MOST Asked Questions About Our Family

[@socialglitch2663]

I hate that you have to explain why your kids exist to people in every other video. I understand others are curious but you shouldn’t have to justify your children’s lives, nor have their existence as human beings called into questioned simply because they have autism or special needs. It’s really frustrating that people keep asking. The were born, they are here and they are beautiful. Asking “why” they exist is offensive. All that matters is that they receive as much love and support as possible moving forward

[@jssceckert1]

yea this is exactly what i was thinking. If you want special needs kids then good for you. if it was an accident then thats okay also. no ones business and people need to leave you alone.

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@jssceckert1 I think the reason she does it is for new people who may have joined. Not for the people who have been following all along. She is not trying to justify anything. She is just trying to explain for new people. People are not asking why they exist.

[@jssceckert1]

@@nancyfarkas3592 i never said she was trying to justify it. I said she should not have to explain at all. no one needs to explain why they have kids. This goes for special needs kids also. There is no need to explain anything. not for new people or old ones. her kids need no explanation. why can she not have as any kids as she wants if she is the one raising them.....

[@nancyfarkas3592]

@@jssceckert1 well that i s her decision. Not anyone else's. If she wants to explain that is her choice

[@jssceckert1]

@@nancyfarkas3592 lady i am not even arguing with her. i am standing up for her...why are you picking a fight with someone who is literally on her side. JEEZ you are like really reaching on this one too.

[@Saaarraahh]

You are so kind with answering these questions especially when some are offensive. Its rude that people keep asking why you kept having more kids but you're still being kind when answering. That says a lot about you and your character. Thank you for this video.

[@TeresaRamirez-yb9iu]

I rarely comment but just needed to say how much I enjoy your videos and your lovely family. I love that you respect your children's privacy and that you always put them first. God bless ❤

[@jessier8350]

That explanation of how you deal with your curly hair had me cracking up. That is LITERALLY my daily curly hair routine. And when it doesn’t work, up in a bun it goes!

[@onemanstrash8233]

Just found your channel today… thank you for what you share and WHAT YOU DONT!! Putting your kids first made me subscribe!

[@derektucker7127]

Your body, your choice. It's that simple to me. Your family is an inspiration. Thank you for being honest and transparent unlike so many fake influencers

[@nataliekhalilrealtor]

Oh my gosh!!! When do you have time to film! I don’t know how with 6 kids you have time to do anything. You’re awesome. Love you fam and channel

[@racheletipton3393]

Cant believe some of the questions ppl ask you and I'm sure there is more that's worse. I love your videos, your kiddos are gifts from God. U have a beautiful family. Thank u for ur honesty in your videos. Feels like we r besties lol

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

Oh I left out a lot that were not appropriate

[@anglm85]

I’ve been around since Tubal Reversal Mom/tree mural on the wall days(don’t know why i still associate that background with you so much 😂)! Love your family!

[@pacemarshall9358]

That picture you posted at 4:17: 1. OMG what a baby face! Absolutely adorable post-birth photo. 2. My first thought when I saw that photo was literally, "Holy shit, Danielle looks IDENTICAL to her mom!"

[@ashleybroderick9723]

The "Why did you have more kids if you knew they were going to be autistic?" question pisses me off. Your kids are perfect and your family wouldn't be the same without each and every one of them.

[@raisingswayneys]

Well and she answered it, she didn’t know until later on that they had autism. She didn’t electively know from the start, that 1, she was the carrier for the 15/16 mutation and 2, that most of her kids would have autism. Even her being a carrier, theres still a chance that she can have healthy full functioning children. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@pacemarshall9358]

This question also unnerves me, too, because the impact of the question is that people with autism shouldn't be born or don't have intrinsic worth. Even if she knew that her kids would have autism, that doesn't mean she shouldn't have had them. People with autism are wonderful people who are worthy of life.

[@ashleybroderick9723]

@@pacemarshall9358 Exactly!

[@bubbles7398]

I just say Autism or developmental disorders aren’t a tragedy and not everyone has kids with those issues because not everyone can deal or help kids with those issues as well as others.

[@heathermicola3894]

It’s so sad that you have to justify why all your kids were born. They are all a blessing and people should not question why they are here. I thought maybe the coin dropping sound was because your tubal reversal brought change to your family.

[@nancyfarkas3592]

I don't see it as justifying. She is just explaining for new people.

[@susanfraser7876]

Thanks for answering the coin on wood thing. I've always wondered what that sound was. I really like it! Your family is the best!

