Money in Marriage | We are STILL learning

[@NozibeleQamngana]

Thank you so much for your continued support friends. It is with these real talks that we become better. Its not easy, that I know for sure. But it is with every conversation that we become more aware. As I said to Skhu, I'm grateful that we compliment each other very well. While I struggle to spend money, he reminds me to be more present and aware of TODAY. It is with these intentions that we would like to bring you more of these topics. We are not expects. We just happen to share our experiences freely. God bless you friends.

[@tinysibisi2328]

like how are you not easy to love, when you are this relatable. Thank you 🙏

[@nwabisadyantyis7825]

Please have more convos with uBut’Skhu.

[@musagcilitshana644]

❤❤❤

[@sinegugudube4956]

Insightful, informative, wisdom.. learning soo much from you guys.. SKU at the end: khandphi kiss 😂😂😂

[@BestOfLuck-i7b]

For Bhuti Skhu to open a mentor ship programme for young man.🕯🕯. Every time I watch these videos, I learn so much.

[@pelokazintloko5067]

I support you 100% bhut Siyabonga and to take it a step further ayenze for men and boys bapha emaMpondweni🤞

[@goodnessmosehla8362]

I bet 60% of people watching this are single just like me....but ke such is FAITH, thanks sesi Nozi and malome Skhu for sharing such Wisdom

[@triciakekana]

Some are 5months b4 they tie the knot😂😂😂😂 this is a big lesson shame🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@goodnessmosehla8362]

@@triciakekana Am happy for you babe, keep the lessons

[@triciakekana]

Thanks @Goodness Mosehla do you wana get married?

[@goodnessmosehla8362]

@@triciakekana yes i do want to get married..

[@triciakekana]

Alright, it will happen. I had given up on dating from 2015, until i started last year its our 15th month this month and he paid lobola in February and God makes it happen when the time comes. In due time u will tie the knot.

[@joesoap572]

As a white South African watching this, I admire the empathy with which you approach looking after family members. I appreciate the understanding that your husband has towards you having to look after your mom. I also admire the fact that an old person in your family isn't getting stuck in an old age home. Although it's not always the case that a white person will be stuck in an old age home (my gran lived with my aunt), I agree that the Western outlook on having to look after a family member is a burden. I hope to have the spirit of Ubuntu in my family.

[@sikhumbuzomayaba7549]

We continue to learn, thank you so much❤

[@philasandehlomendlini2493]

Ooh man may God grant you that strength and courage.. #we_keep_learning

[@achatwithgoitse]

I often feel our cultures should meet halfway lol... to both be less extreme

[@lungisanjila1689]

Me and nozi ,same WhatsApp group... budgeting I'm very strict..

[@Nthabee00]

Dear God,i pray for a man with this level of wisdom and intelligence. Amen 🙏🏾

[@coolbeanz9830]

Bhuti Skhumbuzo deserves a permanent spot on this channel 🙏🏾

[@thobilesithole5193]

Plz plz plz

[@mbalilebona9640]

I agree the only time I watch this channel is when Skhu is on, he just brings the perfect vibe to this channel.

[@MsPoxxy]

Kakhulu even if its one video a months that we know it will come with both of them.

[@momofthree5591]

Yes plz....jst make it a couples channel guys plz...

[@sikelelamakatana4650]

Mayaba Academy, raw and unfiltered life lessons!!!

[@khayakazixhayimpi552]

Yhuuuuu Lord plz bless me wth a husband who has the same up bringing nd da mind set ka Siku.... Siku is so like my father... Nozi u are a very lucky Wife❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@achatwithgoitse]

AKERE!!! Hai!

[@ThandazaMK]

Can we just salute these two for the way they communicate!!!!!! Nozi had me when she asked:"Do you think there is often resistance from my side?" Like what maturity is that??? I love this.

[@mslettiemathibe71]

like..!?? Ma'am, healthy much?? she said, im not above being wrong or too much, let me know if i have to turn off the heat (if its making you feel uncomfortable) haai 🙌 kuhle 😭😭🕯🙏

[@ThandazaMK]

@@mslettiemathibe71 lalelaaaa!!!!!!! I'm inspired.

