‘My Abortion Story’ - BBC News

In this film, one 28-year-old woman describes her own experience of abortion - the physical, mental and emotional journey: “Why should we feel shame?”
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[@soyboynpc264]

Wait what? She says that she dosent regret the abortion and that it was the best choice,but the hole drama of her story is how she suffered after the abortion because she realized she had lost something...WTF?

[@blessedbeford6130]

SOYBOY NPC I know just doesn’t make sense.

[@felipez7113]

It is funny that pro abortion videos always appeal to the emotional of the viewer, that is obvious, because they don't have logic arguments only feelings.

[@sampletext9396]

I still dont get it ,you kill a live so you that you can have more time,like man wtf, nobody is prepared to be a father or a mother

[@evelyneernest8854]

SOYBOY NPC SUFFER ING AND REGRETTING ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS

[@evelyneernest8854]

SOYBOY NPC THEY RELATE FROM A FAR THOU

[@Monyka24]

A lot of judging fingers in the comments but when it’s you going’s through the experience it’s a whole different story. “Give a baby for adoption if you are not ready to be a mom” it’s also been suggested but, really? Try seeing your body swell and change and feel that baby move inside of you for 9 months! Everybody makes difficult choices every day, NOBODY HERE IS A SAINT, we live with the weight of the choices we make which is not easy. We all have something we feel guilty of or shame. We just have to be respectful and compassionate

[@mathildeyoung1823]

So abusing puppies and killing toddlers should be legal because they are difficult choices?

[@KarlaRamirez-tc3yx]

thank you🥺

[@diablo2531]

"Nobody here is a saint". Correct. How does this justify taking a life though?

[@ucautoentertainment7359]

We’re not judging we’re responding to women like you who think it’s okay for other women to murder babies

[@ucautoentertainment7359]

eh hi bruh if I can fix my own car Weld myself fix the plumping myself , I’m pretty sure a women could kill her own child “professionally” if she pleased but thinking now the Chinese did experiments on villages in their land they were all pretty professional too...

[@glindagoodwitchofnorthview8287]

If this was supposed to be a pro choice video, it left me very very uncomfortable with abortion.

[@paularrowsmith9980]

Yes, I reckon it was supposed to be a "pro-choice" video. And, yes, I'm sure it will leave many people of that persuasion very uncomfortable with abortion. But I think that honesty about the issues that mostly get shut out of the picture can only be helpful to anyone struggling with a decision on whether to end the life of an unborn boy or girl. Because that's the issue to be honestly faced, isn't it? And of course, the future wellbeing and general mental health of the mother, which I doubt is ever flagged up by abortion clinic personnel.

[@flamencodpv]

She describes how terrible the ordeal is, as is the very word, "abortion," then proceeds to make the claim she didn't regret her decision. Was it regretful or wasn't it? Bursting into tears in front of friends and being sorrowfully aware of the would-be-birthday sounds like regret to me. When one's conscience and ideology are incompatible, one should question the ideology, not the conscience. I feel for her, I really do, but "shame" isn't a problem, it's a natural consequence, and it doesn't necessarily find its origin from the outside.

[@TranquilTaciturnity]

Flamenco Dance Lessons THIS.

[@fawkewemf5616]

🙄

[@berniestephens4506]

I’m afraid the secrecy is innate. We have a moral compass (most of us) that tells us this is huge. And it is. You’re not wrong for aborting your pregnancy, but you’re not wrong for feeling guilt, shame, embarrassment, sadness, loss or any other emotion either. Birth, death and abortions are parts of life and not all of life is nice. Some of it is depressing and hard to cope with. I hope you find peace whoever reads this.

[@jaga887]

Why would you feel guilt if you just killing a lifeless clump of cells

[@berniestephens4506]

@J AGA Your removing the process of a life beginning

[@jaga887]

@@berniestephens4506 Lol

[@thanoswife1254]

@@jaga887 some people attach themselves to the clump of cells and see it as a baby, other don't. That's why it's normal to feel either guilt or no guilt.

[@jaga887]

We have a moral compass that tells us it is murder

[@laiaescoda]

Word by word, image by image it is here described with terrible accuracy what I have gone through the past week. Thanks for helping make me feel less alone to whoever has done this.

[@happyeverafter7788]

Laia AG How are you?

[@happyeverafter7788]

Mike Tiwaz Very true! Lala you should seek healing!

[@matthewmclean9012]

@@JoRobertsGaming1984 yea but it diesnt feel it

[@matthewmclean9012]

@@JoRobertsGaming1984 stfu 😂

[@karolguz2000]

i hope you are doing better, tomorrow is my my turn tu suffer the same.. i'm in pices , but i'm not ready.

[@theclairebaire]

My friend had a boyfriend who beat the holy hell out of her and he beat her when he found out she was pregnant. Her family wanted nothing to do with her so she had no help. It's very different when you have support and when you don't. Sometimes you just don't know. 🤦

[@jeffw1267]

But the baby still has a right not to be murdered. Lots of women had their babies and loved them, in the same situation.

[@campfireaddict6417]

#Stupid Why is she stupid as shit? ? ?

[@laurilaitinen5606]

"someone beat me once. Now I have the right to kill a baby"

[@LT-xc9cs]

Domestic Abuse is a crime and does not mean because of it you can fix it with more blood (the killing of potential life)

[@elmoscotch6621]

@@jeffw1267 well the baby would have been murdered by the boyfriend anyway, so what's the point of bringing the baby pain?

[@imnogood5016]

stop shaming her. It’s already hard enough, I had to have an abortion and I was protecting myself, I was not narrow minded, I was an art student at that times that slept 3 hours a day because I had to work at night so I could pay my school, my room and my food. I lived in a 2 room apartment utterly shitty. I didn’t even had a bathroom and had to go to friend’s house next to my door just to have intimacy and be able to brush my teeth, take showers or go the toilet. My boyfriend wasn’t living with me, his parents had tons of money and didn’t even care about my situation. He was in a high-end school and in a high end apartment. I lied to him for 3 years telling him that I was sleeping well, that my apartment was sure small but good, that I didn’t worked at nigh etc. When I found I was pregnantI didn’t want an abortion but I needed one, my grandfather was an undesired child. He has lived all this life without knowing who was his mother. And he had felt pain. I didn’t want an abortion. I needed one. For the sake of my mental stability and for the sad life that this child was destined to live. I was feeling so bad about killing that « bean » that I even tried to kill myself with a knife so he would die with me anyway. My boyfriend was worried. I wasn’t answering my phone, he found my address, he saw where I lived, he saw me in a blood stained tub, almost life less. I almost died. I woke up in a white bed, a hospital bed, not knowing where I was. He was here he hold my hands and told me what happened, I cried, he told he saw everything, from the apartment to the pregnancy test, he told me that everything will be okay, that I will move with him and that I would get an abortion and help. I had an abortion. I felt bad. I really did. But it was for the best. We just couldn’t do it. I am not pro-abortion, nor am I narrow-minded. I am pro choice. I don’t get to chose for somebody’s life. People like you that thinks they are entitled to chose for somebody’s pregnancy are dangerous a,d are in fact the narrow minded people. Abortion is practiced since the Ancient greeks invented it. It has been prohibited many times in the past and guess what ? Women still tried to abort with unsanitary objects. They died. And people like you are the murderers of society.

[@himynameisjohnwumsh7631]

I'm no good : you did some pretty harsh shaming there at the end. That is called being a hypocrite.

[@imnogood5016]

Darth Ur wow strange you’re a man. Funny but most prolife people I meet are men. Maybe you just can’t understand and since you’ll never need an abortion you should just shut up 🤐 Idk might just be me

[@imnogood5016]

Darth Ur you’ll never be pregnant, that’s why I think you shouldn’t talk about this matter. I mean the true problem here is not that women are getting abortions, it’s why. If they got raped, there’s a lack of security, if it’s like me and they have no/low income or are studying or working their ass of why can’t perceive help from our state ? Why is the adoption system so shitty. And I ‘m sorry to tell it like that but I was taking the pill and I was working while studying. It was my last year of art school, If stopped for a year heck only for a month I would have lost my merit scholarship and I wouldn’t have been able to continue after all my time and effort. Do you understand that ? And shame wouldn’t exist if everybody understood that.

[@himynameisjohnwumsh7631]

Darth Ur : crickets

[@garbohydrates193]

It seems abstinence is dead......

[@Lauren-vd4qe]

WHY should we feel shame?? gee I can't figure that one out...perhaps it's the chopping up of an innocent trusting little baby...

[@redhotredhead101]

Lauren The Bible says that all human beings are sinners by nature.

[@britishmgtow7251]

@geezusispan Nor can you.

[@soulscry]

geezusispan geez geez...when you were in the fetus stage, you had no choice BUT to trust your own mother...what if she made that decision...well, she didn't. Every tiny soul that is murdered cries out for justice!

[@soulscry]

...this is why we need insane asylums for the morally ill!!!

[@roaminghomosapiens7399]

@geezusispan nor can someone sleeping yet I hope your not going to kill them

[@aaliyahallen-sellers3547]

Gosh this breaks my heart 💔 because i know how she feels

[@gohan3448]

Aaliyah Allen-Sellers so you had an abortion before. Smh

[@alaroyde5758]

Ha!

[@NC-ns5se]

I haven’t been through this, but I’m sorry for the pain you went through. I can only imagine this must have been an incredibly difficult choice for you to make with very confusing emotions. I hope you have someone you can talk to IRL who can listen to you without judgement.

[@ilovefrankocean7823]

Deshaun Watson ok so ur shaming her for 🤔 or judging her for what for her choice even tho it wasn’t a good choice this world is so judgmental

[@dutchvanderlinde1012]

Good thing it breaks your heart like you literally broke the babys

[@lanawallace2964]

I’m having my first ever abortion today 😢 I’m 43yrs old, with 2 older children (16 and 9 yrs), and I’m 4wks pregnant. I’m not in any fit state mentally to parent another baby as I suffer from depression with s.uicidal. ideations, on antidepressants to help me survive. I share joint custody of my other children with my ex husband, and I am just about able to cope with them, much less another baby. I hate that I am mentally no longer able to parent a baby, and it hurts my very core, to have to terminate my little bean 😢 but I know I am not in a position mentally to be the mother she/he deserves 😢

[@elizabeth.601]

I hope you didnt kill your baby. Every baby deserves the chance at life and to love and be loved. Life does not always to plan, but that part of the adventure. But just because your baby is unplanned does not mean you can steal that adventure from your baby. Babies bring joy. Please remember that.

[@Shitinmyhand]

dawg..@@elizabeth.601

[@tara34952]

So give your baby up for adoption by a couple who suffering from infertility and desperate to have a baby of their own to love and nurture.

[@Wyseria]

@@tara34952 how many people do you are infertile

[@tara34952]

@@Wyseria Many, MANY couples struggle to conceive. It's very common.

