10 THINGS MY MISOGYNIST FAMILY MEMBER SAID TO ME

Today we talk about 10 things a misogynist in my life has said to me. I don't know if it's the red pill theory or normalization of misogyny lately, but I think we should talk about it. Is there an openly misogynistic person in your life?
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[@MTCr8zy]

Never allow a misogynistic person to diminish your power or worth. Your journey of resilience from childhood to now is a testament to your strength and perseverance. Hold onto that inner strength fiercely and never let anyone undermine it. You've come too far to let someone else dictate your value. Keep shining beautiful girl!!

[@UteGoldkuhle]

So well summarized!

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so so much for always being a source of strength and support 💖💖 Love you!

[@liz4581]

I'm ten minutes in and all that comes to my mind is NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER, which in fact, is NOT a disorder, but it is a CHOICE! People, right now, today, in this time in which we live, are becoming BOLD in their TRUE COLORS. You hit the nail on the head.. Okay, now I will continue watching the rest of your very relatable story.

[@montanadanna]

1000% correct!! And it’s the construct I was raised in and emulated and am absolutely changing within myself. It’s all I can control and it’s so harmful to self-worth. Thank you so much for your insight

[@BettyHorn]

I am seeing a narcissist. I'm sorry to see the sadness in your face. But I absolutely LOVE your sarcasm!

[@user56gghtf]

@liz4581 💯% a choice

[@Lookformiraclestoday]

It's incorrect to say Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a choice. Someone diagnosed with NPD did not choose to become a narcissist, a large number of those diagnosed with NPD have it as the result of trauma in their childhoods. HOWEVER, what is a choice is how they choose to act out their NPD in their lives and the lives of others. They know what they are doing and have the ability to choose to do differently.

[@user56gghtf]

@@Lookformiraclestoday You are contradicting yourself in your own comment. They choose the actions that make them a narcissist. If they didn't choose to act that way they wouldn't be a narcissist. Therefore it is 100% their choice. There are tons of children and adults that grew up with that same trauma or experienced it in adulthood yet they chose not to be manipulative, deceiving, sadistic, etc A large number of them don't even get diagnosed because that would mean admitting something is wrong with them. Which again is a choice they will not make.

[@marykaren7542]

When SNL finally knocks on your door, then he'll be saying to anyone who'll listen 'THAT'S MY GIRLLLLLLL'......

[@InvisibleVisible793]

You are so right. All Danna's characters - I immediately thought of Gilda Radner.

[@spunkycat6144]

Omg, yesss, SNL.

[@pupdog4040]

My mother would say the nastiest things to me and encourage my narcissistic brother to be abusive. Then deny it all publicly and accuse me of lying. Honestly, I think it had profound affects on my autoimmune system. I hope this separation is mentally and physically healing for you.

[@blank157]

I’m going through the same thing with my mother. Replace misogynist with narcissist and it’s exactly the same.

[@liz4581]

Yes!!!! That's what I believe too.

[@mygypsyadventure3610]

Exactly because this person she speaks about no doubt acts the same with males in his life too. People who believe they are superior act that way with everyone in their life.

[@InvisibleVisible793]

That issue is not gender specific, I agree.

[@montanadanna]

Hello Friends. Thank you so much for watching. This is a new topic on this channel ... let's talk about it. Is anyone else experiencing this with someone close to them? Much love to you if you are and let's support each other. Men and women alike 💞

[@hopper345]

Thank you for sharing this 😊 I'm so glad your healing from this hope you have a great day danna and if nobody told you today that I love you 😊

[@SecurelyInsecure]

Oh yes!!!! Have experienced increase over the last decade. Coming to a crescendo. Ugh 😑

[@HeathersHikesAndAdVANtures]

Sending you love and light. This was brave *and* is such an important topic to talk about & it isn't often 💚💚

[@jenny4444js]

I'm so proud of your strength being able to talk about this. I cannot believe that this person cannot see you for who you truly are. We only see a small part of your life and I think you are incredibly strong willed, hardworking, resilient, hilarious and so many other great qualities. How can they not see that? Are they stupid!?! It's absolutely disgraceful how poorly you have been treated your whole life and nobody should ever have to live like that. I am so sorry. I have so much love and respect for you Danna. You are so rare. Please keep being who you are. You are truly incredible. So creative. So full of awesome. Why would anyone want to take that away? You don't deserve that. You deserve the world. You deserve so much love. You deserve to be happy. I wish you all the best of everything you deserve. Love, Jenny Xx

[@Robert-fg3bk]

This is a huge topic to talk about in the comment section, you are right though. We are living in a weird time. I believe that in life the feminine help the masculine and the masculine help the feminine. In my religion it is a must! And it must remain as close to 50/50 as possible. As far as family goes if you were in mine l would be very proud to have you in it.

[@ctoth2923]

Totally relate!!! I was 50 when I realized that I would no longer spend time with anyone who was unkind, unsupportive, or made me feel bad. Distancing myself from some family members was the best thing I ever did. So grateful for the growth, knowledge, and boundaries that helped me. I am happy and free to be ME. ❤️

[@0MissElizabeth0]

I did this at 33, I feel so ahead of the game! 😊

[@crawleyr4919]

That sounds like a healthy response… As long as you aren’t just hiding from people challenging you & disagreeing on specific issues. (Im referring to family)

[@montanadanna]

Yes, you totally deserve to feel loved and supported and sometimes that means distancing yourself. 💖💜💙 So happy you feel free to be you and so much love coming your way!

[@spunkycat6144]

Same here, I just disappeared.

[@wildbumbylee6731]

C'mon y'all let's help Danna get to 100k subs, so she quits eating crackers & peanut butter for meals. who ever this guy is he very jealous of you, SHOWS YOUR DOING AWESOME JOB DANNA, KEEP IT UP

[@liz4581]

yes!!! lets get her up to 100K and more!! She's doing so much harm to the DARKNESS that it does not want to relinquish its powers and keep her channel in the dark..... I hope this makes sense. 🙂

[@jenniferwolford4646]

Yep, it's time she shows her dad her worth!!

