Mikko CAN'T Go Out In Public Anymore! *Autism Social Anxiety*

If left untreated, social anxiety can severely affect quality of life. Mikko is so afraid of people and interactions that it got her hurt. We are aware of the problem and we getting her help. Its only recently become this bad and we weren't sure what was going on but its more than we can handle as her parents. Hopefully with the right help from professionals, Mikko can enjoy being in public again.
What are your thoughts about your own experience with social anxiety, if any at all?
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[@thegentlelife]

Please make sure you guys read the captions before commenting. I answer a lot of questions in there and throughout the entire videos. Also we are not only on YT, we have other socials that we share other things to, that may also answer your questions. Thank you to everyone that does and truly support us! Love you guys ❤😊

[@jeannestrickland7027]

I am part of your cheering squad. I retired from a 35-year career working with special needs children. I don't agree with everything you do, but I definitely applaud the ongoing effort. Wishing you only the best.❤

[@brendacarter4098]

Thank for your response. Is Miko with you and your family 24 hrs a day? If so why ? Please respond.

[@MBXGill]

Definitely applaud you mom. You’re teaching me a lot about how to parent. We’re all figuring things out. ❤

[@almalockett7162]

What a great brother! You are all so good trying to help Mikko experience good things.

[@RPostVideos]

We live in the same city. I find it reassuring that my city has such amazing parents! ❤

[@ruthschrager6052]

I love how her brother put his arm around mikko when you were fixing her knee!

[@JAKEYRAWILLIAMS]

That’s brotherly love

[@rosameijering5161]

Amazing

[@michelleantico2627]

He was very loving

[@Taliya134]

Yeah it’s 3 in the morning and I’m crying my eyes out

[@kuttfam0191]

Big brother was amazing! He was so gentle and to be willing to wear a bandage shows the empathy that he has for others. You guys are amazing parents raising amazing children!

[@lindywheeler4192]

Your son was very helpful with her! So adorable big brother trying to comfort her.

[@kellimac]

I am an adult with social anxiety. It is dibilitating. I have young children and it effects them leading me to be depressed for being a bad mom for not being able to take them a lot of places. You two are wonderful parents- Sending love to you all❤

[@kab9706]

Same, I go through phases of extreme social anxiety still, at 30 years old. My 4 year old now has the same problem :( but at least I'm aware of the issue and we do our best to make progress and let him know it's not his fault. My parents had no clue how to help or identify my struggling.

[@shurondaadkins5944]

I hope you don't mind me asking but do you allow other family members to take your children out since you have social anxiety?

[@6laqListeD]

You may benefit from medical marijuana

[@psychicsara]

I can relate ❤

[@psychicsara]

@@6laqListeDyes it has helped me!!

[@kirstingooge3918]

@3:12 what an amazing, compassionate, kind, loving brother! It’s clear the children are seeing this behavior from their parents and within their home. Well done momma and daddy 🥰

[@lisaclark7103]

Big brother is so tender and caring with Mikko❤

[@assi2424]

As a grandmother to 2 autistic non verbal grandson's i think you and your family are amazing mikko is blessed to have so much love surrounding her melted my heart ❤️ when her brother put his arm around mikko

[@user-oq3wh1cc9f]

Oh I have so much to say she is such a lil princess the way her brother can calm her down is amazing such a beautiful fam

[@lam9129]

Being in a school program that provides specialized services to help her. I work with kids like Mikko and the daily practice & exposure in programs for students like her does help them. You are all doing a great job at home; however allowing professionals to play a bigger role in her life will help her & also you all as a family with outings etc.

[@shannonsmith5914]

I have a 3 and a 1/2-year-old little girl with level 3 autism AD.H.D she's non verbal, she has Narrow eating habits and sensory processing disorder all the Things that come with autism. Just like you. I wanted to help her on my own and it got to a point where I realized. I can know a little bit about a lot of things but professionals know a lot about one thing and so I had to get outside help. Trust me, trust me, not the route I wanted to take. I ended up taking her to the public school district and got her an got her IEP with autism on it. a 1 on 1 a that's with her through her day and she gets 5 therapies at school now and it's helping. I have 100% access to her and to the people with her and her 1 on 1 aid Is the same special education teacher everyday. I think you're doing great and don't worry. It will work out because it has too!!!!!

[@aliciamoore963]

Exactly what you were supposed to do❤

[@AmeliaEarhart537]

They said in the description that they're getting her help.

[@shannonsmith5914]

I was just sharing my experience so she knows she's not alone. I don't need you editing my voice, I did read it!!!

[@AmeliaEarhart537]

@@shannonsmith5914 I wasn't. I said that in case you didn't know. You don't need to be rude.

[@user-zw1ec7ui7z]

They can't diaognose adhd at 3 .