[@challis-leighmooney7096]

This video is amazing. I had an abortion literally today and I was trying to find comfort only to be told I shouldn't have it by people in the comments. I am 16 years of age, my mother would have kicked me out and my baby would have been raised by someone who is mentally ill, still legally a child and would have nothing to offer. It's heartbreaking what I have done and up until 2 months ago I was pro-life all the way, but if you haven't stood in somebody's shoes and saw their future through their perspective then you have absolutely no right to say what is right and wrong. It's all opinion, and while my decision in no way affects any one of you, you're allowed to have your opinion, I just wish you'd respect mine. And maybe it is murder, but I would rather kill my child then allow it to grow up in such a shit environment with hardly any family and a small chance of becoming any type of decent person. So perhaps instead of shaming me for my choice and attempting to make me feel worse than I already do, maybe you should just not have an abortion if you don't agree with it and move on.

[@llinoswilliams3715]

Challis-Leigh Mooney How are you doing by now? How are you feeling? xx

[@chhjhfffhhvddff8414]

Shouldn’t have had sex if you where to ready to deal with the out come

[@coppersulphate002]

Challis-Leigh Mooney if you are not ready for the consequences of sex ( babies or abortion) you should not have sex. Babies are a life long commitment but could bring happiness but abortions bring only pain for the rest of your life.

[@coppersulphate002]

Challis-Leigh Mooney you have to live with your decision of killing your child. No one else. So only you gotta deal with this pain. Remember that! Unfortunately that is very sad.

[@TranquilTaciturnity]

I'm having trouble understanding what a 16 y/o who claims she "wasn't ready to raise a child" was doing sleeping around with someone who was apparently "mentally ill" and "legally a child himself". Sharing this is equivalent to accepting this as "normal" behavior for a teenager when it is most certainly not. It is exactly this type of behavior that leads to unfortunate and completely avoidable circumstances like abortion.

[@chelseashamim9148]

I hope all these people who disagree with abortion are the same people adopting or fostering these kids Edit: I have no kids. I was 12 years old when I wrote this. I'm 13 years old. You lot are creeps 😂 2nd Edit: An argument of pro choice people is that the child would not receive proper care. So to counter that argument there should be more foster parents right? Since you care so much about them.

[@LunaDarkFall]

Gabriel it does.

[@jooky1812]

@Gabriel. The fuck are you talking about, it absoultly does. If you want people to not get abortion then you'd better take in some unwanted kids my dude.

[@malikal7789]

They will

[@campfireaddict6417]

Absolutely. HAVE THE BABY EVEN IF YOU CANT FEED IT. Anyone responsible for forcing this woman to have this baby must have interest in the child. Help out. Buy food, clothes; share money. Arrange babysitters and vacations. Start a college fund. You were part of this child's life, now be a part of it, forever. You wanted this little boy or girl to live so much, so do all these things that -- before you -- couldn't be done. Mama knew that, you didn't, so now help her.

[@juanmanuelsanchezrodriguez6325]

If it weren't the case, it doesn't give anyone the right to kill their unborn child.

[@jessicajames6277]

Try and not care what others think about your life. The people who oppose abortion are all people who’ve never had one. Therefore they’ve never walked in your shoes. They won’t be there to help you with that baby with times get tough and funds get lean. Do what’s best for your life. Learn to forgive yourself and block out people who have never shared your experiences.

[@squidwardisathottiana9073]

Condom + girl = no baby = no abortion Condom = 1.00 Tah da problem sloved.

[@squidwardisathottiana9073]

Penis + unstable slut = abortion

[@誠-f9c]

Shameless killers.

[@bigdanslivestreams4060]

Legalised murder.

[@elisabethm5563]

It is not a bean.

[@timehasexpiredful]

i wish society was more understanding and supportive.

[@timehasexpiredful]

hayong choung yeah...sure dude... that's exactlt what I meant... have a nice day.

[@mathildeyoung1823]

Me too... there would be less abortions if people understood that unborn children were human beings

[@lebronjames8811]

Mathilde Young ikr everyday my mom says look to god not humanity because humanity has stupid people that do abortions

[@MattFromSunderland]

I wish people who supported abortion were sent to mental correctional services, and those that carried out abortions were punished with NO LESS than life imprisonment.

[@newwaveinfantry8362]

I also wish society was more understanding and supportive.......so that they restrict the ability of a mother killing her own child and let it live.

[@k2apache60]

So tragic, we had a lovechild, she decided to abort it in the early stages. I wasn't much part of the process, she took charge of the situation. I wasn't happy about feeling left out, we had a steady loving relationship and there was tension before and after. Men feel it too, I've often thought about that child and what could have been, but accept I'm just as responsible as she was. It's just so sad.

[@fawkewemf5616]

that's why free vasectomy should be available bc reckless ej@culation makes problems

[@Dragon43ish]

In the USA since 1972 46 million babies have been destroyed by loving caring women.

[@gohan3448]

Dragon43ish unfortunately people think it’s normal to do this. Shit is sad. People don’t realize that sex isn’t for fun or enjoyment, it’s suppose to be done when you are ready to have kids

[@dogeboi2093]

@@gohan3448 crushing a babys skull and bones is not ok.. God help those babies from the Imperial Americans.

[@foxyangel2006]

@@gohan3448 wow..... You must have a very boring sex life.

[@RocKnight11]

But according to the Bible, how many babies were destroyed through floods and plagues by a caring, loving God?

[@spencerconway5468]

RocKnight no ones talking about the Bible. There are plenty of atheist/agnostic who are pro life, stop acting like we are a bunch a snake handling freaks.

[@calebleung9]

I realised those who support abortion have already been born.

[@larav2534]

Cus some of us were actually wanted before birth

[@leahyeahnah6866]

I realised that those who want to emotionally torture a woman by forcing her to have a child she doesnt want and cant support are mostly old, white men that would never know the despair they are going through.

[@ethanharmer5151]

​@geezusispan lol. umm. okay. first off. "brain washed christians?" a lot, not all, but a lot of pro lifers are atheists. and have said so several times. just because your morals go against abortioms doesn't mean your religion in any way. it just means you know right from wrong. also the whole "old white male" thing has been debunked about a bazillion times. but if it is true. then that means that the woman who gave birth to me, raised me, and taught me pretty much everything I know in life, is secretly a sixty year old white dude. it might explain a lot. but nah dude. my mom is a woman. and yeah she's christian. doesn't mean she's brainwashed. it just means that she has a strong belief in a God that loves His children. And yes you can make the whole "Gods wrath argument" by quoting random out of context verses from the Old Testament. But something I personally believe is that our Father in Heaven does love every one of His children. I haven't been brainwashed. unless you're gonna tell me that my sweet mom brainwashed me. and trust me. she didnt. she is the least deceptive person I know. except maybe for her mother. who is even more black and white. but guys. you have to stop with the whole "only white male christians hate abortion". nah dude. there are plenty of women who will gladly tell you they consider abortion to be murder. until you can actually prove that abortion isn't murder. we aren't going away

[@ethanharmer5151]

@geezusispan lol I think its awesome, that you somehow managed to disrespect my religion, my mom, and most of my beliefs. and you still haven't put any convincing argument. so your argument that abortion isn't murder, is that the police won't arrest you for doing it. that just ebbs laziness. so maybe instead of being a cliche leftist and just trying to guilt me into thinking abrtion isn't wrong. maybe you could do some research and actually tell me scientifically and legally why it isn't murder.

[@ethanharmer5151]

@geezusispan kay I am about to vent so I am sorry you're right. absolutely right according to the laws of man. abortion is not murder. it is not. you're right. so what I am about to say is only my opinion. you can destroy it all you want. but a debate is literally a battle of opinions so I am gonna say it anyways. I have always hated murder. I mean I love game of thrones. and I cant deny that death can be horrifyingly entertaining to watch. but its nothing but evil. now I am not saying g death or even killing is evil. because it isn't. death is a natural part of life. and needs to happen. even some killings is justified if someone was intending to harm the ones I loved. I would not hesitate in doing anything I can to stop them. but murder is different. my personal opinion of murder is stealing. you are robbing someone of their chance of life. war is different. because that is between two sides who made the choice to die. but the person who was murdered did not make that choice. he was forced to die. maybe it was that victims time to die. but no one should have that power of life and death. I truly believe that everyone has potential to live a truly good life. and they all have those opportunities if they are able to find it. but murder is robbing them of that potential. sorry I don't mean t ramble. but in my eyes. abortion is the same thing. you may not believe that little fetus is a human yet. but it will be.no one can deny that little creature will be a human. and yes its probably not going to be this perfect human. thats not the argument. the fact is that it will have the chance to be amazing. just like we all do. who are we to steal that chance just because our life will be a little harder. we chose to have sex. we shouldn't rob someone else of there chic as well

[@hettyrees-haughton3971]

I think any women that chooses to have an abortion is extraordinarily brave. Its and extremely hard thing to go through and I think they are probably going through enough emotional pain already let alone being called murderers. Things happen to people. Sometimes they need to do whats best for them.

[@alexrothwell2053]

It's more brave to face up to the consequences of your own actions and continue with the pregnancy. Who is braver, a woman who gets an abortion secretly and continues her life or a woman who gives birth to the child and brings it up?

[@ashleycraig3995]

Ending the life of a completely innocent human is now considered brave? Wow where has society got to? Disappointing really

[@user-jr5mz7nc1n]

It isn't brace to kill a human being for your own conveiniece

[@theclairebaire]

My friend had a boyfriend who beat the holy hell out of her and he beat her when he found out she was pregnant. Her family wanted nothing to do with her so she had no help. It's very different when you have support and when you don't. Sometimes you just don't know. 🤦

[@MattFromSunderland]

There is nothing more HOLLOW and COWARDLY than murdering a defenceless life for your own convenience

[@serenaliom2845]

My 14 year old sister got raped and pregnant...she got an abortion today and honestly the comments upset me. If you haven't gone through it then you should really just shut tf up because it isn't easy #MybodyMychoice

[@dapperslapper1004]

That's sad. Still abortion is disgusting.

[@elmoscotch6621]

I am pro choice but I wouldn't ever get one myself, unless I really needed one. I think that it should be a womans choice of what she does with her body and her baby. There are a lot of reasons why she might need one. I don't care what anyone says its my opinion.

[@squidwardisathottiana9073]

Nice no one cares...

[@elmoscotch6621]

Did I ask you what you felt? No! So go somewhere else and comment cuz I don't give a shit about what you say!😂

[@xenniaperry1947]

Her body and another human life...another human that could grow up...be good...unlike the mother.

[@xenniaperry1947]

have you ever asked what the baby felt? cuz that would be good to think about.

[@elmoscotch6621]

@@xenniaperry1947 the baby doesn't think in that state, once it dies, it won't remember what happened... Also that baby can't make a decision. At that point it is I'm mother, it's the mothers problem, their for it is up to the mother to decide.

