Memento mori | Ryan Holiday | TEDxDunapart

In Meditations Marcus Aurelius wrote “You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” / Az Elmélkedésekben Marcus Aurelius így ír: "Minden tetted, szavad, gondolatod olyan legyen, mint azé, aki akár rögtön távozhatnék az életből." (Huszti József fordítása) Ryan Holiday (born June 16, 1987) is an American author, marketer, entrepreneur and founder of the creative advisory firm Brass Check. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@suryahr307]

10:55 that quote hit me the most and then "tell me, you're scared of dying but tell me, is the kind of life you're living is any different than being dead?"

[@marcust.5754]

Goosebumps

[@suryahr307]

@Bucky that is a great sign! Stay grateful. I hope you feel the same for really long time.

[@oxydizeIs5k]

I'm just getting used to the feeling of death. The thing about Stoicism and its emphasis on the individual is that you have to want what it offers. Otherwise, if you're like me and wasted 30 years of your life and its too tiring and sad to think of restarting - well, I just finished life early and there is no obvious exit.

[@avinashprasad2]

"You could leave life right now, let that determine what you do, say and think." - Marcus Aurelius

[@odinsarrow1343]

New background on my phone

[@wisheye1]

Alternatively…”Let each thing you would do, say, or intend, be like that of a dying person.” - Marcus Aurelius

[@odinsarrow1343]

Watching this as I eat my eggs and drink coffee, also fighting with the spouse. Memento Mori is something that always brings the act of eating or drinking into focus, allowing enjoyment in each bite. It can break the catatonic phase of the argument away, sweep it under the rug and allow you to sit down for a proper chat. No matter how hard of a talk it is.

[@victoriaguidici5574]

I’ve watched several of his videos on Stoicism. They are great.

[@TheRobbo1998]

Fantastic.

[@minetime6881]

I am Christian, and this message still connects to me. Every time you do something, that may be the last time you do it in this world, in this present mode of being. And i think that’s something we can all agree on; whatever happens after death, it will be different than now. And you won’t experience the exact same things in the exact same way you do on earth, while being alive. There is still urgency.

[@midairman]

I needed this. Great reminder of our own mortality, and that the past and future are but concepts, all we have is the here and now. Thanks Ryan.

[@chadcraft2884]

Ryan Rocks !, He is a blessing to humanity at a time when we most need to hear his stoic wisdom. I only wish I had learned about stoic philosophy sooner. A breath of sanity when we are surrounded by so many different versions of insanity. Thanks Ryan !

[@alexissein7609]

Probably the best talk on KZbin

[@dianehill4019]

Some weighty words to shake our leaves and get us to inhale, appreciate, and absorb the greenery of each moment. Life is truly fleeting and we don't see how fleeting till we are looking back and noticing how quickly it went! Inspiring words Mr. Holiday

[@marcusanark2541]

One the best things I ever watched my life, thank you Ryan Holiday!

[@barath365]

My favorite stoic

[@davemo83]

"As you kiss your son good night, whisper to yourself 'he may be dead in the morning'"... But wait till you're out of earshot first.

[@phillipwee3631]

Love this, Ryan! Completely adding this way of thinking to my life.

[@aaronwimberleymbamsf5776]

Thanks for a reminder of Amor Fati. Great way to start the day.

[@minetime6881]

God bless you Ryan Holiday, a reminder that we will die is needed for many of us needs in order to prioritize what we want to do in life.

[@TheToobNube]

This content has incredible weight! I definitely see myself coming back to this. Thank you for this.

[@redvelvetsucker1786]

ryan this was amazing. you changed my life really. my perspective in life. amor fati and memento mori change my life. im on my way to be a stoic. still long way to go and im learning everyday but its okay i will continue. keep it up mr holiday!

[@DS-cf1zc]

My grandfather told me at the age of 96, "Ask any 96 year old who wants to be 97?", and the answer they would all want to be 97. He sadly passed several weeks after his 98th Birthday in 2019 - so thankfully he never met COVID, and the COVID era, and for that I will be eternally grateful.

[@DS-cf1zc]

@@veechu7 I am sorry to hear you lost your grandfather too. But, agree with the sentiment of him avoiding the Covid bit. My FiL died in Jan 21 in a covid ward, of dementia, and with none of us able to see him. Very sad, and I was grateful for the exit my grandfather had been allowed, with us seeing him on the day he passed.