[@JustFluffyQuiltingYarnCrafts]

Matthew is the star of this video. His support of his little sister brought happy tears to my eyes. With this support, Mikko will be able to navigate the anxieties a little better. Thank you, Matthew!!! ❤😍😘

[@BloomingPolyglot]

I think of Mikko social anxiety like an immune system response. The more exposure the system gets to "germs" in her case "people" the easier it will be to deal with the next time she encounters the same situation. Growth occurs outside of the comfort zone. It is clear that she sees anyone outside of family as scary but eventually when she gets the clearance for therapy she'll need to learn how to deal with other people in her safe place. Rather than avoid the social interaction entirely, make accommodations. Perhaps wearing her headphones or bringing something she loves from home, maybe even the blow up pool. You can also play the sounds of "outside" noises while at home so she gets accustomed to it. Like the sound of people chattering, birds, cars, dogs barking etc

[@kiddoiam]

As a pre-k teacher I have students with IEP's and their therapists come to the school and work with them, having great success. Whether they are doing speech, cognitive, behavioral, physical.. they are wonderful at their job and the children look forward to their therapy days. Granted, it doesn't always start out so smooth but with time and routine they become more open and receptive. I've seen students go from having full blown meltdowns during drop off at the beginning of the year to skipping in excited to see their friends. I've had some refuse to hold a pencil to being able to write their name in the span of a few months. And like you said, I've also seen them regress for no apparent reason. I'm not sure if you are utilizing any sort of preschool environment but I do encourage it. It's an individual choice that takes just as much effort on the parents as it does the child and I know how hard and exhausting it can be. Some days my parents look just drained from the night before or even a rough morning they have had with their little ones. If you can find a good school with trained, educated, and compassionate teachers and therapists.. it can be such a positive experience. And it can be a powerful tool to have in your toolbelt. I wish Mikko and you nothing but love and success. Keep your chin up, Mama! You got this, just remember to be kind with yourself :)

[@boricua8793]

I'm a teacher and I see this a lot. Look for professional help. To help her socialize and develop other skills also a school with a special education will help her a lot. God bless you por for love caring and patience

[@dellalovell3704]

Aweee what a sweet brother..❤

[@skeleczar]

That must make you feel really, really proud when you see your son showing so much kindness and compassion to Mikko.

[@terryallen8463]

U need to get her professional help at this stage, “ hands On” she’s both progressing and regressing. That must be a lot for both of you guys. There is a trigger. One just can’t understand what it is. She doesn’t feel safe at the park yet. Also think, I’ve heard KZbin is hard to balance for some families. Please remember the care of her personality. But I understand she does need exposure. I was raised in special ed, and had that one on one help with professionals, it does help a bit more. A parent can only learn and do so much. She needs someone to help balance her, at her level. I see u trying.🙌🏾 As an Caribbean person. I’ve lived in a whole different environment for 12 years, and I cannot go outside anymore. Living up here is overwhelming for me, people makes me anxious. But my dr. said to go back outside, and it’s been hard. I’m no where near Mika’s level, but I understand how hard, it is.. I’ve continuously experienced major changes from the age of 1/12 to 29. Nd at this point, I like my own peace. I call and talk to people so it ain’t bad, and I see my friends sometimesss. Bless you guys.🙏🏾

[@howard1ellis123]

She needs professional help. I know you love her so much and want to protect her but you have her living in a bubble. I have a little cousin that has autism like Miko but he goes to a special school for children with autism. He is nonverbal also. He has been around children in his school, so he knows how to be sociable. He plays with kids. Sometimes he may have a melt down but not often. The school has helped him a lot. I know it has to be hard as a parent to see your child go through moments like this. I pray you and your husband will fine some way to help Miko through this with success.

[@aliciamoore963]

Beautifully spoken❤

[@JC-vz9hz]

I agree. If not, what will happen when she enters school. She needs to learn to adapt.

[@tonitwitty9529]

Read the description. She said they are going to get her professional help

[@lindasamba4816]

​@tonitwitty9529 Yeah, for the social anxiety, but that's not all she needs. She's needs to be going somewhere regularly, be it school or therapy, something away from her home, it's hindering her tremendously being in that constant bubble.

[@dalefleming6356]

She's getting professional help.

[@caitlinhaddox981]

My now 6 year old os stage three autistic, honestly when he was younger i didnt understand him,but i do remember him having anxiety when going to play with others, i just continue to socialize him and show him its okay and allow him to progress at his speed. Now at six he does a lot better, but still only likes to interact with children he knows or are similar in behaviors of you get my drift. Mikko will get it, stay strong Precious you got this. A little push is okay.

[@solsmami2827]

Mikko reminds me a lot of my daughter she’s the same age and level 2 autistic. My daughter recently has been going to ABA after being home with since she was born (not recommending ABA if not for your family) buuut there’s simply some experiences you’re not going to be able to give Mikko and she could really benefit from being in a group around other kids her age at her level outside of her safe space and safe people. Giving her the opportunity to see how other kids like her may navigate can help her in her own way 💛 send yall lots of love

[@rosenblumfamily4]

How her brother pulls her in and hugs her when she begins to cry....... priceless❤

[@kthom4595]

Big brother is so sweet to little Mikko. 😊

[@moonhoanimontero2456]

This is so sad because the parents are not always going to be with her!

