Modern Moms vs Old Fashioned Moms: 9 things we are doing wrong.

[@slowishparenting]

What’s one thing you want to do differently as a mom?

[@lawaincooley6788]

I have 4 young homeschooling children. I'm overwhelmed sometimes. I need to set more boundaries for myself to take time for my self care. I just roll out of bed and start the day. I always used to shower and get ready when I worked. Showers wake me up. I

[@myperspective4U2C]

To be more present, I had 6 kids in 12 years back to back, and got caught up in the busy, burnt out mom mode where I feel soooooooooo far behind and can never catch up ( to what actually ? Your guess is as good as mine but it's an aggressive feeling.) It's hard to be present, and when I am my to-do list catches up really quick. So I start off with 15 mins a day and soon I will increase the time but for now it's an improvement.

[@TheImperfectReader]

I am in my preparation year from chid free to a mom/foster mom.

[@slowishparenting]

@@lawaincooley6788 I hear you on this!! I still find myself getting up with the kiddos on sleepless nights.. I'm with you on the fact that showers are awesome for waking you up! I hope you are able to find a way to do this!!

[@slowishparenting]

@@myperspective4U2C I struggle with being present more often than I would like to admit. Gosh it's so hard!!! Thank you for taking the time to comment ❤

[@carrieloewenstein2040]

I fasted from my phone for advent,. I couldn’t believe how much extra free time and energy I had from not being on my phone. I will just leave it in a drawer or another room when I’m with my kids. Also, I noticed that sometimes you just need to sit in silence during the few minutes where you would have been on your phone. It was very difficult at first. I don’t think we are used to silence anymore, but it’s so refreshing and rejuvenating. I think our brains need a break from the constant Content and news we get on our phones. I will be making my phone fast permanent.

[@Jennifer-1724]

I seriously need this 😩

[@slowishparenting]

I love how you mentioned putting it in the drawer. I'm going to try that!! Sometimes even if I put my phone away... I will see it and start thinking of my million thing to-do list...... and I haven't even picked up my phone!! Out of sight... out of mind! Love it ❤️

[@slowishparenting]

I'm so glad this encouraged you!!

[@carrieloewenstein2040]

@ you can do it! Fasting from your phone makes you feel like you have your brain back.

[@APlay-BasedHomeschool]

Great video! I don't use social media with the exception of KZbin. I've had to set boundaries around KZbin as well. 1. Only listen to videos when driving alone in the car. 2. While cleaning house and my children are not present. 3. I don't follow or give my attention to channels that make me feel less than. 4. No KZbin when with my children. 5. No KZbin in bed. 6. No KZbin while eating/ showering 7. No KZbin when I'm already feeling overwhelmed. Manytimes I prefer silence over hearing someone else's opinions and values. As a homeschooling working mom it's easy to get distracted online. I love my work outside of the home because it's in education of young children but my priority are my children. The most important work I will ever do is within the walls of our home.

[@RaqVA]

This is such a great list of boundaries. I didn’t have an official resolution for 2025 but I think your comment struck a chord of what I need (and really want) for myself and our home!

[@APlay-BasedHomeschool]

@RaqVA It's a work in progress but having guidelines helps. I hope you benefit from setting perimeters as much as I have. 💚

[@slowishparenting]

Thank you for sharing!! This is so good. I know other moms will read this and feel inspired. Something I struggled with in the beginning was ideas of when/how to set these kind of boundaries.. so I appreciate you sharing them here.

[@AmosArt01]

I just wanted to say that I appreciate that you recognized single parents. Families are so diverse and we should be very mindful to be inclusive when we talk about family units. I hope that everyone who is a parent or is in a parenting role feels seen and cared for as you listen.

[@slowishparenting]

Gosh, Absolutely!! Thank you for acknowledging this.. I appreciate you being here!!!

[@sistersophya6456]

Wow.. This may have been obvious to others but, I've never considered making the room more dim during dinner. Thank you for sharing that tidbit 🤗

[@Amgirl03]

Yes, well said. Ignore the judgement when you turn to The Most High and how he made our role in motherhood including learning. Some people in these certain industries and system will try to exploit any insecurity you have in order to use to their advantage and goals whether it is selling you things or getting you to do something to uphold their goals with no reguard to your personal and family values and may just project their own onto you😊

[@slowishparenting]

This is so so so true. I feel like no one cares about the well being of others. It's transactional. Ugh. Thanks for sharing!!!

[@jamiestanley9234]

I’m not sure why this was suggested to me but I’m glad I watched it. I will say I hope no one is looking to “influencers” on the internet for advice. I do appreciate experts and the value they have in society. For instance, I’m glad my son’s doctor went to school to learn the things I don’t know. These people are important and can help you make wise decisions. Just as if I have a question about something spiritually, I go to my pastor, not someone on the internet. I think we need these people and we also need to trust our instincts as well. I truly believe that as mamas we are doing what we think is best and I bet most of our kids will turn out great!

[@slowishparenting]

I hear feel this so deeply. Unfortunately, so many moms (including myself at one point).. find themselves obsessed with what moms on the internet think. I wish it wasn’t that way. That’s my heart behind this channel, to give moms the confidence to step trust their motherly intuition.. and let that be what guides them to taking the next step in any situation. I’m glad you are here… and thank you for taking the time to comment ❤️

[@thelaurenanya]

A few of these points really hit home…thanks for sharing this.

[@slowishparenting]

I'm glad it resonated with you!! Thank you so much for being here!!

[@Ana_Cecilia615]

I am so on board for all of this. I deleted all social media a year ago and haven't felt any urge to return. Now I'm taking an online class LOL and I have the time because I don't waste it scrolling anymore. It's school work, podcasts, and audio books since sitting to read only happens at nap or their bedtime.

[@slowishparenting]

I love that detoxing from social media led you to doing something you are more passionate about. Thanks for being here and sharing ❤️

[@sirenmaiden27]

I literally give my kid everything I am every single day do all the things around the house and make the money and I’m exhausted all the time even when everything is balanced it’s hard no matter what but it’s worth it

[@slowishparenting]

I hear you. Balancing everything is so hard. But what a beautiful perspective.. to see it all as worth it. Thanks for being here ❤️

[@MartinaT95]

Would you mind sharing a must-read list? If you already did never mind i just found you yesterday while my 6 month old was contact napping

[@slowishparenting]

This has been on my list!! Here is my Amazon Storefront (it has all my most recommended books there!). But I do want to do an in depth video soon. Thanks for being here.. I hope you continue to enjoy my channel ❤️

[@slowishparenting]

www.amazon.com/shop/blessourlittles?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_NZ71GY8VZED6R1PTS34C

[@thelaurenanya]

Do you have a list of all the books you mention and recommend?

[@slowishparenting]

The easiest way to find them all is in my Amazon Storefront, I hope this helps ❤ www.amazon.com/shop/blessourlittles?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_SJHW1KQG8G5NKSR9MR8G