Midlife Crisis Causes, Coping Skills and Choices / Menopause and Cognitive Well-Being / Over 45

Today Nanny discusses MIDLIFE CRISIS…its Factors…including Menopause…. and HOW TO COPE with the ways it is affecting you…emotionally,physically,and biologically. Although Nanny herself is ‘way over it”….she tells a few rabbit hole related stories…..However, her three daughters are presently within the age ranges considered to be midlife….and she shares some of their experiences,too. Join her for a frank discussion of this subject…ESPECIALLY All you lovely ladies who are now in the throes of it ….or are about to undergo it soon….and of course, all women who can add their own successful completion of this MIDLIFE TRANSITION.❤️
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[@MsGardengoddess]

Women are wonderful. Several years ago I had gone for my annual mammogram. The routine at that time existed that we were herded into a small room, giving us a gown and a robe and then seated around the perimeter of the room. One lady walked in the door and burst into tears. As she stood there sobbing, I got up and embraced her. One by one each of the others joined the hugathon. Now we all know that a room full of men would have shoved their noses into their Field and Stream magazines. A brotherhood of guys is less than likely. They don’t want to discuss those personal issues. Aren’t we lucky to have been born into the Sisterhood?

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks so much for sharing that sweet Sisterhood story, my friend…❤️

[@elizabethlauricella7176]

Love this and your name!! I’m trying to Learn gardening!!!

[@pennynjavro9645]

When I was 60 my daughter passed away. I sold everything, bought a truck and 5 th wheel, and traveled. That was 7 years ago, and just now watching your video I realize I must of had a mid life crisis.....imagine.

[@terryruiz7417]

Keep learning, and keep moving. Keep doing as long as you can. At 77, I want to begin walking again, but one knee has really been a problem. But, I'm going to try at least short walks at first. Good for physical health as well as mental well being. Very good video, Nanny!

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Good attitude, Terry..❤️

[@DebbieDooo]

Maybe try an elastic knee brace/stabilizer.

[@ferniejackson8300]

Such interesting topic!! You should have your own tv show!! Poor Shamu panicking on 4th of July. There was fireworks here as well. There are lots of Americans living in Denmark, so no wonder.

[@mariarooney6262]

Wonderful video, as always. I’m going to send this to my daughters and daughter in law who might be going though this in the near future. My eldest daughter had been showing signs for years, but she’s in denial and has paid some consequences and seems to still be in denial. I tried many times through the years to prepare them but 🙅‍♀️. I love learning too, Nanny, people and life is so fascinating. With love. Say hello to Moosie. 😘🌻

[@terryward]

No❤😊

[@GreenstoneGreenLeaf]

Hi Nanny, I wanted to share with you my journal entry from May 19, 2024 because you greatly impacted my life and I love watching your videos.. I’m 55 years old and could call you “mom” not nanny. I appreciate you sharing your life on KZbin because you’re like a mom to me. My mom and I are estranged and I love having this type of relationship thru you. I relate to the idea of having a midlife crisis. Like you, I never realized that’s what it was but looking back now I see it so clearly. Here’s what I wrote: *My Younger Reality* I have been feeling old for a year or so now and frankly it has been bumming me out. Last year I sat at my vanity and looked at my very thin hair that I hated and it hit me like a ton of bricks that I’m 55. I felt old. I felt life passing me by but was it that I felt left behind because I’d sort of given up on life? For months I’d worn the same two maybe three outfits. I wore my pj’s for days and sometimes didn’t even get dressed. Almost every day I’d go on rides around noon-staying in my pj’s all morning, getting dressed only to go on rides and maybe having drive-thru lunches, then putting my pj’s back on after my ride and sitting in my recliner for the rest of the day. Hadn’t washed my face for days. No makeup. I hated my hair and washed it every 10 days or so and otherwise pulled it up in a tight, not cute bun. My skin was very, very dry no matter what I did. My feet looked terrible. My house was a mess. I’d ignored everything around me and just sat in my recliner watching KZbin in my depressed state. I didn’t even know I was depressed but it’s so clear to me now. But God works in mysterious ways and put several things in my path to rescue me. *My sister, Maile, told me about Mounjaro and I wanted to lose weight and felt happy to have diabetes because I could make changes and move forward with my life! *Andrew, my son, got cancer 30 days before his wedding and I bought new things to celebrate his special day! No more of the “same old stuff”! *At midnight last night I looked something up on Amazon then looked it up in more detail on KZbin and randomly found this 86 year older woman talking about exactly what I wanted to know. She was so happy to share information on celebrating living at 86. It breathed life back into me as I sat in my chair at 1:00am watching her videos! The older woman made me realize she’s 86 but I’m only in my 50’s; much younger; not old. I wanted to do things and take back the reigns of my life. I’m not dead-far from it and once again, “I want to live”!!!! ***** Since that time: *I’ve started taking Zepbound (same as Mounjaro) to lose weight and no, I don’t have Diabetes or even Pre-Diabetes. *Andrew married Brooke (bald headed and all from chemo) and the very small wedding was beautiful, as were they! *I feel more energetic and excited to move forward with my life. I’m a very positive person but this midlife crisis really got me. Thankfully I’m over it! Thank you Nanny for being a positive influence in my life. Again, my favorite quote came true: “When the student is ready the teacher appears.” Thank you for being my teacher. Love, Jade

[@mummagee9467]

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[@mummagee9467]

Well done.x

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Oh, Jade…thank you so very much for this wonderful very personal journal post….not only did it make me feel so happy for YOU…that you pulled yourself up out of the depths of despair…but that you humbled ME …to think I might have had something to do with helping you. I am so proud of you that you have made the right choices…it’s not always easy..and I will keep you in my prayers, Jade, as you face each day forward …for years to come…with self-love and and a good positive mindset.Sending love and a special prayer for Andrew.❤️🥰🙏

[@patsy6589]

Brought tears to my eyes. So many women besides me are grateful to have found Nanny and the Moose.