[@ranc1977]

It could be sadder - with dead mother complex and ACoA ACE dysfunctional family that doesn't care at all about the kids.

[@dajourphil0soph3r36]

So you recognize too that the World could use more systems that actually help youth and adults who have neurodivergent developments?

[@Catherinenagujja]

What helped my son who has the same issues was incorporating professional help in addition to what we parents were doing, ie, We put him in school which was the best decision ever. He can now go with us in public places with no issues. He's 5.

[@kokuhakuqiun4215]

I have social anxiety. I can kind of relate to Mikko. My social anxiety is related to severe anxiety I’ve had from a young age. I’m not autistic but I can relate with the social anxiety part.

[@aqueenaija]

are u taking any medications for social anxiety?

[@kokuhakuqiun4215]

@@aqueenaija not anymore. Had hydroxyzine for anxiety but I’ve leveled out.

[@user-wj1hm5nl6d]

I know she loves her daughter but there's professionals out there that can assist the mother and show her different ways of dealing or overcoming the situations. My little cousin couldn't talk . We got him professional help and he was talking in 2months😁🤴🏽🙏🏽✌🏽

[@aqueenaija]

My son is not talking and he has professional help for months. He's almost 2yrs. Everyone's situation is different.

[@jsblackdiva]

@@aqueenaijathat's true, but they need to get the child help instead of dealing with situations and not making progress.

[@meghanc8940]

She said in the description that they are getting professional help

[@steggopotamus]

Her video notes say she's taking her in for help with professionals. I also think it's also time to maybe not show her face as often. But I know that's new territory.

[@haleybice4763]

@@aqueenaijavery different!

[@janiyanicole7635]

I absolutely love your channel and Mikko is the cutest thing ever. If I could suggest that as someone with social anxiety maybe you could try putting her into a day camp or somewhere with professional care to help her become more comfortable with the outside environment. I’ve heard sometimes with a stranger it’s difficult but more effective than parents because children know their patterns and know how to regulate themselves around them. It’s just a thought but I hope you guys continue to thrive for the future ❤️

[@idkwhatsmyhandle]

Honestly I have a cousin who’s like Mikko they’re both non-verbal and autistic. Wish we could meet up to see how they’ll interact with each other.

[@denisejohnson2840]

Really think she should have some help outside the home. With mom it’s so easy for her to give in and let her have her way. Just think mom need to see if she would be stronger w/o mom being there and letting her give up.

[@elleburns2445]

Totally agree!👍🏽

[@karenjamerson5973]

Mathew had me tearing up 🥹, he was so precious sweet and kind. 🫶🏾

[@RubyWestDawson]

Please get Mikko some professional help and therapies outside of the house, get her into activities with other kids and take her to a support needs school. Kids need to interact with lots of people, not just their families.

[@amandaroe8480]

I love that even though its hard, you do the up most best is showing her through it and getting the job done. ❤❤

[@shayeye4909]

My son is going through the same thing right now, just before he turned 3years old he got triggered at a Christmas party, and all of a sudden started melting down and ever since then he doesn’t wanna leave the house doesn’t want to be friends doesn’t wanna see teachers nothing and then the stage went away after just every day trying to reinforce and doing it all over and over again until he was comfortable enough to leave a house again, but then recently, it triggered again from my birthday party. So I’m guessing it’s gonna be an ongoing thing, but the thing that I did realize is every time this happened he had a huge developmental development., he can brush his teeth by himself. He’s putting on his own shoes. He’s looking at us way more and connecting to his peers. He’s hugging his teachers. Like a whole new child.😮

[@tinamarie8061]

Autistic or not, this may sound counter intuitive, but sometimes the best thing for the kid is being AWAY from their parent for a bit & socialized with people trained to handle their needs. Kids respond to environments differently in the absence of the parents. Parents are needed but sometimes in these stages of development your presence is actually a hindrance to her. It’s not personal it’s developmental.

[@steggopotamus]

She's seeking the help of professionals the video notes say so. So they'll figure it out

[@erykahwillisms-farmer5817]

I totally agree she needs to learn to be away from her safe space with parents .

[@nonkqubelasam]

So true and I hope she will get your point ❤❤❤

[@KekeChannel0215]

I love how her big brother was comforting her. That’s so sweet of him ❤! He’s a great example 🫶🏾!

[@Java-D]

I don’t think social anxiety is regression. On the contrary, it’s progression in being more aware of our surroundings, of other people’s thoughts and looking at us, of being judged, the possibility of being touched or talked to, etc. It’s very normal for social anxiety to progressively get worse from toddlerhood through puberty.

[@ranc1977]

Amazing comment! I love yt commentary - there are always some hidden gems here - and I always take copy past and snapshot of those to put on my social media! People like you are like angels! There are so many smart and kind and nice people out there but they are too afraid to speak up their opinion which may be contrary to groupthink, herd mentality and CBT tyranny - so they keep silent - and then neurodivergent fall easily to prey of hoax and scammers and dumb people who repeat what DSM is lying to them.

