I Gave My Husband An Ultimatum After I Caught Him Cheating...Again r/Relationships

[@dannyells]

“Monogamy is hard” dude no it isn’t 😂 I’m in an accidentally monogamous relationship because we are too lazy to date other people.

[@squirrel670]

The thought is if you think monogamy is hard then poly isn't the answer

[@amemooress6291]

​@@squirrel670oooooooo. I love that saying.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

@@squirrel670literally. Poly am os wild. When you open shit, how strong you are then is as strong as you’ll ever be is another phrase I stand by

[@squirrel670]

@@drewthistlethwaite8909 yeah, it's not a bandaid to fix any relationship already broken.

[@SherlocksLeftNipple]

Story 2: I have never hoped someone beat cancer more in my goddamn life. OP deserves so, so, so much more than they thought they did at the start of this story. They are not a "filler person", they're a deeply traumatized human being, who deserves to go make real friends, real family, and find real love, which will give back as much as OP gives to them and help them feel seen and cared for. They deserve to value themselves higher than this, and to be ANGRY at their shitty parents and shitty friends and craptastic husband. They deserve to fucking LIVE. Dear God, let this OP live. And I hope they heal, and rage, and cry, and see the world after they've kicked cancer's ass. Godspeed, OP.

[@Mia-dt3gl]

I want to give Story 2’s OP a hug. Her parents don’t love her, her husband doesn’t love her, and most of her friends don’t care about her wellbeing. No wonder she doesn’t tell more people about her diagnosis.

[@kaykay8855]

It breaks my heart that no one in op’s life: not her parents who are supposed to love you unconditionally, not her husband her chosen family, who ran to his ex, gave a crap about op.

[@DrewLSsix]

It's hard to listen to, partly because I can identify with what she's gone through, but also because I suspect so much of it is self inflicted. She didn't choose her shitty parents, and she didn't shooter the baggage they gave her, but at this point in life she's obviously very aware of what's wrong, she's bitter and suffering as shown by her comments and the way she chooses to share information. But she's doing nothing about any of it she carries the burden of a disinterested husband like its a paying job, she keeps the *friends* that don't respect her in the picture, she doesn't even TRY do get more from life. That's a horrible thing to go through.

[@GBunnyG]

I want to be her friend. Because JESUS.

[@kaykay8855]

@@DrewLSsix it’s hard to make yourself a priority when no one else has. She learned from a young age that she wasn’t important, that mindset carried on into her adulthood it’s not self inflicted if you were conditioned to think that way.

[@TitianBelle]

I hope she survives her cancer and then finds the strength to leave her crappy husband. That guy is a selfish jerk. I seriously doubt he’s going to see his ex girlfriend for “closure”. It doesn’t sound like he wants closure to me.

[@Ars-Nova258]

“Cheating makes relationships stronger.” “Shoplifting makes businesses more successful.” “HIV makes the body stronger.”

[@saltwatertaffy7020]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

The casual mention of OPs husband having a whole ass other love?! And that OP wouldn’t inspire that much emotion in her husband is so sad. I want OP to want better. Get you a man that doesn’t need to be dragged down the aisle, only to avoid embarrassing the family. Also, get you a man who thinks of _you_ as the love of their life.

[@thePhoenixQueen]

Love how she called out the misogynistic thoughts and behavior when it comes to sex.

[@jakemarie828]

I think that OP2's husband is contributing to OP's lack of sense of self. Plus, the way she was raised conditioned her to accept last place in everything. I hope she finds new people who see value in her. It's obvious just from her post that she is creative and interesting. I hope she pulls through ❤

[@johnbradbury8610]

Shes 34, and she has spent too long allowing people to walk all over her. Once she knew the truth about her husband she should have never stayed with him. She does seem interesting, but constant self-pity doesn't help a thing.

[@jakemarie828]

@@johnbradbury8610 self-pitty and low self-esteem are different. Shaming her for not standing up for herself is like shaming a Brazilian for not knowing Chinese. If they were never taught it, they won't know the language. Childhood trauma is not something you just shake off, reparenting can take decades and that's assuming the person even realizes something is wrong. It seems like this situation woke OP up in a good way.

[@ronhall5395]

Story 1, she knew he was never going to allow her to sleep around. He does not want the divorce or the open marriage. So he will never make a decision.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Yeah she was just leveling the playing field and he didn't didn't like the rules to that new game

[@catandrobbyflores]

​@juliearmfield2634 have to respect her shiny spine for laying it out.

