weekly vlog | trying to get out of a rut and have fun, weekend in Vancouver

[@katrinacool]

I love how you share and talk with us as we are there with you and going through the day. I appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share- we are all here for you and consider you a friend! ☺️ I seriously don't know how anyone can date today with so many people being ghosted or ignored (so glad I'm married to a wonderful husband and my best friend). I've been going through a lot of anxiety lately so your videos and calming voice makes me feel better about myself- thank you! Focus on yourself and stay positive!! Hugs to adorable Tika- we need to see more Tika!!!! 😊☺️🥰❤️😍🌴☀️🦩 Also Vancouver is beautiful!!

[@Jen-bh2dg]

Last vid u commented that u cook for yourself.. This comment says your married 🤔

[@katrinacool]

@@Jen-bh2dg I do cook for myself as my husband and I have different schedules and different tastes. Sounds like you know more about my life than I do...I really shouldn't be living rent free in your head. You need a new hobby!

[@Jen-bh2dg]

No need to be salty it was an actual question that i was curious about as i was catching up on watching multiple videos of hers. You have a nice day

[@katrinacool]

@@Jen-bh2dg Well you don't have the need to know.

[@MarkWilloughby-p9p]

You shouldn't publicly comment if u don't want anyone to ever ask a question! That's was a normal question as I to went back now to look at that comment!! 😂

[@Ccsford82]

Girl you are killing it in life. I know society makes us feel that if we are not in a relationship or having kids then we are not progressing. You have a kickass job, great place to live & you get to travel. Try & focus on all your positives. Also trying to stay present is key - everything will find you in due time :)

[@lcatt]

I'm absolutely loving your vlogs lately! It's SO nice to hear you speak so openly and honestly about your emotions and feelings, it's so relatable and comforting knowing others go through the same highs and lows, or even just anxiety-filled days where you just feel off. I love what you said about when you start to focus on fun and positivity you get in a flow and things just start working out; I feel like I've experienced phases of that and I hope you start to as well

[@jenniferberkel7623]

Thanks for sharing Melissa. I think almost everybody has a little bit of anxiety or depression these days! These times are just so different then they were just a few years back!! Also love the green purse. Have a great week 💚

[@ariannegood1413]

Longtime viewer here! 👋🏼 You are hands down my favorite vlogger! I love how your vlogs don’t feel staged. 😊 you said “what the fuck am I doing with my life” and I felt that 😂

[@cherylvargas8861]

You are absolutely gorgeous. I cannot imagine you being overwhelmed. It seems you have it all together. Few words- just breathe and be calm. You got this!!

[@PureHuntress-iv5pe]

I literally LOVE your vlogs! You literally keep me doing healthy stuff and I can completely relate to you with the PCOS and guy stuff! Definitely love the content

[@CRG_]

“Is this guy cute?” Relatable as

[@BrutishNShort]

love these long vlogs! so much of what you said was relatable. i don't think you were too negative, you were just stating facts about what happened. but yeah, agree that focusing on more positive things is good too

[@cherrybabz1748]

I love your videos. I feel like this last week, I've also Been questioning everything in my life and my life's purpose. I too work from home, so for the last 2 days I've just been resting. Not doing anything, and letting my mind rest..sometimes we are too hard on ourselves trying to meet these unrealistic expectations of society. Applaud yourself for your wins. Going to yoga for 3 weeks is amazing. I believe anxiety can sometimes be caused from us stressing too much about our future. But you are exactly where you need to be ❤

[@MelissaMerk]

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[@Sunset-8760]

Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts. I am going through something similar anxiety wise with work. Trying to have fun and not put so much focus on what you can’t control is what I needed to hear. You got this Melissa, you are a great person!

[@elasoj]

Thank you for speaking openly about what you are going through and not distorting reality, which influencers/youtubers are often prone to. I have been watching you for many years, your vlogs are an integral part of my every week. You are a comfort person for many of us. You don't have to do anything amazing to make your vlogs enjoyable to watch ;) Take care !