[@sueregenauer2933]

When I was 13 years old, my grandfather told me that I was fat, ugly, and nobody would ever love me. He also treated my father, mother, and all women in our family badly. It didn't matter age. When my grandfather was dying, I went to see him. I told him I loved him. He said, "How could I after I treated you so wrong? " I said, because you're my grandfather and I love you." He apologized to me and said that it probably doesn't matter now. I told him it did matter to me. He didn't apologize to my mom or grandma or anyone else. I was the only one. When I think of everything we missed out on...just sad.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing! That is so awful that anyone told you that! The love never leaves and so happy he could at least acknowledge how he treated you. Sending you so much love 💖💙💜 It is just so sad

[@agracefilledlife1397]

💞🙏🏻💞

[@spunkycat6144]

❤

[@christinamoon5245]

my papa did the same thing to me when I was 13 and made it on the cheerleading team!! he told me in front of Stater Brothers, and said ," Tina , you need to change and lose weight before you wear that outfit out in public "... he also taught me how to purge my body by making myself throw up at the age 10..... he always told me i was fat until I turned 18..... then i was diagnosed with precancerous cells on my cervix at 19 and he told me that's what i deserve for being a slut. this is a man who had guardianship of me since I was 2, and who adored me , until i turned 11ish....Then he totally changed up on me.... When he was on his death bed in 2011, Ivwas with him everyday in the hospital, he wasn't able to talk to me, but I told him i forgave him for everything and that I love him very much !! I was the last one to see him before he passed away in a hospice center ... brings me to tears every time I remember the state he was in before he passed .. knowing he would pass alone ruined me he was also very very harsh and rude to my mimi, but that would be a lot to write about .

[@Stephanie-mh4ee]

Danna, you are such a strong willed and smart woman. I look up to you. I felt your pain in your voice this whole video. You are doing the right thing for you right now. Keep healing girl ❤

[@MannyWC]

OMG, my gut hurts with the amount of pain you have experienced. So thankful you are saying ‘farewell’. You will heal. Get the pliers out and find all of their hooks. Fly be free! I went no contact with my mom, 4 yrs ago- very abusive narc, mental, emotional and physical. Ugh. And no contact with one brother for years now! Shedding the skin/the defensive layer does take time. Your humor is the best medicine. I thank you for opening this can of worms. I was shamed by my sister to keep the can closed. Families can suck! I know this is tmi, but I have 2 very amazingly sweet and masculine sons. We can bury, burn the family curses. They ended with me. ❤

[@montanadanna]

I’m so sorry you’ve experienced that kind of pain. Proud of you for cutting that out of your life and allowing yourself peace and healing. I cut my mom out of my life 20 years ago for the same reason. It’s so painful, it’s like a death. But, my mental health had to take priority and so proud of you for doing the same ✨✨✨ it’s certainly tricky with siblings. I would love to go to family functions and be able to see my siblings. It’s just not worth it anymore. I also want my siblings to have the best relationship possible with my other family members. It’s a pretty lonely experience, but thank you for sharing and connecting with me on this. Sending you so much love.

[@liz4581]

AMEN!!!

[@MannyWC]

@@montanadannayes so true about the family functions. My dad turned 80. My sister had a surprise BD party for him (she and her husband and 2 kids built a house on my parents ranch). My sons and I flew there, celebrated my dad. I looked right through my mom (and her posee’ of relatives that think Im evil). My sons cordially spoke with my mom. But I be damned, I wasn’t going to let her stop me - and my dad was so proud to see his grandsons. I hope your write your story down for other teenage+ girls to know there is a way out. I started my story, let my sister read (20 years younger- perfect life) a few chapters. PHEW did I get the passive aggressive-don’t share this- nod. LOL my dad wants me to write a book about my life (travels etc). If he only knew how the real story would go. He never protected me. That is a story in itself. In other videos, sharing how dating is frightening (yeah the attraction of the same type person is real! I married my mother! Freaking scary-we are divorced of course. I pray with all of my heart, your knight in shining armor will ride up and sweep you off your feet. Not to rescue you, but to let your feminine out of the bottle, and give the ‘mask’uline a rest. Peace and love❤

[@MelissaCarterRealtor]

I am sending you lots of healing Love!! What I heard from this is you are taking your life back, Go Danna!!! ❤ It really does feels so good to release and let go of things and people that do not serve our lives or make our lives better. Thank you for sharing!

[@montanadanna]

Letting go is so hard, but feels so good. Thank you for the wise words, Melissa. I appreciate the support. 💖✨

[@MelissaCarterRealtor]

@@montanadanna Absolutely!! Thank you for being YOU!!! 🥰

[@a.life.reimagined]

They cannot be fixed, ever. Narcissists are empty souls, we’ve all been through it, but they suck and our world has a lot of them….❤❤😢😢😢😢

[@mimimims5842]

I just realized, why I connect with you on such a deep level. I kept my children away from the misogynist in my life, I do not have a relationship with him for many years. I had to grieve also, there were good memories but at the end of the day I will not allow anyone trample my self worth. I noticed since 2016 misogynists getting out of control and we as a society letting it slide. Years ago my misogynist said to me I should be grateful that he fed me. Really? I think staving your child is against the law, was that an option for him? He also accused me of leaving him. Hum interesting choice of words, because I was moving to a new city as an adult. Let me channel my inner Leslie Gore … 🎵 you don’t own me, I am not just one of your little toys. 🎵

[@liz4581]

I agree that the increase in the boldness within the misogynist or the narcissist began increasing around 2016 and to me, is NOW in full force. There is a line being drawn right now in the sand and we are all making our choices for either staying under the control of someone or allowing God to handle them and to give us freedom.

[@mimimims5842]

@@liz4581 You are correct, it is up to us, to project love and compassion into the world. I hope others are getting tired of this being the norm.

[@MannyWC]

Cut the reigns and run like hell! Growing up between 2 brothers and a narc mom, yeah, I get you girl! Mom was the worst! Misogynist! My dad always said to me, don’t marry a doctor, be a doctor. And I did🎉

[@bullpups]

I have two sisters that are doctors and they're completely unbearable narcissists.

[@MannyWC]

@@bullpups I am sorry for that. You know you are not a narc if you are curious if you are. A narc would NEVER reveal their identity even to themselves.

[@FortitudeAndResiliencee]

You've faced misogyny with strength, sharing your experiences bravely. Your insights reflect deep thought, showing steps to break toxic cycles. You're worthy of respect and love, deserving kindness always. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift you. Keep speaking out and standing up; you're not alone.

