21 Signs That He's Just Not That Into You

[@melaniewohl3751]

The guy that I like hit every point in this video. I should move on

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Meh if you see the signs and you're not truly happy then that may be the best solution!! xo

[@nedaweng8750]

Same

[@queenpebbles6396]

I was struggling diverting my attention to what you were saying because I was too busy staring in awe at your hair

[@ModernDayShivalry]

hahah oh my, the extensions weren't working for me this day!

[@GuayEsBlanca]

idk why but i see sadness in her eyes in this video

[@ModernDayShivalry]

+Blanca Sánchez I was heartbroken :(

[@mallorynurrenbern4564]

+ModernDayShivalry why😓 I am very compassionate

[@flightneedsanupgrade]

+ModernDayShivalry *hugs you* Girl, you deserve someone better. If he's not going to spend much more time with you then forget him. he's not worth it.

[@bromontana8100]

It's not because she's sad It's because she's communicating to a Vague audience. She doesn't entitle her market towards leadership alpha female and success . If you notice how she's communicating, it's not with intent, she does not possess the buyers frame. Also she is not communicating with passion, but monotonous frequencies.... Who would want to listen to advice from someone who does not feel good about what they are trying to advise?..

[@ModernDayShivalry]

lol so in depth, thanks for trying to analyze my feelings and actions but you're completely wrong. At that time, which was long ago I was going through something I've never been through before, an experience that no one can analyze and try and to judge, it was one of my lowest points at a young women in my personal life. You're opinion is valuable but also incorrect in this case. Everyone has a right to listen or to ignore and believe what they want to believe and agree to disagree. If it works for you it works, if it doesn't it doesn't. I don't need to communicate to your standards in order to get my feelings across. I was most def at my lowest state during the time of this video and to have someone like you come on the internet and have full faith that I wasn't upset is disgusting. I hope one day you really think before you judge someone without even trying to relate. Thanks.

[@dystanysamuel8535]

You know what I hate when you finally gave the guy attention and stared texting, then he stop texting you out of no where.

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Dystany Samuel Preach!!

[@JBangVlogs]

Dystany Samuel maybe he got tired of texting you first all the time lol (its an issue)

[@dystanysamuel8535]

Mhm..Maybe.

[@dystanysamuel8535]

Jonny Bang update on the guy yeah...we just stop texting & had move on.

[@sandrikaifyguapa]

+Dystany Samuel Oh my God, I can relate, this just happend to me a week ago... but well I moved on, no more texting first again or anything like that.

[@farahs8066]

WATCHING THIS ALL AND DAMN IT HURTS. IT STINGS.

[@eemaanharris3177]

I feel ya pain

[@ModernDayShivalry]

[@sacheverelle]

You gotta wait til the right one comes along. Don't change for no one!

[@kajolina21]

i cried. it hurts. i just.. ugh i dont even know anymore..

[@taetaeharoom2460]

:(

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Give it time, honestly the best advice I've ever received!

[@szatkown]

They’re called fuck boys and they do what they do because if they were just themselves, you wouldn’t be interested. They’re typically bad, selfish lovers and can’t keep you interested. There are many videos out there that expose these losers and teach you how to spot and avoid.

[@redfather5342]

Get over it bitch the world does not revolve around you

[@angeljili8807]

you look like a cross between Selena Gomez and Kylie Jenner

[@sergiemontinez3597]

mmmm not selena she has a much different looks shes beautiful but nothing like selenas beauty

[@abirrocks6916]

truuue

[@bsimmone]

Or Vanessa Hudgens

[@mayra_7029]

I was thinking the same thing and was about to comment that but I believe Selena Gomez and Lucy Hale.

[@ek6522]

She reminds me of Lucy Hale

[@Skylardietsche]

It hurt listening to this... :( 21/21 deadset. We can be so fucking oblivious.

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Nah, guys just need to be more straight forward! xo

[@fragilendfrantic]

You're someone who would be amazing to just talk to for hours. You have awesome things to say andI agree with you. Loved this.

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Thank girly

[@nicolewillis945]

Even though we are years apart, you just helped a 40 something year old woman realize just how much a man she is crazy about is just so not into her!!! On your list of 21 things I lost count of how many applied to my situation!! I get it, I really really get this time!!! Thank you so much!!!!!