[@ssss-io5ct]

You're fine! Your life is good, you're still so young! I'm 37, I have crohns disease and am legally blind and recently found out I have some sort of lesion in my brain too. 2 years ago my partner of 9 years got into heavy drugs behind my back and left me for a younger fellow drug addict. I somehow picked myself up and moved on. I have some anxiety but for the most part I just go about my days, walk/hike...do my thing and i'm mostly fine. You have every right to feel anxious, everyone does. But my point is in general you are doing great and all is good!❤❤

[@SelmaMarvelprivat]

Is it just me or is this the best video you’ve posted in some time!? Like I feel like I’m hanging out with a friend and it feels therapeutic, especially since I’m super antisocial right now because of my master thesis & all the deadlines. I really love that you are being so open.

[@saradf]

Thank you for sharing your daily thoughts and routine ❤ we relate so much ! Which makes it easier to deal with these moments of doubts and anxiety.. struggles with dating also 😅 you’re an inspiration 🫶🏻💪🏻❤️ keep it up!

[@laurenlynnxo]

Thanks so much for sharing! I can relate so much and I have those very anxious and lonely days. We’re with you!

[@lindseystill2846]

I love your videos!! They're always so fun to watch!!

[@karibrummet8026]

Looked like a super fun weekend! I just love your vlogs. You're so relatable.

[@paulinewrs3096]

My Signature scent: Rituals the „Fleurs de Himalaya“ one. It’s so light so summery, so fresh-bloomy and slightly sweet! Just try it on your skin it even smells better after a few hours AND it’s not a perfume everyone wears! PS: You are my favorite person on KZbin. I watch you since years. You give me so much „omg me too“ situations! 🫶🏼

[@MelissaMerk]

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[@TheTaylorLayne]

Loved your editing on this vlog. I also multiple times a week ask myself WTF am i doing with my life. I think its a common theme for many of us. But day by day is definitely the way to go.

[@vsabelli]

Love this! My husband and I are looking to move to or near Vancouver. So I appreciate videos like this. Would love it if you did more Vancouver related videos if you wanted to! ❤

[@nikkimuze]

I always love watching your vlogs, like I’m listening to a friend. I totally understand the whole what am I doing with my life. I feel the same but lately I’ve been just living the delusional life and living life for myself and for the happiness it gives me. I’ve let go of the control and perfectionism of life and have just let it all flow naturally and I’ve also stopped comparing myself to others cause that was a big issue for me. Just let go and be free. In the end your living for your soul in this human vessel ❤

[@shancook]

I’ve been having a few anxious days too! Watching your vlogs actually feels like being with a friend, love it! A weekend of just having fun sounds perfect and I totally agree with what you said in the car 💫 My fave clean scent is “this is her” by Zadig & Voltaire! I get compliments EVERY time I go outside! Sending you lots of love from Germany!!

[@jormerch]

Hi Melissa! I am also a vanilla scent person but I wanted to try something different too. If you like vanilla, the Philosophy fresh cream and warm cashmere is a good scent. If you want to switch to something, I am enjoying the Jo Malone Earl Grey & Cucumber one (you can only get it at the Jo Malone store, recommend the Richmond Centre location) or the Wood Sage and Sea Salt one is really nice for summer.

[@mrssperanzaa]

Thank you so much for this vlog! I‘m at a similar point in my life and it helps so much to see similar experiences from women I look up to ❤

[@Alexkraczek]

Love love love your content and how real you are. Been following you for a while and your content gets better and better. I’m also single right now and trying to find my groove so I feel you girl!!

[@Manoose12]

And we hear this all the time but when you stop focusing on dating, the right one will come along. Just have fun and focus on you and that’s all!