[@junejansen1265]

So glad you found our lovely Nanny ❤

[@ladyw605]

Your caring nature always makes me feel very special!!!! I am a firm believer that a positive attitude will get us through just about anything!!! I have had many challenges in my life-especially in my adult life. I have experienced my fair share of challenges, problems, difficulties and sorrows. I have tried my very best to overcome them all. I always say if God leads you to it He will get you through it. I also think that a strong sense of spirituality plays a big part in our overall wellbeing. My trust in God has absolutely carried me through all of my trials. I strive to practice gratitude, humility and patience; and, I try to keep a good attitude which will definitely help us to get through problems without any lasting regrets or repercussions. The worst experiences of my life definitely taught me some very valuable lessons and made me a much stronger and thankful woman. I try very hard not to look back at the bad things but only the good things!!!!! 💝💝💝

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

I love your positive attitude,W…IN SPITE OF all the challenges and sorrows…and especially ,your faith to carry you on..God bless you.❤️🙏

[@EuphemiaGrubb]

Nanny, I'm 71 and have always been lucky with my health. Menopause? I never noticed it. But I'm making up for it now with Arthritis, both RH and Osteo. I was coping fine with various medicines my Rheumatologist has had me on since I was about 50 yrs old. However, I haven't been able to bounce back since about 4 months ago, when the knees got involved. I have taken my difficulty in walking very hard mentally, just giving in to the pain, depression and fatigue by sleeping my life away. But - You've gave me a kick up the proverbials! LOL! I'm not done yet! And I'm going to start getting out there again, and not lose my ability to walk. You never fail to inspire me and and put a smile on my face. Thank you!

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

That’s my gal, Euphemia…never give in to that pain…we’ve still got more life in us!…hugs and love❤️

[@ellem4067]

Hi Euphemia, HT Physio (on KZbin) has excellent videos on what we can do to maintain our mobility in our golden years. Wishing you the best!

[@EuphemiaGrubb]

@@ellem4067 Thank you!

[@elizabethlauricella7176]

Love seeing you. So pretty in blue blouse. All of Dubby hand me downs are fabulous. You are always uplifting and motivating. I’m 77 and my favorite friends are between 35-55. So much fun with the young girls. They like to go and do things!! Kerps me feeling younger. Hugs

[@susangustafson2106]

Nanny, you bring joy to my life🥰

[@alysonmcdonald9524]

Words of wisdom. ❤❤ You are a wonderful inspiration.

[@elaineshropshire5549]

Hi Nannie , 80 now , didn’t have midlife crisis , only thing was didn’t sleep too good, don’t now get out of bed read have a nice drink . My mother had a hard time lost a lot of her hair and her confidence bless her . Love life happy to still be here. 🥰

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Great attitude,Elaine..sleep is hard for me, too.❤️

[@liap1293]

Your daughters are beautiful & so very blessed to have you to help them navigste aging.

[@concettaalcorn686]

Nanny you are a wealth of knowledge thank you for sharing and understanding ❤

[@donnahayes6658]

I’m 75 and quite healthy and active, we gotta keep moving! You’re my inspiration ❤

[@susanjackson6972]

I’m 58 Nanny and you’re a huge help and inspiration xxx

[@jennyrusso3409]

God bless you and moose Nanny, I have 3 daughters and I am sharing this video with my 48 and 47 year old.I suffered with not a good menopause myself. I always listen to you,, enjoy listening to all yours topics.❤ Jenny from New Jersey.😘

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks so much, Jenny…love to your daughters.❤️

[@patriciaake5935]

Nanny - great advice and sharing about mid life issues. Your sharing your family stories are healing and helpful. I love you have your own sisterhood with your children♥️

[@CharlotteUnser]

Hi again dear Nanny! What a great topic and one to be addressed and not afraid to face or talk about! It is a part of a woman's life and a natural 'happening'...that to some degree in our YOUTH oriented society is taboo, ignored, feared or denied. A positive and educated view is so important as we move to the next 'chapters in our lives'.....Your suggestions are right on target and so positive. Yes, some women have a more difficult time physically and mentally during this transition due to the factors that you addressed. I sort of went through menopause twice....first time at about 32 because of surgery as your daughter had a partial hysterectomy and then later with further surgery in my later years due to cancer. Thankfully I had a wonderful surgeon and survived and am well !!! To a large degree we are 'the author of our life's book'....some of the chapters may be challenging, disappointing and sad, but we do not throw the book away....we are the author and we decide how to continue to write our story with positivity, hope and joy right up until the last chapter!!! I like this quote: "Age is an issue of mind over matter...If you don't mind....it doesn't matter"....attributed to Mark Twain. Self care and YES, even a level of self love and acceptance is essential...to be our own best advocate and friend....for where ever we go...there we are! By the way, when you go back to the rock yard....take one or more of your little finished figures along to get a closer size comparison. In addition to the wise men...you have the option to make angels, more than one shepherd, lambs, a cow, a goat, a cat, a dog and some doves! the ideas are fun and endless. (all for now...time to paint my toe nails! LOL.....I NEVER did this before, but you have set things into motion! :)