[@chacharas81]

WATCH IT OUT SISTERS!.... some guys do the oposite, they seem to be completely into us and they will fake it, just to get what they want. Its key, always to know the person a little bit longer than usual, I promise the mask will come off veeeeery soon. And if he is genuinely a good man, it will also show! Good luck to all of us! =)

[@dis_not_mah_name9057]

That could be good but... Ugh I don't know Enimore

[@dis_not_mah_name9057]

I wish that's true

[@brittniish]

I just wanna say thank you so much for this. I've been dealing with a guy who has shown all 21 of these signs for the past three years. I was being a stubborn teenage girl. I opened up my eyes a little and started seeking the Internet for help cause I felt like no one was giving me the right advise. this video helped so much and I appreciate that you made it. ❤️❤️❤️

[@ModernDayShivalry]

You make my heart melt, proud of you girly! You're much stronger than you think :)

[@maddieslifestyle]

Needed this haha! So embarrassed that I didn't see the signs :)

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Don't be! And of course every guy is different, I ca be completely wrong about some things

[@itsvogel]

oh girl, I can definetely relate to almost all of what you mentioned,made me cry, ''It's amazing what women in love will do'' Thank you so much, this was very helpful, blessings gorgeous x

[@jonah2699]

Ale Vogel same as I your be shit loving too much for him it's hard to move because we too much nice fucking moments .....so damn

[@DanniRox999]

The moment you realise he does all of these things... Why the fuck have I wasted 2 months of my life? I've become so distracted with this one guy (who clearly doesn't give a shit) that I'm no longer doing so well in uni and I've neglected my family and friends! I'm such an idiot.

[@mikkim2452]

You'll be okay! Do something that will distract your mind from him!!

[@nishisaxena4831]

So Gracie I can so relate ... he gives me mixed signals and I waste my time thinking about him

[@vionickvoss7978]

Why do we always get ourselves intertwined with guys like them. In the end its us (me) who feels used like sh*t in the end. Its simple to tell ourselves to walk away but doing its hard to do😢

[@ModernDayShivalry]

It's hard, that's true but it's not impossible :)

[@letishaoundo7472]

It's hard am trying but I can't 🙁

[@safiyam3]

most of those signs happen to all of us but we all just have to learn from our mistakes and give importance to ourselves after it. Really learning to love myself more now tbh and its great

[@sincman]

How in the world have you ever had to experience any of this. Are guys insane! You are absolute perfection!

[@ModernDayShivalry]

No ones perfect but thank you!

[@ModernDayShivalry]

I wouldn't say perfection, everyones got their own path and we all find it eventually!

[@thepeaceigive]

I swear every sign was pointing to him liking me and then all of a sudden it seems like he has no interest in me at all... Idk what happened

[@elizabethpresley777]

It's good to see such a smart young girl who wants to help other girls. More girls need to listen to this advice because boys only really want one thing. It will save you from the heartache after being used. Save yourself for someone who will really respect you and give you all his time, it will be obvious! He will look into your eyes, hold your hand all the time, and want to know everything about you, and never want to make you cry. My true love did. May he rest in peace...

[@sigucs9]

You look like Selena Gomez 😳

[@lourensway]

And one of the kerdashians i even don't know how to spell their name 😂😂😂

[@amandaokonkwo226]

+EarthUnity maybe even Lucy Hale from pll

[@lesleymbuyikayembe7553]

I thinking same thing :O

[@yjung1745]

+sigga 209 WHAT I THOUGHT

[@MariaGreenAmber]

simply your not his priority..

[@saramarika5726]

Many of the signs you mention can also be liek the guy is insecure about your feelings towards him, or him being very shy as a person or that he is trying to make you jealous. Trust me, guys are waaay more complicated than we think they are. That's definately something I have learned.

[@donaldweedy5057]

not really. grab me a beer and some food and i will love you :)

[@tiadaniels3356]

*hugs you* I can feel the sadness in this vid. Thanks for the tips.

