Domestic Abuse Tyra (Part 1)

[@Wikibig]

I don't think someone can just 'get up and leave'- it's so much more complicated than that, being abused; verbally or physically can affect your mental state so much to a point where you feel trapped and completely hopeless. You can feel scared even if you do get help and get away from it (to be honest I don't think you can ever get away from it, it's always going to be somewhere deep in your mind, you have thoughts of 'what if they come back'/ or /this and this happens' on occasions when something triggers you) you're still going to think back to it and on a lot of occasions, people are scarred for LIFE and no amount of therapyor pills could COMPLETELY HEAL UP that scar- it could hide it/bury it somewhere but it's always going to be there. You need to find a way to COPE with it, not forget it-cause trying to forget is wasting your time, one day its gonna come back to you- weather its flashbacks or memories or whatever. You know what's happened and you need to think to yourself ,it's OVER , i'm safe and I'm STRONG, so STRONG- I can take my revenge by showing that I can be a better person and showing that I can lead my own life -Sometimes people do need help/support from others to get through this, don't block it out- LET people help you or TRY to SPEAK up about what you're really feeling.

[@octoberwitch7968]

Thank you. This helped me understand a little more because I am one of those girls growing up that always thinks, " what are they doing? The first time they hit me or show any signs of being rough I will be OUT of that relationship! Why don't other women leave?" And I still agree with that because I truly believe I have trained my heart to truly tell myself when it's healthy love or unhealthy love. But your post helped me understand a little more why women stay and I could never really get that. It's truly so sad :/

[@candylove49]

It's hard hearing about all this abuse... She is so pretty who would want to hurt her? sick

[@csl3766]

i love tyra and everything, but i hate the way she kept cutting dominique off and asking her explicit questions about her abuse.

[@truthbetold89]

Being able to recognize & deal with stress, is the most valuable life skill.

[@Thatisjustmo]

Dominique is so beautiful. Practically looks Like jlo with the long mane 😍 so sad to see that anyone would want to put such a strong woman and child through torment . I’m proud of the mother for doing what she can allowing her to see the light on her own but being there for her

[@sparklepinkjenny]

beautiful mom!

[@davidpeter3965]

People can be really weak. Don't want to go without love.

[@PerfectlyRomantic95]

"What doesn't kill makes you stronger! Stand a little taller..." Hahaha, who knew at that time that that would become a song? :P

[@stephc0818]

These women are so strong to go on TV and talk about their abusive relationships

[@chetdog]

your love has made you powerful

[@pandy2323]

LOL. That mom is awesome. Everybody deserves a mother like that.

[@lookafisheh]

Sometimes talk show hosts have to cut people off because again it IS only a one hour show. So they want you to get everything and ever piece of information out of you in the little time you have. So Tyra has to do that unless she wants her to keep talking about the same subject for a long period of time.

[@whatsurnamehey]

I loved when Dominique's mom was talking about how she went in protection mode.

[@Monalisasmile8911]

DAMN TYRA BE HAVING SOME GOOD ASS TOPICS

[@CurlyFries120]

these women are absolutely gorgeous! such a tragedy people abuse others due to their own insecurity and lack of self control :(

[@likeyouornot]

its so sad. i love dominique shes such a good person and beautiful.

[@emmakinzy1991]

i didn't like her in Top Model but i can respect her for getting out of such a difficult situation. Good Job Girl.

[@xTheFame]

she did have an episode about that. it's called 'Abusive Women'

[@Youreamess]

FYI, most stalking and murders occurs after the victim leaves the abuser.

[@vandenboschlarry]

Every coward is willing to fight a fight he is sure to win.

[@650Pisces]

I FEEL LIKE ABUSE HAPPENS WHEN BOTH PPL IN THE RELATIONSHIP DONT KNOW HOW TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP !!!!! IF WOMEN/MEN FELT MORE SECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES THEY WOULDNT HAVE TO GO TO THIS EXTENT TO STAY IN A BAD RELATIONSHIP!!! U HAVE TO KNOW UR WORTH IT AND THAT U DESERVE THE BEST!!! STOOOOOOOOP BEING THE VICTIM ALREADY!!!

[@vickychillin3255]

It's sad when u are or were in an abusive relationship and the mother of the man abusing u sees her son beating u and she still sides with her son that hit u

[@42Johney]

omg. i hated dominique, but after this i completely respect her and support her in cycle 17

[@saraberra2516]

U did the right thing girl thank god your still here

[@gabiefication]

That mom is my inspiration haha lol

[@BaileyRadiationn]

Dominique is absolutely flawless.

