Money & Relationships | Men's Round Table | A Black Love Series

The men sit down this week and discuss the how they view money in a relationship, and how it can affect the relationship. Men's Round Table, hosted by Brandon Bryant @Wallstreetpaper, features black men of differing ages and relationship status weighing in on everything love and relationships, from dating apps to commitment and marriage.
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[@MINESHANS]

When you see men thinking like this...it keeps my hope alive ❤️

[@theresalor]

Me too girl lol

[@Mizzbabyblue12]

Me too!

[@thecraplordsell4575]

Black woman please go 😷

[@taybee4653]

This group dynamic makes these conversations even more interesting.

[@rebuiltgirl3263]

I agree sometimes the dynamic of certain groups can throw off the discussion and the learning process for me. I will get sidetracked by the personalities of the people and the overt mannerisms

[@nia4842]

Great conversation. As someone who previously worked in banking, keep your accounts separate. If you have a joint account, deposit household money only. Even that account should have restrictions. I've seen way too many times where the relationship falls apart and money disappears out of joint accounts and someone is crying trying to figure out how they're going to pay bills. Or someone takes out a loan/LOC, pulls all the money, removes their name off of the account and now the other party is responsible. Beautiful relationships/ marriages can turn into ugly court battles. Just err on the side of caution.

[@TheLuvlfe]

You are not lying!!! I worked in banking for 15 yrs. IT HAPPENS A LOT.. GOOD ADVICE.

[@arielaava2102]

@@TheLuvlfe who were more likely to wipe the $ from the bank accounts husbands or wifes?

[@TheLuvlfe]

@@arielaava2102 I will be honest.. Women had the high numbers, but the men were not that far behind..smh

[@arielaava2102]

@@TheLuvlfe That sucks, i was watching the redpill video the other day the girl was saying that women should have a plan B and save some cash and men were saying that it's unhealthy that she lives in fear and that she should 100% rely on a man.

[@TheLuvlfe]

@@arielaava2102 SMH

[@ExcaliburSPO]

Solid conversation - are we trying to Win in life as a team? Or are we trying to compete with each other?

[@yvonnef6240]

Once again, these brothers presented well. I really wish these segments were longer. Great content.

[@Mizzbabyblue12]

Love to see black men having these types of conversation with each other. We need more of this in our communities. Financial literacy is so important.

[@thecraplordsell4575]

Love to see black woman stay out of our space

[@consolataotieno2811]

Stephon making some valid points on how they've done budgeting in their marriage. That's beautiful. On a light note i really admire Timon from a far. There's something about his demeanor. I enjoy watching this roundtable conversation. Much love from Kenya.

[@kigengechetu9289]

Mambo neighbour. I have been watching these informative clips from Tanzania.☺

[@consolataotieno2811]

Salama @Kigenge Chetu. Very educative clips.

[@beldineopar1916]

@@consolataotieno2811 nya Luo. Wanbe wanka nyamin

[@yolandalofton9967]

Great job! week after week you kings shine. Me being a black woman... I appreciate and celebrate you guys being transparent !!! Thank you, my kings

[@MelissaJackson-ry2er]

Money is scary for many couples. They don’t know how to talk about money. Their parents may not have talked about money or their parent’s finances were in shambles. When it comes to money and finances, you need to be just as compatible. They say that opposites attract. However, in relationships, when you are with someone who has different values and perspectives about money, it can be a battle.

[@arielaava2102]

If I'm not mistaken many relationships fail because of financial issues, right?

[@buedhabass]

Needed to hear this. Just talked to my girl about credit, finances, and accountability and it blew up. This gave me the perspective I needed.

[@jessikajane4967]

The most mature, sensible Roundtable to date...keep going👏

[@bimampina5644]

These men are so underrated you guys.. These are the things a lot need to learn about since I discovered them i watch one video a day!! 👏🏽 Good job brothers!!!

[@thevfitlife9959]

Okay this is God speaking to me “You cannot be selfish in a relationship.” 👍🏾

[@jenniferbrown8568]

Relationship or marriage god doesn’t say anything about girlfriend or boyfriend in the Bible

[@nikamoff5835]

Facts!!! Finances was definitely one of our issues with my ex husband.

[@saashamoniquew1]

Love this series... it is good to hear intelligent black men!

[@queenjee8570]

Great content and dialog. Love it guys. So mature and grown. Keep this round table going ❤🙏🏾💯🎯

[@johntesfay3621]

This conversation is 🔥 and deep! This’s trend that should go viral!

[@evolvingempress2179]

Wish it were longer! 😩 Great topic 👏🏾

[@omondikochieng41]

Yes this is the gold I have been looking for.

[@lisadokes2655]

Love this!!! More married men need to believe marriage is a "WE" and not and "I then you" relationship.

[@iLive45]

I’m so glad I came upon this episode, my girlfriend and I are looking at moving in together soon and I think it’s an excellent idea to look at “household income” vs your monthly expenses.

