Sexual Habits I Formed In My 20s (Best Sex Of My Life Going On 30!)

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

8 amazing benefits of ORGASMS! (new video! watch next!): kzbin.info/www/bejne/eITGZ5ucmrSArZI

[@TarMarz]

oh hell yes to not faking!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

YAS QUEEN, girl knows it ;) x

[@aleksandraanya9559]

I am so happy to be able to say that I'm 24, almost 25, and have never faked an orgasm. Definitely Hell yes to not faking it!

[@Nixie_536]

❤ 😇

[@ElyVigistain]

Tar Mar Wish I would have stopped faking sooner! 😂

[@nomansland309]

Could you please do something along the lines of 'spending habits' I learned in my 20s? Sincerely, a broke 22 year old panicked about her future finances

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Rachel Jewell ohhh! Added that to the list!

[@Mary-fy8qi]

@@melaniemurphyofficial Yes please do I'm honestly panicking over this

[@xoxogossipgoat21]

HI yes PLEASE

[@thachthaonguyentran6291]

Yessss same here. I watch a lot of finance tips but still can not improve my finance situation (mainly shopping addiction =)))

[@nefelibata4190]

money isn't my biggest problem, relations with other people are.

[@sammsiegel]

it's rare to see a woman talk about sex and vibrators in such a classy way

[@Jyoka]

I like that you are talking about porn and porn for a female audience. Some men were really disrespectful and laughed about the idea of "porn for women" when I told them about it. Like it would be "not sexy" or "not hot" when a woman is not hurt, dehumanized or what not. And it seems like many men do not realize that women also do like really kinky stuff and all sorts of things. I hate that stereotype of women who "just want to cuddle". There is still this picture of either the innocent girl or the slut with daddy issues. Sex education is so important! Thank you, Melanie!

[@brennank3538]

I like degradation as i am into bdsm but i totally get it. Its a kink and the women consent to making that porn. There is c*ck and b*ll torture in porn too so it goes both ways. Maybe more to women pornstars but they are there to perform extremes. If you dont like that you are in the wrong category search "romantic" porn and youll get what you are looking for.

[@MarleeCM]

brennan k your comment makes no sense in relation to the original commenter’s

[@tonydimeo1882]

Jyoka I learned about Erika Lust from Hannah Witton. Her movies are amazing 😉.

[@ablurida]

@@brennank3538 doesn't need to be BDSM. A lot of regular porn does stuff that is degrading to a lot of women. You get a lot more 'facials' for women than for men, and they can still label that as romantic. Most women find that degrading. A slap on the bum can also be seen that way and can be in he romantic category. Anyway the problem Jyoka seems to have is that when she's wanted to watch porn with her partners in the past, the partner at the time made fun of her preferences, whatever that may be. From what she writes she would like to be a dom *amongst other things* . It isn't a question of her not being able to find stuff she likes, she seems to know it. The problem is many men disrespected her and her choices.

[@user-qq5yx8kp1m]

porn must be banned for all.

[@RuthieCroft]

My sister is fifteen and when I'm at uni, she says that she watches your videos when she might need advice about sex/periods/all that jazz ya know, and I am so glad that she has a lovely person to look up to, who will talk honestly about this sort of thing. When I'm not always there to talk to her, she has you. And that is so wonderful 💚

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

This comment has honestly made my entire day, Ruth! Tell her I said hello and that I'm SO HAPPY that my videos can help! xxxxx

[@RuthieCroft]

@@melaniemurphyofficial Thanks Mel! She'll be so over the moon to hear from you!

[@waterbender19]

this video felt so accepting and nonjudgmental, I love how easily you approached this topic

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

josski32 thank you so much! Xxx

[@pizza_queen8345]

A video about how to talk to your partner about sexual needs/desires would be really helpful!

[@M44Pumpkin]

May be sort of difficult because it depends on the partner and your communication style and how comfortable they are with talking. As someone on here mentioned it helps to talk favourite things and what was liked/disliked after for future reference. Plus,everyone likes to be praised on what they do if it was what they were going for, starting with something you like about them/the experiences could open up that sort of talk.

[@melissasaal8577]

Just love yourself enough to say "I need you to .....because I would love to enjoy this encounter as much as you do and you can really help me with it". To get the courage ask yourself if you would get mad at him over time if nothing changes in bed. Do not hint as some men just dont get hints. Men are really straightforward and they respect you if you thell them exactly what you want and how they can help you. I mean men have no problem asking for what they want so why do you ?

[@oliviamiller-davis4667]

If you're not comfortable with having a full on convo about it at first, there are some games out there that could maybe make it less scary for you to bring up the topic?

