More Things We're Unlearning | Part Two - Ep 89

We had so much to say about the things we (and YOU) are unlearning that we couldn’t fit it all into just one episode guys.. So we’re back with the second part of the "Things We're Unlearning" episode, and just like last time we have a lot we need to unpack...😮‍💨 This time we share a lot more of what YOU guys shared with us that you’re unlearning and whew, some of it is really heavy. Buckle up buttercup 😮‍💨
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[@naomimaina3428]

Why do you love Wednesday Wanjiku? I have a date with TMI

[@TuzlineMinNyiri]

I totally agree on the suffering mentality, I refuse to suffer inorder to prove my essence as a person. I am unlearning unhealthy financial behaviour by avoiding debts,encouraging a savings culture. I am unlearning that not all older people are wise!! Experience had it's own wisdom.

[@Daughterofangels223]

I’m learning that it’s okay when a friendship isn’t as tight as it used to be. Not that anything had happened, people just grow apart to a certain extent.

[@tmipodcastke]

It sucks but we just have to accept it❤

[@Daughterofangels223]

@@tmipodcastke true. ❤️

[@brigidkashoi8847]

I love the comment about the fact that we can always get money/wealth without necessarily working 'hard". There are various ways of getting money which doesn't involve working "hard"

[@tmipodcastke]

So true❤

[@ichooseviolence2532]

True, like women selling their bodies

[@Pink_dots]

LYDIA IS VERY SMART. NO DOUBT! 🙌🙌

[@daisynkunja7342]

NO CAP

[@daisynkunja7342]

@@Pink_dots aki online,, mtu anamistype kitu anaitwa bitter 🤣🤣

[@Pink_dots]

​@@daisynkunja7342 Sawa😂😂😂 Nimetoa.

[@feinussayid2938]

I relate so much with Lydia. I’m so accommodating as far as friends are concerned but one mistake from a boyfriend and I’m typing the break up message. I think it’s bcoz I’ve seen my Dad put my mom through a lot and there’s a part of me that’s super ready to spot the red flags b4 I end up with someone like him. The funny part is I do want a father like mine for my kids but I don’t want a husband like him which is complicated and terrifying at the same time. 😢

[@tmipodcastke]

It makes so much sense. People are nuanced like that…

[@annamariakemigabo9875]

This is me!😢😢

[@lucymuiruri9433]

i am unlearning that getting money is hard. weeeh I listened to the audiobooks, THE SECRET, THE POWER IS WITHIN YOU, THE POWER OF YOUR SUBCONCIOUS MIND and it was my turning point. like I have been telling myself that since forever. right now my affirmation is that money loves me, i attract money like a magnet, money comes to me easily and frequently.

[@letstalkkenya2]

Aki show me your way if you don't mind

[@tmipodcastke]

Yes! Thank you for the book recommendation❤

[@traceytina357]

One thing I'm unlearning is that romantic relationships are more important than platonic relationships and now more than ever I feel the need to invest in the friendships around me and the people I want to be in my circle. I'm being intentional in building stronger bonds with people and worrying less about getting a partner.

[@tmipodcastke]

True dat!👊🏽

[@lucynduta6272]

"Treating you like who you are, might make me act like who I'm not " that hit home

[@lizankatha4205]

The most unlearning I have unlearned is that you don't have to do one thing in life...that point hit...

[@tmipodcastke]

It hits home hard

[@traceynambisia4460]

Ah! my take home, ‘we’re not asking/being asked what we’re/they’re bringing to the table!’ show up as yourself, and let them decide whether that is enough for their table! absolutely love that!

[@tmipodcastke]

Say it louder!

[@wambuimuthoni4221]

I can relate with Lydia's point of learning Men are human too... My friends tell me am so mean to men and don't give them a second chance even when it's needed. I guess this comes from the experiences I have had from my dad,to job hunt where men will want to sleep with me to have a job and that disgusts me.

