Does anybody else see the growth? They used to talk over each other when they werent in agreement 😂 Now they wait patiently for the other to finish their point ❤
@AL___S Жыл бұрын
Yes I can see and it's beautiful to watch
@nellymangcobo8460 Жыл бұрын
Yes yes
@babalwanxanga5642 Жыл бұрын
So the status has to change for the wife alone, not for both of them abatshati? As if he wanted to put a stop to the lady's social life to continue his own! ha bhuti changes have to be in both parties yhuuuuu..... attraction izoba khona nakuwe .... Both of you must change qha qwaba!
@prideworthseema5745 Жыл бұрын
To us who ain't married, we are learning a lot from you guys hleee ❤❤
@noluyolodube4212 Жыл бұрын
Communication is key, I agree with Nozi. What happens to the wife must happen to the husband. It can't be that she is the one to change he must change also.
@tebogomoalusi3591 Жыл бұрын
What Skhu said really hits home. My ex is my ex right now cos he said some things that gave me a picture of how the future will look like with him because of the things he said unaware that I'm listening with an ear of "ok so is this the kind of husband you gonna be?". It scared me cos I saw myself being a very miserable wife. But I guess what Skhu is saying is that that was an opportunity for me to tell him how I see things and offer him a choice in choosing to stick with his own views or mine or compromise from both sides. Problem with that is that I will only know if he's views have changed once I'm already married to him cos obviously he'll promise whatever to keep you, and by that time it's too late, you already married...
@Mazet180 Жыл бұрын
Uncle Skhu won this debate the moment he said medulla oblongata 🤣🤣🤣🤣 but deep down I’m with Sis Nozi ❤️
@elizabethletsoso2558 Жыл бұрын
Team Mrs Mayaba🥰
@monicajames6114 Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@vuyimasa Жыл бұрын
I'm team Nozi in this case, we can't work on assumptions AT ALL. We need to communicate our expectations because what is common sense to one person is not common sense to everyone.
@Mypule Жыл бұрын
Expectations are poisonous in a marriage...... considering that we come from different backgrounds,cultures and so forth.......I believe before marriage you need to communicate your expectations or adjustments that need to be done .....don't expect your partner to know what you consider as a "husband" or "wife".
@minkz002 Жыл бұрын
💯
@maphalemahlatse7797 Жыл бұрын
❤
@onelebarbiebambata6311 Жыл бұрын
Nailed it
@mabathomosekeli Жыл бұрын
You are right Nozi, in relationships you can't work with assumptions. I once had a partner who would say, "I gave you a hint". And my question would always be, why hint instead of talking to me.
@lusandamkuyana5895 Жыл бұрын
You know what Nozi, in most cases the expectations of the husband for his wife to change is caused by insecurities and lack of trust.
@annelisamorrison6590 Жыл бұрын
And kaloku that lack of trust is because they know as men their own intentions of going to the clubs and things are mischievous
@amandamngonyama379 Жыл бұрын
All i can say is Communication! Communication! Communication! Bethuna communicate your expectations. We have different upbringings, we grew up in different homes. Ingqeqesho is different. I love the topic ❤❤and i love you guys so much❤❤
@wanderingcucamber7082 Жыл бұрын
How about we stop compromising and collaborate? It's 2023 bathong, dynamics have changed. There are too many expectations for the black women... like there is nothing desirable about such. Sometimes I feel like some guys cannot handle today's girls-soze kaloku. Love your take on this 🎉 this topic needs to be a whole series, please invite abantu from different age groups, races, etc
@elihlestali552 Жыл бұрын
hay shem i agree with sis Nozi, the way you are being single or relationship izofana even when u are married it will take huge amount of time changing that mentality yho
@masanarikhotso5780 Жыл бұрын
Adults hardly change, unless they decide to🤞
@elizabethletsoso2558 Жыл бұрын
Facts
@Bonz674 Жыл бұрын
I also believe people don't change instead they show their true colours - good or bad, as you get to know them.
@phumlamyataza8527 Жыл бұрын
Pre marital counselling is very important so that issues like these can be addressed prior. Then, you will know early if this marriage is for you or not. Skhu you have a very gorgeous wife 😅😊
@bonolomasuku5896 Жыл бұрын
True👏🏿🔥🔥🔥👏🏿
@tjiuamanatjijenda5660 Жыл бұрын
Period!
