Dating in Germany?! (American Exchange Student Explains)

[@thereshegoes5511]

nobody: me (a german): watches this because of not knowing how dating in Germany works neither

[@auraluna7679]

We don't date. You become friends, hang out together, declare your love and then pop the question if you want to be together. A: "Ich liebe dich." B:"Ich liebe dich auch." A:"Dann sind wir jetzt also zusammen?" B:"Jepp." A:"Cool."

[@jasrad456jellylord2]

@@auraluna7679 jea i'm German and i never dated a person I've met my partner only like you described there.

[@meterano7]

The spy

[@Dan-zc6bc]

U made my day :D that caught me off guard

[@veganplayspiano]

Mood

[@yannick7038]

"Age is just a number" - Michael Wendler

[@Sarah-ef4nr]

And prison is just a place✊🏼😂

[@trollpipi]

More like Josef Frizl

[@mangohuffle1193]

„With 12 you are an adult“- Yo Oli ( KZbin Künstler)

[@G31M1]

Lmao

[@titaxlp3677]

@@Sarah-ef4nr EGAL

[@RobTheWatcher]

"ich habe etwas mit ..." absolutely does NOT mean you are just talking. LOL

[@truliajan4970]

Yea I would say it means that you hook up with them without commitments

[@a.m.forssman2425]

Yeah, but "talking with someone" in the US also means you are doing more than just talking. It means like, flirting, hanging out, maybe hooking up a little, but you haven't made it official yet -- no "feste Beziehung" yet.

[@publicvoidmain]

Actually, etwas mit jemandem haben doesn't necessarily include actual talking...

[@aeiouaeiou100]

It does mean the same thing approximately

[@mistercornflakes761]

Hallooooo😂😂😂

[@stadom3]

Its kinda ironic that you were shocked that someone had a boyfriend in another country, when Passau is literally on the boarder to Austria😂

[@christianstachl]

That's what i was thinking, it could only be a 30 minute drive or so 😄

[@aehre_ertl]

Same i live in Austria and just drive like 10-15 min to Passau😂

[@einfachso9916]

Simon Ertl lol, same

[@lkrnpk]

yeah but EU borders are a bit different than US borders and Montana lives like maybe 800 km from the closest border in USA, so this concept can be more foreign to her

[@eyeswideopen7450]

@@christianstachl it is literally on the boarder

[@normalbuerger]

01:34 Age is just a number. Jail is just a place

[@stefan-jt9me]

Underrated comment 😂

[@cora1986]

Lmaoooo😂

[@sgtmaexx1709]

Lol

[@rosenzw]

age consent is 14

[@Neroxan]

"Nachos and movies don't go together" "Sweet popcorn is gross" What kind of person says this kind of stuff?!

[@InterFelix]

A not German person obviously 😂

[@laura_26o1]

Neroxan period 😂

[@FryingPan76]

österreicher zb. 😛

[@KerrMalygos]

@@FryingPan76 die waren aber auch schon immer komisch. Die zetteln auch nen Genozid an, nur weil die Kunstschule die nicht nimmt.

[@FryingPan76]

@@KerrMalygos hier werden solche leute nix. dazu müssen sie nach deutschland gehen.

[@peterkroger7112]

Yes, German boys don't take a hint. Actually, after my first date with my girlfriend I did not even know that we had just had one. I drove her home. At her parents house I stopped. I Looked at her, she looked at me.....and then I asked her why she did not step out of my car. Then she went. But I must have done something right. She is my wife now...since 14 Years. ;-)

[@aros7477]

Ehre

[@gerhardadler3418]

lol, i can imagine that well: "Get out of my car, aber pronto."

[@G31M1]

As a german boy I don’t want to annoy girls, I would only ask for her snapchat if I was sure that she’s cool with me and wouldn’t say no because I don’t want to get her into a weird situation with this fake friendliness bullshit and her giving me her name and not snapping with me at all because she never intended to do so in the first place.

[@ghfryw]

underrated comment, give him some upvotes :)

[@hanna_k_]

Why? Vielleicht ist das Mädchen ja doch an dir interessiert! Man weiß nie was in den Köpfen von Mädchen vorgeht 😂

[@loeschnigg45]

"The teenagers in german clubs are really nice and open". This statement probably corresponds to the fact that a 14 year old german/austrian kid would probably outdrink the average 20 year old US-american young adult. 😂😂

[@sgtmaexx1709]

True 😂

[@grafinakaasu9048]

And Guys in Germany make so bad anmachschprüche.

