My Bedtime Routine | Wind Down With Me | Vlogmas 14

[@emmavenice22]

Can you talk about relationships before Ryan? Like getting through break ups/knowing you'd meet the right person eventually etc.

[@Estefaniac19]

Stella is adorable, she seemed very calm during her bath, hair drying etc. really cute!

[@ShaliniDaisy]

That view from your dining area windows is amazing isn't it. I could just sit there staring out at the beautiful city expanse and feel relaxed, almost like the the way u do staring at an aquarium full of lovely fish !

[@kristenbanschbach1965]

Yes! I love the cooking part. I’ve been trying to go back plant based and struggle with inspiration and your vlogs with meals definitely help.

[@emilywschneider5059]

STELLA ADVICE: Growing up, my dad trained our Rhodesian Ridgeback not to come into the kitchen or dining area when we would cook. He was so huge and wanted to help out so much that wed end up tripping over him with hot pots and pans from the oven and stove. Super dangerous. so MAYBE get a crate or fence of some sort and have her "with yall" but set boundaries. And if Stella stays calm reward her with a treat so that she understands calm behavior during those times is a good thing!

[@misswiss278]

yeah exactly...we do the same thing...we also have an open kitchen just like you Ashley and Ryan, and we dont even set up a fence...we just show her with raised voices and strict behaviours where she had to stay. And as Em said..it can become so dangerous. I think the biggest problem is always you dont want to be strict with puppies...cause they are puppies..but it is worth it:) and as long as it is encouraging "strictness" it is totally fine to discipline these cutiespies:)

[@Phantom97122]

SAME, that why training dogs is important, too keep control and be safe.

[@marilyncoupal7559]

Em Wyatt love your advice, it's actualy for me too. But, for my dog we put him in is kennel and close the door. Step 2 with the door open and now he just go on his bed. Rewards and timing is the key. Sorry for my english im so french :)

[@thekoradiaries5838]

Hi Ashley! I've been watching you this past year and I really want to say that the one thing I love about your videos is you and Ryan. I love how you two work as a team, but still maintain your own independent identities. I love how you guys add value to one another because you value one another. Instead of being fully dependent on Ryan or vice versa, you guys live to achieve your independent goals, while strengthening the love and support you have for each other by ensuring that the other person is on the right track to find their own fulfillment. A relationship like this is hard to find because people often don't realize how much hard work, effort, and selflessness need to be invested into a relationship to achieve this type of strength, stability, and love. You guys are role models without even realizing it, which (to me at least) makes your union even more genuine. I don't personally know you guys, but I love you guys and I hope 2018 brings you nothing but good vibes, happiness, and unconditional love.

[@AlexGaboury]

I LOVE Stella's demeanour, she's so sweet.

[@viltepukinaite6280]

When my pup starts getting crazy whilst I'm cooking I immediatly tell her a big NO and tell her to go to the other room and give her a distraction (her fave toy or a bigger treat). Or just even try to get her to the other room before cooking. Start to train her now because later it is going to get a bit harder. BTW Stella is soooo cute I can't

[@minaammar]

your vlogs are so much fun to watch honestly. i love spending my night watching them before going to bed.

[@greta4789]

i love december and i love it more because of your vlogs

[@lieslwise3294]

Thanks for being real about your career journey. I think it can be discouraging for a lot of recent grads when they struggle with what they want to do after graduating. It's good to know that things turn out ok

[@hayleyrobbins6977]

I trained my puppy to go to his bed while I was eating. Our trainer told us to give him a place to go while I'm eating whether it's a bed or a matt or whatever! Works great for our pup! Good Luck!

[@rachelanderson8961]

For the red patchy eye issue, I have the same thing. It can be caused by mascara and other various things obviously so make sure you’re changing out your mascara regularly. I also put the Aquaphor healing ointment on my eyes and around my eyes every night before bed. Not bad for yours eyes and I’ve heard it helps with crows feet. It’s basically a better version of vaseline for the skin.

