Modern Day Relationships | Managing Personal Space in Joint Family Life

Understanding Modern-Day Relationships | Managing Personal Space in Traditional Family Life ‪@MOMKAST‬
1:40 - Introduction to the topic of modern day relationships
2:12 - Doubts about being right or wrong in modern contexts
2:39 - Discussion on the biggest challenges in modern relationships
3:30 - Breaking generational trauma cycles
4:13 - Examples of generational trauma in parenting
4:46 - Impact on gender roles, family dynamics, and expectations
5:30 - Expectations and realities of marriage
6:28 - Lack of questioning traditional expectations in their marriage
7:17 - Difficulties of breaking generational trauma and imprinting in DNA
8:20 - Facing the cycle of generational trauma
12:01 - Cultural beliefs about women's roles and challenges
12:56 - Awareness and self-reflection in addressing cultural norms
13:40 - Mentioning personal feelings of fear and insecurity.
14:00 - Overcoming fear and insecurity
14:11 - Importance of knowing yourself and your habits.
15:33 - What Islam says about personal well-being.
16:23 - How being self-aware helps in therapy and personal growth.
17:06 - Traditional views on marriage and gender roles.
17:59 - Societal views on men expressing emotions.
19:11 - Societal pressure on marriage and expectations.
19:46 - Marriage expectations and societal views.
20:53 - How isolation affects relationships.
21:46 - Challenges women face in relationships.
23:24 - Reconnecting with the true idea of marriage.
24:07 - Emotional isolation and its effects on relationships.
24:39 - Impact of avoiding emotions on relationships.
25:07 - How men’s reduced roles affect family dynamics.
26:20 - Comparison of gender roles to societal divisions
27:19 - Importance of breaking gender roles for better relationships.
28:25 - Effect of emotional avoidance on partners.
29:02 - Social awareness and its role in improving relationships.
30:42 - Following Islamic teachings in relationships.
31:05 - Maintaining relationships and societal expectations.
35:12 - Influence of religious teachings on society.
36:06 - Questioning societal norms and interpretations.
In this video, we explore the complexities of modern relationships within traditional settings, shedding light on the tension between old cultural norms and contemporary values. We discuss the impact of inherited patriarchal beliefs and how they clash with today’s understanding of gender roles and marital dynamics. Figures like Noman Ali Khan, who advocate for a more practical and spiritually integrated approach to Islam, challenge outdated interpretations that often perpetuate inequality. We dive into how questioning these traditional views can help break cycles of trauma and misinterpretation, particularly regarding gender roles in marriage.
The video also addresses the struggles of setting personal boundaries within traditional family environments. For instance, the misconception that treating your spouse well might undermine your relationship with your mother reveals deep-rooted issues in family dynamics. This often stems from historical patterns where women were treated as property, affecting how relationships are managed today. We emphasize the importance of personal boundaries and open communication in navigating both joint and nuclear family settings. By confronting ingrained norms and fostering mutual respect, we can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Join us for a thoughtful discussion on improving relationship dynamics and embracing a more respectful approach to modern family life.
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[@Saqlain.242]

Really Loved it. Meri shaadi honY wali hai, aur start se he mein ye sochta tha "I will break the cycle". Finally Aj ap donu ko dekh kr bohat axha lga. Is podcast sY mein jo lesson le kr ja rha hOon wo ye k "Ap Jb bhi kuch Sahi krnY ki koshish kro gY apko relatively more challenges face krnY pren gY. But ap ko haar nhi maan'ni chahiYe. Despite all the challenges, you just have to do the right thing."

[@MOMKAST]

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[@binishhussain_soundachievers]

You both are speaking my mind. Continue on this path. Our generation has suffered and is done with. To break the cycle is tough. I tried to do what I could. Alhumdulillah. But hearing this from a younger generation is very refreshing and hopeful. ❤ JazakAllah khair.

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Thank you so much

[@pkay786]

What a lovely conversation. Thoroughly enjoyed it. Found many life instances to connect with. Thank you so much.

