Asking My Boyfriend JUICY Questions Girls Are Afraid Too Afraid To Ask|| Meghanandjack

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[@eagryn]

You actually covered a very important topic that needs to be addressed and talked about more. Men should NEVER be afraid to show and share their emotions. It's a stereotype that is pushed very hard from a very early stage in life for us guys. I remember crying one time in 5th grade and I was made fun of for it relentlessly for being "girly" or "weak". I've always been extremely open with my emotions and I agree with Jack, it was a turn off for a lot of girls, which is ok! We all are into different things. But I just wish it wasn't pushed so hard form an early age that it is WEAK to show emotion. In all reality, showing emotion does NOT mean you're weak, I think it shows the opposite. I think showing emotion as a male shows confidence, courage, strength, and sincerity. Thank you for talking about this. I wish that this was a topic that was covered more. Having emotions NEVER makes someone weak, it is a characteristic of someone who is strong and confident in themselves.

[@meghanandjack]

Of course! We totally agree❤️❤️ this is a stereotype that needs to be torn down!

[@SirMattomaton]

Here's the thing that many cosmopolitan and metropolitan modern people don't seem to understand. The points of the masculine *need* to suppress their emotions comes from the idea of "stoicism." Being stoic doesn't mean that you do not have emotions, it primarily means that you are in *control* of your emotions. It's a vital thing in life because when bad things start to happen, and they will unfortunately and inevitably happen, you AS A MAN will be in control of those feelings that seek to overwhelm you. For men, being this way is NOT a shameful thing... it's a *honorable* thing. Men are hardwired to need this strength, and they are at their moral best when this nature is understood and used properly.

[@ethanbanash4005]

Emotions should be repressed until they boil over into rage

[@aurinsaint9058]

It's an interesting viewpoint. Personally what I was taught was to keep control of my emotions. I only cried when away from others, when I was safe. Besides, you don't want tears in your eyes in an emotional situation, keep them clear so you can see threats and so forth.

[@shadygorilla8714]

@@meghanandjacknaw I’m good

[@daytopotato8613]

This turned into jack spilling the secrets and a therapy session. IN THE SAME MINUTE!!!

[@mattterrell4304]

Men are taught not to be burdens, asking for help emotionally is burdening the one you love. Anger is an easy emotion, it's easier to be angry AT something than it is to be sad because of something. It's directed and as she said, not a "weak" emotion

[@aphextwin5712]

I am wondering (being a man) whether there is possibly a subconscious aspect that showing some anger and frustration is considered to actually help achieve something. In the sense that raising your voice for example is like projecting power, at the very least getting other people’s attention.

[@bubblesdeal5087]

the reason why i dont express my feelings when im upset or mad is cause i dont like putting my problems onto other people i feel like i gotta figure it out myself so no one else has to deal with it

[@TheGeopigMan]

I think men are taught to be supportive, not supported. Expressing emotions, like you say, is reaching out for support. Allowing others to vent is being supportive, which is a kind of vicarious release.

[@AbsoluteDegens]

Everyone should be able to talk about their emotions with someone. If a guy feels like they can't, its probably a learned behavior that stems from one or both of their parents.

[@maarakmehdi5294]

Also there is that fear that "can I trust this person ?" I can truly say it's one of the most important sides of us if not THE most important and we become like an open book and that's like our biggest fear (at least in my opinion)

[@julio1982]

You’re getting better at this guys. Glad I can be here at the beginning

[@zolaelewis]

Video idea: Attempting to make/cook each other's favorite meal or treat/dessert? Could be a two parter.

[@elementalsheep2672]

And the other has to sit and watch

[@ky5250]

Y’all exchanged intrusive thoughts and actions and then dog just appears out of nowhere. Love it

[@danielsnyder3908]

Best couple.