[@suitebabygurl1979]

this makes me so sad. A dad should always be there to comfort and reassure his children. I am surprised you were able to heal and stay there after your last break up, that must have been hard and met with no sympathy & love at all. I am sorry that you and him no longer have a relationship. The laundry thing, wow! Way to make a young woman (who is new to all this adulthood) feel even more insecure and unsafe!! I got mine at 11 and I was not prepared either! Im sorry. you had to deal with all the comments when it should have been love presented all this time. I wish you healing, peace & love from Canada

[@crawleyr4919]

Gosh, my daughter is 20 years old now and has a very good relationship with her dad… They’ve gone fishing together three times in the last week… But they both give each other such a hard time and some of the things he says to her so hilariously bad but she gives it right back to him and it’s hilarious. It’s sad to see a father daughter relationship so broken. 🥹

[@kristiewood5028]

They really ruin every experience. Its so gross.

[@kimberlyannmitchell]

Danna, thank you for sharing and being vulnerable: I am sure that many can relate. It sounds like you've done a lot of healing and inner child work. I'm sorry that you are going through this and that you had to experience what you have. I admire you and all the hard work you do and all the gifts and talents that you have. Keep on shining!

[@montanadanna]

I have a feeling it will be a lifelong journey, but it feels good to share and release some of the burden. It is pretty vulnerable. I just hope it helps someone. It’s something I needed to hear especially in my 20s. 💖✨

[@wickedfann]

I’m so sorry you’ve dealt with this Dana. It makes me so sad to hear this, but also extra thankful for my supportive husband who even during the times where I’m (admittedly) acting a little crazy, still supports me 😂 Good for you for standing up for yourself and changing the cycle. Sending so much love, girl. Never dull your shine for someone else and never stop being you 🩷

[@lauramoor7730]

I’ve never clicked so fast on a video❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@kimproffer9456]

You are a beautiful soul Danna! Don’t let anyone ever abuse you in any way! 🙏💗❌⭕️

[@myrastevens7098]

My dad was very much like what you are talking about. He was a complete bully. My relationship with him was a constant verbal fight because I took on a very masculine role in dealing with him. He has since passed, and I hope he is learning new ways that are healthier in dealing with others.

[@minnesotavegangirl5055]

I feel like you are describing my father, who I also have cut out of my life. I have been no contact for over 7 months. Even though I am deeply sad about this some days, my life has become so much more peaceful and my self esteem has been growing immensely. I’m proud of you.

[@montanadanna]

Oh my gosh, I’m so sad to hear that. I can feel your pain. It is so sad and so much grief. But worth the self-esteem and worthiness. I’m proud of you too and if you ever want to chat, shoot me an Instagram message. 💖✨

[@PollyannasWorld]

Awesome Video! I recognized these misoggynistsin my life...much later in life (around 50) am now 73 . It is a grieving process to let go... but you heal and become stronger when you do let go. So glad you have identified those that are true supporters of you and those that use you to try and build themselves up. Yes, there are many Beautiful Men in this world. I am thankful for those men too! Some people get hurt and express their hurt through anger..... while others try to hide their hurt by pleasing everyone around them...which is impossible. You have rightly recognized that misoggynists are hurting people and they are not your problem to fix. Again....letting go is hard, it is a grieving process but You are doing great ~ continuing doing what you love and know that not everyone will approve..... but that doesn't matter..... As long as what you do doesn't hurt anyone ~ May God Bless You!

[@Amyflo149]

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s harder to grieve this type of loss because it feels like giving up hope. I wish he could say, “Danna, I’m so proud of you.” I’m sorry Danna, and many of us are sending u healing vibes and we r proud of you.

[@joancraig-wood6136]

Wow, I’m so sorry that you’ve been through this. You have a very kind heart, and you deserve to be free from this person. I’ve had to cut people out of my life that I loved very much, but I could never be my best, strongest self, while having them in my life. I know you’re going to continue doing great things. ❤

[@Dropsofknowledge365]

Thank you for being brave, confident and beautiful for speaking up on this subject! You’re doing so many woman a huge favor shedding light on this daily subject. Everyone has one in their life!

[@mayam6678]

Girl, at least you are aware of it. It took me way longer to realize that. Now I am finally recognize it almost right away. Love you for who you are ❣

[@LaurenInJersey]

The people that have a problem with you setting boundaries are the ones who benefitted from you not having any. My Dad was the exact same way. It was awful. I had the worst relationships because I dated my Father. You are loved and worthy of all your heart desires ❤

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the love. Sorry you had that experience and hope you have found worthiness as well 💖✨ much love to you!

[@kaqs8994]

The gentle way you convey this wisdom is the way people learn. You are a good teacher. You speak in a way others will listen. Excellent video, again, another one

[@JessicaIulianella-d9h]

i really needed this burst of BURSting! today... nice to feel supported and not alone in this

[@susandusenbury6352]

Your vulnerability is so beautiful to experience. ❤

[@montanadanna]

Thank you for seeing me, Susan 😊

[@susanczajka6327]

You have heard everything you said! You are talking about My mother and brothers. I finally broke free and After my Mom passed in Oct. I have disowned them! Feeling free. At 64.. I love my life!!

[@sarashattuck4022]

Thank you so much for this. It really helped me put some perspective on my own life experience.

[@sandiedrew4086]

Sending love and hugs to you Danna. You are not alone. We are all here with you. I have lived through many similar situations as you and I have suffered until I went no contact and then started to heal. I wish that I had known how to navigate the bs when I was a kid but I know now. You are an awesome, beautiful person and I have so much respect for you. The amount of people you are helping is amazing. Thank you my dear friend❤😊

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the sweet words, Sandie 💖💜💙 So proud of you for putting yourself and your healing first. Much love to you!

[@Blind_Bibliophilic_Life]

Danna, I’m so sorry that you’ve been told such horrendous things. This person is also projecting his own failures onto you. I’ve dealt with several misogynists in my life. I think my dad would be the biggest one. I absolutely love him and he’s never told me to leave and I think he might not know he’s doing it as my mom, brother and no think he may be an undiagnosed autistic. I used to write a lot of poetry and one day I’d written one and for the first time ever I thought I’d share it with him, he read it and said, “you know plagiarism is a crime right?” I was floored, but I told him, “yes, I know but I did write that”. He scoffed and said, “well okay then”. I never showed anyone anything ever again and I even stopped writing. Anytime I’ve ever wanted to try something new, “well, let’s see how long you stick with this, you stop everything you start”. 😐 I had to tell him one day, “because of you! That’s why I fail at whatever I try cause you get into my head and make me self doubt myself you never encourage me it’s always negativity”. Then when I call him out, he goes silent for days…weeks, sometimes even months. He always insists on doing things I’m trying to do cause he’ll “do it better and the right way”. 🙄 I live with my family, I’m disabled and living off $600 a month so moving out is not an option unfortunately. 🫤 Sending you hugs and love from Texas. 🫶🏻

[@crawleyr4919]

That does not look like misogyny to me whatsoever. It sounds like a dad whose trying to teach his daughter to be a strong, independent, ethical and moral person. I don’t think he would’ve taken the time to even talk to you about your stuff if he hated women, disliked and found the need to degrade them. If anything, that sounds like he was trying to lift you up and make you a better person.