[@genericwoman3713]

Many are born into unstable environments; financially unstable, emotionally unstable, physically unstable. This inevitably ends in the child growing into an adult who will suffer ill mental health, addiction and often self harm or suicide. It takes a GREAT deal of love and strength, to choose not to bring a child into the World that you believe will not be provided for the way you know they need. It is an unselfish act, to choose to end a life that would only be half lived, or barely lived at all. For those who say 'adoption', you have no idea of the emotional and physical distress suffered by the mother. After all, given the shame felt by so many that have chosen abortion (which is NOT the result of the mother's own regret but rather the shame bestowed upon her by a compassionless and unrelenting society), can you imagine the shame of choosing adoption when all your friends, family and loved ones had watched your pregnancy progress and was visible for all to see? At least women have the option of concealing early pregnancy and abortion- and that- in itself and that ALONE is the issue here. She did not feel shame for her decision- but rather was questioning the role of shame in her life felt as a result of the expectations put upon her. We must change

[@gemmagriffiths5538]

Someone who really understands!. Keep preaching your wisdom please! It will save a lot of life long suffering 💜

[@marcusmcfc444]

So just because the child might have a bad life why can’t they decide that for them selves instead of letting the woman decide

[@genericwoman3713]

@@marcusmcfc444 because, scientifically, a cell formation can't make conscious decisions for itself. And morally, "the woman" you refer to, may be vulnerable, unstable, unloved, alone, frightened, fragile, unsupported and a great many other things. Bringing a new precious life into existence requires every ounce of energy, every second of time, every iota of love you can muster for the rest of your life. Now, personally, I would have the utmost respect for anyone choosing not to cause unnecessary suffering to themselves and another innocent, rather than going ahead with a pregnancy that will one day become a baby, a child, a teenager and an adult that can NOT be provided with what they need. This is coming from someone who should have been aborted. I was unwanted, unloved, blamed, neglected and ignored. And the suffering is immense. If I could have chosen not to have existed then I would have

[@jaga887]

1. You can't kill someone because tou think that they might have a bad life not only do you not know that but you can't kill anyone for any reason regardless 2. Idk about uk but like 95% of abortions in US ae for convenience, it is a selfish act Stop acting like you guys actually care about the baby and just admit that you think the women should get to murder her kid cause she feels like it

[@genericwoman3713]

@@jaga887 please see my above reply. I can only explain it to you, I can't understand it for you

[@taiapaul7372]

This voice sounds exactly like Carla Deleveigne...

[@coochie116]

i think its her tbh

[@joshotey2967]

This woman intentionally violates her unborn child, her own body, and her own conscious, then is upset about having to deal with the consequences. The mind boggles.

[@courtneycampbell419]

The Corruption how dare you! You’ll never understand unless you’re in the situation

[@joshotey2967]

@@courtneycampbell419 How dare me?! How dare YOU dare me. I haven't killed anyone! I understand situations can be difficult but she could have least done an adoption!

[@Nicole-nc1gh]

@@joshotey2967You're so ignorant

[@aspiknf]

@@courtneycampbell419 Both Courtney and Nicole are butthurt and ignorant :-)

[@aspiknf]

@@joshotey2967 You're right, I would've adopted in a hearbeat, easy peasy

[@krystalcarey]

A bean = a baby/child/human.

[@OodieSoodie]

Joe Redd “An unborn offspring of a mammal, in particular a unborn HUMAN baby...” That’s the literal definition of “fetus”. Want to try again?

[@meme3796]

@@OodieSoodie But isn't Joe Redd right? When the lady was talking about the "bean," the fetus/embryo was still inside her. It wasn't born yet, meaning the unborn human meaning is completely valid.

[@OodieSoodie]

Meme Smith That’s the literal definition of a fetus...a human baby... so technically he is correct in what an unborn baby is, but the argument does not fit the narrative as the fetus can become nothing else...but a human child.

[@benjaminlowery9782]

I love that she even admitted that it was kind of amazing that she had created a LIVING thing, growing day by day. So why should you feel shame? Because you just killed an innocent, third party from your sex life. Abortion is genocide.

[@rejcreem3890]

@@benjaminlowery9782 unless your going through the situation of an abortion then know one has the right to judge. Imagine being in a rape victims shoes.

[@Sarah-bz6nd]

no side in the abortion debate wants more abortions. Of course things like adoption are always better but sometimes situations don't allow that, women need to have a choice for their body. It's never an easy choice but sometimes it has to be taken.

[@shanenoel1270]

What kind of "situation" doesn't all for adoption?

[@Sarah-bz6nd]

+Shane Noel Situations where the mother or the baby's heath is put at serious risk and one or both may not survive.

[@shanenoel1270]

Andie Smith Ok so who gets to play God and decide whose life is more important? Working with Pediatricians every day I can say that none of them (some who've been practicing for 25-30 yrs.) have every come across a situation where abortion is necessary to save the life of the mother. Even women that had been raped still had the baby. If you want to be honest, being pregnant by its very nature, carries the risk of death for ALL women. In the US alone, the pregnancy-related mortality rate is approx. .0151%/per 100,000 deliveries). That something like 15 death vs 100,000 births. Yet, over 1.5 million babies are aborted every single year. That's whole countries worth of people. Let keep it 100...the majority of women get abortions because they don't want to be inconvenienced.....period.

[@Sarah-bz6nd]

+Shane Noel the doctors. In the UK abortions may only be carried out with two doctors consent and if it meets a long list of criteria, but mainly that abortion would cause less damage to a woman's physical or mental health than continuing with the pregnancy. What's more it can only happen before 24 weeks (except for some rare situations) and is usually before 12 weeks or 9 when possible. The feotus can only feel pain from around 19 weeks. And no one is forcing the abortion, It is the women's own choice if they want to continue or not for whatever reasons.

[@danieltysyachuk9290]

@@Sarah-bz6nd nope birth mortality rate is 0.0151%, abortion had a mortality rate of 100%

[@johnmanole4779]

R.I.P to all fetus, babies and children that were killed by their own parents.

[@alexwithadashofsalt]

Rest in piss

[@jerryhwan7661]

Indeed

[@stevenjames3631]

“Why should we feel shame?”... because you just KILLED a child. let that sink in.

[@puest-uo4lr]

Nah bro cracking an egg and beheading a live chicken ain’t the same

[@graciebm1]

Wow her due date was my baby boy's due date...I'm so happy I made the decision to keep him. Honestly, i went through a time of thinking about abortion. I didn't have a income or my own place. I was worried i couldn't provide for him. Now. Looking back. I could never imagine not ever meeting him or seeing his face every morning. I dont judge when it comes to abortion because personally I believe it's the "support system" that women have nowadays that draw them to making that decision. No mother wants to have an abortion but nowadays with the judgement from teen pregnancy and people shooting mothers down to be able to take care of their child is the real problem. Could you imagine how many happy mothers and children there would be if people actually helped and supported the mother bettering themselves? Come on y'all. Children and mother's should never have to make the decision of abortion. Everyone knows it takes a huge part of you that neither the child or mother will ever have or get back.

[@sevej.1318]

graciebm1 god bless you

[@imnogood5016]

graciebm1 amen

[@carmineromano7232]

graciebm1 but the difference between u and her is that u are more of a women then she could ever hope to be. U took the responsibility of being pregnant and had the child. But not only that but u loved ur baby. U loves it so much u didn’t kill it . U gave it a life . To read ur story is more heart warming then this monster who killed her 3 month old baby. I respect any women that has a child especially with a story such as urs god bless u

[@NC-ns5se]

I’m so glad you had a happy ending and got to keep your child, you’re so right I’m sure so many women would have not had that abortion if they had a better support system. If only all the people here saying vile things about women who have aborted would but that energy to good use like donating things to crisis pregnancy centers and helping mothers who are struggling or even adopting unwanted children (since they always talk about adoption). Anyways, glad you are able to emphasize with others instead of view yourself as superior. I’m sure you’re an awesome mom! ❤️

[@leafire3]

Thank you for saying this. I do think it should still be up to the mother's choice, medical condition, and beliefs, but I appreciate how respectful and circumspect your comment was instead of being completely one-sided.

[@BigBrotherGnE]

Bottom line: It's strictly the woman's personal choice and rightfully so. This is especially true when you have governments cutting funds for programs for those who cannot afford a living, thus making the child they claim to care about, all the more part of the system that could lead to a downward spiral. And, ironically, those same people who claim to care about "the life", are the same ones who would demonize the less fortunate and shit on them. Call me a cynic, if you like, but they (the pro-birth advocates) are the most selfish beings I've ever came across.

[@randaratliff4327]

BigBrotherWii - Thank You , Same Sentiments Exactly.

[@BigBrotherGnE]

CHIBI Zartist - Wow. You're definitely "mature" with your counterargument. Just spewing bile because you have nothing to contribute. Look, it's cute that "core moral principles" is a phrase you can use, but if you wish to engage in conversation, at least come up with something remotely articulate. I guess with the name Chibi in front of your name, I would not expect a weeaboo to actually embrace, let alone exercise a shred of humanity outside of the virtual world.

[@BigBrotherGnE]

CHIBI Zartist - Of course, weeaboo. Now, don't you have some poorly-written lyrics you need to make? I'm sure you would do better articulating yourself.

[@BigBrotherGnE]

What you're establishing are false equivalencies, as you failed to address the remaining post regarding protecting those whom you claim to care about via government programs for the parents, which is the point that tends to be reinforced by people like yourself. The autonomy of a woman is often dismissed by a more male-dominated society, which contradicts the concern and care that people claim to hold. I'm not sure if you actually ever experienced pregnancy, nor actually read into how pregnancy works (and not from those life centers, as they provide misinformation), but a fetus is part of the body, as long as it is connected to an umbilical cord, feeding off of you, which is more of a parasite than anything. Spare me the long, drawn out nonsense and crocodile tears. Your "concerns" are misguided.

[@MattFromSunderland]

Bottom line: ABORTION IS MURDER Those who advocate for abortion deserve to be incarcerated in an institution for the severely mentally disabled (I’d argue that a desire to murder an innocent, defenceless life over convenience IS a form of mental insanity) Those who carry out abortions, and those who undergo this VILE procedure with full knowledge of what they are doing, deserve AT LEAST a lengthy prison sentence

[@Dakola]

A. Every woman should have rights to make a decision for herself, such decision should be trusted and respected. No one can make a decision for her as this is her body and health. Neither of us has rights to judge, neither of us is God and in no position to play such a role. B. There's a difference between science and belief. It is just pathetic to see so many people saying things without a fundamental knowledge of science. C. Any woman who has gone through an abortion is never an easy decision and journey. If you can't understand or support, at least show some respect rather than sitting behind your computer to type cold words to judge and hurt, this is no less than a cold blood murder.

[@eowyn5250]

Women are making decisions like this about someone else. It's not her body she's going to have destroyed. The very fact women can decide to kill the foetus up until the day it's born is disgusting. If you are not in the position to take care of another person don't have sex. If you don't want children take as many precautions as possible so that you don't have to make decisions like this. Remember it's not your body you are thinking about killing or having removed something like a tumor. It's not, it is something to be valued. To prevent unnecessary abortions maybe they should show this kind of thing in sex education. IT MIGHT WORK!!! People need to see what is actually involved!!!