[@janniefroehlich2011]

the food part is my favorite especially when you go grocery shopping. you guys motivated me to be vegan. and the past 3 months have been incredibly life changing for me. I try a lot of your recipes and they are so yummy

[@elelentakis]

"Welcome to backlit shots with Ryan" 😂

[@afikamrami2961]

Youre my absolute favorite youtuber ! Love your vlogs and love how long they are.

[@carajeansmith]

From what I have learned kenneling is the best way to train dogs. You guys are her "pack" and you have to teach her that you are in charge (they automatically assert themselves as leader until you establish that you are). Always feed her after you have eaten and keep her kenneled while you cook/eat. It's not a permanent thing but just until you get her to understand that she needs to be calm. Also, don't over excite her when you let her out of the kennel because it will defeat the purpose of kenneling. And just putting her in another room doesn't teach her anything and is more of a punishment. As with all puppies. age will help as well :) best of luck! PS loving vlogmas!!

[@rachelkillian5987]

Yay a 30 min vlog!! I always find myself running on the treadmill for your vlogs. ❤️❤️ Love y’all sooo much. Have a great Christmas 🎄

[@itsivymiha]

I’m waiting for the day when I’m going to meet you guys omg I love your personalities

[@Lucieanna_]

Hi Ashley! Thank you for being so open to helping those who are just starting out on youtube. I am one that falls into that category! One thing I would love for you to cover is how did you get used to being on camera in the beginning. I recorded an introduction video for my channel, and as I sat down to edit, I couldn't help but to just notice all my flaws! I ended up deleting the video because I felt like crap. I don't want to give up but at the same time I don't know what to do about it. So I would love to know your thoughts. Thanks again for all that you do!

[@bexhottinger]

Advice for Stella: I have a Jack Russell terrier with lots of energy, so what I started doing is send her to her place, and keep sending her there no matter what and then give her a treat at the end of cooking to reward her good behavior. Also my dog gets fed after we eat. It takes a while but now she goes to her place herself when I start cooking.

[@deryadogan7143]

Loved last years Christmas vlogs and this years even moreee ! Love from germany😘

[@KateOstre]

How can you guys get anything done at all with Stella around? I'd just use any excuse to drop everything and play with her haha she's the cutest distraction!

[@sydneysivertsen]

my dog immediately chills out when you put a doggy sweater on him, all dogs are different but give it a try!

[@AW-yg3ci]

Aww Stella was such a good baby for her bath! Yeah I always incorporate your dinners into my week. I don’t have to figure out what to make I just watch your vlog and make that lol

[@emmanuelleh7218]

Loooved the outfit at the beginning of the video, went straight to ASOS to look for a faux-fur collar ! Also thumbs up for Luna being such a good girl about her bath :D

[@marijanovak127]

long vlogmas! YES PLEASE 😃...My dog is 7 years now, and one of the first things I thought him is to behave while waiting for food, so I give him food then when he is calm, sitting and waiting, and he always gets something while we are cooking (like cucumber or carrots or similar) and he waits patiently (and doesn't leave the kitchen until he gets some treat 🙈), I hope this helps, and sorry for my bad English. Lots of love from Germany ❤️😘

[@michellehochuli1318]

Maybe teacher her down stay rewarding her with her favorite treat, then make her down stay in a certain spot and reward her as soon as she does it right! It’s a lot of work but it can help!🤞🏼

[@christinasurgent2817]

Yayyyy! Bedtime routine!! Haha these are my fave videos. Thanks also for pointing out what’s in the burger- good to know!! Love how transparent and down to earth you are. It’s what makes you my favorite youtuber and what keeps me coming back ❤️

[@alannamason4184]

I love to see the recipes you make.. I've been sick the last few days and I was inspired by your soup recipe with the kale and sausage on top and it was just what I needed so thank you and​ keep sharing ♥️

[@paula-nq7ri]

I find the skin around my eyes gets really dry too especially in the winter! The skin is so sensitive and it stings when it’s dry

[@NiaRodriguez07]