[@tmipodcastke]

We need to meet each other where we are at❤

[@ichooseviolence2532]

Women too have wanted to sleep with men for work (speaking from a personal experience and also from some of my male friends who opened up)... Women too are sexual predators, the only difference is that men are not loud about it like women

[@wambuimuthoni4221]

@@ichooseviolence2532 you are putting it like I have said it's only women who go through it which I haven't. Ofcourse both genders go through it,but I can't speak for the other gender I can only speak about what I have gone through personally, next time write on your own independently,without basing it on what you think I was implying 🚮

[@jepkosgeit.8101]

Heey TMI ❤Wonderful content, wonderful consistency, I love it! Thank you so much ladies 😊 About part 31:44, I happened to be of the school of thought that sees a point with the person that commented that. You know the common phrase “Would you marry yourself?” which is a nudge for people to look inward and realize that there might be a disconnect in us between what we desire in a partner and what we are willing to work on inside that might be unattractive to that same ideal partner. Eg changing anger issues/ passive- aggressive behavior, etc. I don’t believe in people pleasing and changing your whole authenticity, but we women should also be aware that it is easy for us to be nit-picky about who we want, forgetting sometimes to look inward and nudging ourselves to become better people too. Would be happy for you ladies to discuss this issue some more so that I can understand where you are coming from. Personally, it was only when I started to take in feedback from my ex- partners and take time to change- that I started noticing that dating was becoming easier, and I finally got the man of my dreams. He works on himself and I work on myself. So there’s I think sth to be said about that (uncomfortable) type of work. Otherwise, keep up the great work- the conversations you have are very thought provoking and enriching 👏🏾

[@tmipodcastke]

This is really eye-opening ❤

[@perism1586]

In my adult life, I continue to unlearn that I am not complete as a woman if l don't have kids or am not married. Mental health is more important than just being married. My peace is more important. My emotional well being is more important. Good financial state is also important. I have learned to extend grace, to myself.

[@tmipodcastke]

Very well put❤

[@hildawambui4213]

Am unlearning that I gat my own paths in life and it's not about competition ❤

[@agnesodoyo854]

Wow.... @murugi these words have blown my mind. Me: If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't do what you are doing to me..... Him: But I am not you !!!!! " This slaps so hard, I need to unlearn this.....OMG. I always question and get hurt when someone treats me in a way I know I wouldn't treat them.

[@naomirobinson2900]

Let me tell you....I try being gentle to my kid....lakini this kaperson will make you shout no matter what....and then you shout alafu kanakwambia unascream...a 2 yr old...this one humbles me everytime😂

[@shweine_marion]

😂😂I love it haha, they won't be 2 milele. Tuendelee kungangana. They deserve the very best♡

[@tmipodcastke]

It’s a stage and you will survive it😂😂😂

[@wacekewanjoroge6679]

What's a Wednesday without TMI😅 i mean....TMI is definitely the podcast EVERY woman needs to have a listen to. One thing i am Unlearning is Living up to societal expectations.I am learning to live MY life according to MY rules at MY own pace.

[@tmipodcastke]

As you should❤

[@tutooh23]

It's safe to say Wednesday is my favorite day juu ya tmi😂😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it❤

[@musinare]

I love that I’m usually too eager for Wednesday 😂😂 Here for this weeks episode already ❤

[@carolmaina6769]

Me too!! I've been refreshing my page since 8😂😂if I had their number ningewapigia like...kwani what are you guys waiting for🙄😂😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

Hope you enjoyed it!

[@myranjeri3401]

Oh my gosh!!! This is how I know Lyd is my spirit animal... PAINTING!!!!!! I've been doing it for a while now... So therapeutic!!!!

[@tmipodcastke]

It really is❤

[@t_erry]

I am unlearning 'taking things personally' . Wueh. 😅

[@tmipodcastke]

You can do it!

[@gretelbexmulekye84]

I never knew Murugi crochets. It's so nice to know. I also crochet. Infact I crochet while watching your videos. ❤

[@thebasementchild_]

This is a nice series… TMI teaches me how to live with myself and others. Even if they say something I don’t agree with or understand, i research and make a decision and end up learning something new… Arghghgh😍🤗Thank you!

[@tmipodcastke]

Love that!

[@arianakinjoh1044]

I am learning that I'm not made for everyone

[@gracemumbi6219]

I believe in Karma...some guy did me wrong then 5yrs down the line somebody did to him what he'd done to me & it was all over social media (that's how I knew) then 5yrs after he wrote to me & apologized. Took him 10yrs bloody yrs to swallow his pride! & that's not the only instance I've seen karma at work...so I TOTALLY BELIEVE!

[@goodneighbour1280]

True. If you have wronged anyone,KARMA is is on the way sweetheart.

