My best friend depression is making a comeback

[@dianestramacchia3616]

Jesus. I just wrote a long comment and then lost it ahhhhh. Ok so I said you should, if you can contact a Discriminatory Body near you. Make an appointment. Go in. Talk to them. It may be a start to a solution. I said that I was going through a similar process as you from an employee perspective. I’m with the Ed De in Australia. Can you still come on and chat with us? You have done a brilliant job with your 2023 resolution of keeping up with the KZbin videos. It’s been very helpful to me. Like you, I know that we often loose sight of the things that we have ACTUALLY achieved. In your talk you mentioned sooo many things you have achieved this year and spoke of them as though they were nothing!!! They are not nothing!!! You have come a long way. What about giving yourself a go and trying a big spirt of weight training to shift a pound and get under 200. It may be a good incentive. One more boost from me…we, we find it soo hard when we start on the downward spiral. I DO understand. I also have family and marriage difficulties to boot. Let’s keep going and support each other and get through this Tyler. Lean on your support. Keep going. You will get through.

[@tyleradolfo7213]

I've written long comments before only for them to then disappear so I know your frustration. You do make a great point. I should not diminish my achievements or progress. It's just tough when I'm not getting the results I've been aiming for. Next year is a whole new year though to keep on going. As for contacting a discriminatory body, I've tried that route by filing a complaint with the Department of Education and also by speaking with some lawyers. The department of education denied my complaint saying that it was too late. One lawyer I spoke to said there's not much they can do in my situation, another lawyer said they could try and help but they are far too expensive. So on the college front, I'm moving on from my old college. I think it may actually be best for me to finish my education elsewhere. I'll keep making videos because they do help me clear my head and it makes my day when someone says a video of mine has helped them. Thanks for your support and advice Diane. Take care:)

[@dianestramacchia3616]

Thanks for your reply and sorry about my spelling mistakes. How embarrassing. I was meaning an Anti Discrimination Lawyer or a body who deals with possible discrimination because of mental illness. If you can find some passionate advocate to help you fight and put the wind up then you MAY get somewhere. Is it my understanding that all the difficulties are arising because you want to go back to your original school. If so, it may be time to cut and run. They must be living in the dark ages and need to have a bit of cancel culture hanging over their heads. Honestly, it makes me mad. I’d give them a piece of my mind if I could. Have you sent in an abundance of character references? Sorry if I’m going over old ground. Please don’t think I’m being simplistic if I say to write down your actual achievements. Double them for the end of 2025 and see how you feel then. Sometimes/all the time we put these goals in place never realising that realistically they need a larger/longer time capacity to get a result that is near to what we want. I know you are, but fighting the spiralling is what’s needed now. Pick one thing, right now, from you list of supposed disappointments and purely concentrate on that for two weeks. Forget the other stuff entirely. Hard I know but maybe worth a shot. It’s Christmas, and even though this Christmas will be the hardest I’ve had to face, I’m going to face it and enjoy it, everyone/thing else can go to hell. There, I’ve had another shot at support. I hope it works in some small way Tyler. Was it 258 down to 203. Imagine losing another 55 in 2025! You’ll be (2am brain is fighting mental arithmetic) 147? Woohoo that would be great. Project that success into the future and hang on. All the best for Christmas Tyler. Try to get some joy out of it or just some joy for the future. It’s worth it. Di xx

[@tyleradolfo7213]

The lack of response from my former school definitely plays a big part in what I'm feeling right now. That school was a second home to me. However, the time has come for me to move on from them and find a new second home. If they don't want me as a student, it is ultimately their loss. I like your idea about picking one thing to concentrate on. That could really help me put things into perspective and likely find more success as a result. I'm at about 305 lbs right now so maybe setting a goal of getting below 300 before 2025 is a good goal. Getting to 299 is attainable and might give me the motivation boost I need to keep on going. I'm turning 27 on Christmas Eve. I suppose I still have plenty of time to figure things out. Thank you Diane. :)

[@tyleradolfo7213]

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas too! And a happy New Year as well!

[@dianestramacchia3616]

So much support heading your way Tyler. Small steps. Good goal. Happy Birthday too!!!! Most importantly enjoy!!! I am determined to enjoy. Let’s set that goal together. Di x

[@Yaa7700]

How far are you in school?

[@tyleradolfo7213]

I was a junior before being expelled by my university. Once I return to college, if I do, I'll only need 2 or 3 semesters to finish my degree because I have most of my credits done.

[@Yaa7700]

@ that’ll be nice. Oddly enough I don’t think I’ve ever seen the question about disciplinary action on the application, but maybe i didn’t notice

[@tyleradolfo7213]

It might vary school to school. On the most recent application I filled out, it asked if there was any disciplinary action, suspension, expulsion, etc, and it also asked for an explanation. I feel like I answered that section of the application effectively though. I simply told the truth.

[@Yaa7700]

@ do you want to do in person or an online school

[@Karlie567]

I’m so sorry that you’re feeling down. I hate this illness!! I’m very proud of you for not giving up that you keep trying

[@Yaa7700]

Do you think it’s the holidays creeping up

[@tyleradolfo7213]

I think it's mainly that 2024 is coming to an end and I'm not content with the progress I've made.

[@Yaa7700]

@ i feel that but there are many new years if you want to change your cut off

[@dianestramacchia3616]

Brilliant thinking. xx

[@Yaa7700]

@ an easy one to push your cutoff to is Chinese New year