What it's like to lose a partner

"I miss you. The kids miss you. They need you more than me."
Losing your wife, boyfriend or partner is one of the most painful experiences in life. The process is a unique and confusing one, and people whose partners have passed away have had to deal with a myriad of feelings ranging from guilt, regret and even confusion at the sudden change in status.
Ronald, Jane and Ramond are 3 people whose partners have passed away, and they share how they lost their partner, their journey of dealing with grief and loss, and how they eventually managed to overcome it.
0:24 - How they met
2:20 - What happened
7:23 - Dealing with grief
13:25 - Last words
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[@peggy3956]

I can totally relate to them. My late husband was mugged, in the ICU for 2 months and finally succumbed to his brain injuries. Our daughter was 3 years old then. I had no time to grief, had to find a job and survive. When my daughter is asleep and all's quiet, I weep.

[@StarrySunnie]

I wish you have you are doing better as you are healing. Taking care of yourself is important too 🙏🏽🙇🏻‍♀️💐😢

[@MeiYingLim]

Why was he mugged?

[@triplerosez]

Hope you are healing ! And seems like you are already doing wonderful as a mom for your daughter! Hope you find peace & joy through time

[@maileevyne5000]

@@MeiYingLim For money?? Some low lives need a quick get away? Is there any other reason to getting mugged?

[@adaptercrash]

It's painful I had a life partner the relationship needed a break since I'm a noob at it she decides to move on

[@jareth7971]

Those three words: I miss you. Expressed more than one could ever know.

[@gan8788]

simple yet impactful. I felt that mixed emotions despite not experiencing similar tragedy.

[@nancytay648]

Endure e relationship thru thick n thin, then no separation tO cause emotional 😢 probkems*

[@whatnow6893]

It's another reminder to be kind to others. We never know what they're going through. Huhu I'm bawling my eyes out. Losing a loved one is never easy. I lost my mum 14 years ago and you never really lose the feeling of grief.

[@user-fb2ir3lq2o]

I lost my partner of 10 years. The grief stays with you.

[@rsoh4551]

When we lost our life time partner, he/she will always live in our memory. Grief is not an illness, therefore there is no cure. It is like a wave, it comes and goes. We learn to live with it over time.

[@cypidez]

i think it's very important to show this and the stages of grief that people go through and the road to recovering from something so tragic. my aunt passed away back in 2017-18 to cancer and only recently lost my grandfather to covid so it was really hard for me, i related slightly to Ramond because seeing that person you always see everyday suddenly not being there is heartbreaking and everything just feels so surreal. its really nice of them to open up about their experiences and how it has affected them long term to show us that we aren't alone, with whatever we are suffering with we have to learn to enjoy every moment we have with them before it becomes a memory.

[@shpgrl1026]

This is so moving and so many of us have been through similar situations. Watching something like this helps remind me that I am not alone in my feeling and my grief. Sending love and prayers to everyone here who has been through the heartbreak of losing someone close to us. ❤

[@josephyeo6966]

I always tell my friends and family. Life is short and very unpredictable. Don't be left behind wishing - "I wish I had done this or that." If your circumstances permit and you want to do or say something nice, do it now.

[@sauriengtui]

I lost my Husband , my soul mate of 38 years in January of 2022 . It’s will be one year soon , he was in the hospital for 24 days and it was a longest 24 days I have ever live because we can’t see him until he passed , I still go to bed crying every night , I’m so lost ,every thing is reminding of him , praying to god every minutes so he can help me ease my pain .

[@moonbunniee6050]

In 5 years, I lost my beloved grandma, mum and maternal grandfather. This video hits home , because it's true that we never truly get over lost of a loved one, it just hurt lesser but the void is always there. Sometimes I wished I could turn back time just to relieve some moment with them for one last time..

[@moonbunniee6050]

Right after this comment a few days later my grandpa went to find my grandma too 😔 I thought I had more time to bring him out for dinner since its endemic now..

[@ria6480]

@@moonbunniee6050 im sorry for your loss :( ❤️❤️❤️

[@canice0521]

That smile is not a smile left me so broken.. Rip

[@StarrySunnie]

Thank you very much for sharing this video, Motherships 🙏🏽🙇🏻‍♀️

[@mhmdnazel1]

In the Islamic tradition, people who pass away are in another world and we will meet them sooner or later and we are not allowed to mourn them for more than 3 days. We are encouraged to pray for their well-being and do charity on their behalf. We are also strongly told to expect all of us to meet on the day of judgement.. Thus we are told to continue our earthly life with a positive attitude and continue to do good deeds till we die and meet up with them. Allah and His prophets know best.

