MIDWIVES VS. DOCTOR PROS & CONS | Who To Choose?

[@anubhullar6046]

I'm studying for my nursing degree with goals to become a nurse-midwife and watching your video reminds me of why I am so passionate about midwifery, I want to make the birthing process as empowering for women as much as I can! I am so sorry you had such a traumatizing experience with an OB, birth can be a really empowering experience or a traumatizing one. I think the best thing any provider can do is to actually listen and spend time with their patients and work to meet their patients needs.

[@MarlaAycho]

Girl thats AMAZING! Good for you! and YES! Birthing can be such an empowering experience when done with the patients best interests in mind! xoxo

[@zurzakne-etra7069]

You go girl! I hate it when people get confused between CNMs and CPMs tho... it's not fair to people like you who spend so much time training and learning...

[@scholasticbookfair.]

@@zurzakne-etra7069 Um how is it not fair? They both require a lot of studying, training, and certification. Don't get it twisted darling.

[@hithere141]

I was only ever mistreated by midwives in my pregnancies

[@AM-vi7cs]

Thank you for making this video. So many people don't even know that midwives are still an option.

[@shadrach6299]

A M I wouldn't have one

[@charliefrost9983]

I was going to do the whole Doctor choice I stopped your video at 18:05 minutes and decided on a midwife, canceling my first appointment with the doctor and switching over. Thank you for the informative video.

[@silviagonzalez5592]

I was having trouble choosing btw studying obgyn/midwife and you have helped me so much!! Thank you so muchhhh

[@360Attitude]

Video was super helpful! I just found out yesterday I’m having my first baby so definitely going with a midwife. I was just telling my husband last night about how I don’t want a typical, stressful, hospital delivery. Thank you so much for the video!

[@MarlaAycho]

CONGRATULATIONS HOW EXCITING! And You're making an excellent choice! :) xo

[@allisonmuller2334]

I had the same experience with an OB and now I am with a midwife and I would chose them 100% everytime. Literally night and day difference.

[@Mila.belenn]

I feel like midwives get more involved in the cares of the pacients and through the process of pregancy (without detracting from the work that doctors do)... We here in chile are trying to change the way children are born, cause statistically this is the country with the most violence in childbirth in the world, many many women have bad experiences here especially women that can't pay the hospital and are treated for free... that's so sad so I decided to study Obstetricia y Puericultura and in this time that I've been studying it I realized that is my vocation ❤... Well my mom didn't want me to cause she also had bad experiences and not just her, many woman think that midwives are bad, but with this I really really wanna change the way people are born, the way mothers are treated, and all this concept of violence that people have about us. I hope that one day all children will be born with dignity ❤ #respecteddelivery

[@MarlaAycho]

LOVE this! thanks for sharing! You will do great things :) xx

[@FirstSydneyCash]

Beautiful

[@michellesaragihlynch]

Thank you for your video 🧡

[@Its.Deanna.33]

Thank you for this video! I'm pregnant with my second and the whole not enough seats sounds so familiar. And the appointments seemed boring and he was always very busy. I respected his work but it didnt feel as personal as I wouldve liked. He told me not to worry about strep b, I had polyhydramnios which the nurses told me when I got induced.. I had no idea of that either. I felt like I wasnt apart of my own health and pregnancy honestly. I hope I can get a midwife this time around and have a better experience!

[@MarlaAycho]

I hope you can get midwives too, they are so wonderful !

[@ashleyashleym2969]

Your OB really should have gone over all of that once they got your results and kept you informed and asked you if you had an questions. That's just not good practice on your OBs part.

[@udlove09]

I had a very similar experience with a ob/gyn. I was given next to zero information. When my water broke and I was admitted into the hospital, it was like being hell. I was given no choice about anything, they acted bothered when I would ask questions, and there was definitely choices they made that I wish they didn't. I was so upset because I felt like the situation I was put in made me such a horrible emotional mess that I couldn't even enjoy my baby until he was closer to one and when I asked for help they told me that I'll get over it. It's definitely why I chose midwives and a home birth for this pregnancy.