[@juliearmfield2634]

@@catandrobbyflores oh yeah definitely I definitely respect her shiny spine. Way too many people go along with it when someone cheats and try and save the sinking ship by emptying out the water with a Dixie cup

[@lynnw7155]

It was a dumb ultimatum. I don't think you can just throw "open marriage" into an existing marriage. Just divorce him.

[@MinisterManDan]

@@lynnw7155he made it clear he can’t be monogamous. She offered to let him keep living his lifestyle but allowing her to do the same, or divorce. He picked neither so he got the divorce. If you cheat, what you’re saying is you can’t be monogamous. If your partner is willing to meet you halfway there, you should feel lucky

[@gcarr1089]

Last story - 😭😭😭😭 I just hope the husband's soul mate gives OPs husband the "let's just be friends" speech.

[@madambutterfly1997]

Finally somebody else who gets that sex is not as vital to a person's well-being as food is. you are not going to die from a deficiency of sex. if anything, a deficiency of sexual intimacy will just put you on the edge and give you a bad attitude that didn't exist prior. There's nothing life-threatening about not having sex

[@83gemm]

Not anywhere near as important as food, but it does cause some health issues. The thing is, you can treat those issues. It’s mostly heart disease risk (they think from lost exercise, so that’s an easy fix) and mental health issues which can be addressed in therapy. If you know you can’t go without sex, you need to be upfront about that. Discuss open relationships from the start. Cheating and the lying that goes with it aren’t excused by any of it. EDIT: Also, I hate the phrase “give me sex.” It’s so clear that a person who says that doesn’t see their partner as a person.

[@Bkgksan625]

@@83gemmThere is absolutely no scientific evidence that sex is vital for health. In fact people who are asexual and abstain from sex have been shown to be more healthier than their counterparts. There are benefits to having sex but opposite is not true. Not having sex doesn’t make you unhealthy. 🤷‍♀️

[@enerioffutt1881]

If, for whatever reason, you really feel the need for an orgasm or are incredibly horny, just take care of it yourself.

[@gordocarbo]

@@Bkgksan625 Exactly.Its over rated anyway, Same lawn cut a different way I could take it or leave, the bs you have to deal with most times isnt worth it anyways Its not a big deal

[@sadtitties222]

Story 2: I've never hated someone's husband more than I despise OP's (hopefully soon to be ex) husband. I mean, damn, this dude was just waiting for the go ahead to chase after his "true love". 🙄 This absolute goon is going to get a huge wake up call when he eventually realizes that who he's been pining for is not what he thought he wanted. I genuinely hope OP can heal from this! 💕

[@LotusBloom0309]

Story 2: As someone who had MS for five years before it was finally diagnosed, there is something so validating about a diagnosis, even if it is an incurable disease. It’s not that she is happy she has cancer. She is just so happy to have a concrete explanation for the symptoms she is feeling.

[@RedFreaderd]

I totally agree. Knowing you're not crazy and having an answer to whatever that pain is or nausea or whatever is just wrong with you that you can't freaking take a picture of or point to. It can be relieving. Answers matter a lot.

[@nondisclosure3920]

It's like everyone in her life gas lights her on the regular. Nancy sounds like a boss though

[@katie6731]

It's _astounding_ how quickly doctors label someone as attention-seeking, drug-seeking, and/or mentally ill when they don't feel like helping a patient figure out what's actually going on in their body. Blaming the patient is a catch-all excuse when a doctor gives up. The doctors who *don't* do this are rare and precious. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with something as life-changing as MS. If you can get physical therapy that includes pool therapy in a warm pool, I *highly* recommend it. Getting the weight off of the body in the water, along with the warmth of the pool seeping in to relax angry tissues is an amazing feeling. The water provides enough resistance to help re-build muscle, allow more movement, and enhance flexibility. I definitely understand the relief and validation because of _finally_ getting an answer. Keep an eye out for other autoimmune diseases . . .they tend to hang out in packs, like highschoolers clustering around the most popular kids. My body hates me, so I've gone through the same thing, too. I started with a Crohn's diagnosis (after fighting to get the doctor to take me seriously), and have added diagnoses of Raynaud's, psoriasis, and some kind of immune-mediated connective tissue disease that my rheumatologist can't figure out. The docs think I also have Lupus and Sjogren's. I also have endometriosis and Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome--along with it's frequent co-morbidities: GERD, gastroperesis, and probably POTS. The Ehlers-Danlos has caused so many problems, including dislocations that have led to muscle spasms and significant nerve damage. But, just having names to call my chronic illnesses has made a _hugely_ positive impact on my mental health, the way my healthcare team relates to me, and the quality of care I've received since. Part of me wants to send out letters chastising every doctor who told me ghat everything was in my head, that I was "too healthy" to see them, who asked if my symptoms were because I had a "bad" marriage (hubs is amazing, and loves me despite our lives not going as planned; plus, if he hadn't insisted on taking me to the ER when I've hesitated, several of my infections could have led to a rather final outcome), or that I just needed to smile more (yeah, that one was rough). Everyone I know who has been through the years-long fight with the medical establishment for a diagnosis has a similar reaction. We're not alone. Sending you gentle hugs and extra spoons, if you want them. 💙🫂🥄🥄🥄