[@ophirram9231]

My go to person when it comes to moving forward in life and making the most of it. Thank you Ryan!

[@Dee-sr4lt]

Ryan deserves a better audience. C'mon people show some signs of life, even though he is talking about death. My gawd!!!!!!🥴🙄🥴

[@mrrohitjadhav470]

Yeaahh

[@juliocastillo1829]

@@mrrohitjadhav470 This talk was I Budapest...I guess the people in the audience didn't understand English that well!!

[@svenmeier6978]

RAAAIIIIIGGHHHT?

[@Tomm9y]

He was using a mouth microphone, it's designed to pick up the speaker's voice. Also, perhaps the audience was polite.

[@SelfReflective]

@@Tomm9y It's an Eastern European audience. Ostentatious display of emotion is not only frowned upon, but could be dangerous or potentially lethal, given the history of government benevolence in those, or should I say, these lands...I'm EE as well.

[@inchbyinchstories]

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. - Seneca

[@wayy2much311]

Thank you Ryan

[@davidmcintosh2054]

Wow! This woke me UP! I need to begin living with purpose!

[@daniel_najar]

"The heartbreaking fact remains of everyone that's been born the mortality rate stays at a steady 100%" lol Cold Fact

[@princessfamily1705]

WhT is cognitive creamers

[@iggykarpov]

And they say 'Nothing is 100%'! What did the stoics say about taxes, by the way?

[@WassupBruddah]

Well Jesus didn't die.

[@Cronoo]

Thank you.

[@2811JPR]

This video will blow up.

[@elliotskunk]

thank you.

[@cococookie9265]

irony is this video was uploaded on the day of covid-19 outbreak.

[@spimentel562]

It's my birthday today and watching this😐

[@johnostensen]

Great talk👍

[@mysandyballs]

I wish I had come across this when I was in my 20’s. Maybe I would not have spent so much of my time drinking, chasing girls and getting high...then again, maybe not. It was the school of life, and it shaped my character. What a conundrum!

[@cautarepvp2079]

why wish? How old are you now? Do the change now..

[@castrobal]

Watch a movie called Wild with Reese Witherspoon. There is some thought at the end of the movie that may help you answer that question

[@patrickalbrecht2385]

Just playing video games and watching this video and I don't think any of those things are a waste of time. I'll do what is the most important to me, nevertheless what other people think of me.

[@marcusanark2541]

That's right, do what is meaningful to you.

[@damianruiz509]

u never get that feeling when playing video games like "damn i can really be doing something more productive rn"?

[@patrickalbrecht2385]

@@damianruiz509 No, not really. I have a full time job and when I'm done with that I've done all the productive work I need to do for that day.

[@enestk8763]

@@patrickalbrecht2385 You think you are productive, you aren't.

[@paulb6181]

I'm a practising stoic have been for most of my life and stoiciscm is about being happy and in control of your emotions that leads to actions, acknowledging that death is on our door step and once you can accept death and it will happen then live your life and enjoy and if playing video games makes you happy then you are living your life. "SUMMON BONUM"

[@alanchriston6806]

Fantastic 😊

[@jonathansturm4163]

Stoicism is all about practice. Ryan’s free daily emails act as a reminder of that need.

[@krunosimic2868]

Why so few views? This is gold..

[@loganc4233]

Great vid!

[@iggykarpov]

12:29 EPICTETUS: "As you kiss your son good-night, whisper to yourself 'He May be dead in the morning' " 20:04 MARCUS AURELIUS:"Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life. Now take what's left and live it properly"

[@alexxjaa]

"Every man has two lives and the second starts when he realizes he just has one."

[@kiarapaige9439]

This made me fall in love with my tattoo ☯️ all over again

[@roxyluv9833]

It is worth it thank you

[@marcust.5754]

The past belongs to death, Seneca said. In the concept of time this means that the only thing you lose when you die is THIS moment. No big deal , I would say. :)

[@zauberschurke4012]

If I die now, I also lose my future time. Wouldnt I? So there is definitely more to lose.

[@marcust.5754]

@@zauberschurke4012 The future is not a real thing, only a concept, a thought.

[@anneleykay9437]

I Heard about this on the ,Don’t tell me the score BBC podcast which was really interesting too. At an hour long it covers more ground than this ted talk and is post Covid 19 but during lockdown.

[@meermeera768]

can you drop the link?