[@itsdekontee7950]

How can people ask a married couple why they keep having children... even if that’s what you think why say it

[@AnoukMali7899]

Thank you for patiently answering all those questions! I was also very curious about the coin dropping sound! You look very pretty in this FAQ!

[@alishawilliams3960]

Love the videos. I actually fast forwarded your answer/question about why do you have so many? Rude and been covered. Great video Stephanie. Hope Danielle's party is awesome today.

[@cjtramm8]

I’ve just found you. And want to say. You and your husband are doing a really good job. Beautiful family

[@collegegymvidsfan]

The doctor that said vaccines cause autism lost his license as a physician.Another doctor posted a KZbin autism video and was speaking on stage.

[@Beautyandthegeek08]

I have so much respect for you Stephanie!! Thank you for this video it’s so informative even as a long time viewer (3-4 years)

[@michellemuskeyn5070]

I love your answers to the last two questions! ❤️❤️

[@razazeltom9742]

You’re unbelievably awesome!! I subscribed just because of this video!! Good luck and always stay positive and strong ♥️ I am a mom to an autistic boy as well and I am hoping to learn to be strong as you!!

[@DanaEleanor1]

My parents have to prepare for those things, too. I'm not diagnosed with ASD or ADD or ADHD, but I do have some difficulties, but I am sheltered, so that's a big factor.

[@jeng4284]

The coin dropping sound! I've always wanted to ask and i always forget whenever you do a live stream. thank you for answering that lol

[@ashleybaird933]

Im also autistic, high functing . I was diapnosed at 4. Textures, sensitivity, i also had speech issues. Still do. Im now 31, still have many issues

[@Kressar]

Your such a cool amazing person and momma been watching since 2016 and your so cool to answer all of these questions for your viewers, just wanna say that you’re all cool and love the family love you all have for another thank you for sharing your lives with us ☺️

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

If you don’t mind me asking, I’m sure that you have answered it previously, but when was your son diagnosed with ID? Like at what age? Also, my Older son, who is suspected of “High Functioning” Autism by his Therapists and Doctor, and he is by far suffering from much more severe meltdowns, emotional issues, and sensory issues at times as compared to his brother Diagnosed with level 3 Autism. And my Brother is Diagnosed with “High Functioning” Autism as well due to his verbal language abilities, communication, and IQ, but he still requires a decent amount of support and care to get through Daily life, and is not able to work a job without accommodations and supports in place, so it is never as cut and dry as people think. I had a friend that said “Your brother seems ok when I talked to him though, just a little odd, why do you have to take help him?” And I’m like, yeah, but if all you did was talk to him for a second, you have no clue how he can brush his own hair, remember to eat, how he makes decisions at home or in other environments, shopping, etc. there is so so much more to life than talking about simple things for a moment.

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

6 years old

[@aidan_mckinney5853]

I know this might not be relevant to what your are saying but I just now realized how diverse the High Functioning side of autism is and it really shows that Autism is very much a spectrum. I’m classified as high functioning ASD but I guess it’s so “functioning” that no one can tell other than my parents. Only problem I have is slight emotional regulation control and sometimes abstract concepts. I also have sensory processing issues too. I’ve struggled with getting help at school for a long time due to how hard it is to tell because I do get stressed out by other kids and also have problems due to my Sensory Processing diagnosis. I’m also in this cool study with adolescents that are neurotypical and that are ASD which has helped me understand my diagnosis, my IQ, and ways to help other ASD friends🙂

[@Wildernessadventuresoz]

Totally agree with allowing the kids to decide if they want to be part of the vlogs. My son has days where he doesn’t want to be filmed. I have to respect that. My son is ASD level 2 was firstly diagnosed with ADHD but since pathological demand avoidance. I’m wondering how many kids on the spectrum have hypotonia my son is also diagnosed with this and dysgraphia

[@takiaforeman]

I love your family, no drama just true blue family and all that entails💜

[@tinacayford7549]

I love your curls!! And the boys curls just fill me with Joy!!! This doesn’t let me post pictures, but my 11 month pic of AC reminds me so much of Lex. Zack says he thinks you are very sensitive about not humiliating your children. And as he is the most oversensitive human I have ever met, I think you are golden. lol we love you LANDing Crew!!