[@elizabethescalante8114]

It's adorable how some idiots think that sex is as essential as food, water or air. To quote one of the Happy Bunny sayings: "It's cute how stupid you are" 😂 (Being sarcastic.)

[@Tijggie82]

it's not really that cute for the person they think should give it to them....

[@elizabethescalante8114]

@@Tijggie82 I know. I was being sarcastic.

[@tigernotwoods914]

It is. People need sex. It’s a literal need. Not as much as food or water but pretty close.

[@elizabethescalante8114]

@@tigernotwoods914 Hahaha! 🤣🤣🤣 You're funny.

[@Tijggie82]

@@tigernotwoods914 you have hands, no?

[@holyek7892]

The last story. It's so sad, but if she has lung cancer she can do anything she wants. She can go on a rampage. She can do anything free from horrible long lasting consequences.

[@johnbradbury8610]

Lung cancer is not a death sentence. especially if treated early.

[@mercyjokes2d696]

I'd be building Kill-Dozer and planning my grand exit stage left! (Check out the true crime story of Kill-Dozer.…)

[@tideio]

@@johnbradbury8610yes! A relative of mine had stage 3 lung cancer and she’s been in remission for 5 years. I’m hoping praying to whatever out there that op beats cancer and hopefully divorces her husband. I read that post on Reddit yesterday night and was just crying for op, and I’m crying typing this I just want to huge her

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@tideio I wish you and your relative the best. If Op is going to beat it she can't just go on a rampage.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

By no means is this girl definitely dying

[@SCP01986]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Get your alimony and go!

[@Davtwan]

I do like her methods of going towards the divorce (even though he’ll probably lie his ass off to others).

[@tigernotwoods914]

Alimony shouldn’t even exist.

[@LilFeralGangrel]

i disagree, i think they can change but they won't for the person they are cheating on

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@tigernotwoods914 No it should not.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@Davtwan She is a shitty mother if she thinks it's a good idea to have two parents sleeping around. her line about getting pregnant and either aborting it or giving it to the dad makes her sound like a sociopath. I feel bad for the children for having two shitty parents.

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

Story 2: What...in...the..hell did I just hear??? Why in the world is this OP married to that jackass??

[@marilynbartlett1850]

That's what men do. My mother got nsclc, stage 3B, and my stepdad went right out and had an affair. He'd leave her alone on the couch and go meet his mistress 2 hours away and my mother couldn't even get up by herself. Once he left her and she fell in the bathroom and a neighbor came to check on her and found her. He used to call her while she was in hospice to make her set up his medical appointments; he was virtually helpless. I was living almost four hours away and had two toddlers when all this was going on and found out after the fact. He married the mistress less than 60 days after my mother died; her gravestone hadn't even been placed yet. He tried breaking up my marriage so I'd be forced to move where he was and bring my children with me and take care of him. So yeah.

[@tideio]

@@marilynbartlett1850why do an overwhelming amount of men do this?!

[@nondisclosure3920]

​@@marilynbartlett1850Jesus! What pos, I'm sorry for you and your mother ❤

[@nondisclosure3920]

Further to what @marilymbartlett1850 said, there are pamphlets especially for married woman about divorce in the waiting rooms of cancer specialists. Statistically, women are ver likely to stay and look after their partners until the end. Men, unfortunately tend to leave or cheat. Societies gender roles have a lot to answer for!

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

@@marilynbartlett1850 my God that is awful, I am so sorry that you had to deal with that. I'm so sorry your mother had to go through that. Did your father ever show any remorse?

