Minding Manners: Why Etiquette is Important With Tamiko Zablith

[@missinpearls]

"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." - Eleanor Roosevelt

[@soak785]

Katarina Rosberg So true!

[@StellaCharm]

she has such a wonderful spirit and aura about her I love it. she's so positive and I've also learned a lot from this.

[@Thedistilledman1]

totally agree! glad you found it helpful.

[@littlemiss8867]

Fabulous. I love Tamiko Zablith. She is such an inspiration.

[@blackberry68068]

This video deserves more attention

[@Dominiqueuqinimod]

Very informative! I'm a lifestyle consultant and I teach my clients how to best interact with others in order to achieve positive results for all parties. I found this interview to be extremely interesting!

[@LeeBeee23]

Only saw this video now, but so interesting. What stuck with me was "If you can't control yr body, you can't control yr mind" so very true

[@DarkPrinceOfClowns]

I applaud that woman. Because most people tell you to treat people like how you want to be treated yourself...and I GUARANTEE that me doing so would scare, insult, hurt and/or offend 95% of the population...or more. I admire Sith culture myself, and being brutally honest. I love people who are arrogant and dominating. A good conversation to me is when I talk about myself, and they reply by talking about themselves. It balances out if both people are self-centered, and nobody need to worry about hurting the other person, and because you both speak up, there is no confusion. I consider a good friend someone whom may stab you in the back to get what they want and the buy you a bear, and not be offended when you do the same back. And that is without even mentioning how I prefer emotions to be dealt with in a calm, un-emotional scientific 'how to fix the problem and then never speak of it again' way. I loath compassion and symphaty. It's refreshing to see someone who understand the importance of treating people differently, because all humans are fundementally different. And I love ettiquette because it is very clear, easily understandable rules you can study and learn. Wheither you follow all of them or not is up to your own judgement and the situation, but knowing them gives you a guideline that is invaluble to someone whom tend to view humans as a strange alien species most of the time. I may be sociopathic, but I also know that the quickest way to get what you want is to make sure what you want benefits the other person as well. And I value Beauty and aestetic highly, and ettiquette is inheretly beautiful, elegant and sophisticated. As well as dead useful.

[@feralcandyGhoul]

TRUTH

[@staroliva6502]

It’s so sad that Society now days doesn’t see how important this subject is.

[@30ajgo]

Well that is because some societies don’t benefit from it. If anything they think it’s fake and/or a weakness.

[@Maria-kg1nh]

Nice interview. Enjoyed the interviewer and interviewee. Learned something new.

[@Thedistilledman1]

thanks Maria!

[@DBlaze-eo5yv]

This was very helpful, I find my peers and myself, lack this sort of self image practice. its very interesting and so becoming to have good manners. I find that person so much more attracting and interesting.

[@lenahuerta100]

the best interview I had seen in this topic, she is really an expert, thank you for sharing.

[@ladymayhem4313]

Wow, I want to be this refined and elegant. She makes so many amazing points and I've never wanted to learn etiquette more. I grew up in Australia, working class. I only have a very basic understanding of etiquette, and I wish I knew more.

[@shamaltoubaji3410]

she has a very nice spirit while she is talking and from the way she talks I can tell that she knows etiquette and has very good manners

[@christinelancaster1656]

Absolutely wonderful. Very informative, I will watch this more than once. She inspires me to become my very best.

[@Thedistilledman1]

thanks Christine! Yes, she is amazing.

[@KoolT]

The world needs so much more of this. Called class and privacy. ❤

[@bittertea]

The British accent is seeping into her speech patterns. She really is extremely malleable and adaptive to her environment.

[@Thedistilledman1]

very true! She's been there for years, so I don't blame her. I find myself picking up hints of it after just a few weeks.

[@nimetsurmeli5754]

This video was really helpful and mind-opening. I was able to see some the differences between cultures and how we perceive behaviors in different ways. Being mindful of others and showing respect are the things that I want to practice more from now on. Thank you for this wonderful video.

[@jennifertyler-washington4644]

Excellent job Ms. Zablith. This is a part of my business model and I learned several things from this video. Thank you very much.

[@amy-bethtaylor2656]

I need this. And the world needs this x

[@Thedistilledman1]

Why is etiquette important? And what can you do to quickly become more etiquette-savvy? If only there was an interview with international etiquette consultant Tamiko Zablith to help us with these questions...Oh wait, here it is!