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

LOVED LOVED reading your comments, Charlotte…so heartfelt and inspiring…I am very happy that so many women like you are sharing their midlife and menopausal experiences here. It can truly be a big help to all who read these comments.Love and hugs,🥰❤️

[@frenchievise2509]

I enjoyed your talk about midlife crisis. I did not gave any hot flashes ir any symptoms if menopause. But i was still haveing my mensus in my early 60's. The mire i watch you,the more i enjoy your video's. You are so pleasant to watch and listen too. You inspire me to try and do more. I am 77 and I am limited in my mobility. It has been so hot this year that i have stayed inside and have not got out much at all. I want to change that. So i am starting a new leaf so to speak. I am going to get uo really early, like sunrise, it is cooler and not so humid then. I am going to walk at least accriss the street to check the mail. Thank you Nanny. May God continue to Bless you and the Moose. ❤ Love You

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

I’ll be up with you at Sunrise,,Frenchie….love your goals…❤️🙏

[@cynthialagraff4144]

They always say that the elderly posses tons of wisdom and you are living proof. Your sweetness and willingness to share your wisdom, and experience is like gold to your viewers no matter what age. You I consider my sisterhood. I don’t have any friends my age as I have moved states a couple of times in the last several years. Fortunately I had a wonderful husband who was my best friend ever. We did everything together and I was content not reaching out for a close friend because of that. He just passed 7 months ago and I am at the time of life that I find myself wanting a best buddy. So I am going to start working on that. Yes I have two great daughters which have given me 6 grandchildren and now 2 great grandchildren. So blessed that way. But they don’t fill the void like only a best friend can. You are my best friend. PS. I’m 81 and will up my choices as you advised. Thank you so much. I love you Nanny.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Oh, Cynthia… thank you so much for the lovely comment…I am so very sorry for your loss….and am honored to be your virtual best friend.Sending love and hugs to you, too, Cynthia.❤️🥰🙏

[@lindleyroff1096]

I lost my mom when I was 26 and had no one to talk about menopause with when it hit me at about 48. I was like a fish out of water. Hot flashes, anxiety and being crabby all the time. I was such a bag! A couple of years later my maternal family had a reunion and four generations of gals got together for an afternoon to talk about "girl stuff". The guys wanted nothing to do with us and went fishing, riding or sat around having a beer or two. I learned so much from my women relatives. Once I realized what was causing me to be such a bag, I went 'round to my work colleagues and apologized. Would have been so much better to have known what was going on before I hit menopause. Thank you so much for having the courage to walk your followers through "what to expect" and what to do about it.

[@kiwiang983]

Nanny, you are a joy and an inspiration. Your family are so so lucky to have you and it is clear that they all know that. Your radiant personality shines through. Love to hear your chats , as, although I am extremely happily married, I do feel I lack girly company and chats. I do have friends and sons, but never had that sort of relationship with my mom and, although very grateful for all I have, I do miss not having daughters and sisters. So long May you and moosey enjoy each other and good health and keep up the good work. You are well loved ❤

[@clionamm]

I enjoyed that chat. You're full of good advice and optimism! x

[@kathydonahue3354]

Sweet Nanny! I’m so grateful for you. When I watch your videos I realize how much I miss my mom. You have a very comforting way about you. I never miss a video! Love you guys! Your fellow Jersey girl Kathy (one of many Jersey girls) ❤😊

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thank you, Kathy, my sweet Jersey pal…for the very lovely comments.Hugs and love,❤️🥰

[@mariemosier9805]

Hi Nanny, I kept waiting for you to bring up the subject of sex and how women don't want to participate like they used to. I'm in this time in my life now. I could do without it. You have such a way of speaking with your audience, and no one gets offended. I'm wondering if you could address this in another video? If not, I understand that, too. Thank you Nanny ❤

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

That’s a tough subject,, Marie.. but hormonal changes, meds, diseases, self- confidence, etc, do come into play as we age, and that def can affect the ‘libido’! ❤️

[@bobbiewilliams5101]

Oh Nanny, you are spot on…your health, mobility, energy,etc is paramount. In 2019, I made the decision to have both knees replaced. After almost 30 years of work on my feet, high school athletics, a skiing injury…nothing was going to work other than TKR. Straight up that surgery is pretty brutal, but I had a wonderful surgeon who allowed me to do all of my rehab at home and I was a very determined patient. 5 months later I had the second knee done, and that was hard to make myself do it again. However, the best health decision I ever made. Now at 72, I can be as active as I choose and no limitations from pain. Yes we do have to adapt to the changes in the mirror ( probably why we still love makeup🤪), but having health and energy to do what you want is at the top of my list. I also would agree that attitude, regardless of ability, is so critical. We will all have sad, down times, but how we choose to see life and navigate life is our choice. I choose to have beautiful people like you add to the richness of my life……so thank you lovely lady. Have a wonderful week ahead.☀🌻

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

I think my bone on bone arthritis has made surgery a no go,Bobbie..plus my age and the fact that I am a caretaker ,too…but I’m so happy you are so active and pleased with your outcome.❤️

[@suemiller7917]

I’m 83 and never have gone through a mid life crisis until now. Been happy, had a few glitches but nothing like now. Lost my husband a year ago and now trying to find myself. Unbelievable

[@candyboyer]

Prayers for you during this difficult time in your life 🙏

[@AnneTaylor-kk8ze]

I have never had a midlife crisis I’m 80,my mother before me never had a midlife crisis,neither of us have had hot flushes 😊

[@GrannyLinn]

Ooh lucky you!!! The hot flashes were horrible. I felt like I was going to spontaneously combust.