@andisiwekowa6020 Жыл бұрын
When a couple reaches a level where they are thinking of taking their relationship to a marriage stage, I feel spending as much time with your partner helps builds a more indepth understand of them. That's why I believe living with your partner or spending considerable amount of time in their space before getting married plays a role in knowing them better to such as an extent that assumption and expectations can be cleared out. This is my personal opinion on the matter. Thank you sis Nozi nobhut Skhu for another educational and entertaining video ❤
@BlueButterfly83 Жыл бұрын
It's so nice to see how well they listen to each other's points. I think we shouldn't look at things from the position of - a woman or man SHOULD behave in this way or that way BUT rather how certain behaviours contribute or harm a relationship. Coming into marriage with the aim to change someone has potential to cause unhappiness, maybe it's best to discuss one's expectations and deal breakers before marriage. Marriage can be hard work, it can get even harder when people put rules or have expectations that were never discussed. Marriage is more than just love, the feeling is not the only thing that will make marriage work.
@wendyjantjies8766 Жыл бұрын
What applies to the wife must apply to the husband qha ke qwaba. The culture yabantu abamnyama is soooo oppressive to women
@Mypule Жыл бұрын
I agree, our culture to some extent does not cater for the needs of a woman, and this reminds me of the importance of empathy, learn to put yourself in someone's shoes .....if u don't want a grooving wife or husband, don't do it as well
@zanelemartin9493 Жыл бұрын
Nozi’s makeup is so beautiful🥹😍futhi i’quality ya le’video is the one 👏🏾👏🏾
@tjiuamanatjijenda5660 Жыл бұрын
These actually reminds me of a conversation I had with my cousin and his marriage, that when in the dating stage men flash. Spending money on her left, right, an center now in a marriage he's complaining that she's draining him but that's how it was in the beginning and that's how she saw her future would be.
@Tshifhiwa-Tshikalange Жыл бұрын
Yoh guys the pregnancy is rubbing off on skhu.Yoh uya glow😅🎉
@guguphungula8081 Жыл бұрын
I thought I was seeing that alone 😂👌🏿
@ololomadikizela4285 Жыл бұрын
True🥰🎉
@mellisancube2790 Жыл бұрын
I was about to say Skhu is using sisNozi’s lotion 😂😂😂
@Tshifhiwa-Tshikalange Жыл бұрын
@@mellisancube2790 welele 😂
@lethlamaphalala1106 Жыл бұрын
Listening to this, I had a lot of thoughts going on my mind. Im with Nozi with this one. I never understand how, in any relationship, a person expects the other person to give something they are not willing to give. Like, you hear men say, women dont respect them. But do you respect her though???? Yah, I have a lot to say about this conversation and some uncomfortable views too. Another question i had in my mind was, when this husband asked his wife not to go clubbing, was it his own request or he was trying to fit in with his friends. Phela we know that guys talk and probably there was a comparison of his wife to his friend's wives. And wabona that hhayi, his friends wife never go clubbing therefore, his wife must stop too so that he "fits in" in with his friends. There are external opinions on this matter yati coz why would he marry someone he knew loves clubbing then expect her to change unless there was a conversation he had with other people who had an opinion about his situation???🤔 What has changed now????
@zikhonakapi8648 Жыл бұрын
I'm team Nozi shame, status change should apply to both parties kalok not ku wife qha. Thank you guys cz nathi abangekayi we're learning apha👌👌❤️
@nontuthwala3041 Жыл бұрын
I honestly think that we mistake the necessity for growth within ourselves now that we are married to, change. And this is where the "Status update" takes root. We shouldn't be looking at people changing, because then we are asking for the character we fell in love to, to also change. However, we should be looking at continuous growth which does not happen overnight but is influenced by what/who we associate ourselves with, what we are exposed to or expose ourselves to as well as the environments we engage in. From my perspective, this is where they met and enjoyed together while dating, what stops them from still doing it together now that they are married slowly but surely things will start taking a shift for both of them in terms of their growth. As said by Mr Mayaba, izoqala ukubanukela bobabini...Loved the topic
@mapulemadi262 Жыл бұрын
Marriage or not I don’t agree with anyone trying to change their partner 🙃 more especially because they met at groove.
@minkz002 Жыл бұрын
I just got into the video and this was the first comment I see. I just wanted to say I agree with you 💯 @Mapule Madi , and to add on- nobody can actually change their partner. Only God and the person in particular can change themselves. 🩶 The sooner we all get this the better for everyone.