[@KaylaNoelle1]

I know how Dominique felt and I'm 19 like she was, she wanted someone to show her the things they love about her so she could accept herself more. I was looking for that too and I know I should learn to love myself without having to seek acceptance from a boy, but I was almost there when I met my boyfriend. He's giving me that extra little bit that I need. I want to show him the things I love about him too so if he says he doesn't like something about himself I tell him the reasons why he should, and why I like a certain aspect of him he doesn't like and he does the same to me. I almost dated a guy who I felt in my gut that I shouldn't trust, because I was sad and wanted someone to love me but I'm glad I rejected him in the end because I found out later that he was NOT a nice person. Instead of settling for an asshole I waited it out and a few months later fell in love with my current boyfriend who is super kind and nurturing and so healthy for me to be with. I hope that everyone who is in an abusive relationship who reads this gets away and gets help, I don't care if you are a girl or a guy no one has the right to hurt you physically or emotionally especially if you already had a bad self image and were vulnerable. You deserve someone who lifts you up and helps you learn to love your self!

[@danejohnson3342]

How prevalent is the theme that "I didn't love myself" and staying in an abuse relationship?

[@amberlayleen]

tyra: "That even I DID NOT KNOW" HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHA

[@iamhighonmypetslove]

i have a poster in my room made of glitter that says what doesnt kill you makes you stronger

[@sims256]

Dammit if only tyra was still doing this show Alexandria needs to be on here from cycle 16 and she is coming back on cycle 17

[@RETROGEMS]

I'm a woman and I think she looks like a beautiful woman. She is what I would describe as a woman with striking features, that's all.

[@MCroxxie14]

She is so beautiful..

[@pippahp]

That mom is amazing

[@kirax10a]

that is a real mother who truly loves her she showed her daughter that she loves and her grandchild and would protect her.

[@moonsaige]

As for her ex... He is NOT a real man! to endanger your child's life before and after they're born is just beyond low!

[@Nubianhippie]

smh not all black men are abusive and black men are not the only race that are abusive.

[@ruukugirl]

THATS A MOTHER RIGHT THERE YA!!!

[@timmybegley6789]

I loved Dominique on ANTM.

[@messivilla08]

dominique is soo pretty!

[@Drinking1DrPepper]

:D thank you so much!

[@Msunappreciatedartis]

What doesnt kill you make you stronger

[@blueshogun96]

I haven't seen those comments, and have yet to scroll back through the history of them. No one deserves to be abused, even if they don't do anything about it but getting revenge by chopping off his junk isn't justifiable no matter how much we may think he deserves it. A more logical thing to do would be to call the police and have him thrown in jail. The cops take DV situations seriously and will even lock him up even if she doesn't have any evidence against him in many cases.

[@Couldbeanyone9876]

I love her momma honestly she awesome

[@Lottaskiier]

That mom is so cool!

[@ruukugirl]

I LOVE HER SHOWS.... sucks how it's not on no more :'(

[@SuperGenesse]

As someone who grew up in a household like this I understand your point. It doesn't make sense to go back to something who beats and rapes you. But in my circumstance, my mum was not able to with three kids on a single income be independent and provide for them. So she went back to him three times, before finally leaving him. She is finally independent and strong.

[@seeker00101]

even she had had such a terribal life she is still sooo butifull in her looks and personalitys

[@xiominiac]

She's mixed just like Leona Lewis

[@wemetee]

Dominique's mom is gorgeous.

[@Sodapoppy147]

Tyra is one gorgeous female.

[@lastyllobille]

Wow now that girl and her mom are both amazing inspirations.

[@HolySeethe]

OMG i almost cried people need to respect people more these days my gosh my i was gonna cry

[@Bgirl291]

Dominique looks beautiful with her blonde hair

[@staceykoch2180]

I love Tara, whether or not others feel this way for ME she is right up there with Opera.

[@MrSunshineinthesky]

regardless of is a person is hideously deformed or an award winning model..NOBODY ever deserves to be hurt.

[@LittleStoneRoses]

Dominique's mom is amazing.

[@iberryluv]

such an awesome mom

[@StableXryt]

it makes you scared after hearing this god knows what people are turning in to these days

[@wemetee]

It's hard for me to understand as well but then I realize that not everyone has the same experiences as me. Some women get so caught up in the relationship that they FORGET that they are worth more than the abuse. It is a complete mental trip. Like she said, the abuse happens so gradual and then suddenly it's full on you controlling your life. If you have ever dated a total jerk before you can understand a little what these women are going through.

[@kysfallen1795]

Tell me more about how someone who has the intention to hurt or kill you will be stopped by a restraining/intervention order.

[@BlueHairedKoalaBear]

I was like "Whoo Kelly Clarkson quote!" 6:06 But then I was like "Oh. This was 2008. xD

[@CatsAndPokemon]

Domonique is soooo beautiful!

[@DarkMoon6]

Dominique looks really beautiful here. I feel sad for her... but she's a strong woman.

[@mathenysabrina]

I think it's important to remember that the point is to be wary and be prepared and get out while you can. Not to be fearful of all men. Because not all men will treat you this way. I know a lot of really good guys. Of course they are engaged or married... but yea

[@Starry_Night_Sky7455]

Good God, these stories anger me. I had to see domestic abuse growing up. You guessed it, my dad was a p.o.s. that harassed (that's an understatement) my mom every day. The chaos, noise, and violence was disturbing. It was senseless, very toxic actually. This garbage should not be tolerated. Men that do that shit should honestly just be executed. You can't "reform" them. That's really an injustice to protect the abusers. It lets the rest of the potential abusers out there realize they can get away with it.