[@vickilangton620]

Fantastic topic Nanny Thank you luv

[@marcialane8235]

Good topic to address Nanny! I had awful menopause years…started when I was 49, I felt so mentally unbalanced and the insomnia was terrible, I’d get about 2 hours of sleep and had a full time job and an hour and a half commute each way….I pushed through and did survive but I’m sure I wasn’t always pleasant to be around. My insomnia got a bit better but I’m like you and a short segmental sleeper and have to be accepting of that. My hot flashes mostly diminished but now I’m worried that they will return with a vengeance when I start the breast cancer hormone medication 🤞. I’d love to hear you talk about dementia, I think most of us have a family member that has been assaulted with this difficult and cruel disease.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks for sharing, Marcia…stay well and snooze when you can…my daughter, Margie..a nurse…took care of her mother-in-law for a few years … with Dementia…until she had to go into a special home care…sending hugs ❤️

[@tammiebullock2341]

Just turned 62 in June Nanny, and I follow you faithfully. Since I lost my Mom 4 years ago, I dont have a motherly figure in my life now. I so look forward to listening to you, hearing your words of advice, wisdom and encouragement. Your peace and enjoyment of life, the way you stay active and love life make me determined to do the same with the rest of the years God gives me. Thank you so much.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thank you so much, Tammie, for the very nice comment…love your attitude!❤️

[@DebbieDooo]

I am so glad that this is being talked about so much more these days. The 2003 “study” that reported that HRT is dangerous has been debunked. It was a terrible study and I can tell you without my HRT patch, vaginal cream and testosterone cream I would be a huge mess. I feel SO much better than I did 3 1/2 years ago and I am 56. I didn’t need an antidepressant. I needed my essential hormones back! Lots of love, Nanny & Moose. ❤

[@annettehankins3268]

Your daughters are beautiful and so fortunate to have you and Moosie!! Your advice is wonderful and acceptance & choice to be happy are key. I’m 72 and sometimes I have felt very low but I don’t allow myself to stay in that place. There is always something to be grateful for and dwell on those things. I love your rock painting!! Love your videos. Thank you.

[@user-lh9pt4hg8l]

❤❤❤ Excellent choice of topic for your video today Nanny! I went through a premature menopause in my thirties! My gynecologist ran some tests and said I was going through the change of life. I’m 69 now and at the time of my menopause I had no idea what was wrong with me. My mom died when she was 53 years old and my two sisters also went through the premature menopause in their thirties. To say the least I am glad that’s all behind me now. Silver lining of that whole ordeal was I started doing weights, nothing heavy, just 3 and 5 pounds cause I read it’s good for your bones, since bone density was a concern, well now my doctor said there’s only a very small amount of bone loss. And yes, I like to expand myself too,reading, researching things I am interested in, so yes, everyone must make that choice to expand yourself to help you grow as the woman you want to be. Nanny, have you shown Carlos your painted rocks? I know he will be very impressed! One of my cats hid under the bed when the fireworks started in our area. The female one was not scared at all. I can’t wait for your next video, Nanny! ❤❤❤

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks for sharing, my friend.❤️

[@user-wg6ym5gt7z]

Nanny, thank you for all of the great advice. At 75+, it’s ALL TRUE! Blessings to you, Moose, and your family🙏😘❤️❤️

[@tpinkDaddy]

I just love you, Nanny! I still so wish that I could have a weekly ‘sit-down’ conversation with you. You are truly one of my heroes! Thank you for caring about us. ❣️😘

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

What a very nice comment, my friend…thank you..❤️

[@kayellis4371]

Just have to say- you are a beautiful & wise lady. I’m 76 & things are very challenging.

[@maureengrace4665]

Nanny what a great video once again I’m only going 75 but what you are saying is so true I really believe it all I’m in the same line of thought as you Of course I’ve been kinda lucky going through menopause oh those hot flashes yea but staying positive not dwelling and moving on I would love hearing about dementia as my husband is now in the later stage of dementia and this has been the hardest thing I’ve had to deal with in life But I’ll get there 😊Thank You Nanny & Moosie I always look forward to your videos You Just Don’t Realise How Important Your Videos Are To A Lot of US ♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️ 🙏♥️

[@CRebecca1944]

Looking forward to the rock painting!!!!!

[@user-ix1sf9wm8k]

You are so love for your past and present living real life.👏🏻❤️

[@nancygreen217]

As usual everything you’re talking about is so much like me……hot flashes started in late 40’s and into my 50’s until the doctor put me on estrogen/premium, I never suffered depression but I did have a panic attack and thinking it was a heart attack drove to the doctors office who immediately ran an EKG which was ok. After we talked a bit about my life, he told me to lighten up on myself because I was going through a divorce, started a new job and my kids had left the nest and I moved🙄 there are 5 things that can cause panic attacks and I was experiencing 4 of them. After that I never had another panic attack! I’m 85 and didn’t feel or think I was old until a year ago I started having back & knee problems and it’s become harder to walk for very long and have to stop now and rest before I start doing something. My mother was also a clothes horse, loved hats ( I’m watching now video about your beautiful fun mother) I would have liked to know her!! Thanks again for the fun video….PS…my daughter breezed through menopause as did my Sister In Law.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

So nice to read your comments, Nancy…thank you..love and hugs..push through that pain…I’m trying,too..❤️🥰

[@RosalieMeredith]

Looking foreward to your painting....good luck at the rock yard!