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 2: I hope the husbands ex is unaware of what happens and finds out after OP leaves him and then ditches him too because the dude is a shitbag. Seriously though, either she's aware that the husband is a PoS and is fine with it and they're likely both not great people, or she's unaware and if she's anything resembling a decent person she's going to drop him hard and never talk to him again when she finds out he's ditching his wife with cancer to hit her up.

[@nondisclosure3920]

Everyone seems to be assuming that ex will want to get back with him. We don't know anything about the content of his conversation with her. He could just be glowing cos they've talked and they're meeting up. I hope she's horrified that he's discussing their past when now married with a family. I also think he's so self absorbed he won't think twice about telling her his wife's diagnosis. If she's still interested then then she's as crappy a person as he is

[@MrArielK]

Op wants to leave husband, not the other way around. Ex left husband over incompatible life-style, they won’t be back together. Most people do have “the one that got away” but that doesn’t mean you don’t love/care about your current partner

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

“My husband’s soulmate” Oh, sweetheart, you poor wounded doe, life has not been kind. The sheer fact that even then you’re not talking about yourself… fuck, man, i know it’s overplayed on Reddit hut honestly, what benefit are you really getting with people that barely consider you? And the damn lung cancer still doesn’t end up making people properly care about her Leaving it all behind and just finding a new life with whatever amount of time she has left seems better in comparison.

[@oliviaksiag6163]

OP in that last story is just depression personified. I hope we get an update on how much her life improves now that she's figured out how messed up it is, and I really hope she beats the cancer into the ground.

[@smarttechaddict]

The illness story. I had the same but different lung condition. After being called a hypochondriac to be told I wasn't faking was a relief. Now i knew what was wrong I could face it. She did nothing wrong. My ex left too, life is easier without him and the illness together.

[@Tsuki_Itsubi]

Story 2 is one of the most upsetting stories ive ever heard that didnt involve a predator. As someone who often feels like a meaningless prop in the background, my heart goes out to OP. I wish her the best in her recovery, i hope she can cut the leeches out of her life and find the people who can see her value with every interaction. OP if you see this, you arent alone, never stop fighting to see a brighter sunrise

[@taylorslade961]

The way everyone in this thread is talking about sex is concerning. Sex is not a need. It's a fun thing to do but def not a need. Everyone needs to stop viewing sex that way and situations like this are much less likely.

[@anhiel_amg]

I feel so much like the second OP, I want to hug her

[@kazzuo32]

#2. I want to see and update in the next couple of months from Op I hope she gets well and start making a bucket list and find people that genuinely cares about her.

[@KJ-sp9jq]

Markee is hitting all the feels lately. S2 on this video and the previous one are just heart breaking. Reminds you how short life really is.

[@SwirlyPinwheel]

You know what? I hope OP's husband's "soulmate" is a genuinely good person and disgusted by how he's been treating his WIFE.

[@samalvarez8776]

Can someone please tell me how "cheating makes the relationship stronger" bs? Does anyone actually know the logic behind this statement?

[@AAAAYYEE2]

Story 2: I hope OP leaves her husband and friends and go love life to the fullest. My heart goes out to her ❤

[@YellaBellaReno]

Woah. I am glad that second OP is in some real therapy. She sounds… very dissociated. I honestly can relate to her in some ways, and I’m sorry she’s had such a rough go of things. Some of us are just dealt a bad hand, and I’m glad I came to that conclusion in my teens and not in my thirties… although my thirties have been VERY enlightening.

[@Goldenxbih]

The second story is even more depressing Oml. Her husband is in love with is ex, she just needs to get therapy and figure out her life atp. Update: yeah nevermind…. I just feel sad for op :(

[@NiMissNi]

I'm happy you made a second video because the first one was depressing

[@Markee]

Do not listen to the second story then lmao

[@11darkraven11]

​@@Markee D:

[@NiMissNi]

​@@Markee How would I know it was depressing without listening to it? Lol

[@nondisclosure3920]

​@@LostSoulchild89he said it after the poster commented about the content of this video. That's not forewarning, that's telling someone to close the barn doors after the horses have bolted

[@Fireprincess161]

As someone who took YEARS to get a diagnosis for a simple fracture (it became an infected bone and mild blood poisoning) I feel OP in story 2. Mine's not as bad as hers, I get that. But still the day I got a doctor to listen to me, and I got a diagnosis I was giddy. Even the 'we might need to admit you to hospital' was good news.

[@sgtjarhead99]

OP choose wisely. Opening the marriage will not take away the fact that you've been betrayed.