[@meghanandjack]

aww thank you :)

[@ilshaguides]

3:33 _Back to actual psych research_ - In general, men "don't talk about their feelings" because: *1)* The chemical processes that cycle through the body during various emotional stresses (particularly negative ones) break down faster in males (likely due to their increased levels of testosterone), so they quite literally "get over it" faster, & are no longer _feeling_ the effects of whatever caused them in the first place. *2)* Even in our more emotionally advanced society where the stigma attached to male sensitivity is dissipating, males are still aware (at least on a subconscious level) that their physically destructive capabilities far exceed those of their female counterparts, & _reacting_ to negative emotions before they are internally processed can be dangerous, especially to their typically smaller companions (females & children). So generally, they are "thinking it through" long enough for it to subside (even if they don't realize that's what they are doing). *Note* : There are obviously going to be exceptions & deviations, but this is the answer to the general question. *Also* , if an issue causing negative emotions is recurring, then the issue must, of course, be addressed. Most men currently have no problems discussing their emotions when they are "important". But often, they just aren't, & prodding them to discuss something that is no longer affecting them is more annoying than anything. (Again, that's not to say they should bottle up negative emotions that are being regularly engaged by recurring circumstances - *those* most definitely need to be discussed and worked on).

[@borjastick]

I agree but... I am 66 now and was always closed up with expressing my emotions until my wife had an affair, left me and our children to pursue her own selfish agenda. It hurt me so bad and was so shocking that I just had to let steam off and talk to those I love and trust. Then I had a series of other unexpected events and was on the receiving end of some really nasty actions and all of those put together changed me for good. It didn't do my mental state much good but I talk to myself when out cycling and to a few close friends especially those who have been through similar stuff. It has done me a load of good to get angry and let rip now and again.

[@whos_julee]

I totally felt jacks response though to the hidden emotions question. My bf does the same thing & im trying to tell him I need the communication. Otherwise he’s amazing but I just wanna be able to help him when he’s feeling down rather than him dealing w it on his own. I know you feel me girl!

[@Jerome616]

Maybe a year too late but, as a guy, it’s a protective thing. Dumping your emotions on others will burden them with your problems, and thus you will keep those emotions to yourself. However someone who is A mentor/ parent is much more safe to express your emotions too, as a guy.

[@VenomGamingCenter]

He's likely scared you'll use it as ammunition the next time you guys fight or fall out.

[@elisabetht1250]

I really enjoyed this video. It seemed to show the genuine side of each other and you two seem to really fit each other well. These videos are so much better than the prank ones!

[@whos_julee]

Meghan is so on point dude I completely knew every word when it seemed like it would get confusing. I want her to be my friend 😩😩😩 I love you Meghan & your relationship 💗

[@oa4485]

I look forward to the day you guys hit 10 million followers and come back to this comment

[@ketchup7791]

I hope y'all get married someday 🥺

[@averagemobileplayergfs7383]

And they did 😎

[@christamiller504]

Yall always make me smile every time i watch yalls videos, thank you for just being yourselves 💕💕🥺

[@mrjohnthedestroyer]

Emotions. We don't want to look weak. We are supposed to be the strong ones. The defenders. When we do open up many women file this away to use at a later argument. Women take it personally & now the conversation is all about them & now we feel bad for talking about why we feel like shit.

[@CarlosRIOS777]

I think a good intro term would be “Hello our squishiest!!!”

[@CarlosRIOS777]

@@wonton5054 true

[@Kanaketsu]

You two remind me so much of me and my boyfriend I adore you both so much lol endless giggling, Thank you for showing the world it is ok to be big kids with each other

[@kingofemperors4553]

with the question about "why do men not admit their feelings?" its different for some and same for others. but one jack has one of the more common answers but a lot of men including me were raised to believe our feelings just dont matter. that we need to take it on the chin and move on. though i do hope and pray that nobody of this generation raises their kids like this because its a large cause for depression. sorry if i killed ur good day with this comment but yeah. if u made it this far then you are awesome and ily:D

[@princeianbuenaflor8365]

Yeah it's true , some guys don't want to be open about their feelings cuz some guys including me dont really think that our side matter , to the guys who can really share or open thier feeling man it really takes a lot just to say part of it , but yeah as jack said it is true , not all men just say damn im down or i need someone , we just get angry and frustrated it's our little mask just to keep everything under control ,

[@knowledgegizmo7934]

This is brutality honest and I LOVE it!

[@aadenwhitt2343]

Whether y’all stay together or separate, y’all would both be amazing parents!