[@charliewhiskerspicou933]

Hello Nanny, Thank you for bringing up this topic that very much need mentioning and discussion. Pre, mid, post menopause fro some can be not so difficult to cope but for others is can be a difficult time of transitioning as the hormones are changing and with that can come all kinds of physiological problems. It can be a real crisis, a life changing and having to adapt crisis. Because of hormonal changes, the thyroid can be effected, than the joints, and everything that follows . Getting over it for some is no9t so easy as they now have new health problems that come from the shift in hormonal balance. I think you hit it on the nail when you mentioned, you did not feel old until your last health set back with your knees that drained a lot of energy out of you. That is one factor that can make a person feel old, the lack of mobility they had all their lives, being taken away and also the lack of energy that comes with pain management. Its all a bit topic, but thank you for bringing it up as it is an important topic. 🍃🌺🍃

[@tatianapulido]

That’s so wonderful that you wear Debbie’s clothing that’s wonderful I do that as well with my daughter ♥️♥️an you all have beautiful taste ♥️♥️♥️

[@alisonh890]

Hi Nanny, loving your top, that blue suits you so well. I love how we seem to be more open about the menopause now. It does help to talk about it and exchange experiences and you can learn from this.❤ love to you and Moosie. Xxx

[@NancyKlein-z2p]

When I was 48 I had breast cancer and had to take anti-estrogen medicine. I went into menopause overnight with intense hot flashes every 45 minutes around the clock. Ii was exhausted from interrupted sleep. I noticed that each hot flash was preceeded by a strong sense of anxiety. Once I recognized that pattern, i was able to anticipate the next drenching hot flash and also understand that the anxious feelings were part of the hormones bouncing around

[@gailtaft1875]

Always love your videos, Nanny. Our three daughters, soninlaw and two grandsons visited for the 4th. We have a pool and had alot of fun together. I'm so grateful for the people in my life❤

[@annettehankins3268]

Yes, binge on old videos!! I just started KZbin since February and I LOVE your old videos!!!

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks, Annette..❤️

[@lr3361]

I’m 53… going through menopause, divorce, having adult children still home trying to make their way in this world. I have the hot flashes but they aren’t severe… mild anxiety which I manage well so far on my own. I started my menopause in my very early 40’s I mentioned this to my doctor but he dismissed it… now I will say my doctor I had since I was 14 was the best doctor ever. My downfall is being a nurse and shift work… very hard on the body and finding the time for proper diet and exercise. I do have underlying health problems that I’m tending to. I love watching you Nanny!, ❤

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks so much for sharing, my friend…my Margie is a nurse, too..lots of hospital work and 10 years as a Disneyland nurse, too…now a school nurse which is easier on the body…stay strong, Sweetie.❤️

[@vickylee5579]

Great video. I had to have a complete hysterectomy at age 41. The doctor thought I had ovarian cancer. It put me in menopause right then. I’ll have to stay on estrogen the rest of my life. It took the guess work out it. You’re so lucky to have your daughters. I only have one daughter and one grandson. We were so close when she was growing up. But now I hardly see her or hear from her. She’s working all the time. You look so beautiful Nanny. You have beautiful skin. You look so much younger than your age. You look like you’re in your 60’s.❤

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Yes, Vicky..it’s hard to accept the changes as we age…it can be so heartbreaking…I’m sure your daughter still loves you very much…maybe she needs to hear that you really miss her and would love to see her a little more. I think this is a good subject for a video soon. You are- not alone in this. ❤️

[@trinichandy3049]

Thanks for the chit chat video. God bless.

[@user-qi9og5jv3x]

Love the fashion & painting. Have a nice week. 🥰

[@user-rl1tq8yt9e]

I am 78 years old. I have been going through menopause for the last six years. Extreme anxiety, hot flashes, night sweats, skin problems, thinning hair, on and on. I was hoping it would end by now. Had breast cancer, so no HRT.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

I’m so sorry,my friend…hope you get relief soon…❤️

[@klm7090]

I just found you. You are so insightful. I am 68, from rural PA. Both parents lived into mid-90s. Attitude of not dwelling on maladies seems to be key. Thank you!

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Welcome to our channel and Thanks for being here with us,Kim…and commenting and subbing❤️

[@user-ix1sf9wm8k]

You are so love for your past and present living real life.👏🏻❤️I have no sister and I surly miss that person, to to connect with. I have a husband who has many issues and that leaves me hard to get out and do the things, I love to have free time for me. I am working on starting to get out when I can and enjoy what I can. Marilyn from Michigan.