[@taylorlibby7642]

Once you've reached the point of ultimatums it's time to leave.

[@patty-pat-pat]

For real. She sat there writing up rules for him to cheat and her having an imaginary boyfriend next to her husband. Girl, please, it's embarrassing!

[@peepoteep365]

​@@patty-pat-patI was devastatingly embarrassed for her

[@patty-pat-pat]

@@peepoteep365 she recovered quite well though! In the end she came back to her senses.

[@deballen7031]

Oh lord, wtf? That last post was the saddest, most awful thing I've ever heard. Completely heartbreaking. 😭

[@Iflie]

Ex you haven't seen in many years breaks a leg, sad for a year, wife has lungcancer right now, well make me dinner, birthday, what birthday?

[@SherriLyle80s]

This is silly. Just divorce. He already broke the first rules (your vows). He won't keep up with these new rules either.

[@draconisdragonheart4248]

Story 2: I hope OP finds someone who loves her and dumps her husband who is better off with his EX.

[@filliaa3661]

Finally someone said it. Ethical non-monogamy also needs as much effort, thats why people cheat.

[@suitov]

OP2, get that guy who's technically your spouse to turn on location. We all just want to talk with him for a minute.

[@phantomflower6749]

I don't get why cheaters want to stay in their relationship with their SO, when it's so obviously they don't respect them or think they satisfy their selfish needs. A divorce/break up should be ideal for them! That means no sneaking around, sleep with whoever you want, do what you want with no consequences...but they still want to 'make it work' because they're oh so sorry and don't want to lose their SO. Once that line has been crossed there's no such thing as going back. Even if they do try again and stick together the trust is no longer there. The love has been significantly damaged...Who'd want to be in a relationship like that? It would be better for both parties if they just go their separate ways!

[@ergotempusvernum]

I've been in OP 2's shoes before (minus the cancer bit) and there is a certain point when you have to stop being a perpetual victim ("filler person") and just be awesome on your own. Sounds like she's getting there.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 2: NTA; but your friends and husband are for being dismissive towards you and taking you for granted!

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 2: Divorce your husband now; he does not love you because if he did then he would not have been an hour late to the wedding!

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I thought the vows were an ultimatum. Forsake all others or divorce. If you don't want or can't do monogamy, then don't get married.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

You can be married and nonmonogamous, that just has to be determined and agreed by both

[@kaykay8855]

@@alexanderhenby1362but the thing is op and her stbx aren’t poly (or at the very least stbx is poly and didn’t disclose). Hubby just wants an excuse to cheat.

[@Broeckchen]

​@@kaykay8855Yes. But the comment at the top sounds very generalized, so that's why the comment you're replying to addresses that part. It's not aimed at the specific case of the video. This may simply be an issue of semantics/understanding, in that the first comment can be read generally or in regards to the video. The commenter before you read it one way, you read it a different way. I doubt that you actually fully disagree with each other when it comes to the case in question.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@Broeckchen Why get married which is a monogamous "thing" if you aren't going to practice monogamy??? Legally, you and ONLY be married to one other person, thus if you aren't going to be monogamous, marriage is NOT for you. It doesn't matter what context it is in.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@alexanderhenby1362 Yes, it is called "Cheating".

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2 OP needs to move into a new circle of people. Her family, and even worse, her *husband* doesn't care about her? Her "friends" aren't her friends, and her colleagues forget her birthday but conveniently remember she's there when they want help moving? Ghost them all and find your people, cause they ain't it. I'm sorry, the love of your husband's life is referring to another woman, not you? Why are you with him knowing you're (at the very least) second best? And pushing him to reconnect is asking for him to cheat on her with you. You need some rage, OP. Flip a few tables.

[@kimholland4822]

Story 2. I knew a ghost person. I didn't know that was what she was called. When I met her I liked her and we became friend it wasn't until we had been friend's for a while that I realized how people used her and didn't really see her. It was different to help her gain confidence and see her self worth. And get other's to see that she is a real person with feelings not just some one to use and then ignore. She just accepted it, it was normal for her. 😢Op I wish I could give you a a huge hug sending you love peace and happiness. 💜😘🤗

[@maxinemyers9215]

Prayers for OP 2 and I hope for healing and love in her life🙏💙 Her husband is a pile of crap!!! Thanks Markee💐

[@devegas4910]

Story 2: I’m really rooting for op to either recover and tell everyone in her life aside from Nancy and the few that actually cared about her to go screw themselves and she lives the rest of her life happy and loved. Or should that not happen, I hope that makes them all personal videos to recount how they’ve treated her and tricks them into watching them with an audience

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S2- I hate that she’s not loved. Not by her family or husband. As bad as it sounds, but the diagnosis of her condition has open her eyes to show her that she has a lot to live for and now she’s taking back her life. I hope she divorces her husband, only bc if she does go far far away, she’ll go without his last name attached to her. I bet him seeing his, “One that got away” isn’t the same person he fell in love with and they have grown into two different people. What a POS the husband is.