[@matthewcooper4213]

I’m obsessed with your videos! I bi he’d your whole took channel today and now I’m going through your KZbin!! Please keep the content coming! I love love love it!

[@fatoomlbq5679]

Love how honest jack was to Megan 🤍

[@IdiParavai2604]

Hello

[@hannahanderson2015]

Y’all are literally the best couple I love y’all

[@Gmanhotman]

These are legit questions. Love the video!!

[@mikebrown3496]

You guys should get The Adventure book: Couples edition and make a playlist doing all of them!

[@kbtgfl2469]

Megan cooked with that frustration part

[@ajscott9528]

The emotions one is so difficult because whether people like it or not; it seems to be engrained in us.

[@robinsonfernandezjr.8321]

I feel the need to express my feelings right now. Im not a dude that generally gives a crap about people outside my circle… but I really like you two, and your little dog too((wicked witch of the west voice))and I hope the best for you all.

[@kylegould3153]

you guys should do a part 2 because they were fun to watch

[@Gmanhotman]

Love ur tik toks!! Love you guys!

[@vvValeRiavv]

I really love this video ❤ you guys are amazing 🤗

[@legendofsociety796]

Jack i like what you did here with the mom thing. You know what you did

[@user-hi3qp]

This couple is the best they crack me up

[@fairouzb]

I hope I can have a boyfriend as funny and kind like yours Meg PS: YOU ARE AN AWESOME COUPLE ILY BOTHHHH 🥺😘

[@johngross8300]

Love the Love shared. Fun watch.

[@Tune.-.]

I love this couple❤️✨

[@bagchaserprince]

I died when he said “ oh that’s all it’s gonna take? Alright I don’t want kids” 😂

[@hfortenberry]

That was an awesome one!!

[@Christopher69691]

Do a video where you play a new board game or card game together. I love the little TikToks you guys make playing games together! Y’all are awesome keep it up!

[@alirezadk2578]

Love you guys. Such a funny couple

[@grandmasteryoda4449]

Keep up the good work guys!!

[@barbaraj13]

You guys are my favorite 💜💜

[@nickgreen9330]

i agree when she talked about the men showing anger first. I do that personally because its easier to be angry than anything else which can be a bad habit because honestly because of that at times ive made an ass of myself. but anyways i liked this video!

[@flowerpower2384]

I can totally relate to Meghan's hesitation of making that call🙈🙈

[@BJenno]

When a man is really in a bad mood, we just want to be alone; but it doesn’t mean we want to BE alone. It takes a special woman to help a man really be really vulnerable, and still love him nonetheless. For me (I might sound like a “pick me” kind of dude), I just don’t have the requirements to be in a relationship.

[@slayerdude18]

about the feelings thing, depending on what mood im in, if im angry, ill take 5 min to cool off and then straight up say what im feeling and why, if im just relaxed ill just say it no problem

[@ashwanijha7695]

2:47. Why so cute. I m tearing up😭

[@pfcludlow]

Y'all are awesome.

[@VeggiesbyEos]

I love you guys!

[@isabellakirk1282]

At 5:55, around there, I was like YEAH GIRL THATS EXACTLY WHAT IT IS I’ve never been able to put it into words kinda the way you did lol ty

[@ramonmj9850]

Yo man i think you guys are different from other couple youtubers because this guy is so mature man perfect type

[@faithdecarlo2563]

I love jack wayyyy too much! 🤣🤣

[@rachelm568]

I love you guys so much

[@alphamaster5455]

With sharing the emotions thing I've heard where some women will say oh share your feelings you can be vulnerable with me and then when they do, then they get turned off by it and then they end up in a worse spot in there relationship because they shared there feeling and its sad but its the reality of many relationships

[@_ForeverUnknown_]

3:33 | Past experiences: Romantic feelings: Girls (especially at middle-high school) can be quite mean and if you end up being rejected, your school life can go downhill quite fast. being asked out: Honestly, it's either insecurity or fear that it is a joke and they just want to make fun of you for thinking you could pull. Emotional luggage: some people find that it isn't the other person(s) problem and feel no reason to share, while others simply don't think it's important enough for anyone to care, such as someone saying 'be a man' (a phrase that is now completely twisted).