@londiwegazu1033 Жыл бұрын
@Tkay In the Building change is easy when you find someone who loves you as much as you love them. Personally I had things I said I will never do for a guy so one day I met someone who loves and respect me so much I changed, things I said I will never do for aGuy I do them without being asked.
@sibabalwesilanda5395 Жыл бұрын
Team Nozi on this 1.... yhuuu soze klk why does it seem like abafazi bakhaphe amadoda/abayeni kulomhlaba kaBawo to make men's life easy nje qha? What is a helper kanti= a person who helps you to do things together that you ready know how to do by yourself
@vuyokazimzinyati6475 Жыл бұрын
Skhu, you had me at ukoxuthwa kwetiti! 😂😂😂😂😂😂⚰️ On a serious note though, I think one should communicate their expectations kwa before kutshatwe so that we understand if we're on the same page or not. That being said, I totally agree with Skhu's view that these changes ought to be introduced in phases.
@MrsTay Жыл бұрын
You are slaying mama kaGT❤🔥🔥🔥💯
@malebs8332 Жыл бұрын
This man doesn't trust his wife. He doesn't trust she's responsible enough to go out to just have fun or he knows what he does whenever he goes out with the "boys". So he just needs to work on himself. He got her ko groove and she deserve to be trusted and respected enough to know that respects herself and her marriage enough to go have fun with friends and come back home. the man must just get over his insecurities and let his wife have fun.
@nolusizodlalisa5573 Жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@just_zahr Жыл бұрын
I totally agree with Nozi. This man is totally immature and insecure in my opinion. If I have to stop going to groove, where our relationship was initiated, just to please your insecurities as a man then hai clearly the relationship won’t last because already it’s built on a rocky foundation. There is no trust.
@malebs8332 Жыл бұрын
@@just_zahr why should she trust him when he doesn't trust her.
@nthabisengseemola7269 Жыл бұрын
I admire how Bhuti Skhu put out his facts, n he says them in the most opening eye we sometimes ignore as ladies... Thanks sis Nozibele & Bhuti Skhu for this couple conversations videos they are very helpful❤️🙏
@pulengmathibeli2162 Жыл бұрын
Sorry Uncle Skhu. For the first time I agree with Nozi
@mamellomphahlele6965 Жыл бұрын
The most genuine & authentic KZbinrs out there. I love and appreciate your open and honest conversations ❤❤😍😍
@zeldahhlungwani1239 Жыл бұрын
GT’s aunt here💃🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️ Notification gang 💃🏾
@mxhikigrace2402 Жыл бұрын
Love the point bhut Skhu raised. Change is a process....especially when someone was used to something...you can't expect them to change within in a second. But most of us fail to be patient during that process
@MissMbelwa Жыл бұрын
You guys are so adorable and I go back to the reality show video and I see y you turned it down,I feel these kinds of conversations would not be genuine to you and it would feel orchestrated, I love how effortless you guys make it and how real you are it's just beautiful
@vuyooglebethunana Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that Skhu acknowledges the fact that men have been socialized this way. I hope we can all acknowledge that this kind of socialization is not fair. Men however need not just capitalize on these cultural and social expectations. Back to the question at hand. They either both party on or both stop, for me its that simple.
@ayandakhumalo8692 Жыл бұрын
Marriage doesn’t change us. We decide to invite people’s expectations and opinions into our marriage and that messes things up!!
@WomanCrazyFaith Жыл бұрын
Ucinga Isidoda taka kaGT which you are but phuma pha sana because that thinking is for someone who wants to control umntu ongumama. I’m with uNozi shame - if we are stopping let’s stop together ( masiphume kulanto yoba abafazi mabacinezeleke by told how to wear, where to go where as indoda ifumaneka all over the place with no conditions)
@tshegofatsokwenda204 Жыл бұрын
I honestly understand what uBhutSkhu is saying that he should have gradually ushered her into changing into the kind of wife he wants. But I also believe that if she wants the marriage to work she must be able to compromise on somethings. Like groove is something so light and can't be detrimental to their marriage, however if he was asking her maybe to leave her career, etc things that are "serious" matters can be something she doesn't want to let go of. In essence what I am saying is that she should sit down and understand if her going to groove can be an issue that affects her marriage. Also SisNozi I understand that naye uBhuti must not expect the change on only be on the wife's end, but should also change his ways
@zizonkezama6791 Жыл бұрын
Mna shem I feel like iiGuys they like feeling like they've got some control over their wives. Sometimes it's insecurities. Sometimes it's influenced by religion.
