Melyssa Ford Talks Adulting, Marriage, and The Joe Budden Show | Toure Show

Melyssa Ford is an icon. She’s been a star for over 20 years and we’ve been friends for that long. She’s smart, she’s fun, she’s got some things she’s vulnerable about. We talk about never getting married, surviving a brain injury, being perimenopausal, being a sex symbol and why The Joe Budden show works so damn well.

[@bre8592]

M4 is my favorite addition to the podcast. I’ve been listening to Joe for almost a decade and I love them adding a woman’s voice. I wish the guys would be kinder to her but I admire how she handles it and let’s the jokes roll off her back.

[@AH-gn9bp]

I’m a longtime JBP listener and I never thought the show could be shifted into a new era, but Joe did it!!! Adding Melyssa was necessary. I love hearing her opinions. I hope she doesn’t continue to hold back because her perspective matters

[@89Drmz]

Same sis...same....ever since "I'll name this Podcast Later." ...she's a breath of Fresh air when she gets to be herself, freely.

[@AH-gn9bp]

@@89Drmz Yasss!!! We go wayyy back 🤗

[@ro8247]

Same🤷🏻‍♀️ I think ppl forget Mel HAS BEEN IN SOME SHIT & give her some grace

[@lincolnward85]

I agree, adding her to the cast was a great decision. Side note regarding the jokes, for men that's our way of letting you know I rock with you. If it's malicious or we're completely straight up and down with you, we don't really want you in the space and you're just being tolerated.

[@bilalmotley3699]

She seems like a genuinely great person. It's impressive how she's been able to reinvent herself multiple times.

[@KO-OG-Passport-Bro-1997]

She's not!!! She's a feminist!! She's the worse!!

[@DeitrichDavis]

She has never reinvented her self.

[@alwaysreliable3]

she has not "reinvented herself." She failed at real estate. She failed at trying to leverage being a video chick to an actress. She is changing the narrative of her relationship, especially the high profile ones where she was dumped (ex. flo rida). She is not the female role model from the 90s. How about Queen Latifah who has created a film and tv empire, leg3endary recording career, philanthropist, and Emmy and Oscar nominated actress.

[@newyorktimes21]

you must be her best friend lmaooooooooooooooooo she a BIRD AND all dried up. nobody wants that. she is a liar as well. now she sitting down under someone else's podcast instead of her own lmaooooooooooooooo

[@alwaysreliable3]

@@DeitrichDavis FACTS. When there are so many role models who have gone on to do great things (MC Lyte, Queen Latifah, Eve, ), why would we focus on a video chick? Moe important one with stories from rappers for days.

[@reginayfavors]

"I'm Here for the Food" was a beautiful podcast. I'm glad she is bringing it back.

[@kingsqueen1]

No way! I’m so excited. I haven’t gotten to that part yet. Lol I really enjoyed that podcast and missed it so much when it stopped.

[@Sheabuttahbaby]

​@@kingsqueen1Me too! It seemed like the show ended when the tall Christian woman quit, then Blu went and started working with Jason Lee 🍵

[@kingsqueen1]

@@Sheabuttahbaby Yes she did. I enjoyed her on the show too. I think it was just too much going on in Melyssa's life at the time. I really hope it comes back soon!

[@LJeaux]

Omg me toooo. Loved that podcast and Melyssa ❤❤❤

[@jojoxm524_]

She needs her own podcast! The joe Budden show hasn't helped

[@johnpetty3574]

Over the years, whatever MEL was on , I WATCHED. If she left a podcast ... I LEFT THAT PODCAST.

[@tysonb3568]

Lol…. Thats Luv 👍🏾

[@wtroupe64wt]

I like Mel aka BiG M’FORD. But I actually like seeing and hearing her off the pod. Where she actually have a voice and not being dismissed.