[@user-cq7yb1gs5q]

Isnt not about taking so long to admit whatever feeling. Men and women tend to deal with their emotions differently. For instance if the logic doesnt allow for u to be upset u suck it up, as men filter reality through their logic first then emotions, while women generally filter it first through emotions and the logical part(rationalize) comes second. Its why u tend to hear girls say they value a good listener, men tend to want to find a solution or offer perspective, try to make u realize its not that bad to get to a better outcome she says she wants. More often than not as a man its better to shut up and listen especially when emotions are up in the air and just go with the flow and tackle it when its mellow. Feminists call it mansplaining whenever it happens. Men and women are different with alot of overlap. Then there is the wants vs need, most men dont have a problem with their lady being upset or in distress and feel even usefull being that rock in her life. Most women dont want to be the (bigger)rock between the two. Its imo the number one starter of arguments in couples.

[@blaketaylor2499]

Wholesome.

[@ShaeTollefson]

The fact there are 1.3k likes and only 1 dislike shows how good your videos are

[@briannalloyd6118]

At this point I feel like we should be named “Squishy’s” 😭🖤

[@jalensabourin5933]

LOVE IT

[@northernwords9966]

Talking about how guys always ask girls out. I found myself having a crush on someone, I’ve always been able to work up the courage to tell people I like them (none have ever gone anywhere) but I told this one guy I liked him. I knew he wouldn’t like me back and it wouldn’t work. And like I guessed, he rejected me. Half a year later we started talking again, I could tell some feeling were brewing between both of us but I wasn’t going to be the one to ask this time. Eventually he asked me and three years later we are still going strong. And he tells everyone he asked me first

[@pausonmung9483]

Nice and lovely couple.. ❤️❤️❤️

[@ryanbrzezinski8383]

I can answer the question about men opening up, it’s society, we grew up being told to man up if we cried or something like that

[@wowitsmick]

Hey, great video! If you want more people to see it try adding hashtags, there is a setting for that when you are uploading.

[@soen769]

I really liked this video, do more of them please (with role reversed)

[@Zaiqahal]

Guess we now know who doesn't truly love who.

[@Taloxon]

we need more STRANGE ADDICTIONS videos :)

[@antra9909]

Yay hi I’m a new subscriber they are the cutest couple

[@hollywoodsaint57]

I totally subbed..you guys are dope

[@evanbellar9148]

This is my favorite couple ever if they reply to this I will be forever happy

[@lillylamons652]

You guys are the best

[@TheManowar05]

I always thought i show frustration more because its much harder to hide. Its less of an emotion and more of a response

[@angelalurtz3638]

I think one of the largest disservices we do to men is telling them that expressions of anger somehow aren't "emotional". Anger IS an emotion, but it's a secondary emotion that stems from sadness, fear, etc. We rob men of the tools to evaluate and understand the source of their anger, and instead tell them it's the only manly way to express anything internal. And THAT is bad both for men and for the people around them

[@phoenixlegend2921]

@@angelalurtz3638 I agree , anger is an emotion and the strongest kind of emotion( strength here means impactful) and its impacts are far more long lasting than any other emotions such as sadness and fear and has longer lasting implications aswell , in a way anger motivates human beings to act either out sheer desperation or cold calculation, to end that source of persistent source of frustration which may arise from a sense helplessness, I am not trying to glorify anger in any way but both men have women have found utility in acting against the source of primary negative emotions such as sadness and sources of such emotions like injustice or grevious loss unduly and untimely inflicted upon you

[@bellagoodson7437]

You guys should do fun challenges!

[@SteinGauslaaStrindhaug]

5:34 Yes, there's also the fact that growing up as a boy (or growing up being treated like a boy even if you're actually trans or nonbinary) not only are you implicitly taught that happy/content and angry are the "only allowed" emotions; but because if this you probably also learn to feel that any negative emotion _is_ anger; because since that's the only allowed negative emotion for boys any other negative emotion might quickly turn to anger and aggression. And even if you correctly read a different negative emotion, it's much safer to automatically prepare for potential aggression and violence, because even if you correctly read someone as sad, trying to comfort them could be met with agression to not seem weak, and if you incorrectly read agression as sad you'll also get in trouble. It's really sad. I hope it's better in the younger generations.

