My Biological Dad Is Angry That My Stepdad Is Walking Me Down The Aisle And Not Him r/Relationships

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

“How can he possibly think he could "give me away" when he already gave me away 20 years ago.” 🔥🔥🔥✍️

[@carlrood4457]

Simply ask "dad" to show everyone all the pictures he has of him and OP at birthday parties, graduations, vacations, etc. Then show all the pictures she has of Lenny at same. Get really petty and switch it up. Start calling "dad" by his name and call Lenny "daddy".

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op is a dumbass for telling us all this bad stuff about her dad, then saying she's Lenny is going to walk her down the Aile, So why are you asking AITA, if reddit says yes are you going to pick him over Lenny?

[@Metonymy1979]

Calling Lenny Daddy might be a little creepy.

[@bifry4148]

​@@Metonymy1979that's what I thought lol

[@ZombieSazza]

“How could he give me away when he gave me away 20 years ago” is such a raw line that shows exactly how much damage her biological father has caused. Also the whole “get over it” attitude that we always see, where the victim is pressured to “get over it” when his behaviour has caused lifelong effects. Typical!

[@w7100]

I love it when the parents in these stories use the phrase "are you still mad about the past?", you mean my whole life?

[@ACAB.forcutie]

Fr, the delulu is strong 😂

[@carlrood4457]

The relatives' reaction is easy to explain. They don't want to deal with the "dad" anymore. His breakdown is what's affecting THEM. They're being made to feel uncomfortable. It's probably reminding them that they sat on the sidelines for 20 years while he ignored his child. They want to hide it away again and can't until "dad" stops crying. The fastest way to accomplish that? Pressure OP into "forgiving".

[@pippo17173]

You can tell how and why the dad turn out the way he did. I am willing to bet he never got discipline in a day of his life and got cuddle threw out his younger years.

[@sfsin3380]

Even easier than that Op said it he been lying to everyone including himself for years. As far as his family knows OP's mom was the evil bitter ex who poisoned his daughter against him. Anything he missed he blamed on that. OP is mad at him she's bitter about the past. For his type his wrong doings are always in the past (even if that pas was 5 minutes ago) while "wrongs" against him are happening now so are worse.

[@19nmiller1]

7:13 "How can he possibly think he could 'give me away' when he already gave me away 20 years ago," is such a hardcore line lol Hope you're doing well Markee!! Always happy to hear your voice and see what stories you're reading out

[@SongBird101]

I feel so bad for op in story 1. My parents also divorced when I was 2, but my dad has ALWAYS been there for me. When my mom remarried, my dad and stepdad always got along and and understood each other. It’s so endearing how they try not to step on each others toes. On my wedding my dad walked me down the aisle and I danced with both. They were laughing and celebrating together most of the day. That’s how it’s supposed to be. More love in everyone’s lives. I’m happy op at least has Lenny in her life. Might as well cut biodad out of the picture forever

[@101Mant]

Being a Dad is something you do not just something you are. Children dont have to greatful for child support. You did the bare minimum to your obligations you dont get a reward.

[@kateemma22]

I'd look dad in the face and simply say 'sorry, I'm still bitter, and I'll ruin the wedding'.

[@amyyaku5022]

S1: NTA. How do you speedrun getting your bio child to hate you and then get mad when you don't get the privileges of a good dad?

[@roserocks1979]

My stepfather( unoffically, he and my mom never married) walked me down the aisle. He's the one who was always there. And my father didn't pay child support.(he did have to pay some back pay) My step father was there for everything. School plays, school concerts, and when I was sick. He was up in the middle of the night cleaning up vomit. Putting calamine lotion on chickenpox at 2 in the morning. He deserved, and earned the right, not my biodad. So my biodad didn't come. No loss there.

[@PowerStruggle555]

OP's father: But I paid child support Yeah that doesnt mean squat. those are court ordered, if he didnt then he'd be in big trouble. saying you did something that you were ordered to do is not the same as doing something good. if he paid for op's college or a new car when she was old enough (that didnt come from child support) thats one thing

[@carlrood4457]

Note how at no point is even a token apology offered. There's really no sense of dad taking responsibility for the estrangement. He's only crying because how HE'S affected. Your past is who you are. It's all people have to judge how you will be going forward. It's almost certain that if OP had let him walk her down, he'd have posed for the pictures and then gone back to ghosting her.

