Boundaries While Dating!

[@Listening_2_Still_Small_Voice]

Men treat you based on how you treat yourself. Set the boundaries with yourself first and then enforce those boundaries with others second. “Most men are NOT going to like the boundaries that you set. Your boundaries are not there for men to like. Your boundaries are there for men to RESPECT.” - Dr. Michelle Amen, Dr. Michelle. Amen. Honestly, this should be put on a t-shirt.

[@jlove3371]

One boundary I had to set with a guy I’m talking to, on the first date, was to not call me endearment names. I love them, but that’s something I want to save for when a relationship is exclusive. He listened :)

[@tiffanybrown7414]

I had to do the same thing. He still tries but I have to correct him every time!

[@drmichelledaf]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@EarCandyAsmr]

I dislike that as well I actually realized men who do that are a certain type of men and I prefer men who I don’t have to correct because they seem to have more manners when it comes to other aspects as well.

[@Dee-cu8yr]

@@EarCandyAsmr same I view these Type as con men

[@remiem-iw7uk]

I dropped my guard and let someone be intimate again after being abstinent two years and a few months. Formulating the convo in my mind. I want to be a wife to the man God has for me. Not back on his rotation. I am vulnerable to him still. Disappointed in myself and moving to do better. I am NOT a placeholder. I am coming into alignment with God's original plan for my life.

[@drmichelledaf]

Good for you honey. Push forward. God will honor you for it

[@Exodus26.13Pi]

32 & 26 when married both virgins. It almost destroyed me as a man waiting for her, worth it 19 years later. Peaceful family 🕊️

[@ConservativeHippie001]

You’re so blessed. I truly always wanted to wait until marriage but had zero parental guidance and was told repeatedly by friends and peers that I basically wasn’t allowed to wait until marriage. I’ve never had “casual sex” a day in my entire life. I don’t drink or smoke or use drugs. I always just wanted to be a good wholesome wife and mother. Yet, here I am, a single mom. Really wish I could get my life back and would’ve had someone tell me it was okay to wait. My kids and I would not be in this situation.

[@mariannimoh9514]

I prayed to God to teach me about boundaries and limits yesterday. He has answered my prayers. Ain’t He good?! Thank you Dr. Daf! You look great! I hope the baby is well😊

[@drmichelledaf]

He is amazing!!! Always on time. You are most welcome and thank you for watching!

[@Keepbe]

I had very weak boundaries and left a situation feeling taken advantage of and disrespected. Never again. Thank you ❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

Wonderful! God bless you!

[@beanandpopcorn]

Same. Never again. I was always trying to please people because I didn't want them upset with me but in the end I was the one upset and felt taken advantage of. Between me and another person being upset it's going to have to be the other person. Why should I. Moving forward it's me first. Being my own supporter and having my own back. No need to put the opinions and feelings of others above my own. They not doing that for me. Love thyself first!

[@beautifulllb9493]

Yes!! A man will only do what you allow him to. They are very observant of us. I set boundaries with my husband early while we were dating. I let it be known what I will tolerate and what I will not. We revisited them before the wedding to make sure we were on the same page with that. I’m looking forward to your family boundaries video, that’s my biggest struggle. Thanks again for your wisdom and advice Dr. Michelle! ❤️🌺

[@drmichelledaf]

That was wise! Thank you for watching love 🤍✨✨

[@awa4817]

So informative! 💕💎

[@richauntie316]

I'm back to the dating scene after 5years and I needed this🙏🏾🥰🥰 thank you Dr Michelle

[@vanna1414]

Sameeeee. Do well dear

[@drmichelledaf]

Best wishes to you! You're welcome honey 💋

[@Anna-pe8ye]

This video made me cry so much, I didn’t keep the boundries I wanted to and i am now dealing with so much pain in the relationship. But I know God will help me make the right decisions. Thank you Dr. Michelle for speaking about this, you are my rolemodel and inspiration.

[@drmichelledaf]

We all deal with this, but with God things can change. Blessings and love

[@Denisebemmett]

Thanks for the video. Great tips. My boundaries, is never touch me uninvited, never blow a horn when picking me up, never talk on a phone while we are on a date. I should only have to tell the man I am dating a dislike I may have one time, if he violates then he isn't right for me. God bless you. Keep producing great videos. 👍

[@dahliaherrod4301]

I love to hear that you have enough self-awareness to know what your boundaries are for dating. I would urge you to consider moving forwards with empathy and Grace for your partner though. Sometimes we're asking people to respect boundaries that they're not used to having. For example, I don't like physical touch early in a relationship and some people grew up in touchy-feely families so it's normal for them. It takes time to get out of those habits even when it's something that they want to honor on your behalf. I say all this to say it may be a little strong to only allow one strike and then you're done. Some boundary violations are a one and done but some violations aren't. Just something to consider. God bless you.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thanks for sharing! These are good!. Thank you for watching love

[@sashabell2390]

Hi, I think these are a very relevant topic. But I also want more clarity about the differences between marriage and dating. And the dos and don’ts of both. For example we know what a girlfriend shouldn’t do, but what should she do?