[@deandreayton9754]

Stop calling women who had abortions mothers smh

[@samuelbcn]

What do you call a pregnant woman other than a mother?

[@mrsgolden6526]

@@samuelbcn a pregnant woman Not a mother, a mother doesn't get her children killed

[@daenerysstyles7131]

A woman carries the child in her womb through enormous pain for 9months.. I don't think MEN should have any say in it.. it's ONLY and ONLY the woman's decision.

[@mrsgolden6526]

@@daenerysstyles7131 enormous pain for 9 months? That's gotta be a joke the first trimester many don't even notice they're pregnant besides missing their period But if men don't have a say then men who support it don't have a say as well and shouldn't talk about it at all, no matter what their stance is You can't say, you're not allowed to voice your perspective Unless you agree with me then you can

[@dellyanneee]

@@mrsgolden6526 men don’t have a say period . Stop tryna argue that , who tf are you to tell a woman what to do with her body , a body you don’t understand

[@flamingoxe5984]

Pure Propaganda

[@GraceYocum]

At the end she said, until it’s of a baby I’m ready to have, so that means she admits he’s actually a baby, but only when she wants him.

[@perfectfae3534]

Yup.

[@s.h.9095]

Grace Yocum That's bullshit and not your decision 😋

[@eowyn5250]

@@s.h.9095 Women need to face up to what it is, which is murder. Women are a host, it's not your body it's someone else's life. If you can't handle being called a murderer then be sensible. A woman's right does not override that of another. Abortion is murder

[@thanoswife1254]

@@eowyn5250 ok, if i'm a host, pay me for my work, "host" as in a surrogate for someone else's kid, surrogates get paid, so i'm waiting, in all serious, why shouldn't unwilling pregnant people get paid, people talk all about how the fetus could get adopted so would i technically be a surrogate for future parents if i had an unwanted pregnancy?

[@nitagirl614]

People act like it's hard not to get pregnant. Like it's unavoidable and you magically get pregnant without your choosing. Come on people, you can prevent pregnancy but choose not to because it feels good and you don't think of the consequences.

[@justmyopinion9155]

This story didn't go into whether she and her partner had taken excessive precautions to avoid this unwanted "bean". Do mentally competent adults seriously not know that contraception can fail? Would you rather have an abortion than bother to take proper measures to avoid being "beaned" in the first place? If an unwanted pregnancy is a horrifying prospect shouldn't you be terrified of getting pregnant to begin with? And as for the "shame", people don't just feel shame because that shame is imposed upon them by others but because they have actually done something they consider to be wrong. Please don't come back at me with "do you really expect people to use two forms of contraception?" Yes! If they're not willing to take responsibility for the life they might create.

[@economadic2103]

My last partner wanted to stop using a condom when I went on the pill because he thought two forms of contraception was unnecessary. Meanwhile he told me very adamantly he did not want children but still made me feel low key guilty for me asking him to still wear condoms. Men are able to walk away from unwanted pregnancies. Women cannot.

[@cursed.jellyfish4693]

I know someone born to a woman who was sterilized. You can use as many birth control methods as you want, and still fall pregnant. They will continue to have abortions whether it’s legal or not. 1 in 4 women gets an abortion. It’s very common and nothing to be ashamed of.

[@bigdanslivestreams4060]

​@cursed.jellyfish Yeah, and if she couldn't or didn't want to take care of it she should've put it up for adoption.

[@casualhivewing]

I'm a teen, I was assaulted and I got one, and it's hard to talk with my partner about it. I had got assaulted while dating my gf, we're still together but it hurts that she calls it murder, it's been months now. But it hurts to know my family and my partner wont look at me the same.

[@ashleyarellanoo]

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. May God bless you and although this comment was 2 months ago, I hope you find healing.

[@casualhivewing]

@@ashleyarellanoo thank you for your concern, I am much better now. I left my partner after she said I should get purposely pregnant to "make amends" about "killing" aka getting an abortion.

[@Random_JapGuy]

Spawn kill

[@casualhivewing]

@@Random_JapGuy rude

[@himanshu89721]

Well technically it is murder , you ended a life , but your reasons were valid

[@pipperoni3636]

Why should we feel shame? Because feeling shame is a measured response after murdering someone.

[@josephg12345]

“I wasn’t ready to give my baby the life I wanted too.” So I killed it.

[@bradandheathercrawford3891]

I hate how she refers her baby as a bean..... That's all I have to say about this video.

[@aspiknf]

@@bradandheathercrawford3891 She's a stupid bean, the foetus was way better than her. R.I.P Foetus

[@amunetamunra5137]

so what? not your life

[@chillycoco]

But there are so many children that are orphans and have terrible lives in foster care. We are over flowing with kids without homes.

[@ge7749]

@@chillycocoi think we are not over flowing with kids without home, but generation where nobody wants to take responsibility for their actions..

[@ptreee]

I’ve been needing to find a video like this... I bawldd the entire time. I get really alone with this.. thanks for making this for us! Sharing all of the love 💗

[@ptreee]

Hisashi welp. Looking at your fitness angel playlist on your profile and seeing your potentially hurtful words... makes sense. So right back at ya 🥱🙄😬

[@ptreee]

Justin Dahl thank you but you don’t speak for me. Again.. I know you mean well but I’m not asking for forgiveness nor your/any help. I’m content with who I am and the WOMEN I stand with.

[@doublebgabby]

I support you @Petra Ganzer 💖

[@michellewu3132]

@@誠-f9c Even if she is a 'selfish killer' it's none of your business, is it?

[@誠-f9c]

In the same way that robberies and drug trafficking is not my business.

[@goidis9355]

Bacteria counts as life on Mars, yet a baby doesn’t count as life on earth? Come on

[@christianordonez5704]

NASA is even looking for any sign of life so even dead bacteria would still count because it WAS alive

[@Cocoon2000]

I remember finding out I was pregnant about 2 and a half months ago. I cried because I thought I wasn’t ready etc and all that but it’s all just fear. No one is ever ready for life. But I was ready enough to be enjoying sex. So I’ve kept it... and pregnancy so far has been hard sickness etc.. but tbh it’s also been such a blessing, I’ve finally decided to get on track with my uni life, I no longer smoke or drink, my family don’t talk to me but that’s their business, the midwives have given me various helplines etc... social services are looking into housing arrangements, and my partner who wanted me to abort is now happy I chose not to ... I think people need to stop justifying killing an innocent life with a heartbeat at 5/6 weeks because ‘they aren’t ready’ there are so many services and support available in this day and age... we need to start taking more responsibility as females that decide to partake in grown sexual activities... of course rape etc are different cases but there’s so much you can do... stop killing innocent lives and justifying it man it’s not right 💭

[@victoriaschultz9432]

Men need to be taking more responsibility as well. They're the ones who can knock up multiple women a year.

[@thanoswife1254]

things happen out of their control

[@thanoswife1254]

@@victoriaschultz9432 true but at the same time, they shouldn't be forced if they never wanted a kid.

[@daniby9894]

Oh, boy, I can immagine how this continues! She finaly gets a child she wants, sees a sonogram of her kid at 3 months and notices that that bean of hers actually has a spine, a heartbeat, head, arms and legs in formation and rather than a bean looks more like a human baby in formation... then guilt and shame reach levels, you couldn't even immagine possible, maybe even all the way to full depression!

[@gohan3448]

Disgusting. STOP HAVING SEX IF YOU DONT WANT TO GET PREGNANT

[@lorenacordero9531]

Thank you for this. I can relate to almost everything that you said and illustrated. It’s hard for us. That’s all.

[@angelicagonzalez4601]

I can relate also.

[@Leviachannn]

Darth Ur it’s too bad that you can’t understand that foetuses can’t feel anything.

[@iguesslol6637]

@BladerNation They feel guilty before people give them shit! People like you are awful because you're making them feel horrible. You dont need to use harsh words at someone!

[@LuffyuzumakiPotter]

@@iguesslol6637 so when in a judgment you can call a criminal murderer because it might hurt him her the reality of what was done?

[@anythingchannel9326]

Reagan Rowton men need to stop going around being careless and getting women pregnant. Then women wouldn’t feel the need to get an abortion.

[@donnabarnes540]

I'm sick of these sorry "justification" stories. It's murder . 3 months and you killed your own child . My bean !!!! You mean a fully formed baby !!! Feel shame because it is shameful. Feb 23rd is our sons birthday. He's 29 now born at 36 weeks . I was pregnant at 19 .

[@beckysouth5605]

A . The fetus is not fully formed b. Just because you were in situation you can look after a child and give it things it needs doesn’t mean very woman can there is many woman who get abortions because there baby would have a horrible life as they don’t have the facility’s to supply for it , the mother does what is best for them and the fetus

[@ianalan4367]

@@beckysouth5605 Adoption is an option for those who cannot care for a child. Not an ideal option but better than killing your own child. It is true that a fetus is not ‘fully developed’ but neither is a new born. We don’t give parents the right to kill their new born so what is the moral justification for killing an unborn child?

[@waifu_png_pl6854]

@@ianalan4367 yes because pregnancy has 0 consequences. its not like even women with wanted pregnancies struggle with problems with spine, peeing, sex drive and that the brain physically changes during pregnancy. and its about having rights to our own bodies. tell me, what would you do if you found a tape worm in your body? would you remove it or would you become a host for it and just wait for long term consequences? a tape worm is still a life, remember that

[@ianalan4367]

@@waifu_png_pl6854 Thank you for your reply. A tape worm is not a living human being though. It is not my own offspring that I myself put there. Nor is a pregnant woman a host or her unborn child a parasite. Abortion is not really about a woman’s right to bodily autonomy for she already has that right. We all do, well, except for the unborn. The question being; is a woman’s right to bodily autonomy a just cause to kill her own unborn child?

[@magalicuevas1370]

a bean??? really??? do you still think a baby is still a bean after one or two months later??? they actually look like very little babies....

[@teaguru3604]

magali cuevas tumat stop.

[@meme3796]

She's comparing the size of the baby to an item many people know. If you watch some pregnency time lapse videos, they have people holding up fruit/vegetables to show viewers what the baby's approximate size. Just like how some people compare breast size to fruit

[@dainerduff-dings]

guru she's not wrong though look at what the "bean" looks like, its surprisingly very human

[@justaboyontheinternet2636]

But they are not a living creature, it could be worse for the baby if it was born, she clearly could take care of it if she gave birth! Moron

[@aspiknf]

The foetus was beautiful. Unfortunately the woman that aborted the foetus is a stupid bean

[@rechtenstudentje782]

Being months pregnant and calling the foetus a 'bean'. After 6 weeks you can already see it's a very tiny baby with arms legs etc and after 3 months it is already quite big.

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Yeah it is.

[@elliab8511]

I don't choose neither side because both are right and wrong but I think what is right is that school needs to have sex ed classes and not only that but the consequences following it

[@yeshuaischrist9951]

FOLLOW GOD.