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

I have noticed a lot of people with Autism that have genetic abnormalities have a deletion on 15, we are getting tested soon to with a chromosomal array

[@tonisangel5024]

Stephanie is are the sweetest kindest soul..! I'm so glad you and Emily are friends yall have so much in common and Emily really needed a good friend ! Sometimes God puts people in your path for a reason...love your channel take care sweetie big hugs and lots of love..Camille from Florida 💜🌟💜🖐

[@LauraGiral]

That was a lovely Video , Steph! 💗

[@MiSsBeThAnY04]

You are SUUUUUUUCH a good mom. Be damn proud!!! ♥️

[@MissLady-pq4hc]

Some of these people are reaching into areas that Really should not concern them. They need to find their own lives to look into. Imagine what they might find. 🙂🙂🙂🙂🌟🌟🌟💖

[@jamievictoria1716]

I just found you for the dollar tree gifts from last year. I was looking for ideas for an autism support group I belong too we’re having a sensory safe, safe distance party for the kiddos. And have now just watched a bunch trying to catch up lol but i already love you and your family absolutely love how open you are and the support you give. Thank you!!

[@Legal.Knievel]

I understand if this won't get approved, since it mentions vaccines but the MTHFR gene has absolutely nothing to do with vaccines. It simply means that your body can't convert folic acid to folate, which is important in pregnancy. Mom needs to take a folate supplement, as opposed to folic acid supplement, as folate is important for neural development of the baby.

[@valleygirlgg]

So that's what LANDing crew means. I was wondering if you were into airplanes or landed somewhere or into landings lol now I know! Thanks for informing us

[@ricothomas0]

My son has autism and he's 2. And this channel has given solace.

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

Thank you :)

[@ricothomas0]

@@OurLANDingCrew8 i love him so much and I've done a lot of research on the situation so I can be as prepared as possible to help him, i even got a job working with autistic people to better understand his world.

[@heatherhajek2795]

Your curly hair routine is the same as mine! 😂

[@azrael2617]

I have been an OG follower since Tubal Reversal Mom 😆 Then I was TTCing when you had Lex and then I was pregnant with you - with Liam lol You are one of my all time favs 💜

[@danahall1282]

You have been so helpful with speaking about autism. My 10 yr old has it. Thanks for the homeschooling tips. I feel I have been asking and teaching too much to him. I am slowing down..... thanks for all your suggestions. Also I love the sign behind you on most asked questions about our family....where did you get it?

[@beetee4865]

You handled these very well! 👍😁

[@ulziiotgontsetseg6909]

Hello. My baby is now 16months . He is very good understanding and doing my commands.But not good eye contact and sometimes not responding name and flapping. It’s autism right? Please Anybody Can you answer to me?

[@1Life2Live007]

Yayyyyyy a long video!!!! Whoohoooooooooo👊

[@jerrolinstarlin7090]

I have adhd bc my mom and brother and I think my dad but never aficialy diagnosed

[@loryh6981]

...and i agree, guard those red curls from all acissors.

[@jkgugib9712]

How do you go about getting genetic testing as an adult? One of my sons has 16 duplication. My other has autism hasn't had genetic testing and my youngest has developmental issues. I also have learning delays.

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

You talk to your child’s geneticist to see if insurance would cover it. Not all do, like in Florida it wasn’t covered

[@michelledrake9764]

I just wanted to say how much I enjoy your videos and that I only discovered you before Xmas with your Xmas haul which I really enjoyed,I love your honesty about your diets and what you buy, it's life LOL we all can't live healthy all the time, I'm exactly the same but undergoing cancer treatment but I still don't eat everything healthy because I can't stand for long prepping everything who's got time for that, I just watched your dairy free haul and wanted to say that my daughter is dairy intolerant but I don't go to the extremes of checking everything because our dr told us a lot of the times when it says could contain dairy or small amounts it may mean that it is made in a factory that knocks out other foods with dairy and someone could have touched those foods so we tested our daughter and she was fine especially with the ramen noodles and we find by introducing tiny amounts of these foods she has become a lot more tolerant so I hope this helps, keep up the awesome videos love from sunny Brisbane xx

[@tarzan_mommy1931]

I am so much like lonnie jr. Since everything has become video with with son I'm noticing how much I myself hate being on video lol. I really didnt know he was even part of the landing crew until about a month ago when I asked he hides so well lol.

[@courtney.22]

Do you worry about ID in Liam and Penelope?

[@BrookeKatherine.]

Sorry I’m blanking, but what is ID?

[@courtney.22]

@@BrookeKatherine. intellectual disability

[@BrookeKatherine.]

@@courtney.22 thanks! Don’t know how it slipped by me.

[@courtney.22]

@@BrookeKatherine. no problem!