[@DinodogJr]

That’s explain why sometimes I watched the tv news of the Malays victim families looks so calm during interview to their loss of someone. That’s way we can reduce the pain of loss which is spending more time with peoples we caring the most anytime and anywhere. Peoples could carrying their mourn for years as they regretted not perform their part to cherish someone when they are still alive. Always building memories together. Remember the particular moments and carrying the strength to move forward.

[@reirarei3303]

That's a good perspective

[@audeamus7388]

Damn... After watching this, just imagining losing my girl nearly made me tear up...

[@susanngin3481]

Is sad n heartbreaking to lose someone dear. Life still needs to go on. Pour yr heart out cry if want ....is ok not to be okay at times. Talk to someone in yr family, siblings, closed frds or church pastor....or social welfare if someone hs suicidal tendencies...suicide thoughts.....need time to slowly heal.....think positive for those who hv kids to care for....althgh never easy but try .....is alwys the fate tat binds or break one together.....think of it as God destiny to us....To live n Die someday. To those 3 who share with us their grieves....be strong...God is there for u.....tks for sharing...🙏

[@jaynetan3672]

♥️😭 tq for sharing your story

[@caiby48]

In humanity, time factor will heal, whether short or longer timeframe depending on degrees of affection, personal and other circumstances. However, the types of death are not equality like age, way and mannerism of death etc, these are somewhat science and medical etc could not define cogently in definite and absolute. May all always be showered with blessing. Be strong and kind in all situations.

[@istoppedlaughing5225]

They are happy and unhappy both

[@steventay5834]

Life is damn cruel

[@andychua5853]

And I can't even find tat someone 😭

[@ektpuahify]

It hurts

[@Tony.L9793]

remain single the best rather than feeling the pain of losing a partner

[@glorytruthlove]

😭

[@MatoyaLim]

Goddamn onion cutting ninjas

[@HulkVahkiin]

I can feel the emotional weight in their words...sad. Edit: I swear the lady in black does not fit the video, her tone and positive attitude is a total contrast to the video 😂🤣

[@farahfbnh]

The sounds in the background is very distracting. Ruins the video

[@SparkzMxzXZ]

the single father just exudes such a… loneliness. when he said he can only wait till sunday where his group members can give him a chance to talk and relieve some stress. Wishing the best for all of them but especially this man

[@alextangster]

Lady in white (Ramond) came across as a strong, smart, independent and confident woman, yet inside she's so broken by the lost. Let's be kinder to others as we'd never know the pain everyone's carrying inside. Thank you all 3 for baring your souls to remind us the most impt things in life.

[@zandermccoll]

"They need you more than me" broke me right here

[@marklim3399]

Heart breaking

[@syph365]

The father with the kids, and the lady in white blouse - you can feel the emotions behind their words.

[@DeStinAr0]

The father is soo strong 🥺 Your wife and children would be soo proud of u sir 💜

[@ohitsdarren]

I felt the pain. Especially from that man

[@jerryyoua9495]

The father saying ‘the kids miss you’ and ‘ they need you more than me’ open the flood gates. I am ill with cancer and I wonder what will happen to my kids. 😭 -Youa

[@mintymint4048]

Don’t die and live on

[@chumabanjwa4662]

I hope you are still around and living well dearest stranger ❤

[@lidna82]

There is nothing more heart wrenching than losing someone dear to you. Cherish and embrace everyone in present.

[@vicchin8119]

14:06 the emotions and expression at that moment. heart breaking.

[@numberzestarz]

Lost my dad to cancer almost 12 years ago. I was 11. I miss him badly, but I can’t imagine how it was for my mom. To lose her life partner, someone she expected to live with for a long time. Before he passed, he stared at my mom as if he was saying sorry for leaving. My parents showed me the true meaning of “till death do us apart” ❤️

[@Tvyoutubeacc]

“So when you saw her in the ICU, how did you feel?” *smack forehead*

[@athan5213]

If I would have that last word with my dad who passed away suddenly, is that Dad: I love you.

[@annn8389]

My deepest condolence to you. My dad did not wake up one morning. Just like that. I did not get a chance to say goodbye to my dear dad. But we had the best Father's day celebration for my dad less than 2 months before. We all had a fantastic dinner at the beach for him. I made his favorite dishes and homemade apple pie. He was very happy and I was able to capture that moment on my camera. I truly hope your happy memories of your dad will help to sustain you in the difficult time.

[@athan5213]

@@annn8389 Hi Ann, I totally can feel you. Just on 31st Dec 2022, I lost my granddad too, he has been playing a father figure ever since my dad had gone to the rest in 2008. But we are all very pleased and thankful to God that they passed away peacefully.

[@hotreboot1844]

I'm very glad Mothership decided to include those who lost their boyfriends/significant other among those who have lost their partners. There is a saying, there are words for those who have lost their wife, their husband, their son/daughter, their parents, but there are none for someone who has lost their boy-or-girlfriend (or someone in the interim stages). I know how much it must pain these people, being unable to even be 'named' after the legacy they leave behind. The pain is equally heartfelt no matter what the status of someone lost.