[@martinroner5688]

Oh God so true 🤣 those were good times

[@j.scamander2984]

The age gap thing is just with older boyfriends it's verrry uncommon for a boy to have a four years older girlfriend

[@amkaktiv2886]

Jein, also bei mir nicht. Aber auch erst nach der Schule

[@Manie230]

Das ist generell etwas was jeder Mensch mit sich selber ausmacht. Ich persönlich würde jetzt keine 16 jährige Daten keine Ahnung das fühlt sich nicht richtig an. Ich würde aber schon wenn ich 24 bin ne 20 jährige Daten. Also ich finde je älter man wird desto weniger macht das Alter ein Unterschied. Aber als 20 jähriger ne 16 jährige zu Daten würde ich persönlich nicht machen einfach weil ich als volljähriger erwachsener keine minderjährigen Daten würde. Anders wieder um als 18 jähriger da finde ich ist das ein wenig akzeptabler eine 16 jährige zu Daten. Aber am Ende muss das halt jeder für sich selbst entscheiden.

[@FryingPan76]

@@Manie230 pfffff, das kommt auf den einzelfall an. ich hatte mit 19 eine 22jährige freundin, mit 22 eine 16jährige und wieder auf -3 jahre, ...

[@Manie230]

FryingPan ich hab doch geschrieben das da dieser mit sich selber ausmachen muss *ich* würde aber niemals ne minderjährige Daten.

[@l.a.3680]

The formula for the "biggest age gap a couple can have without being wierd in germany" is: (Age of the Male):2+7. For example: The Girlfriend/Wife of a 40 Year old man has to be at least 27.

[@yaboyjay7202]

This whole - not saying "I love you" until months into a relationship - thing in the US is the weirdest thing to me. It's a complete throwoff whenever it comes up in a show I watch, because that's US exclusive and anywhere else people think it's crazy to make a huge deal out of that.

[@Ry9653]

I'm German and for me, that's completely normal. Some couples say that earlier and others later. I think it's weirder and more negative when you say that after you know each other only for a month or so, because you can't really LOVE a person after such a short time. What I experienced is that you often say "Ich hab dich lieb" at first, that's the softer version of "ich liebe dich" 😄

[@josephng8505]

However I feel like that’s also a thing I noticed in Asia. Like in Cantonese I wouldn’t say “I love you” a lot even in a relationship I would actually rather say “I like you” because it’s just a cultural thing. However if I do tell someone that I like them it does mean more than if I would do it in German.

[@Vardalon]

Let's be honest: do you really know if you love somebody when you just started dating?

[@Leenapanther]

I think "dating" is understood different in the US. There isn't this culture where you say "ok after the second date we have to do this" and after the thirth we're in a relationship. It's more like you know someone for a while and you come together after a while. When you are together you are together. I get the feeling that americans put dating and being in a relationship (Beziehung) on the same level. But maybe that's how I see it. By the way "Ich bin vergeben" is a way to tell someone you're in a relationship.

[@roesi1985]

I rather thought that it's the other way round. In Germany, you tend to be exclusive earlier and "wir sind zusammen" means you have a real relationship with everything that belongs to it whereas "dating" is often not really a relationship, just going out together and texting a lot.

[@roesi1985]

@C J European girls watch a lot of American movies and series. They adapt to the American culture, partly unconsciously, partly deliberately.

[@roesi1985]

@C J I wish people would stop telling others to stop overthinking something. If you want to be superficial, go for it. But please let others use their brains. Thinking deep is not a flaw, but an asset.

[@roesi1985]

@C J Well, you prove that you can lash out, congratulations. But your reasoning lacks any substance. No one having a bit of life experience and insight into psychology and sociology would deny that exposure to media does change concepts and values. You yourself are proving my point by being a bully, which is largely the consequence of the American winner and loser mentality being portrayed as positive in the media. But as you seem to be more interested in putting others down than discussing something in a respectful and constructive way, I'll get off the train here and don't waste my time any longer with someone who must be very miserable in order to bully random people on the internet.

[@benjaminmuller9348]

@C J Insulting somebody over the internet doesn't make you cool. Also, he is completely right, watching american movies, being exposed to american news etc does change the behaviour of people a bit, denying that would be foolish.

[@juliah1134]

Heeey! Ich LIEBE süßes Popcorn und hab mich immer gefragt: Wer isst saziges Popcorn? 😂

[@sasismile6374]

Ich!! Isst man in Deutschland wirklich süßes Popcorn? In Österreich ist das überhaupt nicht üblich 😅 salziges Popcorn ist doch viiiiiel besser!

[@michaausleipzig]

Ich! 🙋‍♂️😊

[@theholybread6698]

@@sasismile6374 tru

[@theholybread6698]

@@sniezyczkanasniezke6285 wer macht sowas?