[@montanadanna]

I’m so sorry you had such a difficult relationship with your mother. That sounds very painful. I think we all know what our threshold is and so important to honor that and listen to it. Proud of you for doing that for yourself and I hope you know you’re worth. 💖✨

[@karenann3841]

You got out of Montana right on time! I feel from my own experience, you are on your way to a better life, nothing will stop you now! There are great people out there you have not met just yet! You got this…❤

[@montanadanna]

Yes, only surrounding myself with people who feel safe and working on my own inner bull$&@*

[@user-sh1if3jt4f]

So sorry!!! You are absolutely correct to cut that person out of your life! Good for you! I have had to do the same, it's hard but so worth it. I'm happier and healthier.

[@montanadanna]

It is very hard, and so proud of you for putting your happiness and health first 💖💜💙

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for this sweet comment. I hope you know you’re worth and sending you so much love and strength. ✨💖 I feel like it will be a life long journey, and it sure feels good to have some support. I support you too and wishing you a lot of strength. ✨

[@fransa6]

You are such a beautiful strong woman. What you say is so helpful for many women who cannot articulate the issue as you do. I admire you so much for all the work you have done in healing yourself you are a wonderful role model. Sending you love and hope that your relationship with the misogynist can repair in the future. Thank you.

[@montanadanna]

The only reason I shared is because a younger version of myself needed to hear this and I hope it can help others in this situation to hold on to their value and not internalize these things. I have zero hopes of the relationship in the future. If it happens, great. But not counting on it. 💖💙💜

[@desireediaz5331]

In case no one has told you this, you are ENOUGH!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@montanadanna]

Thanks for the love 💖💙💜

[@liz4581]

Oh my Gosh, YES!!!! Making me feel like I'm a SPOILED LITTLE BRAT!!! When have I NEVER experienced this??? WOW. Just WOW!!!! I'm relating, Danna. And I bawling out. And I thank you for this confession and for helping your sister today!

[@KayakingCalifornia]

The key is to learn how to be your own self support system, instead of looking outside of your self for someone to give that support to you. Once you get clear about what you want and value, and what is, and is not acceptable, you will stop attracting abusive people into your life. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but in time you will begin to surround yourself with people who treat you the way you want to be treated. You are on the road to recovery. It is a process, which takes time, growth and forgiveness. You are on the right path. Just remember that he is like the way he is, because of the way his parents treated hiim. He is also terrified of being unlovable.

[@CorinnePlaysPiano]

So sorry you’ve had to cut ties with him. It sounds like a tough situation, especially if they were good to you other ways. I’m glad you have many other people who support and love you unconditionally. (Also I’m happy we got two videos so close together!).

[@tkhodnett8443]

Keep being yourself. You are a strong woman. And brave! I’m not dealing with a misogynistic person but dealing with a narcissist…so so similar. The best thing to do with these people is run from them. I so relate to what you are saying. Narcissists put you down to make themselves feel better and blame you for all their problems.

[@trishamaclachlan9758]

❤❤❤❤I can relate to this big time. It’s been a long road for me but I did distance myself from these people to who did not have good things to say or support me. I agree some where they got let down and that’s why they are that way. This is one of many things I like about your channel your honesty ❤your a strong woman and I am so proud of you of ❤. I too use humor to get through things it really does help ❤

[@manie54321]

🌷Thank You for sharing your experiences and being vulnerable. You have a good head on your shoulder even if it doesn’t seem like it at times. Stay blessed ❤❤❤

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the love. I appreciate it. It definitely feels vulnerable and healing as well. 💖✨

[@bobvanevery367]

Danna I love you. Keep being you always , your amazing and everything about you makes my day everytime you bless us with your presence.

[@montanadanna]

I appreciate the sweet words 💖💙💜 Thank you!

[@vickyparker2791]

I needed to hear this! I’ve been married to a narcissist for 43 years! There is so much I can say but I’ll just say I am glad you are removing yourself from a toxic person even if he is family! Good for you! I just don’t share my thoughts anymore. I know I have a right to my opinion but I just keep it inside of me.

[@crawleyr4919]

43years?!!! Wow congratulations? (Why didnt ou leave him?) Did you have kids? How are they doing? Do they love their dad?

[@montanadanna]

That makes me sad you don't share your thoughts! I hope you have people around you who encourage you to be your authentic self 💖💙💜 Much love to you.

[@Lilliebug01]

My brother was the misogynist in my life we don’t talk anymore he is not allowed in my house I feel so sorry for his wife = remember if he treats you that way he is treating other women that way you are helping others by voicing what others may be feeling but not know how to explain their feelings

[@montanadanna]

I’m sorry, it’s so painful!! Yes, he definitely treats other women this way too! Unacceptable. Proud of you for setting healthy boundaries. ✨💖

[@karenmays8889]

Hopefully, you have some good funny comeback lines to this person. That should piss them off.❤

[@Lilliebug01]

There is never a good comeback because they won't get it they will just say it's your monthly or your too sensitive or I told you I am right they just won't get it

[@crawleyr4919]

How does he treat his wife? She doesnt think he is “mysogenistic?”

[@montanadanna]

@@crawleyr4919 well, he has no wife, been divorced twice, and a restraining order from an ex-girlfriend.

[@lohrss]

YOu understand the wounding--the generational trauma--and that is the gift of all this pain (to now transmute). God bless you!!