[@evastood4539]

If they’re not going to satisfy you now later on you’re going to end up finding someone else who will Just break up and move you look too young to be sexually frustrated

[@ablurida]

PLEASE YES. I'm 26, I have faked an orgasm once and felt terrible so never did it again, that's not the issue, the issue is I feel they genuinely don't care when I don't orgasm. I'm so fed up with the fact that once guys orgasm they are done that I am celibate at the moment. I honestly like my sex toys more.

[@karin4436]

Actual conversation I had with a person: Him: so you came right? Me: no not today Him: yeah you did I saw it Me: ... no i didn’t. sorry bro. Him: haha no women always come with me I know you did too

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Karen oh girl same and I never let him hit that ever again 😂👋🏻

[@shayeenright2375]

Yikes 😂

[@MlleCarocks]

That is as cringey as it is sad haha

[@veronicars851]

SAME. It's really a pathetic situation 😂

[@Imsolaris]

poor guy!

[@FootlessJo]

Thank you SO much for talking about this! I’m 27 but I still have an incredibly hard time talking about sex or my sexuality - even though I’m in an incredibly healthy, committed, awesome relationship with my husband, there was so much shame programmed into me when I was young that it’s hard to shake. I was also never given any sex education growing up aside from - “don’t do it! You’ll be damaged goods and ruined!” (Raised in a super conservative Christian environment). Hearing a lovely and intelligent woman talk about sex in a comfortable and gentle way is SO helpful and healing for me. Truly, thank you so much. This really helps me. 💜

[@coombeslauren]

I've never faked an orgasm; I've been with my current partner for the vast majority of my sexual life, and to be honest I just frankly explained to him that I'm not always going to orgasm every time, sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't, and for me personally I don't feel like I absolutely have to orgasm to enjoy it. I feel like if more people were honest with each other there'd be a lot less need to fake it.

[@hhaannnnaahh222]

I've never faked it either!

[@yellowmystic]

You need to have it, not to fake it.

[@dropitlikeitsspock4130]

I'm asexual but I love watching these type of videos for some reason! I think it's just i find it interesting to see the perspective of people who actually do experience sexual attraction, and especially since no one really educated us about it in school. It'd be great to have asexual perspectives eventually implemented into sex education! I also think that although i don't want to have sex, it's important to be educated on it to some degree (e.g. safety, people taking advantage of you thinking that because you're asexual then you won't know nothing and won't be able to tell). I don't really know how to explain it lol but yeah. Your videos are so informative and you're so chill like I feel like I'm chatting with a friend when I'm watching them lol!

[@katiie7]

taco yellow i had this when I was extremely depleted it might be worth getting your hormones checked it’s like there’s another layer to reality when your hormones are high enough

[@Xplreli]

Agreed. As someone on the asexual spectrum myself, I think videos like these are so important to help educate and start a conversation. The more open we are and the more we educate, the easier it will be for everyone to have these conversations and understand eachother, no matter what side of the spectrum you are on.

[@dropitlikeitsspock4130]

@@Xplreli exactly!

[@deanna6742]

Same I'm 16 and asexual but many people don't understand it

[@dropitlikeitsspock4130]

@@deanna6742 ikr, hopefully in the future we'll have more representation and understanding!

[@helloitsme6379]

Yaaaaay to being 24 and not having sexual experiences whatsoever! And yay to being sex positive. Thank you Melanie for the video, you are awesome

[@daryanen]

I admire how you manage to talk about these taboo topics in such an elegant manner. Very informative and articulate, great job, Melanie 😌.

[@SadeMetsavirta]

your openness is amazing! I've never heard a girl talk about porn addiction, people always act like women don't watch porn :p

[@yellowmystic]

Women do not watch porn, do not enjoy sex neither. 🤦‍♀️🙈😨

[@paymills6811]

@@deepu55536 seriously, where do incels learn these things?

[@deepu55536]

@@paymills6811 they must be learning from you......an incel teaching another

[@TheClosetHistorian]

Asexual here :) For me it's more to do with a lack of attraction, not an aversion to sex itself, so I still love learning about other people's experience of the world. Another excellent video Melanie, thank you so much for all of your great work!

[@vhangel36]

I have never faked an orgasm, I just didn't used to orgasm at all. I think it's important that we understand and educate that sex can still be enjoyable without having an orgasm (for both men and women) as sometimes it just doesn't happen and there's no reason for either party to apologise. However it is also important that if either party does want to orgasm then it is equally important and one person shouldn't miss out just because the other person has reached climax first. For me personally I can't orgasm from penetration alone and need clitoral stimulation and I've had to learn that that is ok.

