MIL Demanded Since I Make Good Money I Should Fund Sil's Spoiled Kid School Bc She's Divorced

[@daishawilliams8301]

Glad the ex husband got full custody of the kids op you did the right thing😂😂.

[@pbiffy1535]

She should have told the father a lot sooner. The dad deserves custody of those children.

[@robinjohnson8779]

True…yet I question how he did not know. Did he never make the effort to see that his kids were ok?

[@lisadelgado228]

Amen

[@00keziah]

Unsure of in-law relationship. The husband isn’t her brother. They also don’t seem to be related to her husband. The kids are the most important. Emily should be punished.

[@brianamitchell6250]

Daniel should sue the school for what they did, i would immediately!!!

[@vinzonscu8072]

they can not say that OP should not get involve... the fact that the children are forced to her care... she is already involved 🤦‍♂️

[@daemonember]

Whomever was saying that it wasn't op's place to tell the father that the mother was negligent is 100% wrong.

[@tracyrieonhall7434]

You should've called the police immediately press charges ASAP

[@Danarchy3]

6:05 you couldn’t say no but could you say “hello CPS I have two abandoned children at my home”

[@danktankdragkings7117]

100% if you didn't call the other custodian then you call CPS with abandonment. "Hi I am Jane Doe. I have two abandon d children with me. Tommy and Suzy are my niece and nephew and safe right now but their mother Mom Doe has abandoned them with me. I would like to make a report. Thank you." -a casa worker

[@nicolecollins6570]

I'm with the ex on this that she should have told him much earlier, and I say this having been in a situation where a mother was doing things like this but without child support. Thing is, the mother is my sister, and I reached out to her ex and BEGGED him to do whatever he could to get custody over the kids once I knew what was going on.

[@lisadelgado228]

The Father deserves to care for his children.

[@ifynwamma]

She should have told him a lot sooner than she did. I'm glad she finally told him.

[@danktankdragkings7117]

girl you didn't overstep your boundaries you UNDER stepped them. I'm a CASA/GAL volunteer (court appointed special advocate). I just hung out with my kiddo today matter of fact. You absolutely had every legal, moral, familial, right and obligation to call the cops/cps on Emily. You told the father of the children what was going on. You were the nicest way to handle that 😊 And you ARE A SAINT. As someone with a broken reproductive system married to wonderful man with a sister who is a lazy mother of 2 I can absolutely understand your point. Most childless not by choice people would be annoyed if not resent the false parent for having kids and wasting the opportunity. Meanwhile you took the high road, did everything you could for your niblings, and still wound up adopting a kid in need. Girl you are a couple miracles shy of canonization.

[@lindakray286]

She should have told him sooner.

[@DaeFranklin]

Exactly all that could of been avoided

[@kimberlywinkfield876]

It most definitely was your place to let the biological father know the irresponsible actions the mother was doing

[@virtualatheist]

The school deserves a lawsuit.

[@hillsideparanormal780]

If something fishy is going on you absolutely get involved. The safety of children comes first and foremost.

[@jackchop1576]

I love how she was all about the "sisterhood" with SIL despite the fact that she was neglecting the kids until SIL turned against her.

[@shanittathompson2039]

EXACTLY! I was like, this bitch got some nerve.

[@lisadelgado228]

Sometimes you make a decision to help, but then finally realize you that they won’t change. So enough is enough and the kids need to be first

[@shadowfoxx5317]

I get the feeling someone behind the reception desk of the school applied their own personal ideals to the situation "But she's their Motheeerrrr! Children should be with their Motheeerrrr! Because that's the _proper_ thing for children. Their Motheeerrrr!"

[@monkeynumbernine]

All mothers are not created equally.

[@dianafrazier2830]

I can see OP's point and also the Dad's point. She was just taking care of the children and wasn't involved in the divorce, but should have spoken up sooner. He should have realized that something funny was going on. Fortunately it worked out for both of them. The MIL should have paid for one last thing for her daughter before she cut her off. Rehab! 🧑‍🎄🌲🎁🧑‍🎄

[@stephaniewilson3955]

They tried rehab but it did not work. Emily had to hit rock bottom before she woke up.

[@rodneyswales6538]

How is helping their father protect his children wrong

[@susanlosey9511]

Definitely 100% in the right in notifying the father. She’s putting her children in danger.❤❤❤

[@antoinettebates244]

WOW OP.. Your SIL is a drunk. Their father needed to be informed. In fact her mother should have informed the childrens Dad..her daughters ex husband. As long as she was getting drunk and leaving the kids alone is when her Mother should have acted!!