[@crln746]

I watched the video. Then I scroll down to the comments and the first one I mentioned was the one saying "I see her sadness" - I did too. And I see you answer it with this heartbroken-thing... And I'm just omg how can that be? It's just so hart to believe that such a beautiful person as you are would be rejected... And I think you are exactly talking about this stupid guy in this video. I know, it passed a lot time, but I hope you're still not that sad as you looked. Because I think you don't have to. You're beautiful *-* And you have a great heart

[@taetaeharoom2460]

.... my heart hurts so much

[@hellopandabuddy]

you'll be okay, it'll get better 💓

[@finchdrp]

Yeah... :( mine as well. Too bad

[@marcogonzalez1108]

Taetae Haroom you need to get that checked out you maybe entitled to a compensation

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Surround yourself with friends and family it really helps xo

[@HausOfAdonis]

Taetae Haroom ❤️

[@jennmerkabah2757]

the statement of emotional attachment is spot on! This chick seems very aware but also not self confident. she is lovely. She seems actually quite shy. Thanks for your vid. from Down Under💞

[@loree5160]

it sucks because everything she just said is relatable. OUCH💔 What have I gotten myself in to?

[@ModernDayShivalry]

We learn from what we go through xo don't worry!!

[@verab2700]

I’m dealing with this right now! Talking about ex girlfriends, complimenting them and not me! WTF! Only was told I’m beautiful the first night we met. I am so hurt. I’m going to stay single. Not worth dating anymore. 😢

[@ten25.]

guys suck just the fact that someone this beautiful is going through this shows that men aren't shit

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Some are, most aren't :)

[@shanealwilson3722]

I feel your pain girl, I'm in the same situation right now … 😭 Great video loved all of it!! ❣

[@rayhibdon9960]

I needed to open my eyes so thank you.. it sucks but I needed a reality check...😔

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Giiiiirl don't sweat it, experience is what it takes! We learn from what we go through :)

[@sarahrubbeck6291]

Your so beautiful. Pain in your heart, tears in your eyes, but a smile on your face and a mouth that's trying to caution us about the things you must had experienced

[@redfather5342]

Simp alert

[@emilyw.6022]

That shitty moment when the guy leaves you & doesn't want to talk to you again... After all the things you've been through with him. And all the effort you put in to the relationship you had with him, whether it was just being friends or thinking of each other as a little bit more than friends. He plays games more than he ever talked to me. And sometimes when he did talk to me, I could hear him playing games in the background. *sighs* I even drove up to his house (2 hours away from me) and we hung out (it was amazing, but he didn't really do the things he told me he said he would do, as in hug me or kiss me). He left me before, and came back... And I still went to his place... He invited his friends so I was hanging out with 3 other girls and 1 other guy. I just can't believe he left me again after less than 5 days since I saw him. Why are guys so frustrating?

[@Just-defy4740]

I've gotten mixed messages from my crush's body language and it has confused the hell out of me.

[@ANGIECUTIEEPU2]

I'm confused what if a guy is not interested in a relationship. But,calls you beautiful?

[@ANGIECUTIEEPU2]

+Bekah L. Thank you :) and I will

[@vmm5163]

Bekah L. Love your comment

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Take the compliment and take over the world baby girl!

[@yamunashree2589]

He may use u... If u carry on... Just say thanks n ignore

[@MissMjWilson]

You are so sweet and down to earth...I loved this video!

[@ModernDayShivalry]

MissMjWilson Thank you!

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Thank you

[@idapedersen8276]

I had a girl friend that had friends with benefits and she never got emotionally attached to him/them. I couldn't do it myself though. Sex is supposed to be meaningful in my opinion, but I don't judge.

[@silviaturrubiate4515]

Awe I actually experienced most of those signs. Wish I knew this two years ago. Thanks so much, it made me think about my last relationships. Now I know there was signs he just wasn't in to me. Can't wait to see you in more videos! ❤

[@rebeccaboland4893]

this literally made me cry

[@theYTExperimentJ]

Girl, #9 is so SPOT on.

[@rashidawatson4781]

Love your hair!!!

[@carigarcia05]

Omg totally love your hair

[@vivienvettorel883]

Thank you for making me realise that a guy put me into a friend zone :)

[@tutyhutabarat390]

How come? You make me cryin' from the start to the end of this video. It hurts me so much.