[@Xenaga]

Story 2: OP was driving me nuts continuing to try and establish a good relationship with her father. It was like she just couldn’t let go and was a glutton for punishment. I hope she realizes, sooner rather than later, that her father is not a good influence or presence in her life. It’s time for her to wash her hands of both him and his wife.

[@johnbradbury8610]

Thank you, She posts all the terrible things he's done and then says she's decided Lenny is going to walk her down the aisle. So why is she asking AITA?

[@Kris-wo4pj]

@@johnbradbury8610 they were talking about story 2 not 1 and honestly shes been guilt tripped her whole life about her shitty dad and is stressed to hell planning a wedding and then dealing with even more abuse from her sperm donor. shes asking if the abuse was abuse or not cuz she couldnt tell not if shes an asshole for letting her stepdad walk her down the aisle. ya gotta learn to understand subtext dude.

[@LizLuvsCupcakes]

@@Kris-wo4pjthat, and no one wants to admit they had abusive parents. It’s embarrassing and scary and you don’t want to because the second you do, everything is different.

[@kiarar.1219]

Im mad with the last story. She recognizes her father sees her as a burden and always uses her. Even though she’s an adult and sees the problem, she continues to put herself in more situations where she’ll be disregarded and used by her father. So she made the post 9 months ago, read all the comments, kept in contact with her father, and needed to work to have money but decided to skip work to dogsit for her father to travel? He’s a horrible person, but at this point, she’s doing it to herself 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@SvarogAristaeusAllen]

If I had to bet, she's probably wanted to cut him off multiple times before but her mom's side of the family kept going "but he's your daaaad" happened to me, dad was an abusive POS but my aunts and grandmother and even my own mother would concern troll and go "but he's your faaather" because they couldn't comprehend what he put me through and use religion to talk about "forgiving his mistakes" In the end I had to sit my mother down and really drill into her brain how horrible it was and she was angry at herself for letting it happen while I lived with him and hasn't pushed me to do it since

[@Rose-yt5hi]

For real. She’s one of those people who just complains complains complains but never does anything to change her situation. You can only sympathize with people like that for so long before it just gets tedious and annoying.

[@ACAB.forcutie]

My mom who's now NC, was in my life for far longer than she should've, because of the little voices of others

[@soiwaslike]

2:57 “Uh, he can shut up.” Hahahah

[@mimiwhite1963]

OMG I love her speaking truth to both of them. And glad she is getting adopted.

[@Rorschachqp]

I also "like" how the step-mom has an opinion about the matter after the grandchild came... She was probably the one pouring venom into the bio father's ear the whole time.

[@SkyEcho751]

"Are you still bitter about the past" Well once the wedding is over, that will also be in the past, will you ALSO be willing to just let it go? The past dictates where we are in the present, choices and chance are set in stone once things have moved on. But that doesn't mean you can just 'forget' what happened. OP _shouldn't have needed_ to forgive 'Estranged Donor' for not doing the bare minimum as a father, so I can't fault her for not doing it.

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

OP2 seems incredibly slow. It takes the 50th time of getting ripped off by thier con artist dad bedore they think "hmm. I'm probably not going to be compensated for this"

[@PowerStruggle555]

" “He may have been your father, boy, but he wasn't your daddy.” -Yondu "Guardians of the Galaxy vol 2"

[@sambam2285]

Bio dad paid child support so he didn't have to parent

[@crystalhernandez3370]

His rights as a father? His rights as a father also included custody time but he didn't bother with that so....🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tigerdeadlytiger]

16:24 lol at Markee's mistake reading the post. Went back 4-5 times to try to understand. He said OP's Dad was 41 female... Just listening I didn't understand how. But reading, it was 41 male. Slip of tongue but I caught it and laughed. You got me Markee

[@chelseasalmonstiles9471]

Story 2. Wtf did op go through so much effort for so long? I'm annoyed and confused

[@sandeesandwich2180]

Story 2: I can't believe OP held in for as long as she has. Also, I would never have paid for meals out for these dinners that her DAD invited her to. The inviter pays at least for themselves.