[@musicmama2864]

I was thinking something similar. As children grow they develop more awareness of people around them and people's reactions to them. It can be emotionally painful.

[@ranc1977]

@@musicmama2864 "As children grow they develop more awareness of people around them and people's reactions to them. It can be emotionally painful." Yes. I like this quote: Someone's intelligence can be measured by the quantity of uncertainties that he can bear. Immanuel Kant - I don’t think social anxiety is regression. On the contrary, it’s progression in being more aware of our surroundings, of other people’s thoughts and looking at us, of being judged, the possibility of being touched or talked to, etc. It’s very normal for social anxiety to progressively get worse from toddlerhood through puberty. YT Java-D

[@lol------______..._____---912]

The way Matthew went to comfort his Mikko warmed my heart he is such a kindhearted child he is going to grow up with a big heart you guys are such amazing parents God bless you all! ❤🙏

[@user-my8it9ve5x]

Hello. I didn't want to comment and this might be a mouthful, but my son is a lot like Mikko. He will be 4 yrs in June. He is on the waiting list for the professionals to assess him for autism. My biggest challenge is public meltdowns. People's stare n shake their heads, which indicates that he's being rude or we failed at teaching him proper social manners. Until someone is brave enough to approach and ask, and we say why, then all who's close enough to hear will start showing some compassion. He's non-verbal, not a single word. He did at one time (18 mths) say words but stop suddenly, no warning. He's now seeing a Speech and language specialist. N he's attending a nursery. Nursery has helped a lot with his social anxiety. I admit we were blessed to get him an one n one teacher. Sometimes there's regression in his interactions and it depresses me. All we can do is pray and try.

[@stillirise33]

Its ok mama. This too shall pass my Quentin used to be the same way to the point I would go home & cry. Used to be so bad I couldn't even work nor take him anywhere. Now at the age of 12 gets his needed services,he is in school, loves his teacher, his peers, nature, the zoo, anything vintage(he picks out some of my clothes),loves music, helps me prep dinner, clean, feed the pets & his favorite store is Target. Every time we go he drags me to the book section. It was tough but his bright eyes & smile were well worth it. Mikko will get there, much love from the Sunshine State 💛 ❤

[@moemonimoe-moenee9184]

Have you tried having her watch old videos of herself too recollect when she could go out with others? Just a thought

[@aliciamoore963]

Mama, have you looked into, or are you interested in getting Mikko into ABA therapy? If so, it could be such a help for her and for your family as a whole. Mikko can really benefit from being around other kids her age on a daily basis (school) and from working with professionals to address your concerns (ABA, speech, and OT). Keeping her secluded within the family, and you trying to tackle all of her needs alone will be more of an up hill battle than not.❤

[@jazzie0009]

Hi Precious…I experienced this with my toddler, he’s the same age as Mikko. What I did was slowly start to take him around people more often, it’s a slow process but I feel like she will eventually open up. My son cried a lot initially but now he’s used to it. He was at the point where he would cry and run away when we had visitors at the door but now none of that. He struggles every now and then a tiny bit but for the most part he’s more comfortable. I see a huge change. I have faith that she will be fine. 😊

[@ashleykeys9238]

You guys are doing amazing with Mikko. I encourage you guys to get professional help as well. It’s a process but she’ll adapt. In some videos I feel like she’s playing on you momma. 😅 these babies are super intelligent. Let go and let the professionals help. You’ll be less stressed and you can give more focus to yourself, your hubby, and the twins. Everyone will benefit. Cause I know. You are overwhelmed! Thanks for sharing 🫶🏽

[@user-sj7hf4xh7e]

Her dad is the BOMB, he knows exactly what she needs.

[@michelleantico2627]

I can tell her regression is hitting you hard. I empathize. Before her regression it felt like she was growing and moving forward and even speaking some words (even if she was just repeating you). I can also relate to what you said about not dealing with change very well yourself. But I have to say, who does really? I don't think I've met even one person who just seamlessly glides from one situation to the next lol. 😅 Anyway, I was wondering if you and your husband have talked about maybe getting getting a counselor that specializes in autistic children for Mikko? My son has Tourette's (which I know is vastly different than ASD), and we used a wide variety of treatments available to him. I am not saying that you aren't doing an impeccable job. You are doing amazing, with her PT, with the way you handle yourself around her, with how you are helping others with your videos. I was just asking because the counseling may give you a tiny 1 hour break, and it may help her on top of what you are already doing.

[@ny4000]

Mikko could really benefit from some professional services at this point. Early intervention is key with autistic children to ensure better outcomes. It could help her with speech development, address developmental delays, aid in socialization, and better prepare her for the school setting and for life outside of the confines of the home with her family.

[@aliciamoore963]

I agree 1000%! I say the same thing in every video that is posted!