[@Storebror492]

I am two years late, however regarding the emotions bit for men - personally, I'm not open with my emotions because I don't always understand what emotion I am feeling and the only ones I fully understand when I am feeling them is frustration.

[@CongoJoeFilm]

When it comes to guys honestly I think it's Society that made us not express our feelings

[@JoelBulger]

That was funny 😂 he said i know y'all are making a tictok

[@fredvanhorn9313]

What appears to be stewing or angry is just personal review and a lot of times there is nothing to say about it. I find the personal review in such situations has more passion then what brought about consideration and to try to present an answer in the middle of that can cause more problems. So the process is best not shared. But the conclusions sometimes are profitable to share if necessary and if any.

[@paigemcdonald6625]

How about something like what’s up or hey everyone I’m Meghan & this is Jack I’m Jack & together we are MJ!

[@nathanschannal2126]

You all are so cute together. Love the vids❤❤❤🙂🙂🙂😁😁😁

[@meghanandjack]

thank you! :)

[@nathanschannal2126]

@@meghanandjack your welcome:)

[@nathanschannal2126]

@@meghanandjack you should do the i broke my gf/bf phone prank.

[@swagbucksman34]

I hade my feeling bc that way I was raised I was never allowed to cry or I would get spanked and same with opening up so now I'm just a heartless emotionless person you'll never know when I'm depressed af I only front that I'm super happy when I'm depressed so I don't bring other people down

[@Shawn_Boyce]

Amazing phone call

[@Lizzy-yf2xe]

About the asking girl or boy, in my case it’s the girl who always ask the guy because they’re too scared or afraid to show their true feelings. All of my women friends have been the ones to ask the guy 😭 so this generation has really evened that out 😭😭

[@williamvalle2560]

Maybe a video on tattoos explanations?

[@wainemiller7293]

Megan is the best!!!

[@adrianmole1221]

I'm only following 5 people in tiktok And this couple is one of them ❤️❤️❤️ 1 of the reason why Im using tiktok 😂✌️

[@synaruscz5352]

(Idea: IF u show emotion and not eventually fix it, she leaves u. If you dotn show emotion she dont know what is there to fix hence cant leave u for it. Girls think they want to see emotion of a man so they can know if man they are with strong enough to fix it. Same reason why they shittest u. Emotions could be like last dificult thing to fix since emotions appear at exactly things u strugle with. hence has highest probability of u not beying able to fix yet= "woman asking for it is is like asking for divorce/ asking man to do somehtign dificult and change coz hes not enough curently" )

[@woodworkingandepoxy643]

As a man the question of why we don't talk about our feelings is because a lot of us have been in relationships before where we were vulnerable with someone who turned around and made fun of it as soon as we wasnt in the room

[@brooklynlanders]

If ya’ll break up, I’ll cry.

[@bernienoma]

I'd love to see you two playing board or card games

[@ToriSpringStan]

love your tiktok

[@jalensabourin5933]

Your my favourite channel

[@kaigardizi2738]

My girlfriend told me that it’s ok to open up and tell her how you feel and for me I have always been the tough guy inside but on the outside I’m scared of being vulnerable

[@enriquenieto5239]

A lot of the emotional reservation really comes from the way men have been expected to act in past generations. I've probably ruined a lot of m own personal relationships because I'm not able to adapt. It sucks, but it's something we, as men, have to show society that it's okay for us to speak our mind and thoughts while also being able to show emotion.

[@4thezraudebbiedyslin312]

Last to leave in ice pool

[@cmdrdrdeath6624]

10 bucks says he was thinking of Sasha Grey :D

[@theghostwhowalks583]

These two aren’t making it in the long run and if you have to think of someone else while you’re making love to you’re partner that just shows your not serious about said person the only person who should be on your mind while making love is your partner

[@wowitsmick]

Jack, I like your shirt

[@no-bozos]

I've been with quite a few women in my days, HOWEVER, I never thought of another woman when I was with a woman. That doesn't make sense to me.