[@user-wm5ot5uj3q]

@@sasismile6374 komme auch aus Österreich und habe mir dasselbe gedacht, süßes Popcorn ist doch mega ekelhaft haha

[@ReinholdOtto]

Another country? Well, Passau is right at the border, isn't it?

[@nikirath8592]

Yes, you can walk 20 minutes from the city centre and your in Austria

[@noronor_717]

And it's not an border like between USA and mexico

[@3.k]

I was thinking the same... Austria is closer to Passau than Munich, for example. xD

[@alwaysdowhatyoulove8876]

yup, you can easily walk or cycle there hahaha

[@ch3m1x81]

It’s probably more like between states in the us

[@servusbouschi907]

we often say: wir ham (haben) da was (etwas) am laufen

[@piccadelly9360]

Das habe ich immer ( Kredit bei der Bank ) am laufen

[@Cyril_Sneer]

@@piccadelly9360 ich nicht! Bis auf vielleicht ma n eigenes Haus, würde ich nie ein Kredit haben! Aber ich komme auch aus der ex-DDR... 🤷‍♂️😉

[@prometheus4993]

@@piccadelly9360 tut mir leid für dich, ein Kredit ist Scheisse hoch Drei, ich hab nie einen Kredit aufgenommen... ist immer wesentlich teurer.. am Ende...lol ... lieber verzichte ich kurze Zeit und spare für etwas... aber dann am Ende... das macht umso mehr Spass und ist sofort bezahlt ))) ... also Kredit/Kreditkarte ... kostet wesentlich mehr...auf Dauer ein schlechtes Geschäft, mmmh! ... für deine Bank umso geiler )))

[@prometheus4993]

@@piccadelly9360 schlechtes deutsch ... am laufen... gibt es nicht in der deutschen Sprache, weil zu kompliziert... "am laufen" ist überflüssig, wernn du sagst, du hast Kredit (der wird abbezahlt und "läuft" normal... odr du kannst nicht mehr zahlen)

[@niklaskft]

@@prometheus4993 Bei einem Haus lohnt sich ein Kredit zu 1000% man bezahlt so wenig Zinsen + das Haus hat im Normalfall eine Wertsteigerung.

[@huawafabe]

sweet popcorn isn't gross.... salty popcorn is :D would never eat that ew

[@HMenendez]

I'm from Australia and I've never heard of sweet popcorn. Sounds gross.

[@alicia6488]

M Harris I love sweet popcorn it’s so yummy

[@checkcommentsfirst3335]

sweet popcorn is way better than salty popcorn!

[@xloltimex38]

@@HMenendez if you ever taste it only from the cinema or another fresh popcorn machine. they taste good only when they are fresh and still warm and crispy

[@sgtmaexx1709]

I like both

[@GermanDaniel]

"Ich habe etwas mit..." means definitely more than just talking. You're already dating, maybe more... Cinema: You're right about popcorn. You have to ask for salty popcorn. I usually take a mix of sweet and salty, but I also love nachos with cheese and salsa at the movies. You should give it a try when you're back in Germany. 😊

[@lonespokesperson7254]

I guess German taste buds are used to sweet popcorn, U.S. taste buds are used to salted popcorn. Neither way of making popcorn is really GROSS. I like salted popcorn, because I grew up with it. I don't care much for sweet popcorn. But I would not say it is GROSS. But, if that description is used, it is vaild, too. However, I have run into some Germans that liked salted popcorn as well when they tried it. Americans are used to salted butter, Germans aren't. Many Germans are used to carbonated water (Wasser mit Kohlensäure), Americans aren't. It is simply a preference. Sort of like having grown up with dubbed movies (although it is not quite the same thing). I have heard Germans say things like, "I like the German "voice" better than the American voice", of a respective actor/actress . Surely that does not apply to all Germans, but I have heard them say that very often. Since Montana was talking about going to the movies. Fun fact: Back in the 80's, you were even allowed to smoke. You could push a button, and i.e. someone would even bring you a beer. Needless to say, the smoking in theaters did not last long. Nor did the service.

[@theresae]

Well I think that "dating someone" in the US is the same as "being in a relationship" in Germany, the word "dating" is used differently. So I would imagine that "talking" is also not just meant to be talking to someone, but to hang out with someone without being official.

[@jennifercox2837]

"Just talking" - is slang. It's not literal. To say we are "just talking", does not literally mean you are just talking.