[@kandybennet8847]

THIS GIRL IS GORGEOUS

[@julianacatacombs3983]

These are so true! Anyone who doesn't tell YOU that you are beautiful is purposely withholding the information!

[@sirinedhouibi6110]

this is sooooo emotional i cried watching this. i've been through all this

[@nicoledoesnotcare7143]

The pat on the back hug always

[@SyneadToomeyMusic]

This is spot on! I've experienced a lot of these myself, it sucks, but at least we know what to look for next time :P

[@maiyang6331]

The guy that played me last year fits in almost all of these😂

[@RedHairBarbie]

Girl you hit the nail on the head with everyone of these- thanks ;) very helpful

[@vanessamartinez4626]

Thanks sweety. I'm 40 something and I've been going thru all this with a guy I really liked for 3 months. I keep making excuses for why he does what he does but your video is good advice.

[@bellakari28]

Thank you for this video, It cleared so much up for me. Time to stop stressing over this particular person.

[@tiffanyg2010]

thank you for this.. alot of these signs cleared up so much..

[@ffriidass]

love your hair guuuurl!!! & your videos, keep it up!!

[@future4you]

These are great tips as a guy sometimes a girl I'm not attracted to at all keeps bugging me. Thank you for showing how to tell her to F off in a subtle way.

[@bellarose98]

i wish i saw this before i my heart got broken... and this depression and the dissapointment tho

[@mikoda94]

I asked the guy I'm with if his friends know who I am in relation to him. He said that it's "obvious they know" who I am to him, but he just wouldn't flat out say that they know I'm his girlfriend. He's broken my heart before, but he seems more serious about me. I just don't know what's really going on in his head. Am I wasting my time with him? I'm afraid of him hurting me again, and I'm also afraid of breaking up with him 😢😭

[@hildafletcher2591]

These words of wisdom are perfect for me, eliminating the homework part. Thank you !

[@stephaniesmith91ss]

what if it's been 13 years of a friendship and flirting... how do you cut him off bc that's a long time to just let go of all of it. and when you don't really have friends there to support you or a good way to distract yourself?

[@anisah.5388]

Wow, I'm in so much denial. Lord my heart is going to be permanently broken....

[@anna-878]

Ur completly right. Thanks for beeing fantastic woman. Nice to hear that we , woman, matters

[@MJlibbyforlife]

This is on point, needed to watch this...

[@farahinzolkafli6367]

you are so pretty. love the personality :3

[@spicyrosezas2683]

I don't know why..sometimes I feel his jealousy when I'm with other man.. sometimes I feel like he just ignore me..sometimes he start to text me..sometimes he just read my text but no reply..what is the hell of that ?

[@mayaaag6274]

why would he be texting your mom your sister your grandma or your bff

[@mayaaag6274]

but you're sooooo😱 pretty

[@joselaloz]

some of this things I agree but the others I think you have to see the other way, for example, if you just met him 2 weeks ago and you feel his interest but with his friends he say you are a friend, imagine if you see him as a friend and he tells everybody you are his gf?, that would be really awkward I think...

[@Inkio01]

What if your crush is the type that you don't really know and don't really talk to and I'm the type that doesn't dare to chase?

[@jennyrosen1548]

Stay strong beautiful you will find the right one I'm 100% sure of that! And thank you you really opened my eyes cos I was in such an emotionally situation. Thank you for making girls in those situations strong and thank you again for responding by Instagram you really made my day 💋 love you gorgeous

[@wafaaifkirn2625]

All of this is happening to me rn . it really hurts

[@DJ-ml8lu]

If I were to always be a "friend" to him then I don't wanna be friends at all. I can't be "friends" with someone I really like.💯👋

[@redfather5342]

Haha ya got friendzoned

[@PhuongNguyen-ds6uj]

Girl you are beautiful and it seems like you have a lot of love to give, which is amazing. I hope it gets better for you cuz you deserve it!

[@Valerieeee352]

you're so beautiful thank you for your video and for helping us girls struggling

[@donnarose1593]

you are 100% RIGHT!!!! Please make more relationship advices videos!!!!!