[@kab9706]

I totally agree, my son is the same age and has the same difficulties as Miko. He's been in school since 3 and a half. He's started to exhibit social anxiety, but I think his fear would be much worse if not for school and taking him to public settings like the library, indoor playgrounds, etc. But Miko is making amazing progress in other areas like speech. One day at a time. ❤

[@urbanlady1.]

I’m glad Mikko has the parents she has.

[@sharonthompson7981]

I agree with you totally!! I hope Mikko's parents take your advice. Sooner....rather than later.

[@Djdnjskalskf]

@@aliciamoore963why haven’t they enrolled her into early intervention?

[@kavitadeva]

Hi precious I've been reading the comments and I noticed a lot of people are not being totally critical but are seeming to wonder why you're not getting more professional help with professionals that deal with autism I have asked you the following questions three times but I have never gotten an answer precious how do you feel about ABA therapy? I know some people say it is a miracle and I know other people that say their child is autistic and they don't want them to have to become like a neurotypical child all I see is a lot of struggling pain both for Miko and for you and your husband so it's very upsetting and I just hope somehow she can grow and finally find some peace and you find some peace

[@Michelle-gw4db]

You are a beautiful and a amazing woman and Mother.. I love Mikko she is smart and very beautiful ❤️ You are doing a great job with her, Working with her and showing her how to do things ❤❤

[@redwards6106]

I think Mikko is ready to go to school. She reminds me of my Goddaughter she didn't talk either. I encourage her grandmother to put her in school, and it was like magic she started to talked. She had a lot to say. She only went 2hrs a day M-F. I think she could benefit her and your fam. She is ready Mikko is smart.

[@aGrapeInUtero]

I do get wanting to write down your thoughts beforehand to make sure you get it all out, but what I also like is to see people communicate in a way that is natural to them and I’m referring to the part where you mention how “KZbin viewers” want people to communicate in their videos. I want to see you communicate in the way that is most authentic to YOU ❤ authenticity is what draws me in. I think everyone needs to be more authentic in their daily lives and online if they are online. We are all unique and different. We do not fit into molds. I want everyone to enjoy life to the fullest by feeling comfortable being who they are. “People are desperately seeking realness.”

[@melgatty]

Hi! I'm 31 autistic woman. I'm newly able to care for myself (last 2 years) Now, I bet yall didnt know late diagnosis can kill. It didnt, but with the exception of my loving family who are my only reason for being able to say I made it...its big scary feelings until you're loved genuinely and can open up. She'll open up. May it be that it does not take until 31. Life is precious. You're doing everything right the way I wish I had been raised. You are the light....(to the parents)❤❤❤❤

[@Drobib]

Please listen to your viewers, especially in these comments about professional help for beautiful mikko🙏🏾 i work with kids with autism.. It's a God-given blessing

[@HigherHer_B]

Probably one of the worst things that come with anxiety besides being extremely over stimulated

[@ranc1977]

It is not anxiety at all - it is over stimulation. CBT is placing labels on us which are misdiagnosis and this label makes anxiety so much worse - because CBT sets us up to build Victimhood mentality (TIV) with the "anxiety" label.

[@HigherHer_B]

@@ranc1977 I’m autistic and I said what I said. And both can be true. Overstimulation can cause anxiety.

[@ranc1977]

@@HigherHer_B This is simply not true. You are confabulating reality and try to force Victimhood mentality (TIV) in order to gain sympathy from the others. If I am anxious, then other people won't be rude to me. Well, they will. In fact - we will attract plethora of impulsive borderliners and narcissists when we play on social mask of being "anxious". Anxiety like anger is quick short term emotion that quickly transforms into something else when we are emotionally healthy and when we are in sane healthy ambient surrounded by healthy people. When there is imbalance - such as exposure to narcissists - we will stay stuck in "anxiety" mode - which is nothing else but Autistic Shutdown and Stimulation Overload. It is CBT ableist therapy that keeps us sick with misdiagnosis and wrong labels.

[@HigherHer_B]

@@Falonspeaks No life at all. But I’m not concerned. They need to find something better to do.

[@ranc1977]

@@Falonspeaks Differences of opinion don't have to be threats. 🟦 Adam Grant

[@mikadre12]

I just want to commend you and your family. The caretaker role is hard and even harder with special care. Momma and Dad, take it one day at a time. Make sure you take care of yourself as well. Every day, maybe a new adventure, and it's okay. I love your drive. You may not always get right it, but your family is still living, thriving even if it's chaotic at times and working through it. I just wanted to encourage you and let you know that you are doing amazing. You are definitely appreciated for the education lessons. Sending love and hugs.

[@mcadoovicky6465]

If there is ever a silver lining in children having special challenges, it’s that their siblings grow up to be the most wonderful empathetic, loving, caring people in the world. The way they want to care and protect their siblings is so cute and so wonderful.

[@wandafisher7661]

You guys need some help. .please reach out!!!!