[@lugo_ayana]

Thanks for actually saying M Ford, it’s not M4. 😂

[@iamglamo]

She’s speaking facts about a brain injury…I had a stroke and recovered fairly fast physically and bc “I did not look like” I had a stroke ppl could not understand that my brain was not functioning properly. It’s extremely hard and depressing being smart and beautiful ur whole life but now everything u knew has changed. I totally empathize with her and I really have to start extending her more grace on the pod bc I forget about her accident. This shit ain’t easy especially when u have an addictive personality 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Dany_23L]

When I was a young boy I watched an NRL (Rugby player) speak about a herb that helped him recover from a brain injury. This was in the 1980's. The herb is brahmi aka bacopa monnieri. The best brand to buy is Gaia Herbs Bacopa, and purchase their Ginkgo also. Take them at night with fruit. Your dreams will improve also. Take bentonite clay in the morning with plenty of water, don't stir it with a metal spoon. Stay away from foods/drinks with chemicals. - Dany, Coomera Australia

[@brandypeay5350]

Yes, you have what is called an invisible disability. My son is very high functioning autism and adhd he was born with fluid on his brain. But he “doesn’t look like” he has it. Not that I want him too, but people don’t understand that he processing slower/different and they don’t have patience❤❤❤

[@shayboogie3682]

@@brandypeay5350You know, I’m really glad to have come across this comment! I have a coworker with a similar invisible disability and I now realize that need to extend him much more compassion 🤗🤗🤗❤️‍🩹

[@nadiasarah_]

Awww M4!! She was glowing and happy during this conversation. Love to see it 🤍

[@justlikeyou5338]

Clicked right away when I saw Melyssa Ford! Love love love her!

[@pilar8ful]

The way you described perimenopause Melissa gave me the answers I’ve been looking for. I’m crazy and confused all at the same time. This interview was really good.

[@TrevorJacksonTV]

Toure is legendary in the conversation space.

[@NewPhonw-fg4xd]

Wow! Toure, this was a great interview. Mel was my Lisa Bonnet when growing up. It really hurt my spirit when she had her accident but I have been overjoyed watching her flourish on the JBP. You did a wonderful job pulling out the silk threads from her soul to weave her story together.❤

[@IyaPatsyOriginalEgunlady]

I’ve been listening to the JBP since before the pandemic. Joe & the gang brought me through a severe depression . And then Mel arrived and I had it all! I retired from NYCDOC, surrounded by men all day long for about 23 years. It’s a different world, so I can relate. You got to know how to play in their space and not get offended, while simultaneously holding on to your self worth and representing for other women, when it gets too outrageous. It’s not easy but it can be a lot of fun. Just keep it friendly with out any romance and it can work to everyone’s benefit. You might even become cordial enough with their wives to be invited to family bbqs. 😂😂😂

[@rosecoloredglasses67329]

Huge fan of Melyssa Ford! Happy to hear her podcast is returning!

[@ZuDega]

BIG MEL 4...Salute 🫡

[@Killakamkamm]

I really love Melyssa Ford. She seems so genuine, so intelligent, and so poised how she handles the guys day after day. I will always support her!

[@user-fy8lb9kz3h]

Glad to see and hear her outside of the podcast she’s aging gracefully and seem so humble 🥰🙌🏾

[@DarkMatter09090]

Ethnicity vs culture. It ain't cause Drake is biracial, it's because he's cosplaying Black American culture

[@overproof1460]

💯 the fact that she don’t get it after so many years in Black American culture is surprising.

[@onemanarmy1873]

😂😂😂 yall consuming to much tariq nasheed content yall need yo focus of your family structure & legacy

[@ImJustaWill]

Love hearing this woman speak. I may not always agree but that is because she is not from the US so her views are different. That said, she is super inteliigent.

[@marcussmith3635]

What topics u speak of that you would disagree on. Just curious

[@ImJustaWill]

@@marcussmith3635 I've been following her for years and so off the top of my head, I can't quote them. But between Hollywood Unlocked, I'm Here for the Food & Joe Budden, I would say most are usually related to her views on race. Now that said, seeing this interview and the fact I have gotten to travel more in my life, I now know why. Only in the US, is there a concept of black and white, so she would see that concept through different lenses.

[@QueendomCome621]

​The concept of black and white is only in the U.S.? You can't be serious 😂😂

[@ImJustaWill]

@@QueendomCome621 very serious. if you travel a lot you that nationalities and religion come first. But that is why we all have different views based on experiences.

