My Cat HATES my New Kitten - Help? How to Introduce Cats!

Here at Kitten School, the happiest days are when my foster kitties get picked up to go off to their forever homes. Often the adopting family already has a cat, or cats, at home...so I try to prepare them on how to introduce the new kitty to lessen any drama. But cats are highly territorial and when a new cat suddenly appears in their home it can cause confusion and chaos. A cat who has always been relaxed and mellow can suddenly turn into a growling, hissing beast who lashes out at the newcomer, and even at his beloved owner! The new cat is often terrified - it is not only in a brand new place, but there's another cat who clearly does not want it to be there! This can all be very emotional for everyone involved, and sometimes it can seem that the existing cat will NEVER accept the new cat. Well, as someone who has experienced many years of introducing new cats to my home, I can give you some tips on how to make this process easier. You first have to understand that most cats will act hostile (or scared) of a new cat or kitten. This is normal! It just takes time for the cats to get to know one another...sometimes this can be a few days, other times it can be a few weeks. You want to introduce your cats SLOWLY, and always monitor the situation to prevent any serious fights or attacks. Hissing, growling, swatting - this is probably going to happen. Be patient and calm. NEVER yell at or hit a cat who is acting out- it won't help and will make things worse! You just have to be calm, encourage the cats to play and eat together, separate them if there's aggression, and BE PATIENT. The cats will need to first get used to each other, and then establish their social order in the household. But they usually DO work it out. And sometimes, even the hissiest, swattiest of "enemies" can eventually become the very best of cat friends!
Here's a few things you can get to help ease the transition when introducing a new cat. I have used them all and they have often made a difference:
Feliway - This plug-in diffuser mimics natural feline pheromones that the cats can smell and is calming to many cats. We have used this here at Kitten School for years and I think it has helped keep the peace with my resident cats, who sometimes resent the "intrusion" of foster kitties on their territory. The scent is not noticeable to humans and you just plug it in the wall, where it will waft the calming pheromones into the air. Might take a week or so to notice a difference, but many multi-cat owners swear by it!
Bach Rescue Remedy for Pets - This homeopathic herbal calming formula has been used to help people relax for ages and is now available in a pet formula safe for cats. A few drops in your cat's food or water can help calm him or her in stressful times, such as a trip to the vet, moving, or the introduction of a new kitty into the house
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[@Rain_MG]

My cat be like " *GET OUTTA MA SWAMP* "

[@heyitssaldownhere.0711]

*in shreks voice* wHaT aRE yOu dOiNG iN mY sWAmP

[@Animationz_made_of_jelly]

@@heyitssaldownhere.0711 lol

[@heyitssaldownhere.0711]

@@Animationz_made_of_jelly lol indeed

[@whooohooo6005]

SAMEEE

[@thebazingaboi2545]

A shrek and donkey moment

[@susiequebec1207]

They do end up really liking each other, but it is stressful at first. Hang in there.

[@NoOne-rj9rh]

Susan Kester I’m getting a new kitten soon. And I know my other cat will not accept it at first cause she acts like the leader to the other cats and I’ve been freaking out

[@NoOne-rj9rh]

P K oh no I’m freaking out Now. I’m getting the cat in a few days and I’m pretty sure how one of my cats are going to react to the kitten but the other think she like the boss even know she is our newest cats( had her for probably 9 months)

[@star.6516]

No One how did it go!

[@iTzzNaomiOx]

It’s so hard at first isn’t it, we got a new kitten yesterday & our existing kitten really doesn’t like her. It’s made me so anxious but I’m just going to wait it out, I do hope they get along

[@Koko_87-1]

Naomi Roe any updates on your cats? I got a new kitten five days ago and it’s so hard getting my older cat to like him.

[@xChaoticx]

"Don't shout at the cat." Me: *already shouted at my cat for hissing and growling at my kitten.* Also Me: *watches this part of the video* Damn it!

[@katherinehooker7594]

I know what you mean

[@tita-mita9314]

Yeah me too

[@Animationz_made_of_jelly]

Same i know wut u mean [Wen u forget that the video said that [im not saying u doing it too].]

[@ArielGamer109]

Ya, same. Not really shouting but stern "eh, no". Didn't have a lot of prep for our new kitten lol

[@GlazedBunny]

Same..

[@faithmichelle3651]

my kitten just simply doesn’t care- my older cat throws fits, hisses, and swats. my kitten just wants to play with her 😭

[@sloshtugz4087]

Yep😂

[@julie9541]

Same here but our existing cat gets really aggressive and bites and the little kitten meows like why you hurting me. I'm losing hope. Any advise - will my existing cat ever calm down and accept him. Its only been 8 days. I will keep the hope and be patient. My cat is leash trained. Do you think I can try having her on a leash while the new cat roams around and she can follow him but on a leash? Please help and what's your opinion on that would that be okay to do?? Thanks so much.

[@enriquelotko2892]

@@julie9541 if they don’t get along you might have to get rid of the kitten cuz some cats don’t like friends

[@natalie588]

THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME RIGHT NOW AAA MY CAT IS HOWLING AT THE KITTEN

[@julie9541]

@@enriquelotko2892 how much time should pass before I give up. It's only been 10 days now. ??

[@isobelb5750]

Feeding in the same room "after a day or two" without any barrier is too soon for some cats, as I found out the hard way.