[@titaxlp3677]

She: If you want to meet german boys, go to the teen club. Me (a german boy): Maybe, I should consider going to the teen club😂

[@speedyrogue6424]

corona macht uns da leider n strich durch die Rechnung 😂

[@luisamagdalene8126]

@@speedyrogue6424 Corona sagt nein

[@sgtmaexx1709]

xD I would never... Too shy

[@l1nussimracing981]

@@sgtmaexx1709 well yes😂

[@sepro5135]

@@sgtmaexx1709 Its called alcohol, although I would be careful to recommend it😂

[@andreawirtz2728]

I had my first boyfriend with 17 years and he was 22 years almost 23, so he was 6 years older and it was the right age gap for us. It was ok for my parents and they knew that we were responsible enough to behave correctly when we spent time together. And our dates where Mutual balanced as well, one time he invited me and the next Date I invited him, so invitations for Dates here in Germany aren’t just the guys duty girls can organize a Date too. Our Dates where full of deep talks and Adventure not just boring movie theater and sitting in a crowded restaurant. I benefited the most from our age gap, cause he knew exactly what to do and we rarely got into childish fights.

[@harshnaik6989]

Very gud

[@juliangros9547]

First of all the cinema is something strange for both sides. I was a year in the us as an au pair and ended up never buying any popcorn because salty popcorn was so yucky to me. Yet the chairs and stuff are way more comfortable. As a german i would say a teen club is the right spot to get a easy one night stand. I wouldn’t look there for something serious. Of course it can work out, yet seems less likely.

[@xloltimex38]

always vip slots in the cinema :D

[@lassegotz5274]

dafür das du ein jahr drüben warst ist dein englisch sehr mau🤡

[@qgame4941]

Today in my life: as a German, getting taught German teen dating by an American because I have never dated anyone LOL But I feel like I can relate to all of what you have said just from my conversations with friends xD

[@DerRoemer2000]

I never dated anyone here and I live in Germany. So this video was actually useful for me too! 🤣 Oh, and I love your wall decoration, Montana! But would you hang fanart there? 😄 I’m working on a drawing! 😆

[@rilind442]

jaja useful xdxdxdxdxd soashjadhashdahsdahshahahaha du knecht schau erstmal das video

[@farmertobi4453]

@@rilind442 wtf

[@petrameyer1121]

I was told that in the US people can date serval people at the same time, while in Germany it is more exclusive. Once you are dating you do NOT date anybody else. What is your opinion to that, please?

[@strandkorbst9643]

Obviously it's the same in the US idk where you heard that people date multiple people at once

[@mrsstark5964]

@@strandkorbst9643 I guess not dating but seeing more than one person. I read and heard about it that in the US people are often unclear about the status of their relationship because they don't put a label on it. I guess that is what the original comment refers to.

[@petrameyer1121]

@@strandkorbst9643 Several US YT mentioned it during their vids about differences in dating US vs GER.

[@codyharris8482]

Im an American whos lived in Germany for 2 years and have dated both German and American girls. My experience has been that after one date German girls just expect that your exclusive and would be upset if you were talking to other girls. On the other hand an American girl would most likely not be upset until you had verbally established that your exclusive

[@SuperCOCOPANDA]

@@codyharris8482 No, I'm American and I would be upset if someone I was with was seeing someone else as a possibility while being with me

[@Sina1155]

I feel like sleeping over in the US is also a bigger deal, since there are more people that are very religious and therefor the ”no sex before marriage thing” is more common. I did a high school year in the US and I know that this was the reason for my host parents at least. But for me it felt like they were more concerned about it happening at their house under their ”supervision“. Here in Germany most people live their faith a bit different, if they are even religious at all and sex in general is not that big of a taboo. I guess here it‘s more about giving teenagers a safe space and talking more openly about it while in the US parents try to protect their teenager kids by making it harder for them to get the chance to do it, by not letting them have sleep overs.

[@S_Black]

It's worse than that. A lot of the American attitudes about sex certainly come from religion, but religion has such a central role in society that this also influences non-religious or less religious people. You can't really get away from it. If people don't argue with directly religious arguments they will just come up with seemingly scientific reasons to come to the same conclusion. Or just vague and very common attitudes like thinking that boys only want sex while girls only want emotional connections. That whole "not under my roof" thing is just completely bizarre. And doesn't actually help with making children more independent.

[@Sina1155]

S Black The people I talked to, mostly came from a pretty religious background and I didn’t really see it working as well. It was certainly the other way around and I felt that many of them weren‘t as educated about using protection etc. while (obviously) still doing it. I find it very problematic when religion and politics kind of blend in and while Germany is definetly not free of that (our ruling party is the Christian Democratic Union) , it seems to be a way bigger problem in the US especially in the republican party.

[@mspSelSil]

I mean I (22f) live in Germany and I have a girlfriend (20) who is not allowed to stay over at a friends house for the night if this friend is not in their church... it really sucks because we are both adults but bc my girlfriend lives with their parents we can't do a sleepover...