@zinziswagumede1317 Жыл бұрын
Mna ndithi "A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands." Proverbs 14:1 so usisi has the responsibility to build if anyone should start ukubuyisa unyawo ngusisi.🙏
@ncisept5900 Жыл бұрын
A husband leads, that starts with actions.
@Siyamthanda788 Жыл бұрын
So is it the wormen only that are meant to "build"... Marriage is between 2 ppl, meaning both husband and wife should work together in building this "happy home"
@lengwebobo7418 Жыл бұрын
Nozi is right in this case. If you're getting in a relationship and expecting somebody to change at a point then you shouldn't be in that relationship otherwise you'll end up angry and frustrated. This is why it's important to marry your type because if my understanding is if you found me in groove then you know I'll still be going to groove afterwards so it doesn't make sense to expect anything else. It's fair to say that some people go to groove because they're looking for partners but others just go because they want to so that's not a fair analysis in my opinion.
@zoliswagobongo3887 Жыл бұрын
true
@nolusizodlalisa5573 Жыл бұрын
I feel like Skhu's plan was to confuse us so much we even forget the topic.....at some point he even repeated what Nozi had said when initially he had disagreed with it😂😂😂😂😂😂. Truth of the matter is, things like these should be discussed before getting married and I fully agree with Nozi. Imagine marrying me, impregnating me and then leaving me with your kids frequently almost all night to go clubbing with the boys when the initial idea of clubbing is to pick up girls. No ways!
@_19990 Жыл бұрын
I don’t normally comment but I’m 💯 % always rooting for you guys.This time I fully agree with Nozi 💖💖💙💙
@mulalonemasetoni8924 Жыл бұрын
The problem with relationships is that woman are expected to submit to patriarchal ideals that were set by men decades ago. Times have changed and communication is key especially to align the expectations of the relationship with each other. Cheating occurs anywhere at anytime and under any circumstances. The driver of cheating is the willingness to do so. remaining true to who you are is one of the key ingredients to happiness. However, relationships work if we work together, it is important to understand why people behave the way the do in order to make informed decisions regarding dealing with specific issues
@mbalie869 Жыл бұрын
Expectations should be communicated before asking for hand❤️❤️
@khanyajames311 Жыл бұрын
Team Nozi , I agree with everything you said .❤
@alutagxotani Жыл бұрын
I love these conversations they are so informative 👏❤
@nicetimeswithmymomandfamil6121 Жыл бұрын
This conversation has put perspective to too many things .@Skhu I like how u put emphasis on you become the change first in order to influence the other. In fact I like how the conversation is outward thinking as ur viewers there r points we picking up. Ndikule yoba unamehlo,nendlebe nengqondo, awuzuxelelwa yonke into le.
@wandilewawa Жыл бұрын
What an interesting and a necessary conversation. I was shouting the whole time disagreeing with Skhu😂😂😂😂😂😂
@mariammutesi1727 Жыл бұрын
Is there a way we could please have English sub- titles? I am enjoying the convo and would like to get the full gist. I'm from Uganda and there are some words I understand, but some I'm guessing...I would like to understand it all😊...thank you so much for always having interesting, funny and insightful discussions ❤️
@cindyca162 Жыл бұрын
I was struggling too. It’s a very good conversation but I missed most of it.
@deminabwire3599 Жыл бұрын
Yeah subtitles would be good. Am Kenyan
@hileninaanda7431 Жыл бұрын
Ja me too I'm just enjoying the couples but don't understand anything in their language but the English part is nice cause they are talking about the dressing code or going to club s when you're married ❤❤❤
@eddientontela3155 Жыл бұрын
I really feel for u guys. Just wish one day they have an ear
@maiwasekumwenda4186 Жыл бұрын
True. Even when I saw a clip on her IG I was a bit discouraged to watch but looking at the topic I thought of giving it a try. Well.... I did not get much😢😂. The struggle is real.