[@liljay0687]

I never consistently watched the JBP until Melyssa was added. Watched her on Hollywood unlocked and followed her over there. Really love her energy

[@QueXopa79]

Me too!!!! She’s the ONLY reason why I watch!

[@kwhite4892]

Thank you for this interview. I respect her so much !!

[@creamycazz1]

Love Melly Ford!! I’ll watch any interview she does. Thx for this Touré! Just for the record, Kendrick’s fiancé is Blk (I believe her mom is the one who is mixed). But I understand the argument about the phenotypes that many Blk men prefer!

[@zan752000]

Melyssa is such a treasure, love hearing her perspective.

[@JaelSupstar]

Thank you Melyssa, enjoyed the interview 👌🏾

[@TheeStrawberryLee]

Oh Melyssa 💚💚💚. We love you my dear, we love who you are, we love where you are in your life, so just keep living my love!!! I enjoy you on the JBP!! Big MFord, a beauty, a brilliant, a mind, a wordsmith, a baw-deeeee… an ICON. 😘💋✨ keep rockin boo!

[@pinpointaccuracy1]

GREAT CONVERSATION!!!! 🎯🎯🎯💯💯💯

[@ufomechanic11]

This was an amazing interview- glad to learn more about her

[@TheMuse1111]

Love the conversation between these two! Intelligent

[@QueXopa79]

Mel relayed to sooooooo many of us!!!!!!! Always been a fan of hers! I’m 4 years her junior.

[@BeautyMarkCoaching]

She’s my friend in my head! 😂😂 i relate to her on so many levels. Wherever she is I’ll be watching ❤️

[@bea79]

Melissa you are one of the greatest! So glad you are still doing you thing even through life’s horrible moments. Much respect and love to you ❤️

[@alwaysreliable3]

One of the greatest what?

[@josiecorso1452]

Such an intelligent and well spoken woman. So transparent. I live in Toronto, Canada and she is right about race relations being a much bigger issue in the U.S.A. Can't wait for her new podcast.

[@greenmatrix30seven]

Shes absolutely right

[@Ebony5001]

Canada is racist it’s just underneath as for the States it’s in your face !

[@LivingLife72]

Finally have listen to the entire show with Melissa. I loved that she is being open and honest.

[@mercyh193]

What a great enjoyable interview! I really enjoyed listening to this and your friendship with eachother ❤! Love Melissa and ❤ your interview style Toure!

[@danaallen2734]

Refreshing Interview Toure

[@MrsMekaO]

I ❤this interview

[@annap1318]

Own it girl!! You are amazing!!!

[@giiemm2633]

This was really good! Love to M4 Hootie Hoo!!

[@chanyg1013]

Great convo!

[@angier6462]

Great interview

[@ro8247]

Been a fan of Mel since her video days was 1 of my gurl crushes 😁 I LUV here on the JBP I'm glad she's healing bc this woman has been through SOME SHIT.i hope JBP fan see this & give her some grace whn she's on the pod 🤷🏻‍♀️ grest convo Toure

[@tatteratter]

Many times, biracial men and women have different experiences because beauty politics come into play. A “biracial aesthetic” is celebrated in the United States for women more so than it is for men, so mixed women can run into friction in black communities where black women feel past over time and time again for the “mixed girl”. - However, I don’t think Melissa Ford’s beauty is due to her looking mixed. She’s just real fine. I’m just saying, there’s a lot of layers to unpack with that conversation. Also, Black people in America have been effed over so many times that we need to know if you’re truly with us, or just cosplaying blackness when it benefits your image/bank account and then undermining us when we’re not around.

[@Walking_In_Heals]

Great interview! I really appreciate getting to know more about Melissa and loved her authenticity! I used to watch her show on Bravo. I look forward to the podcast!

[@fsexpresscleaningservices5720]

Love M4! I wish she'd find a pod that she actually fit well with. Although I love the JBP as well, it's sometimes cringy to listen to how mean they can be to her.

[@aloysiusballard]

It actually feels weird to hear Mel able to talk so freely without the "guys" cutting her off. We may need to look at that on the JBP...haha But Mel cooked this interview! Great job...and Joe should give her a seperate show or segment produced by Mel on content she desires.