[@zingisagomba7093]

@@mslettiemathibe71 j

[@real_emeldah]

Yeah I love how they respect each other hey

[@zukiswanomdlembu6778]

Heavenly father bless me with the husband that has these.... out of this world mentality, wisdom , respect, genuine , Loving and willing ukuba sisidenge like Buti Skhumbuzo Amen🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@ThandazaMK]

Lalela! When Skhu respected uNoz ngendima ayidlalayo....ai suka madoda. Eminye imizi ichithwa umona between partners, thank you Skhu!!!!! Aiiii kuhealthy lakhaya!!!

[@zenandetemba6146]

I feel that both of you guys are just blessed that you are able to sit down and communicate. Most relationships fail because there is no communication and more and special when I concerns finances. Nozi please Bheja u Uncle Skhu fondini😊

[@nolizagumana8683]

The maturity of Bhut Skhu guys is too much. He fully understand his position as a head of a home, his position as a partner & he respects& appropriate his wife🤞❤️

[@noxolomali]

I think it's fair to say that uBhuthi Skhu deserves a segment on this channel. There's so much wisdom shared on this topic ❤️ love it!

[@sinazonjonga8996]

Skhu explained this very well from a man's perspective. Some families always blames the wife when the man isn't able to meet all his family needs especially sister in laws.

[@ntombiyenhlanhlakunene313]

Exactly hun and if the husband is two faced...the wife will forever be the scapegoat

[@minkz002]

@@ntombiyenhlanhlakunene313 ngempela! Eii men with no backbone should not get married nje. Problems those ones.

[@sinazonjonga8996]

@@ntombiyenhlanhlakunene313 It can even break the marriage, Very sad

[@Marsh_Mel]

What a marriage... I really admire how this man understands his position and role. You are blessed Sis.

[@tshepisolebetsa2801]

Man.. I honestly don’t believe in marriage but Bra Skhu makes it look easy and nice..

[@aphiwemaqashalala333]

Skhu: "Khandi ncamise!" 😂😂😂😂. Thank you for this conversation. I am not married yet but I am really learning a thing or two from this. ❤️❤️

[@matlouc8698]

Me too

[@nomkhulekonxumalo8698]

So much wisdom ♥️We need part 2🥺....on how you draw a budget as a married couple and does one need to have their own individual budget, and how you stick on it

[@amandlamanzana3248]

Skhu's wisdom on this topic is unmatched. Reminds me of my Dad.

[@nozuko5002]

His grey hairs shows his wisdom.. Mara this uncle shares a lot of wisdom on every serious topic they have yazi

[@nwabisadyantyis7825]

Sana he’s the poster child is great Xhosa men

[@ayandam4459]

5 people who disliked this video hv anger issues

[@vfabach2874]

Strusbob....they need Jesus!!!

[@achatwithgoitse]

😂😂😂

[@momofthree5591]

Nangoku what's there not to like???

[@lindokuhlenjoko6615]

Wow I so love this conversation, even though I am not married but I am really learning and will be implementing these things for myself

[@ntombiyenhlanhlakunene313]

I love how both of them appreciate each other's strength...Skhu is definitely one of the few husbands who are 100% behind his wife...that makes Nozi excel too...such a match made in heaven..May God keep them for a long time to pass on advice to the next generation within their families and fortunately they are also sharing with the world ❤

[@khayelihlephakathi1879]

Yoh guys I always feel like I'm part of your family when I watch your videos🥺🔥 I have adopted myself into it and I'm happy to be home❤. I'm a 21 year old boy and I always learn a lot from you two in every section of my life, I appreciate you mom & dad😍

[@nanapozuma5943]

Utshatile nyani Skhumbuzo Utshatile 💯💐 Nozibele u are a the epitome of a humble, beautiful, intelligent, hilarious and blessed Xhosa millennial woman of note. Niyandikhulisa in so many ways. Enkosi kakhulu ❤️

[@zizoqueenzeembasane254]

Uncle Skhu is so wise Bathong🙌❤.. guys can you see how beautiful our sis Nozi is...yhooo umhle losisi😍❤🤗 Sisoloko sifunda kuni thanx kakhulu.. nathi bangeka tshati nisivula amehlo enkosi🙌