[@danielgarrett979]

In the US you as s parent could be charged for contributing to the delinquency of a minor if you allowed underage minors (less than 18) to sleep in same room (especially if you knew they were having sex). I'm not an attorney but I could imagine you could be charged with aiding statutory rape if one of the parties was over the age of 18.

[@Felix-sg8vo]

I also did an exchange year and I had the chillest parents ever. I could bring anybody home and everybody was allowed to stay over. I just had to write a quick texts to let my host mum know

[@tommay6590]

May I say that you are the most observing and analytical teenager on KZbin I have encountered so far?

[@raffa9783]

Caramel popcorn is insane you need to try it

[@Schorsche]

Austria is only 2 minutes from Passau 😂

[@Ella.L.]

Wollt ich auch sagen... Oberösterreich ist gleich an der Grenze zu Passau 😅

[@maximilianklein2062]

@@Ella.L. Wenn 5 Leute in einem Raum sind und zwei von denen aus Passau kommen, die anderen zwei aus Linz und der Fünfte aus Berlin, dann ist der Preuße der Ausländer....

[@LNCRFT]

@@maximilianklein2062 Oh man🤣 Allgemein alles, was man dort mit PR, OPR, P, B, HRO, SN oder PCH Kennzeichen im Süden sieht ist schon relativ komisch.

[@chrstiania]

Probably another difference in teen dating is that in Germany they will meet in bars aswell incl beer or wine.

[@lonespokesperson7254]

My cousin in America said that when she was in Germany and was allowed to drink and was under 18, it was boring for her, because it was not illegal to do it. She did not get a "buzz" out of it, I guess.She was used to not being allowed to do it in America. On the other hand, I was not allowed inside a club in America, because I had no ID on me - I had left my U.S. passport at home, because no one ever asked me for ID in Germany when I went out. I was 24 at the time. This was in 1983. And it was even OK to drink beer at 16 in Germany.

[@aros7477]

It is still okay do drink beer with 16

[@maximilianklein2062]

I think that there is a big cultural difference. In the US there is this "date concept" like you ask somebody if they want to go on a date with you and they say yes and then both parties kinda know that they "are on a date". Even if you didn't litteraly ask the person "out on a date" but rather said something like "Wanna see that movie ?" or "I was wandering if you'd like to grab coffe" You could then, later on - at least technically - ask the other person: "Just to be clear - is this a date?" and the other person could say: "of course" or "er no" (typically followed by awkward silence) But whatever follows - everybody in the US has bought into that concept that "a date" is a more or less "official thing" you do in order to find out if you like somebody. Like at first you date, then you call it a relationship and then you get married and live happily ever after untill you get divorced. Many people even count dates and say things like: "On our third date, he was so sweet. He brought me flowers etc." In Germany there is no such thing. At least not for most people. The normal concept here is that if you like somebody and they like you back, you hang out together do stuff together untill - at some point - you kiss, have sex and gradually start behaving more and more like as if you were in a relationship until you are in a relationship. Since American pop culture is a thing here in Germany and French pop culture had been a thing before American pop culture became a thing, people know that there are "dates" and "rendezvous" and even things like "blind dates" and "speed dating" are popular with some people. But for the average German, labeling the steps during the process of falling in and out of love with somebody is not as big a thing as it is in the US.

[@sehabel]

Salty popcorn is the worst! I'm really glad that sweet popcorn is normal here

[@ErklaerMirDieWelt]

German here: My parents actually gave me a queensize bed for my 18th birthday, so my boyfriend could comfortably stay over :D I feel like dating has more official rules in the US, like what stage of relationship you are supposed to be in after which date. As a teenager I didn't go on any dates. I fell in love with a guy in my class. We saw each other in class every day, we took the train home together, we started texting and hanging out at his or my place. There never was an official date at a movie theater or restaurant, it just developed gradually, like a friendship but better ^^

[@robertzander9723]

A good education about sex in the US is almost not existing, the most common lesson is, they teach you abstinence. What is far away from the reality and not helpful. Maybe German boys or girls are a little bit more shy at the beginning, but it changed really fast when they know each other for quite a while. And a lot of talk at the beginning doesn't mean that there is more happening until at the end. Talking without saying something.

[@nadine6153]

It would make a good video to talk about the sex ed in the US vs Germany! :)

[@maximilianbeyer5642]

@@nadine6153 german girl in America made a really good one

[@nadine6153]

@@maximilianbeyer5642I know! ;) Just wanted to here more and different opinions.

[@alixoxo7571]

Haha love it how shocked you are about this different country thing. Passau is at the border to Austria and they also speak the same language. Actually Bavaria (the part of Germany Passau is in) has more in common with Austria than with the rest of Germany.