[@MarlaAycho]

I couldn't agree more! I was definitely in the exact same position as you! It's unfortunate but at least this time around you get all the say and input into your labour and delivery and hopefully feel better afterwards :) xx

[@prashadikomamma1242]

This video is really really helpful for me..I am 19 weeks pregnant and i was doing regular follow up with OBGYN till today but they themselves swap me with midwives i personally don't have any idea why they told me to get an appointment with midwives for next follow up..Like you said my experience is also kinda a same but the medical assistant was pretty helpful actually doctor was also fine but she just had 5/10 min time for me..This is my very first baby and i am very new for USA so it is becoming very hard for me to handle everything coz everything is very different from my back home anyways i am going to see midwifes onwards i hope everything will be fine like u said❤️❤️ Thank you again !!

[@kelleyskeie9667]

Thank you so much for posting this! I loved how detailed it was!

[@MarlaAycho]

Thanks for watching! xx

[@ashleymarie5063]

Thank you so much for this video. My first pregnancy I was with an OB and I had a similar experience as you did. My next pregnancy I'll be choosing a midwife

[@emilyamiller21]

Omg we had similar problems with obgyn and I’m pretty sure I’m going with a midwife this time. Thank for the video

[@Michelle-by9fp]

I've had 2 pregnancies, first with an obgyn for the visits, which was great, I always had plenty of time with her and all my questions answered, but then it was a male Dr on call for my delivery and I wanted a female so a midwife delivered my son, but the experience with her was great. Since I had a great experience with her, I decided to go with a midwife for my entire 2nd pregnancy. We ended up moving out of state a month before I was due, and so I was seen at 2 different hospitals, but at both hospitals it was a team of midwives, for example maybe 5 or 6 of them and at any time you can have one of them with an appt with you or deliver you. I was dissapointed in that since I also wanted that one on one care with the same midwife for the entire thing. the midwives were fine, mine were also very informative and cared about other stuff like diet etc. my biggest turn off with them is many of them come off as being very judgemental. I was wanting to try to nurse, but decided I wouldn't be too hard on myself if I had to formula feed, and usually got a bad reaction or very pushy comments from the midwives. they also didn't like that I planned on getting the epidural. at the hospital I used for the last month of my pregnancy I only got one visit with the midwife before going into labour the next week. that midwife at my appt was very informative, she asked about my first labour and delivery, how long it took, how far I lived, etc, and took that into consideration for the timeframe to come in this time after contractions start. she said how far apart for how many minutes, and she said if I'm unsure at all whether it's time to come in i can call their on call number (it would be one of the midwives of the team who will answer). the next week when I started having contractions, I called when I felt like they were getting closer but not for the length of time they suggested, so I called the on call midwife. it was a midwife I had not met yet, and she was so rushed with me and my question it was strange, I told her according to my app and what I could tell, my contractions were timing x minutes apart for x ant of time with one or two contractions that were 7 minutes apart. She said I need to wait till they were more consistent and I should labour at home and take a hot shower, she didn't ask if it was my 2nd pregnancy, how far I lived, etc, but I took her word and waited. mind you. during that time the contractions were too painful to talk through, but I called in between contractions so she didn't hear my discomfort. I showered, and immediately after I got out my contractions intensified. I thought I needed to use the toilet before we left to the hospital, but as soon as I sat and pushed I realized I was crowning. I thank God that my husband and his family were there to help me or I would have delivered my son in the toilet alone. he was born within a minute or two of when I sat on the toilet, 20 minutes after I hung up with the midwife, on the bathroom floor (caught by my MIL). when I finally arrived at the hospital almost an hour after that, I met the midwife who had recommended I stay home, and she comically said she couldn't tell I was that close to delivering since I "sounded so calm". that was pretty irresponsible to give me advice to stay home off that. my aftercare with the midwives was good, and I did receive more help with breastfeeding (but also some guilt trips when I considered quitting from such painful and bleeding nipples). overall, I'm not sure what I will do with my 3rd baby, I'm currently pregnant, but I thought I'd share my experience for others

[@MarlaAycho]

Michelle J thank you so much for your information! I'm sure it will help someone :) everyone has a different experience! I'm sorry they didnt support your decision about nursing too much! let me know what you decide to do with your 3rd baby!!! xoxo good luck with whatever your decision!