[@keleJournal]

Naturally beautiful

[@anithamadangatya6286]

Jonga ndizauthi nditshata ndibe ndigcwele uyeva😍😍🤞 Surely I'll refer my "husband" to the channel one day🙏

[@vfacts8882]

Yeeeees Skhu!!Speaking Facts🤔🤔🤔🤔 "Being an African comes with certain responsibilities "because the reality is The majority of us,don't come from wealthy families. And ones u r successful automatically u ar expect to

[@aphiwevali1856]

I love how you protect each other and ultimately your marriage in how you handle your families. This has been a great and informative video, thank you so much Sis Nozi and Bhut Skhu❤️

[@kyln4714]

In my culture, the male child was expected to take the responsibility of looking after parents, that’s why parents invested more on the male child than the female child. Females were expected to leave the family to go join another family. Females once married, the expectation is that they support their husband’s family. The support to the parents of the wife was just a bonus, usually once or twice a year, whereas to the other side regularly as you would your children. This was because males where the breadwinners. The difficult situation today is our parents are from a generation where males where breadwinners, and today that is not necessarily the case. So vele the parents of the man will have a perception that it’s our son’s money, so you have to give it to us. Unfortunately family dynamics are not always the same, some like my parents only had girls, sometimes the woman is the breadwinner, sometimes they don’t get to leave per se. As a couple in today’s generation, it’s important that you have this discussion before the “I dos”

[@anithamadangatya6286]

😍😍😭then God blessed us with 2 smart human beings in our lives😍😍🤞

[@mslettiemathibe71]

we much count this blessing twice 💃💃

[@mslettiemathibe71]

*must

[@kokengwako3026]

Akere

[@nokuthulathomo34]

We are very blessed Indeed 🙌

[@zanelenxumalo5057]

Absolute great content is like you are 20 yrs married. All i can attribute is you put God first, your authenticity to your own self individuals as a couple family. You truly nation builders.

[@karaboqueneethmohlala383]

Communication is key and you guys are showing us that. Even in your dynamics and clash of opinions, you guys still show that, the answer to all in marriage in general is communication. Even when the topics are difficult to about, but as couples, talking makes things bearable.

[@ziyandaful]

What an intelligent and wise man you've married Nozi yuuh. LIsten your level of maturity is unmatched you guys, wow man!

[@booairmow]

Sis Nozi I’m at that age where I need to take hectic control of my finances. You I inspire me to take a start ♥️I want to secure a comfortable future for myself

[@real_emeldah]

Can't watch these two without laughing and rewinding the video 🤣🤣🤣

[@leratomoeketsi6021]

Am I the only one trying not to skip Ads kodwa the content is just so great that you get so tempted to skip 🤧

[@wyldcat04]

Yeyi it was struggle, but we made it to the end

[@nonjongoplaatjie8764]

When I'm listening to these two adorables I jst skip ads I dont even think twice😅😅😅

[@nonjongoplaatjie8764]

What you are talking about is very important because most marriages today are on rocks ngenxa yemali. Nikhulisa nabantu abadala leeeee kunani ndinixelele mna

[@MathipaChepape]

I am with you

[@muthonirahab3971]

@@nonjongoplaatjie8764 please try not to, content creator are paid via those ads, it's a way to support them to keep creating for us this great content and it's a way to show some appreciation ( we the viewers)

[@real_emeldah]

I love the way Skhu and Nozi respect each other.

[@nhlikihla]

What a great topic to listen to? Even if am not married sheim I've learnt something🤞 thank you guys.. Love you❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@sinalomankayi1844]

Oh kodwa u uncle Skhu❤ uchubekile lomntu🥰

[@ntombekayajabe2068]

Kakhuuuuulu mntase, yhoo

[@patriciawelekazi805]

Asakhe Mayaba no Skhumbuzo Goodman Mayaba thumbs up👌🤣🙏

[@calmingnature_]

Please do a video sometime, where, what to do when your family expert us girls from varsity to build homes whist ther are other siblings doing nothing and even put pressure on us not continue with postgraduate studies but look for work and build... Basically black tax and how to have them understand your goals in life thn building.