[@scherbe4781]

4:16 I NEVER heard anyone say, they dont like sweet Pop corn. Many people say salty pop corn is grose😂

[@lynngunn3630]

Nachos are literally sold at every movie theater in that States for the past 20 yrs at least 😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@ElGreco291]

Thank you! I was sure that I did get Nachos in the movie theater when I lived in Texas.

[@linusbach2164]

I absolutely love your colorful string art in the background!!!

[@christinelee2535]

I loved this video, it felt like “girl talk” hehe also i adore your wall art :)

[@InterFelix]

Yeah, long distance relationships are a bigger thing over here, definitely. Not too common, because it really is a major inconvenience, but it is a thing and anyone who has experienced it knows it can work if you're the right type of person for it.

[@alinapsh]

Ich liebe deine süße Ausstrahlung und Ansichtsweise! 🤓❤️😊

[@timshade2223]

I was born in the U S . I'm German and Cherokee. I've always felt that if 2 people are serious about each other they should be able to have the comfort and safety of a house and a bed! The back seat of a car is no I place for someone you can claim to truly love!

[@V4l3ri4C2]

I'm from Mexico and we also eat nachos at the cinema, but didn't expect Germany did too🤣🤣🤣

[@xogoessweden]

hahahah loved this! saludos desde El Salvador

[@freakyelephant]

United through nachos

[@sman6320]

@Dating: Kennst du das Lied "Aurelie" von der Band Wir Sind Helden? Das erklärt eigentlich alles zu diesem Thema.

[@idontknowgirll]

In germany we say „ich habe etwas mit...“ when we got near to a relationship with a person or when we have sex with someone for a while. 😂😂 If we don‘t want to tell someone that we got almost a relationship ship or feelings for someone we VERY OFTEN SAY „wir schreiben nur miteinander“ 😂😂😂 which means „we only text each other“ 🤣😂

[@MiraTino]

Exactly

[@ancientgambler3561]

Did she really say "Age is just a number"?

[@TheTrueVirus22]

Not really a rare saying tbh.

[@2-_-V-_-.2]

@@TheTrueVirus22 Should not be normalised tbh

[@TheTrueVirus22]

@@2-_-V-_-.2 What shouldn't be normalised? The saying? You can´t really normalise a saying because it is just that. It has been around for so long and it is usually said when two people with a significant age gap date. Like someone who 30 dating someone who is 40. And i highly doubt a pedophile would use this saying as an excuse because he wants to date a 10 year old. "Well Officer you know how they say: Age is just a number?" Nobody would say it in that context. So i really don´t know what you are getting at? Should we now start prohibiting words from being said?

[@juliusmarutzky1844]

I can absolutely relate to everything you’re saying as a German who spend a year as an exchange student in the us

[@reichhopprivatwatch1406]

A gernan friend of mine named Schowalter went to the U.S. to live there for a few years. So there is both. Schowalter from Gernany going to the U.S. and Schowalter from Virginia going to Germany.

[@d3vilman555]

Yeah teach me, I’m German and I dunno how to date in Germany lol

[@Thess6969]

Lets get some beer

[@emilyscroggie4564]

My experience: The agegap thing: true! The sleepover thing: true! The popcorn thing: sweet popcorn is so good! The shy thing: yup. It‘s not expected for them to make the first move The snapchat thing: it‘s the same here with some people, but most ppl don‘t use it for dating The school thing: true. It‘s also way more awkward when u break up so... The club thing: true.

[@uslovewiesbaden300]

As a German, I found salty popcorn very weird when I was in the US for the first time 🙄

[@NastasiaM53]

04:37 It‘s not true that you get automatically sweet popcorn if you just ask for popcorn at the movie in Germany 🤨 of course they will ask you if you fancy sweet or salty... Aaaand btw. the first time I ever eat sweet popcorn in my life was 20 years ago in Buffalo USA at the movie! 🍿 Nachos and candy it‘s just an addition to the variation they offer at the movies and I think it goes perfect 👌🏼😌

[@NoahKahan67]

my heart broke when you said you don't like sweet Popcorn, BRO i love sweet Popcorn

[@NoahKahan67]

in germany its kinda weird if someone hits you up and Keeps talking to you if you dont know the Person

[@thalyn6339]

Oh my, I've been watching some of your videos for a while already and just found out you stayed in Passau🤣 I could've walked into without noticing hahaha😊

[@stadtbekanntertunichtgut]

...Montana knwos how to get things started with the German boys!!!! :-D

[@bjorn980]

I love nachos with cheese sauce and sweet caramelized popcorn 😍 . If we want to eat salty stuff we eating potato chips like funny-frisch chipsfrisch "ungarisch" seasoning, they're very popular.