I love hearing all the sirens and honking cars in the background lol 😂. I use men’s razors too, they work so good!! And I use the Thayer’s witch hazel in lavender and I love it! As for Stella, I trained my puppy to stay in his bed while I’m cooking dinner by first pretending to be cooking something (smells and all lol) and every time he would get out of his bed i would tell him “back” by standing over him while taking small steps so he would walk back to his bed. When he listened i would give him a treat. It’s worked ever since! If Stella understands “stay” it shouldn’t be hard to keep her out of the kitchen while your cooking 😊

[@lornabrooks4484]

Hey I would love a skin care video !! The products you used in this video and mentioned ( like the retinol ) I’m really interested in !!

[@simrandhillon904]

My boyfriend's puppy is the same exact way when it comes to food and her energy! So he trained her to stay out of the kitchen with the command "out." He basically made a imaginary boundary around the kitchen area. Every time she walked into the "area", he would say "out" and make her back up and then reward her with a treat. She learned it pretty quick and even though she's still a puppy, anytime we tell her "out," she runs out of the kitchen. Not sure if it'll help with Stella, but it definitely helped us!

[@ashbrooke]

Great advice!! Thank you so much

[@loveleyeyes1654]

I really enjoy the cooking and meal videos, it provides inspo. My boyfriend's plate and I always end up looking so different.

[@MacLove1423]

You've got to be one of the most beautiful human beings inside and out and I really appreciate that you don't try pushing veganism onto others, it's such a breath of fresh air to not feel pressured into turning my diet and lifestyle upside down ❤️

[@jenniferlhowland]

My kids do the same thing as Stella when I cook. I wish I had a solution. 😂😂😂

[@allysonanne6932]

Belif products are amazing! I live in the desert & that eye balm is a savior for me!

[@ThePinklimegreen]

Shiseido Benefiance wrinkle resist 24 intensive eye cream is honestly so moisturizing!!! you must try it! also your videos are my favorite things to watch on here!!! thank you for your videos!!

[@laurawillets2148]

I made the butternut soup and avocado toast! So good!

[@missalyssa977]

Loved todays vlog!! Its amazing how much work you put into KZbin and I'm so inspired by you and your work ethic!!

[@ameliehild827]

I lived in new York for a year and now I am back in my home country and literally every time I watch your videos I wanna move back to NY!

[@lydiaspringerforsyth]

Sorry this is so long!! We have a a very open concept house (living/dining/kitchen all in one space), but the way it's designed, there's only a small space to get from the kitchen to the other rooms. That way when we're cooking, we're able to have a gate and keep our pup in the living room. Obviously that might be a bit harder for you guys, since your place is a lot more open than us. When we have dinner, we'll either just put her in her crate and cover it, or give her this milk bone that totally distracts her from our food. I don't know the name but it's basically yak's milk pressed super hard to make it like a bone, and she flipping loves them. We get them at Pet Smart but if you don't have one nearby, I'm sure other stores have them/something similar. They're super cool because once the piece is too small, you can microwave it and it puffs up and hardens into a treat they can safely eat without choking! We give them to her when we need to distract her for an hour or so but don't wanna put her to bed, or when we're in the car for a long time. Nothing else matters when she sees those come out 😂

[@stephaniemartin5693]

Loved this vlog ! You're so thorough & I love your style.

[@sandrah.5965]

There are different ways to deal with this. Each of them are as efficient you just need to pick one and stick to it. Either you feed her before you and she will be less likely to beg. Personally when I had my yorky we would just wait to feed him until we were done. We would delay serving him depending on how excited he was. Let’s say he was getting over the top we would take more time to feed him. When I say more time I mean a few minutes (poor baby). Finally every time you feed your dog you want to put the bowl down and have them stay about a few feet away until you finally say it’s ok for them to eat. Pretty much the logic behind all of this is that by the ritual you implement (which needs to be obvious and remain the same) you tell your dog it’s his food and time to eat. Therefore he won’t respond to anything else. Patience :)

[@vivid891]

How do you keep your house organized and clean ?! Love you !!