[@Podders1991]

Ryan Holiday you are truly one of my heroes. You have improved my life so much thank you

[@billbaz7350]

They should teach this in high school. Unfortunately I wouldn't have taken it seriously but I like to think maybe I would have and made better decisions in life.

[@almendravalentina5358]

Same thought here.

[@thebettybassettproduction2458]

You're so cute. I love your opening. I love that the mortality is 100%. You're so clever. Thank you for this video. It needed to be said. Thank you for hardening people to stoic reality. We are such a bunch of people are just so fearful. I love your command of language. Thank you for being so effective as a speaker. I love your coin idea.

[@RainarAngelo]

Not gonna lie, his audience was dead too

[@epicgamer268]

Honestly. The jokes were funny and the audience didn't even react

[@aminedhaouadi7932]

he wasnt that good

[@tgm6557]

@@aminedhaouadi7932 what do you mean?

[@briggs5569]

@@tgm6557 You want him to spell it out for you?

[@Kohiku]

They were practicing great stoicism.

[@matttw7401]

An inspiring talk, despite his awkward disregard of perspective toward what people may or may not consider to be wastes of time.

[@dannybans23]

Like what? Are you a gamer?

[@chrisventura1881]

Ok so his theme is live today like it's your last day.

[@DJSTOEK]

🖤

[@hugoantunesartwithblender]

There is a church like that in Évora Portugal

[@Randommmmmmmz]

Fear is the mind killer

[@gabrielseguridadhigienelab943]

DEAR RYAN: I m reading THE OBSTACLE is the WAY, and I m loving it . Every night a little bit, on my bedside table, it has become kind of a paper made friend I chat with on a daily basis... I ll be sad when I finishe it ... jajajajaj

[@DJSTOEK]

💘

[@raygreen5926]

Our sojourn on this earth is a veritable mystery. When we are born we are also put on death row. The irony of our existence on the Milky Way fairground ride

[@iggykarpov]

And they say 'Nothing is 100%'! What did the Stoics say about taxes, by the way?

[@hobojungle1]

Am I weird that the thought of dying makes me want to act less and do less versus do/experience a bunch of stuff?

[@ZaJMoj]

Do less and be in the moment ❤

[@avinashprasad2]

8:25 Stoic Exercises

[@olgajensen3005]

Live like You are always ready to die without regret. 👩🏻‍🦰

[@sync1291]

I wonder if this concept could be considered dismissive of rebirth beliefs? Death is in fact an end. There are beliefs that uphold there is no end to someone who is remembered because they exist in a living body though memory. Thoughts to ponder.

[@bigallabowski8235]

Great talk. I don’t believe we are the only species that knows we’re mortal though. But I get the point…

[@byron8657]

Inthe movie Gladiator Proximo the Gladiator handler said this word of wisdom before they go and fight to death in the Colesseum Ultimately were all deadmen, sadly we cannot choose how, but we can decide how to meet that end as men! The Cowards die a thousand deaths but the valiants only taste it once! Julius Caesar

[@applesnake9166]

🌞⚡️🖤♥️💙

[@hanskung3278]

Well if death is the end of everything then philanthropy is more important than Minecraft.

[@soymacchiato]

Am I the only who thought this was about to be a Dead By Daylight speech on when it’s appropriate to use a Momento Mori? Lmao

[@louisburke8927]

There isn't anything we do that is meaningless.

[@doctorpete1]

Does Ryan ever get dressed up?

[@astaut2659]

Never clicked so fast, after seeing the title

[@alecstern6065]

I love stoicism.

[@ihsankhan8799]

Life is meaningful only if you know what lies ahead

[@OldishGoalie]

That was my shirt, I'm alive, and I want it back! 🤣🤣

[@israelgarcia9253]

En español por favor.

[@PaulaDTozer]

The way of all things is to be stripped of all things.

[@intratis]

It's said that when you die Death is forced to watch your last dance.

[@mst7155]

The problem is not Death. The problem is that at some point we ll face pain and we ll suffer horrible physical degradation when we'll get old or some cancer will strike us .... What a pity that nobody worries about trying to answer the most important questions! Death whithout pain everyone should accept whithout the help ofany expert philosopher.... Talking about things that matter should be the first concern of philosophy....

[@damianruiz509]

hey i got those shoes

[@John-ee8wm]

Man plans God laughs...