[@johngutierrez6454]

Love Melyssa, still waiting on your book

[@jamesnorris9637]

Great honest interview! Im a Cab drinker too and for the record 1 bottle of wine is only 3 glasses😂

[@heychaena]

I’ll have to tune into an episode or two of Joe Budden now that I know she’s on there! I was so sad when she left Hollywood Unlocked.

[@heychaena]

(But I fully understand and support her decision to leave there).

[@jaclyns3334]

Love M4!!! Was watching JBP before her but she definitely adds to it.

[@marse8796]

Love this girl! So happy she’s a Canadian killing it in every way!!!

[@marou55ia_]

I love Melyssa Ford on the JBP. Her life is fascinating.

[@xxmoniquexx1966]

Life forever changes when your mom passes, my mom passed in 2010 and it feels like yesterday.

[@damiennoel7276]

Right! Folks can never understand that type of pain! It’s life altering!

[@LB-333]

Yo I'm a huge JPB fan and I had to see this interview! This was such a great conversation! I wanna hear M4 speak more.

[@w1zent91]

Facts about Toronto, race is not my identity, we just find it interesting to hear where people are from.

[@cbmpire]

This don’t even seem like the same person that’s on the JBP man, it’s like her guard is down or something

[@mphenomenal]

It's a more intellectual environment

[@KO-OG-Passport-Bro-1997]

Naw, the real feminist her is the one on the JBP!!! Don't let this fool you!!

[@ro8247]

The pod is suppose to be fun & light so whn Mel trys to take it to a real place the guys go straight to the dogg pielling or if the dont agree with her "girl view" the go to the jokes. Hopefully that'll change on the guys part Mel takes the jokes well she'll get more vocal as time goes on

[@resilientred1699]

The service of MTN is soooo appreciated.

[@Futurelawyer812]

51:31 the whole conversation about finding a man like her father makes a lot of sense. I think most women marry a man that consciously or subconsciously reminds them of their father

[@Nippy748]

Brilliant Interview !!! Melissa's BEST Interview !! Wow !! 🔥🔥🔥🔥💜💜💜

[@RealtorDanaUbele]

Yo melissa i LOVE YOU for this!

[@prestocrypro44]

Everybody completely misses the point K-Dot was making about Drizzy’s blackness…Kendrick was speaking on BBL being a “small hat” aka Juuu and culture vulturing his way through the industry especially in ATL. ( check out Drizzy interview with Rosenberg on his “juuuish” upbringing…. He’s really NOT LIKE US

[@thankyouagainT]

I've always liked her. I appreciate her candid relative personality. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@sparr5132]

Love listening to Mel open up here because she is still reserved on the JBP. Mel has been a fantastic addition to the JBP. It has been wonderful watching her get adjusted to having big brothers around. I feel like she has learned so much more about how men think.

[@veenaynay6578]

Hootyyy Hooo gang in the house!!!

[@MauisRai]

I'm a scorpio with commitment issues as well. Mel I totally understand everything that you said. Down to life flying by at the of your pants. N I never leave the house. I feel seen!! Thank you

[@kevinjohnson3937]

I like her she can be honest with herself.

[@shaynalavon]

BIG M4!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@kforeal2226]

Girl thanks for talking about Peri. I am right there with you and don't remember my mother's generation going through it this way.

[@MatthiasHamilton]

i love Melyssa so much... she gives you real talk, real person, real life and real . real. I can always connect to something that comes out of her mouth. This time around , what i connected with is when she said she doesn't understand how she can be physically appealing to people but insecure within herself and how she cant reconcile the two.. That was so great... because often times i feel that way as well. Please get your own podcast back up Mel.....

[@Owen-Rich]

Big M4!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@whatudoin1]

love her growth...great woman

[@mulattochris7309]

Soooo relatable Melyssa Ford👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽❤️😍😍 I Love how you explain Biracial. It's like sometimes there's no winner or loser in a fight. The course of reality is what it is. You cannot Be Caucasian or Black, You Are absolutely both seperate and together ❤️ Thanks for showing strength & determination after your car accident. We ALL Know, Youre such a Beautiful intelligent Woman🫶🏽💐

[@bg_supreme]

I watch the JBP religiously. I think Melyssa Ford holds back way too much. You can tell when she talks that she's holding back. She's obviously intelligent and as she's said herself she's led a very interesting life. She needs to dig into that WAY more. It seems like she's uncomfortable sharing those things about herself which is understandable. But if she would dig into that bag a lot more, the show would be way better than it already is.