[@tmipodcastke]

Karma gets you in the end😌

[@mmasamo1986]

The self care bit I love that point and sometimes I will also move around everything to get in a self soothing activity

[@ziondaughter5331]

I'm learning that just because I want something, does not mean that I'll have it 💙 one blue heart

[@eshycmwangi]

Great Episode💎💎💎Lyd’s kahair sticking out was bugging me😄 glad Murugi Paused to fix it

[@marymukami9864]

Am just feeling I have new best friends,the wisdom 🔥

[@priscillahnjoki1123]

Naskia kama niko therapy listening to this. My take home. Putting myself 1st, I don't know how to do that but step by step.

[@tmipodcastke]

It’s a long game kind of thing❤

[@STA2102.]

We can also add on how teachers are bullies: have seen a video circulating, a nine year old was caned to about 100 strokes since he had not worn school uniform on a sunday ..many schools still have corporal punishments especially in Nyanza province such school heads should be called out ..

[@tmipodcastke]

We absolutely stand against this

[@joylilian]

True 💯...it was a nightmare when I was in highschool😬... especially schools in nyanza and western regions... both all boy and all girl schools. There was a mentality that caining was a motivator to perform well which was just wrong coz so many students performed well and would still do very well even without punishment.

[@beloncekamz2821]

It's definitely TMIIIIIIII🎶💃🏿.Wueh! Insightful conversations. Part 1 was deep stuff and now part 2, we unlearn day by day🙂. Pokea makofi kwa consistency👏🏾👏🏾. #WCW❤️

[@tmipodcastke]

🙌

[@jeanivy3217]

I’m with you Lyd in terms of how I treat my friends versus men. Daddy issues. Working through it though❤️‍🩹 Sending you hugs as you navigate this too🫂

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you Jean❤❤

[@Asunter_M]

On the part of learning that men are also human...That got me..I totally relate with Lyd..my perspective of men is they are this creatures that have been sent specifically to this girl and destroy me...Daddy issues though got us messed up...😢

[@evelynmwangi8624]

I love the reinventing yourself topic. That is powerful

[@patriciapatience2170]

If there was an audio option here😂some of us would be singing with at the intro❤️..love you ladies 🥺loveeee your content. So blessed to be a Queen Betweener👸

[@tmipodcastke]

Finally! Someone who loves it😂

[@bilhahnjeri6427]

That part of coz u family u need to be close got me everyone with their own lives it's not a must to be close coz ua family love u two u r a whole vibe❤❤

[@agnesodoyo854]

Lydia, how can you start from that "working hard" point, like you are right inside my MIND and removing the exact words out of my mouth 😅😅. And that royal blue outfit is so giving....❤❤. My daughter and I always sing together with you guys.... "It's definitely TMI....🎶. " LOVE YOU GUYS.

[@tmipodcastke]

We love every part of this❤ Thank you for listening in!

[@QueenJodiandAP]

Love every episode ❤

[@shaniceamira4201]

When Murugi's phone rung i was on the floor lyddd u so hilarious 😂

[@tmipodcastke]

Why was it ringing in the first place even😂😂

[@charmainetarrie]

Love your content🖤

[@priscillahnjoki1123]

Lakini Lydia hii wisdom yako. Aaaaaai ❤❤❤❤

[@agnesmaina2315]

Mapema ndio best 🎉😂😂,,,,been waiting for part 2 finally 💃💃

[@_nzasyeRuth.]

I love you guys so much❤️.

[@ritabecky3752]

Dr Njiru my teacher being featured on tmi😊. Amazing amazing episode!!

[@shalommirembe500]

The idea that ur supposed to be close with your family, Is killing me😢

[@tmipodcastke]

Don’t allow it to anymore. Set those boundaries @shalom❤

[@magalienia6958]

"Time allows whatever has happened to u sink deeper into u & affect u in an unconscious way." Endurance: "Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional." 12 yrs endurance vs 20 yrs...the Suffering Olympics & the little dance 🤣🤣🤣...I C.A.N.T!

[@maddisonblue3620]

What an amazing episode! 😍

[@tmipodcastke]

We love to hear it❤

[@deemb5284]

Joan is hilarious with the phone😂😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

It should be on silent

[@patriciapatience2170]

It's definitely TMI🥰🥰🥰🥰🤭🤭🥳🥳🎊🎊🎊🎊

[@kettie_mk]

Was on the watch😂

[@yvonnemurugi6795]

HI PART 3 PLEASE

[@matildakissiwaa8791]

Sisters ❤❤❤❤. Love you guys so much

[@lynnwmaina]

The full proverb is actually 'The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb' so it means the opposite of what most of us think it is.