[@wajahatkhan]

This is what the Quran says "Every soul shall taste death" and the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ famously said "Remember the destroyer of pleasures, death". It amazes me how much Ryan's teachings are directly parallel to what Islam and what the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ brought.

[@seaofclay]

There is NO Death. You keep coming back till you've paid back all your Karma to the very last penny of Karmic Debt.

[@SelfReflective]

There are 8 billion people now, vs 1 billion a century ago. Who is making up the difference? Karma BS.

[@Taino137]

I will be 59 this year, and i really don't want to bet to 60, at this age my life is absolutely worthless. I would give my eternal soul for Cancer, but if i don't get it i will during antifreeze.

[@davidmalpass7129]

What is a better word for "Death"? And another thing i'm struggling with is that "time" is an actual thing. HELP!

[@oxydizeIs5k]

Memento mori ... How do we make it happen more quickly. I finished this life already and am ready to go.

[@user-jz1ho9vf9y]

9:47

[@pagucostel2942]

Ryan i want to thank youu for all the information you put out in this video .you Sir in 20 minutes speak mor facts then 1000 guru preast pope and all the high heads of creastian churc.respect but i don`t like when you repeat the same sentence 3 time its very annoyng.I hope you understand my english i am stiil learning.

[@amandagalloway1213]

In my philosophy studies at university, I have personally read all of the above sources quoted but one. There is no evidence that Marcus Aurelius liked to tuck his son in each night and recite Epictetus’ quote to himself. This quote is written in his meditations, but there is no record of Aurelius practicing this ritual nightly. I would be most grateful to anyone who could furnish a credible source quote. Ryan relays that “it was said...” but by whom?

[@matoisilversoul1203]

I don't think he said that he practiced this nightly, but rather it was something to do when he did it.

[@raygreen5926]

You are very pedantic

[@allenburnett5422]

The orator states we should not infringe on another person's time. Iacocca expressed it "Lead, Follow, or Git Outta the Way." If you knew me you'd say that I'm a lackadaisical, unambitious soul. You'd be right. I found paradise in northern Michigan. Little traffic, no stop signs, no need for a watch. You git the picture. If you are a commuter rushing to work, I'll pull over+ let you pass ASAP. Maybe you are 21 years old and think your time is more important than that of someone 79. But what if you are just a throwaway plastic bottle floating in the ocean. Maybe I cherish and respect Time more. Go ahead + git back to your classroom b4 the bell rings. May the wisdom of Trump continue to be with you.

[@allosaurusandromeda6447]

I agree with you 100% about finding a slower pace of life in a smaller community. Chasing big dreams and big city life can drive people to despair. Trump may be the least stoic public person in America. He is a boiling cauldron of ego, anger, hate, fear, violence, and resentment. I doubt he ever settles his own mind and has a moment of peace or tranquility. Obama was quite a stoic. Unruffled, but caring. Thoughtful. Deliberate. He lifted and connected people, rather than trashed and divided them.

[@SelfReflective]

@@allosaurusandromeda6447 I think he was being sarcastic with "the wisdom of Trump". God I hope he was being sarcastic...there is no other meaning to that sentence than an ironic one.

[@tangy9311]

this vid has low views because people saw the title and went to work hard on their dreams

[@LetreJete]

This whole talk, and not one word from a Benedictine or Carmelite religious.

[@adamwilson6]

The stoics got it right.

[@stefans.9194]

I love this topic and this guy’s youtube channel, but this is one of the worst ted talks I’ve ever seen

[@TwinkieReid]

im 2 months late, but why do you think so?

[@jonathanpascual5353]

@@TwinkieReid I’m super late too, but I think it might be the _delivery_ of it. The message was great but it could use some “polishing” at times. For me, I wished it had more natural pauses because I didn’t really like the non-stop talking he did for the majority of it. If it had more breaks, it would’ve been easier for myself to process the things he said and maybe even _reflect_ on it even if only for a brief moment.

[@BolleCloveKitty]

Well, if it's a contest, I'm even later. Just curios if the pandemic already spreaded this was made, but since it's a live one and not online, might be after. Anyway, I wanted to say that I enjoyed the talk and didn't notice the fast speaking, or at least it didn't bother me.

[@austinreed6759]

It’s just Ryan’s delivery he has a unique way of speaking that isn’t for everyone

[@stefans.9194]

@@austinreed6759 I followed him for a while and I kinda know how he speaks, but this is just bad