[@toddlawler7202]

At 6 minutes in it seems that OP should be getting the child support for the kids not their mother

[@marshamercer876]

It isn't about her now. She has two little kids to take care of instead of hanging out in bars and blowing the children's support money.

[@pamelacharbonneau3115]

That's for the children.

[@chrisd151]

I would have definitely been frustrated with OP and told her off for not telling her but forgiving her almost immediately because it would have been a huge relief to know the kids were in safer more responsible hands then their mothers.

[@Gilhelmi]

Families have a Moral obligation to report abuse, including financial abuse. I don't completely blame, OP for not telling the ex-husband sooner. But she really should have. At least she did the right thing before it was too late.

[@chayah_luv]

What some of the commentators are saying is why a lot of kids who needs to be saved are falling through the cracks. Because they don’t want to get involved.

[@danktankdragkings7117]

If you see something say something. I work in the foster system and I came from a broken home (ran away a couple weeks after graduation). IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING.

[@ricksimundza7125]

Good job getting Daniel involved ❤

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

You should have contacted Daniel years ago, about how negligent SIL was. You only contacted him when Emily became even more entitled. Daniel should have called the police about the missing children. If Emily didn't have money for food and rent she should get a job. It finally clicked in Patrick's head that she should let Emily stand on her two feet.

[@thisisnotmyname396]

They should have called the police when she kidnapped the kids.

[@bearb.7406]

Telling Daniel: Yes... But you could have supported him earlier and helped yourself and the kids.

[@jinnieharrison9686]

Op should have let her brother-in-law in on what was happening at the start.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

ESH, accept the kids! Everyone knew this mother had a drinking problem, parties too much, and spent money like it grew on trees, and they let her have a custody in the divorce!? WTH is wrong with this family, and the judge?! Their best interest was to NOT be with the mother. The first time they abandoned those kids with OP, OP should have called their dad and CPS. OP only told him when things got out of hand. Well, the entire thing got out of hand the second that woman had kids, and her family started enabling her. Sure, I agree with the dad for being upset with OP for not telling him sooner, but where the heel was he during those years? OP 3v3n admits she did tske the steps she did for the kids, she did it for vengeance. Would she havecslled tbe kids dad had her SIL not threatened OPs marriage? Ugh!

[@bonniebloom4953]

I agree with your comment on all points. Yeah, where was he during the first couple of years? Then to be mad at op? Phone rings both ways.

[@jackchop1576]

"Every child belongs with the mother" at its finest.

[@sheliawaymon9023]

Thank you Mr. Reddito for the new story. You did the right thing informing Daniel.

[@joyceneal6169]

OP should have notified the children's father as soon as it became apparent that their mother was a drunk and not taking care of them properly. You shouldn't wait until you're ticked off and want some petty revenge before you make sure children are safe.

[@ssho7481]

Exactly! Child well-being should always come first. Playing tit for tat is nonsense.

[@ezarocanfield6933]

If Emily cared about those 2 kids, she wouldn't pawn them off on other people. Those 2 kids are just free money in her eyes

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

They could have helped fix custody by telling the case manager that they had them the majority of the time after just a couple months …like wtf?

[@sammieg8641]

The school would be sued

[@frosthounded]

It is actually well within OPs rights to go direct to husband, she was basically raising the kids and in fact could have grounds for filling for child care support.

[@annewilliams5527]

“It’s not your business to inform Daniel” - if not OP, then who??? Honestly, OP should have done it sooner, then father could have done something about only paying for things as /when needed, WITH RECEIPTS FOR PROOF. The courts would HAVE to listen to him, if proof of ex’s excesses were given. Good luck to you all, especially you and your husband, in your journey into adopting parenthood!

[@chung2055]

Op was right to expose SIl’s misuse of child support funds and inform her ex husband

[@lucillepfundt6757]

I would see if SIL'S husband had passed away penniless with no inheritance for SIL or their kid then maybe Maya could offer to help fund the kids education but seeing that SIL and B are still alive and young enough to get jobs and pay for the education. If they can't afford to pay for the schoolteacher they need to find a less expensive school.

[@melrobertson2743]

Or spend the child support on the kids NOT ON BAR HOPPING

[@immystery3946]

The second she left her kids at my place and I had a business trip id call the father and give them to him or id call cps but after attempting to reach the father

[@lisadelgado228]

You become involved if u are 90% going on 100% responsible for a child that is NoT yours.