[@tinahuttner7280]

Yah😃so glad to hear of another women that has a hard time w this.w me I just found out I can get off by stimulation on the side of my clitoris.alot of women cant get a vaginal orgasm even if her clit is stimulated at the same time.most of our nerves are in the clit anyways.ive even watched ameture porn and can even spot a women that faking it. But your right we as women shouldn't be so hard on our self's sexually and just embrace the intimate moment we have w our partner🙂

[@Rengels98]

I love that you mention enjoying sex without always having an orgasm. "Sometimes it's just not going to happen"-- so true! Doesn't mean it won't still be fun. I feel like women are told that they aren't having good sex if they don't come every single time, which isn't necessarily true!

[@arielle]

The best intro I’ve ever seen

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Arielle Scarcella 😂😂😂😂😂💚💚💚💚💚💚 thought you might enjoy it 😉

[@zoefox2621]

do you think you could make a video on the porn addiction you experienced and giving it up? I'm having the same thing and haven't seen any women talking about it x

[@nefelibata4190]

check out KasumiKriss and AAHANA, your welcome;)

[@vane9366]

me too, and it´s been a long time this way

[@sallymatthei7907]

Zoe Fox you can check out the page: „fight the new drug” that helped me a lot with my addiction.

[@heartslove1942]

Russell brand’s book against addiction can help many forms.

[@woogade]

I've been with my boyfriend now for around four years and I still get tested semi regularly. I love him and I don't think he would ever cheat on me but the way I see it there is no amount of trust that I would bet my health on if it's unnecessary

[@Angel-lt1hw]

As someone who is a 24-year-old virgin (I'm saying this because I know this channel is safe) I am very lucky to know about these things when it comes to sex. We'll never know when I'm going to experience it, but at least I do! Better safe than never!

[@jackwiltshire4066]

24 year old virgin? Damn. I love that so much. So powerful. Go you!!

[@glaeli1184]

You are absolutely doing the right thing. Do it ONLY if you are really feeling the desire for it. I learned it through my younger days and I’m more of a virgin now that I’m almost 30 than when I was 20. It’s simply a much safer, healthier and good way to live.

[@vernishapolite2999]

Yes girl make sure when you do decide to have sex that your partner values and respects you! It will save you soo much heart ache and confusion ❤️

[@kurokotaiga7600]

Fear not im a 29 ur old virgin 😂🤣

[@PieOfEpicness]

I'm asexual and happily watching! I love learning about sex, even though I don't plan on becoming sexually active any time soon. It's a subject that I find very fascinating.

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

hahaha did you enjoy my 'HELLO' ???

[@PieOfEpicness]

@@melaniemurphyofficial I did! Thanks for the shout out :P

[@HM-fx9mv]

Me too! I also really like artsy porn like Erika Lust's because of how fascinating I find sex, even though I'm not driven to have it

[@hringwood2743]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one! ❤️

[@Gladzet]

That's exactly me! I'm not sexually attracted, sure, but sex is such a big part of society... It just feels like good knowledge to have

[@hannahwitton]

Yeeessss Erika Lust!! I pretty much just watch her films now too! So good!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

SHE'S A GODDESS! Her stuff always does the trick...love having a lazy afternoon when nobody is home, always go to Erika hehehe!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

WHAT'S YOUR BIGGEST SEXY TIME TIP!?!?!?! ALSO THUMBS UP FOR THAT INTRO HAHAHA

[@anyawillowfan]

Biggest tip is to not be afraid to make noise, especially when you're with a partner as it allows you to get into it a little more and gives your partner clear clues as to how much you're enjoying something (or not enjoying it) as you explore together.

[@pamryan2073]

I'm always up for trying new things but a safety word is a must!

[@anyawillowfan]

@@pamryan2073 Absolutely. I use the traffic light system- green (all good), yellow (feeling unsure, maybe take a break or change tracks), red (stop). And if you can't speak for whatever reason, 3 taps to 'tap out'.

[@ChristinaDaidone]

@@anyawillowfan I am always so shy to make noises. Because my partner says only women make noises. So he isn't making any but waiting for me to do.