[@mothauthor]

The REAL reason for the "don't hit girls" rule: Because in return, we will kick your ass. ;D

[@pimpinazgirl]

DAMN, mama is starting to remind me of Madea xD

[@latishacroissant2238]

So beautiful!

[@youpippo81]

tyra is crazy lol

[@BmoReYCE]

there was a well known case not so long ago, about a women who claimed domestic abuse, etc, got an intervention order, etc, because she was jelous of her ex after he left. she kept the kids, he left the state. a few years later, she starts stalking him, drives a few hundred miles to his ciry, and corners his car in an alleyway, and calls the police, as he's not allowed within 200miles of her, and he gets arrested and placed in prison. protect peoples lives? she just ruined his. forever.

[@nrtipton]

Im coming out of a 2.5 year abusive relatiobship and I started crying hearing this girls story... I got to that point to, HIM OR ME... And I started shopping for handguns... Thats when I knew I HAD to report him. You become very instinctual in that setting and its very cave man like. I would HAVE KILLED him. I started dreaming about it after the last instance of him blacking my eye on new years eve.. Unless you have been there, you dont understand.

[@fayfay02]

this is an AMAZING mother

[@abaslafrance]

If all those mother would go to the extent that Dominique's mom went , there would be less talk show segments on Domestic Abuse these days.

[@adriannippy]

For a moment there, I thought it was J Lo. Talking about some domestic abuse . hahahaha.

[@BrittanyNicole393]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[@martinario]

that's a good mother. she took the power back , by protecting herself and her daughter.

[@roxannetalley7085]

Mama was ready to take him OUT lol. She had DAGGERS lol OK!

[@loria287]

The fact that nobodies mother knows what's going on is a sad thing! God If I ever have a daughter I protect her with my life.

[@luna3885]

hey..i kind of agree with Thomas...i'm now in a healthy relationship (thank God) .. but i was in an abusive relationship before..and i was weak minded..i let him convince me i can't get better and no one will ever love me like him..one day i realised - i don't want anybody to love me like you do...but again i guess my mind needed few months to get there..because, you know..there was ''love''..

[@faeriemoonlight95]

ahahahaha! the mom is like frikkin rambo! XDD

[@girl123interrupted]

This reminds me of what Dane cook says about "relation-shits" Karen: Leisa, you need to get out of that relationship... you need to just leave, just go! Leisa: It isn't that easy Karen! My CD's are in his car!

[@Ilikefrogs..]

@Pucktana That is the sweetest thing I've ever heard.

[@08Stella]

Oh Lene... just leave him darling. Arguing with a fool, prooves that there is two. HAHA. LOL, just kiddin'.... You are so right but he ain't ready to hear it. It'll take time or may-be he will never get it. :) Cheers and love from Holland. xxxx

[@lene.m]

Aww thank you Stella :) Love from Norway xx

[@Youreamess]

You have to investigate every claim that comes in. False or not. It's better to investigate and find that a claim is false, than not investigate and something happens. That's what we are taught in the human services field. Every claim must be taken seriously.

[@LadybugDoodles]

What has this world come to... It's unbelievable! Why can't we all just live in harmony?!

[@amynextdoor]

Most of the people targeted by are abuse make themselves victims. The people abusing them pray on insecurities and weaknesses. A lot of people repeat abusive relationships because of these weaknesses and insecurites abusers see and pick out on them.

[@violetgirl1996]

i was like "2011? ohh.... until 2011 cause this vid was uploaded in 2008" lol

[@Ninaki13th]

It just pisses me off when they start complaining but they say..Well he beats me up but i went to him 3-4 times.I forgave him. If someone is mentally ill,Stay away from him. I understand that they are in Love and shit but they should love themselves more than just a Guy.THey do not deserve to be treated like that,In that case,Stop complaining and do something about it.That's my opinion.If he does it the first time,Leave him.Don't give him more chances to do it.

[@blueshogun96]

Excellent! Thanks.

[@MoodyTrudie]

AWW DARLING BLESS HER

[@londononion]

6:07 not unless it puts you in a wheelchair ;) jokes

[@evaberlin]

@JessJust4Fun that's true. I have an aunt who did kickboxing as her sport. but when her husband hit her, she still can't fight back. that's how less strong a woman is, physically.

[@vickychillin3255]

I wish all mother's were like that

[@TheLifeofEmily1]

This is sad no matter if the woman can help her self or not. :(

[@kkmalay]

Good for you Justicecarly, your an awesome woman

[@christinaa2967]

THAT EVERY SAD FOR HER THAT HER EX-BOYFRIEND WOULD SPIT ON HER AND JUST CALL HER NAMES AND GOES OUT LATE NOT EVEN THINK OF HIS CHILD AND HIS EX-GIRLFRIEND. AND ABUSING HER THATS A DIFFERNT THING

[@justlayinghere]

@MoonScar Oh wow...I hope she's ok. :(

[@SimpleChica]

whyyyyyyyy would you say that, that is so stupid, yet im laffing lol