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[@monkeye8658]

keep it up momkast

[@Dumawix]

Valuable thought provoking realistic

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Thanks for the appreciation

[@khawarnadeem3331]

Very nice conversation. You have provided valuable information.

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Thanks please share

[@chmaqsood3658]

Mind blowing really......dears, discussion about a sensitive topic of our society......great

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thanks - please share the word

[@bikeNdietVlogs]

Aoa,bohat khoub jeety raho,khush raho ap log❤......ye jung mere ander b chal rahi hy...aap ki batain sun k laga k main aapny dil ki batain apki zuban se sun rahi hun...Allah pak asaniyan atta farmaye...

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Ameen

[@sarahkhan5993]

Amazing discusion. 👍

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Thanks for listening

[@amnavajhi5555]

What was the book you mentioned please share link

[@minhajraza6740]

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[@medfreak]

I have lived in abroad since beginning. After watching this podcast i dont know it has made me scared.i really wanted to have my MIL live with us whenever allah wants but what if it will cause problems 💔 because she had a v emotionally deficient relationship

[@MOMKAST]

Every situation is different, hope Allah wills what is best for you , your family and your MIL

[@theredomar]

honestly speaking I was following along but then the guy said that he doesn't believe that there are gender roles in islam with all due respect your opinion doesn't matter when there is a consensus amongst scholars

[@MOMKAST]

If you had not stopped listening and might be read a couple of books on Seerah, you would know that beside the provider role of man, all other life skills and roles are gender nuetral. Both men and women will be answerable to Allah fir their social, civic and religious duties

[@theredomar]

@@MOMKAST the fact that men are given the responsibility of qawwam dictates gender roles this doesn't mean that you box yourself within that role only, if there is a need for you to step out of that role and help out in other roles is not the problem, the problem is to confuse people by making it seem that there are no gender roles after all there is a reason why Allah appointed the men as the qawwam

[@انابیہ-س5ص]

جب تک میاں بیوی شریعت کے مطابق زندگی نہیں گزاریں گے اس وقت تک مسائل ہوتے رہیں گے ۔۔

[@mianzarrar3796]

Msail hoty hai is liye treeqay sikhai gay hai. Msail kbi khtm nai hoskty. Pakistani jazbati pan chordo.

[@BrotherVibs]

Ap batay Kon C Aisi shariat Hai jissa masail ni hogay pls batay

[@MOMKAST]

true

[@MalikTalhaZafar-zp8zd]

​@@mianzarrar3796Agreed

[@muhammad_ebad]

Bhai tu mard shariat ke mutabiq zindagi guzarein ghar ke kaamo mein haath btaein aurton ka Nabiﷺ tu apne saare kaam khud hi krte the ye hmary deen hi ki taaleemat hein

[@sdbnkikhan5012]

Great

[@improvelivingandlearning]

I said same maan or bivi main balance nai hota bivion main kahan krna hai

[@MOMKAST]

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[@She581]

Obviously Shadi khushi Kay liyay kartay hain. Shadi lafz ka matlab hai khushi. I am Masters in Business Studies but I don’t work. My husband doesn’t want me to work . I am very happy. Agar koi mard ghar ka kam nahi karta , koi masla nahi. My father , Chacha, Mamoon never did. Koi masla nahi tha, their wives never had any issues. Issues , divorces tou ajkal ki generation mein hai.

[@MOMKAST]

Issue kaam ka nahi, izzat ka hai, khayal ka hai

[@shaziakhan5179]

Different era different situations & difficult solution u both doing good work, motivation is important for new generation well explanation

[@MOMKAST]

Thanks for the support! You're right-every era has its own challenges.

[@TAR-t7d]

Mian biwi ko waqt k taqazay k sath badalna hoga

[@MOMKAST]

true

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[@MOMKAST]

Apka itna waqt nikal k ye mashwara denay ka shukriya. dono ka matlab aik hi hota hai