[@zerobolt9506]

That last story...I just have no words 😕, i cannot be the only one sad now after hearing it, man Markee's got to feel so much worse for having had read it.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1 (before update): Just divorce and take all you can, he has already shown that he will not follow the rules (vows). Your children will be far happier if you leave him and get into a healthy relationship. Staying together "for the kids" is not healthy for anyone. Story 1 (update): Good for you, divorce and then living your best life is the best revenge.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Yeah I kind of think she knew from the start it was going to be divorced but I kind of think she wanted to let him sweat being miserable for a while. I hope that little cashier was worth it

[@britnicox3929]

1: that one comment about libido and how it can be ruined by men not taking time is SO real. I’m glad she 2: god this story…I hope she decides that it’s better to be lonely ALONE than lonely with other people. The fact that she feels normal alone and with strangers but gets pushed to the back with people who know and are supposed to love her is heartbreaking. I want to be her friend and hug her, I want to strangle her husband, I want smack some sense into her family until they do better. Him being so happy to reach out to his ex and treating HER better after it just made it worse. These people just take from her and it makes me SO angry how they’ve cared so little about her. It’s cruel. She better go to that flower festival, live her absolute best life, and leave these awful people

[@ruddiko]

Last story was brutal. I'm hoping so hard OP lives to dump her shitty husband, all her relatives and friends and starts anew, hopefully with someone that can make her what she deserves to be, the center of his world 😢

[@MrsKatieninja]

Wife is cold blooded. If no kids were involved id say good, teach him a lesson. But with kids id say just get the divorce maaaaaan.....

[@Ayimii]

Omg story 2 has made me realize something. I have been isolating myself horribly for the past 3 years. I've divorced my husband after I have been miserable with him for so long. I've lost friends, I don't go out anymore. I don't know why I don't enjoy anything. I just feel tired. I've been prioritizing everyone else in my life and I've been draining myself. I don't know how to make relationships with people normally. I never feel the need for help, or to complain but everyone vents to me about everything and it honestly never bothers me. Nothing ever bothers me. People need to feel needed to have any type of relationship with someone. I emotionally never need anyone. How do I change this? I'm already tired, now I have to pretend to vent to people about annoyances and ask people for things when I would rather just get it done myself? I don't have to be in control, and if I need help I don't mind asking, but it's for physical things. Where do I even start?

[@devchekhov7512]

Story 2: I have never felt so broken hearing that story. My mom is recovering from cancer and my dad has been there for her every step of the way, but $50 says OP's husband will leave her when the going gets tough during chemo, because she's not "useful" to him anymore. OP, protect yourself from your husband financially in preparation for divorce, and all the good luck to be had for your treatment. May you have many more happy, fulfilling years than you can imagine.

[@nondisclosure3920]

You're dad unfortunately is in the minority of husbands so he's a frigging legend in my book. You and your family are lucky to have him. Glad your mum is recovering ❤

[@rebeccahayward9607]

Story 2: "the love of his life got into a car accident-" Me: "Wait, OP was in a car accident as well?!" :O *continues listening* Me: "hang on..." *listening more intently* Me: "His wife ISN'T the love of his life?!" Jesus. Poor OP has been let down by basically everyone in her life. My heart is hurting for her :(. I hope she beats cancer and leaves all those deadbeats behind.

[@kaykay8855]

The op from story 2…just… oof…I felt that.

[@needles1987]

OP's husband should have just chosen the open relationship if he wanted to stay with her.

[@memyselfandi7782]

Op in story 2: so proud of you❤🥺😭 keep trying, you’re doing great

[@kevinclark495]

why is op in story 2 with her husband? she knows shes second best to another woman amd he was going to leave her at the alter and she still married him?

[@devegas4910]

Story 1: she read the entire Hetero male population for filth. And I loved every second of it. As for her divorce, I hope that in the near future, op meets a man who is everything her husband wasn’t. Plus as handsome as Shemar Moore or Roman Reigns and rich. Let it tear him up inside to see her happy, thriving, and being romanced by someone he couldn’t compete with for even the love of one thousand women.

