Mental Health Matters: Depression and Anxiety in Older Adults

[@technolady9926]

Your video is helping me a lot. This happened some years ago and so glad that is still available. 72, meds and therapist, hoping I’ll get out f the ditch as well.

[@danielpercival]

Like Michael’s talk. Can so identify with it. At present 30 years depression. Started with migraines at mid age, now 70 years. Antidepressants work slightly. I was vocal about my struggle to friends, some leave, most hear you then try to change the subject or just forget what you’ve said immediately but a few do express care and concern. Mind you nobody I think knows of any magic cure but that’s ok. Just listening and trying to understand is enough. Depression makes you a totally different person and you and your friends who care will just have to understand that. To me, there is no going back, accept who you’ve become and go on as best as you can. So thanks Michael for that really open talk.

[@normanmacfarlane6724]

A very thoughtful way of expressing your feelings

[@kd-1-9942]

There is magic cure. Just it’s different for everyone. We never know what simple things can work. We have to retrain ourselves to redirect thoughts to positive direction whenever we catch ourselves going negative. With time, it will become a habit and neuro pathways of negative thoughts will become weaker and weaker. Feelings will follow these positive thoughts in sometime. Thinking positive from inside is necessary, should not be just in words. Fixing daily habits in such a way that there is no space left for negative thinking.

[@philipmorgan7802]

The OPMH are keeping my mother from a higher dosage of medication, even though they know she is well on higher dosages and which could be decreased after a month or so. They made their initial decision to put down her dosage before seeing her ( I have a recording of a phone-conversation with a surgery who confirmed that the decision had been put through earlier than my mother's appointment that day). The decision to put down her dosage instead of up was based on false information I had put through that there had been no reason for a relapse; however, I then remembered that the day of her relapse she was going to see whether her tom-cat would die (we were uncertain) and leading up to this the mother of the tom had died. Despite all of this evidence, they continue to keep my mother on a low dosage. I have video-footage showing my mother well on a higher dosage from when we (my mother and I) increased it ourselves and the difference is major. On the low dosage, she is still ill; on the higher dosage, nothing wrong. It is DPT who is behind this protection-racket for the OPMH who are causing my mother injury. And likewise, it is Devon County Council who fund DPT. We are in Devon, in Teignbridge. Because surgeries get paid to endorse the OPMH, they will not go against them - these are no real doctors surgeries.

[@annejohnston8696]

The way in which Dr Doug Oliver talks about aging is beautiful, eloquent and profound. It's much much needed. ..I am reminded of John Prine's classic "Hello in There." We are just six days into 2020. I am only 57 . I believe that I have had depression, and now constant anxiety since a teenager. It is in a different form now, difficult to explain. With me the form seems to stem from regret. The thought that if I had only written or sang or played that piano when they were screaming at me to do so, that now I wouldn't feel so deeply this fear and all it brings..and now the need to be active in a different way, eg cleaning, in an attempt to disapate those unwanted feelings only for them to spring up even bigger each time. We become cowards in our need just to feel normal, like we're "behaving", keeping above the water by keeping busy instead of just stopping. Just stopping to Feel. Maybe it's just because it's the beginning of a new year or because, politically I am more aware than ever of what is going in my own country , Scotland, and Abroad, the terrorism imposed by America for the world.. It's bound to make some impact in our minds. I have 2 young grandchildren. Depression is a reaction to our environment, what we observe, what we come to know. It's so subtle and assuming silence, it hides away We feel the need to "keep up" with life, harsh routines are imposed on us daily. It's fast, it's unnatural. We can lose the ability to feel . But we will be made to stop and made to listen to our worn out minds and bodies eventually... We have to protect our children. Show them joy and laughter. Pull through the shit. We laugh , we cry. Joy in your heart is different, And much much needed.

[@small_fries7573]

Here's some motivation. U still have some time. U r not 60. My neighbor got fired when he was 50 around christmas 🎄 and his bday! How cursed is that? I hope u get motivated after reading 📚 this! Hope this cheers u up n give u hope! Enjoy! Take guts to admit u got issues. All humans do. U r not like my neighbor Cuong. He was arrested 2x for his rage against his supervisors! Then he got fired around christmas 2012! Sought revenge and retribution, lost 2 court cases to his employers, & lost thousands of dollars to attorney fees! The misery doesnt stop here. He doesn't go out unless necessary. No job. No vacations. No eating out. Doesn't celebrate any kind of holiday as he lost interest in anything socially-related. Almost no social interactions outside his family. Wife works and cooks for him daily. He has 2 junk cars sitting in his backyard and other clutters. He also collects cans and bottles to get paid for recycling ♻️. I mean Cuong is a miserable guy who has no real, honest hope in his life anymore! That's 10 years of misery n denial of his mental illness conditions. He likes to brag in front of others, but his pain and agony overpowers him inside. His false pride 😤 is what leads him to self destruction! What a shame. People on this site have more courage than 🐔 Cuong! A failure covers n lies about his issues. That's Cuong.