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

Who cares about this woke loser

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: NTA, why would you have your deadbeat bio-father walk you down the isle, when your stepdad stepped up and did the job. Child Support was an obligation he was required to pay by law, being a father is about way more than paying a few bills. Your bio-dad's flying monkeys are either in the dark about how you were treated growing up, or are equally big AHs as him. Story 1 (final update): I would advise a stipulation for contact be family therapy starting with individual meetings with the therapist, then joint. But again that is only if you want to establish direct contact.

[@meghanmckenzie5273]

Story 2: OP just go freaking NC with the sperm donor and his damn gf...jeez.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

If you keep hurting yourself walking into a wall, stop walking into wall. 🙄

[@DragonGamer0713]

Second story: OP, are you talking about MY dad?! Because I swear we're twins. Always sketchy around finances, ALWAYS ignores birthday/Christmas lists for random junk (either random shit that they found at Walmart or outdated shit I haven't be interested in, in years) and then blames you for being "too hard to shop for", uses gf/wife as the mouth piece instead of himself, you do BIG jobs for them (dog sitting, baby sitting!) and get NOTHING in return all because you botch up one thing and whoop all the good things you did mean nothing~ Both my Dad and his wife are huge narcs and I stay far away from them as I can. OP, please get angry. Stand your ground. Your dad is NOT a good person and neither is his gf. Just know you are not alone.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Markee, not sure if you know, but there is a final update to the tampon story, and it would have been a lot better, and easier, if the husband would have just cheated.

[@Markee]

I saw it today but didn't want to record a 4th episode. Will cover it second story tomorrow :)

[@PinkMarshmallows]

@@Markee Yay, can't wait.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

@@Markee Yay, can't wait.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@LostSoulchild89I didn’t wait and found it. Ew. Ew. Ewwww.

[@janenorwood1614]

Story 1- I went through the same with my sperm donor.. even later in life took care of him when diagnosed with cancer. He NEVER changed and made my home toxic. Treasure Lenny and move on

[@ajzephyros7454]

In Story 2 accidentally saying: Dad 41 Female. confused me

[@kaykay8855]

‘You are tearing our family apart!’ You mean how you tore op’s family apart, but it takes two to tango. Stepmom and Bio-dad ruined both of their families. Bio-dad threw away his daughter.

[@cocothedino_2901]

ive listened to a lot of reddit stories about cheating spouses and broken apart families and its laughable just how often the homewrecker accuses the upset child of “ruining the family” because they dont act the way the cheater wants. i swear its exclusively the worst people who lack any self awareness

[@MrJpaynebb]

That one commenter is probably correct. Many reddit stories of a cheating parent but the kids are still on good terms because that cheating parent was still involved and active in their kid's life. Unfortunately there are more stories of how a parent believes divorcing their spouse means divorcing their kids from that marriage and then are shocked those same kids as adults are low or no contact with them.

[@jjr9792]

Last Story - There's nothing I hate more than receiving a completely thoughtless gift, and then being expected to "be grateful I got anything at all." Like Op said, if you can't afford to buy someone a present, then just own up to it: YOU can't get them anything because YOU are broke. 99% of people understand this happens. Don't buy them a cheap piece of junk just so you can act like you're the benevolent one, putting yourself out, by spending what little you have on them. Especially when you're driving a brand new BMW.

[@TheMagicianOfGaming]

A few parts of this genuinely made me me break out laughing

[@dalejohns8343]

When my daughter got married she invited her dad to the wedding but completely forgot to ask him to walk her down the aisle. He said he didn't know what to expect and had come prepared with his "big" check book (the one with the majority of his money that his wife couldn't access!lol) and had expected to be asked to walk her down the aisle and pay for the wedding! Her best friend walked her down the aisle (and kept her on her feet, lol) and she didn't ask her dad for any money at all - I raised my kids really well!