[@vwbugchic1961]

Great conversation nanny keep them coming we're learning alot from you. ❤🙌🙏💞

[@andreagardner2335]

Next, how about the addressing we older ladies who are worrying about losing our health and independence, losing our spouse, the future of the world and the lives of our grandchildren, our impending death. I struggle more now than I did at midlife. I am a very busy 70; but these thoughts are creeping in, and you have done a lot more living, so I know you have dealt with these thoughts, too.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Planning to do this soon, Andrea.thanks❤️

[@jackiemontogmery125]

Thanks for sharing today. It is always good to see you. Grammy from Texas

[@VivianLittle-xq2nx]

I started menopause at 41, a year after I had moved myself & my two youngest sons over 300 miles from my home town to start college for the first time. The summer my hot flashes started, I was also a co-director at a Christian camp, which was stressful beyond belief & I’m amazed that I didn’t have a heart attack or stroke from the stress. I noticed that about one minute before a hot flash started, I would become really thirsty & have an anxiety attack that lasted maybe a minute. I would have maybe 3-4 hot flashes each day & this lasted from the time I was 41 until I was around 52. During the 2nd year of menopause, I had just remarried & also my doctor wanted to put me on some kind of hormone pill. I took the pills for a couple of weeks, but they made my breast swell & become painful, I began to become angry at things I could handle before, to the extent that my thoughts were “so what! I’ll throw all the dishes on the floor. Or I’ll just jump over a banister (thinking I could do that & not get hurt at all). Those kind of thoughts, though I never did any of them, except I did throw a library book down the hall because we had just moved to accommodate his two children, & I was the only one unpacking. He & his sons were playing computer games, so after asking several times for help unpacking & no one responding, I threw the book down the hall. I stopped taking the pills & my anger issues went away. Other than that, all that bothered me were the hot flashes. I continued taking college classes, then he became psychologically & emotionally abusive, & he finally took off, leaving me & one of my sons at a women’s shelter 300 miles from where we were going to college & 300 miles from my family. My son & I got on a bus & went to CA to stay with my daughter & family, then my youngest son, who had spent the summer with his dad, joined us in CA. The first year in CA, I got a job & also started to college there, was in a custody battle for my youngest son, as well as my husband who had left me suddenly said he wants us to get together & celebrate by saying our wedding vowels again. He said this in a letter. I got a letter from him containing divorce papers that he had printed out & wanted me to sign & return to him. But two days later, he called & wanted to get together & celebrate by saying our wedding vowels again. (He was in the Midwest & I was in CA, so it wasn’t like he could just drive up to my daughter’s house & tell me to go with him. He would call me at all hours of the night, sounding all friendly, then within 5 minutes he would start accusing me of things & saying I said things I hadn’t said. Finally I told him I would not talk to him but we would communicate by letter. And I made copies of my letters to him in case he would accuse me of saying things, which happened & I would then be able to positively know I hadn’t said those things. I also told him I wouldn’t go back to him until he had outselling with his pastor for a year. For a while he would “report “ to me how the weekly counseling sessions went, then he got tired of lying & confessed that he had never gone to counseling. Then he insisted that I obey him when he told me to go back to him. The 2 years I was in contact with him were a mess. I finally told him that I would get counseling with my pastor & he get counseling with his pastor & that our pastors would check in with each other every week, then a if we were still getting along, he could move to CA & we would date for a year before I would agree to move in with him. I never heard from since that day, but about 10 years ago a friend of mine checked online to see if he had divorced me, which he had as well as had gotten married & divorced twice since then. Anyway, my menopause years were a rollercoaster! I will be 75 on my birthday & life isn’t as hectic, but there is strife concerning my retirement years.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

I’m so happy your years of pain and suffering, both hormonal and emotional are over, Vivian…stay well…sending hugs, ❤️

[@luvladydi]

One sweet Lady! You are such a beauty! Happy Fourth to you to Nannie!❤

[@patsy6589]

Hi Nanny, at the end of this video you asked what happened to some of us. So here is why you haven't heard from me for a while. My little orange circle with the P in the middle, for commenting, went away and I couldn't comment on KZbin podcasts any more because they wouldn't let me unless I joined Google and I didn't want to join Google. But since you asked, how could I not, so I did so this morning. Thank you for all the wonderful videos you put out. You and Moose are really so helpful in so many ways. I had a pretty easy time when I went through Menopause. I had a really good doctor who told me to take a woman's health supplement for hot flashes. I know it was a soy product back then, but the same thing happened to me. I realized that I wasn't getting those dreaded hot flashes. So I stopped taking the supplement and lo and behold they came back. I'm a slow learner. Took them again and was fine.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Hello, Patsy…thank you so much for ‘commenting’ and coming back…and thanks for sharing your Menopause trials with us.❤️

[@user-hg3xt1ps5d]

Nanny great information! ❤ your advice and wisdom.

[@Sarah-mc7hn]

Love your blue and white background on the mantle and your fireplace tiles that you made! So talented! 💙🤍

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks,Sarah…❤️

[@sydneylandreneau9566]

Thank you so much for this information ❤ Much love ❤️

[@annasmith5406]

I'm 60, and my mid-life crisis quickly ceased as I started watching Nanny a few years ago. Most importantly, taking on board good advice AND acting on it. My life is much more fulfilling now, and I'm able to pass on this encouragement to the 10 ladies from church that I host weekly in my home fellowship. Thank you and God's richest blessings to you, Nanny, and all your Facebook friends. 🙏🕊💗💐🏡☀️

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thank you, Anna for that lovely comment…I am so happy that I can be of some help to you, my friends…God bless you, too🙏❤️

[@janicebrunner6982]

Nanny- you are so wise- thank you❤ also I added Tai chi to keep calm & strong

[@sharonec5099]

Hi! Your love for life certainly shines through in this video. Also the fact that you care so much ❤️ Your children/ family are so blessed to have you. 🙏 Thank You for sharing

[@user-cx7kp9eh2j]

Thank you Nanny for such a helpful video and your top is beautiful definitely your colour ❤❤❤❤❤

[@janetblades2686]

I so enjoy your videos!! I have told a lot of friends about you. By the way I'm 71 years old soon to be 72!! You make me think and that I have things I can do!! So again Thank you!!