[@sherlocksteve9109]

I hate to say this.. but once emily kidnapped the kids from school, THIS IS A CRIME! REPORT TO THE POLICE AND CHILD WELFARE SERVICES IMMEDIATELY! Her rights as a parent and with visitation status should be revoked immediately. The school should be sued by daniel immediately too!!

[@Wolfwalker71]

She had every right to get involved because she already was. So in letting their dad know, it was that she didnt do that asap instead of waiting like she did.

[@stephaniewilson3955]

OP should have told Daniel years ago. When SIL took the kids Daniel should have called the Police and the Principal of the School, if not the Board of Governors.

[@Ahalaia]

She did right bringing their dad into it before something bad happened to the kids, sounds like MIL is an enabler too. I think SIL is pissed because there goes her meal ticket.

[@bobbieannwalker3689]

She should have said something sooner but she probably saved the children’s lives by telling their father

[@hvymax]

They should have called the police with the children's location.

[@millerlucerojames]

Mil done F'ed up big time and sil ... is just in for the ride and now is broke

[@katielove3353]

The farther spray cracked me up! She should have made an extravagant wedding cake out of Betty Crocker cake mix and canned frosting. I least the guests would have cake! Lol

[@beeniecat9411]

Daniel was right. He should've been told all the BS a long time ago. His kids need him more than their toxic mom.

[@Ahalaia]

She did right by letting him know and yeah she should of let him know sooner but some times its hard when you are in the middle of it like that. You want to do right by the kids but you don't want to hurt the SIL and MIL, but in the end OP made the right choice

[@jinnieharrison9686]

I think Op should have kept taking care of Emily's children, but with documentation. I baby sat for someone who was suppose to be working. But it started with me taking care of the 24/7, sometimes without pay. I started when you leave your children with me, you have to check them in with a signature. When it came time to go to court, I had everything ready.

[@sharonjames1255]

The kids father should have been told what was happening a long time ago!

[@Monkeywrench542]

If Emily wants to keep drinking and partying, then she could probably get a job as a street walker.

[@lisadelgado228]

It is NOT your responsibility. He’s a good Father. I don’t see many of those fathers. I hope he fights for his kids. With the sisters help, you can take over custody

[@jackiehenry3372]

Because you love your family doesn't mean that you are responsible for their living, their livelihood. Some people don't care about what it cost a person to destroy their mental health and lives because of care others dump on them. I do agree that you do what you can to help, but not the detriment of your mental health.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

Why was your sil award custody, she doesn't even take care of her kids, she preferres the bottle

[@lorrainelomotan1366]

Most of the time court will award the mother custody. Has to be proven that the mother is unfit.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

@@lorrainelomotan1366 well the count must be blind then because she is not a fit mother

[@lorrainelomotan1366]

@stephaniehoyland4901 it happened to my brother. His ex got custody of the children. He had to keep ALL records of her shenanigans. After around 3 years he got custody, constantly going to court.

[@leedavis2222]

I agree with Daniel, he should have been told about this right away.

[@marlene1708]

Why would you stop children from living with a loving parent? Her mother saying she would change if she had her kids, so far that hasn't worked so its not all of a sudden going to change.

[@jnicoulakos]

I do not blame the EX Husband at all. OP learned her lesson, I think that everyone in the end will learn their lessons. The people who has no choice or the real victim are the children.

[@reefe5657]

Thank you for the effort you put into these videos. I appreciate what you do.

[@BarbaraNull-o1o]

You did the right thing, also you could have reported her to CPS❤

[@andreadwhite3623]

You was right to contact the dad

[@romonagauthier2611]

How about the mother take care of her own.

[@Danarchy3]

Man, every one on this channel always goes to the same club to party. And they all live in the same homes and apartment complexes

[@cathybaldry7822]

OP it is not snitching. It is callee having a spine. You definetly should have told Daniel much much earlier. That child support should have been going to OP. I believe that legally OP could sue Emily for the child support. And ummm OP they were always Daniel's responsibility.

[@x_beatsperminute_x1232]

For those who say it wasn't OP's place to inform her husband, shut the hell up. SIL forced her to do that with all her mooching and irresponsible behavior. Those kids were not OP's responsibility. She took care of them out of charity. And their father has a right to know what is happening.

[@adesi2]

That wasn't switching. It was overdue.

[@BeverlyNaquin]

The only way you are wrong was not telling the father sooner . The kids should have been with their father all along

[@NessaEllenesse]

In the real world you would think the SIL would have lost custody.

