Boundaries Series Introduction

[@Kaylekay]

Hi Michelle, I struggled with boundaries without knowing it. I am always trying to be nice and do what people would like me to do even if I'm not happy about doing it. I guess it's from the way I grew up. I would get very angry with the person I'm trying to please, after awhile I totally start to avoid them and would lash out sometimes because of built up anger. I just never learned what was happening, to then put up boundaries to protect myself and avoid being walked all over. Thank you for putting the series together. I would really benefit to become a better woman I am in Christ.

[@drmichelledaf]

Hi love this is so common you are not alone. This series will be helpful. Be blessed 🤍✨✨

[@cynthiangwani7630]

I have struggled with setting boundaries for most of life, only recently trying to be firm and it hasn't been an easy journey. But i keep going!

[@drmichelledaf]

God will help you and heal you. It truly is a journey

[@PorscheTheCommunicator777]

Definitely looking forward to the talk about boundaries with parents!!😬

[@RealTalk-mq2ug]

I could die from the pain. I'm submerged in darkness. No light at the end of the tunnel. I'm desperately alone and completely traumatized. PANIC AND TERROR ALMOST CONSTANTLY FLOOD ME. I am paralyzed and traumatized and debilitated and breathless, with almost-constant panic attacks. In February of this year (2023), the man whom I thought was my best friend... Discarded me like garbage. Replaced me for another. In doing so... He gave me SEVERE PTSD. We're in July, now... It's been almost exactly 5 months... I MUST GET OVER THIS and MOVE ON... Please, help me, God! REMINDER TO SELF: God is knocking at the door of your heart and you have to let Him in! ❤

[@heavenking2065]

I have that problem, I don’t know how to say no sometimes… and it’s out of fear.

[@lulamampaki5404]

This is a much needed series sis. I didn't have boundaries before and that made my life a living hell, I thank God that He helped me set up boundaries and sticking to them has been so amazing. But I feel like some of them are way too tight so I'm definitely not going to miss a video of this series.

[@lynnwilliams2243]

Thank you Dr Def! I’m a 66 year old woman and you have helped me out tremendously! I live a better smart life now! Your wisdom has been gold to me and many thanks

[@drmichelledaf]

That's Wonderful! You are so welcome

[@bavaayin9574]

I have waited so long for this discussion as I have always wanted to know what boundaries meant for a feminine woman 💃

[@sandress9917]

It’s really going to be a beautiful series all the way… thank you❤️

[@maggieramara]

I swear Michelle is sent by God, I needed this

[@jasminegray8335]

I’m so excited!! This is something I struggle with so much, thank you for starting a series on it! Edit: I am rewatching this video and taking notes, and when you said at 12:03 “people are allowed to be angry. They are allowed to express their emotions and deal with them on their own” My body just exhaled a sigh of relief. I found it to be very profound. Thank you, Dr Michelle.

[@sunkissedbydrksknhypergamy3347]

I have been the #1 go to person for everyone else. but tend to blyr the lines in terms of my OWN boundaries, with myself from guilt, due to childhood abuse/ trauma because of my malignant narcissistic parenting I received growing up. ( Psalms 27:10) has ALWAYS been my favorite scripture. thanks again for your channel! Matthew 6:33 is definitely epically true!!!🍋🎀🌻🌸

[@talithaladucer]

Same

[@laurajones1211]

I really needed to hear this, praying for strength to set necessary boundaries!! Thank you so much!!❤❤❤

[@springjoy130]

I’m so grateful that I’ve found your channel!

[@sunkissedbydrksknhypergamy3347]

My dear and prettyful Doctor! Thank you! you have been an answer to my prayers!

[@fifi5535]

Michelle, may God bless you!! I am so excited for this series! Alone this video has already been so, so helpful! Now I know why I sometimes act the way I do, it just makes so much sense. I’m especially looking forward to the boundaries with parents series. I am 22 years old and still living at home and often struggle with how to set boundaries, with my mom in particular. I just know that your videos will help. Much love and blessings!

[@CultivatingHarmony]

Boundaries are soo necessary! And men DO appreciate a woman who has them..

[@aiyabarouk1146]

A true blessing 🙏 this series has arrived in a desperate time of need for a lot of us. Thank you Dr Michelle! I’m one of many who are looking forward to this.