[@ashleyrose2652]

loved the vibes and length of this vlog! Truly felt like I was apart of the week. If you ever come back to Kelowna let's go for coffee

[@valerie4505]

Not me crying in my car yesterday after work, asking myself wtf I am doing with my life 😭 uhh, sending you positive vibes 💛

[@MelissaMerk]

sending positive vibes back!

[@Margaret_Hemenway]

Also with dating. One book that literally changed my life was Attached by Amir Levine. It's so helpful with navigating relationships and attachment styles!

[@wanderlust731]

Been a long time subcriber. I love your vids! You are very easy to relate to. Sending love from Seattle

[@angelica.4]

I feel like I should comment more than I do! I'm just bad at it, but I feel like I should because I connect with you content soooo much. I do not watch anyone else the way I enjoy keeping up with you

[@raevin.]

Long time viewer, found your channel while thinking of moving to Vancouver. Now im in shipyards district and it was so funny seeing you walk around my neighborhood 😆

[@natkubes]

I am also going thru it with dating and I would love to hear what happens with you. what makes you not want a second date, what bothered you by the date, what went well, etc.

[@LC.1990]

If you have the luxury of a lifestyle like this yet find yourself feeling unfulfilled/anxious/lost which has always seemed to be a common theme on this channel, finding a charitable cause you're passionate about and volunteering your time can be a really positive thing for yourself and a great inspiration to viewers.

[@Manoose12]

Versace yellow diamond is the cleanest scent. It’s been my signature scent for 10 years

[@katemul7594]

Guerlain have some of the loveliest fragrances called acqua allegoria, the mandarin basilic is my favourite. I also like vanilla smells, but this one is citrus and “clean” but still sweet! I’m not sure of the prices outside in Canada though as I’m based in EU!

[@rachal900]

Ugh I hate anxiety. I have GAD with depression. Ashwaganda helps a lot. I take that on top of my prescription but I heard it helps others. I still haven't tried Pilates I think the machine intimidates me lol. I'll have to give it a try. Have a great day.

[@96002krown]

Hi Melissa!! Try Dime Beauty’s Dan Le Bois perfume!! It is clean and not very expensive…it is an exact dupe of Bacarat 540 and smells amazing!! I have the real and wear my Dime almost every day. It’s my signature scent…and I have a girl at work who is super sensitive to scents and it does not bother her, in fact she loves it!! I’m finding out in my old age there really is something to manifesting…I never believed in it but am starting to realize it works…in all areas of your life!! Love ya!!

[@calico_nova]

Cliffhanger! Did the guy show up on Sunday?! 😂

[@celine3905]

"missing person" by phlur is a good clean scent! available at sephora!! if you haven't already smelled or tried that one, give it a go!! :)

[@kateymowat1211]

If you’re looking for a fresh scent, I would suggest Clean’s “Sparkling Sugar”. I thought it was going to be cloying and sweet, but it’s not! Worth a spritz next time you’re in-store!

[@Meliiiiif]

love a long vlog

[@silvershaley]

Me af, "is this guy cute?" lol also so relatable. Don't ghost me and come back lol

[@claudiaacanda8500]

Love your vlogs ❤ brings peace and reminds me of virgin river lol!! ❤❤❤

[@MelissaMerk]

omg love that. Can't wait for more Virgin River aha

[@giuliabiotti6685]

Love this vlog ❤

[@danikagirl9]

The best videos!❤

[@victoriastoilova6640]

Melissa, try this perfume - van cleef patchouli blanc, the best clean perfume I’ve ever owned! 😌

[@lexiaudette]

I’m glad I’m Not the only one who doesn’t know what they’re doing with their life. I cry every couple days about this

[@EmmettDoesStuff_YT]

Try going to Holt Renfew for a new fragrance selection. Le Labo has lots of lovely options.

[@Sofiika123]

Start taking latin dance classes, very good way to get out of comfort zone, it is fun and great exercise. Also, you are definitely gonna meet lots of new ppl

[@ervinsmoviecorner8748]

Melissa, my Philippine vacation trip is finally comes to an end.