[@montanadanna]

Yes ... and healing is quite the journey 😵‍💫😂 Much love to you 💖💙💜

[@lohrss]

@@montanadanna You deserve the world.. and it seems like it's all coming together for you now💝

[@kristinelockwood2431]

Danna, I’m confused by this video and the use of the word ‘misogynist’. I thought it meant the hatred of women. Does this person only say things like ‘tiny brain’ to you and other women or do they treat everyone like that, putting them down? This word has truly been used a lot more in the last decade. I know I’m from a different generation entirely than you but people like that when I was younger were genuinely just ignored(‘Macho’ ‘Chauvinist’) Did I know people like that within our family? Yes. Did some of their comments hurt? Yes. Was it frustrating to be around? Yes. Did I wipe them out of my life? No-ish. As I got older (20’s and up) I realized it was more of a ‘them’ problem. I found it easier to be kind and loving rather than take offense. I also prayed a lot for that person and myself. I’m not saying you aren’t kind or a loving person because you do seem like you are, I’m just saying you can tolerate bullying, chauvinist, narcissist, misogynistic behaviors by, not giving creed to their behavior. That being said as a general rule, you do sometimes have to separate yourself from people entirely for a time that are out of control abusive. The person in my life that was hard to live with was my mother . She was both physically and mentally abusive to my siblings and myself. I did go to a Psychologist when I was 13 and 14. He helped me realize that she had issues that were causing her behaviors and I couldn’t control that or be good enough for her not to lash out. I lived with my dad from 13-18. She didn’t get better until she was finally in assisted living and had to take medication (that she wouldn’t do on her own)daily that helped with bipolar disorder symptoms. I haven’t seen her since 2012 when she started screaming at me and my husband and asked what were we doing there(she was in the hospital at the time). My point is that some times you can just ignore ignorant people in your life and still be around them and sometimes you can’t. There is evil and ugly people in this world, do not throw your pearls to swine. I enjoy watching your videos/vlogs/ and the musical. You are funny and beautiful. I hope you can continue what you’re doing for as long as you can. Best to you.

[@joleneharper9036]

I am pretty sure i know who your talking about and I remember him being like that when he was in school. However i think we all have if not one but more in our lives and even though it is hard cutting them out is the best for us personally. Way to go for vocalizing it!!!!

[@montanadanna]

He’s not the one I’m talking about, but yes. Has very similar traits too. I have emulated a lot of the traits as well. Just focusing on me, and what I can do to create a better future and not continue these cycles. ✨✨

[@crawleyr4919]

@@montanadanna when I’m feeling especially low and down, I find it more helpful to concentrate on others being there for others, doing some thing volunteer or what not. It saves my depression every time.

[@nancyshogren3457]

You have some wonderful insights. You are a strong woman. I was in that type of relationship for 9 years until I gained some strength and confidence in myself. I also learned this: men are like buses; there's another one around the corner every 10 minutes. Some you need to let go by as they are not going your way. Join up with the ones that will take you farther towards your final destination. Bless you and keep strong. ❤

[@cclose8007]

Thank you for sharing and inspiring me ❤ sending you lots of love ❤

[@TheRealAngelGrace]

We love you, Danna ❤

[@liz4581]

34:12 minutes..... "Now that I have opinions and agency and released myself from the dynamic, he feels powerless!" ****you're describing satan and the narcissist**** yes!!!!

[@Bindi111]

Thank you Danna ❤ for all your thoughts on this subject. Creating boundaries is hard but necessary to live a good life. I’ve had to do the same as you are doing with people in my family. You are an empath and unfortunately narcissist’s are drawn to empaths and vice versa.

[@christinamoon5245]

24:24 my mother is the same way !!! when never I'm going through shit, she always has to one up me and tell me to get over g and stop being a victim... like damn but when she's going through shit... I help her through it... well, not anymore but i used to

[@Autobahn4537]

I used to have someone close to me exactly like this!! They’ve passed away and I finally have my freedom from emotional and physical abuse. I definitely prefer dogs over people!

[@montanadanna]

UGG, it’s so sad. And it’s disgusting that they think they can treat people that way. It is so awful. I’m so sorry you were emotionally and physically abused. Sending you so much love. It does make it way harder to trust people, but there are good men out there 💖✨ Hope you’re healing and happy

[@NashvilleNikki]

Love you D. You inspire me to be better. All the love ❤️

[@abigailh7715]

I always feel sorry for people like that. Like you said, he never received the love and guidance to develop his own self worth & self esteem let alone how to treat others well and consider their feelings

[@radgirl113]

YOU ARE LOVED!!!❤

[@spunkycat6144]

I have been taking it on all these years, so this is healing. But I vowed to never, if i had a kid, not bring it around him, so it wouldnt be beaten or cut down.

[@angiehoffman7964]

May you find a great man to keep forever.

[@montanadanna]

What a sweet message. Thank you. 💖✨

[@sarahj54321]

Great words of wisdom we all need to live by. Thank you for being transparent. This video inspired me for many reasons, one of which was to subscribe! Carry on girl! Love your tiny brains 😉

[@montanadanna]

Haha 😂 thank you so much for the love, I appreciate it ✨💖 Hope you know your value and worth 💖

[@angelaclausing5565]

Girl your making the right decision about cutting this person out. I know its a very difficult thing to cut ppl out that doesn't accept you or brighten your life, doesn't matter how much you love them, its hard but its needed!!!! My past has some of those and its still hard 5 yrs later, but everyday I realize how important this decision is. So I'm happy your fighting for yourself and keep kickin ass. You're strong, beautiful and your "tiny brains" is more then this said person has so You're already better then him. You at least have more then one 👀😂 love your damn face! Also I wore the candy cane lane benie I bought from you and your "tiny business" and holy moly that thing saved my life and my warm head at lagoon last week when it was freezing so thank you and your "tiny business that I paid for your product"

[@LindaHichcliffe]

Wow wow wow Danna, i just want to say, well done for having the strength to cut this person out off your life(even though it hurt too do so). I just wish i had very long arms then i could give you a massive hug. Look after yourself Danna and always remember, you are a blooming gorgeous person inside and out.❤

[@viviangoff8214]

Watching you I wanted so badly to give you a hug. I’m so glad you are emotionally intelligent enough not to take what any misogynist says or does to you and have it define you. Every word you said made so much sense. I’ve encountered these awful traits in men my whole life. Presently not having to deal with that. My husband is wonderful (not perfect) but easy to be with. We both really respect each other. So anyway. Take good care of yourself Danna. 🙏🌼

[@Meekavintage]

im sooooo PROUD of you ! LOVED THIS REAL & RAW DANA.. love this content i can see you really helping people as you go through your healing journey.. Love your comedy too of course ..

[@dkitayama12]

Danna, You are a great person. Take care of yourself. Do what is best for Danna.