[@dwillardo6119]

Ok had to stop the video...that hair care routine was the best LA colors hair gel repeat again hair spray and then cross your fingers and hope it looks good for the day...I’m being so serious! LMAO 😂

[@barbg6891]

🎊Happy Sweet 16th Bday Danielle 🎊

[@jeanclaflin9147]

You are a great mom with good kids

[@abbywilliams3112]

Hello Stephanie! I am new to the channel (just subscribed) and feel so blessed to have found both a wonderful channel centered around parenting a large special needs family in such a real-world everyday life kind of way! Thank you so much for this FAQ! I am a speech therapist that works with toddlers and preschoolers. I also worked in ABA for years prior to becoming an SLP and have worked extensively with Deaf children as well so I feel so happy to have found a wonderful special needs vlog that I can recommend to families-many of which feel so so alone. Thank you for your positive videos and bright spirit! :) Love, Abby

[@jaimewalker1502]

Girl I Am with you on Lex & Liam's Hair... !! Don't cuuuuttt it!!

[@natalielucille6800]

I go to school in Colorado and I love it!!!

[@angelachisler7129]

💞LOVE your shirt/top!💖

[@kellimurphy755]

I am dying with the curly hair stuff lol. 100% I pray for no frizz all day everyday. 😂😂😂 You rock your curly hair though. I have a love hate relationship with mine.

[@drschafer95]

These were all great questions.

[@kirstenalexander36]

Love y’all!!!

[@katrinashostakovich3607]

You're a great mom.

[@Keeper_of_the_Hearth]

Wow I can’t believe people would say such things. No one should tell anyone they need to be on birth control, and to tell them they could or should have aborted their child is just evil. I’m so sorry.

[@Meganaparker]

You might change your mind on the weather in the winter😂 I’ve lived in Colorado for my whole life 20 years. The winters can be a little cold and sometimes the weather is bipolar

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

I might but I'd prefer to be super cold than hot. We were here for the end of winter, a blizzard and some REALLY cold days (4-6 degrees) but I might change my mind after a full winter. We will see LOL

[@Meganaparker]

Our LANDing Crew I like cold better than warm. I love fall here cause it’s still warm enough to wear shorts but you don’t sweat to death. Full blown winter isn’t too bad but also I live in northern Colorado so we don’t get blasted with as much snow as southern Colorado

[@asdtoddlermom5230]

Did any of your children have echogenic focus or Chlorid plexus cysts on their ultrasounds?

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

Not even sure what that is so I am going to say no lol

[@maxb8847]

i have hypotonia and autism, i wonder if its common for people with autism to have hypotonia. i also have mild intellectual disability.

[@deblavan4190]

I love Lex’s and Liam’s hair! My youngest (son). Had 3 ringlet curls until 4 years old! Now I wish I never cut it then. He likes shorter hair now. My 20 year old had beautiful curls all over until his older brother took him to get cut without my ok! I was so pissed! Now he likes his short too! They do not want curls!! I wish they did I have had poker straight hair all my life so I wish they still had curls!

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

I’m not going to lie, when I first came to your channel, I was way confused about who was who, and what was what 😂😂 My family dynamic is pretty wild too, just not as big unfortunately, I have my older Brother who is Autistic, and my 2 sons 1 of which is Diagnosed with Level 3 Autism and is non verbal, and my other son is still awaiting Diagnostic testing that was pushed back from COVID.

[@candycooopa]

“I’m not going to argue whether or not vaccines gave my kids autism because at the end of the day I would still choose to vaccinate them” YESSSSSS GIRL. Much respect.

[@bloodlacerose1688]

Link for the poster please!! Have a lovely day!!!

[@amandacartrettewithautism6885]

I Am Going To Get Seussical The Musical CD For Christmas 2020 On Friday, December 25, 2020.

[@jodistevenson5479]

I love the coin dropping lol🤫🤣

[@Lalasarahsteinberg]

You're amazing and so much respect

[@TashChynna]

I love how real you are! Thank you for being so real and not sugar coating anything. It’s hard finding authentic family channels anymore. Everything is played up and made to look more perfect than it really is. Your channel is like a breath of fresh air. Thank you 👍 and it actually hurt my feelings that people ask why didn’t you abort Penelope. I just find that soooo insensitive and hurtful. It actually hurt me as a mother to hear that. Special needs doesn’t make children any less precious and valuable.

[@lorenaortiz755]

I would like to know where was Penelope diagnosed? Meaning which hospital and city in Colorado. Thank you for your answered

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

Children's Colorado :)

[@lorenaortiz755]

Is that in Denver? I’m asking because I live in California and apparently here there are not a lot of services for kids. I’m trying to get my 7 year old in occupational therapy and they told me that I have to go to a children hospital in which is 3 hours ago.