[@user-by4sd2jy2c]

She’s such a beautiful angel. 😇 ❤

[@samanthalamboy7251]

Ya know sometimes this is just energy you may be portraying in Certain circumstances that can make this worse then it has to be. When she falls down and gets hurt it to much coddling in those instances take care of the wound and stay high calm positive energy. Also try some good supplements they have this kids multi calm by nature's plus you can give her at bedtime . Try almond or oat milk cause the sugar is and causes anxiety so healthy diet plays a big part in mood.Maybe have her play an instrument and build her confidence with things she is good at and enjoys doing.🤍

[@ny4000]

Exactly. The excessive coddling and fears could be projecting onto Mikko, thereby adding to her own anxiety. I think it may be a little nature AND nurture working in combination here. And the parents always viewing everything Mikko does or feels through an autistic lens is not serving their daughter well either. It may be causing more harm than good.

[@jsblackdiva]

@@ny4000exactly. It seems when Mikko gets upset over something Precious will say it's a sign of Autism and a meltdown. In many instances she is being a child that's mad because you are not letting them do something they want to do. The moment she cries or gets angry, she gives her a hug. When the father steps in she straightens up. She needs to be around other people and surroundings so she can grow.

[@ny4000]

@@jsblackdiva 💯. The girl knows what she is doing. She has the mom’s number big time. She may have autism but with the proper professional help, she will likely be able to lead a normal (or close to normal) life. But the parents need to first accept that their daughter needs outside help. They seem to be in denial about that.

[@jsblackdiva]

@@ny4000I feel that she is has social anxiety because she's only around her family (from the videos). I also think when they went to the truck she started to cry because she thought that they were leaving the park which she has done in the past. Instead of teaching lessons, it's coddling.

[@ny4000]

@@jsblackdiva yes, agree. The parents mean well I am sure. But their version of gentle parenting could actually be exacerbating the problem and making it more difficult for all of them. A professional would be able to make an unbiased assessment of Mikko to try to parse out what behaviors of hers are actually due to autism and what behaviors may have been learned and due to her being spoiled and coddled by her parents.

[@jendayiKa]

May i kindly say that u should get her into a school that can service all her needs. I believe it would be beneficial to her growth.

[@jordynsteinbrink800]

She fell and bumped her knee like every other three year old. Some times children, even children with autism get a scrape. No biggie, wipe it off and move on. I’m sure Mikko will get distracted or find interest in something else within the next few minutes. Most children also have social anxiety. She needs to be around other children, maybe other children with autism. They will learn and teach each other. Seems she’s incredibly isolated at home and only around family.

[@meelliemoe]

You’re doing an amazing job. Love the sibling support. I’m wondering if it’s time to get outside help for you and Dad to learn some techniques and strategies. I’m not even sure what to suggest to help but I’m supporting you guys. I know we talk about that 3-4years old stage and it’s a powerful one. Wondering if that’s why Mikko is going through the stages but maybe it’s super heightened because of her autism. She’s going to get through this stage of life too. You’re awesome.

[@c.sexton4819]

When my son was four and he became anxious around others I would bring his favorite toy or manipulative for stimming that he used at home. People would look at him strange sometimes but it helped and gradually he became more comfortable.

[@shelly8965luv]

I love the way that your son went to console her after she fell. She has an awesome big brother!! ❤❤❤

[@mytruthmylife8725]

Just the regular kind of social anxiety as an adult is hard to deal with, i cant imagine the level of frustration and anxiety it must make her feel 😢❤ keep your head up beautiful family

[@Pleshetta]

What a compassionate brother your son is. Sending Mikko and your family loads of love.

[@angelacleveland75]

Do you think it would help to send her to a daycare program for a couple of hours? One appropriate for autistic children, of course. Perhaps being around other kids would help? IDK. You're doing a wonderful job. 😘

[@_PAIGE94]

My 4y/o was diagnosed last month 🙏🏾🙏🏾 She mainly has social anxiety around adults, but with children she is completely fine. Your son and oldest daughter are such awesome siblings 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

[@jsblackdiva]

Precious, I feel that you have anxiety and because you are around Mikko all the time she notices it and acts accordingly. You were trying your best help her wound and she was crying and you stopped. It's almost like you don't want her to have any other emotion, but happiness and that's not realistic. You need to allow her to cry through some situations so you can help her. She needs to be in different environments and therapy for the family is needed because everyone involved is overwhelmed. I think she's growing into her own and not regressing. Please seek the resources so that Mikko can grow and be the best Mikko!❤

[@ambergibson1930]

Perhaps regression is coming because of boredom 😅

[@justd4377]

You are doing a great job with Mikko! People who have never worked with special needs children think that you can just put them in time out or give the a smack on the bottom. I've been in situations as an adult thay were frightening or overwhelming and I'm positive that somebody smacking me would do nothing to help me calm down!