[@roseandjoematz1286]

Wow! You opened my “tiny” brain! Well said, in so many ways…

[@popspops3795]

Hi, Danna! I'm glad you don't ignore the situation(s) that lead(s) you to feel that way and confront it. I grew up around and surrounded by strong men and women, and what I found was partnership, support, mutual growth, loyalty, friendship, and serenety. What I did not find was competition, controlling, and selfishness. We all go through difficult relationships, but it doesn't mean we need to accept them or disregard them as part of life. In order for you, or anyone, to live a healthy life, it's imperative to prioritize our safety (e.g. finacial; shelter; physical; emotional; mental; etc.), our health (e.g. physical; emotional; mental; etc.), and happiness (e.g. the journey to accomplishments and fulfillments; etc.). All else are consequences. Sorry for the long message. Stay safe, stay healthy, and stay happy! Pops

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for your love and heartfelt message. It’s actually very healing to hear that that type of partnership is possible. Something to look forward to, certainly. I appreciate your kind words and onward and upward. Hope you are well and thank you for your insight. 💖✨

[@gingerl2995]

Actually a theme in my life as an authentic empathic person. However I’m surrounded by narcissists in my family. Truly an epidemic of mass proportions… men and women. I’m going through same grieving with my mother who is still alive. Can’t do the put downs and drama anymore! I’m alone but dang it’s more peaceful… it’s great you have good men and friends. Hoping to step out of the darkness very soon. A lot of damage done to my kids and myself from multiple people including 2 husbands. It’s actually a 53 yr long horror movie I didn’t know I was in. Anyway all we can do is move forward while healing. Still convincing myself can ya tell lolol. You are an awesome lovely smart funny creative lady …don’t let anyone tell you different. Much love and hugs to you!

[@liz4581]

YES! It's an epidemic for sure. Darkness and Light are clashing. I believe Light is being brought together and darkness is also being brought together. These are definitely interesting times.

[@gingerl2995]

@@liz4581 agree psychological warfare with dark and light coming to a head … they can’t hide anymore and we aren’t taking it anymore. Have a feeling the upcoming eclipse will be a turning point. You are correct the light is coming together…. However in my opinion the dark is falling…. They can’t keep their mask on anymore. What was done in the dark will come to light. Thank you for your comment it means a lot. We are in a battle no doubt. Much love and hugs!!!

[@mimimims5842]

I feel much the same, I would rather be alone where it is peaceful rather than, be with someone who diminishes my worth.

[@spunkycat6144]

I am on number 3 and Girl, you need to have a sitcom😂😂😂😂.

[@russserage4323]

Thank you for shedding light on the misogynistic tendencies RESIDENT within MY character; sobering but unfortunately very true. Good news is, I’m NOT DEAD yet and because of Jesus, hope truly “springs eternal!!” Would to God I find the wherewithal to change! I have always found you funny, clever & entertaining so kinda being “blindsided” by your depth of feeling & intelligence on display today sadly speaks to MY “tiny little brain!” Dang! The truth does sting now & again now doesn’t it?! You GoGirl! Keep doing what you do & being who you are! You will be a great Mom in a coming day! #hopeofAmerica #motherhood💜

[@pamelarichmond9941]

Im sorry you had to go through any of this. You are on the right track. proud of you. I only know you from this channel. You are doing the right thing. You gave us a lot of good advice . I was married to that for 25 years, and yes, my children have some of the same tendencies. You are right. The job of a parent is to support your children through good bad and the ugly. Guide them with your knowledge Dana, I would be proud to have a daughter as kind, beautiful, and talented aa you are. Keep on doing what you do best, which is a genuine you. Thank you for sharing.

[@danabinaz3173]

I’m so sorry you are hurting Danna. I know this feeling and it just sucks. It’s a wound that’ll always be there but I lift you up in I’m so proud of your accomplishments and all that you have survived because it was not easy. It should have been better. But here you are… you are here and we love you 🥰.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much, Dana. I appreciate the love and support as always. Looking forward to the future and so happy you’re coming along. 💖✨

[@kayleyharding7512]

Love how you articulate this

[@kayleyharding7512]

Wow as I'm continuing the rest of the video I just admire you more and more. Thank you for sharing this. Sending the biggest most massive hug and loads of love.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you, it’s certainly something I needed to hear when I was younger. So happy it’s resonating. ✨💖 I’m feeling the love.

[@lesakingsbury1612]

This resonates so much with me, started with my childhood growing up and continued with the few men I did have in my life and “stupidly” I married 2 of them and still didn’t recognise the signs and just thinking 🤔 it was all ME as that is what I had heard all my life. Thank you for sharing Dana, please know how much your “tribe/community “ think of you and care about you and I know DEFINITELY 💯 appreciate you and grateful for you, sending so much love 🥰 and thanks 🙏🏻 to you from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤❤❤❤

[@crawleyr4919]

I’m just curious what sorts of behaviors are exhibited in someone who is a misogynistic man that gets married?

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the love. So happy you’ve recognized these patterns and sending you so much support in your healing journey 💖✨ you are loved, and you are worthy

[@colleenG.]

Although this vlog had to have been very hard on you to do, thank you for putting this out there. My daughter unfortunately went through 18 years of this kind of behavior on her. She tried to make it work but had to leave after 18 years and a death threat to my daughter. She lost her 2 children to this mans actions after a divorce and hasnt seen them for 3 years because of the ex husbands lies to try to get my daughter to come back to him. I pray for everyone who is going through life with a misogynistic type person. 💗

[@jdawg414]

No room for misogyny or any other person that treats others beneath them.

[@LisaMarkIsley]

Danna … I have a VERY difficult time distinguishing the difference between narcissistic and misogynistic with MY dad! I love him … but he’s #1 in HIS life. I (because of financial reasons) am living with him at 54, he’s 81 🙄🙄! We aren’t talking right now because he wants me to repeat stories he’s told me but when I talk he’s busy playing solitaire. He’s the most charismatic guy in the room, everyone LOVES his stories, he’s a funny guy, he LOVES the attention!! He has 3 daughters, in fact, NO males were born to any of his siblings (seems like God wanted to break THAT cycle). So girl… I feel you more than you know. And I’m still trying to figure shit out. My daughter I getting married in Vegas in October and, guess what, he said he’s not going (oh, he ONLY has granddaughters, too - one has a masters in Nutrition, one is premed, one wants to study art in Paris and one wants to be a lineman (power))! Tell me those girls aren’t badass!! Oh girl, my dad used to tell us (while in vacation) that we’d better not swim in the ocean or we’d attract sharks (period blood). ALL 3 of us girls needed approval from my dad … my oldest sis played volleyball and cheerleading; middle sister was badass and played baseball, volleyball, basketball, softball, track, golf & played division 1 basketball; then me, volleyball, basketball, softball and was asked to play division 1 basketball (said no) and asked to play college volleyball (said no). I said all this to say we just did all this to please him. You’re amazing Danna, and I’m so proud of you & who you are! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@gingerl2995]

I feel you, had much of the same! Fun fact at my Dads funeral he literally wanted the song played “I did it my way” … my narcissist half brother I barely ever saw cut that song out because he wanted Dads service to be his way. Lololol I can laugh now but at the time I was flabbergasted. Much love to you!