[@leelian6481]

I lost my mum (cancer) exactly 21 days (3 weeks) after my beloved husband sudden death (due to illness & deteriorate) I never gotten over it I learnt to accept it slowly & painfully This is their 10th year anniversary 😔

[@gad7602]

Ronald, may God comfort you and grant you the strength as you soldier on with the children. ❤

[@ViJas23]

The sudden loss of a loved one gives the most unbearable and tremendous pain. It still hurts extremely lots whenever I think about my mom who suddenly left in 2004. Time just couldn't heal me so I move on with greive everyday......

[@limtimothy846]

You should learn to move on with your life while seeking comfort in knowing your mom is in a better place with no suffering, pain or sickness. She is gone but WILL never be forgotten but held precious in your heart and memory !

[@Hari-ry6cr]

I am so sorry for your loss sir 🙏🏽

[@MDroid-bn6eb]

Cut onions right from the start? Smlj leh… :(

[@sallywilson1600]

Sad, listening to these beautiful stories. Thank you for sharing. That man got me. "I miss you". That pulled at the heart strings. His face immediately changed, you could see and feel the longing and loneliness that he has for his wife. Heartbreaking. God Bless you all. I'm sure your loved one's are watching over each of you and your children.

[@crnathan100]

Hi Mr. Ronald, It was touching, may the almighty be with you and your kids!

[@tcruise77]

Each of us will eventually have to go through these "losing someone dear" phase. When there's life, there's death. Let's just hope all of us will have people we can confide in when it happens.

[@Mountainturtle90]

thanks for doing this episode and thanks for coming forward to share your stories ❤❤

[@tricialow217]

All so strong, they have overcome and they will become a better person for the lost love of their life.

[@Potomacstud]

Memories maybe be beautiful and yet what's too painful to remember we simply choose to forget , easy to say but hard to do😢

[@SOULTIGER]

Rip Jonathan. Nice guy that I met. From Air Force and ex colleague of mine.

[@jacquelineng9256]

Love the smile on his face when she thinks of her ❤

[@djbong6408]

14:07 that was beautiful

[@rifkyhusein1389]

It’s very tough for the guy handling two toddlers. He loves his wife so much 😢

[@littlejourney3178]

😢 i feel the deep pain with them..its hard to be left by love ones especially if you didn't see them in their last days coz your miles away from them.

[@rachellmang-osan9401]

Its realy painful to lost a love one and we missed them dearly and the hope that we only have is to see them once again the ressurection of our dear loved ones when Our LORD AND SAVIOUR LORD GOD JESUS CHRIST IN HES SECOND COMING AND THE EARTH IS PARADISE WHERE NO DEATH NO TEARS ,NO WARS,NO HATRED,NO PAIN,ALL IS PERFECT AND RIGHT ONCE AGAIN,

[@onetwoeighttfaa2609]

Thank you for sharing your stories. Appreciate your grit & resilience to share this experience with us, random strangers. Thank you... ❤

[@limtimothy846]

It's very sad to lose a friend but even more heartbreaking to lose someone really close or loved ones. Inspite of support from church friends or relatives, you'll go thru a phase of depression, intense sadness & feeling lost. Trust me as I've gone thru such times.

[@shinkaitan5664]

Can relate to this although it did not happen on me. Instead, it happened one of my extended relative whom he himself (one of my mum's cousin) passed away leaving behind his wife and 2 daughters with the young one being 3 months old at the time of his death.

[@Jess-zy9ro]

Can relate too. In this case it was my cousin-law who passed, leaving 2 daughters, also aged 3 months and the other just 3 years old. Till now, my cousin hasn’t gotten over his passing despite seeking professional help.

[@lulunana4737]

In tears. Reminded me of my loss…yes “ I miss you”

[@karminimohan]

I lost my husband of 21-years, known for total of 25-years about two months ago. He passed from a freak motorbike accident on his way home after going to the temple on a Sunday morning.

[@agash8201]

People don’t understand how some relationships are in so depth and it takes lot of time to let go when relationships is very good. Life becomes so confusing so stagnant.

[@m03_m]

It just tell everyone of us to say it now than waiting for things to happen.

[@vernelledouglas1801]

Condolences and strength to all. That gentleman is blessed to have a wise Aunty.

[@akeelaboomful]

I cannot imagine losing my partner... It's the worst thing that can ever happen...

[@dorothytoo127]

They always take a part of us when they left us in their journey of life....but a precious part of them will live on in the lives and hearts of those they left behind. Still missing my dear sister who left us almost 5 years ago...not a day passed by that I don't think of her. Memories of the good times we shared will be treasured for always...missing you still....

