I'm going to let my ex prove himself to the next person. I gave him five years to be consistent of not being disrespectful. He is a Dr. Jeckl and Mr Hyde.
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
There you go 💪
@pattisouthard2245 Жыл бұрын
Same here with my ex.
@ricardodieujuste4554 Жыл бұрын
Please Don’t stop making these video’s. Before finding your content I was about ready to checkout.
@heavy_metal_dad8 ай бұрын
Same. Hope you're still doing well.
@poison_plays Жыл бұрын
For me, part of how I hold myself accountable as a non-narcissist and keep myself resistant to the “fleas” is by acknowledging and affirming when the narcissistic people I interact with are right. Including when they call me out correctly on my behaving in a toxic way. I’m far from perfect, and sometimes it’s happened to be someone narcissistic who’s aptly pointed out to me where I could behave more in line with my own ethics. I think carefully before I trust their opinions, of course. But if I find my behaviour doesn’t live up to my personal moral code for myself, I don’t care who got me to see it. I only care that I do better. What else matters?
@tranquility9325 Жыл бұрын
I admire that you resist the urge to cheat like many of them. They have such a small attention span and constantly need other ppl to admire them.
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
You and your wife and kids are warriors!! ✨
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
♥️
@rogerwoodard7867 Жыл бұрын
Your right, no trust, there's nothing😊
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
🙏🏽
@majorsolutionsllc Жыл бұрын
Much respect Lee!👊👊👊"Hell Naw! They gotta prove that ish!"😆
@purpleheart1836 Жыл бұрын
I pray diligently for your deliverance and healing…this is a devastating and horrific state to live with
@tranquility9325 Жыл бұрын
He's been in psychotherapy for 6 yrs
@bethm77017 ай бұрын
I like these videos! Glad you are doing this series.
@Vanes218 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. It brings clarity.
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
You’re helping us. You’ve helped me sooo much!!!
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
Stay strong
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
@@MentalHealness thank you 🙏🏽
@shakeviabrown8615 Жыл бұрын
I gave my spouse all of my 20s and half of my 30s … the continued disrespect and violent rages proved to me that he will not change. He may change but he want for me … he’s had 15 years… 1 month strong 💪🏾 of no contact…had to get a TPO
@InvisibleBorderline Жыл бұрын
I’m working on myself and it’s HARD and it HURTS. But I couldn’t do any of it if I had stayed with my ex. He’s very severe and no amount of me loving him was going to change him. He has to do that himself. I left for me. To save myself. I was becoming someone and something different living with him. Something broken and scared, the child that I thought I’d left behind decades ago. I hope he gets better. I really do but he’s got to want to do it. I want to be better and that’s why I left him behind.
@aaliyanahmohammed2418 Жыл бұрын
Early one morning he came to visit me and was talking loud neighbors was outside. He blurt out "You will get someone who will treat you worse than me". Thank you for admitting that in front of everyone. He was good to me but majority of the time he was horrible to me. People can say that they changed those are just words. Sorry is hard to say and means nothing at the same time. Actions and choices of words says clearly. Don't be fooled, oh I was upset that's why I said that I did not mean it. I was just joking. Worse is when they say someone said so, when asked who, it becomes people to protect the person. I just lied to see your reaction. Anytime they don't get things them way they will be nasty towards you. Don't feel bad, testing them they will fail. Don't ever let them make you feel like you are the fault. They have short comings and that is who they are. He would sometimes tell me exactly what is problem and ask me to repeat what he said (since you know exactly what you have been doing over and over again means that you are more than aware of what you have been saying and doing. Nobody else is to blame or is an obstacle except themselves. They convince you to not want them in your life. Once you are not happy, comfortable and safe know that that situation needs to change gradually try to avoid any contact with that person not only to avoid conflict, drama and trauma. Being drunk is another excuse to tell you what they can't say, in fact wanted to say long time. It is the truth. They can't handle rejection. Any opportunity to embarrass you publicly. Walking away, but watch your back. They don't give up that easily
@gennacalvaresi422 Жыл бұрын
Truth ❤ Stay strong! I wish you well and hope you accomplish all your goals and keep growing and learning so you can teach others about this very confusing mind set or disorder. It is a mind set in a way. It can be changed, most people hide behind it bc they know no other way of thinking.
@sonnenschein553 Жыл бұрын
I am seriously so impressed by how far you have come in your way of thinking and feeling. All the best for your further process ❤
@emmajackson5139 Жыл бұрын
Trust and communication is key on both sides to make a relationship work. My ex made me laugh he said if you cant trust me then you will never be happy with me even tho he knew he was a untrustworthy person. Mind blowing
@heavy_metal_dad8 ай бұрын
Your videos are 🔥. Definitely helps me look at myself in a whole new perspective.
@gigicooper1759 Жыл бұрын
Always enlighting - Ty!
@poison_plays Жыл бұрын
I’d extend “they might not forgive you” to everyone, not just narcissists and toxic people. No one owes anyone who’s wronged them forgiveness. Anyone who feels entitled to forgiveness isn’t accepting real accountability for having harmed someone else.