[@tartlynerdy]

Story 1 - NTA. "You have to do as I say because I paid for your child support" wow what a flex do what you were court mandated. /s/ maybe op's dad was a good dad to the OTHER kids but he was a bad dad to op. It sounds like he was the bitter one after the divorce and projected onto op in passive aggressive ways. (Neglectful, focusing all the attention on the new family, making promises and then bailing on them last minute, being absent). "He's very upset and crying all the time" good. Cry some more. The affair partner wife needs to ask why he's getting upset about a family he lost twenty years ago though she's probably afraid of what he'll say if she feels "her family is breaking". If he had the cruelty to cheat, be heartless to his own daughter, he can very well turn that energy to his AP. Story 2 - ew. The minimal effort parents that think they're mom or dad of the year. It's rich dad's girlfriend thinks her opinion has any weight in this situation. But what's with people trying to make a kid have a relationship with a neglectful or an abusive parent? Leave your daddy/mommy issues out of your own kids lives, please.

[@theplutt7795]

1st story: She should have told the stepmom that shes not mad for something that happened 20 years ago. She mad for something that been going on for 20 years. Almost her entire childhood. A child wanted her dad, and he never came. What is there for her to be grateful for?

[@janespencer7864]

She should tell her bio dad that he already gave her away when he cheated and dipped.

[@LaurensCorner]

Im from 2nd OPs area. £22k a year is a decent wage for one person, 2 people is more than substantial. A masters degree is an expensive thing even with a student loan, but you still have to pay at least a couple thousand in fees. So this dads a deadbeat narcissistic dad. OP should drop him.

[@jodieg6318]

Another story of "he may have been your father but he wasn't your daddy."

[@caridadchang7895]

I wonder if the sperm donor (gotta love how reddit refuses to call certain people parents) realized that his other kids are as selfish as he is, and he is wondering how likely they are to help look after him once he is old. We have seen many stories of absent/abusive parents still expect for their most neglected kid to look after them. just what came to mind.

[@lharchmage6908]

Story 1 NTA OP needs to post to her social media this whole story list everything bio missed Everytime he ditched her. Tag all his friends, family and coworkers. Publicly shame him.

[@soosgoes]

My dad would leave us on and off throughout my childhood. He would stopped helping my mom financially, so she had to pick up another full time job and a side hustle to make ends meet. He’s currently paying for my rent and expenses while I’m working on my masters. He likes the brag about it to others that he’s “paying for tuition”(he’s not), but we tell him that he shouldn’t be celebrating finally helping us out financially.

[@CanonSkyrissian]

story 1: to paraphrase yondu udonta, he may be your father but he isn't your daddy

[@AAAforshort]

God the greediness of dad 2 is just EMBARRASSING, and his pos gf is the exact same - even having op pay for some lunches together like they're dirt poor so they take advantage of a college student, disgusting

[@hanoh2904]

I think there might be hope for the first sperm donor but in the second story op should send a Christmas card saying " you are dead to me!

[@andysixxstalkerangeloftrag5833]

He didnt raise OP. Also he is throwing up the child support. Boy, I bet he wouldn't have paid at all if that had been an option. Child support is court ORDERED. Not requested, not suggested. Ordered. Paying half the bills for a child because you couldn't wrap it up doesn't entitle you to anything. That is your responsibility for bringing her into the world. Making sure that even if she isn't emotionally, physically, or mentally cared for, financially she is. It is the absolute bare minimum. The barest of the bare. He even stopped seeing her altogether. Hes no dad 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@telinhajp]

Good night, Markee! Wishing you a fantastic weekend!　おやすみ！ ❤️🤗

[@ladykay5891]

My ex husband stopped being a dad to our only daughter when she was 10. Yet was great with our older boys. He skipped out on child support that was court ordered then decided she wasn’t worth that much. I told him he was to pay for her college tuition. He paid 2 maybe 3 times which was 1 full year or 3 semesters. She went for 3 years 3 semesters each year. So $1500 out of the $4000. She graduated with honours in interior design. She is very artistic, he was an artist, she is better. She has a band, he plays guitar but not much. She plays bass guitar the most and plays guitar, keyboards, drums and background vocals. She’s in a different league than he ever was. I played flute, piccolo, keyboards and I was Opera trained 2nd soprano. She is better then us both. She is engaged. Her bf has a drone-mom. Always hanging around her only son, asking him to go places with her. I told my daughter to elope then hold a small wedding and party after for the families. His mom will cause a scene and her sperm donor probably won’t show up. It took her 10 years to stop thinking of him as her dad. Her oldest brother is 9 years older then her and has treated her like a father would. He helped my mom babysit her when I worked.