[@starandthesatellite]

I lost my dad to cancer in 2007. He was 47 years old. This 31st July, it will be his 15th year death anniversary. Grief is a lifelong process, not an event. It takes time before we truly feel better. To all who have lost their loved ones (prematurely or unexpectedly), we *are* strong and we *are* resilient. We will get through this. Hang in there.

[@TheDevaser]

Grief is such a deep & painful feeling & it will never go till I breathe my last but I know my dear dear husband would want me to ship up & move forward if not for myself, at least for our girls who we both love so much. Our daughters, bless them, are slowly picking up the pieces, like me, and even though they miss him terribly everyday, they are progressing thankfully just like me, with the exception of some days which can just pop up unexpectedly & which we acknowledge & grieve, then we move forward.

[@rosameijering5161]

13:57 what does she mean woth social filter( nor my first language)

[@runningcomposer1682]

Don’t know bout you. Is that Lim Swee Say doppelgänger?!

[@az12312]

Thank you for sharing the personal journey of loss and grieve. Yes, we miss them.

[@thatone8085]

If you hate the other half to the core and tragedy happens, you will not feel it but if the love is 100% strong , you would be devastated because you have lost your soulmate.

[@ivanemmanuel2822]

Social withdrawal symptoms ??????

[@irenetan4763]

Touching stories. Thank you for sharing. Your sharing milght help those going through tough time!

[@mrcoco3562]

I am a single father, I had never been in a relationship after my divorce 😔 because I couldn't forget my ex wife smile and everything. Damn it's been 12year now 😒

[@ABC-ed8cg]

That shows the depth of your love for your ex-wife. Unlike some ppl who remarry the next day after their partners have passed on. The last lady in the video is most likely like the latter. A social butterfly with superficial emotions. You can’t detect any grief or sadness cos she’s most likely dating a new person. A griefing person doesn’t speak like that. She’s almost telling a joke or a happy anecdote. She’s dressed very flamboyantly too, not fitting of the topic. More likely, not wanting to share too much of an ex-partner for fear of offending her new partner. A genuine r/s will take a long time to get over, even if the person is gone.

[@badboi888]

@@ABC-ed8cg Can't expect much.. Christian but aldy staying over when only dated for 6-7 mths

[@attiqueen]

Why did you divorce when you could have tried to make it work …?

[@yoloyolo1307]

Watching this is so depressing. Makes people feel suicidal

[@cjkoh8227]

Thank you all 3 of you for sharing your stories. It really taught me so much. Life is so fragile. Hug your loved ones close always.

[@wakeuppeople5815]

I can’t do this very close

[@contrinxs1823]

I fealt the pain

[@sarahlim75]

❤😢

[@claudettelewis8808]

😥 spoken from the heart.

[@abdullahiahmed2805]

This is very tragic as a whole

[@christinemaddy6164]

Same

[@Orashidimaru]

Oh God.. at first I thought they were ex husband and wife. Then there's the 2nd women. Then I realized they're talking about passed loved one. My heart sunken. Cuz I missed my late brother. Passed in his sleep.

[@nationone6073]

Lost my husband 2015 due to cancer.When the disease spread to his brain, he was unable to speak...he uses his eyes to express his fèeling ...until he passed way...if only i can hear .....

[@lindaknaras8828]

I have lost my husband July 17th 2017.

[@rolandtan9302]

whenever i watch mothership, someone is always cutting onions. Poignant beyond words.

[@EvanYoungMusic]

I lost it when he said the kids need you more than… man…

[@nancyhuffman5802]

My dad died unexpectedly of a heart attack, when I was 9. My mom really fell apart, and didn't have the strength yet to do the things my dad did, like driving, homework help, school stuff, etc. It was mighty strange to start writing my mom's name on permission slips, etc., because she didn't want to deal with it. I became a better cook, because I didn't want to burden my mom, and helped around the house,master she threw my 12 years older sister out.

[@nancyhuffman5802]

Later....autocorrect

[@Tantemify]

life can be very unfair at times

[@pa1264]

😢😢.

[@jackie6742]

✨️

[@kswong4122]

I missed you, my lovely wife since you left me 6 years ago due to illness...

[@jiiizen4460]

Itz very sad once u lost someone u love n really not easy

[@alleyesonjulio]

I'm sobbed

[@stefaniechong9640]

😢😑

[@mmlee]

Option B..... read it ....the Ps

[@eddiensw]

I am sorry...

[@_mw55_]

damn onions!

[@ririgala1741]

I'm not alone. Still grieving loss after 1-1/2 years. It will never be the same, you know. When you find the one, your best friend & partner in life, that's it, it's done.

[@frogfoot1653]

So sadd sorry

[@sop953]

From the tone of their conversation, you can tell how much the dead meant to them. Some dress to tell their stories, some dress for the tube..