[@shauntaemiller9278]

Thank you so much for this video. I've had so many concerns about the doctor. Obviously testing to check me &my baby's health is neccessary, but I'm deeply burdened with the fact of having to do a pelvic exam &things along the nature of spreading my legs to anyone other than my partner. That is more painful than any pain I could physically encounter. Emotional damage is long term as physical wounds will heal. So I'm REALLY seeking a healthcare provider who will take this into consideration &provide me with a natural, unobstrusive birth care.

[@yukihinamori3200]

This is my first pregnancy. I have Midwife already that I was seeing for regular gynecology appointments. I was a little worried on how it was going to be. My Mother saw a midwife that pretty much did all the deliveries. My little sister was the only one she saw a doctor with. It was horrific. The doctor at one point was saying she was breached and the next he was saying she was head first. We found out that she was head first her feet by her head her right arm between her legs and her left arm around her head and feet and the abilical cord wrapped around her throat. For both me and my little sister we were taken away the moment we were born. So My mom had more time with her first child which is my big sister than she did with me. Luckily there was nothing wrong with me but because of extra test they had to do to make sure I was okay due to my Mom refusing them to take the ambiotic fluid for testing. So for I was returned to her after an hour or two. While my little sister had a torn diaphragm and was rushed onto a helicopter and rushed to Hershey Medical Center in Harrisburg PA. Its was terrifying no one told my Mother for 6 whole hours where my little sister was and what was going on. She didn't even have a name yet. Since my Mom had a C-section she had to stay in the hospital for 3 days before being able to drive out and see my sister. They had her on feeding tubes, breathing tube, everything. My Mother had to fight with them to let her breast feed my little sister cause she wasn't gaining weight and she would vomit the what they were feeding her. But My Mom made the right call and after 2 weeks of being with her in the hospital she was getting healthier and gaining weight. I know already I have a high risk of my child getting spinal bifida due to a low folic acid count and I have a weak heart due to a failed suicide attempt in March. Thankfully I wasn't pregnant during that time and I have my first appointment next Wednesday. I am worried how things are going to go during delivery and is debating whether or not I should suggest to my Midwife to test for spinal bifida during pregnancy. Doesn't that put you for higher risk of miscarriage? like I said this is my first pregnancy and I am very worried about how things are going to go and to have them wisk the baby away right away and me not know what is going on if something is wrong.

[@MarlaAycho]

Yuki Hinamori wow your poor mom!!!! I cant even imagine not getting to snuggle my baby right away! It think you made a fantastic decision going with midwives :) I am so sorry you attempted suicide! I can't even imagine what you were Goin through but I'm always here to talk (Facebook, email) if you need 😘 the SB test does out you at higher risk for miscarriage 😯 i always rejected it because of that ! Do what feels right to you and best of luck with your pregnancy! 🤗🤗🤗

[@yukihinamori3200]

omg when I saw your reply I was crying. This the second time a youtuber commented on my comments and gah I am emotional normally so being hormonal just heightens it. That attempt was stupid and a bad idea. I've been a heart patient since six months old. I still have my childhood heart doctor and I have a stent and my heart doctor wants to see me to check on my leaky heart valve since it was an adult heart doctor that caught it not him cause I only see my childhood one once a year. In hindsight I should have seen him after I got out of the mental hospital cause I felt like there was something wrong with my heart for the entire month I was in there and they wouldn't listen to me I had to tell them that I was a heart patient cause the nurse was like "you are too young for heart problems" I met a 5 year old, a child, that had open heart surgery what does age have to do with you health problems. you either have them or don't you don't just get old and get them it develops over time. I had to explain to her that despite of having anxiety, ptsd and depression I do have physical health issues and that its bullshit that a mental health unit In a hospital doesn't look up those records and don't care to at least check. And they wanted to do electric shock therapy which I didn't want and I tricked them the first two weeks for them to check my heart before getting it despite having no intentions to get it. when I told them I didn't want it they stopped sending cardiologist to see me. Obviously there is somethin wrong with the patient if they are willing to lie and make deals just to see someone for their heart cause you wont. They believed it was a panic attack or muscle strain from pacing the halls out of boredom and some kind of exercise. Despite having a severly low blood pressure when, when you exercise you are suppose to have a slightly raised blood pressure. Unfortunately I had to reschedule my heart doctor cause I have my first appointment Wednesday morning and he wants to see me Wednesday morning I cant go to Harrisburg and still make my first appointment and I cant reschedule my appointment with my midwife cause I wont get in for another month and that's too long without a blood test and no prenatal vitamins