[@LordGertz]

I only blame OP for not informing Daniel earlier.

[@lucyhall902]

You totally did what was right , people that think you were wrong have a problem in their thinking

[@MsStevil]

I have to agree with Daniel, reguardless of why you ended up doing it you should have told him long ago.

[@follaschwartz4739]

Get involved was the right thing!!!

[@richardokeefe7410]

It was her DUTY to tell Daniel, and a lot sooner than she did.

[@barbthequietwatcher7069]

I would not eat or drink anything that woman served.

[@susiemalphurs5212]

I've had too many girlfriends who were terrible moms. You can just go and tell the father until there's enough proof. Our courts need a major revamping because it's for the women even when they know they are bad. Equality lacks in this area.

[@bdhu2001]

Okay for the people saying that they should have gotten CPS involved , that wouldn’t have worked. If the kids are fine, because relatives are taking care of them, then CPS would find that the kids aren’t neglected. OP has been taking care of the kids, because she can’t have kids and hoping that Emily would change.

[@USMC6976]

Leave your kids, get child protective services called for abandonment.

[@NoinaAhmad]

WTF..... The mother & daughter are both crazy.

[@patbarrow4720]

It was alright to tell the father

[@flamelily2086]

I don't understand the commenters who say that OP had no right to inform the father about the way Emily was neglecting their children! Daniel had every right to know what conditions his children were living in! Emily had no interest in her children prefering to use the child support to go out drinking! Emily is a rubbish mother who only wants the children for child support so that she doesn't have to work.

[@Ahalaia]

OP and her husband is going above and beyond supporting those kids. What is their mom doing with the child support? drinking it? Kids dad should set up a special fund so their needs get met but mom doesn't get any of it.

[@pamelamitchell8789]

I'm surprised that she didn't consider adopting them as they basically seem to have lived with her so much, as they would have bonded with her and her husband. Plus how much did their father interact with them as he didn't know about their life situation!

[@MoriacMumma7]

15:53 SIL hid what was going on. She would take kids home so just before dad was due to pick them up. And the kids looked well cared for, happy & healthy. Dad had no reason to suspect anything was wrong apart from SIL's past behaviour, that dad didn't know was still happening. Im glad OP decided to contact dad & support him getting full custody. Where I am from, courts start at 50/50 custody, if possible. They are finally recognising the vital role fathers have in children's lives. I wish more mothers & fathers recognised it too. The father of one of my children had/has nothing to do with them. The father of my other child is more interested in making my life difficult, than anything to do with the child. Parents should love their children more than they hate their ex.

[@warrentreadwelljr.treadwel2694]

Kids were suffering and being neglected at times when she parted. It’s the job of the adults to take care of children. OP saw this, knew those kids were suffering. Things had to get out of hand and OP was being treated horribly, that’s what it took for OP to take action. If SIL had not attacked OPs life, those kids will continue being with the hateful mother. So If I was the kids father, I think I would be far more angry than the father was in this story.

[@RJ-sb5qr]

I definitely would have told the husband/wife if the kids were not properly cared for. Yes, it's difficult to step over boundaries. But children always always come before anyone or anything else.

[@lisadelgado228]

The father needs to be informed

[@stephaniestreeter7407]

It was your place to tell there dad

[@jaimejones3177]

This whole thing sounded really weird. Theyre all AHs. She only informed the dad out of revenge. Not to protect the kids. They all deserve each other.

[@hvymax]

OP and Husband should move and go NC.

[@beablos]

Once the OP had the children the majority of the time it was her responsibility to reach out the father.

[@allisoniuculano8496]

Op should have told the children’s father about the situation a lot earlier.

[@marywhitmore3185]

You were right to tell the father

[@billycobb6809]

I'd be pissed to you let this happen also

[@NPRYRS]

He handled perfectly BC he got the proof that Vanessa needed too💯‼️❗ I was more disgusted when he slept with her on the getaway 🤢 🤮

[@littleflame5530]

The mother in law probably made look like her daughter was being a good mom.

[@Suelorie]

While OP could have spoken to Daniel (BIL) sooner, I do not fault her too much, she was doing her best by the kids and hoping the mother would grow up and out of her irresponsibility. People are so quick to turn on anyone who finally stands up for themselves and cut off freeloaders/users/abusers. The old adage "don't bite the hand that feeds you" just flies too high above the head of these kinds of narcissists.

[@tyffanypoudrier6610]

I would have told him sooner but better late than never .