[@j.p.8423]

Does anyone else have this issue of a friend trying to change you? Like for example: 1. I wear my hair natural usually in a silk press and it’s long and healthy (thank god). I don’t wear wigs or weaves nor do I have a desire to cut my hair. In fact it’s not my style at all. but my friend keeps throwing the idea of me getting a wig or cutting my hair. (She wears wigs and her natural hair isn’t the healthiest at the moment). I told her each time that no that’s not my style and she still keeps bringing it up to the point that now I have an attitude everything she does because I feel like she’s not respecting my decisions. 2. This same ideology goes towards dating. She keeps pushing me to date and I keep telling her I’m fine and she’s constantly trying to hook me up with one of her boyfriend friends and I’m constantly rejecting. I went on a date with a guy and it turns out he wasn’t the right fit for me so I ended communication. For weeks she kept insisting that I call him. I kept telling her no I don’t have a desire to hit him up to the point that when she last mentioned it I completely came off very stern and she had the nerve to ask me why I’m acting in such a way. I like her. She cool. But idk if she’s trying to be a good friend or she’s not being a good friend by not respecting my decisions that I make for MYSELF that only effects MYSELF! Please share your thoughts ladies.

[@bloomingrose6253]

With regards to hair: it seems your friend may be insecure about her own hair and feels “lonely” in wearing a wig, but sees you with your thriving hair. With dating: you should probably ask her about why she is pushing you to date. If this is someone you trust, also tell her why you are not dating at this moment (adjust according to how much you want to share with her). Disclaimer: I don’t know your friend so I don’t want to judge her mindset harshly or assume, but sometimes people can be lonely in certain places in their life and want people to join them (good or bad).

[@j.p.8423]

@@bloomingrose6253 wow. Thank you so much for your input. She has other friends and they wear wigs. In fact I think I may be one of two of her friends that wear our natural hair. It’s just my texture is different and more I guess “coolie”looking. And in regards to dating I told her plenty of times to not worry about me. I Always try to respond in a way that doesn’t come off aggressive or stern but it seems that’s the only time she hears me. And I don’t think it’s fair that I have to get like that.

[@ButterflyT23]

I just did a 2 part session on boundaries and it was a huge eye opener. I knew as child that mu boundaries were crossed but never knew how to confront it without getting in a disagreement with my elders. Thank you as well for providing such great content.

[@sarahschutte2151]

I’m looking forward to the boundary’s serie’s 🥰🥰 thank you for your teachings 💙

[@deborahrhodes3000]

Motherhood looks beautiful on you! Thank you for this series, which I have struggled with most of my adult life. I’m excited to learn more!

[@ChristianaToyin]

Wooo...thank you sis👐🏿❤️❤️

[@rachelroyster5807]

I am looking forward to this

[@bea.rodriguezm]

what a blessing to find you, and your message. asked so much to the Lord to help me to get some help to keep healing and growing as a woman vibing on her feminine energy. thank you. XO FROM ARGENTINA 💓

[@Itssnitta]

I found your channel maybe like a month ago and this will be my first series that I follow along with. I'm ready because for the last year I've noticed so much that I should have not allowed with family and friendships. I look back and think I could have avoided so much if I had boundaries or was able to say, NO and stand firm on it. Which in the end led to no longer speaking to someone or having the same bond. But this series is going to be a good one for me. I started speaking up for myself more recently and this is just only going to help me even more. Thank you

[@YouCanStartLateAndFinish]

Wow! Thank you I am looking forward to more videos to come. The intro is so on point.

[@raquelt5342]

So excited about this series!! 💕 Especially the family and boundaries as an adult part, so need this.

[@christinegasana7743]

Been always strong on boundaries but had never thought of ''self boundaries''. Thank you.

[@lilo2759]

Fear of disappointment and people being angry would be my personal obstacle for setting boundaries

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Oh yeah! Just what the Doctor ordered! Better late than never. Thanks Dr. Daff!💜

[@dahliaherrod4301]

I resonate very deeply with the idea of hating conflict. I get so worried that people won't like me so they'll leave me. That fear of abandonment runs deep and I know the major reason is because my dad was in and out of my life and verbally abusive. That fear is strongest with my parents and stepparents. So I would say yes then try to undermine the effort without saying how I truly feel. Or I'll say yes and resent my loved ones because I didn't really want to do it. I was never taught that it was ok to say no to my parents, so I never learned how to do so respectfully. I'm working on my assertive communication skills and how to enforce the boundaries I set in place with people. I had those boundaries violated by those closest to me so it's a struggle. It's hard and painful, but very worth it to feel fully integrated mind, body and spirit.

[@drmichelledaf]

I understand honey. It's not easy at all. It's good that you are trying to make a change for your own health. I hope this series helps you. Blessings and Iove to you 🤍✨

[@liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984]

Boundaries are so important.

[@taylorhannah5980]

Please cover how to deal with feeling afraid to say how you feel because you don’t want the other person to be angry with you and dealing with people trying to guilt trip you I always find myself feeling bad for saying no

[@hazelmunee1138]

love this conversation and can't wait to see more

[@joharisheared6405]

I need to listen to the whole series. I need to learn to establish boundaries. Thank you for this video.