[@berniestephens4506]

100% there are massive pros AND cons to abortion. Both emotionally and physically.

[@darcymr353]

While I absoutely agree that proper education is essential, a baby is not a consequence. We shouldn't punish women for falling pregnant, by mistake, by forcing them to carry the pregnancy to full term and give birth. Doing so would be an utterly appalling thing to do.

[@toriwade8073]

First, people who think men have no right to be involved in the abortion issue should be careful what they ask for. Polls consistently find that women oppose abortion at a higher rate than men, they are more opposed to government funding of abortion, more active in the pro-life movement, and are more likely to favor banning abortion outright. It is abundantly clear that if men were excluded, support for abortion would plummet.

[@elmoscotch6621]

It pisses me off when pro lifer's say pro abortion, rather then pro choice. If we were pro abortion, we would be telling women to get an abortion, rather then having a baby, and we are *not* saying that. By saying pro choice or is saying that a woman should have the right to choose, which it totally different then pro abortion.

[@elmoscotch6621]

@Joe Redd fuck off

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

life isn't a choice Joe redd is correct. you don't get to choose whether the baby lives or dies because you might feel uncomfortable.

[@elmoscotch6621]

@@christiantheologyunited3707 ok, a thirteen years old girl is raped, if she gives the baby up for adoption, that's gonna mean she has to go a whole pregnancy as a 7th grader, all for a child that she didn't want. She would be just a child herself. Do you know how embarrassing that would be? And painful to carrie! She would be so small, and their would be so many complications during the pregnancy, the baby would die anyways.

[@elmoscotch6621]

@@christiantheologyunited3707 Or a mother that wanted to get pregnant, but she finds out if she carries the baby, she, and her baby will die. If you keep the baby, and the baby does live, but the mom dies, the baby is stuck without a mom. But chances are, the baby would die and so would the mom, so wouldn't it be best to abort the baby, instead of killing both mother and baby?

[@elmoscotch6621]

@@christiantheologyunited3707 see, I only believe that abortion is ok if the mother is under certain age, or is unable keep the baby for medical reasons. But even if they don't fall under those categories, I still don't judge them. That's not for me to judge...

[@catherinedearg6444]

I think one thing that we should all take away from these types of videos is that you should mind your own buisness. Maybe that person has different beliefs. If you think they're going to hell, fine. That's your opinion, not theirs. I wish everyone would just realize that someone else doing something you think is screwed up is fine, in the case that it does not effect mass amounts of people. If it does not ruin lives, it's fine. I'd like to point out that all of this bickering in the comments does nothing. This woman's choice did not directly effect you, so in reality, none of us should care. Everyone just needs to take a deep breath and go, "Fine, that's their life, not mine. If they screwed up, they screwed up," and just shrug it off.

[@nariahbrown8742]

Yeah but that individual baby was it's own being and could have had an amazing life. Yes at the end of the abortion is abortion, but people are so pissed is because that was not 'her' life to take away. It had rights to live but yes a life was taken because people couldn't keep it in their pants

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

neither does your neighbor abusing their dog brutally. but you'd still stop them wouldn't you?

[@elmoscotch6621]

@@christiantheologyunited3707 just get off this video, your opinion doesn't matter to these people, it's not your life, it theirs.

[@xenniaperry1947]

oh1 it doesn't ruin lives?! It ENDS THEM!

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

@@elmoscotch6621 I’m going to have to disagree with certain parts of your argument I agree that abortion should be the mother’s choice when it’s a danger to her own life, however this is the only excuse and if it’s consensual then that abortion should be the mother’s only abortion. The first part I disagree with is “it’s okay if they’re under a certain age”. If they’re having sex when they can’t financially support a child it is ultimately their responsibility if the woman ends up pregnant. You should only have sex when you fully understand what might be the outcome of it and when your sure your able to care for a child (even if you not having sex to procreate). Financial aid can be received in numerous ways. There are plenty of people who would donate money for you to take care of the child and in some area it is unlawful for the father (or male reproductive counterpart, whichever you prefer) to not support the baby financially. Moreover, you can give them up for adoption, adoption agencies tend to be well kept and treat the children with care. The second one is that “it’s not up to you to judge them”. It is completely my right to judge and comment on what they are doing to literally the most innocent among us. It’s the exact same as saying I shouldn’t judge my neighbor for killing or abusing their dog in their backyard because it’s not my dog and not my backyard. Its simple what I’m doing, I’m telling them it’s a horrible choice when there’s numerous alternatives. I’m tired of people treating the horrific murder of children like it’s a civil right. You do not have the right to kill the human life inside of your body. You are not allowed to choose which human life lives and which gets murdered. I’m tired of the euphemisms, it is murder. The fact that anyone would support a cause that fully involves the yanking of a baby out of the womb crushing it’s skull, and chopping it into pieces because “It might be a burden on me” is despicable. So yes it is entirely my place to judge these murderers. But if you truly desire to continue supporting murderous acts, then go ahead it’s a free country.

[@ruthmaryrose]

Ok, there are women who don’t want a baby, but why does the baby have to die?

[@thesevenkingswelove9554]

And why does the women have to die giving birth to the baby she doesn't want? Why would you go through such a hassle to give birth to a child you didn't want. A fetus isn't even fully developed yet so..

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

@@thesevenkingswelove9554 okay so the only situation it's okay is when the mother's life is in danger. now on your second argument what makes the fetus not have intrinsic value? what decides whether the baby is okay to be killed or not?

[@unknownshorty8699]

Your brain is small

[@antooia5018]

Why does the woman have to deal with the physical and mental pain of bearing a kid inside her that she never wanted?

[@pavlekovacevic5787]

@@antooia5018 why did she had sex in first place

[@alicebeck2731]

EMILY 13 March - 3 May 1997 I gave you birth - a cosmic light Extinguished by my hand in blight As you faded I felt the pain Of motherhood and what I’d slain In my darkness I could not see That you in my life was there for me So many problems did me plight In faith there had been none to sight A fear of fear came over me A fear of nothing it turned to be In my prayers I could not free The ignorance that surrounded me I needed help no help was sought A secret silence by those who ought With truth and facts nowhere nigh Informed decision would pass me by Every hour of every day I felt you not so far away Every heartbeat in my soul Every day that unfolds I hurt some more and never less The reaper’s blade is in my chest In your death I did die I live a life that walks me by I wear a face for all to see Inside no one sees the pain of me A little star in my sky 90,000 a year pass us by Although too many though we be Won’t you care and love for we

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

what a beautiful poem.

[@gaylordcomic]

Rick and morty yaaaa! Picklr ich!

[@DestinyDiamond]

This made me cry

[@tara34952]

Heartbreaking

[@leahmcp2051]

spot on. if you have not had an abortion or a partner who's endured one please do not feel like you have a right to open your naive mouth an spit out poisonous words. your words hurt and this is the truth. every word hits hard when you experience abortion in a way like this. although every experience is different. some grieve their sins while others see it as a way out. until you have a partner who endures the pain of an abortion and you grieve with them, you do not know what it is like so please do not speak of it like you do. abortion is a dirty word but young people need to be educated and a video like this is the way to do so.

[@purpleguy325]

If you dont want to have baby then dont have sex okay

[@generalj216]

I don’t play basketball. Does that mean I can’t talk about it?

[@vivianrodriguez3852]

Abortion is wrong stop trying to normalize it it's inhumane !

[@flyingsponge]

Stop murdering babies. Making foolish excuses. If your not ready for a baby don’t have sex or use protection. Accidents can happen and people need to take on the consequences for their action.

[@thanoswife1254]

@@vivianrodriguez3852 it's already normalized, people are just throwing tantrums nowadays cause they don't like it, even though it doesn't affect them unless they get one or it's their DNA in there.

[@tara34952]

It wasn't a 'bean', it was a baby. We should not use language that minimises what is a precious human life. Not a thing, or a 'clump of cells' or even a 'potential baby'. You killed your baby.

[@DAZ100]

Shut it!

[@lizziegregory6537]

Should be ashamed because it’s a life.

[@HoneyDubey23]

It wasnt a “bean”, it was a Human Life that you chose to kill!!! Stop it with playing victim. The real victim was the unborn baby that you gave no chance to live.

[@sunnight1005]

Honey Dubey a lot of people wish they were aborted because their parents couldn’t provide for them and they suffered their whole life you can’t just think that a life born is a life saved it goes beyond the womb to the financial and mental state of the child

[@thatssorandom969]

I think they both were victims. The baby because an innocent life was bieng taken, and her because she felt as if it was her only option. My heart goes out to the woman we feel they have to make this discision. I want them to know they are loved and they are strong. You dont have to feel closed in a wall. Be strong, you dont have to go through with an abortion because you feel closed in. Their people out their who would love to have your child.

[@AWlpsSHOW36]

Triggered, huh?

[@HoneyDubey23]

AWlpsSHOW36 Not triggered at all. I used to be pro choice because of womens rights but when I researched instead of blindly following others, I came to the conclusion that all life has a right to survive & thrive. No one has the right to take another’s life, plain & simple. (side note: Been vegan for 3 years now...I respect all life 100%)

[@HoneyDubey23]

SunNight I understand but we dont have the right to take a life, no matter how big or how small. ❤️🙏🏼

[@taylorBhall1997]

Couldn’t give my baby a life , how about adoption

[@Jrr592]

If you give a baby away your still a mother or parent and not everyone wants that

[@curtis701]

Adoption>abortion

[@cecegundrum7577]

@@Jrr592 You're not if you're not the one taking care of your baby. Doesn't give u the right to kill it

[@Brandybutz81]

Starfishturtle lmfao so a label is that serious? To where you cant put the baby up for adoption because you have the label of being a mother?

[@taylorBhall1997]

I have a six month old , I got pregnant at 21 years old and I had the choice of abortion . I pray to god everyday for giving me the strength to keep him. He is the best thing that ever happened to me and I love him more then life and could not imagine my life w out him

[@n4ri4h]

She did the best choice she can make and she should be proud of her decision.No one is the same so I’m happy she didn’t make the wrong choice for her.If I wasn’t ready I would abort as well.Sometimes you have to think about what would happen if you kept the baby

[@felipez7113]

What about thinking BEFORE you f... and make a baby?

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

what would happen? please do tell.

[@n4ri4h]

What if your raped not saying she was I have a friend who was raped and had a abortion.And everyone hated her because she killed the baby.But she wasn’t ready for that commitment.She could barely wake up in the morning what makes you think she can care for a baby.Then she was bullied for being pregnant so tell what would you do if you were in her shoes and couldn’t take it anymore because of a rapust

[@n4ri4h]

Christian Theology United maybe she didn’t want to give it up for adoption or became a mom who put her kids in a oven.What if she died and her baby had no mom

[@n4ri4h]

Christian Theology United something bad that’s why she gave it up

[@little_tantrum2742]

Abortion is a double head sword. I started having sex at 16. I'm a female. thank god my parents were kind enough just to prepare me. They didn't say no you cant have sex, they just know kids with raging hormones will be careless so they educated me along with school of course. I carried condoms too and always asked to check it during sex. Like no one even taught me that, that's just how cautious i was and am as a person. It only takes a couple of seconds like cmon people. And if a accident were to happen you bet your ass I'd buy a plan b pill that day. No later than that I'm 23 now and with these extra precaution steps I don't see myself getting an abortion ever.