[@miri4422]

I have found that making sure I never get too stuck on one sexual habit is really good, so avoiding always using the same techniques or tricks in the bedroom, so I'd say if you struggle to orgasm for a long time always check to see if you've got stuck on one position or one type of stimulation

[@412music412]

omg what you said about the differences between the different orgasms is so so so true and i didn't realize/notice until recently!!! both good but very very different

[@oliviabougeard2855]

mistymountains it’s sooooo true, I just though that it’s was not orgasms when it was from inside cause it’s sooo different from the clit orgasm

[@beadc7627]

I LOVE THAT YOU MENTIONED FERTILITY AWARENESS METHODS. THANK YOU FOR THAT. Because you are very right that the implant, patches, the nuva-ring and coils like Mirena and Jaydess are hormonal as well. And if you had bad side effects from the pill, I would not suggest you try another hormonal form of birth control. Non-hormonal forms of contraception are: condoms (and yes, if used correctly, they are very safe), female condoms, diaphragm (please have your size determined by a professional because the Caya-diaphragm does NOT fit everyone. It fits MOST women, but not everyone!), the copper coil, the copper chain (Gynefix) and Fertility Awareness Methods. For specific information on the latter, I would highly recommend Tony Weschler's book Taking Charge Of Your Fertility.

[@sandragoszcz4995]

Thank you for your honesty and spreading awareness among young people!

[@LS-cf4qz]

Wow. Thank you for this video! I was a virgin until i was 23. I met my ex at 22, lost my virginity to him and was with him for 4 years. We broke up when i was 26 and i went back to the dating game shortly after (we were not in love with each other so it was easy for me to start dating again). Its been a year since ive been single and ive been dating. A lot. And sleeping with guys that arent my ex is an interesting experience lmao. Exploring and learning about my body is what im doing right now and let me say, its definitely interesting, in a good and bad way hahah

[@cristinap273]

lmao

[@ace8910eca]

I love how open and honest you are about all of this, it really is so heartwarming and encouraging. Personally, I'd love to see a video on any self care habits you formed 💚

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

ama tenwolde ooooh, fantastic idea! 💚

[@harikrishnanchandramohan4209]

@Melanie. I sometimes feel like I am in a different universe. Usually people don't like to talk about these topics and consider it as taboo. But I always felt that these kinds of conversations are healthy.

[@leticiaviera1151]

Personally, it took me a long time to become comfortable in my own skin, just like it happens to so many others! I had kind partners who would compliment me but I also had partners who weren't so positive, so I took it upon me to learn and empower myself beacuse knowledge really is power! I had to read and watch many videos about 'learning to actually love yourself', visualize daily, work on and manifest my best version. Losing some weight and going to the gym regularly became a habits that improved both my mental sate and my physical health, it helped me to see a much firmer body, a body I loved more and was proud to undress. My overall confidence improved a lot! It takes work and lots of self love to get where you wanna be, there are no shortcuts.

[@femaleskater1185]

ugh honestly bless you and Shallon Lester, yall are the older sisters from KZbin that I never had :) thank you for your knowledge

[@violet.c]

Shallon Lester

[@femaleskater1185]

violetcomette ugh my bad, must be autocorrect’s fault😭

[@EGlVM]

Grey-A virgin here! I love watching your sex positive vids. Makes the whole idea of eventually sharing that experience with someone way less intimidating and frightening.

[@juliacaceres733]

What's a Grey-A?

[@EGlVM]

@@juliacaceres733 Grey Asexual. Someone who identifies between Asexual (no sexual desire) and the average sexual person. So basically, I do have sexual desires, but they are few and far between. It goes along with me also being Demisexual, which means I cannot just go out and have a casual sexual encounter just for the sake of sex, I must have an established emotional and trusting connection with the person I choose to be intimate with. Thanks to Melanie, I learned these terms and realized I wasn't alone in these identities. It felt oddly wonderful to learn I had labels.

[@juliacaceres733]

@@EGlVM Ohh, I've never heard about that, thank you for explaining. Also, it's amazing that you've realised you aren't alone and there are people that feel the same way as you do ☺. Wish you the best!! ❤

[@dutchik5107]

Same girl! For me it's slowly starting now. He is lovely. It's confusing AF. I don't understand my feelings

[@Valeria0115]

The part about the STD tests is sooo important and was so relatable, thanks for sharing your experience

[@katefairliemusic]

GIRL I ONLY JUST DISCOVERED THIS TOO - i can literally have two totally different orgasms. I’m so thankful i have a partner who is helping me discover my true sexuality and what I like/dislike in an honest and comfortable way. I wish everybody could have the same ❤️

[@Holly-zv7pl]

I love this!! We need more people breaking the stigma that still exists around women and sex in such a casual and informative way 💚

[@P1P2P3_59]

I adore this!! Great advice, I turned twenty in less than 2 months and will take this on board. Love you!