[@yukihinamori3200]

I didn't expect you to reply but I am glad you did and Glad I checked my notifications to see if anyone did.

[@jasminevaliente96]

I truly suggest choosing both if you can

[@shaniabrittany16]

This really helped me just make my decision . I have been very on the fence . Thank you .

[@kylanotkayla9229]

Not all midwives come to your house after birth. Not saying that’s a bad thing but just not accurate. I went to a midwifery too and it was a great experience. I tried an OB for the first 5 months of my pregnancy but ended up switching. Best decision I made.

[@RainbowGage]

Every story i hear is the same. I am so happy to be pursuing that career. Extra info, I also witnessed those differences while watching labour and delivery television shows and had chosen midwifery very early on.

[@jessicajohnson4648]

I'm so sorry you had a bad experience with your OBGYN. I used a midwife with my first and used an OBGYN for my second. I had wonderful experiences using both but in my area we don't have midwives in the hospital or birth centers. I had a traumatic birth with my first and didn't feel like I could do a home birth with my second which was why I went with an OBGYN for my second!

[@iambaked1537]

Jessica Johnson do you mind explaining what happened with your home birth? I’m considering having one but I’m not sure yet. Thanks

[@jessicajohnson4648]

@@iambaked1537 I just had a very very long labor (51 hours) and ended up at the hospital just because I was so exhausted and needed an epidural. Everything was fine while I was at home. However, once I got to the hospital they started pitocin and my sons heart rate dropped which caused him to pass meconium. Thankfully he was fine. I would definitely try for another home birth if my labors weren't so long. I loved my midwife and really hope one day I can have a home birth!

[@erinc6082]

Omg your gyn sounds alot just like mine I'm going into my first baby uninformed and frightened I'm at 19 weeks so I'm still early enough to swap. I doubt my gyn would even notice I dropped her she smart but just sooo busy.

[@MarlaAycho]

arin Chandler I personally LOVED how caring and informative and SKILLED midwives were😊

[@erinc6082]

Marla Aycho thank you for making this video!

[@Monica-gu2bg]

Just switched from OBGYN to Midwife. During my appointments I felt a disconnection with my doctor, like he didn't understand my questions or concerns. Also felt very rushed and not well informed. Hoping that midwifery is a better experience!

[@MarlaAycho]

Aw I hope you love the midwives ❤️

[@baileymadison9019]

LOL as a nurse who works in the labor and delivery floor and I am also pregnant I know all the doctors that work in the hospital that I will deliver my baby and so I don’t have this problem but I still would like to have a natural birth

[@mayra2455]

Same experience my first pregnancy, my second pregnancy end up in miscarriage, now im 20 weeks pregnant & thinking seriously about going with a midwife care. With my 1st birth delivery they had me in so much medicine/drugs that my husband said the doctor was making jokes during my daughter's birth & that i was laughing...is sad that i barely remember what happened during my daughter's birth.

[@shadrach6299]

I had a terrible experience with a male doctor but I would choose a female next.

[@silvarain78]

I have many friends had home birth with incredibly great care of midwife team. I'm thinking of having home birth. How was financial difference for your case?