[@achatwithgoitse]

How do u deal with finances when the other party has waaay more money than the other? Coz other party doesn't wanna feel like a beggar, other 1 doesn't wanna feel like they the only 1 always giving 2

[@No1YanniLover]

I think these guys are trying to sound "progressive" or open-minded or whatever. But in reality a man (or husband) does not get the respect or is not looked up to the same if he is making less $ than her. I don't care what they say, it just doesn't work in the real world, especially with black couples. A woman making more money is going to be domineering, disrespectful and treating that man like he ain't st** whenever they have a disagreement. And if she owns the house with only her name on it she is always gonna be threatening to put his a** out at the drop of a hat. I have seen this scenario too many times Men should always make more....Period!

[@TheLuvlfe]

I agree!!

[@joeroot9142]

For you

[@drsarahprincessmwema5398]

100% correct

[@tracimorris3111]

So you are saying a man should make more money so the woman would respect him🤔. First why would a woman get with a man if he makes less money and she knows she will disrespect him...second if she has a house and he is living there its because she asked him to move in knowing he made less money... If a woman is with a man and feels the need to disrespect him because he makes less money then that speaks to her character and he shouldn't be with her.

[@scooterlovya]

Girl, u right!!

[@songs4thesoul]

I think the real question is What is the money you make for? Is it for gambling, keeping up with the jones',to keep my look together, maybe it's for future kids. Whatever it is both should be on the same page. Common goals perhaps will mean more in the end. Thanks again for the video

[@gck_replayzz1029]

LOVE THIS!!

[@QueenZsWorld]

many people forget you have access to the same account 🤦🏽‍♀️ this was well put, brothers, I learned a lot

[@tesheenadantzler5438]

Dang! This was getting good!!! Where’s the remaining of this episode located?! 🤔

[@Nini-xr5gi]

It doesn't matter who makes more money in the relationship if you both don't have the same values and trust in each other to make a relationship work. You both have to be honest with yourself in how you value money. If money equals control and not leadership and partnership, that relationship is doomed from the start. Money does not make a man and both men and women should not use money as a way to control and manipulate. Communicate on how you both want to use your finances and know what qualities you want from each other to make each other happy and make your relationship as easy as possible.

[@andreafoxx925]

agree

[@shereasedurden5682]

I love how these men explains how relationships should work together than separate to when it comes to the finances. Me and my bf have been together for over 2 years and he explains the finances as separate. I pay for myself alot in this relationship and since Ive moved in with him he wants me to pay half of everything. I give him what I can because I cant afford all. He makes 3 times more than me.

[@aneshaelizabeth]

No heat, no judgement, but how does that make you feel that he makes more than you but expects you to pay half?

[@missrd395]

Very nice and inspiring even as a woman!

[@zoetsahai]

That ended too quickly sigh

[@ANGIENAYELIVALLADARESOSO-qd7zh]

😅🤗I enjoyed your conversation please make much more videos like this about different topics.

[@loveyourvibez1340]

This was refreshing

[@lifetrend0925]

Very good...I like this conversation

[@proviib]

Needed to see this

[@amosnsereko7019]

William gave some word there... 👏

[@hunnybunnyjanu1861]

I loved ... How he didnt even realized he said " we " , until someone else pointed it out

[@Darltk]

Yep. It's the make ego about more money but it does depend on the attitude.

[@ClaireHaire]

*We need more of this* However, *black women* on average out earn black men & this would be fine if this did not breed insecurity in black men. Men will say they want their woman to hold her own and then will turn around & feel emasculated by her achievements, when they could be putting that energy into fueling their ambition to make more.

[@noble604]

It’s a myth that Blackwomen make more than Blackmen. Blackmen make more on average than Blackwomen, as men in every race make more than the women.

[@noble604]

Aasianmen everyone including whitemenn. They’re at 1457/week, Blaackmen are at 810/week, Blaackwomen are at 775/week. People just think B.women make more than B.men (..... and whiitemen make the most. They do not. They come in at 1108/week with whiitewomen at 912.) Please pardon the spelling/needed to post it.

[@noble604]

Aasianmen *outearn everyone.

[@richardharper2348]

Since we are generalizing... black women are hypergamous so this is all bs.

[@falpinagu1401]

i dont think this statistic is true. men always earn more than women. this just sounds like youre saying men are intimated by a woman's achievements but i don't think they care.

[@yemisrachgebru7298]

beautiful beautiful

[@tamirajohnelle4700]

Not to undermine the $100k in a year, but that’s not hard to make when you have skills that set you apart AND you UNDERSTAND YOUR VALUE. Don’t even need a college degree for that. I used to think that was major money, but I don’t see it like that anymore. We get paid on the level of demand for what we do, how good we’re at doing it and how hard it is to replace us. Most people are capable of making $100k/year, but don’t believe it. The only person that’s holding themself back is them.

[@Thatbul]

Let’s stop lying for social media. Majority of people are never going to crack 6 figures and it’s not because of not having a skill.