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

Yes the one in Denver

[@lorenaortiz755]

I’m glad she was in good hands.

[@ana71023]

Seria ótimo se o seu canal tivesse legenda para o português. Acompanho conteúdos sobre autismo porque meu filho tem isso

[@jennasarin6820]

I am loving your shirt in this vid 👍🏼

[@didihurtyourfee-fees158]

Wow, I’m just in awe of you. You are genuine, kind and honest. Character traits not easily found all the time. You’re a great mother and I hope you always are blessed with everything you need and want. You surely deserve it. ❤️

[@morganforman3024]

I love your kids and family.

[@MrMrsmartin86]

Your curly girl routine is just like mine 🤞🤞🤞🤞 it works lol

[@jessicaborgogni9595]

Do you think you’re going to change the channel name after Penelope? Like...PLANDing crew 😂 😂idk! But it would even keep with the reverse chronological order lol

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

🤣 we call her Nellie so it fits into the N lol

[@augustusgreen7881]

Can you do a series of Small Business Saturdays or Sundays vlogs featuring as we showcase and honor and helping out small businesses across Colorado during the coronavirus pandemic and these challenging times of uncertainty

[@afollowersfight5266]

The reason I don’t like Math U See for most kids is because it is way different than any other curriculum and makes it difficult to switch curriculums. My school used Math U See for my Algebra 1 course, and for Algebra 1 it wasn’t too big of a deal for that specific course, but use for multiple school years could cause issues if/when they have to switch. Most kids fall behind because of it. With Noah, I understand he has intellectual delay, so I think you made the right decision for him personally. I just hope he doesn’t have issues switching when he goes back to public school. There’s a chance that they’ll be able to use Math U See depending on what’s on his IEP though.

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

We customized it for Noah and Noah is at a much lower level but I could see the issue with Algebra. I am so glad you said something for other parents reading though ❤️

[@afollowersfight5266]

Our LANDing Crew thanks for your reply! I’m always a bit apprehensive with comments like this because I don’t want to offend anyone, but thanks!

[@heatherbarnes9829]

I missed the link for the Facebook group for the poster. Can you tell me what it is so I can join?

[@kaylariggs5188]

I'm curious if all these kids have been diagnosed by the same physician?

[@OurLANDingCrew8]

Nope. Noah was diagnosed by a different doctor. Lex and Liam were diagnosed by the same doctor but then a 2nd doctor in Colorado confirmed it. Penelope was by a completely different one here in Colorado.

[@wt0416]

Why is lonnie jr called bubby?

[@jend4815]

❤ Love yall!

[@elizabethfletcher2980]

Good for you and Lonnie for NOT getting a abortion 💜

[@fans8777]

about the schooling, i do agree in homeschooling as public(and private) schools has enough (sadly) unreasonable and not the best of friendly teachers out there (this is from experience) as an 18 year old, i will 100% homeschool my future kids and have them attend a public college (i don't want to be like those overly protective parents) i also learn a lot from your videos to0 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@fans8777]

public schools can be very unpleasant

[@hollystibbs202]

I live u guys sm stay safe xx

[@kingkalaniohana4937]

Landing-stands all the name of the kids thats awesome

[@OhEverdeen]

Girl, you don't owe ANY of us an explanation on why you had the kids you had! Even if you knew the chances, it is absolutely nobody's business. You take excellent care of your babies and they are so loved & cherished, and that is ALL that matters!

[@hayleymarse2853]

I will never understand how rude people can be. Why do people question a child’s existence just because they have special needs or come from a big family. The circumstances of someone’s birth does not change the value of their life. Of all the families to be born to, these kids have the best best parents as a support system. Also, why does everyone assume big families/families with children with autism are anti-vaxx? It’s so weird

[@barbaranelson5177]

I do agree with your not sharing everything and that a good thing

[@anastasiawaters361]

I do the same curly Hai routine lmao

[@racheletipton3393]

That's my curly hair method too lol

[@carriebowlen3785]

Hello Stephanie! I love being a member of LANDing Crew!!!! 💜💜💜💙💙💙💜💜💜💙💙💙 I love that sound.

[@allisonisaacs5213]

Where were the kids born at ?

[@erinadams6749]

I love you and your family Stephanie! Keep on keeping on girl...Your an amazing Mama and do everything you can for your kids! #blessed

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

Sorry for all the comments but.... WHY do people tell YOU that you should have aborted, or birth control, etc. As if seeing your lovely family somehow effects them! 🙄 I’ll never understand.

[@mirandaeaton5444]

The curly hair routine 😂😂😂😂