@floricadunca6909 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate so much your work ✌️👍Thank you🌈
@haisselburrell1903 Жыл бұрын
🔥 great vid Lee so true
@impromptu4348 Жыл бұрын
You trying is good but not good enogh. The hurt inflicted CAN NOT be excused. Still, appreciate a lottt your contribution for the betterment. I hate you because I love your sincerity.
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
😂 🙏🏽 God bless you Lee
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
God bless you as well
@rogerwoodard7867 Жыл бұрын
I really enjoy your comments. Truthful, with humor
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@majorsolutionsllc Жыл бұрын
"And clapping of the cheeks!"🤣😂
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
We’re conditioned with our environment
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
💯
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
That’s deep
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
🙏🏽
@impromptu4348 Жыл бұрын
You do your best. The best you can. Take you or leaving you. As for me, as your intimate parter or coworker or whatnot, I wish to get as far away away of you. Wife or not wife. My intake on the matter.
@donutmom237 ай бұрын
hombreeeee....if i could like this one 100 times over I would
@Hit.man2211 Жыл бұрын
0:32 how ironic.....😂.....mfs the most narcissistic they've ever been.....but yet won't watch videos on narcissism 😂.....speaks volumes to our society structure
@margaretsmith9467 Жыл бұрын
Hi my friend!❤ you crack me up!😂
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
❤️
@laala4486 Жыл бұрын
I trusted so blindly for 10 years that i was completely shocked and blindsided when truths i had no idea about were revealed. Dont get me wrong there were serious problems of toxic behavior and mental abuse but fidelity (i thought) was never an issue. In fact (i thought) it was 1 things we had and was solid on. I looked up and there wasnt anything to even value about the relationship any more. At every turn and expectation i was disappointed and hurt over again. I feel like a part of me cant believe he was that bad and i was duped and still held on. And of course he acts like im delusional and in ways i always second guessed myself or gave benefit of doubt because i was always mistaken or "lying" i even convinced myself he really believed that. Until it was evidentual situations that couldnt be disputed. Is it narcissistic of me to want to believe the bs because i think im better than what i accepted?? Excuses/reason or not, i still accepted unacceptable things because i wanted to "love" him.....
@tranquility9325 Жыл бұрын
Narcissists are not usually that self aware. So no, I don't believe that applies to you.
@kimsanders8262 Жыл бұрын
It's hard,but let that go. It's only going to get worse. I put in 16 years . When it came to me starting to have health problems I put that ass out. 3 years of no contact. Be strong.
@tranquility9325 Жыл бұрын
@@kimsanders8262 ppl can't just let abuse go. That sounds cold and insensitive. That's why we have therapists, support groups, etc.
@MegaDoomKitteh Жыл бұрын
i could have written this exact same story of my last ten years its chilling
@laala4486 Жыл бұрын
@@MegaDoomKitteh ain't it. Like I felt so ashamed, hurt and down on myself until I started watching these videos. I never thought I would be "one of those" females that accepted and put up with any and everything. Yet I looked up n here I am, sometimes I start to think of all the fucked stuff and I have to stop n block it out, it hurts too much. The how could you do....? When i ...? Is the hardest part. But realizing how common it is and I'm not the only one, and coping with the fact it will never be any better is crushing when you put so much time, energy, and love into somebody. Who let them tell it, never had anybody that love them and thats all they ever wanted. I just have remind myself that everybody is different and just because I wouldn't do certain things doesn't mean others wouldn't. It will get better as long as I don't go backwards. It's a setback n a setup for more hurt.
@aprilmorgan909 Жыл бұрын
♥️♥️♥️
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
💜
@zenamichelleprincezeemiche4729 Жыл бұрын
🔥🔥🔥
@letyluna7013 Жыл бұрын
🔥
@norma9134 Жыл бұрын
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@angelicapipkin4704 Жыл бұрын
❤🔥
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽♥️
@rogerwoodard7867 Жыл бұрын
Can a narc be healed?
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
i dont think so, not fully at least
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
🙏🏽
@nsvshhw Жыл бұрын
Narcissism as a Cluster B personality disorder is not treatable. Personality disorders are not diseases or illnesses to be treated.
@jadecolbert4286 Жыл бұрын
Howdy
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽
@veronicabronner Жыл бұрын
You're a very smart guy Lee.
@cardinalsandrosestarot4724 Жыл бұрын
Hello
@MentalHealness Жыл бұрын
👋🏽👋🏽
@cardinalsandrosestarot4724 Жыл бұрын
@ameliawilson8593 Жыл бұрын
It’s funny cause she waiting on it
@Angel-gp6tx Жыл бұрын
You should just make an intro so you don't have to say it again and again..."HEY BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE... "
@LEM19284 Жыл бұрын
Are you a believer and in real relationship with Jesus Christ? I’m sure I missed it if you are. I ask because He is your redeemer, the sustainer of your life and the Man for you to set your heart to chase after every hour of every day.