[@stephaniekc5650]

“Luna really gave us a hard time” 😂😂

[@elzaanb36]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 years and we’re not married. That does not mean we are any less committed to each other. In fact, I am more in love with him now than I ever was before and we don’t need to get married to prove that to other people. We will do it when we want to. I watch Negin mirsalehi on KZbin as well and she and her bf have been together for 10 years and they’re not married. So I say to each their own! Its the 21st century and unfortunately the traditional way of doing things are changing, people need to accept that. Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance 😉👍🏻

[@abrissh8935]

I keep taking screen shots of all the recipes and food 😙♥️♥️

[@yochevedshvarzblat1427]

I also always use mens shavers! How do you shower and not get your hair wet?

[@dollface106]

i always put sweaters on my dogs and they loved it because they loved the snow and could stay out longer. dont think there is any harm because its not like theyll get too hot

[@hejhelohej]

The outfit in the beginning of the vlog is looking great!!

[@kelseygardner7634]

Please link the B12 spray you use! I think a blog post or video on your different night routines would be great! (Anti aging night vs. a differently focused night)

[@pinjaojala2038]

Cockerspaniels are grazy for food, they really could eat endlessly! Our English springerspaniel was the same

[@MommaFromScratch]

Love seeing your recipes. I would love it if you take us through the editing process but how you and your manager do sponsorship, deciding on them the process! Love the Q/As I do youtube as a hobby and job! I'm a SAHM and its an amazing outlet for me! I do diys, decorating, cleaning and lifestyle videos.

[@lindalovessparkles16]

I definitely recreate your guys’ recipes! Soo yummy...favorite place to get recipes?

[@ChelseaLampinen]

Ash, what down inserts do you have in your duvet? They look so fluffy, out king one we have is so thin and I swear doesn't hang NEARLY as long as yours does! I also do KZbin and have a t-shirt and online shop while doing my 9-5 and raising 2 little boys so I love seeing you work hard! Keep pushing through it girl you're amazing!

[@carriewalsh3691]

HI Ash, do you self tan during the winter? If so what do you use and how do you keep your hands from looking crazy with the tanner?

[@fun_in_fifth]

Where do you get your workouts from? Love you guys!

[@suussy97]

Omg Ashley where did you get your diffuser from? I’m wanting one and I also have to get essentials oils! Hope you answer

[@michellecrean9962]

Bathing Stella literally made my night watching this ❤😍 I'm in love and it makes me thing of my golden Lab Belle 😘 I don't get to see her much as in college. Always enjoy your videos and keep up the great work that you and Ryan do! Xx

[@CarolinaLlano]

I also make youtube videos, they are DIY on fashion, decor and sometimes seasonal, and I also do makeup videos. Everything is in Spanish but I am trying making them in Spanish and english.

[@deniseascencio8642]

I would love to see more of cooking segments! I love the way you cook😉

[@DianaHernandez-tb1gc]

Where do you get all of your phone cases? They’re soo adorable

[@Zooay29]

I would remove her from the room while you cook or keep her in a enclosed space like her cage so she knows she isn't a part of your meal times... good luck with her! Having a puppy is full on...they all have their little traits and growing pains...this is just her thing. She will snap out of it after a week or so of getting into a routine not being present during meals xx

[@murphy2766]

The cooking is my favorite part of your vlogs :)

[@tanyakarazan8094]

If you love Brussels and are ever in the mood for a corporate chain food (which is usually not ever) but P.F. Chang's has The MOST AMAZING BRUSSEL SPROUTS. They're wok charred with pineapple, Fresno peppers and cilantro 😛 trust me kind of a life changer so delicious they also have some pretty good vegetarian dishes

[@kunli5110]

Hi Ashley I have been watching your videos since last winter. Happy anniversary! I just have one question: have you ever considering about change your hair style? I think a LOB (long bob) will def looks stunning on you! How about a little bit of highlight? :)

[@joanndehnert2933]

Try a spray bottle with water in it to keep Stella from jumping up. Works for my puppy!