[@MarlaAycho]

Midwives are free in Canada so it was no difference for us 💖

[@KellieMC]

Thank you for this video. It’s helping me make an informed decision💕

[@savaven1]

You answered every question I had great video

[@zmuffin3065]

Was John okay at birth being pulled out by vaccuum? My experience with the OB was identical. Very impersonal, quick in and out. I never felt like they actually cared about me or my child. I was given cytotec because I had high blood pressure at 39.5 weeks and went into labor 6 hours after one dose. They made me push right after reaching 10 cm but I was SO numb from my epidural I had gotten so early I literally couldn't feel a thing. OB got inpatient, shift was ending so she rushed in claiming "his shoulders were too broad" even though she hadn't been there for any of the pushing. Stupidly I consented to a c section. My son came out not breathing and needed some help but luckily after a few min was fine. I still cry about it because I was SO out of it and fell asleep so didn't get to hold him for like 2 hours. I'm SO upset about it because I feel like my labor was handled so badly. Almost 26 w and with midwives hoping for a VBAC. My experience so far has been SO much better. I'm so upset about my first experience I so badly want to experience birth the way it was intended. Stay well Marla!

[@MarlaAycho]

Z Muffin yes john wad and is 100% healthy however there can be side effects to having a Vaccuum so I thank God everyday he's healthy! I'm so sorry to hear about your traumatic birth. I'm the same way in thinking about my labour and wishing it could have gone differently. all I can say to you know is that I hope this birth goes the way you planned and everything works out :) you will feel so much happier for sure! good luck with the rest of your pregnabcy and I hope you get a VBAC that would be so wonderful! xx

[@zmuffin3065]

Marla Aycho thank you!! How long were both your labors if you don't mind me asking?

[@MarlaAycho]

Z Muffin my 1st was 5 hours, 2 hours of pushing. and my 2nd was 2.5 hours total but 1.5 hours was pushing because both were posterior.

[@zmuffin3065]

Marla Aycho very lucky!! Hope we both have smooth quicker labors :) My first was 26 hours including 2 hours of pushing. Got an epidural WAY TOO early though and they broke my water, in my opinion, too early, so maybe that added to the length as well. Regardless, hoping with everything I now know as well as being with a good provider it'll go so much better! xxx

[@MarlaAycho]

Z Muffin hehe yes fast labours run in the family! and omg that must have been so exhausting I can't even imagine a labour that long! do you plan on having an epidural this time around if you have a VBAC?

[@GD01]

Thanks so much for making this video on my 3rd pregnancy and a midwife it is!! 👏👏👏

[@MarlaAycho]

Thanks for watching !!

[@KJ-gw4uj]

Thanks for sharing your experience with us, it's really nice.. I am 4 months pregnant and here in Norway your gp and midwife will take turns of checking up on you, but I noticed that midwives are way more caring than my Doctor ( though i haven't experience an ob-gyne here only my gp).. Midwives are more sensitive to your needs and the doctors are direct (like let's get on with it and finish this asap 😂by not saying it loud but making you feel that way)...

[@MarlaAycho]

That idea is awesome ! So cool you guys have that :) And yess haha totally know what you mean :)

[@jasminemensah9846]

Very similar to my own experience at 19.... It was Terrible

[@MarlaAycho]

Jasmine Mensah sorry to hear! 🤗🤗🤗 I still feel traumatized from my experience !!

[@jerushacarlson]

For the record, my in hospital experience with a midwife was nothing near yours… I WISH!!! My hospital is way more hands off with a midwife, but she didn’t show up till just before birth. And she doesn’t allow me to opt out of tests and procedures. Still way better than my OB/Gyn births, but not at all the same as yours. I’m looking at an unassisted birth this time, possibly. Because I refuse to have a cancer causing agent shoved up my nose and get brain cancer 15-20 years from now.

[@sarahreinhard2167]

I'll have my third one next year possibly are u a doctor now? I wanna be a nurse I wanna try midwife after this idk how I feel about the doctors

[@JessicaJEMS]

I made the decision to start looking for a midwife after my appointment last week with my obgyn. I asked her for recommendations on classes and I got the worst answer any new mom wants to hear “They are expensive and you don’t need them” BULL! So I started looking into my options and found a midwife center in my city, we have a tour/orientation and guess what, they require classes!