[@penniehutson8933]

When they talk about sex ed in school they should show this. A embrio is what we all started a

[@justshaneila158]

true

[@nooneanonymous3340]

So?

[@88feji]

+Pennie Hutson ehh ... its a pro-choice video , not a pro-life one ....finish watching the video before posting comments dear ... LOL

[@thanoswife1254]

and?

[@BasileaNate]

Killing ones child should be shame inducing... it’s a healthy emotion...if you didn’t feel shame, it would mean you were a sociopath.

[@dean5445]

I know right!?

[@xenniaperry1947]

From the very beginning it isn't just a lump of tissue, IT"S A HUMAN LIFE!

[@xenniaperry1947]

@@mymy.arts. If it can't feel anything, how can it break it's mom's water? It can feel things because there is a specific time EARLY in the pregnancy that nerves begin to work. It's not a lump of tissue and it is alive. It has a heartbeat and like you said it "could turn into a human life" even though it already IS a human life.

[@elmoscotch6621]

@@xenniaperry1947 just because the baby breaks the water doesn't mean they feel what they are doing...

[@bezzo8848]

Socks I don’t care because plants aren’t humans.

[@himynameisjohnwumsh7631]

xennia perry : keep up the good fight, xennia!!

[@thanoswife1254]

so if i threw a live fetus or embryo at you, you would cradle and coo at it, correct?

[@johnmanole4779]

"Why should we still feel SHAME?" Hmm, maybe because you have killed an INNOCENT LIVING BEING! That's why!

[@jimjum1547]

Yup

[@qwqqis]

cringe alert

[@infiniteunconditionallove1620]

Remember .. you can adopt a child and give him/ her a better life and this can be the best thing you ever done 💜💙🖤 wish for you all the greatest best luck :)

[@Nicole-nc1gh]

@Caffeinated Critic Lol

[@downrightdutch4375]

Love yourself FACKTCHECK: Shocking abortion news! The fetal remains of 2,246 children had just been found at the home of Ulrich “George” German ungodly (national)socialist Schweinhundblizkriegmengeleführer ‘docter’ Klopfer. These 2,246 medically preserved fetal remains (Sept2019) tell a story of a troubled man and shine a light on the need for effective abortion oversight laws. What kind of man ignores disposal requirements and pockets the babies he aborts as trophies? FACTCHECK: German ungodly (national)socialist Josef Schweinhund Auschwitz Mengele performed deadly human experiments on prisoners (1939-1944) and was a member of the team of doctors who selected victims to make lamps of their skinzzzz.

[@mia_hala9630]

Yeah but who would wanna go through all that hard work and pain and then just give the child away.

[@netxnic]

or you can get an a abortion if that's what you feel is the best choice 🤷‍♀️

[@netxnic]

@@ruaraidh74 good thing no "innocent human beings" are "killed" in an abortion 😘

[@hanchiobendito5878]

I wasn’t sad after my abortion. I was happy I could still live my life. I travel and see the world, that “bean” would of prevented it. We shouldn’t have to be quiet about abortion.

[@FanyFire96]

Welp.. at least you're admitting that you're evil and not acting like you're a victim 🙄

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

how would this "bean" prevent you from going about the world? or still living your life?

[@xenniaperry1947]

You're right. You shouldn't have to be quiet. You should speak up and tell the world what a selfish,murderous, mother you are.

[@xenniaperry1947]

@@mymy.arts. She's so brave for killing her baby. "Come on, everybody! Let's all be brave and kill babies!" She wasn't ready for the responsibility of a child so let's kill it. That's a fantastic idea! So pretty much, "Let's all be brave and run away from responsibility!" If she wasn't ready, she shouldn't have been in that kind of a relationship.

[@xenniaperry1947]

@@hanchiobendito5878 You're right it happens every day and it's still wrong... too bad we have people like you in our world. It's really sad that turds like you still happen...

[@CollapsedLung]

These people say that these few cells aren’t a life.. yet if scientists were to find a single cell organism on Mars all the headlines would be “LIFE on Mars.” As for shame, you would only feel shame if you did regret the decision atleast a little bit.

[@Terence135]

CollapsedLung fortnite kids

[@christianordonez5704]

You stole that from goi dis

[@FrangoTraidor]

croyez moi toutes celles qui ont avorté elles souffrent en silence. elles essaient de montrer l'indifférence, la joie de vivre, elles se déguisent pour pouvoir vivre de façon normale mais en vérité ça les poursuit et elles y pensent tous les jours

[@coniferous6330]

“The bean” It was a human being...

[@geejae4243]

Thank you.

[@angiepage5418]

Shut the fuck up

[@coniferous6330]

Angie Page who pissed in your corn flakes?

[@ivank7492]

@@angiepage5418 What determines when it's human? Heartbeat? What about the people living with an artificial heart and a pacemaker? Brain function? Fetuses have a slightly different brain function because they dont use all of their senses yet and dont move much. Its like a sleeping person. And newborns have lesser brain function than us as well. Having a brain? Brain begins to develop at mere 16 days after conception (1st paragraph in the text titled First trimester: www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/fetal-development/fetal-brain-nervous-system/ ). Brain is actually fully developed in 20 or 30 years after birth ( mentalhealthdaily.com/2015/02/18/at-what-age-is-the-brain-fully-developed/ ). If you don't agree, I think that it should be considered at least parcially developed when baby moves its limbs at the age of 8 weeks ( 3rd paragraph in the text titled First trimester: www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/fetal-development/fetal-brain-nervous-system/ ). If you say that before 6 weeks it's not human because it has not fully developed arms is a bad argument because there are people without arms. Without legs, even without hearths who live with a artificial hearths. Human is a living integrated cluster of cells filled with human DNA. Nothing more. And every of those clusters of cells is worth equal protection. Does every human have to have fully developed organs and body parts as adults do? Shouldn't we then kill children because they have no permanent teeth? Thus, they are not fully human? Just as the universe began with the Big bang that arose from almost nothing, human life arises from almost nothing - only one egg and one sperm. Every single one species on this planet came into being as a single cell who in most cases didn't resemble the final mature individual. It lasts from days to months and years to grow up and fully develop. Humans need approxinately 20 years to fully mature. They go through various development stages as fertilisation, embryonic development, fetal development, neonatal phase, infancy, toddler phase, early childhood, preadolescence and puberty until they finally reach adulthood. I'm not making this up. Development of the human organism both prenatal and postatal is on Wikipedia ( en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Development_of_the_human_body ). You can clearly see that every scientific article regards embryos and fetuses as humans who just aren't fully mature yet - just like children.

[@angiepage5418]

Ivana Kasardová what did you just type me this paragraph for

[@wearecitizenstoo668]

Shame is natural when you have harmed an innocent person It is a blessing to get your attention, so you can address & change

[@beckysouth5605]

There is no reason to shame , people don’t know what is going on in the woman’s life and can’t shame someone for doing something that they think would be best for the fetus and the mother (yes sometimes the mother has to think about themselves)

[@dapperslapper1004]

@@beckysouth5605 be quiet. Supporter of murder of babies.

[@valeriejames8356]

Thank you for this comment, so true!

[@xx_sophigiovanna_xx6474]

@@dapperslapper1004 You got no room to talk with that pfp, because the same people who flew that flag enslaved and killed innocent black people

[@thanoswife1254]

shame shouldn't be normal, regret and sadness, sure, but shame only happens because of horrid people who scream at people who already made a tough deciisiont hat they're murderers and monsters, everyone reacts differently towards their abortion.

[@catherinesusann5182]

Perhaps the shame doesn't come from outside entities but from within your soul.

[@audreyhartman]

I'm not pro choice or pro life I'm a depends on the circumstance person

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

so your pro choice

[@audreyhartman]

@@christiantheologyunited3707 not fully, I'm not fully pro life either

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

@@audreyhartman if you think the woman should have a choice your pro choice, not all pro choicers like abortion. also when should a baby be killed?

[@audreyhartman]

@@christiantheologyunited3707 only in certain specific situations like abusive relationships, rape, extreme poverty, danger to the mothers life, or other things like this. I'm a Christian as well and wouldn't feel right about having an abortion (unless it was for one of those reasons i said) and i think of it as very wrong to get an abortion for no reason

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

@@audreyhartman well for rape abortion's still wrong, and poverty abortions still wrong, abusive parents still wrong the only time is when its a danger to the mother's life

[@campfireaddict6417]

Miranda Elaine Your statistics may be right, I don't know your source, but that doesn't help the throwaway babies, toddlers, pre-teens, and teens in foul situations or in the foster care system. You mention 36 couples waiting for that perfect baby, but what about the one born to the hard-drug- addicted mother? That baby might not be so cute or healthy. In reality, this baby is a throwaway, and overlooked, like most. What about that baby with horrific medical issues? The one that's not so cute but it has needs and feelings and an emerging personality and potential. Babies with deformities, problems, addictions. Most abortions happen long before any of that occurs; the blastocyst or fetus is spared the fate of the foster care system or an abusive environment if it isn't good enough to be adopted as a cute, adorable infant. They are in demand. What about the left-overs?

[@karenflores4987]

So in a nutshell: all woman who want to have an abortion should have it and not put it up for adoption because some of those kids might be "defective" and it's too much burden to society because sick, deformed, disabled kids cost too much money and it's an inconvinience. So is better to kill them all rather give them an opportunity because life sucks and they WILL suffer.

[@xenniaperry1947]

It doesn't matter if they're cute or healthy. They still deserve a chance at life.

[@Leviachannn]

xennia perry a chance at life? What the OP said describes a pretty bad life. Let’s give a child a disability and mental health issues, sadness, hurray! They would probably wind up killing them selves because of the shitty life they lead. Then we have a dead human AND a woman with a wrecked body.

[@MoonshineNL]

that's your conscience telling you that you feel shame. if you didn't regret it, you would be fine.

[@karolinahensel7409]

Conscious is telling her the truth

[@MoonshineNL]

Can you tell me what you mean by conscious? The abortion was avoidable. She could have brought the beautiful child into our world but instead she chose to take an innocent life away :(

[@Ella-kq8su]

Stephen Brockie why don't you both mind your own businesses, and let this random woman get on with her life, and you get on with your own. Okay? Wonderful.

[@-babyv3nus816]

the natural healthy way Morhardt First of all, your grammar sucks, I'm 14 and have more common sense and empathy in my fingernail than you two have in your whole body. Wouldn't bringing a child into the world that you couldn't take care of and couldn't support be more selfish than aborting it?