[@JabulileMathenjwa]

Nozi has done such a video before. Look through the earlier videos

[@mondz_mondi3322]

Check Ziyanda Mavumengwana "You're okay" is her channel, there is a topic about black tax

[@patriciax8408]

What a wonderful topic. Its because your marriage is so strong you can even have this conversation. Especially us Africans. Nozi you are a strong woman and wife looking to the future but enjoy while you two still can. Your husband is a wonderful man. Take him out for a dirty weekend often😜

[@AL___S]

Nozi is blessed Skhu is such a blessing, his wisdom is out of this world

[@LethoHali]

In my culture it’s what Skhu is saying. The man is the one who carries those financial burdens.

[@dicks6544]

🤣 Bra S'khu for president, big ups guys you such mood and character.

[@vuyotuminofotyo4505]

They're both blessed to have each other, soo much wisdom in this guy.

[@yangamangaliso3502]

👏🏾👏🏾This topic right here is always uncomfortable to have! Thank you guys, we’re all still learning 🙏🏾. Agree fully with Uncle Skhu

[@nelisamrwebo1772]

I'm not married yet but mna Nonozi we are the same millie millie of one bag ndinebook ngoku singatshatanga sana my man will be like "baby let's go out" haybo! like nyani 🤔🤔 not so long besiphumile moss??? me: no sthandwa asinamali ngoku iyeyakhe as long as endithembisile nam kaloku ndinenjongo ngaye ndiyazilungiselele let's start now to build a future mntakamha thank you so much Sisi Nozi and uncle Skhu I love you guys❤❤❤❤ u are our inspiration👊🏼👊🏼.

[@nomthandazomthimkhulu6550]

This was very very interesting and relatable . (Life of a black child) kaloku . I definitely share the same concerns like Nozi as an unmarried woman about the baggage I already have as the bread winner of My family. To the point where I'm starting not to consider marriage because I've always felt ukuthi it' would be unfair to my husband . Loved this conversation .

[@shamila_b8800]

The fact that Bhuti Skhu & my husband have the same views on finances in a marriage 😩 (11:45)🥰 .Many think its old school but implementing this on your marriage makes things way smoother .Also as Nozi ,Im more strict with saving & I’m able to better identify the appropriate investments we need to take for the future so that we are sorted long time not just living a comfortable live in the now and for that expect he allows me to lead & take charge since it’s what I’m good at 😊

[@sinovuyoramohloa1817]

Yhuuu! Mnk! So much wisdom in this household 🙌 . Thank you guys so much for sharing these topics with us , we are learning so much from you guys , kaloku there’s no manual emtshatweni, May God continue giving you guys more wisdom to share with the world 🌎 ♥️

[@melezwalangeni5600]

You guys are awesome, level of maturity, level of communication is on another level 👌may God continue to bless you beyond measure ❤️

[@asiphileni8949]

My approach has been helping my family based on timelines. Now if has been 5 years, therefore I have served them. I am done, it is me my immediate family and my dogs now. Soon I will be approaching retirement. I need to work on my wealth. We have tried to assist our extended families from both families. However now that some completed their journey to better their future I have decided to step aside. Now I only help where I can. What I did was also to leave my family in the village so that they do not become a financial burden in terms of standard of living in the city. I just build a home where they are. Ayi no guys ku too much. Sizo thenga nini ice cream

[@minkz002]

I totally get you.

[@siphokazimoni4282]

📍Sila.... Great topic. Almost 2yrs of marriage but eish kusenzima shame.

[@zenandetemba6146]

On what Skhu is saying about a Female child, Females are expected to go and start their own family which is why in the olden days girls were not even allowed to finish school because it was said that they are raising her nor another family. They even considered it as waste of money. Boys were raised in a way that one day they will have to be able to take care of their family. But I must say that times have changed, I am the 1st born at home and I have to do everything. My mum does not understand when I say I don't have money. I have to take care of her and my little bro back at home, my sister that I live with and myself. It really gets too much at times.

