men need emotion, explained by a masculine guy

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[@casuallyallison]

speaking from personal experience with my boyfriend, if you find the right girl, she will let you know it’s not over sharing and its not seen as weak. you’re never too weak to the person who loves seeing you grow. my boyfriend goes through a lot of shit but he handles everything that is thrown his way, sometimes he needs more help than others, but those are the times i help him and it makes us the ying/yang mix we are. keep your head up king, i hope you heal from anything you’re wounded by and i hope you find / have found your other half.

[@stainrode]

thanks for the reality check, definitely haven't found the other half yet haha. I wrote down the other day "if you aren't truly yourself, you will never get what is actually meant for you. You might get what you want, but it won't feel true to your soul." I think the right girl wants the real you who will 'overshare,' and if you try to be the person that doesn't, you will hide yourself from the girl who is meant for you. You saying this reminded me of that agian.

[@HyperChamp]

This was unbelievably deep. Thanks

[@aulden69]

This video really helped me think about who in my friend groups are really friends I want to be around long term, or at least, that I prefer being around the more mature of my friends, because around them I really do feel like I can be myself and I can be open about how I feel.

[@stainrode]

follow that thought!

[@rpplffct]

Love you, Stain. ❤

[@lucindam6783]

Great video ❤

[@JX0_8]

i got emailed this 🦆

[@Unbridledhopebr]

Nice content. Why do you think sharing with a girl would make her think you are week? If she thinks this way she is very far from feminist movement and more into patriarchate mindset that man should hide/numb their emotions for them to be seen like masculine and, therefore, be attractive. This is the problem: as men we ideally wouldn’t need to rely only on another men, this is still keeping our emotions hidden from half of society and from potential sex lovers or life partners. We are humans and, as so, we are beings that feel and that sometimes are able to rationalize. If woman don’t understand this or if we are not able to share our emotions with them, in case of a straight couple, we are just going to live segmented lives. I really recommended the book THE WILL TO CHANGE - MAN MASCULINITY AND LOVE by BELL HOOKS

[@-N0PE-]

You are an awesome human being. Thank you for your inspiring words

[@gracekyungu3441]

Sometimes, there are things and emotions that I want to share with my female friends only. Maybe bc I see myself more easily in them? I don’t really know 🤷🏽And I often tell myself that this is most probably the case for men too, and unfortunately I have the impression that men are deprived of their freedom to feel and express their emotions with some of their friends🫠

[@stainrode]

i think it's the pressure and fear of judgment more than anything

[@hannavandenheuvel6963]

As a girl, please don't think we perceive opening up as oversharing. If girls do react like that, it just means they are not in touch with their own emotions. Emotional maturity and the ability to communicate that is never oversharing.

[@stainrode]

i appreciate this reminder Hanna. i meant to convey the idea that opening up is different from dumping. i think it becomes oversharing when it isn’t reciprocated

[@hannavandenheuvel6963]

@@stainrode yes good point! When it spills over because you haven't opened up in so long, that's indeed dumping. Loved the metaphor with the glass! Appreciate your work, thank you!🫶

[@ledarius]

W Video bro

[@stevennguyen4993]

You claim to be masculine, but you're also young. It's ok to have emotions. The problem is, too many people in recent generations DWELL TOO MUCH in their emotions. They want to flip it, explore it, analyze it, overanalyze it, and worst, internalize it. Another problem is the fact that a lot of "masculine men" thrive in drama and create it out of sheer boredom. Nothing productive to do, so instead of cultivating functional relationships, they're on tinder claiming to be "drama-free" so they can make your ex jealous WHILE trying to make another chick they're talking to be more attractive to you. Hypocrites and wasteful. Ironic and immature. And worse, liars to themselves and to others, so they can seem like they're decent human beings. So unless you're ready to be a real adult, keep your emotions to yourselves until you're tired enough to cut off the excess

[@HyperChamp]

Man, somebody didn't watch the video or take in the meaning

[@stevennguyen4993]

@@HyperChamp Nah, I watched it. But I'm also a lot older than him, and I've witnessed my own generation and the post 9-11 generation appropriate, customize, and internalize mental health topics and concepts. Of course, young people cheer because they can finally hang onto something that can be modified to explain the mildest dysfunctional behavior or even the mildest of negative emotions as if a perfect mental state is pragmatic and sustainable. And then there's the fact of drama. He talks about talking to strangers, but you'll need to dig deeper in order to know where a lot of people's social problems and mental stress comes from. Unfortunately, I've only met a very few number of young men who actually keep their heads down and focus on themselves. As far as emotions go, they ask about any residuals, to find ways to manage it. And these people are often attractive guys with very small social networks, high or focused drives, and are often generally tired from keeping themselves entertained with personal and productive projects outside of their primary goals