[@erykahwillisms-farmer5817]

Her brother is sooooo sweet. My heart goes out to them because I know it’s ruff. I also have a non verbal 3 year old granddaughter but she totally opposite of Mikko. She plays with other kids. And she goes to tumbling every Wednesday. She does everything but is just nonverbal. Watching your videos also keeps me aware of what could happen. I put her in daycare so she could get use to being around other people without have fits. It actually works. We are now trying to get her to go poop on the pot . We have the #1 on pot down to a science now but we working together to get her not to be scared of the big pot as well. This is not easy and you have to have a lot of patience with your kids and grandkids with autism. I appreciate you sharing and telling your truth. Your next steps is to get her to trust people other than her family. It must be done. Prayers up for strength and healing for Beautiful lil Mikko.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🤎💯

[@anaishealy5073]

I use a make up brush to apply lotion to children faces who don't like it applied by hands. That may work with cleaning cuts and scrapes. Different shaped, sizes and texture brushes. Plasters/bandaids with prints on them although cost more apparently make a boo-boos better a lot faster haha Turning things into a song I've found can be quiet helpful. I used one for bushing hair. Bambino is distracted by picking people names to fit into the song to worry about crying and fussing. I can send you a link to a private video of your interested in the song. You could trying looking for some songs about making friend. Some songs will have steps on how to make friends. Is it a nervous/shy issue or is it more along it being difficult to process people faces and emotions. I watched an interview a few years ago where someone said it was when they would look at a person's face it was like their brain was taking 100 different photos a second and it was hard for them to process them all and it hurt their head so they'd rather not look at people. So they didn't like meeting new people. That and the reflection of light on the pavement or the flickering of certain types of lights all mixed with the sounds of the world was too much for them. Apologise if I've mentioned things you've already tried or things you already know.😊 Stay blessed, stay beautiful. Love your videos. ❤

[@haleybice4763]

the brushing teeth!!! oh my ❤️ I’m an ABA behavior technician and those wins are so amazing to finally see!!

[@breehogg2878]

I should add my daughter could not cope in mainstream public school and is now at a private school which specialises in helping verbal children with dyslexia, ADD, ADHD, Dyspraxia, ASD and many other issues. It is an ecosystem supported by occupational therapists, speech and language therapists, it also has an educational psychologist and the PE teacher who understand what to do with these children with different needs. Also their teachers and all the other professionals are teaching each other. most of the staff are all on permanent contracts so it keeps the amount of staff leaving to a minimum. It’s very important for these children be able to be able to bond properly with their teachers and for them to be a constant in their lives. We realised we are very blessed to be able to afford this. it should be the norm though in all governments’s school provision. It is much cheaper to help these children when they are young so that they can become contributing members of society.

[@shaykitty6139]

I live with my daughter, her husband, 13 year old daughter and 6 year old nonverbal autistic son. Life is a challenge daily, but the joy of small growths is worth it. I commend you for your patience. We have lots of eating and sleep issues. He’s also allergic to many things, including eggs and dairy. As a grandmother, my feeling is to just keep loving them deeply and being patient.

[@msm3668]

So sorry for that experience. It's part of life. She'll be ok. I try to keep surgical tape and gauze around. Bactine(sp) is a spray antiseptic and may be easier to apply.

[@gabrielgirlz2848]

The anxiety I sympathetic nervous system was thrown into as you attempted to bandage the scrape is insane!😵‍💫 Having siblings that are willing to "demonstrate" the process is very helpful. Give him extra hugs for being s supportive brother. 🤗 I know that he will not always be able to do this for her, but I'm so glad he is willing to help now. #GoodJobMommy! 🥰

[@princesslesha2136]

I am so happy she has you for a parent. Because some parents even when they know their child has special needs they will not be so calm and understanding like you.

[@aliciajohnson8367]

I’m glad you guys are able to get her additional help and I’m sure you already know this but getting professional help does not make you any less of a competent, caring, loving parent. If anything I feel like it adds on to those parental qualities. I was diagnosed with autism as a 19 year old adult 3 years ago and social anxiety and struggling with being perceived is something I’ve always struggled with. After being diagnosed late in life, I have (and still am) experienced social and coping skills regression as I am learning to unmask and be my true self. Being diagnosed late, unmasking is hard but also freeing at the same time

[@QueenC1992]

I think that was so nice & sweet of her brother right there by her side

[@yvettemadelaine]

Miko and my son are the exact same age- 4 in July. We went through this high social anxiety at the playground and are coming out the other side now. He still has high anxiety, but has stopped avoiding other children, or telling them “you go away!” which was a fun stage 🤦‍♀️ We did just what you are doing- gentle, scaffolded, continued exposure to the playground and other kids without any pressure. The goal was for him to have a positive experience and learn he is safe- nothing more. Keep going. The hurt knee is a bummer but you can’t control that ~ go again tomorrow. Your son’s support for his sister is beautiful to see. What a sweet child he is. ❤

[@Dontsaynoto]

Play dates helped mine, getting used to a new person gradually

[@hilltop0238]

You are a beautiful mother with incredible patience and love! The way that you cared for her in this instance with the help from her brother is absolutely precious!! And what a sweet, loving brother she has too! 😊

[@bettymiller1929]