[@nickknacks123]

This was a very enlightening interview. Great questions and well.....amazing answers!!!. Thank you for doing this.

[@zerjiozerjio]

What a fine lady! Very thoughtful and shrewd!

[@elisamotterle]

She is a TOTAL inspiration!

[@mrinalp6157]

So Graceful you are throughout. Amazing

[@dealightful5745]

Very inspirational interview. I have self educated myself on an etiquette when I was very young, via books mainly but I didn’t have a knowledge expanded far enough to know the rules from other countries, that led my to one very awkward situation later on in my career. I went to discuss further details of my project in one of a Saudi Arabian household. The lady I met before was very pleasant, polite and communicative, all was going smoothly, this time we were meant to discuss the details together with her husband. After a brief chat we had again, her husband walked in and I raised up my hand to shake his (as you do in UK) and introduced myself, he did reciprocate but the look on both of their faces were telling me I’m in trouble … It was a very awkward moment, after which the lady said: “we will be in touch with you soon” and I was walked to the door. It was the most uncomfortable situation I experienced with clients. I educated myself on the “what happens” and knew I made a big ‘faux pas’ 🤭 Of course, I never heard from them, I did not attempt to communicate either, as I felt I will be further overstepping the boundaries.

[@EVOlutionHTC4g]

Excellent video, very informative, and a good reminder of an important art form we should all strive to master, if we want to be successful in life.

[@Beautybyjorge]

Loved this video

[@hitrykzmotion3975]

This is a wonderful video, though I wish the second camera angle was much better.

[@Wjaviera50]

When I went to the navy. I was horrified that most of guys from the mid-west (in my unit ) had no eating manners. I would often looked down as not to watched them eat. It was pretty gross.

[@nurtured-channel2953]

8:17 that's a scripture in itself... in fact the whole culture of Etiquette and Protocol has it's origin in the Bible.

[@genaweingarten7613]

I’m realizing most people are rude and don’t mind being rude. Seems like they reason this with “not having a close relationship or even liking someone “ I was completely shocked!! And yes, whenever I had a falling out with someone I knew socially-they were no longer that nice, polite person I was close with but straight out RUDE and disrespectful!!! after confronting them to see what I did to warrant such treatment they responded back with “nothing, we’re just not in the same social circle anymore and I would rather talk and socialize with those I’m close with”!!! That doesn’t mean going out of your way to isolate someone from he conversation even when everyone else was including them!! And I’m seeing this more and more...it’s making me not even want to continue any level of relationship with friends who are rude to other and especially these people(which by the way, they suddenly become polite again when they decide to. What is happening to our society??

[@ShukuraOnline]

I agree. I like to see how people will treat me once we are “not friends” or I’m not of any use to them. This wash you can see their true colours and it saves you the pain of investment from the beginning. True etiquette is treating people you don’t like and need with-respect not hostility

[@rosemariebredahl9519]

I thing of etiquette "rules" as dance steps, a "social lubricant" that imbeds as reflex steps that help avoid stepping on eachother's toes without distracting from the positive goals of social interactions. Ex.: If a waiter knows when you're finished with your plate and you know which side they'll be approaching from to collect it, you can continue your conversation with others seamlessly and yet remain at reduced risk of collision. Etiquette dictates graciousness, and if faux pas result in someone being shamed, the person causing the humiliation is more ill-mannered than they may be aware of. In the case of Meghan Markle, she chose to join a family who had been born into a life-long responsibility to display exemplary behavior at all time, so, yes, they expected her to continue improving her manners forever.

[@lisastravelexperiences5858]

Great information for me. I’m interested in learning cultures and customs.😍🤑😍

[@Youbarkimeow]

Since I moved to America my etiquette went down the drain I still use an knife fork when I eat I never chew with my mouth open or speak. I still have certain things that I do but a lot of people here don't use etiquette at all sad really.

[@MatthewDrake]

she's so right!! especially at dinner or meals in general..families think,everyone! sit down and dive in!! wrong..Men,let the ladies be seated first..I could go on,but let the legacy of manners write itself :)

[@Thedistilledman1]

Well said, Matthew!

[@jordancole5671]

Why should women be seated first?

[@bellaangel7598]

Very helpful and interesting! Many Thanks:-)

[@Thedistilledman1]

thanks Bella!

[@gentlemanmason]

Great advice overall.