[@natashadickson4819]

She should require marriage and let him go if he doesn't want that.

[@isiomaoyana7845]

Hy,from what I understand so far ,the difference between marriage and dating is that in marraige youre legally and spiritually bond yourself ,the man youve chosen and God ,dating youre vetting ,interviewing more like it to see if the man that has presented himself is marriage worthy And what a girl should do? You should first be yourself ,say what you would take and what you would not take and act accordingly, respect him, most times the men do most of the work though all we have to do is receive and reciprocate where necessary, for example he should care for you,provide for you,take you on dates ,buy you gifts while you receive them and then take care of him,care about it. To really answer this part ,theres really no road map ,it all boils down to who youre with, what his values are and his person and who you are too.

[@DK-eu2op]

i have the same question

[@lakeshasanders1607]

I really want a respectful relationship and when it comes dating and all.

[@MrzBadaBing]

Wait till your married and make sure the man is a god fearing man and who has accepted Jesus Christ as their savior. This is the only way to have a healthy and lasting marriage. It must be with god. Just like a third cord string , you need god to tie you and your husband to make it stronger . With only two strings it’s weak that’s why there’s so many divorces because that third string has been missing from the marriage . Very simple . Not confusing . You won’t be deceived by the enemy when you have the gift of the Holy Spirit .

[@drmichelledaf]

This is true, thank you for sharing love

[@e11ionore79]

Amen👏

[@tritzispoosa]

No for FORNICATION before marriage my. sisters. The marriage bed cannot be defiled. It’s not worth your sweet soul

[@staceys1028]

you have this calming and beautiful spirit about you, i love it❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you so much love!!

[@3thsgrl]

This make up and hair combo is one of my favorites so beautiful. ❤ Also thanks for the tips.

[@dudusasa820]

one of my boundaries seeing him late at night Thank you for your video God bless you !

[@shesonfire_]

Thank you for this video. ❤ I started putting my phone on dnd to prevent ppl from calling me late at night. If they ask why i dont answer i reply, i have work so i get to bed early, or i really need to make sure i get blank hrs of sleep or I am no good to anyone. When i announced my phone boundary or any boundary men tested them even more. I learned to enforce most of my boundaries without announcing them because they understand actions better.

[@karisasori]

I wish I had found these videos earlier, could have saved me a lot of hurt, but I'm grateful I found them now, thanks for the great content Dr. Michelle~

[@amanyirelynn2806]

I have been a culprit of laying it all out initially, thank you so much Dr. Michelle. This was so helpful. God bless you for sharing this wisdom.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for watching love!

[@marjorieaugustin8278]

Hi Michelle, thank you for being you, it's very refreshing.

[@Sine105]

My man is total different 🙆🏿‍♀️🙆🏿‍♀️🙆🏿‍♀️

[@ZolotoeSolnce]

Thank you so much :) your enforcing words touched me till tears..

[@drmichelledaf]

@@ZolotoeSolnce you are most welcome darling 💕

[@vluvbug]

Subscribed!!! I luv your channel. I have been binge watching your videos..It has really changed my perspective & shinned light on my dark past. I appreciate your content.❤‍🩹

[@drmichelledaf]

To God be the glory. I am so happy to hear that. May you continue to grow and shine my dear!

[@vluvbug]

@@drmichelledaf Thank you for the kind words🥰

[@akg2474]

This is soooooo good and very needed. Thank you!

[@drmichelledaf]

You are most welcome darling 🩷✨

[@chiamakamusic3002]

I love your make up, I love the way you speak, and I love your teaching styles, keep it up, I am following you.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you so much love!

[@MelissaAdamsMusic]

It is such a blessing to receive all of this valuable knowledge and advice from a professional and a woman of God! Thank you Michelle 💙🙏🏾

[@drmichelledaf]

Aww you are so welcome!

[@sarahmakutu6214]

I'm so grateful that the holy spirit led me to your channel.....I love all your content, how you base everything and tie everything with scripture. ❤ I'm subscribed! 🎉 #NewSubscriber

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you love. I'm so happy it resonates with you. Thank you for watching 🩷 welcome 💋

[@evasunshine9755]

Thank you for taking the time to make this informative video. I struggle with wording my boundaries when something arises and would greatly appreciate a video on some example phrases to use. Perhaps other ladies are the same way? Again, thank you 😊

[@drmichelledaf]

You're so welcome love 🤍✨thank you for your support. I will give examples in future videos but they will mostly be on the podcast extended versions.