You are helping me so much ~ My son was recently diagnosed ~ I haven’t been able to stop crying ~ your strength is amazing

[@chilltarts]

My daughter Isabella is turning 3 in just a few days and is autistic. She also has a lot of anxiety, but Miko seems to be more advanced than Isabella right now- especially in the motor function skills. For example, Isabella doesn’t like to push down or pull hard on anything (like a toy that you pull the string on to make it play music, for an example. She will tug very, very lightly like a butterfly, but if you try to help her put pressure on the string and pull harder, she just drops it and walks away and then will refuse to reengage with the toy for a day or two). Also, recently she has decided that she refuses to walk ANYWHERE. She will play in the play room, on her trampoline in the game room, in the kitchen while I’m cooking, or hang out with her grandma in her bedroom and with her wall of mirrors, and even outside in our own backyard- but she expects to be carried from each location to the next. Literally, having to walk down the hall from the living room to grandma’s room will send her into a full fledge breakdown. And forget about walking anywhere outside the house. She will play on the playground, but has to be carried from the car to the turf. Same with the store- from the car to the cart, and don’t even think about having her hold onto the cart or your hand while she walks beside you. That will get her worked up so fast it feels like a tornado hit you! I know every child is different, and that autism is always different for each person, but out of curiosity, did Miko ever do anything like this??? I wonder if this could be something stemming from her anxiety- or perhaps Ive just spoiled the heck out of her and now I’m suffering the consequences 🤪🤷🏽‍♀️

[@danicabenson1859]

God bless and keep you and your whole family. You are helping so many by sharing your story.

[@deborahblount8571]

Matthew is a kind sweet brother consoling Mikko❤

[@mommybreakdown]

I love how calm and loving you stay, and you can see the same caring nature in the young boy as well. ❤ Cheering you on!!

[@MrsKastell]

Her brother is so tender with her. She is a lucky girl to have him.

[@AmeliaEarhart537]

Mikko acts very similar to how I acted up until I was probably about nine or ten (except I can talk). I do agree with what other people are saying about Mikko needing outside help. They did say in the description that they're getting her professional help. My mother sometimes wanted me to have outside help, but she never gave me any because I'd get too upset about that thought. Her parents are definately still learning about raising an autustic child. Even though they're not perfect (nobody's perfect) I still think they're doing a good job. They're doing the best they can. They're still learning. And since I've been through similar things, I can often understand how Mikko feels. I know that she didn't want her knee touched because it stung. I used to be the same way about getting cuts sometimes. Also I'm starting to think I have social anxiety too.

[@heatherewing1253]

You are wonderful, Precious!!!

[@lindamorris525]

I am so proud of you for sharing your experiences so that others can learn from you! That takes a tremendous amount of courage. TREMENDOUS! I have a high functioning autistic son who is now grown. I felt so ill-equipped to parent him. I had no training and little understanding of autism. As my son grew, I grew with him. One of his older sisters is now a behavioral therapist who works almost exclusively with non-verbal autistic children as young as 2 years old. Her love of her brother motivated her to find ways to help children with similar problems. As she went through college and began working in this field, she continually said, "Mom, these methods would have helped my brother so much, but they were not available when he was little." I sincerely hope and pray that you and your family can find the appropriate help for your daughter so that her anxiety is reduced and so that she will have ways to communicate her wants and needs. You are doing an amazing job with her! I know it's hard, but never give up on your precious little girl!

[@marquettushazelton1449]

Your family is very gifted with patients and wisdom thank you for sharing. 😊

[@adriennem7927]

She's got a great big bro. That's a great trait. I can see him being a teacher or pediatrician or pediatrician nurse! ❤❤❤

[@ShannonThompson-xi2rk]

Your son is so loving and gentle with her. Patiently holding her hand and reassuring her that everything will be okay ❤❤❤ what an amazing family you have!

[@graciemaca6996]

You are an awesome family! I ❤ how compassionate you are with your daughter and son and how you work together as a family. I understand the struggles that you deal with hour by hour because I am on the spectrum myself (high functioning) and deal with social anxiety daily. Please take care of yourself, give yourself approval for some down time. If relatives or understanding friends offer to be with your daughter even for an hour while you nap, take them up on the offer without feeling guilty! And please don't feel guilty if you don't post regularly. Surely, anyone drawn to your channel must realize that posting is difficult while caring for your family under these circumstances. Sending love to you all! ❤❤❤😊

[@pollyannaprinciple5860]

This little girl is too precious for words. Such a loving family, warms my heart.

[@Stormygirl7777]

I'm so proud of you and your fami Miko truly blessed to have you all

[@LisaReneeeG]

The cutest is big brother being right there along her way. The melt in my heart was the end once she seen it didn’t hurt then her hugging you and saying thank you while tapping your back. Ugh melted my heart 😢🥰

[@marcywalls9596]

You are truly an amazing woman and mom. It's hard l do understand. Children with spectrum are special... Praying for peace and comfort. ❤🙏