[@gmwilkie85]

Excellent video!

[@Thedistilledman1]

gmwilkie85 thanks!

[@nagendrakodihalliparamesh1944]

Excellent it's Life lesson for me for ever

[@rosac8168]

So enlightening 😊

[@sandeshpandit1119]

I was wondering if she has her own youtube channel? I would love to learn more from her.

[@sandeshpandit1119]

Got it thanks.

[@BoppoShawzie]

I live for one reason and that reason is survival, try and directly convince me that etiquette is at all important

[@alphacoloney4562]

I'm a business women in Saudi Arabia and your idea is fully wrong with all my respect I find out that it's easier to be scary and look directly in the eye and make some confident jokes to show them that they can't make you feel smaller than them you will earn more respect this way

[@cecilefox9136]

How interesting!

[@KoolT]

Just brilliant

[@sophiealli2493]

I love her,but Saudi Arabia is built with Islam as its backbone....whoever is in doubt: this is a typical example of how women are treated in Islam.Theyre taught not to raise their voice around men,they're made to feel inferior to men in any given situation...I'm 3:45 in to this video and I can't bring myself to watch the rest of it..she was kind enough to view it from their perspective,but in all honesty it doesn't make the slightest difference...really?in a business environment a woman needs to pass notes to men to get her point across?really?Islam never fails to remind me why I left that wretched religion...smh... I know it's off topic but I just needed to get this out. Wonderful videos btw..your self confidence videos really help this ex muslim girl here,who was raised to believe she should always,always consider herself inferior to men...these videos are helping me break out of that mindset...thanks...keep up the good work💟💟

[@Thedistilledman1]

Sophie, thank you so much for that perspective! And thank you so much for the kind words about my videos. I'm so glad you're finding them helpful!

[@aisharicci6400]

Sophie, sorry for your bad experiences, however you are generalising a religion of 2 billion people from every corner of the world with some cultural practice that some Muslims still practise.

[@hafsarehman5001]

Islam makes women feel inferior to men? which Islam are you talking about? The one that says "Paradise lies beneath your mother's feet?" I hope you'd get over your hate for Islam.

[@zaquesscott3432]

love this😍😍

[@genaweingarten7613]

I thought American table etiquette was having hands(ONLY your hands) wrist being the resting area on the table

[@gresselinejean-philippe2151]

I think that's only for when you are eating...

[@dr.safety7121]

Excellent.

[@fannysteger4421]

Salut tamixo comment tu vas depuid que tu est a Strasbourg bisous fanny

[@danielasos2074]

Hello! Please can I ask an ettiquete question related to job? Please can I add the CEO of the company I work for on facebook? Is it impolite or is it normal? Thank you so much!!!

[@gresselinejean-philippe2151]

Do not do it!

[@HisWordisLife4U]

She needs a speech coach.

[@teeb2681]

Fact: It also helps that shes physically attractive. Sadly, the world is superficial. An unattractive or average woman would still face a but more challenge.

[@m.n.9496]

I love everything she is saying, but I hate her pronunciation of the letter T

[@hasanhotty8851]

nice accent ma'am

[@KallusGarnet]

she will make a perfect wife great video

[@bestsongs6149]

Wish I could find a soulmate like you lady.

[@myfolsomb5544]

It must have been very humiliating for her in Saudi Arabia not to be able to present the hard work that SHE did through another "GENTLEMAN " no matter how she puts it. I don't know why She's trying to justify it on their behalf. That's the reason of them not giving a damn about how they Ill- treat women no matter what they do.

[@SharonVonwiller]

I don’t mean this to be mean, only a suggestion. Your makeup is drastically a different color than your neck and décolletage. I would suggest a professional to show you how to blend with the correct color. .

[@nagendrakodihalliparamesh1944]

Global Truth

[@klausoshaunacey8429]

Well, now I can point out to Europeans making fun of Americans for doing the crossover method that technically they did it first haha

[@idraote]

The whole exchange about making business in Saudi Arabia: oh, she's awfully good at making it sound like respect for another culture when the truth is, it's just complying with something unacceptable for the sake of money. Aka hypocrisy. It's much more honest simply not to send women to a negociation. Brutal but honest and, in the end, more respectful to your female-employees.

[@rosac8168]

The cell phone omg how irritating and rude that is. I witness it all the time

[@teresadianchew5]

Manners maketh the man, while A Finishing School Finish a Woman.