@minkz002 Жыл бұрын
Great topic, lovely and informative conversation ♥️. Funny how I recently just had this conversation with my husband a couple of days ago. My take on this- The moment we deem certain things as “obvious” for a marriage we have already lost the cause. Communication, communication, communication. We cannot change one another as human beings. If you want a wife that doesn’t club, date a woman who doesn’t club so that she doesn’t have to change after marriage. This thing is simple. This has nothing to do with when a person was born. This is why we need to be cognisant of the people we date because that’s exactly who we are going to marry. Your core values, principles and non-negotiables need to be communicated and agreed upon before marriage. All else nizaw’bona phambili and grow/evolve together kuzo. 🙌🏼
@pamellamapapu3963 Жыл бұрын
The love I have for you guys 😍😍 akumhle Nozi❤️❤️😘
@obvslysnowy Жыл бұрын
the view that women have to reduce themselves due to the change of marital status has patriarchy written all over it. if we use the generation into which one is born as the anchor to side to the argument, that is encouraging the perpetuation of the toxicity that people are currently trying to change.
@milanounited7929 Жыл бұрын
I am in agreement with Nozi on this one. These people met e groovin, why now ubhuti ene problem with her going. Maybe ubhuti should have gone for someone azodibana naye ecaweni.
@marciantabeni6935 Жыл бұрын
I'm gonna have to agree with uncle Skhu these 2 should have sat down and communicated the new setup which is marriage given they both know where they met . Yes the society is harsh on ladies more but I feel like communication goes a very long way especially when transitioning from dating to marriage irregardless of where we met .... My 2 cents 😊 38:22 38:25
@loyisotsum6733 Жыл бұрын
Pregnancy glow ku Skhu sana the skin is popping ❤😊
@nonkululekomntla7410 Жыл бұрын
This all sounds like a double standard to me. Unfortunately, as Skhu said it's an accepted discrepency in the order of life based on how things used to be. Good discussion point though. I wonder when we will truly be equals?
@pinkygwanisheni Жыл бұрын
This is a tough one really coz they are both groovist. If they did not change their ways whilst they were still dating, it will be difficult to do so now unless they are both ready to talk about it and at least reduce not stop. You might even find ba maybe usisi is grooving nje because ubhuti hasn't stopped either uthetha nje ngomlomo. I loved the convo Nozi!
@refilwemarobela3247 Жыл бұрын
Why does it have to be the woman who has yo change in a marriage? You've found in tarven wils and all then you want to tame me. I like it when bhuti Skhu says change should be progressive and you model the change you want to see. Love you guyz ❤❤
@amandasixubane8931 Жыл бұрын
This topic is sensitive, just reminded me of a marriage that ended within a year, and a million rand was spent in that marriage and the wedding dress costs R120k each, flowers to the value of R40k Baw and u wife was busy clubbing come home around 3am in the morning and hubby complained that all I wanted was a wife, I didn't marry you for this expensive lifestyle of yours to impress your friends in this TV show yenu. Jhu ndandine worry yilandoda xeim. Mnk and usisi didn't show any remorse like akaziboni emmoshile umyeni wakhe. Anyway waphela lomtshato
@noxolomlotshwa7026 Жыл бұрын
If you want me, as the wife, to change I think you, as my husband/man must lead by example and also change. It must be a partnership
@AsandaKhobeni-nj3fc Жыл бұрын
But there has to be some change honestly, from parties. We cannot run away from that. You were living your life individually,then now you are in a union, obviously you have to adjust to some things. That's change. You now have new goals, new responsibilities so a change is certain,however, both parties must come to the party
@pamelagola2245 Жыл бұрын
Its sad how ezinye zinto are expected to change only for the woman and not the guy. Hay shem as a married woman I feel its unfair, what goes for hubby should go for me as well. Also these changes or expectations should be discussed prior to marriage.
@prelenahona Жыл бұрын
I'm here to just remind everyone to watch the Ads🙏.
@thuliswajuqu4174 Жыл бұрын
Mna I have a couple concerns.Girls are brought up being taught how to become a responsible woman and ultimately a good wife Boys zona no one teaches them to be husbands and responsibility men Can we please just work on this as married people because this is part of the reason this guy thinks he can continue with their lifestyle prior to marriage because he doesn’t have responsibilities Yena ugirl must stay at home and be a wife. What on earth is that? While yena he must go to igruv You probably find out they have kids later on and uguy doesn’t give up his fun while yena she has to see to his home ba all is taken care of because unomfazi . ha ana guys ,stop it.