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

You have SO MUCH that you can do, Janet…you’re just beginning your young Golden Years!❤️

[@7loug]

Great topic of conversation!! I think lots of women can benefit from learning different coping mechanisms! I was fortunate in the sense that I never had time to go through any midlife crisis. Having had four kids when I was under the age of thirty and then getting pregnant at 42 with #5 I was busy with my older kids and then the baby but I had great babysitters!! lol at 52 had a totally hysterectomy and wasn’t put on any hormones. Never had one symptom. I was one of the lucky ones! I am 67 now and have a full life I am blessed with my family. My husband is 81 and still works full time. I just love all every episode and I always look forward to the next post! God bless you dear Nanny and Moosie too!! Love your Jersey Gal Pal!!!!!❤

[@beverlyhardy4398]

I love that top! I think the only bad thing I had with menopause was not sleeping well. I take sleeping pills and make no excuse for that. I’m 72 😊

[@learnbyheart7]

Hi Nanny...yes I thought I would check in with you. You are always right on topic it seems....haha. I went through that menopause situation a complete surgical one and it was truly like a disease to me. First thing I noticed, and this can sound funny now, not then, but I found myself living in front of that thermostat...up n down and I was freezing everyone out of the office too they were wearing thick sweaters it was a nightmare. The most worrisome for me is I immediately noticed a roundness to my once 15 bikini figure, all gone now, but it really was like accelerated aging. Weight gain of about 20lbs, swelling, everything hurt. No pills, patches, nothing worked just made it worse. My closet now had my before and after clothes, 3 different sizes . It was all a mess, really. But after about 3 yrs things were looking better my body improved, weight went down and flashes disappeared. Surgical menopause I believe is the worst because the estrogen stops immediately rather than naturally . My Mom had 8 kids and she never suffered through that. I only had one because I spent my childhood taking care of all of them so I grew up in a daycare...haha.. one for me was just fine I loved my career. But during that menopause I had to quit my job for about 3 yrs because there was no sleep, big commute, and I got hospital pneumonia that permanently ruined my lungs your immune system is down. But it did all get better I think I look finally better now I think the body finally stabilizes but for all that time I felt like I lived in that ride called The Tilt a Whirl....on the boardwalk of Atlantic City...you may remember that . Love, Mary.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Oh, Mary…I’m so sorry you had such a horrible Menopausal time of it all those years…and your experience of being the eldest child in a large family and caring for all of them , then choosing to have one (or none) yourself is not an unusual choice…and so understandable. But your life seems to be great now…and I am so happy your Tilt a Whirl Days are over! Thanks for sharing,Mary…Sending hugs and love, ❤️

[@7torian]

Nanny, you were speaking of menopause and taking herbal preparations. I took ESTROVEN a over the counter preparation that helped me alot. I would buy mine at Costco. Thanks for bringing up this subject .❤

[@WillowNook]

Love you!! Thank you💜💜💜💜

[@mariaguadagno9483]

How dear of you to talk about this topic withus all,,I learned somethings new! Thank you Nanny! Gratitude is a powerful power and medicine,yes!!!

[@lorraineshea296]

Thanks Nanny this was a great topic i didn't sleep good and my thinning hair .... Thanks so Much for all the good Advice 💜💜💜💜

[@Lolly41]

Great information!! ❤

[@dorothymcfadzen1369]

Fabulous nanny .loved this video...Dorothy from scotland. X xx

[@allisonspeer649]

Great video. I watched those programs with Leslie Stahl, so interesting but so inspiring. I'm shooting to reach 100. I'm going to be 64 this year. Sometimes I feel "old" but most of the time I feel younger than my age. I'm really focusing on my health now as I am becoming a caretaker to my husband who is 74 and having some health issues. I try to make the best of every day.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Great attitude,Allison.❤️

[@alicecowan3499]

I was a Flight Attendant and stress brings a “ Hot Flash “ on also. I would just start my public announcement over the pa and boom! Lol I would feel the heat rising and the sweat start dripping! I was so embarrassed but the ladies that noticed said they could relate! 😂😂😂. But I just blew them off , did my job and all was good. 😂😂😂❤

[@Paula-po9kx]

Thank goodness Nanny and the Moose. About five years ago people started painting rocks and placing them in different places for others to find, it was so sweet. Some of the rocks would be beautifully painted, have the date and city they were from, I found one at the Peach Barn in a ben of candy. Oh, the hot flashes at 71 I still have them occasionally, I went through menopause at 40 and suffered greatly with the hot flashes.

[@maryannmachulsky818]

Good video Nanny!

[@jilliananderson5509]

Love you in Blue!

[@RitaVernoy]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us all. I relate to your Margie. I had a hysterectomy at 42 and am now 59. Everything* changed after the surgery, skin,hair nails,teeth! Especially sleep! But it’s going better. We all are blessed to make it this far in life so we should try to enjoy it the best as we can. Life is good.

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Glad you are fine now, Rita.❤️

[@maryannwhitten5123]

Thank you for sharing! Love you & Moosie!