[@Emanixoxo]

doing God’s work, God bless you 🙏🏽♥️

[@TiggysTC]

This was so needed. 🙌🏾Thanks for this post Dr. Daf!❤️❤️💕💕

[@drmichelledaf]

You're most welcome love! Thanks for watching!💋

[@gracekasongo7110]

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[@make_emfall_inlovee]

Thank you sooooooo much , this video is just in time !

[@advaitacentre6306]

Really beautiful and useful video. Thanks for sharing all these things. These tips are very relevant for anyone dating at any age..

[@catparksworld1329]

Love this topic and conversation. I have an unrelated question! When men you’re not interested slide in your DMs showing you attention repeatedly that are not high value men should you ignore the person or respond rejecting them in a classy way?

[@yadi5808]

Loved this video, Thank you for speaking with such Grace and peace.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you love!

[@yadi5808]

@@drmichelledaf 💗

[@JWoods.Prov31]

Thank you for making space for this content. Thank you for having the courage. 🥰

[@drmichelledaf]

Aww you are most welcome love!

[@Iris-jm1pe]

There she is 🧡 thanks for another video!

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for watching sweetie!

[@karenmupondi2659]

Thank you Dr Michelle. I love love your content and it has changed my life. ❤️❤️

[@Aye_cutie24]

Perfect timing! I needed this ❤

[@MiindGames]

This is an important lesson. Thank you.

[@drmichelledaf]

Glad it was helpful! You're most welcome love

[@juwimoosa415]

Please do a video on Boundaries with Family .. Thank you!

[@Restyoursoul287]

I wish I heard this earlier in life, thank you Dr. Daf!

[@drmichelledaf]

You're very welcome love!!

[@jucxox]

I am so thankful to have received this message. God bless you.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for watching babe. God bless you too 💋

[@jenniferebikemedeki7354]

I loved this, your words are really soothing and encouraging. God bless you

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you sweetheart, I am happy to hear that

[@lizalovebyt7842]

I am really inspired by this session thanks Dr. Michwele Daf

[@drmichelledaf]

Glad to hear it. Thanks for watching!

[@daianasantana4946]

This came at the perfect time! Thank you for the reminder 🙏🏼

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for watching babe

[@NamubiruSauda]

Woooow thank you so much

[@ItsTishira]

Such a beautiful message and video. Thank you! 💗

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you so much honey

[@naysibanda3840]

we love you so much .thank you so much for this

[@Themadamdivine]

Thank you I love your channel ❤️❤️

[@flyhaileecopter]

Thank you for your words of wisdom ❤❤

[@drmichelledaf]

You're welcome babe

[@devinedaughter5960]

I am not afraid of my bf leaving if he wanted to leave I would peacefully let him. Although that peace will not be reciprocated. I lay out everything in the beginning and he has walked all over my boundaries and when I bring it up or voice my opinion he gets completely stupid and acts like a child, he is argumentative and mean and destructive anytime something uncomfortable comes up. I can’t speak about anything on my mind ever, it’s gotten so bad I don’t say anything anymore just to keep the peace. No I am not mean no I do not attack I just simply talk. I’m scared to open my mouth no matter how much it’s killing me on the inside bc he will go ballistic/out of control. I want to leave but I have no money to leave nor anywhere to go.

[@Bre-bo6nd]

That’s a narcissist for you.

[@kathrynsandum5969]

This sounds really difficult and I’m sorry you have to go through it. Ifyou have family that is not abusive reaching out to them for help is a very courageous step. If that’s not an option, there are often centers to help women leaving dangerous relationships that can help you in the short term.

[@luxuryprincess3615]

Beautiful content 👌🏽

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you sweetie!

[@Iamkarensafo]

soooooo goooood!

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for watching babe 💋

[@lavish169]

You are so amazing

[@drmichelledaf]

Aww thank you honey!

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[@drmichelledaf]

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[@shanthedoll]

Thank you💕

[@drmichelledaf]

You’re welcome babe 😊

[@juliannaokike3359]

If someone still picking on you from 3 years ago you they have issues.

[@noname-tj3rp]

Thank you xxxx

[@drmichelledaf]

You are so welcome love

[@lmusima3275]

There was a so called dating coach who insisted that women in their early twenties should focus on settling down as the market gets tougher when they’re older. There’s no thought about getting experience in life, no thoughts on setting boundaries and having standards. He’s not interested in all that just that we women should simply settle down as early as possible or die alone. I stopped listening to his emotionally blackmailing advice

[@juliannaokike3359]

What if you have a several people in your life who over copy's you.

[@drmichelledaf]

Consider it a compliment

[@piulamena1088]

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[@lillijoseph5896]

Just a feedback comment. (I had airpods in) The video sound is really low. I have to turn it up 90% to hear it but when an ad come on, it literally blasts in my ears. No shade to your voice it’s beautiful. But adjust the sound please

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you for the feedback love

[@kitakittykat]

This is so good!

[@divine_john]

Thank you ❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

You’re welcome love 😊