[@EmmaAus]

Agree with everything mentioned, was also glad when I learnt these as well :-) One extra thing I'll note though that wasn't really mentioned but might be helpful for some, was letting go of guilt surrounding sex. I think many of us tend to start out with a lot of shame around the topic, & journaling is a particularly useful tool to maybe help recogise patterns or any unhealthy thoughts surrounding sex, or how we feel about ourselves during/afterwards etc. Personally didn't realise how many issues I had with the shame/guilt element until my 4yr relationship when I hit 24... I'm sure I'm not the only one, hopefully someone else finds this helpful ❤ Thanks Mel, great video. All the best, Emma from Australia.

[@mjocosta8275]

I picked the first habit.... From the VERY FIRST TIME. 😁 it is super worthy. And i really feel bad for every single woman who feels the need to fake. Priorities girls!

[@m-4136]

just a quick medical perspective on the contraceptive thing, if you find that the pill doesn't suit you or you are sensitive to hormonal contraceptives, the copper coil is a great alternative, it is non-hormonal so should not have the side effects you experience with something like the pill, it is around 99% effective when inserted correctly, it lasts for up to 10 years but can be removed if you decide to try to conceive, also most people describe the sensation as more uncomfortable rather than painful and pain is usually similar to period cramps and should not last long

[@Pr0fessorScience]

Feel like there should always be a disclaimer added when people promote the copper IUD (which I do think is a great bc option) - it has the potential to fall right out if you have a heavy flow, and if the flow's that heavy it'll be hard for you to notice a teensy piece of copper has come out of you. I found that out the hard way :-\

[@hollyelliott4353]

Amazing video Mel, I love how open you are, I think it makes people more likely to seek help when they see that these things shouldn't be taboo

[@thegameshows1]

You are such a genuine person, thank you for being so educated and not ignorant like most people in this world. Thank you!

[@SexiSchnitzel]

Could you make a video about body confidence while having sex?

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

YES! I just put that onto my list! :) I wrote a little about that in my book, I'm so passionate about it because it's a game changer x

[@ChristinaDaidone]

yes, I would be also very interested into that !! :)

[@RememberTheTrees]

@@melaniemurphyofficial Subbing right now cause that is definitely a video I need to see.

[@tonydimeo1882]

meowverique That’s not true at all

[@Bilan]

Tony DiMeo men can have a vagina due to a genetic mutation... but hmmm 🤔 I don’t think it applies the other way around

[@FluffyCatUnicorn96]

Oh my god, how is that even possible to be as super relatable and fascinating to watch as you are? I adore you Mel! I am surely gonna use your ideas in my life with my partner and he will love it for sure as well! ❤️

[@leenanorms]

Your point about the pill is so true - science should be given so much time and resources before letting stuff on the market. I was on Dianette for a long time and it really fucked with me x

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

leena norms dianette left me banjaxed, mate! 😖 And I was on it for way too long...one doc said ‘oh, you can be on it for as long as you want’ then my next doctor (after I moved town) said ‘Christ you shouldn’t be on this pill for longer than six months!’ X

[@madeleine8982]

This video is so well done! I appreciate your honesty so much. You are like a big sister! 💚

[@noxnebulak]

A big tip for all people who suffer from UTIs after sex: If you take D-Mannose (which is a kind of sugar) before sex and after (and also maybe some hours later too to be sure) - you don't get UTIs cause the bacteria attach to it instead of the bladderwalls and get flushed out before causing an infection. Important: It is only preventative, so you (mostly) cannot take it to treat an infection just to prevent it from happening! There are studies on that as well in case anyone wants to read up on it.

[@dope3618]

This!!

[@gingerlove7739]

There is a million videos I can watch or have watched.. But only your videos made me feel I had a real person/wise person to listen to. This is not even close to doctor's who try to give professional advice or so. It did change a lot of my thinking from myself now to the future me. Thank you so much Melanie, I love you! ♥️

[@ZinniaGulden]

Okay but that intro is the type of confidence I NEED in my life

[@nihalhathaway4089]

hello Melanie! I know it's not "habit" subject, but if you're doing a Q&A or relationship topics soon, could you talk about how to deal with a jealous partner or/and a partner with trust issues?

[@j0me97]

Yes to this!!