[@kateemma22]

I have so many issues with EVERYONE (except Nancy, we love Nancy!) in OP2's life. 'The love of my husband's life almost died...' me, a bit slow: You were in an accident to... wait a f*king minute.

[@starlaaster523]

Lady who is dying NTA. Its not unusual for people who were called hypochondriac and lazy to be really happy to get a diagnosis no matter how mad that diagnosis is. As for the husband it can be really hard on the spouse. Let him bring you soup or something on bad days. Let him bring you flowers or stuffed animal. There are special hoodies that have zippers on the arms so you can get an iv without removing the jacket. Ask him to buy it for you.

[@k3upikachu]

I don't know any women who have low libidos... I personally want to have sex every day because my boyfriend is very good at making sure I'm satisfied. Putting the entire load of housework on women and/or not caring about our pleasure will kill our sex drive. If your female partner loses interest in sex, and it's not for a medical reason, think about whether one of those factors might be the cause

[@ponchopeligroso]

I want to aggressively be OP number twos friend. I’m baking them cookies I’m texting them every day her husband is an honest to God monster he’s a monster and I would love to be able to scream at him for three hours. How dare he find this broken person to make his fucking place holder that’s disgusting I want to yell at that man so badly, I want to make him cry, and I could.

[@soCyberWasTaken]

Love the big Jack O'Lantern for Spooktober. Great work as always, Markee!

[@tamicablanding]

I hope OP in story 2 divorces her husband and let’s the neighbors help her. Tell his family they should have let him run on the wedding day because he never loved her but is still to this day in love with his ex.

[@lina9535]

...Hold up. Story 2. OP has a husband.. what's with the "love of his life" that's a whole other person?

[@ammo19911]

Story 1 around 11:40; damn, this was a perfect explanation of my ex girlfriend in my last relationship, I kept giving her chances. Now the guy she supposedly didnt cheat with is also single 😅

[@nothereyetlost]

It’s crazy how women are blamed for not giving enough sex like something is wrong with HER but not the guy for needing an UNGODLY amount of sex that the woman would have to lie on her back 24/7. we know a woman needs to eat and sleep and shower but somehow she’s also supposed to give sex 24/7 like that is normal.

[@Enriquez2222]

Yup, but also expect her to do everything. So she’s tired and she gotta look after him on top of everything

[@michaelwoods3651]

Story 2- very sad. Why would she marry a man who doesn’t love her. I mean, he’s more upset about the exes car accident! Wow!

[@fufufuaru]

freakin hell story 2 made me tear up, no wonder so many people commented about it instead of story 1

[@tiffa808]

23:28 I hope she gets to see that flower festival.😢 26:47 I bet money his 'soul mate' probably doesn't even see him.

[@AAAforshort]

I honestly feel so upset after the 2nd story. I hate her parents, her husband, her trash friends. Only her therapist, that sweet lady she's going to the flower festival with because I'm rooting for her sm to make that festival - I want op to be happy so bad.

[@meiimacca4054]

Thats what happens when tou forgive a cheater, never reconcile even for kids.

[@gilles111]

12:55 "cheating makes a marriage stronger", to say that kind of things you are A. a narcissist not able to see what you do to your partner or B. a child parroting TikTok videos.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Story 1: Divorce your husband now!

[@sher1993]

I hope for your recovery. I’m sorry that people in your life have emotionally abandoned your needs. Why are you with your husband? Please explore this with your therapist. You are worth more than what he offers you. You may be seeking out emotionally unavailable people because it validates external and internal feelings of unworthiness. Take this opportunity to allow and embrace your needs

[@lina9535]

Story 1: OP was a doormat the first time she forgave him for cheating and gave him another chance. As for the broken home thing for the kids, the home was already broken. It broke the second he cheated the first time. Also, it's been studied, and reported from people who found themself in that position, that "staying together for the kids" does more harm than it does good. Kids pick up on that stuff, and it's better to just divorce, for the kids. Also, I'm just laughing at the "kids are messy by nature". No they're not. Toddlers are messy. The 7 year old I can give a pass, but not the 10 year old. It's about rules and boundaries. They've clearly been influenced by the dad.

[@janenorwood1614]

The OP from story 1 needs to have a chat with the OP in story 2...smh. She's accepted being second or third in her relationships

[@cynthiaappleton4668]

I had to skip over the open marriage one, WTF!!!!