@vanessamash Жыл бұрын
This is what I also fail to understand.... It's really concerning
@motso-talks8002 Жыл бұрын
And married women are expected to behave in a certain manner...yet husbands continue to go on with their life's as normal with no judgement
Hey Sis Nozi, may you please make a video or give an insight on how does a relationship work when each party has their own church? How does marriage work in that situation? Does the wife change to inkonzo yomyeni or isebenza njani?
@thandokazintsime7420 Жыл бұрын
Yho ndikulo situation sani ndiyatshitshiliz
@MaMtungwa7 Жыл бұрын
Nozi U have a point uygqibile Nozi for president
@TshidiTloti Жыл бұрын
I always enjoy listening to your conversations noyi2. As for bhuti Skhu sticking to his guns, ngoku ezivha, he went off the rails😅😂!!! Thank you, guys. ❤ Lonto you both are looking amazing. Pregnancy suits you both!🎉😊
@teBBy- Жыл бұрын
Love you guys ❤❤, please put subtitles for us who didn't understand vernac 😢😢pleaseee😭😭😭
@onkejukuda4657 Жыл бұрын
In my view, you can't build a home with someone who is a grooviest, especially on the woman's part with that doesn't mean that you can't have fun. As men too we need to be good models who aspire to the change we want our significant other to be.
@AsiphePrincessZepe Жыл бұрын
This just goes with beliefs, religion, tradition these two parties believe on. Also their willingness to meet each other half way, by considering each others views and conversating about the issue they are facing.
@siphokazisiyavuya8616 Жыл бұрын
Heee😂Yaz I like this convo. Mna in my view is that xanithandana and I relationship ingathi iba serious that's where both the couple have to talk it out and say listen here if u want to marry me this is what u will get from me
@mpholephuthi Жыл бұрын
OMG love the Jersey abuti Sku is wearing 😊😊 Can we address how his also glowing 😅....y'all both look amazing
@savedbyGodsgraceinJesusChrist Жыл бұрын
Ngempela, he is glowing
@bonolomasuku5896 Жыл бұрын
Freeway by Flawless jersey 👏🏿🔥🔥👏🏿
@xoliedlamini1789 Жыл бұрын
GT's Rents always on point 👌and learning a Lot from you. Much Love always💖😘🥰
@sinebhongoketye5169 Жыл бұрын
I highly agree with Sis Nozi, these type of things need to be addressed before marriage so that everyone involved can decifer if they can deal with such setup or not. I feel like uBhut' Skhu is agreeing with what this man did only on the basis of its also what he had been exposed to, hence esithi somethings you don't have to be taught they become "common sense". Into yoLamla umntu is giving manipulation vibes because you simply training the person to be what you want them to be without making them aware of that and in a relationship people should not be calculating towards each other. I also agree with Sis Nozi on what applies to the wife should also apply to the husband. If you don't want your wife to go to groove cause kuyaWinner, uyaphi as indoda etshatileyo? If you can go as a married man with friends just to chill, what constitutes the wife being incapable of doing the same? I think these rules men suddenly have for their wives once they are married are rooted from insecurities and lack of trust in their wives. They are afraid of their wives being in a setup where there's 90% chance of them being approached and don't think/ or trust that their wives are capable of turning down such advances and its probably driven by the mentality that since that is how they met usayela ntoni khona unless she wants to met other men, like uBhut'Skhu mentioned. Truth of the matter is women have advances made towards them everywhere.
@saneliswamagagula9781 Жыл бұрын
Hhayi maan Skhu. In general we need to do away with the assumption that our thought process is common, even with similar backgrounds. We need to use our words to articulate thoughts, expectations etc. Once we rely on things being "obvious" or what"makes sense" we set the relationship up for failure.
@champagne4eva Жыл бұрын
If the husband expects the wife to stop going to groove, then naye he must also stop because he is no longer a bachelor.
@mrsmakhonjwa1058 Жыл бұрын
Looking good Momma definitely the make up didn't go to waste. But I believe expectations must be communicated its unfair that most rules apply to ladies rather than man. #Notificationgang #noskippingadsgang
@nkanyie2 Жыл бұрын
I agree with Skhu..... I hear you Nozi both should change kalok plus it's important to talk about these conversations before marriage to play fair.... Just wanted to add nathi as women we have expectations morc from men masingacindezeleki sodwa....