[@badwolf7242]

I love these kinds of videos! Thank you for talking about the topics that are so helpful yet no one talks about! 💚💚💚

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

aww you are SO welcome! I always love how well these videos go down, I wish more people made stuff like this...I want adult content dammit I'm A WOMAN I have so many interests other than 'new dress haul' ye know!? Constantly on the lookout for KZbinrs who make more adult content, if you have any recommendations let me know! xxx

[@ivanauhmmm1296]

Hey there, random viewer here 😊 This showed up after the skincare habits and I watched through. I'm in my 20 and I appreciate the tips in the video and the comments, even if I've never been sexually involved wifh anyone and I cant reach the sexual healthcare I desire to have (I moved countries and languages are hard sometimes) . Thanks for informing people and spreading awareness 💜

[@TaylorSwiftGleek]

I am so prone to utis i get them at least twice a month but ive started taking D Mannose tablets and havent had one in 3 months! Such a life changer as they were ruining both my sex life and day to day life :)

[@franrenabe]

wow I just stumble upon your video and I'm so happy I did! I share all your thoughts and I had my concerns about the porn thing for so long!! I'm very into sex education and I think the porn industry is slowly changing for good and actually education (like Erika) but it is a long way and I'm happy people like you have a youtube channel where you can talk about safe, fun and educational sex for all of us!

[@serenad2490]

I'm in my 20s and I randomly came upon your video and it REALLY, REALLY helped me. Thank you.

[@lavayuki]

Im really dumb and inexperienced in sex, never actually knew you had to pee afterwards. Luckily i never got a UTI, but your videos are so informative. I realised I little I knew but learned so much! I've used Yaz pill which is a low dose one for 4 years and never had any side effects or weight gain. Im single but couldn't fathom one night stands or sleeping with people Im not in a relationship with, so Ive never asked about STD tests but good point.

[@scavuzzo1588]

I'd be interested in: how you invested in friendships in your 20s, thought about financial decisions, if you sought out mentors in your career

[@ashl6427]

Oh my gosh I've had UTI's a couple of times and they are honestly the worst, you can't do anything in your life without that discomfort, I'm also prone to them so I FEEL YOU.

[@WinterLover29]

I am SO PROUD OF YOU for opening up! Talking about that kind of stuff is extremely hard, probably more than I can even imagine, especially on the internet, but once someone speaks up, it's easier for others to do the same. Thank you for being a role model!

[@heymrwhereyouheaded]

I wish I had someone like you in my life a few years ago, would have saved me from a lot of shit. But I’m glad I have access to your content now, and I can share your videos with my younger cousins and friends! Love you! 💛

[@MKAilla]

Didn´t watched you´re videos for some time, but now I realised I kind of missed it. You´re such an inspirering person and you really helped me back in the days to accept myself as a female bi/pansexuell cis woman, thank u for that! I hope u have a wonderful time and youre dad is healthy af

[@laynechesser1549]

Just found your channel and I'm SO glad!! I feel like you're the older sister I never had! Keep doing your thing girl. Gotta go binge watch all your videos now :)

[@shaylenelson474]

I just adore you. If only I had you around when I lived in a small little conservative town, I could have grown up so much less guilt ridden and more okay with my sexual femininity. 🖤✨

[@lissette8479]

I’ll soon be 18, and I love these videos because you save me from figuring it out on my own :’) You’re so open about any topic and that’s what I love about you

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Lissette Garduno that means SO MUCH to me! 😭🙌🏻💚

[@madeleneabraham]

I also completely agree with what you said about the contraceptive pill! I’m 21 and have been on it since I was 16. I’m a person with quite severe mental health problems and I feel like putting a lot of extra hormones into my body doesn’t help my mind so much. I’m excited to finally be coming off of it and seeing if my mental health improves. I’m thinking of using an alternative option that doesn’t generate hormones like the coil maybe. Of course, the pill does work for some, but definitely not for all, and I feel like a lot of people aren’t so educated on the different contraceptions which is why they (and myself) rush into using it then ending up staying on it despite it not having such positive impacts.

[@mrssnurp97]

Great video, loving how open you are. I am however glad that you emphasised that cycle planning should only be done in serious relationships (and I would add, when you’re of a certain age). Some ladies, like myself, are extremely fertile and could probably become pregnant any day of the month!;) So I would def not recommend cycle planning for young girls. Lots of love!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Silje Brekke oh 100%! It’s something that makes far more sense for women my age/in relationships 🤗💚 Young people regularly mess up putting condoms on properly let alone regularly checking temperature etc etc but it IS the best one I ever tried, with condoms on days around fertility and pull out however I’m with someone I want a family with so each to their own and that’s my whole point it’s important to self educate and find the right one for you 🤗💚

[@whatthezamolodchikova1178]

Hi! im the asexual watching you, great content!

[@tonydimeo1882]

Sex positive people are so great. It’s frowned upon to talk about sex in my family. So I learned about sex from KZbin hosts like Melanie. I’m bisexual too. I enormously enjoyed your book 📖.