[@hemmocake4490]

I watched the whole video. It made me cry:( you're so beautiful♥

[@tweetie908]

wow needed this years ago!! LOL great tips! :)

[@ModernDayShivalry]

ME TOO lol

[@jiakhan4061]

please do a hair tutorial as well

[@bidyaranikonjengbam3456]

yeah it seems like he doesn't like me......he texts me sometimes and he never compliment me on any of my pictures but he does compliment on other girls picture.......he asked my number but does not call me at all.......is it clear that he is not into me?

[@MsCuteVideos]

Just from experience go into not caring so your expectations don't make you crazy

[@mixedprincess91]

I know when a guy isn't into me. I have a couple of male friends, Adam and Larry, who I think don't truly care about me. They say they do, but I don't believe them. They sometimes ignore me, sometimes don't say a lot to me, don't always stick to their promises, make up excuses, and rarely like or comment on my posts. Larry is more rude than Adam. I sometimes usually initiate the conversations and I've told Larry to make it fair. We should alternate initiating the conversations. When we text or message each other, he sometimes only types one word replies or very short replies. I've told him the shows he doesn't care about me. He said he won't do it again, but he continues to. When Larry and I first met, he used to message me and text me a lot, but he doesn't that much anymore. I guess he is not interested in me anymore, even though he says he is interested. Adam, on the other hand, is the opposite. When Adam and I first met, he and I didn't talk that much and then, we started talking more and getting to know each other more. I feel like both of these guys don't care about me and I should stop being their friend.

[@ModernDayShivalry]

Maybe time to find some new friends! Friends should always treat each other right! I don't know the whole history behind these two gentlemen but I hope everything works out for the best xo

[@mixedprincess91]

ModernDayShivalry You are right and I sometimes feel like not being their friend anymore. I can give you a brief history. I met both of these men on Facebook through mutual friends and we have been friends for a few years. They both live in different states and we have never met in person. We have talked on the phone and video chatted a few times, but they are both shy like me. They make up excuses saying they are busy or they didn't get my messages if they ignore me. I don't believe them and think they just didn't want to talk to me. I hope the best works out for us too.

[@wrkin90044]

Thanks for this.

[@crow6221]

Your hair is beautiful.

[@feeasnow4452]

I just watched it now but the things you said were so true and relatable. Thank you so much for doing this , this is like a reminder from girl to girl. Hell, I think I should watch this video every time I want to go to sleep. Bless you and your beautiful soul 😘

[@kirstenn1577]

These signs have appeared in all my previous relationships, but at least not all of them in each one. Oh jeezuz.

[@beatrix_188]

This was so helpful,thank you Shivalry ! :*

[@morgan.shanz1120]

honestly youre so pretty you look like a mix between selena Gomez and Bethany mota

[@rananalyan1999]

??? who thinks she looks like kylie jenner

[@arsinela]

She reminds me of Lucy Hale :)

[@pinkie09999]

Okay so I've been talking to this guy for almost 2 months.. I think haha I dont remember exactly. We have mutual friend. He asked that mutual friend to introduce us to each other. We started switching numbers and texting. He always texted me first, he also came to my workplace twice to just talk to me. We work out at the same gym so thats how we met....He tried to say hi or bye. But.. recently, things have changed. He doesnt text me that often anymore. The first time, he hasn't texted me for a few days and I finally texted him first but it took him a few hours to text back. Then everything was back to normal. the second time he didnt text back until the next day. the last time, he didnt text me back at all. so i decided to move on, but just a few days ago, he texted "hey". OMG.. idk what the hell he is trying to do. It bothers me.. I just wanted to have a face-to-face conversation and ask. Is it necessary? Or should I just forget it? HEEEELPPP

[@gabws1469]

pinkie09999 idk why he is doing this and how it excatly happend to you .. so to be honest i can't be sure about what advice should i tell u but maybe he thought that he is trying overly .. like you're not that into him so he needed to be away for a while to miss him or to see if you care or text him first as he used to do for u or smthng or maybe he's not too serious like a player or smthng cuz sometimes players act like they're super lovers who care bout u all the time and text u always to grab your attension but then they get bored and stop and maybe play around then comeback again they do like this shit all the time .. finally it depends on his personalty the way he talks the way he treats you .. if u like him think first why he did that then decide if it is for the first reason i said before then u can ask him directly

[@ModernDayShivalry]

pinkie09999 Don't take it to personally, some guys when they get comfortable will take their time texting you! Try to see in their perspective just incase they are busy, and have other things to do and simply forget to message first! Plus, a girl should also put in just as much effort, if you leave everything to the guy I'm sure they'll get tired. Take it slow, don't think to much of it :) it's only texting!