[@noahkemmesies]

I think ich habe was mit is not just talking it is just another word to say dating but not so direkt i guess

[@sarahsauter5820]

It’s more like hooking up with someone

[@jonathanmehlan8728]

As a German guy I would also confirm that most guys are shy and don't really get hints, although I'd only really say that for younger guys. It does get a lot better the older you get, speaking from my personal experience.

[@christianstachl]

I'm 42 and i have always been bad with hints 😅

[@plastictoast9931]

There was a 4 year age gap between my friend and her boyfriend! Me, who just yesterday heard 7th graders talk about their 23 year old boyfriends: Yeah no 4 years are alright

[@kikijagenberg2003]

I feel like german teens are more independent at a younger age so a 3 or even 4 year age gap in a relationship is normal since both parts behave and think equally

[@CasperEgas]

Germany is about the same as here in The Netherlands. My first girlfriend lives in Belgium and I differ 15 years with my girlfriend, so I guess I fit your story ;)

[@timo6256]

7:30 who's leon?😏

[@annikayoutube6298]

Ich kann dir in jeden Punkt zustimmen! Außer das “ich hab was mit jemanden” mehr als reden bedeutet 😂 Aber man trotzdem nicht in einer festen Beziehung ist.

[@jankrusat2150]

Girls usually start puberty earlier than boys and mature faster. So to have a boy with a similar level of maturity, he needs to be a few years older than the girl. Example: One of my aunts was an assistant teacher at a German high school (in Berlin). She told me that of they had a class party, they would usually invite the boys of the next year up and the girls of the class one year below. This way the girls had the older boys they could relate to, and the boys had the younger girls to have company with. Also the normal age difference is about four years. E.g. my parents met when my mother was 16 and in final year of Realschuile and my father a university student, four years older. My father, a student of geology, was doing an internship with a mine in the mining town my mother grew up in and had rented a room with the family of my mother's best friend. Of course, this was in the early 1960s, and the relationship was for several years quite innocent. When I was in high school, back in the 1980s, the same thing happened: Most of my female classmates had boyfriends, who were a few years older than themselves.

[@michamuller1335]

Americans are definitely more open, but I think sometimes it's too much 😂. In german we say ,, oberflächlich "

[@dongwooklee6900]

in korea we even sell stuff like squid even something similar to meat in theatres lol

[@quinquin5073]

Haha 😂

[@Tengino2022]

Nice topic to point out these differences. 😊

[@Hendricus56]

7:45 "so far away, literally Austria" meanwhile Passau: is directly next to the German/Austrian border

[@charybdisfgl2048]

"Your bf lives in another country?!" O_O Passau is literally located on the border to Austria xD You take two steps too far to the east and are practically there.

[@kglmg93f]

Thank you for sharing your experience

[@sarahmarinaa]

In Austria we also have salty popcorn like in the US. I was shocked when I found out a couple of years ago that in German cinemas it's common to eat sweet popcorn. 😂🍿

[@NoName-gk9nf]

I think it depends on where you are living. I know people who like salty popcorn and think that there is nothing wrong about it and then there are people who do not even know that salty popcorn exists.

[@chrstiania]

Isn't Sex a good reason for a "sleepover."? And calling it a sleepover if its with your significant other seems really weird.

[@alwaysdowhatyoulove8876]

Damn this makes me so happy I grew up in Germany, I feel like in America the entire abstinence culture really has an influence

[@mariacamisassa4909]

Ik it's off topic but your art works are so beautiful

[@JudgingKitty]

@ 05:06 in germany it`s totally expected for the boy to make the first move!

[@jonathan00kuminga]

i never had a movie date or dinner date i just say "hey wanna come over to trink a tea" as easy as this in germany

[@lenahauk6982]

Omg so true German guys are so shy🙈 I live near the airbase in Ramstein so I actually know some American boys and it's such a big difference🙈

[@adelaklubalova]

Wait what? Sweet popcorn is the best! Well at least i love sweat popcorn😅

[@mccardrixx5289]

Lovely vid!

[@danielbald9695]

You are so right about the fact that for the most part us german boys do not recognize any hints a girl gives. Sad but true... :)

[@marcsles]

I really would say that German boys can't take a hint😅 (and neither can girls), we have more of a culture that sees men and women as true equals (more does not mean a lot), so the responsibility lies on both parties, which can be a nightmare 😂. And asking someone out can be a big thing and my personal fear was often to make someone feel uncomfortable around me, if it turns out they are not interested. My first girlfriend asked me out and even as a teen my manliness was not attacked.

[@auraluna7679]

I never dated in my whole life. Dating in Germany for me means going out with the person you are already in a relationship with.

[@desgibtsdochnetey]

Das stimmt so jetzt auch nicht 😅

[@auraluna7679]

@@desgibtsdochnetey Für mich und beinahe alle die ich kenne schon.