[@AngelaGGentile]

Thank you for sharing your experience, Michael. I am sure you are helping many, many people with your openness. Thank you Dr. Oliver for your wise words on how professionals can help those who are struggling with mental illness (brain disease). Ending stigmatization of mental health issues includes focusing on education, support and treatment while instilling hope in those affected.

[@mossie1954]

My depression came in short spouts...One day I was woken the other side of the planet at the time 911 was taking place. I had a most terrible 'dread' inside of me. I was 47yrs old....yet something stopped me from turning on the t.v., I went back to bed. To wake and see at 8am the news. I think it triggered 'how' of all countries it happened too? It just seemed impossible to me. Since then I just try hard to do one day at a time....praise God. Some are real hard, some better.

[@Bob.Stoddard]

i want to just let it out and cry,, but i can't

[@kd-1-9942]

Be king to yourself. Accept yourself as you are. You don't have to become something else. You are whole with your strengths and weaknesses. Feel that wholeness. Accept yourself fully. What if u cry? What if we fall down? What if we cannot get up? Do all these things even matter? Mental health is first priority.

[@coomzee1]

A brave man to admit where he's been and is.I really appreciated his ability to describe his experience and I can relate to much of what he says and simple direct way he can articulate his journey. Thankyou for giving this illness a voice.

[@small_fries7573]

Here's some motivation. U still have some time. U r not 60. My neighbor got fired when he was 50 around christmas 🎄 and his bday! How cursed is that? I hope u get motivated after reading 📚 this! Hope this cheers u up n give u hope! Enjoy! Take guts to admit u got issues. All humans do. U r not like my neighbor Cuong. He was arrested 2x for his rage against his supervisors! Then he got fired around christmas 2012! Sought revenge and retribution, lost 2 court cases to his employers, & lost thousands of dollars to attorney fees! The misery doesnt stop here. He doesn't go out unless necessary. No job. No vacations. No eating out. Doesn't celebrate any kind of holiday as he lost interest in anything socially-related. Almost no social interactions outside his family. Wife works and cooks for him daily. He has 2 junk cars sitting in his backyard and other clutters. He also collects cans and bottles to get paid for recycling ♻️. I mean Cuong is a miserable guy who has no real, honest hope in his life anymore! That's 10 years of misery n denial of his mental illness conditions. He likes to brag in front of others, but his pain and agony overpowers him inside. His false pride 😤 is what leads him to self destruction! What a shame. People on this site have more courage than 🐔 Cuong! A failure covers n lies about his issues. That's Cuong.I know a sheltered old man name Robert A. Please if you're retired don't be like him. 1. Super frugile 2. Broken, worn out driveway. Has $ to get it fixed but too cheap. 3. Sheltered, no friends no social life! 4. Wife goes out while he stays home 5. Smoke 🚬 🚭 6. Drinks too much Coke 7. Don't turn on da air con even when the weather is over 90°...he has money and a retirement plan 8. Worships demonic idols/demons posted outside his house 9. Superstitious. Never exits nor enter the front door of his house. 10. Wasting precious water on grasses n plants 🪴. Illegal watering. 3-4 times a week! Only limit to 2x per week 11. No vacations, no stay-cation. 12. Doesn't know how 2 cook at all. His wife have been shopping 🛍 & cooking for him daily. Don't dine out. 13. Rarely exercises if u don't count watering plants

[@TonyBurke100]

When someone speaks down to me because I'm old I laugh at their stupidity. I'm seventy so I've been around a lot more than they've been so I've seen more, learned more done more than they so how does that make me less than they?.

[@lukehankinson3668]

I love the topic and his ideas but I have had a different experience with depression and mental health. He describes a constant tap on the shoulder as magnifying the experience. For me the constant tap on the shoulder becomes normal, I get acclimatised to it it. After a while I realise I'm back in the hole and I don't know how I got there. For some, it's about learning you own body and noticing the signs to mitigate and prevent oncoming episodes. I am not critisicing this approach. I just want to make people aware that depression can be mitigated in various ways.

[@goodtalker]

I worked in adult education in the California penal system for 25 years. From that experience, I learned that men, in general, are incredibly more fragile, and incredibly more damaged, than probably women. They just hide it better. In fact, when their behavior devolves into addiction, the jig is up. They can no longer hide it, and the road to recovery, can at that point, begin.