[@JasperCatProductions]

I wonder how the step dads kid(s) feel about playing second fiddle to OP……..

[@piratsnygg]

Calling a six-year-old bitter is just unreal.

[@LovesGaming37]

Story one: so the OP was the only one neglected? What the hell? Are the other bio children with his mistress?

[@PowerStruggle555]

kind of funny, OP calls her dad out on missing a ton of life events. He acts like he was the best dad in the world and is shock she says that.....what does he do? He skips her wedding. If he wants a relationship start being there for her. their relationship is (or at least was) fixable but wasnt going to happen over night. it would take time. if he wanted to be a father, he'd have to take it slowly. if she wanted him at wedding butdidnt want him to walk her down the aisle...ok....maybe ask for a dance. baby steps. by him skipping wedding out of pettiness further proves her feelings towards him. is he going to show up after baby is born expecting to be grandpa? like everything didnt happen? if he wants to rebuild the relationship then he now has to take ant steps. refusing to attend the wedding out of anger pushed their relationship so far back. he'd need to do a lot to have a possibility. Id suggest op tell him so (if she is open). if she needs help, he does it but he is on thin ice. "forget", ignore, skip, etc anything. nope.

[@lolo_z]

And what did home wrecking step mom do when the dad was being absent in his daughter's life? I know it wasn't her place to push him to maintain a relationship with his own kid, but it's still not her place to say anything to OP even in this case. She should have sat there and ate her food. I won't even talk about the dad. The only reason why he didn't go to the wedding is that people would see how OP feels about him when she walks down the isle with step-dad while bio dad is there. He was just being a self serving jerk like he has always been

[@PowerStruggle555]

my aunt's husband cheated on her, they divorced..he did marry the woman. But unlike OP....my cousin still had a relationship with her father. he was still there for her. Only reason he didnt walk her down the aisle was because he had sadly died less than a year prior because of a heart attack. everyone (my cousin, my aunt and pretty much entire family) would mostly say good things about him. yes he cheated on my aunt but all and all was still good a man, a good father. No long lasting hard feelings towards him and his new wife (my aunt did marry someone so did work out for everyone in the end)

[@geminigenu]

Girl, just go NC with him. OP’s father and his girlfriend are absolutely toxic and deserve each other. I feel sorry for any children they have together. I hope the girlfriend knows she’ll be treated like the ex wife in due time. He’s just waiting to find something better.

[@LovelyCinccino]

First Story: Anyone else have zero doubt that the ‘dad’ would had bailed last minute if OP granted his request?

[@ambermcglone4811]

Story 1) Lenny is a real man ! We need more men like Lenny ! Plz tell Lenny how much you appreciate him for being a father to you . Your dad is a total AH

[@Iflie]

People has such low expectations of fathers it's crazy. If the mother had done what he did the family would have trashed her not demanded the kid make her feel better about her choices. My own father is such a gold star narc too, he just blames my mother for making him seem bad, not that he straight out fled the country, didn't pay child support and ignored our needs and wasn't even nice during visitation and he did the same thing twice, with his new family too. Yet still claims he loves his children so much, no he doesn't, he just likes the idea of being seen as a good dad...from far away in another country. It's always better to have as little to do with narcs as possible though, I'm very glad he was far away most of the time, enough trouble when he was around for my brother.

[@materhead5051]

Story 2 OP sounds bratty and like the narcissist in this story tbh. Worrying about gifts and what is bought for you like this is ridiculous.