[@tezzie1459]

I had similar ..story for hospital and app.s but i had twins so just precaution i went in. But im prgnate agin and making up my mind about midwives ..thanks for video it helped

[@MarlaAycho]

Ferrufino Family Forever native and mexican congratulations on your pregnancy !!!! And thanks for watching 🤗🤗

[@erinpickels6814]

So helpful! Thank you.

[@NM-dc9pk]

You dont know you are not getting the best treatment with your first child. Until hearing this I didn't believe my OB was as terrible as he was.

[@ashleyashleym2969]

Oh wow I have an OBGYN and my doc was always on time for appointments. My appointment would be at 2pm for example and the latest he's ever had me is 2:05 pm. But what's 5 minutes? and I don't even think it was 5 minutes (think it was more like 2 or 3) and the reason he delayed at all was because my appointment was technically before hours. I'd still consider that on time. And my doctor always spends as much time with me as I need. I've never actually needed more than 15 minutes per appointment (but that might have to do with the fact that I'm in the medical field so don't need most things explained to me and for a first time mom I actually don't have many questions at all). ANd my doctor stops accepting patients after a certain amount, a lot of doctors in many specialties don't restrict patients, my cardiologist actually didn't and that was the only time I've ever in my life had to wait more than 15 minutes (My GP is either on time or up to 15 minutes late) for my scheduled appointment. I had to wait well over 3 hours.

[@tatianaforster6309]

How does midwifery work with insurance companies?

[@MarlaAycho]

Not sure about the rest of the world but on Canada, midwives are covered under OHIP so it is free for us :)

[@exitpursued6690]

I'm going through a midwife-run birth center in the US. I qualified for pregnancy medicaid, and that covers the cost of the birth center. They are also networked with several major insurance companies, so it would be covered just like OB/GYN and hospital care! Birth centers are commonly covered by insurance. Not sure if you hire a midwife for a home birth.

[@LivingWithChy]

Do you pay out of pocket for midwifery?

[@MarlaAycho]

In canada it is free

[@vanessahanible3464]

No if it’s a hospital based midwife

[@jenlotus17]

Doulas are not covered but midwives are. At least if they are medically trained- in my area there is Midwifery Boca owned by two medical nurses turned midwives and they work with the hospitals and an OB GYN on staff and their care is covered. Maybe it is because they were nurses first and work with hospitals but either way insurance does cover so worth doing the research but even if your insurance does not cover or cover fully their care is much cheaper overall that it would still be worth having one.

[@amycope12]

Thank you... very useful video :-)

[@ccatena1]

sorry you had such a horrible experience. I cant imagine how it much feel. I have fortunately had so much care and support from my dr through so many things that i cannot believe he has officially retired from delivery! I hope women know that they can def change their dr if things don't feel right.

[@MarlaAycho]

Christna Catena awwww that is too bad he's retiring especially that he's so good! And yes yure definitely eight about changing Dr's! In my area, it's hard to get in with an OBGYN since they all have so many patients, so I decided to stay.. but I think feeling bad abut changing definitely played a part too!

[@jessicas5381]

What country was this? Usa or canada?

[@MarlaAycho]

Canada

[@agd881]

I think this is a single doctor practice that causes this issue. Always choose a multi doctor practice, it means more choice of doctors, more number of doctors and someone else is always on call instead of the doctor you are waiting for. Such practices give better time to patients

[@vanessahanible3464]

AD828 multi practice providers are even worse

[@NikholaRichter]

Omg three hours wait? Was it a Puerto Rican Dr? Lol it is common to have to wait for them for evr

[@MarlaAycho]

NF LCR hahaha nope Polish! And he only spent 4 minutes per pateint!he was just wayyyy overbooked 😔

[@tezzie1459]

U still went to a hospital ? Is there midwives to deliver at home ?

[@MarlaAycho]

Ferrufino Family Forever native and mexican I had my 1st in hospital with doctors,I had my 2nd in the hospital with midwives and my 3rd at home with midwives. My favourite was at home with midwives. It was so peaceful and relaxing and so much easier !!! :)

[@shadrach6299]

No mid wives

[@1emmacatherine]

what?

[@vincentlandcandleco]

Your doctor experience is terrible!!! 😭

[@MarlaAycho]

It really was!!🙈