[@jessicaanderson6129]

Love your videos so much Ashley!! I found you last year during Vlogmas and can't believe it's been a year already 🤗 I'm a freelance social media manager and I'm glued to my phone/laptop 24/7 at home it feels like. Do you have any tips when it comes to unplugging and work/life balance?

[@Florenciailen_]

Hi Ashley, i have experience with puppies and dogs in general and my question is, do you usually give Stella a bite of some of the food you make? If you do, then thats most likely the cause of her getting overly excited when she sees you cooking. She thinks she is going to receive some food from you and is just very excited!

[@keannadelacruz3629]

What's the song at 5:08? It sounds so familiar..

[@sbar5671]

So I get that same issue with my eyelids! I have to be super careful what cosmetics I use (i sadly had to stop using gifted 😞), and what skincare I use or they freak out. One time they were so dry and red I looked like a zombie. I use clinique all about eyes the original one and plain old eucerin to keep them hydrated as best as possible!

[@lymarislara3590]

Where is your pink top from?!?! I loved it in your other vlogmas as well. super pretty

[@anavaleriaarroyoheinsohn8839]

Can you link your heating pad please😘😘

[@llamalover542]

Would you mind talking about why you switched to the iud? Do you suggest it? I’m looking into switching.

[@LipsticksandLattes]

I make mainly law school vlogs, but also lifestyle/beauty videos! I would like if spoke about how you decide what brands you want to collaborate with

[@christianr5336]

Stella is my favorite!! I have a cocker as well. Looks just like Stella but brown. They have the best personalities.

[@BettyeRainwater]

re Luna (ha ha), can't one of you take her out for a good run/walk/training session while the other one stays home making dinner...and trade-off each night? That way she's out of the way during the cooking process and will hopefully be a little tired (at least have the edge taken off) while you're eating. You can crate her with HER dinner while you guys are eating. If she eats fast and is then a nuisance, get her one of those snack/toy things that take them a long time to eat. Like...her kibble goes in a ball and she has to work/roll it around to get the food out...or I used to take a Kong the night before I needed it, dump a meal's worth of dry kibble inside, then "seal it up" with some peanut butter, then put it in the freezer. It would take Caleb (my dog) a long time the next day to lick thru the frozen peanut butter to get to the actual food (you won't want her climbing on the sofa with this cuz it can get messy!). Anyway, you can try any combination of these things WHILE you're also teaching her to go to a certain spot while you're eating...a dog bed or blanket or whatever. She's young and has a lot of energy and like a young child it can be very difficult for them to control themselves! That's why I always say A Tired Dog is a Well-Behaved Dog...so really, that tiring run/walk right before you both sit down to eat, is really the best thing at her age. I know it might be inconvenient, but that's a part of dog ownership.

[@victoriaisabellombardi]

Where are your glasses from? So cute!

[@AdrieneRenae]

Totally agree with you on marriage. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 10 years and he recently gave me a diamond ring for our anniversary. We are 27 and in no rush. Heck we may not get married and I’d still be okay with that. Marriage, to us, does not change our love and commitment to each other :]

[@clarissagonzalez1829]

Love all your videos Ashley ❤️ also where are your glasses from again ?? And the robe in this video during your skin routine where is that from ?! Also maybe Stella new name should be Stella Luna 🌙 Brooks 😍

[@simpletulip]

This is so random- but how the heck does your bed look so comfy! It’s legit a hotel bed

[@reaplakia544]

Your style rocks girl!!💕

[@harrelsonkay24]

Just curious if you guys ever take the subway in NY or mainly just cabs/ubers? I have only been to NYC once but it just seemed like the subway was always the quicker route most of the time. Also, you and Ryan are GOALSSSSSS!

[@TheNaturalEye]

Where is your oil diffuser from? I love how small it is!

[@TarynnH]

I do KZbin as a hobby. I like to post blogs when I travel or do cool events on the weekend. My question is how do you speed up the editing process? Also I feel like a lot of my clips are so shaky and I use the a5000 with the 10-18 lens.