[@ineschka222]

Hä natürlich gibt es Dating in Deutschland? I mean du lernst doch auch jemanden kennen und man trifft sich erstmal. Das ist doch daten? Oder lernst du jemanden kennen und bist direkt in ner beziehung? Lol

[@auraluna7679]

@@ineschka222 Ja, man trifft sich, aber nicht auf Dates. Mehr freundschaftlich und auch sehr oft im Freundeskreis. Gemeinsam rumhängen mit noch vier Anderen oder Ähnliches. Nichts was ich Dates zuordnen würde. Kein Essen gehen, Kino zu zweit was auch immer. Vielleicht bin ich zu alt, vielleicht ist es das Umfeld in dem ich aufgewachsen bin aber so war und ist es noch heute bei mir. Ich kenne halt auch niemanden der gedatet hätte.

[@desgibtsdochnetey]

@@auraluna7679 aber man trifft sich doch auch mal allein zu zweit, bevor man ne Beziehung eingeht? 😅 Muss ja nicht unbedingt Kino oder Essen gehen sein..

[@nikirath8592]

Montana, I know Vienna is in Austria and not close to the border, but the train takes 2,5 hours so for a long distance relationship it's not that bad and could be way worse. Great video btw and greetings from Vienna

[@jorgschimmer8213]

I love Nachos with cheessauce !😍

[@ewalala682]

great video ❤ but "ich habe/hatte mit jemandem etwas" means that the relation got physical to some extent (kissing or more)

[@sepro5135]

The sleepover this is definitely true, it is not uncommon that after a party, a friend (sometimes of the opposite sex) comes over with you because they live in the next village and the busses don’t drive anymore, not to speak of actual couples

[@floriangramsch9036]

5:05 just be direct and then that’s it, it doesn’t need more than that.

[@JohnMcToast]

Sweet popcorn is just a german thing. As an Austrian I was shocked that they eat sweet popcprn.

[@alanf5608]

I've been to the states multiple times and any movie theatre I went to sold nachos and sweet popcorn. In fact I found it difficult to get the salty kind.

[@peterkroger7112]

There is not always a strict difference between the friends of both partners. Take me for example: My wife is the ex-girlfriend of my best friends brother. My best friend is the ex-husband of my ex-girlfriend. And we all are still friends and always have been.

[@Denis-TheLyndin]

Crossborder is not really a special german thing, but probably a border-city thing. Passau is directly at the german-austrian border and the distance to some austrian cities are much closer to many german cities, and you don't need to clear any border, so its not a big deal. Same for some german - netherlands border cities. Maybe its a EU thing, where no border will stop you from traveling? On the remaining points i can't really say much. i never used snapchat, i guess tinder (or other dating apps) is the german snapchat thing, where you get this talk to many until you find the right one. And i only know how my own parents reacted to sleepovers and such things. But i guess its a good thing, i am not the only one not noticing any hints.

[@marlenelutz394]

kinda funny, in austria is the popcorn also salty, you have to ask for sweet one!!

[@melindar.fischer5106]

I'm surprised that nachos at the movies seem strange to a U.S.American. Maybe it's a U.S. regional difference, or maybe it's a generational difference (I'm old enough to be Montana's mother), but I've always seen nachos on the menu at movie theaters, since the 1970s, and my family often ordered nachos there. As for popcorn, I've always enjoyed the salty and buttery version, but for approx. the last 20 years, movie theaters in my area have had seasonings or flavors that one could sprinkle on top of the popcorn.

[@RAIKQU]

Ofc theres cases in which young girls get with older guys, just like you mentioned, but it's definitely not too common. The underaged teen red flag isnt as big as it is in the us as far as i can tell from what ive heard from my american friends but people will definitely think it's odd. Much love from passau

[@EmmaHope88]

It is very common where I live. The average age difference is nearly four years.

[@georgiaman1926]

I live in Georgia and our theaters serve nachos, beer, wine and sandwiches. This is a small college town.

[@eligerus2622]

Passau is like directly at the Austrian border. Thats why.

[@rheinking2754]

Austria isn't really that far from Passau when you look at the map. I lived in Passau for 2 months when I was 19 taking a course at the Goethe Institute. It was my first trip to Germany.

[@juricarmichel5864]

I learned a lot about changing facecolor.😉

[@Hobby-Bude]

funny, I actually thought having nachos in the theater swapped over from America. I love having them with warm cheese dip :-P I also like sweet popcorn.

[@LeonardNeis]

This video is so accurate🙈 but actually, having the same friend group in a relationship was pretty common for me too😅 so that most defenitely does not happen to americans only

[@elomnusk7656]

I always thought the move theatre cultrue in terms of food came from the US