[@bal9944]

If you're reading this message hope you're doing well and God bless you 😍😍

[@_MinaSage]

Hi Dr. Michelle, I have been watching your channel for a while now, but I usually don't comment. I first want to say congratulations on your baby! Children are a blessing from the Lord and I hope you're enjoying every moment so far. Thank you so much for all the life-changing content you put out for us regularly. They are helping me change my life. I am looking forward to the rest of this series, especially the parents and friendship ones, can't wait! Thank you and God bless.

[@OarabileMakhubedu]

Girl!!! I haven't seen you in so long ... I missed you!!😍💖

[@tiffanyblue1242]

I’m so looking forward to this series! I struggle with everything you’ve described in this video. I’m going through a transition in my life where this teaching is definitely needed. I need to take back my life and understand what that looks like for me again. God bless you, and thanks for sharing your gift and wisdom.

[@mariemitch5048]

Thank you so much Dr.Michelle! This is a much needed series, I’m currently working on boundaries. This is very affirming. God bless you!

[@ella-flow]

I really needed this video... I know the series is going to help me. Thank you love 💕

[@Olivia-qg2qh]

Thank you again. Hit the nail right on the head. Thank you for the series & tools

[@elegantcubanita4412]

This lecture was so excellent. Thank you, Dr!

[@anneaugustin1155]

This is very much on time! Literally was consumed by thoughts on every topic you mentioned here this past Sunday and I was not in the best place mentally. Can’t wait to receive from this series and grow. Thank you in advanced Dr. Daf 🤗

[@adeanafyoung]

This video is just what I needed! I’ve always struggled with boundaries and it’s quite literally ruining my life lol. Thank you for sharing!❤️

[@YonkelCPrints]

Your content is nourishing. I wasnt sure at First but I was lead here and you have captured my attention. Thank you so much for this guidance 😢🥰 . You have evolved into an even extrodinary woman sending best wishes, love , light, peace and peace

[@beautifulllb9493]

This is a problem area for me so I am excited for this series! Thanks Dr Michelle 🌺

[@lifewithkahunde]

Dear beautiful Lady you opened my eyes to femininity. Thank you💝💝

[@ajohonly3721]

Love thé naturel make up . 😊

[@Aye_cutie24]

I love and needed this ❤ Thanks Dr. Michelle

[@hilu1023]

Thankyou for the video! I think my problem with setting boundaries, is I am scared to show my true feelings. I hesitate to stand up for myself, because I may feel like crying. Also, I would not like to upset the other person. I have little bit learned to set boundaries, but it is especially hard, when talking to people I love.

[@sekhohliweyisraelmoloto8926]

Hii Dr Michelle, thank you soo much for this series, can you please touch on over sharing, this is what I personally struggle with.

[@SoulTooBeautiful]

I needed this !

[@drmichelledaf]

I'm so happy to hear that! Thank you so much love!

[@sunkissedbydrksknhypergamy3347]

I will be following you on all social media platforms. I had to take a break from my channel although I am new, that was one of my boundaries. I am an empath and my followers and prior bullies/users had drained me. spaces such as these are freeing!!! 🌞 💋!!! 🍋🌸🌻🎀🍀💝

[@tatianamayers11]

I have been in a relationship with a man for a long time and I’ve let him in FULLY already, I’m afraid that if I set new boundaries he’ll feel as if my feelings have changed toward him and that’s not the case. I just want to reset boundaries so he won’t have FULL access to me until marriage!

[@zupua2408]

I can totally relate with this! This has been on my mind heavy.

[@postwoman1802]

Your dress is soo cute! 🥰 May I know where it’s from?

[@heavenking2065]

I miss watching your channel.

[@anniecocopuffs]

Hi Michelle ! I struggle with boundaries as well! I work in a kitchen and I’m constantly hAving to set boundaries with clients if you could touch in on that it would be incredible ✨

[@jiejoudom5521]

Hi please can you make a con what true femininity is ? Some people think femininity is all about doing your nails , hair wearing girly clothes. Can you please expatiate more on what it truly is. Thank you

[@daniellalyngdoh6211]

Hello , Dr Michelle i am a person who was lacking in boundaries before so when I started listening to your podcast i began to develop the habit of setting up boundaries in my life but I am still lacking it in terms of dating for eg : when i become interested in a man after texting and meeting up so if he started giving me mix signals i get angry easily because I fee like he is keeping me at an arms length . So can you please do a podcast on that so that i and the rest will know how to set up boundaries when a man is giving mix signals so that we will not get upset .

[@alltheblessingswithbusisos2576]

Oh my God. Can we start with boundaries with ourselves

[@atinukeatoye1213]

❤️

[@Aye_cutie24]

If you could incorporate boundaries with men, that would be very helpful.

[@awakenthegarden]

Looking forward to boundaries with an ex

[@heavenking2065]

1st!