[@-babyv3nus816]

the natural healthy way Morhardt Congrats for being the mature one, but I'm 14, so I have an excuse not to be. If a fetus (more like parasite) depends on a woman's body to live and grow, the woman should be the one to decide how to deal with it. Depending on the government for your and your child's entire life isn't exactly a good solution for financial problems either. I just find it funny that you people think that making abortion illegal is going to completely stop it from happening. I hope when you're on the news and you see "woman dies from sketchy abortion in a dirty alley way" on the news that you all feel proud of your vote.🤗🤗😚

[@staceyflores899]

Yes killing your unborn child is shameful. Innocent, helpless little child in your womb you hired someone to kill. May God forgive you.

[@thanoswife1254]

can i just ask a few questions? Are you them? Are you willing to help them and adopt their children? ("I can't take care of a child right now" funny neither can they) Do you have other options where they don't have to suffer the unwanted pregnancy or the pregnancy that they possibly can't handle?

[@staceyflores899]

@@thanoswife1254 birth control or sterilize yourself.

[@thanoswife1254]

@@staceyflores899 yeah, cause you know, birth control works 110% of the time and it's just a pill every day that could easily be forgotten, oh wait...... and yeah, doctors will happily do the surgery with no questions asked, oh wait......no.......for some reason, they can easily refuse you based on their own beliefs and what THEY think is best for a patient, even though it's none of their business and they shouldn't have gone into doctoring if they weren't willing to do what patients asked of them based on something that doesn't concern or affect them and if they're worried about being sued, a simply signing of a paper that said that we understand the surgery and therefore are in no right to sue could you know, fix that right now. Honestly you pro-forced birthers are something else. it's not all that easy to live a full child-free life, abortion is just a last resort, because they can't just easily do what you suggested or use a morning after pill because sometimes we don't even know if the anti-baby tecnology even worked until it's too late.

[@staceyflores899]

@@thanoswife1254 Why should nurses and doctors be forced to do abortions? Because of people selfishness and hospitals force nurses and doctors to do abortions if they want to work there. It's also part of their school training. I don't even like to kill a spider let alone a human being. Abortion is actually good for the man cause then when he gets a woman pregnant he can just tell her to get an abortion and if she doesn't want to he'll tell her well that was your decision I don't wanna be with you. We should focus on the woman and the child and making sure that they have all that they need. Including one year maternity leave paid . Child benefits . Focus on supporting life instead of supporting death. How would you like it being a little baby in the womb getting stabbed to death and ripped apart?

[@thanoswife1254]

@@staceyflores899 esus christ, how do you think abortions work? getting "ripped apart" is really depending on gestation. Stabbed to death? no, they use a syringe to just inject it with something to allow it to die, like they do with dogs. Why should a man be put down for not wanting to be a father? men have rights to not be a father, especially if it's out of their control. He shouldn't have to stay OR pay child support if he didn't want it. I'm not supporting death, i'm supporting available choices, you can be pro-choice but still choose to have a baby, that's all pro-choice is, we support you no matter what choice you make and sometimes it's better this way too, some people NEED abortions, you know a woman died of sepsis because she was rejected for an abortion? people always talking about heart beat this, heart beat that, what about the actual person that it's all affecting? the woman? she has a heart beat too. they don't have to be forced into abortions, I never said that, i said they should be forced to sterilize someone when asked, it's not right to reject someone based on their own personal beliefs when the situation doesn't affect them at all. You act like getting sterilized is easy to get when in reality, people have to wait until they're 40 or 50 to even be considered for one while people in their 20's are rejected because "They might change their mind" people in their 20's are capable of knowing what they want, a doctor does not EVER EVER get to choose what someone wants. and as for the whole dad leaving thing? that's just a mistake that happens when people don't properly talk about kids before sex, this conversation has to happen before sex, like understand if they want a kid or not and make sure you're on the same page. not everyone just wants a child when in a relationship.

[@joshpritchard5333]

killing children for your own personal gain..... wow we need more women like you.

[@smokeyproductions9092]

U cant be selfess all the time you need some selfishness. Its not others all the time. Like what about urself. U cant leave urself out. U deserve to be happy and live.

[@smokeyproductions9092]

@Ketchup vs Mustard IKR

[@christianordonez5704]

@@smokeyproductions9092 have you heard the story of the Marine who jumped on a grenade to save the life of his friend then lost his right eye got covered in chrapnel and almost died trying to get to the hospital.or the Canadian soldier who jumped on a grenade to save 12 people. Well the point I'm trying to make is that they either got heavily injured or died but they did it to save people, it's the ultimate sacrifice a person can make. Yes they did have a decision but they did it for a reason

[@andrewadams1595]

Lost ones 😥

[@VigilanteMakarov]

Wdym

[@helpiamstuckonthismanshead3385]

So much people lost to monsters

[@thesisypheanjournal1271]

Maybe you should feel shame because you killed a tiny, helpless human being who was entirely dependent upon you, and that's a shitty thing to do.

[@campfireaddict6417]

Ever talked a person out of suicide? Ever worked at a suicide prevention center? A 911 call center? Ever know the despair of a throwaway child who knows they have a mom that threw them out and a dad that didn't step in to offer care and support and help? A person who was born but never wanted. If this is too raw then so be it, but this is reality for a lot of people who know zero about their heritage and blame themselves for it. Why else would a mother throw her baby away? Too ugly? Have you ever talked to a mother who kept her baby, but never loved it; never cared; never interested. A baby with a soggy diaper; spoiled milk in a dirty bottle. Cry, and nobody comes. Curl up to keep warm; a thin, worn blanket. Mom & Daddy (child supposed to call him that) sounds like she is happy anyway but not because of the baby; crying sometimes creates a lot of pain, and there are so many unreported incidences of childhood broken bones.... and to endure all of this and more in the future which will happen, and worse...why would any thinking human being try to consent this torture of an innocent child?

[@elizabeth.601]

Yeaaa you are right. Why help those children to live fulfilling lives full of love and family through adoption, when instead you could just kill them as a defenseless little baby in the womb. Every baby deserves hope. These babies born in not ideal circumstances are NOT disposable. You faux compassion is actual just pure narcissism asserting that these childrens lives arent worth living and that any compassionate human should murder them before they even have a chance to know love.

[@nagolhayze9366]

I know this may sound a little considered, maybe even calculated, but perhaps she or her boyfriend should simply have considered the responsibility of using contraception before they both engaged in sexual intercourse. It would have spared her the inner angst, the moral confusion, via her termination of a ‘human life’, that of her child. I don’t believe she has no regrets, she will regret it for the rest of her life. There will be a deep inner homesickness for that aborted child. Many are constantly amazed at how the victimhood in this kind of narrative is shifted away form the terminated child, the real victim, to the person who made the decision to terminate that child’s life, to stop that heart from beating, because this new life was a mere inconvenience. This is truly shameful, hauntingly so.

[@mississipi1103]

No contraception works 100%. You will create thousands of unloved and unwanted children. How does that make you feel ? Btw, when you will get a tumor, let it grows to not kill this life.

[@nagolhayze9366]

@@mississipi1103 Even if contraception were only 99% reliable, it’s the most considered and moral pathway, 100% better than the termination, the abortion of an unborn child, the termination of a unique life. This is simply the murder of an unprotected innocent life. That’s where your focus should be. There are countless couples who cannot have children for a range of medical reasons, but who are in waiting lists for the adoption of unwanted and unloved children. Btw the removal of a tumour is a medical procedure that will preserve life, not end it. Life is sacred.

[@akindomugisha4644]

"I dont regret my abortion it was the best thing for me" So killing another human because my life will be better if the human is dead somehow makes it justified

[@hairmatrixgunners6991]

Because you should go to jail for murder

[@tobybiscuits]

If that was a law everyone would be killing each other . Brothers family friends ..

[@patrickgomes2261]

@@tobybiscuits its not only because the god damnit law exists that it makes it good, that's a fuck up law and should've never been created... Not considering a fetus alive as a human being it's ridiculous and horrible, abortion should only be allowed if the fetus has no brain or is putting his/her mother in a situation where her life is in risk and also in case of rapes

[@christianordonez5704]

@@patrickgomes2261 rape only makes up less than 1% and I agree with what you say but it's still up to the mother if it doesn't have a brain

[@James-dp3el]

ill adopt everyone's baby if they don't want it

[@JohanaIPango]

Can u ?

[@James-dp3el]

@@JohanaIPango I can try

[@thomism1016]

@@James-dp3el i'll help you

[@James-dp3el]

@@thomism1016 thanks

[@James-dp3el]

@@JohanaIPango I can adopt at lest 20

[@JohnnyCrack]

Ummm that "bean" at 3 months from conception has it's own DNA, heartbeat, blood type, arms, legs, fingers, toes, tastebuds, etc. This video is completely misrepresenting what's inside her body. Pro-life or Pro-choice, the information should be accurate.

[@s.h.9095]

it's her own experience, not a documentary

[@reptileepic6945]

Putting the baby up for adoption is a much better option.

[@christianordonez5704]

@Camilla Johansson maybe tell people about adoption instead of making abortion the only option

[@briannajudy5065]

It’s such a powerful moment when the craziness of the day has ran its course and it’s just my sound asleep son and I in bed. Every night I put my hand on his heart and thank God for giving me the most precious gift. I’m so grateful he knew what I needed when I couldn’t make sense of it all. Before I gave birth to my son, I was lost.. my heart was broken and selfish. When I first found out I was pregnant the first words out of my mouth were “no, this can not happen”. I couldn’t even support myself how was I going to support a child? I was the most scared I’ve ever been in my life, my life felt as if it was shattering. I remember being at my second appointment and the doctor couldn’t find the heartbeat. I still had not accepted that I was pregnant and my whole life was about to change. I was relieved. She went into the other room, grabbed a different monitor and though very faint, she said it was there. Night after night after night I’d cry in my room, in the shower, in the car.. I just couldn’t accept it. Right before going in to be induced I was scared, not to give birth but afraid that I wouldn’t be able to have a connection with my own child bc I was so detached throughout the whole pregnancy. That moment.. when the nurse handed him to me and laid him on my chest was THE BEST moment in my ENTIRE life. I never imagined a love this Devine, Unconditional or Deep existed. The one thing that holds me together is the thing I tried to resist the most..but God knew. He gave me the greatest gift, I could not ask for more. Yet, he still makes me promises of the future and with that I trust in him. If your'e scared right now because of an unexpected pregnancy, please know that although you didn't see it coming- the Lord did. And when the Lord moves he moves WITH PURPOSE! Trust him. #askmewhyjesusislife

[@allysonfarrell8549]

Out of sight, out of mind. You can't hear their cries or screams while their life is being taken, makes it so much easier on the conscience.

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

i don't see your point.

[@OodieSoodie]

Christian Theology United I believe she’s trying to say, since you can’t actually see it being killed, doesn’t really have a huge impact on you, which I totally agree with. Imagine a watching newborn baby being shredded & cut into pieces & those body parts sucked into vacuums specially made for the procedure.