[@gabrielaescobar716]

I love your vlogs Ashley! How do you and Ryan keep your relationship alive after many years of being together?

[@WhatKateFinds]

Small KZbinr here! Fashion, Beauty, and Lifestyle! I love any advice that you have! Looking for simple ways to Up my game in the new year. I literally film on my iPad and use natural light. I feel like that’s been the easiest/cheapest for me. But I’d love to Up with game with editing or music. Thanks for helping lift the Lifebyher girls up!!!

[@v4namo]

For Stella and the kitchen situation I would recommend you train her to lie on the floor or in her place on the sofa and stay in place until you are done with cooking and eating. This is what we did with 4 hunting dogs we had since I was a child. First of course you need Stella to learn to stay in place and you walking away. Train this with a treat. When ever she stays in her place and does not move, compliment and give a treat. If not, take her back to the place where she needs to sit down and ask again only one time with a firm voice and pause "Sit ... Stay!" After she learns this trick you just teach her to lie down and stay in place. The dog is allowed to move only when you call her name again. To be honest we never allowed our dogs to walk up to us when we ate, also never give treat while you are eating! This will end up with a very spoiled dog that you are not in control of. I can try to link you a dog training youtube video. :) hope this helps!

[@v4namo]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/fXLdmoB7eKmrepI here you go! kzbin.info/www/bejne/rIq1nXduqqdkr8k this is also good one! kzbin.info/www/bejne/aF7Co6uugN2mm7c and here are very playful trainings to learn to stay in distracted moments. You can find lots when you search how to teach a dog to stay :) have fun training, for Stella its gonna be fun like playing with you!

[@sharonmurad2560]

I love your rings! Where are they from?

[@SEQUOIASTYLES]

You make me want to change my diet so badly. I'm going to try to slowly transition my eating habits. I love what you make, it always looks so yummy. I'm scared only because thanks to my mom I'm the pickiest person on the planet! Any tips?

[@emohyeah]

did you go to university ? if so what did you study..... btw love your vlogmas blogs are awesome

[@SEQUOIASTYLES]

Also when looking up the burgers you had in the video something about the carrageenan not being good for the digestive system, have you read/hear of this concern. just wanted your opinion.

[@morgazore]

Love your shower curtain! Where is it from?

[@ramblerjam]

Ahhh I'm so excited for you getting your eyebrows done! Even though i was one of the ones saying maybe don't do it lol. I totally get why you want to (mine are so sparse they're practically nonexistent naturally), and I'm glad you're getting just a few filled in snd in a lighter colour, i think it'll be muuuch easier to deal with any long term effects like pigment removal. Plus your natural eyebrow colour is actually really good and perfect when you have no makeup on. Darker might be a bit stark on a bare face and you are so naturally beautiful it'd be a bit shit if you felt like you *had* to do a full face every minute of the day to match really dramatic brows. Like makeup is awesome and i have no hate whatsoever if people want yo wear it 24/7 but girl i have rosacea, dermatitis and, as i said, nooo eyebrows. So i know what it feels like to feel you honestly have to wear makeup and it sucks some of the joy and creativity from it and is honestly tiring. So i don't want anyone else to feel that way lol. Apparently it's important to check your skin type when getting microbladed as there are different techniques better suited to different skin. Stephanie Lange talked about it on her youtube channel after she had a less than awesome experience with her brows and finding out later while getting them fixed that her original microblade job was wrong for her skin type. Anyway, can't wait to see your brows after they get did! V exciting! Gah longest comment ever 😂😂

[@TheAlbaloves]

In the beginning of the video, where did you get the blush shirt? (Not the shirt you wore when you came back from filming)

[@feline9134]

Hey Ashley, could you link your blue coat from topshop and the stola? Can't find it online and it looks lovely xx

[@gosialife]

I use men's razers too. Female razers doesn't work almost at all

[@ASMRDOLL]

Your voice is soo soothing you definitely pass the ASMR test! Love your vlogs, btw. You and Ryan should visit Seattle. If theres one place you could travel to, where would it be? :)