[@LisaMarkIsley]

@@gingerl2995… oh girl!!! What is it with our dad’s? We love(d) them, but they make it soooo fucking hard!

[@gingerl2995]

@@LisaMarkIsley I took care of my Dad and Stepmom for 5 years,,, after 2 strokes he couldn’t drive and by then she had bad dementia that was hidden for a long time from family. Never lived with my Dad tried to get a nurse service to come in but stepmom threw a fit so he made me cancel service opted to go to assisted living dementia ward with her. OMG it was a night mare beyond nightmares on top of selling his house and creating an estate. I was only child living local so most everything was put on me. Tried to see the positive thinking finally get to spend quality time with him maybe we could finally bond in some way now he was being humbled. No he told me I now had 2 extra children (them) to take care of on top of other 2 being single too. That whole experience would take a book to relate but after he died the half siblings (vultures) made my life a living hell. It’s taken 5 years to process with PTSD already after 2 narc husbands. I pray your experience is much better. Much love.

[@taylorbailorvlogs]

Makes me sad that so many people in the comments have too went through this. I had a narcissistic mother which is very similar who, not making excuses for her, but went through trauma, a murder/suicide situation, with her parents which I won't go into details about here. She was 26 and I was 5. She then became an addict and passed that trauma down through the generations. We had never much got along when I was s kid and we started in family therapy when I was about 13, due to a school counseling having to get involved, etc. They always preached to us about boundaries but living in someone's house and being dependent on them, it was very hard to stick to boundaries when basis needs were held over my head in exchange for boundaries being crossed. When I finally became an adult who was capable of taking care of myself, I cut my mom of for almost a year and moved about an hour away. Then some major health issue happened to her husband, my step dad who raised me and we started talking again. She had gotten sober during that time and thankfully for my situation, which I know is not always the case but since then she has respected my boundaries now. We still keep our distance and I keep her at arms length. When she says something I don't like, I immediately either hang up the phone or leave but it's rare these days. I know that not always the case but I think I've almost trained her that if she wants me in her life, she's going to have to respect me or I have no problem cutting her out.

[@montanadanna]

Wow. I’m sure it’s so hard to raise children and be experiencing so much drama. My heart goes out to you and I wish you so much healing. So proud of you for setting boundaries and sticking to them. It’s inspiring and I wish you well on your healing journey. 💖✨

[@taylorbailorvlogs]

@@montanadanna Thank you! It's not always been easy and still a lot of days are challenging. It's taken a lot of healing, growing pains and heartaches over the last few years but it's been worth it. I wish you the best in your healing journey as well. You've got this girl!

[@montanadanna]

@@taylorbailorvlogs Sending you so much love and healing. It can be such a lonely journey so let me know if you ever want to chat. Healing certainly isn't linear if I've learned anything.🖤🖤

[@taylorbailorvlogs]

@@montanadanna I'm always down to chat and help each other through it so just shoot me a message! Like I said, I have my days even still. This is not a "promo" of myself, but if you ever need someone to chat with, vent to, anything, my socials are on my channel page. I've watched you for many many years Danna and have considered you an internet friend. We have gone through very similar things so I'm always down to talk and be there for you and vice versa. It is very lonely and I wouldn't ever want to go through what I've been through and have it be in vain. I try to use that experience to help others around me going through similar situations. I'm always here. ❤❤

[@taylorbailorvlogs]

This open invitation extends to anyone else in the comments reading this as well.

[@zenstitch9972]

Wise one!

[@montanadanna]

💖✨

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[@spunkycat6144]

I wonder who buys groceries, washes his clothes, changes his bedsheets, preps the food, cleans his kitchen, like, who hus servant is...i bet he doesnt talk sheet to her. My dad does stuff like that, it is part of his generation and lack of formal education and one minded black and white viewpoint. In his case, women need to be sheltered and fed, so they put up with him as ling as possible and the older they get, they stay. Yeah, he has been married 4 times. My girl cousin is worse than him, she calls me names, they are drinking buddies. He kicked me around when i was a kid, so I avoid him, but wife #4 and cousin weren't around when he was on a drunk beating fest so they dont believe it happened. Fudge it all.

[@hollamonE]

I hope this isn't parental misogyny.. 😢 it is so confusing when someone who is a role model isn't. protect you, and they don't.. so destructive...

[@montanadanna]

Oh it is. And this was my more stable parent! But I have adopted many parental figures over the years and so grateful for them. Also grateful for the good things my parents have given me. But I no longer talk to either of my parents and it’s so hard and sad. My mental health is more important. I used to want to just have a relationship that had solid boundaries. I could be around them every once in a while. But cutting ties completely has been so healing.

[@bkm2797]

Pretty sure it is, all indicators point in that direction. Certainly has made her life more of a challenge. I really hope all who have struggled with this type of up close and personal parenting (whether from a parent or a partner) come to realize it's just not worth the damage it causes to your psyche. It's Ok to try and have a deep conversation with them, the idea that if they don't want to hear you, now it's time to love them from afar, really far far away, ask nothing of them and move on with your life. It's also important to remember you cannot fix them, unless of course you come across one that is so rare it's like finding a DoDo bird. She is so gifted, I hope she learns the most important lesson, to love herself first (the hardest part of this life for most of us), never settle for less because you will feel less, and that just makes no sense. It really is important to be your own best friend.

[@culturavibe]

@@montanadannaI feared this. It was so brave of you for sharing! Keep healing ❤️‍🩹 It takes time! One day at a time. We think you are amazing even though we are strangers that don’t matter as much as this figure in your life. ❤️ Just know that we think you are a creative strong amazing and intelligent being!