@zukiswapumla742 Жыл бұрын
I totally agree with Nozi. You cant expect someone to change because you married them. If you want a wife who doesnt groove, look for a girlfriend who doesnt groove
@nomelisizwenxumalo6490 Жыл бұрын
💃💃💃I'm in, Waze wamuhle sisiNozi❤️
@ChristianZiya Жыл бұрын
Yho ndiyamthanda ubhuti Skhu. I love his insights nendlela acacisa ngayo izinto!!!
@ayandantsatha862 Жыл бұрын
This is an Expectation on a one sided shame and it's complicates izinto between the two party,but it depends on both parties on how they deal with the expectations
@keneilwemarwane Жыл бұрын
A lot of women marry men who are not ready to be a husband which is very dangerous. This guy wanted marriage but he is not ready to be a husband himself clearly he saw qualities in this woman that he maybe thought he secured it for himself, like they say men are project driven so he seems done with the marriage/settlement project. What the man is doing is trying to cultivate the woman but wrongly so as it is one side. This guy wants to continue living as a bachelor when will he leave that lifestyle and Clive....he seem to have an idea of the right marriage but selfish in doing so as he is upholding societal standards of marriage because he wants the benefits of the right marriage and but not follow the principles himself (double standards). That's why women have mental breakdown in the marriage.... Skhu is looking at it from a marital principles point of view and Nozi also has a point some things and some people may never change some things/problems are perpetual. Its clear that the man is threatened by the woman going or continuing going to go club. This is a case of what i always say marriage is the easiest thing anyone can do but people are selfish.The guy wants Service from the woman but continue living his life he enjoys,
@ngetie_mangethe Жыл бұрын
GT is great on both of you guys, you are all glowing
@elizabethletsoso2558 Жыл бұрын
Hei uGT ufake iglow sana kwi parents zakhe ❤️
@all_things_busishozi1721 Жыл бұрын
I'm frustrated 😤 by the fact that where I am in this video ubhut'Skhu is not understanding ukuthi this guy in question is still doing the same thing that is forbidding the lady from doing
@SindisiweKubheka-kb2op Жыл бұрын
Hi Lovies❤️ I actually love the topic and as I'm watching and listening I'm discovering that you both right but I also believe that if one one of you decides that there's a need for change it has to start with you portraying or making it a norm for that particular choice because you can't expect change without you changing or compromising first, at the end of the day is women are adjusting beings by nature depending on the environment we are being given or put in, it all comes down to compromise from both parties and let it come naturally for both... manner of approach is very important.
@sinoxolomacosini5222 Жыл бұрын
ayivakalo tuu into ebeyithetha uSkhu kulena iconversation shame but thanks for the argument😂😂😂😂 i have to agree with you Nozi. A person changing their ways when married should be their choice and not an expectation. To make things simple, when choosing your wife go to a place that would fit your “wife material” expectations, not a club so that you don’t need to change anyone. I mean you already know your expectations even before you met her.
@pamellamapapu3963 Жыл бұрын
Ewe Nozi I agree with you, nyani we can't work on assumptions because asicingi ngokufanayo💁
@neoneoi Жыл бұрын
Mr Mayaba injayam, Mrs Mayaba I was so impressed by how patiently you allowed uBhuti Skhu to make his points
@Lesego_Mammeshi Жыл бұрын
It’s interesting how Skhu thinks… Love and Light Nozi.
@ncisept5900 Жыл бұрын
I guess imitshato is just to benefit and serve men qha. Fanba lokucingela umntu ongakucingeliyo and ongathethiyo. I agree with Nozi.
@phelokazimtshazi9088 Жыл бұрын
I understand i point ka Skhu mna qha it does not work kule millennial world sikuyo xa ukhulele ezilalini ukhula uxelelwa nge ntloni nesazela therefore khawubenesazela uhloniphe ukuba ngumfazi again it will go back to patriarchy ngokwaselalin umfazi akazihambi iziyunguma
loved it soo much!! very informative ndimane ndi pause and discuss with my boyfriend. Communication is the key ALWAYS.
@elihlestali552 Жыл бұрын
team nozi won for me this one
@andisiwemcasa7360 Жыл бұрын
Bhuti’ Skhu is just being a MAN in this conversation because everything is directed to one person who is a wife… so there is no transition to the Man, there are no expectations and changes to the husband all these things apply to the wife 😳 if as a wife can’t go to clubbing then the husband shouldn’t go as well. If there are areas of compromise and sacrifice directed to the woman then there should definitely be areas of compromise and sacrifices to the husband as well.