[@annamariakemigabo9875]

Take care of yourself is not selfish. Hit hard!!😢😢

[@aidaatugonza1591]

I love it here 🤗🥰

[@tmipodcastke]

We love having you hear

[@graceguya1682]

About the kuvumilia part. Africans wear poverty and suffering like a badge of honour in marriage and in life in general. About working smart vs working hard. People still havent fully wrapped their heads around how this is possible and some even look down upon those who are thriving by working smart and call them lazy/ entitled, e.g how some people view content creators. They are still stuck in the you must overexert yourself to the bone at work, you must have a zero work life balance or what you are doing isnt ' real work'.

[@tmipodcastke]

So true. That’s why we always give grace and room for understanding because until we get to take a look inward, we can never judge. Also, we should always aim for a life of ease

[@MissMachua.]

Notification gang in it 😍😍

[@tmipodcastke]

Yeesss❤

[@matildakissiwaa8791]

One thing I’m unlearning is that, your close family are not obliged to help you in times of difficulties ( money wise). Time definitely doesn’t heal 😢

[@tmipodcastke]

Oh honey❤ giving you hugs

[@ivonna7916]

Leo nimefika mapema😂.... For once Wanj❤ I love this podcast 😍

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you❤

[@hildaalividza3461]

Im unlearning that being less demanding is being a great person

[@tmipodcastke]

Yes! As long as you are true to yourself❤

[@lavender_dawn]

Loved the follow up. 'Mwanamke ni kuvumilia; say no more 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@hildaalividza3461]

I'm unlearning that not having many demands makes you a better person, I end up not being respected especially at work... kindly how can I unlearn this azn steps or tmi kindly do a KZbin video telling us steps to take to unlearn some of these mindsets ... kindly help

[@tmipodcastke]

You can get respect and still get your wants made, you just have to know how to leverage it❤

[@hildaalividza3461]

Much appreciated 🙏

[@zwad3423]

You ladies are looking gorgeous ❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you so much 🤗

[@greatness23FL]

Oooh Lydia hunny you don't say I'm childless use I'm child free💯♥️.

[@Pink_dots]

She means that she doesnt have a child yet. Not to say she cant get. Childfree is those who have chosen by choice. Lydia wants kids 😊😊

[@faithnjoki1471]

Other people don't think the way I think 😭😭😭 but why? 😂

[@PLISTERADHIAMBO]

hahahaha.....ati suffering olympics 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 can never be me

[@lizgichiru4250]

Am always Here every minute of every episode 🤩bt what happened to the episode with Makena

[@tmipodcastke]

It’ll be coming soon ❤

[@lizgichiru4250]

@@tmipodcastkem sure all Inbetweeners can't waaaait🤩

[@hayaashraf3404]

Put yourself first 🥇

[@suzwaful1]

Another great episode

[@charitynyakangi9580]

Early is best 😊

[@tmipodcastke]

Yeeess❤

[@gloriamwansele9266]

Best use of my lunch hour❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Happy to hear that!

[@annenyokabi23]

Love you guys

[@Lizzete1007]

Love you big sisters 🩵

[@lorrecco]

Non-singing intro was better. Maybe you guys can alternate between the two

[@nimiindiamaowei7326]

Thanks Lydia and Murungi 😘❤❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Our pleasure!

[@victorianameneverner6271]

Im here Part 2

[@veronicahngaru5917]

That was simply amazing 😍

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you so much!!❤

[@leahnduta5539]

Iam unlearning that when a lady get a child in her thirties he will get some complication during birth or her child will be physically challenged

[@annewanjiru7985]

Amazing episode ❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Thanl you❤

[@nancymarende1003]

Suffering olympics🤣🤣🤣

[@deemb5284]

Ati we are looking for money

[@naomiwaithera5820]

I love tmi❤

[@tmipodcastke]

We love you too❤

[@lindamuthunga9056]

Road to 100k

[@simplycapped1309]

Nice dresses Ladies

[@lizznjeri9231]

If you rest you are called lazy 🐱

[@tmipodcastke]

But as long as you know you aren’t….

[@life_as_cw]

Suffering olympics😅😂

[@tmipodcastke]

😂😂😂 we can never for get this