[@christiantheologyunited3707]

@@OodieSoodie of course it wont. doesn't make it any less horrible.

[@OodieSoodie]

Christian Theology United She’s not saying it makes it less horrible. The point she was making is that this is how these people live with the murder of an innocent life. When they don’t actually have to see it.

[@poppyparanormal2189]

Don’t speak for everyone.

[@utpawn9830]

You have the right to an abortion. You don't have the right to universal approval of all your decisions. You don't have the right to not be judged by others.

[@shanenoel1270]

No one has the right to take a life. If someone runs up on you and takes your life or the life of someone that you love, was it their right to do so? Would we who don't have a "universal right" to judge be silly to say that the person that took your life did a bad thing?

[@jeffw1267]

And the baby has a right to live and not be murdered by some filthy slut.

[@christophermantyla7786]

Im aloud to judge a child murder

[@viz4884]

utpawn I don't give a shit about people judging me

[@ragerDuane]

How dare she call her and the man she had sex with's child a "bean"?

[@thanoswife1254]

cause it's the size and shape of one?

[@campfireaddict6417]

Every baby should be wanted. Celebrated. Cherished. Read to, for years and years. Have both parents active and deeply interested in this person they created. Affordable Scouts, affordable Christmas, affordable clothes, affordable school. Every baby should be wanted and loved by grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins forever. Every baby should be clean, well fed, cuddled, held, rocked, and absolutely secure. Every baby should always have access to it's geneology and beginnings. Every baby should have the families support, care, and safety net, in case anything should happen. These things go far to make a child into a secure adult, with love always, always there. Every infant should come into this world with a solid family always there. An unwanted pregnancy can go either way. The news can be awesome and exhilarating, but when it's not..... when the news is very bad....people cannot always cope, which means introspective consideration for the fetus' future as well as the parents. Sure -- shoulda thought of that before, huh! Shoulda stopped! Shoulda been married! Shoulda woulda coulda But the fact is, this happens, in vast circumstances, from rape to religion to experimentation to passion to neglect......it just happens. Nature doesn't give a shit about the environment, Nature just wants us to reproduce and we are very good at that but the unstable segment of society always has it's roots in childhood and that can be very dark, but that can also be a mirror image of the end result of unwanted babies. Every baby should be wanted.

[@anibuddyedits6744]

❤ certainly

[@pk0_urBx]

"Abortion...such an ugly word" Abortion is like a euphemism and not even one of the true words to describe what actually happens while the child is being slaughtered, killing a child because it's inconvenient to you is wrong and I can't put in words how ashamed I am to know that abortions are legal for something like this

[@pk0_urBx]

@Eithan S I wasn't using a euphemism to forward my argument, I was saying that the word abortion is like a euphemism. The word abortion doesn't really encapture how brutal abortions really are.

[@pk0_urBx]

@Eithan S ah so I see, are third trimester abortions not brutal in your opinion.

[@pk0_urBx]

@Eithan S and the fetus is a child, this will definitely become a child, women are supposed to care for and protect their children, not go to the doctors to have a hoover rip them out if there warm home.

[@thanoswife1254]

and what happens to the actual human being being forced to give birth? wouldn't that be considered indirect assault since they're trying to take away the help she needs?

[@pk0_urBx]

@@thanoswife1254 that's a dumbass argument, the women bearing the child only has to deal with it for a year but if the child is aborted it dies, losing 100. Seems like an obvious choice to me which you'd choose. Kill the child, or take a year of her life, seems obvious to me.

[@claudiaapril258]

It is not a “bean”. Calling it a “bean” contributes to the “secrecy” you are trying to denounce.

[@modifiedbear6178]

You should feel shame because you killed someone. You have blood on your hands and your conscience will never let you feel settled for the rest of your life. You change when you take a life.

[@modifiedbear6178]

@Eithan S You can fight hard to believe any of the nonsense you are peddling but deep down in you're heart of hearts, you know I speak the truth.

[@bl3524]

Disable the comment section please

[@divinehammer1669]

Censorship helps no one. These are the discussions that need to be taking place.

[@promoteroflibertyfromgloba8225]

Mérida Macondo I’m getting tired of people who want censorship

[@eowyn5250]

To hide from what abortion is another name for does nobody any good. Women need to accept it's true name which is murder. There's no sugar coating it cause that's what it is!!!

[@colleenguevara]

This isn’t in the video but, why do women have problems? If you were raped, why should people call you “ murderer, selfish, “ or even worse. Women shouldn’t be criticized. We shouldn’t be criticized for making a choice. It’s really sad. If people don’t want to have a baby, then don’t have sex, or just make sure your partner wears a condom. Women’s shouldn’t be criticized.

[@rosegumbo683]

Calling a baby a bean does it make it better ?

[@franklance9167]

It's not a baby unless it is wanted by the guardian or eventual guardian.

[@adrianbozic1113]

@@franklance9167 Stupidity of your comment is beyond our dimensions... So parents can, by their act of will, make non-baby a baby (by desiring it) and make baby a non-baby (by rejecting it)? Choice determines facts, right?

[@franklance9167]

@@adrianbozic1113 "Stupidity of your comment is beyond our dimensions... So parents can, by their act of will, make non-baby a baby (by desiring it) and make baby a non-baby (by rejecting it)?" Yes, It is then defined as a baby if the woman(guardian) wants it(or a potential immediate guardian), and if she doesn't then it is not a baby. "Choice determines facts, right?" Her wanting it determines whether or not analytically it classifies as a baby, and thus is a fact that it is a baby or not, yes. If you don't like it, sorry, but that's how the word "baby" is used in actuality. It's why pro choice advocates say it's not a baby. It's why we call pets and plants babies but others that we don't want pests and weeds. THe distinction is always that one is wanted by the guardian or a potential immediate guardian. pro lifer's are trying to force that label to include even unwanted fetus's, which would ultimately make the word baby entirely useless and meaningless.

[@adrianbozic1113]

@@franklance9167 Regarding the word "baby", nowhere in Merriam-Dexter is the aspect of will mentioned. Even pro-choice advocates would refer to undesired born child as "baby", thus proving that it is not a matter of choice (since undesirable animals aren't called babies even after they are born). Finally, defining fetus as a baby only if it is willed would lead to strange consequences, since the person who would, without a will of the mother, destroy her baby would be guilty of murder, but if the fetus has no intrinsic value apart from mothers affection, the act of destroying it should be treated in the same way as the destruction of pet or an object to which person has some kind of affection. But destruction of a baby (fetus willed by mother, as you say) is always a murder, so your definition leads to contradictions...

[@franklance9167]

@@adrianbozic1113 "Regarding the word "baby", nowhere in Merriam-Dexter is the aspect of will mentioned." Here is the definition of baby that gives a clue to what I am saying. www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1GCEA_enUS795US795&ei=79abXImjBYGPjwSw8pfwDQ&q=baby+definition&oq=baby+def&gs_l=psy-ab.1.0.0i20i263i70i249j0l7j0i10j0.1329.1621..3966...0.0..0.74.262.4....3..0....1..gws-wiz.......0i71j35i39j0i67j0i20i263j0i131.z86BosV3fF4 Baby:treat (someone) as a baby; pamper or be overprotective toward. This is the verb version. Treating someone as a baby? It then explains that to be treated as a baby is to pamper or be overprotective towards. AKA, they want the kid. That's the distinction. It's what the term baby is used as almost universally. It's why we call pets babies. It's why we call plants babies. It's why we usually don't call mice crawling in our home babies, but pests(if we have a pet mouse then it is different), and if we have poison ivy in our backyard, burn it like the rest. The term baby doesn't refer to an unwanted organism. It's not how the term is used at all. That's why whenever someone refers to an unwanted organism I say you are wrong. "Even pro-choice advocates would refer to undesired born child as "baby", thus proving that it is not a matter of choice (since undesirable animals aren't called babies even after they are born). " 1st of all, I have heard only a handful of pro-choice advocates say the word baby and in the context it was a case of them not wanting to argue about definitions. In contrast I have heard a SHIT TON of pro choicer's arguing tooth and nail saying it was not a baby, and that it was only a potential baby(AKA when it was born it'd be a baby, going into the potential immediate guardian thing). 2nd of all, if you believe we can choose to want the fetus, then choice does count. This may get into a free will argument and such, but the actual determining factor is whether or not it is wanted by the guardian or a potential immediate guardian. Also you pointing out the undesirable animal basically proves my point again that you realise that if it is unwanted/undesired it would not be called a baby. "Finally, defining fetus as a baby only if it is willed would lead to strange consequences, since the person who would, without a will of the mother, destroy her baby would be guilty of murder, but if the fetus has no intrinsic value apart from mothers affection, the act of destroying it should be treated in the same way as the destruction of pet or an object to which person has some kind of affection." JEsus Christ. Were you really going for will in terms of free will? The entire definition is that it is a baby IF it is a young organism wanted by the guardian or a potential immediate guardian. Is it wanted(in these contexts)? Then it is a baby. If not, it isn't. I literally said that before. Try and keep up alright instead of strawmanning. 2nd of all, it would be treated even less than killing a pet because a pet may have a potential immediate guardian. "But destruction of a baby (fetus willed by mother, as you say) is always a murder, so your definition leads to contradictions..." Again, it has nothing to do with will. It has to with wanting the kid. It is considered murder because killing a fetus against the woman's will(as well as an infant against her will) is severely detrimental to society. This is due to the unborn victims of violence act 2004 giving a special instance where it would classified as such. IN any other context of where the woman does not want it, then abortion is 100% not murder according to law. Also it is not the destruction of a baby. It's the willfully termination of the baby against the woman's will. If it miscarries or stillbirths, there is no murder charge.

[@T0mat0_S0up]

Dang a lot of toxic pro choicers in the comments..... yikes 😬

[@T0mat0_S0up]

@Eithan S Ummmm I have never heard a single pro-lifer say that kind of shit to any women. Try again kid

[@T0mat0_S0up]

@Eithan S Not really. I’m just facing reality. I have been alive if 30 years and I already know that a lot of pro lifer don’t do that. That’s reality. Maybe you just being naive and not paying attention to the real world. It’s ironic how you called me ignorant.

[@T0mat0_S0up]

@Eithan S Wow that’s childish. You’re just insulting me because don’t have anything to say. Just like a lot of pro-choicers, you’re an extremely hateful human being. At this point I feel sorry for you man.

[@operaknitter]

Cognitive dissonance. You feel shame, because you know the truth about who and what the “bean” was.

[@heyitsme881]

operaknitter I’m pro life but damn....your comment is incredibly heartless. People like you are exactly why places like planned parenthood thrive....because they’ve convinced women they actually care about them, while pro lifers like you do nothing but shame and judge them.

[@lymmy9609]

If you cared that much about your baby you wouldn't have got rid of it

[@lymmy9609]

@Eithan S does a pregnant woman have 20 fingers ?

[@lymmy9609]

@Eithan S still if she cared so much she wouldn't have and I think it's a baby so how about you come with argument instars of insulting me