[@aziziphontsenge8067]

❤️

[@MillieChimb]

That is the pressure the first born has regardless of gender. I am the first born in my family and and I have the same problem. I have to put my dream on hold to fulfill theirs. You have to create financial boundaries

[@zenandetemba6146]

@@MillieChimb it is indeed very painful because you have to put your dreams and plans on hold for your family. And at times you can't even have saving because truth be told, we have weaknesses for our family. Our parents can blackmail you when you say you don't have money.

[@mpumimasilela5544]

This is a conversation I've had with married friend and today... Today just made sense. Thank you nina bakwaMayaba❤️

[@nozukoprudencemdingi595]

Enjoyed the topic! Siyabong bhut Skhu for sharing your wisdom as u Tata we khaya💞

[@manokokabe968]

true, Skhu you are so smart, "having finance conversation with men, is hard" i know these from my husband

[@tolokazi123]

Maturity ku Bhuti Goodman jonga I kwenyi level ninani 💯%

[@johannajohannes1049]

Love skhu's wisdom I with there was subtitles though, love from Namibia 🇳🇦

[@theom1442]

We love ubhudi Skhu Nozi👌...bring him more often

[@gcinilesimelane2211]

Thank you soo much for what you guys are doing in our lives, you guys are pure nd I love that. I've been watching your channel since the beginning......love from the Kingdom of Eswatini 🇸🇿🇸🇿

[@nokuthulathomo34]

The wisdom here, thank you Nozi and uncle Skhu I am learning 🙌❤️😊we thank God for blessing us with you both.

[@mslettiemathibe71]

I love you guys, I learn a lot from you. Thanks for being real, intimate & honest with us. The lessons are endless ..may your love & bond grow from strength to strength & may the good Lord bless you.

[@asiphileni8949]

I think it is more important to understand where each partner comes from interms of background. If you are from a financial strong family give your partner a chance to make his/her family a home. So that you are all happy. We can also visit the two homes nicely.

[@bonolo_mikali]

i love this! you found what works for u, through communication, learning and unlearning.

[@karabomasufi304]

It is such a breath of fresh air listening and watching u guys#the wisdom ingaphaya yuh❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@cindyca162]

I enjoy this channel so much. I wonder how much more I’d enjoy if there were subtitles for the non English parts

[@atukundakahara483]

Nozi please look into this request sis❤️

[@noxolomatshaka2257]

Wow I love this conversation...on my side I give my hubby the credit when it comes to finances. He has taught me a lot about how to handle finances

[@ongezwamzanywa7990]

May God continue to bless this union🥺🙏Henina kwahlalwa kwahlelwa ngani haibo🙌

[@xolisilejack5676]

"Khandincamise". Lol gosh bayathandeka aba bantu! Siyabulela ngee topics that are relevant to our lives 🙏🏽, and we also appreciate your honesty 🙏🏽

[@anitaseitshiro]

What does "khandincamise" mean?

[@xolisilejack5676]

@@anitaseitshiro it means kiss me 😊

[@wilheminadunywa8756]

In Sesotho they say “Ngwana ngwanana o sebelletsa habo” meaning that no matter how things may change and get married and have your own family, you still carry your family too.

[@highandmightyqueen79]

In all honesty that is putting strain on marriages in the black community, black tax in all directions.

[@lusandabhadi9256]

Skhu you are a perfect example of a husband and Nozi you are blessed beyond measure my dear.May the Lord richly bless you.

[@milanounited7929]

Skhu's mentality maan 👏👏 you are blessed cc and God will a bless imisebenzi ka Skhu. Kwaba bhuti ba completa nathi kangaka.

[@lisomagwentshu8264]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 not Skhu saying “you’re a very smart girl kaloku wena baby” 😂

[@phumlanqambi4287]

Nozy cc no bhuti ndiyabongaﹰMampondo akuthi Ireally appreciate you just stepup on my toes from ﹰBizana looking forward for another topic

[@reamogetsetjale2814]

Wisdom was shared , an eye opening conversation .. Thanks a lot

[@nompumeleloestellemangco5585]

For someone who is not married i have learnt so much from you guys on this video particularly, thank you for your wisdom words and experiences

[@nkhen_c357]

There should be balance between saving and living for now. If you oversave and postpone to live... When you get that money you find your health not allowing it.