[@user-qn3bz4sm2s]

Hi Nanny, you explained menopause very well. I’m almost 77 and will be in November. I’ve been blessed to have no hot flashes yet I went through menopause at 51. I once loved the sun but don’t tolerate it now. My endocrinologist says it’s because of Addison’s disease I have. Having a positive attitude means so much as we age. I have a friend and she is negative about everything, every day . How would you deal with this? I’ve tried to give her inspiration, including books about inspiration, faith but she’s pulling me down . I don’t like to talk about my health issues , I’m not a complainer so she can’t understand how I can be upbeat about life. Do you know anyone that’s negative all the time? Being a RN for 53 yrs she expects me to have X-ray vision and be a miracle healer. I’m neither ! Thanks for addressing menopause. This will help so many women. Please say hi to Moose. I dearly love your videos. ❤️🙏🏻….Linda Smith

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks ,Linda, for sharing…sorry about your friend’s attitude..but some people have to be ready to accept change…or not!❤️

[@dietlinderobinson9625]

All great advice .We have to keep going .I did have both knees replaced and it made a big difference . Be happy and enjoy the life you have ❤x

[@jeanhooson2933]

Hi some how I had missed this video nothing much to say really at 80 I’m happy don’t have to go through the change again , I hated it . But it’s lovely to see how much help you have given to ladies that have either gone through it or struggling with it that so good you could help I’m thinking to fly over to the US if you let me know when you and Moosie going to be out for the day I’m going to raid all your closets you are getting too many lovely clothes from dubs and they are all my taste so if you go out and then find all your clothes missing on your return , you know where they all are in the north west of the UK 😂😂 bless you are an inspiration with hair, make up , and the clothes that I’m clearing for you, and of course the super food you show us how to make wonderful keep doing what your doing love , love, love it good wishes to you and yours 💕💕🥰 and God bless

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

😂😂❤️enjoyed your comment ,Jean…thanks for bring do supportive…God bless you, too..🙏❤️

[@patriciaratchford2826]

Awesome video, Nanny! I just shared it with my sweet daughter. She’s going through a rough time right now! ❤

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks,Patricia..love to your daughter.❤️

[@judyjohnson4117]

I love love watching you paint the rocks! Can’t wait to see more. You’re such an inspiration and so fun to listen to. I hope to see you do more stocking videos one day too.

[@drea72]

Thank you. I appreciate this chat. Im nearly 53. Had children young and then again at 43 😊. So have a 8 year old at home. Have lots of grandchildren too. Going through changes. I definitely feel old. But when you said im 87...(same age as my mum)..and maybe its emotional / biological that made sense. I know ive slowed down a bit..can't do things like i used too but i actually still can do lots. My bad sleep is probably why I feel down or "wonky". The emotional stuff is very real too and for me ...its probably the one that affects me most. So thank you for such a real honest chat. ❤

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

I’m glad you liked the video,Drea…you’re not alone,my friend…stay strong.❤️

[@bonniecorsalini6793]

I love you and your family

[@mavep2855]

My journey through peri menopause was very long and difficult. I was 54 when I stopped my menses. I did not do hormone replacement therapy due to a history of breast cancer in my family. My sleep patterns have never returned to pre menopause days. Very happy it is all in the past and I am doing well now at 79. There was not a lot of support back then, at least I never found any. Thank you for having this conversation Nanny. 🇨🇦🙏❤️

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

So happy you are doing well now,Mave, and also loved the video. Thank you.❤️

[@susanjohnson5298]

Perfect video Nanny, just love your positive take on just about everything, you are a breath of fresh air. Love to hear all about your family too thank you for sharing Send hugs to you both from the UK 🤗♥️

[@MaryKayAbblett]

Never felt old

[@marydaly4403]

Hi Nanny and Moose Enjoyed your very true points I’ve always gone on with it as they say and still the same as I’m dealing with double prolapse and housebound most of time lost all social activity but great family and I have a 62 year old daughter who’s wonderful and will get my shopping but love my house work and garden abit at a time now and sit abit Can’t have a stoma at 87 now even though I had previous ops Well Nanny I’m off to see can I get a couple of hours as it’s nearly 2oc here in the morning God Bless to you both ❤❤ M

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Glad to see you ‘,Mary.keep on going’❤️

[@miavos3610]

I'm not with my children where you are with yours, and absolutely no great-grandchildren yet. But I still enjoyed listening to your wisdom.

[@belindadunne4312]

You're so generous to want to help others in this way. I absolutely love this! ❤️ Thank you!! I'm not quite into my 50's but I think of the future changes and have questions. This video has been incredibly helpful. Keep them coming, please. 😊

[@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose]

Thanks, Belinda…I love having you ‘young ins’ here with us! hugs,❤️

[@belindadunne4312]

@@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose hugs ❤️❤️❤️

[@MercyUS]

Thanks for keeping us motivated! I’m trying every day to drink lemon flavored water and walk 30 minutes on a treadmill machine during youtube viewing.

[@wendykornfein3337]

An important subject well explained.

[@davidwright8850]

Davids wife) Your wedding ring is so different. Is there a story about it. It’s beautiful! Love your channel. You are a Breath of fresh air…

[@candyboyer]

I'm still watching! We are both still working at 66 & 67, but trying desperately to sell our business... possible buyer in the works now, so I've been doubly busy doing our work AND getting reports & paperwork together for the bank. Plus caring for my husband who has degenerative glaucoma - I have to help him do HIS portion of the work, because he's just about lost left eye now. If staying busy keeps you young, I should be about 30 😂 Love you both - have a wonderful week - hugs & prayers from HOT West Texas -- Candy