[@brianaschmidt910]

When you break a bone, the bone doesn't grow back stronger than ever. The professional you hire to fix your bone makes it grow back in a similar way, but the bone will never be whole again. That is what people fail to realize about the whole "cheating makes a relationship stronger" bs. You've fundamentally changed that relationship, and only proper time, and healing will keep the relationship together. But it will never be the exact same again. Cheating doesn't make a relationship stronger. What I'm thinking is some aholes cheated on their partner, and through this, both learned they made major mistakes and work through it and learning to communicate better. You cheating is just the volcano blowing it's top finally. And i say this as someone who supports poly relationships. It's not the sleeping with others (though many people do have that limitation). It's the lying, hiding, and sexual intimacy with another that's the issue. It's the forcing your partner into an open relationship because you didn't want to be tied to one person anymore. It's the disrespect you show towards your partner. And im just as tired of the line "asking for an open relationship just means they want to cheat" as i am of the aholes who are the reason that line exists. Sorry, i don't know where that rant came from

[@meiimacca4054]

Jesus christ anf she still married him?! S2????

[@heatheraucoin5832]

I love the Halloween background

[@wildfyah]

Story 2... ma'am. Omg stop making excuses for everyone around you. Please 😢

[@ShelleyJolly]

I am the same.I feel liked for what I do for people not for wo I am.

[@americasteam2112]

Op is stupid for for forgiving him the first time and then coming up with some bullshit for them to stay together. Good thing she decided to divorce but I bet she will go back to him.

[@MoonlightBelladonna]

Story 1, jesus christ just get a divorce lol. He's cheated on you once and will probably do the same thing again.

[@rasheedabasheer4046]

Story2: what a pathetic excuse of a husband!

[@sophdog2564]

2 markee videos in an hour??? Is it my birthday???

[@tartlynerdy]

📣 GET A DIVORCE. Cheating does not make relationships stronger. Whoever says that BS is extremely delusional or they're with a doormat that forgave their betrayal and somehow they now believe that exception should apply to all couples. I'm glad op isn't really entertaining an open marriage but what if he actually called op's bluff? op would have dated and slept with other men and all the while getting crap for cheating on the husband when he knew this marriage opened up because he couldn't keep his own dick in his pants. This open marriage crap would be more traumatic on the kids vs just ripping that bandage off and splitting up. I know op sees it as trying to save the marriage but I don't know if the kids will look at it that way. Very few see ultimatums as a means of working things out since ultimatums are basically it's my way or no way. All op can do is control the narrative before he starts making up stories to paint himself as a victim. Nothing is beneath a cheater once they realize they can't go back to the way things used to be. Additionally I don't understand why people say monogamy is hard. Like it isn't hard or stressful juggling multiple romantic and sexual partners? You're spending so much time and money and effort to keep everyone involved in a polyamory happy, satisfied and taken care of. If you're trying to keep your partners secret from each other that's almost triple the effort and so much time spend lying to everyone. I don't get why people grossly underestimate how much work polyamory is emotionally and financially, lol. Story 2 - what's with everyone in this story? Ofc op is feeling vindicated after finally getting a proper diagnosis after so long of being dismissed and practically gas lit to believe there was nothing wrong. Also. what does op see in this marriage. It sounds like op was just a rebound as he clearly didn't get over the other woman. He won't cook for himself? Wow what a catch 🙄. I'm proud that op is finally choosing herself. I hope she gets divorced.

[@tigernotwoods914]

Wow. He never made a single threat. People are weird.

[@kevinspacey5325]

If there was a dead bedroom in story 1 he should have talked to her or divorced her 1st.

[@pippo17173]

Why bother with ultimatum. Im glad the update she threw that out but still, dont bother with the cheaters.

[@jay2thaudy]

Story 2 was distressing

[@catsncrows]

S1 opening the marriage won't work because my completely not researched but knowing human nature opinion is that people who cheat do it for the thrill. If that's the case here she's taking away his adrenaline rush which is addictive

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: You need a better therapist (assuming you have been seeing your present on for a while already). None of the feelings you have are normal or healthy. It is one thing to be happy that you have a diagnosis and can now get proper treatment, but "doing everything on your own" is not sustainable especially if you have to get chemo.

[@mweathers79]

Wow. OP is a boss and husband should take the OM and count his lucky stars.

[@agentzapdos4960]

1:24 I'm pretty sure she meant HER family, unless this story takes place in Alabama.