[@small_fries7573]

Amen. I know a sheltered old man name Robert A. Please if you're retired don't be like him. 1. Super frugile 2. Broken, worn out driveway. Has $ to get it fixed but too cheap. 3. Sheltered, no friends no social life! 4. Wife goes out while he stays home 5. Smoke 🚬 🚭 6. Drinks too much Coke 7. Don't turn on da air con even when the weather is over 90°...he has money and a retirement plan 8. Worships demonic idols/demons posted outside his house 9. Superstitious. Never exits nor enter the front door of his house. 10. Wasting precious water on grasses n plants 🪴. Illegal watering. 3-4 times a week! Only limit to 2x per week 11. No vacations, no stay-cation. 12. Doesn't know how 2 cook at all. His wife have been shopping 🛍 & cooking for him daily. Don't dine out. 13. Rarely exercises if u don't count watering plants

[@cjasz622]

if you are poor and can not find a life partner - you can be depressed

[@small_fries7573]

Hi there! 👋 I hope this msg will motivate you. I know this guy name Mike. He's from San Antonio, TX. He's probably in his late 50s or early 60s by now. After u read this, I hope u get motivated to turn ur life around. Keep grinding 💪 my friends. 1. Divorced 2. Got evicted from his previous apartment; refused to leave letting cops to confront da situations 3. Has a grown son 28-30 yrs old 4. Loudmouth, cusses often, mocks all kinds of people 5. Heard him say racist comments to a group of four Hispanic men. Probably many more raging racist episodes out in public 6. People dislike him cuz of his mouth. Peeps r also intimidated by it. 7. Had cancer 2k13; God's wrath! 8. Big, chubby 230-245 with no cardio at all. Just only care about lifting weights 9. 711 diet. Dude likes to eat their hotdogs 🌭 and pizza. Drink lotsa slurpy! 10. His idol, Donald Trump, lost da election in 2020. Mike still pissed 😤 af! Everything's rigged to him according to his own beliefs. 11. Horrible wardrobe style. Brags abt how he can make a nice, walk-in closet but dress like 💩 💩 💩 12. No vacations/no go out to eat for dinner; stays home while his gf and her companions go out 13. Eats 2 much meat 🍖 and believes in "all-about-da-meat diet!" Has no liking 4 fruits n veggies. To him, these food r for pansies... He's a miserable guy. Hope this inspires you to see that there r miserable people out there who still refuses to point out their personal, mental, psychological, and spiritual problems! At least if u admit ur depressed or something, u have already made ur 1st step to improvement/growth!

[@kd-1-9942]

If u are rich, all gold diggers will come to be your partner so you end up alone. Being rich is worse when we talk about mental health. Rich people don't have real friends. They cannot see themselves as part of their old poor friend group because those people will not able to understand what struggle rich goes through. Rich people have to work ass off because they created so much and adopted a life style that needs a lot of money to maintain. People who are filthy rich and don't have to work for money do not have any company. Rich people are selfish so 2 rich people cannot be real friends. Rich people have comfort, freedom, money to get help. But poor people have genuine friendships. Apart from this, rich people have very good business brain. You can say analytical brain. So they have less focus on doing stupid things which gives more fulfilment and fun. They ran for money that much that they forget how to enjoy those small things. If rich persons tell the reality of how they feel, you will feel you are better at mental health. Check how many rich people committed suicide. Best thing is to live like poor, don't make life style overly lavish. Enjoy small things. Life is not meant to win in race of money.

[@eliaschelios7724]

Breaking the law without knowing can lead to fear and depression...

[@small_fries7573]

I know a sheltered old man name Robert A. Please if you're retired don't be like him. 1. Super frugile 2. Broken, worn out driveway. Has $ to get it fixed but too cheap. 3. Sheltered, no friends no social life! 4. Wife goes out while he stays home 5. Smoke 🚬 🚭 6. Drinks too much Coke 7. Don't turn on da air con even when the weather is over 90°...he has money and a retirement plan 8. Worships demonic idols/demons posted outside his house 9. Superstitious. Never exits nor enter the front door of his house. 10. Wasting precious water on grasses n plants 🪴. Illegal watering. 3-4 times a week! Only limit to 2x per week 11. No vacations, no stay-cation. 12. Doesn't know how 2 cook at all. His wife have been shopping 🛍 & cooking for him daily. Don't dine out. 13. Rarely exercises if u don't count watering plants

[@theresacole8714]

What about hearing negative Voices Through taking medication ??

[@fonzieskatesurf]

I have negative thoughts with no medication, 45yrs old here

[@small_fries7573]

Hope the following msg helps u! Here's some encouragement to motivate you! My neighbor, Maria, at age 55 is weighing over 200 pounds. She works, but she has no heart to exercise. No walking around no jogging, absolutely zilch! She drinks, smokes 🚬, and eats unhealthy. She can barely walk straight. In fact she walks like side to side. Her mom near her 90s cooks 🍳 and do all the yard work. Poor old lady! She tells her daughter to cook and do chores only to get scolded by Maria! Wow, so lazy and heartless! U r much better! YOU ARE FREAKIN, PRECIOUS AND UNIQUE! Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.