[@bongyncede529]

Wow, you guys are amazing!!! And the level of wisdom kuni nobabini, I bow!

[@swazi4769]

What a great topic hey. Finances can make or break one's relationship. There needs to be some sort of understanding between partners regarding expectations and responsibilities. Thanks for sharing your experience regarding this very important part of life.

[@millynkonyane61]

The conversations that you guys have are very true and meaningful, makes one introspect in their own lifes, so informative and educational. When i look at my marriage in terms of finances it used to be so hard to handle that to a point where we will have arguments about it but its better now because we are able to sit down and talk about it though its not easy.

[@ayabongamtyingizane1275]

“Goals are attached to pain”

[@ashiatayusuf1228]

So true

[@sandpikd2213]

Nozi please wethu can we have a video on budgeting and saving tips, siyacela wethu chomie.

[@fezekagogo4872]

So much wisdom 🎉I'm humbled

[@JnrBonnie]

Awww I love this fam. Boy is taking notes. Lol I love thagt part where ubhut Skhu said "Tshn Thiza.. haaa bafazi" 😆😂😂

[@peterntamu9723]

Some wisdom and beautiful lessons here. Thanks for boldness to address a variety of issues related to money. Over and above the right understanding on the use of money, couples need to practice the THREE T PRINCIPLE.( TRUTH, TRUST & TRANSPARENCY) . Remain a blessing

[@keagilelenkote4617]

This was helpful to me sis Nozi, when I started working I was too excited to get credit cards for clothes, couldn't say no to my family everytime they wanted money, that led me to debts of which I'm now trying to make things right and be strict with my finances

[@sisandumo9864]

The way you approach things shows wisdom, I appreciate you guys

[@lifewithqueenSolo]

Skhu's sense of husband responsibilities guyzini! Nozi being the CFO! I love it. Thank you guys for this teaching.

[@ntombenanimlinda3265]

Men are generous with money, too much. Nozi ' a situation I don't want to change' I like that honesty. I have an ex bf who had a problem with me sending money home. M glad sohlukana wethu. So like Bra Skhu is saying the key is to understand.

[@nosivathomkalipi9767]

I enjoyed this video, sharing with my husband right now. Thank you for such valuable life lessons. God bless you guys 😘

[@londekadlamuka5440]

I love this Nozi. Please continue with this topic and share financial lessons and investments we can look into/ ways one can build their portfolio. I'm still at the generous stage😭

[@bulelwatimati6719]

“Awuqhelwa sana” 😂😂😂

[@pelokazintloko5067]

Beautiful video bethuna, I learned so much from this mind you I'm single. But I took away alot of useful things that contribute to one's life. I appreciate that bhut Skhu is so open about the influences of money in marriage. Nozi uyi Pillar sana, as Skhu says you are a very intelligent girl😋😍. Ndiyani thanda Maan.

[@zinniabunyula5305]

Thank you soo much for this Bhuti Skhu and Sis Nozi. Though I am not yet married, I relate100% with this matter (having responsibilities back home that won't change anytime soon & a partner that will get that). This was a much needed conversation. Bless you both.

[@thenjiwembonwa7053]

Asakhe is me I am her when it comes to savings, ndistrict ukufa even lanto yokuthatha a large portion of my income n lock it so that when people come n ask ndingakwaz ubanika bcs I'm too generous andikwaz kuthi hhayi so bhetele vele ingabiko.

[@lungimkhize]

Love love LOVED this!!!!! I may be single but I believe this wisdom will help me when that season of my life comes. Thanks guys. God richly bless you even more

[@ngosachibuye6650]

Stumbled on this channel. Very helpful for married people. Please add subtitles for people who cannot understand the language.

[@islandgirl7281]

Very informative...I love how honest and open you both are....I have learned so much from your vedios and always enjoyed watching may God continue to bless you both.

[@thokozilerababalela4804]

Wow talk about OPEN & HONEST conversation without bickering but i must say to reach such maturity it requires a certain level of understanding, wisdom, compassion and consistently searching for an elevated consciousness. BUT its true COMMUNICATION is KEY.Thank you for great content