[@mck000]

Try the Byredo perfumes. They’re GREAT!

[@bhatta2]

Melissa you are so beautiful, dating in Vancouver is hard. Don't beat yourself up over it. Scents - I just got a rose perfume and it's a nice, new smell for me! i got mine in France from a boutique, but maybe look up rose perfumes and see if you like them? ps. i love your vlogs, especially your ones that nothing major is going on. That's normal life! you are a great vlogger keep it up!!

[@TheBasakert]

Replica - Lazy Sunday Morning by Margiela!!

[@bflyleo]

There's a new one (I think it's new) by Marc Jacobs I tried recently - Perfect. I really liked it, nice and fresh!

[@alexbleedsglitter23]

Hi Melissa, I am a follower that has been watching your videos for years! I love your channel and have really enjoyed watching your videos over the years. I just wanted to suggest something that might help with your current rut/anxiety...have you given consideration to taking on a traditional job? Either a 9-5 or something more flexible/part-time, like retail! Anything that you are passionate about or think you might enjoy or help you grow as a person. I have found that sometimes what adds the most value to my life is to add structure and something I may not want to get up and do every day. Having the commitment of a traditional job may force you out of your comfort zone and introduce you to some new things that ultimately give you purpose! Just a suggestion!

[@kelseylusis1135]

Radiant Nectar by Clean Reserve is a really nice scent!

[@myra1994]

Hey! Have you tried out vanilla vibes by Juliette has a gun? That’s a nice vanilla scent that will hopefully not give you any memories 🤞

[@Mediamadds]

Girllll I swear you need to move out of BC! I feel like it’s a big rainy cloud over your head and you’d be so happy living abroad or something! My bf and I are leaving Canada and moving to Mexico and you can have the same cost of living for a way better lifestyle! (Sunshine and hot weather) plus you can bring Tikka with you ❤❤ either way just wishing you positive vibes xoxo

[@Leelanau03]

you should try the new bella hadid ones. they are quite lovely. also, for clean try the issey miyake or Maison Louis Marie in No. 4

[@maliapaws6456]

Tom Ford Lost Cherry! 🙌💕

[@pryak6581]

Living for the dating content. I don't know how you do it, seems rough out there, kudos to you. The wavy hair + whole look was soo pretty! You may like Clean Skin Reserve, sweet and clean scent. Good Girl Blush is a good one too, very feminin. Burberry Goddess if you like vanilla. Yum Pistachio by Kayali if you want a fresher gourmand scent. Replica Beach Walk if you like sunscreeny/beachy scents. A good date scent might be Replica On A Date, how fitting. :D

[@lindsey-l5e]

How do you get the Value Village smell out of the clothes??? I love to thrift but I just can't seem to wash the perfume smell out.

[@jennwarden5331]

Have you tried baking soda ?

[@summerh117]

I use a Lysol disinfectant detergent and add that to my laundry cycle :)

[@lindsey-l5e]

@@jennwarden5331 yes, baking soda hasn't done anything

[@jennwarden5331]

@@lindsey-l5e ❤️

[@areebasbops]

I love the different angles from when you were talking about the guys in your car lolll. Also, I adore your vlogs. They're so much fun. But girl...why are all these men divorced?? Are we already at that age??

[@ItsErinLong]

Love watching you have a good time!! And excuse me but don’t leave ya girl hanging did any of the 3 boys from Saturday night get a date Sunday?!?

[@sana7777aloul]

have you thought about natural supplements (ashwaghanda or L theanine) for anxiety or breath work or a hot bath? Sometimes doing things physically can reduce anxiety by 10000x

[@Rebex0]

Cute where’s the Italian jumper from

[@Sabrina-cn7dx]

Which pilates studio has one month unlimited classes? I know oxygen yoga has that, do they have pilates classes there too?