[@hymnodyhands]

@@Thatbul The majority of people are never going to crack six figures on merely earned income, and that is almost all people think about... but, with dedication and understanding the 21st century economy, $100K a year and more are attainable for those that want it badly enough to humble themselves and follow proven systems. But the key is knowing one's value and being willing to be humble enough to learn how to work in this economy. It is a long and humbling journey, but it can be done. Two brothers that have done it have channels: Tony Gaskins (also see his channel "The Study" for more BM doing it) and JT's Automations.

[@heather-vs9qe]

My goodness USA brothers, very articulate..

[@samwelnjuguna-gz9eb]

If a girl/woman can't love when I don't have money 💰 then she should not expect me to love her when I have money. GENIUNE LOVE ❤️💯🌍✍️🌹

[@jeremiahj3565]

Men find ways to bring additional income whether a side business or 2nd job!

[@SanctifiedLady]

That’s the every dollar has a destination each month. Joint accounts for house and separate for our own allowance and how we choose to spend it. I want me and my husband to live on one income (his) and invest mine and use for travel and things we will enjoy together. This way if one of us becomes employed for any reason the stress will not be totally burden on our marriage…we can coast a while. Pay check to pay check is divorce in the making he’s not doing his part as a man and leader of the household which creates insecurity for his wife and instability for their marriage. This isn’t Providing or protecting or a turn on 🥴

[@ladyshenna967]

I'm married and I financially support my husband. He doesn't work and had not worked since we met nor since married. I don't mind supporting my husband however I sometimes feel unappreciated. He will do anything for me. I'm starting to question how much longer can I be the only provider.

[@PD-qu8dq]

If you flip that guys scenario for a woman, it wouldn’t work that way 9 times out of ten. She makes 1 million and he makes 100k, she has to fight her hypergamous nature to want someone making more than her

[@nubi688]

Great topic. Thank you Men for sharing with us.

[@NBnNC]

3rd on list 😌

[@Akeem86]

I’m gonna be honest. This is the first of these conversations to add much value. They mean well…but most of the others need to be more nuanced.

[@Alexandria.Washington]

I make more money than ALL the men in Computer Science and Engineering on the managerial level… bc I know my worth and will NEVER except less based on my gender! I’m also the smartest and most experienced and most often the lead engineer/architect/ manager on most high visible projects! Women are very smart, especially Black women and we don’t except mediocrity!!

[@MYSTERIOUSasLOVE]

Is this a podcast

[@hazelherbal]

What is the balance between business and spending time with the love of your life? Is being treated like a business partner all the time ok? I just want his time his love his affection, but I don't want to disturb has peace either. I'll Indy find something to fill the void.

[@kingatlas2009]

It is not the male ego. Men do not generally care how much a woman makes. The problem is her behaviour and attitude towards you. I would prefer that she makes more money. Her money is her money, mine is mine. We help each other when needed and take care of bills together.

[@drsarahprincessmwema5398]

100% correct...a man shud always earn more unless otherwise cos its hard to fyd us women who wud love a man who may earn less and still respect him..its God

[@Thatbul]

😂😂

[@indigobeauty1]

i think couples should have three account, one for me, one for you, and one for us...Most of the money should go to the 'us account'.

[@fallonlaine]

💜💁🏾‍♀️✊🏾

[@themoss563]

Need to fix your microphone the volume left because it not working

[@Dee--Jay]

From my experiences, men have to date down financially. She respects you less when yall equal or especially if she makes more

[@No1YanniLover]

These kinds of a unbalanced relationships seem to set black men up to be emasculated. My men always made more $ and I could respect him for bringing home the "man money" and taking care of things the way a man should.

[@keoanamyles]

I can't hear

[@robertleejohnsonsr63]

Finances is not the number reason for deviorce. You can have enough money in a relationship to be comfortable its the deciding how your going to spend that money can be the reason why people divorce.

[@coilsofwobemanifest]

Wow where are these fine brothers at are they single? Lol

[@khomai2740]

Kevin Samuel would have a complete whole perspective (differently) but the majority of men would take issue with a woman making more them per there egos!

[@kesavvzD]

Who is Kevin Samuel?

[@selomekebour3439]

Irrelevant

[@user-vn8mt2wc1b]

I watched only the first 5 minutes and I am done. Why? No one is telling the truth based on what I've heard so far. Now the truth: A man who makes 1,000,000USD would keep and take care of a woman who makes 100,000USA without complaining. No woman would do that for a man!

[@wildewildestrawberries]

Tim's comfortable with her making more money of course, but not marriage. Have cake and eat it too. She better get a dating/living together prenuptial agreement. Btw: re marriage comment, watch other videos.

[@carolyneasley8980]

Anyone notice the maturity level differences between the ladies round table and the men? Is everything laugh worthy??🤷 maybe it's just me. I do, HOWEVER enjoy the topics.

[@Akeem86]

Why is laughing “immature”?

[@carolyneasley8980]

@@Akeem86 laughter isn't, the subject matter you find funny could very well be.

[@charlelala]

The laughter is result of genuine camaraderie and reactions to ironic situations or similar experiences. It’s healthy social interaction. Not haha let’s be childish about finances. People can handle serious subjects with a lighthearted approach 😊 I think this was a mature round table convo