[@marialiformoso8582]

Thank you sooo much for this! I really needed something to open my eyes

[@ronsampson1423]

Wow I'm 54 years old and I've been schooled. Allow me to explain. Here in the UK 9 out of 10 men would class you as beautiful, the reason I have never been attracted to the classically beautiful woman as yourself is,; I have been led to believe she always gets her own way and men always want her in every way, (a princess brat) but to learn you've been subjected to what a regular woman has been through shocks me. I thought I knew the game with my faster than average experience but I still know nothing. I've always gone for humble pretty girl next door with a plus size dress size 14-18 ideally

[@grandanse5827]

I refuse to get my heart broken yet again. I've dropped him as of THIS SECOND..before he has a chance to drop me, bc I know it's coming..

[@phebeashton6100]

Love you thank you for this 💜

[@sofibaez6621]

I really needed this, thank you. You are the best

[@yamamanajjar]

thanks for this video it helps me really to understand with who I'm dating which is someone is completely not into me

[@Chocolatelavagirl]

You look like charli xcx

[@deannawashington9126]

Omg Modernday shivalry is so right on with these signs my ex showed most of these signs, all he had to tell me is that he wasnt interested like damn how hard is that 😞👏

[@lisabrown1105]

What if you ask him if he likes you and he tells you you are a great cool girl!!!!???????????????

[@chococookies7292]

The one arm pat...so ducking true ...if his body language is shit, it's shit for you too. Yup!!!

[@francesjames7055]

Signs that he is just not that in to you or you are his 'booty call.' 1. He never takes you on a proper date like the movies or a fancy restaurant......or even McDonalds. 2. You have never met his Mama or his best friend. 3. IF he does let you meet his buddies and they disrespect you, this is a HUGE red flag. His buddies know that you are just his plaything while he is searching for that 'special girl. 4. IF he ALLOWS his buddies to disrespect you, this is another huge red flag. If he was serious about you he would not let ANYONE disrespect you.....not even his best buddy. 5. He always wants to get jiggy at YOUR place, This is because he wants to run outta the door as soon as he has emptied his bag. He DOES NOT want breakfast with you and he sure as hell does not want a conversation with you. You are simply there to be the receptacle for his bodily fluids. 6. From the first time you met him he was TALKING DIRTY to you. This is because he does not RESPECT YOU. Ladies believe me, if a guy is in to you, he will behave like a gentleman because he wants to give a GOOD IMPRESSION. 7. He never gets you a birthday/valentines card or gift. He will tell you that he doesn't believe in that 'nonsense.' What he really means is, "why would I be spending my cash on a Woman who I don't intend being with for much longer?" Ladies, trust me, he is saving his cash for that 'special' Woman that he is searching for. 8. He NEVER asks you any questions about your life, your hopes and dreams, your ambitions, in fact he doesn't even know what your favourite colour is....and guess what? He doesn't want to know because......yep, that's right. You are just the receptacle for his bodily fluids. 9. When you ask him if you figure in his plans for the future he will mumble something along the lines of, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now.....can't we just have fun and not be so serious?" What he REALLY means is, "don't be ridiculous....I ain't got no intention of marrying you." 10. After sex he rolls over an goes to sleep......HUGE RED FLAG GIRLS! He will tell you that he is not in to that 'cuddling thing.' Ladies, trust me on this: If a guy is in to you he will want to be cuddling you ALL THE TIME. Of course if you are happy to be the receiver of his sperm without getting any love or respect in return then that is fine.....if not, walk away as fast as you can.

[@verab2700]

Frances JAMES oh my goodness! You just stated exactly what I am going through right now! I am crying but I needed this wake up call. I feel so used and dumb. Not wasting my time anymore with someone who doesn’t appreciate me!

[@FantageTiffany]

You look like Kylie Jenner