[@darlenereed6341]

I love this woman

[@atolliver91]

Nice to meet you, ms. Ford… 56:52

[@Iamlismoore]

Melissa i love and admire you, i wish you healthy love in all forms and continued success❤❤❤❤❤

[@kwanzafalaka5668]

I don't feel murdery lol but I definitely don't leave the house without my fan. lol, great interview ❤

[@ThousandairesClub]

*The Legend* 🙏

[@Michelleeew]

I’m here for the Food💕💕💕💕💕

[@JIGGALANSKY]

We love you mel ! Now be this open on the pod girl lol

[@kitaredd9720]

I love when people say “you’ve been an icon since the 90’s” and she comes back with the “like ‘99, or so”! I know that right! 😂😂😂 we ain’t tryna feel no older than what we are!

[@safronsahara9000]

How many more ways is Toure gonna express that Melyssa is attractive? We know!

[@katiavernord271]

Maybe he is into her!

[@darrelbutler1996]

😂 but I get it!! She's still FINE AS HELL!!!

[@lindabanks4287]

My sister has her autograph from that liquor store tour up in her living room.

[@bzizou5966]

Big M4.. Big Viola

[@ZuDega]

Ayooo....Vince Staples had me rolling when he said that on The JBP!

[@niablee]

BIG MEL!!!!!!!! Hootie Hooooooo

[@incogomomo]

I didn’t find out M4 was half white until she was on Hollywood Unlocked and I was extremely shocked. She presents as a light skinned black women, I would have never gave her mixed. So it’s interesting to hear her not identify as a black women because I would bet my left titty that she does not benefit from white privilege because she is not white passing…still love her DOWN it’s just interesting to hear her take on it, even though I get where she’s coming from. She’d be singing in a completely different key if she and her parents grew up in America. Their experience would completely mold their identity, unfort..

[@user-hu2lk9wv9j]

Love her.

[@tjones1783]

Murdery!! 🙌🏾 Melissa.

[@somethingelse419]

She should bring her podcast back.

[@GrandPrizeFitnesAJAY]

Big M4d! 🎉 whootie who❤

[@zan752000]

It's really about Drake being either quiet or unsupportive concerning Black issues, it really wasn't about a non Black parent.

[@classynoginilr7891]

Omg! Imagine not knowing it's menopause! It's horrible

[@crqdea6654]

🥴

[@Ja_1991]

Thank you M4 for protecting the fellas... Toure starts off by trying to make the JBP look crazy...

[@DaSoufGotSumpntoSay]

BIG MEL 💙

[@tamalaknox1438]

We love Mel and yes we 40 plus women really feel murdery on most days. 😂😂😂

[@BobbyPolite87]

She will forever and always be that gorgeous and sexy crush I grew up admiring. It's a privilege to see her and hear her voice weekly.

[@peacepocket]

I never knew Melyssa was mixed, she doesn’t look it. She has a black nose, black lips, black hair, black body. Her voice is black as well, she just sounds educated. Idk know how she is judged for being mixed when no one knew 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@jhunothello2326]

Because she is mixed I was just talking about this even if someone is phenotypically black but they have a non black parent especially a non black mom they do Get judged on their blackness but in some ways it is understandable but I do feel bad for them at the same time

[@laurenxo6503]

Her father is extremely dark. But it’s funny because her mom is a Russian blond.

[@dancemusikk]

Saying “She just sounds educated” after saying she sounds Black is crazy…

[@Ebony5001]

@@laurenxo6503he wasn’t that dark girl you reaching

[@laurenxo6503]

@@Ebony5001 have you seen his photo 😳😳

[@nzuix]

I Love me some M4

[@gloriousgemz2653]

She is Amazing 👸🏾🫡

[@brittanyfennell1261]

Here for Big Mel 🫶🏽

[@user-hz5cr8hm8w]

I really like her

[@MalieB]

M4 has The Floor… it’s nice 😊👍🏽 for a change.