[@leroysgamesandmore2226]

I’m practically a step dad to my girlfriend’s daughter we have been together for over 5 years now and I’ve literally been the only father in her life she’s never met her bio dad he bounced when my girlfriend said she was pregnant

[@KE-hr4sb]

S1: NTA. He's not your dad, he's your sperm donor. He did the bare, legal minimum (child support), and thinks that makes him Father of the Year? 🙄 Nah fam. Tell him maybe he should have spent some time observing Lenny to learn what being a real father looks like, and that he's still bitter and would ruin your ceremony, so you're uninviting him. "He asked if I was still upset about the past?" It's NOT the past though; he's continued the behavior into the present! He still can not tell OP one thing about her, hasn't shown up to any life events, and doesn't reach out first. But to him, yesterday probably counts as "the past" if he's being held accountable. "She says I'm being bitter about things that happened 20 years ago." More of the "it's in the past" arguments I see. They really are meant for each other. Tell her she has never once apologized, never tried in any way to make amends for what she did, and actually pushed you further away. Of course, you're still bitter; her rug-sweeping and pretending it never happened doesn't make it magically go away! Not to mention you are so right when you say some acts are unforgivable, and many people consider cheating to be on that list. But I'm not surprised she wants to act like it's not a big deal; she's a cheater, and cheaters are, by nature, selfish. Speaking of selfish, you notice your father is all, "I'm so hurt," "I'm missing out on my first grandchild!"? Not ONCE has he asked, or even thought of how *you're* feeling, what he can do to make amends, or even what is best for the baby; it's all manipulations and guilt trips. Selfish. S2: Why are you putting in so much effort to people that clearly DGAS? There is a very simple solution to this: Put in exactly as much effort as they are. Instead of paying extra shipping and getting them what they want, start getting them the same sort of things they get/got you prior. They got you baubles this year? You get them baubles next year. If they get offended and ask what the hell is this crap, parrot back the same excuses defending the presents that they told you. He doesn't call you? You stop calling him. If you never talk, that's a win/win. If he has Becky with the good hair play secretary and message you on his behalf that he's upset you don't speak, remind her that he is allowed to call you, nothing is stopping him. Stop inviting him to things, and for heaven's sake stop doing him favors like dog sitting. Has he ever done a favor for you, in your entire life? How about your adult life? My mother used to think it was hilarious to get the spirit of what I asked for as a gift, not the actual thing; for instance, I got a plastic toy horse for my thirteenth birthday (no, I didn't actually ask for a horse, but she knew I dreamed of getting one). For my sixteenth birthday, I got a model car. So that Christmas, she got Barbie clothes when she asked for a dress. Suddenly it wasn't so funny...but she never pulled that shit again.

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

OP, if I were you I would go NO CONTACT with your dad, I mean what is the purpose? Let him know WHY and stop upsetting yourself!

[@catsncrows]

S1 Why do people think "I contributed DNA, I have rights! (or ownership) 😡"? The commenter "tell him he's still bitter" lol omg, spot on. He's being such a poor booboo crying all the time. Op is being savage. Good on her! He hasn't realized he messed up, he's being a self victimizing manipulative twit. After S2 I'm renaming this video "The manipulative crap parent video"

[@nightdweller6446]

S1 nta, go with the dad who was present in your life.

[@Rorschachqp]

Mad about the past? Of course she is and that's the whole point...the guy was not the dad in her life in the past. It all builds up to this. Also, on another note, also about him skipping the wedding...isn't that his standard MO anyway? :)

[@Vipre-]

It's no shock at all cheater dad is acting like that, from the start he's shown he only cares about what he wants and has no problem lashing out when his demands aren't met.

[@lifewithlee6298]

Story 2 seems like the Dads holding a grudge on the mom for getting pregnant, and is taking it out on op

[@LovesGaming37]

Walking your daughter down the aisle isn't a right. We women aren't objects that men can trade.

[@Rael0505]

Can anyone tell me what chuck a prawn at the Barbie means?

[@Some_Idiot_on_the_Internet]

I gave my sister away at her wedding. Apparently our dad was not expecting that, he stayed quiet about it though. I think he understood.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 1 It didn't happen 20 years ago it started 20 years ago and lasted for her whole childhood. This wasn't one episode it was a lifetime of parenting failures. Just block and delete these toxic people.