[@reciprocalhealing]

I know this is totally off topic.. but wanna thank you because you inspired to me to go back to university! You spoke of it in a video and how it felt so good to graduate so decided to stick it out. Grateful! Love your channel always ❤

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

aweeeeeeee WOWWWWWW! Holy moly, that's such a wonderful thing to hear! Fair play to you for going back! I was one of the older people graduating in my class but I'm so glad I did it! xxx

[@reciprocalhealing]

@@melaniemurphyofficial I went through some serious mental health stuff for about 7 years after highscgool and going back to school kind of "saved me" anyhow just thought I would let you know you really are inspiring and fucking awesome xxx😺

[@eribs4853]

8:04 fun fact: I actually started watching your channel because of this video! I had been watching Hannah for a while but didn't know you at the time. So glad I discovered your channel, it's one of my favorites 💜

[@drdrdrk]

3:25 omg you opened my eyes! That’s me! You broke my misconception. Thank you!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Dasha Gubina I actually just shared a video thread on Twitter and my mind has been blown...basically the g-spot is the other end of the clit on the inside! Which is why it feels good but isn’t an actual clit orgasm! 🤯😂💚

[@reiofsunshine]

I love how honest and open you are about your life and experiences! It makes you relatable and real which I appreciate in an internet world where every influencer lives “perfect” lives!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

reiofsunshine 🙌🏻 I amn’t down with that bullshit! Thank you so much! X

[@SoniaAnastasiaaa]

I HAVE THE COPPER IUD !! :D The Copper IUD is the BEST !! :D I don't get any mood swings or cramps :)

[@sarahschouveller1993]

I have the copper IUD as well and while I love it and my side effects are much less than what I had with hormonal birth control, I have more cramps, longer periods, and have to take iron and zinc supplements so that I don't have mood swings. So it is good but it's still some work!

[@JancavdW]

Fucking pissed myself with that intro🤣🤣💚👌

[@helenawalker4900]

Wow. You are incredible and inspiring. I have had a problem with a porn addiction in the past, and totally agree with what happens in the porn industry and have met a few of these girls/guys in person. I am currently on the IUD and I agree there is hormones involved but a lot less than the pill. It is VERY worth it but remember everyone's body is different.

[@aldeb7456]

I cannot thank youtube enough for the suggestion list today. Thank you for taking the time to talk about secs so openly, I am in my 30s and this is the first time i hear someone else confiming clitoral orgasm and penetration orgasms are not the same. Such a relief to finally not expect the peak, as you called it ! Or simply put: "yay, i'm normal" :)

[@themisthomassin5690]

I'm so happy you made a video about this! It's a super important topic that isn't talked about nearly enough and is soo important! I applaud and respect you so much for making this video

[@Rinriji]

Hi,I'm entering my 20s and I'm glad i found this video to understand more about sexual education and stuff

[@78lmonaghan]

Your section about regular std checks is brilliant ❤️ Thank you for being so open. Myself and a partner I was with a while back agreed to get tested very early on in the relationship. Turns out he had contracted chlamydia from a previous relationship. I practice safe sex with condoms to thankfully he hasn’t passed it on, but we waited it out until he was fully clean instead of ending then and there. It was a scary time but I’m really glad I did stick around because I grew an appreciation for the various forms of sex that could be enjoyed within that time. It also gave me a greater sympathy for those who do get an std, I’ve always used condoms but one easily could’ve broke within that time period before his results and then we both would’ve needed treatment

[@TheNitypie]

This is such a breath of fresh air and I'm so glad i found this woman and her channel

[@Charlotte-hv6ll]

Love for all my fellow asexual identifying people watching this video!

[@norahmyers5535]

GRWM for this look, please Mel. You look stunning.

[@adeenaalexander4938]

Wow people actually have a sex life?!!! Lol I seriously assumed everyone was as dry and sexless as me tbh.

[@adeenaalexander4938]

holy shit bruh. I never done it before😂@@yellowmystic

[@littlemissai8997]

@@adeenaalexander4938 don't worry I don't have sex life as well I'm 22 years old.

[@deepaksinghbisht14]

😩😩😩😩😩

[@yellowmystic]

@AFGThugonomics9 I'm married. By the way I'm a person not a bike.

[@dutchik5107]

@AFGThugonomics9 polyamorous?

