some adopted ppl never do. I think that’s what adopted ppl should be more talkative about, what some of them feel is pressure from the outer world ( who should mind its own business) to meet with birth parents thinking this is the key to happiness. But pressure doesn’t equal real feelings. I know for a fact adopted ppl who are actually happy in their adoptive family feel the need to be apologetic for not wanting any kind of bond with birth parents. Please if you want a proof try and say to common ppl that biology DNA and bodily fluids don’t make bonds, love do. And see the reaction of common ppl.

[@mellajoe]

Yess this is so healthy

[@adriee85]

You guys are amazing! Your love, care, the adventures, teachings tells all of us, you are God's choice for your daughter. Love the fact you are lovingly, cautiously and thoroughly considering the interactions with her birth mother. Your daughter is the most important person and it's obvious you have put her first.

[@LAnissa126]

I just came across your channel and I’m locked in. You both are incredible parents with an amazing daughter. I love the honesty and transparency shared in the Q & A. Continued blessings to everyone involved in this beautiful journey. ❤

[@gloriaward2009]

Two very educated and loving parents. She is so lucky to have you in her life. Her mom is a wonderful person for doing what she thought was best for her. Excellent vlog!!!

[@thelmaowens5479]

I was adopted. Your love for her is amazing.

[@pamelajenkins8404]

You guys are awesome, I applaud you for allow Tyanna to be a whole person, not shying away from who she is at her core. Tyanna will never want to leave you, I adopted a 12 yr old girl and a 5 1/2 month old boy. They are now 29 and 43 and we are best friends that's how strong the bonds are.. good luck always

[@sophiesebaggala450]

Am not being baised. But NO, NO, I would not let her spend the night anywhere. I have a toddler, and I don't let him have sleep overs, but with one family I trust so much. Use the gut, you are beautiful parent's.

[@jujubee7351]

I wouldn’t let her stay the nite anywhere until she is way older . You guys are wonderful parents .

[@sonjaistheone4614]

I agree with you! That brought tears to my eyes seeing the adoptive dad crying about it! More people should be!

[@latashab-james1495]

Agree!!! Too much goes on these days. No way!

[@flygirl5946]

I agree!!!

[@shomems465]

She looks just like her biological mother ❤

[@aprilmay1061]

Just like her. 🤗🤗😘😘

[@TiaJoy1372]

Yes😊💛

[@armandadeveigamonteiro8457]

Yup she’s her twin

[@vickyfisher-bz4jj]

First mum

[@jesusisking258]

Agree

[@cassandradennis5685]

Wow!! Those questions are very interesting. Who knew? I'm glad that the birth mom is in the picture and that the relationship with the adoptive is so beautiful. It's good for the baby. So beautiful. ❤ may God continue to bless them all.🙏🏻

[@fanta2905]

I am all in tears.God is and will always be with you♥️

[@user-ub9iu3yz9y]

You two are a rare self-less couple.❤❤❤

[@orie1504]

I grew up in foster care... the system is wicked! It is so beautiful to see the way you all foster her love with her biological family too. It is a blessing for her to the two of you and all your family. Love and blessings to you all!

[@LisaHolmes-kx6mn]

I watch your videos from time to time. However I always felt this is a beautiful story. God bless you both for giving this beautiful baby girl the love she so deserves❤❤❤

[@4splibby]

You guys are great! That little girl is so blessed to have such open-hearted and loving people, making sure that she grows up when everything. She needs to be the wonderful person that God put her here to be.