[@hollamonE]

​@montanadanna, so sorry, Danna. You are a beautiful woman, and your parents were given a wonderful opportunity having a child like you to have so much love and exponential things to be proud of. I stopped talking to my parents for some of the same abusive reasons. I didn't speak to my father for 4 years before he died and I have no regrets. Zero. It takes so much pain and abuse for someone to finally stop talk to their parents. You have to go through literal hell to arrive where you are. Keep being strong and healing yourself. There is so much to unravel when someone like this is a major influence. You are awesome, and you being solid in yourself is the way out. Good job!!!!!

[@sandraida5895]

​@@montanadanna Man that sucks :( it looked like you were pretty good friends, making music together and all.... How fun it was when he pranked the guy he "set you up" with.... Very sorry it came to this ❤

[@lyons11siren]

Thank you for letting us know why you named your musical “Another Dumb Blonde”. May you feel all the love in the world.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much. I appreciate the love.😊😊

[@bkm2797]

So much I want to say to you, but I need to think about how to phrase what I'm thinking. Some of what I do want to say is if this is about a parent, it's not necessarily just about misogyny, more about a narcissistic behavior pattern. Yes he needs healing, but he has to be a willing participant. I hope you find a place where you can breathe and use all the gifts you have so this pain can be set to the side giving it no more attention, just forgiveness that you thought what was isn't possible. Hang in there Danna, this too shall pass.❤️👍

[@DesertAdventuresinArizona]

Thank you for sharing your experience. You opened my eyes and taught me (as a Man) what it’s like being on the receiving end. I’m 68 and am sitting here trying to remember if I behaved this way. I think I did. Thank you Dana.

[@montanadanna]

Wow! I’m impressed with your self reflection. I have too but never too late to change ✨💖Thank you for listening

[@christinamoon5245]

my papa did the same thing to me when I was 13 and made it on the cheerleading team!! he told me in front of Stater Brothers, and said ," Tina , you need to change and lose weight before you wear that outfit out in public "... he also taught me how to purge my body by making myself throw up at the age 10..... he always told me i was fat until I turned 18..... then i was diagnosed with precancerous cells on my cervix at 19 and he told me that's what i deserve for being a slut. this is a man who had guardianship of me since I was 2, and who adored me , until i turned 11ish....Then he totally changed up on me.... When he was on his death bed in 2011, Ivwas with him everyday in the hospital, he wasn't able to talk to me, but I told him i forgave him for everything and that I love him very much !! I was the last one to see him before he passed away in a hospice center ... brings me to tears every time I remember the state he was in before he passed .. knowing he would pass alone ruined me he was also very very harsh and rude to my mimi, but that would be a lot to write about

[@spunkycat6144]

Girl, you are nailing all true things❤.

[@venessajunga6362]

I can relate to Everything you are talking about in this video!❤And the misogynist family member of yours sounds just like my father. I feel you❤❤ and I am so sorry you have a family member like that. No one deserves that! I am secretly wishing your family member sees this video and can take it in and make a change❤ but I understand that change is too much to expect. But I still wish it🥰😘 You are amaaazingg by the waaay!!!!

[@crawleyr4919]

So many people here have men in their fmily who “hate women?!” Really?? All women they don’t get along with or respect whatsoever??

[@montanadanna]

@@crawleyr4919 only ones that provide supply

[@montanadanna]

I’m so sad to hear this was your experience. Sending you so much love and healing. I hope you know how, and you deserve to be loved and supported by the people around you 💖✨

[@crawleyr4919]

@@montanadanna ?? Im not sure what that refers to… sorry im not certain if maybe you tagged me by mistake?

[@montanadanna]

@@crawleyr4919 I was responding to one of your comments. My replies have been linking in the wrong spot today. I’m not sure why lol. thank you for all of your questions and adding to the conversation. Great to have a lot of different perspectives.

[@cathr08]

💔❤️‍🩹❤️ I’m so sorry-it’ so hard. Wishing you ALL the healing. You are an AMAZING human.

[@LoriLane-434]

Going no contact is absolutely like a death, but they're still alive. It's complicated to navigate emotionally. Talk to someone if you can. I didn't, but I should have. Also, be prepared for a smear campaign to be launched against you. Those are tough to swallow, but be patient. Some people will eventually see the truth, and the ones that don't aren't meant for you. Their rejection is God's protection! You are definitely not alone in navigating your way out of this toxic place. Be proud because you are ending generational curses, and that's badass. Look up the poem "You're Not Crazy, You're Just First." By Jamie Kern Lima

[@montanadanna]

It's SO true. It's so hard, confusing, complicated. I wish you SO much healing 💖💙💜 I'll look up the poem now. Thanks for sharing!

[@lulamamie8524]

I am married to a misogynist narcissist person; HOWEVER I have found MY VOICE 🎊 Life is good 😊 🎉❤ I have found that he is slowly changing 🙌🏻🥳🥳 Edited to say…. He is waking up to the fact that I enjoy being without him 😃

[@crawleyr4919]

Oh! So a Mysogenist (the definition being: a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women.).. is “slowly changing and waking up to the fact that i enjoy being without him.” Wow. Poor guy. He’s changing to make you happy but you’re happy that he realizes that you enjoy being without him. Do you really think that he’s gonna want to stick around for that kind of attitude? Women, what are you doing? What the actual hell? This sounds so incredibly sad to me. I can’t even…

[@lulamamie8524]

@@crawleyr4919 Hello 😃 I have learned that enough is enough. I choose happiness and a peaceful life. His BS 💩 is no longer tolerated! If he stays…. Fine. If not fine…. I have been through enough of his crap 💩 I am over it 😤

[@crawleyr4919]

@@lulamamie8524 I misunderstood and thought that you were still with him, still married to him. If he was a jerk and you left him then by all means, congratulations.

[@montanadanna]

That's really great to hear! Congratulations for finding your voice! 💖💜💙 Wishing you much peace and love!

[@rosiefletcher7469]

I think you get this type of person male and female. I think the internet is a wonderful thing. However, it has made people think they can say whatever to whom ever they want. You do not need to say every thought you have. Especially if it can be hurtful to someone. Barefoot and pregnant reminds me of my grandfather. He could not understand why I needed to go to school. Good for you for stepping away. Love you!!!!!! ♥♥♥♥♥

[@montanadanna]

I totally agree, it’s not a male problem. They are plenty of women who are misogynists as well. Plenty of women who say degrading things. It’s not a gender war at all, just something I’ve experienced personally and growing rapidly online. I think it’s worth talking about. Times are changing and I think it’s hard on all of us in different ways. Thanks for your insight. 💖✨

[@donanusca]

bless you 🥰 valued video today 🤗