[@hollylovesfriends]

Hormonal depression and weight gain which massively affected my confidence were 2 side effects I got from the combined pill. I don’t say this to scare people because if the pill is good for you then that’s great, but it’s important to know what side effects to look out for because the most dangerous thing was that I didn’t know about the side effects and therefore didn’t know why I was like that, it was just pure luck that I came off the pill and realised that’s what was affecting me

[@aerynfletcher4877]

If you could talk about relationship habits as well I think that would be really helpful! Both friendships and romantic partners as well Also thanks for the amazing video

[@MafaldaMFMAC]

Really helpful video! You are a great teacher Melanie!

[@katieluxmoore7988]

I absolutely love these videos, I think your attitude towards sex and education is so encouraging and really helps people overcome the shame they feel when talking about these difficult subjects. I did want to mention however that asexuality doesn't necessarily mean that someone won't be having sex. There are so many identities under the 'asexual' umbrella and this video is useful for every one of them. As an asexual myself in a committed relationship, I felt a little disgruntled when you said that and then just brushed over it. Whether or not you experience sexual attraction doesn't necessarily change your physical ability to experience pleasure. I've been really enjoying your content and can't wait for more of this series in the future.

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Katie Luxmoore thank you for sharing! I absolutely didn’t intend to offend - I actually thought I was being pretty inclusive by stopping myself from saying ‘everyone is driven by sex in their twenties’, I wanted to acknowledge that not everyone is, and in all my experience with asexual people IRL (friends etc) they tell me sex just isn’t something they prioritize/it’s something they rarely think about...of course I know you guys *can* have sex though, that’s why I said *hi* directly to you all! 🤗💚

[@bonnielacey3554]

STD's can happen even if there is no cheating. Just wanted to add that so people aren't jumping to that conclusion. So happy that you are informing such a wide audience about these things since much of society isn't. Your awesome!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Well yes they can be carried into a monogamous relationship of course! It’s extremely rare and unlikely to catch an std in any everyday way other than sexual contact! Thank you sooo much for this comment 🤗❤️

[@theresaw70]

Totally thought this might be click bait, but not at all, really enjoyed your content :) you go girl 🚀

[@nicolec3721]

I am beyond grateful for this video. BEYOND grateful. I have faked orgasms my entire experience with sex because I thought I HAD to to make it better for the guy. ALSO I have been terrified to consider that i was addicted to porn at one moment - you saying this - speaking so openly - i actually feel different about myself now. I don't feel like a monster or a weirdo! Thank you for talking about this, everything you talked about here!!! Thank you so much!!!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

awww this comment made me feel SO GLAD that I uploaded this!

[@meredithpelt2405]

Hello bachelor of science in education! It’s very apparent in this vid, you’re awesome ❤️

[@alexisgill1155]

I have a hormonal IUD and it sits in your uterus and they will numb the cervix if you want. I highly suggest getting the numbing. You will be aware its there fro the first week or so, because your body isnt used to it.

[@SkyBorba]

if anyone wants to use only condoms (or use condoms along with another contraceptive) without spending a lot of money. I suggest buying in bulk because some companies sell a pack of 100 condoms for less than 20 dollars

[@helloitslaila]

you are the absolute BEST. thank you thank you. your words are helpful, encouraging, and inspiring. have an amazing day Melanie

[@GrungeGalactica]

This video is so so helpful, thank you! Also really respect how brave you were about admitting to contracting an sti whist you're in a relationship. Happened to me too unfortunately 😅even if they got it before they made it official with you, its always best to be on the safe side guys and go into a relationship with clean results!

[@feelinginsaneisnormal2569]

Only a few minutes in but I am very pleased to say I’ve never faked an orgasm in my life and I think my relationship with my now fiancé has benefited from that because he knows what gets me there every time 😍 I am trying to explain to him that he doesn’t have to beat “records” where he’s made me orgasm multiple times in the past, working on that one because that’s so much pressure

[@MichelleSSmith]

Thank you for this video. This conversation needed to be had. Please make more videos on how to communicate with your partner in the bedroom. I think women will benefit from talking about their sexual needs so they can climax. I think this is the reason why alot of us fake an orgasm, it's because our partners are clueless about what we want, and we are scared to tell them. Well done 👏👏

[@charlottegisborne2319]

Fricking loved this! xx Ps, you're like glowing omg!!

[@saranoel5692]

After your IBS video, I'm exploring your channel and I ❤ your content! You are honest and really care about your audience, talk about real shit, and I really need this content in my life right now! (Ordering the wellness journal too!) Thanks for the sexy tips, Melanie!

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

Sara Noel awww I really hope you love the journal! 🤗🤗🤗💚💚💚

[@saranoel5692]

@@melaniemurphyofficial Thanks for the reply Melanie! Love that you're active in the comments! 💜💜💜