[@clarisaantiagingdermatology]

Etiquette rules are founded or based upon growing up in a classy environment.. WHEN YOU ARE BORN CLASSY YOU WILL HAVE CLASS, you will carry it in your blood, it comes natural to you.. It is NOT something that you have to put effort to be yourself in front of others. You can NOT make yourself classy if you were NOT born in a classy environment .. If you were NOT born in a classy environment you can learn good manors and act in life with good behaviors and manors, but NOT necessarily you are classy by nature.

[@morganolfursson2560]

The word I doesn't exist in Japan ? Tamiko San i am half Japanese and i can assure you that the word I exists in Japan and in Japanese . Actually . it does not only exist but we have about 15 different ways to say I and even to imply it without using it, or use it differently according to level of formality or conviviality . From Watashi, to Watakushi , Ore or Boku for men , Atashi or Atai for women and young women or kids regardless of gender , to Ae in the northern prefectures, Ate in the Kyoto Area , Wagaya or Ware for elderly , etc etc etc , so please Tomiko as a figure of etiquette , how about you start by not making things up just to illustrate something, assuming that your interlocutor doesn't understand Japanese ? You have a Japanese name , it is also an African name and though you might have some Japanese background, who knows , i am not interested , your hair looks more african than japanese and so does your nose , in spite of the great rhinoplasty , so i won't go too deep into an ethnic debate, but if your name is indeed a testimony of your Japanese lineage , how about you start by learning the language before making assumptions as stupid, and i really mean stupid, as

[@espinozafafa7645]

Morgan Olfursson the most realistic answer for sure .because she is the kind of person that make up things to appear as an expert !!.

[@morganolfursson2560]

Clearly .

[@SapereRisin]

There's nothing more pompous and uncivilized than to attack someone's personal shortcomings and ignore the context of the intent. 1) Clearly, intercultural ettiquete is something not openly taught even as our world becomes more globalized. Her bringing up the importance of respecting other cultures to maintain friendly relationships (her main point) is an important, timely, and universal one. Whether or not Japanese say "I" or not, in no way detracts from her pointing out that all people don't value what they do in the West. 2) She is a business woman clearly and in business the etiquette obviously is to maintain an air of confidence before humility if you want to be taken seriously about the product or service you are selling. She would break business etiquette to fill her responses with "I don't know" and how she insightfully put it, would be more of a distraction than anything else. Furthurmore she never claimed to be a UN ambassador, just that she travelled to other countries and has found there are contridictory social expectations that should be duly noted. 3) Obviously people from the said countries or regions would be the best spokesmen of the etiquette of that area. For example, I can tell you as an American that there are significant cultural differences in blacks from Oakland and San Francisco, which are bordering cities. But I'm sure people from other countries see all American blacks as the same and possibly all peoples of African descent with our African hair and funny noses and what not as you so stupidly pointed out. The point is, if you want to speak with a different culture, learn as best as you can how they would like to be treated and this hopefully will make business relationships develop more smoothly.

[@morganolfursson2560]

The word is Etiquette not Ettiquete and contradictory not contridictory Does a half Japanese also have to teach you how to spell in your own language Joseph ? A bon entendeur ...

[@MsHrKrOMS]

Dear Sir, you are taking her comment too literally. Please relax. As a person who is half Japanese I am shocked by your impolite message, it must have been your other half that wrote it. She did not mean there is literally no word in Japanese for "I", from her perspective culturally in Japan the group is more emphasized than the "me" culture of the USA. By the way, you say you would not lecture anyone, but isn't your angry rant above a lecture to her? It is her job and business to "lecture" other people on how things are should be done and she does a good job, although not every person from every culture will agree with her perspective, she has some interesting insights. She also has much better manners in how to make a comment about someone than you do. With her manners I doubt she would ever speak so harshly. So perhaps you could learn something from her about how to be a kinder person! :)

[@DeanRendar]

World take notes, Californian snobbery didnt exist to the world stage until californians did it to others before actualizing their universal privaledged mindset, we are the most abundand yet so self aware lacking of what TOTALITARIAN representatives get their first impressions from our position of ultimate variety and abundance, but remember, this was the proving grounds free from all rounding curves and full exposure a simulation could never fully quantify its IN FIELD potential.

[@gogobeastdude]

puke

[@sandeshpandit1119]

the pdf guide link doesn't work.could you please email it to me??