[@christinamcconnell8842]

Please don’t stop the vlogs I look forward to them every Monday. Recently divorced COULD be a red flag. But is he actually fully divorced? Papers signed and done? Cause if so that takes a long time and he has probably been mentally done with the relationship for 1-2 years. And if he is THAT hot. Could be worth a date atleast. Plus isn’t persistence nice? Clearly he’s into you

[@zweinulldreizehn]

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[@Anna8765]

Are your eyebrows microbladed?

[@sharonyisheng]

If you want book recommendations, I think the Power of Now or 4000 Weeks could potentially help with your anxiety :)

[@Margaret_Hemenway]

Have you tried the Bella Hadid fragrances?

[@MelissaMerk]

no but I want to !

[@ashliekoerhuis6777]

where is your leopard dress from?

[@MelissaMerk]

go.magik.ly/ml/231ta/

[@innapolovinka2332]

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[@manfredbismark6688]

Good video! Rudi.

[@Limparfaiteangelina]

parfum chloé nomade eau de parfum naturelle is bommb

[@kirstenfanzega8147]

When i tell you I cackled at your realization that it was going to be a “guys” event

[@ownyourbold]

Okay why did I think you were in San Francisco and not Vancouver? Mind blown lol

[@czeliot]

Ralph Lauren Eau De Toilette

[@elisestarday6372]

Would you ever leave Canada and change scenery on your videos? :)

[@D.R.590]

IMO....Ghost man couldn't properly hold a convo because you already told him you weren't interested. He either feels guilty for leaving you on read or he doesn't know how to hold a friendly platonic conversation after a "rejection" for lack of a better word.

[@Leelanau03]

Baby girl, all im gonna say is...if a beautiful girl like you gets ghosted. there's no hope for me. these dating apps suck.

[@linds8568]

I hope you take this the right way…..you’re so beautiful and seem like a very chill person but focusing sooo hard on dating and meeting guys is what I believe is hindering you actually meeting someone!! You will meet the guy when you stop looking…that’s when it happens !!☀️☀️

[@EmilyZapotocny]

I've gotten this advice before & it's very unhelpful 🥲 Some of us have a rather confident, dominant personality & we can't simply "sit back and wait" for Mr. Right to fall into our laps lol

[@Sirensss]

I see this advice frequently and don't agree with it. I 'wasn't looking' for years and didn't meet a single person in that time. A couple weeks into focusing on dating, I met my boyfriend.

[@linds8568]

Yeah…I figured people would take this comment wrong! I think what I meant is if its causing unwanted stress over the dating scenario than maybe a break is needed…I’ve always just found with me things come when I’ve shifted the focus! Not wanting to frustrate anyone…apologies

[@mikhalt1]

sounds weird....

[@stephanielake11]

You’re a beautiful person inside & out, am sure when the time is right you’ll meet the One right for you. Have you read @gabbybernstein books? I think those would help you a lot. I especially love “The Universe Has Your Back,” & “Super Attractor.” Also perhaps try seeing a therapist, they may help with your anxiety & ways to get out of a rut. But trust me when I say I have thoughts often too of “what am I doing with my life.” Honestly you have it a lot more together than a lot of people. You own your own condo, have the cutest doggy, and a thriving career!! You should be really proud of yourself!! You’re amazing Melissa!!💕💕💕

[@farea27]

Get Chanel Chance Eau Fraiche EDP. THE BEST SPRING/SUMMER CLEAN GIRL SCENT

[@luisereuter2931]

Hey Melissa🫶🏻 Love ur videos and ur honesty lately. My life is completely different from urs, so I don’t really know what I am talking about, but I have recently thought about the influencing as a job and also heard from some other content creators that they feel a little stuck or don’t know what they are doing in life. And I kinda thought it could potentially be the nature of the job, as it comes with quite little experiences of like immediate succes, as a promotion or a project that is done, in a common office job. I felt like that might contribute to the feeling if being stuck, although u are actually progressing all the time.🩷