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

“He feels bad about what he did” *GOOD.* He shoulda felt bad years ago when he was cheating, but no, now he gets the comeuppance. And someone tell that hypocrite homewrecking shrew to look in the mirror! “Ruining our family”, indeed!

[@gilles111]

Didn't you post the first story before? Sounds familiar to me. Said at that video, why would OP invite the family and dad. If dad (and family) wasn't there all those years why invite them to a day where you want to celebrate your marriage with the people you want to be there?

[@madambutterfly1997]

I disagree you can love Harry Potter and hate j.k. Rowling's guts

[@ACAB.forcutie]

Honestly the sperm donor is lucky he's even allowed to be at her wedding, since he's clearly still bitter 🤷‍♀️

[@brianaschmidt910]

'he didn't pay child support just to be disrespected' No, you paid child support so you didnt end up in jail. If you wanted the honor of being my dad then maybe you should've acted like it

[@cnow82]

Dude. Story 2 she just let him use her for too long. He only brought hurt and she kept letting them hurt her. Why TF would she not cut him off?! Don’t listen to people saying “but family” cause that is BS. Stop letting him take advantage of her! If you can’t grow a spine, you either don’t like yourself enough. Or you feed on the drama. Either means she needs help to actually care about herself.

[@johnsradios484]

Only paid the child support?

[@pauldavisjr.3284]

Second op stop wasting your time on a parent who doesn't really care for you. When he's old and needs help remember Everytime he's let you down and let him figure things out. Also once you're an adult you get to decide what kind of relationship you have with your parents.

[@pamlew338]

Gift giving. I keep questable gifts I keep it in the same packages and return it to them. OP 7 dollars is not going to put any body in the poor house

[@needles1987]

I hope the bio dad apologizes for being a shit father and not attending her wedding.

[@anthonylarajr8892]

16:22 dad is a female 😮😮😮

[@tashacooper1753]

Why do so many of us have bad dads?

[@saintjamesent.866]

Are we just gonna gloss over "baubles" and "ootie" wtf?

[@99stranger99]

The girl from the second story is pathetic, instead of complaining she should change things

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Jinkies, _two_ terrible father posts? Oh my.

[@ladyv5655]

What's with all these sperm and egg donors who want to dip out of there children's lives, but then want to play starring roles in the weddings and graduations?

[@ladyv5655]

Umm, walking a daughter down the aisle at her wedding isn't a right. It's an honor that it is the bride's choice whether or not to offer. Definitely, OP needs to uninvite him and all of his flying monkeys.

[@civivva4501]

For the sake of my sanity I sometimes have to stop listening to these sad, pathetic angering stories.

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

I don't understand why OP in story 2 has anything to do with her sperm donor. She keeps going back for more damage.

[@sfsin3380]

"this might sound bratty" and that's why. OP's Dad had set this up so if OP complained to people growing up it would sound like Op was being a "self-centered spoilt brat" for not being grateful enough. Bait and switch gift giving is a hallmark of this as is the reply he gave the grandparent. Sad part is it works way way too often It just OP's Dad pushed the insulting gifts too far (with the bubbles) and he missed that Op has gotten too old for some of his behavior to be excused as "teaching responsibility" (like the not repaying Op in any way for the dog sitting) and now other people can see what he's doing.

[@kiraalexandraruizburgos1236]

🦐

[@johnbradbury8610]

Story 2, I don't blame at all. however, if she dog sits again or expects anything it will be 100% her fault. You are not a brat Op, you've just had enough.

[@muhname6052]

I'm so sick of the "I can't like harry potter because jkr." Yes you can. Just don't buy anything new. Even then she's made her money already. There is no real difference between almost a billion and fully one billion. No I don't support jkr but damn after a point you're just pointless

[@njambs-tm5pt]

Second story; too much details. Narrated like someone who would be mad at JKR 😑

[@Nate_-gm1js]

Ay I’m early this time

[@MrArmydude001]

Early Gang