[@thechicken306]

Yeah I don't think it would go well for my cats at all hahah

[@4plywhenicry]

I have 2 existing cats and a new kitten. One cat was fine after a day, but the other is still throwing tantrums and she will not eat even with the kitten on the other side of the door. If she smells the kitten, she's growling and hissing. But, I hope with time it gets better! I want a companion for my kitten so I can start my new job.

[@sbkmarkel]

@@4plywhenicry any update?

[@4plywhenicry]

@@sbkmarkel one of my cats will play with her and kinda moms her. The other is still not happy, but will deal with it. We try to keep them separated as much as we can, but due to work sometimes they have to be in the same room for a couple of hours. No fights though thankfully. We make sure we give our grumpy cat lots of love and attention and positive association and she's always happy at the end of the day.

[@4plywhenicry]

I thought I'd do another update: Both cats are comfortable around her! The grumpy one from before is only grumpy when she gets tackled, but neither of them will hurt her. We leave the 3 of them alone while we are at work and we have a camera up to watch them and the two play together all the time while the grumpy one just chills, but she's visibly relaxed. Just don't wanna play. My kitten is about 15-16 weeks old now with all her shots now and is going to get spayed once it's time and hopefully once she gets spayed she will be a tiny bit more calm so the grumpy cat doesn't have to worry about random pouncings on her while she's sleeping 😂

[@talie_n]

my cat is hissing at the blanket :(

[@ChocoThe_Cat]

That's Totally Ok, She Is Just Smelling It And She Smells Another Cat, Its All Fine

[@yasisoufi]

😹😹😹😹 I died !! U r awesome

[@Relaxingsleepingstudying]

Lol!

[@Danny-be1ex]

Mine did too, for anyone who is new and reading this and worried. They’re playing with each other now, running all after each other and have to be over each other anytime they’re not separated (still erring on the side of caution). Mine hissed nonstop for the first two days, actually. Just give them time.

[@ChocoThe_Cat]

@@Danny-be1ex Same Here, The Kitten Wont Let My Older Cat Alone!

[@joannak4767]

This video made me feel so much better! I was worried about my older cat hissing at the door!

[@KittenSchool]

Hi Joanna! I am so glad that this video was helpful. Hissing, and some swatting, is totally normal behavior when two cats are getting to know one another. It's part of the process. I encourage you to allow the cats to meet under supervised visits after they have had a couple of days of "door sniffing". Good luck!

[@joannak4767]

@@KittenSchool it's been 2 weeks and my cats are having fun chasing each other around. Thanks again!

[@rebeccaanderson6560]

I've actually been feeling super stressed because my cat keeps going to the door to hiss, and trying to get in the same room

[@annaignacz-hauck7612]

Rebecca Anderson are they friends meanwhile? :-)

[@rebeccaanderson6560]

@@annaignacz-hauck7612 they get along a lot better now. They groom each other and sleep together

[@RichLopp]

This video is a HUGE help!!! My cat is VERY pissed off at the new kitten we brought home! Thanks for this video! I’m officially a new subscriber 🙏🏻

[@sbkmarkel]

How do they get along now?

[@RichLopp]

@@sbkmarkel Beautifully!!

[@sbkmarkel]

@@RichLopp how long did it take?

[@duck2744]

@@sbkmarkel from his reply I guess a month or less lol

[@CreeseDF]

@{°potato frog°} You need to stop. That is EXTREMELY rude and disrespectful.

[@ro468]

i feel awful lmao i just brought a new kitten home and while introducing my older cat hissed at me i couldn’t help it i burst into tears that cat is like my best friend lmao and i feel like he hates me or i’m scared he’s going to think i’m replacing him

[@jordanbrice4941]

any updates? i want to get another kitten but i have 2 cats that are sisters, but one of them is like obsessed with me and follows me everywhere and loves me but i’m scared that my cat right now will be upset at me and the kitten

[@ro468]

@@jordanbrice4941 it’s actually going really well he stopped hissing at the kitten on the first day. he tries playing with him but is too rough and ends up hurting him so i can’t leave them alone together the only thing that makes me kind of sad is my older cat won’t come for cuddles when the kitten is around he can also be a bit mean to me but everyday, i go upstairs with the older cat (leaving the kitten downstairs) and as soon as we are alone, my older cat is right back to his loving cuddly self :)

[@AngelDeFrancesco]

I did the same thing last night when I brought my kitten home last night

[@whattttt2195]

SAME

[@jordanbrice4941]

@@ro468 update! i got her! she’s doing rlly well and my cat still love me hahah!! she shows affection still when the kitten is around, sometimes she’ll leave when she sees the kitten moving towards me but still! i’m happy!

[@itzxanahi]

It’s been 1 week in half almost 2 weeks since I brought a new kitten home & my resident cat has finally accepted her new brother! They groom each other, take naps together, & play with each other. I was super stressed & felt awful the first few days bc my resident cat was very pissed about the new kitty but literally doing everything in this video helped me. Dedicate a lot of time & effort into the introduction process. Your kitties will love you for it!

[@MeganVictoriaKearns]

It's so nice to hear everything worked out so well! I've taken in stray cats for 20 years. Right now I have 4 cats. 3 males, ages 2, 7 and 10 and a very recent addition, a female kitten I named Violet. I heard Violet crying under a bush. She was scared, hungry and cold. The vet gave me instructions for Violet's care, but she advised me that Violet may not survive. However... my little girl made it! I would've been thrilled just to see her survive, but Violet took it up like 10 notches beyond basic survival. That little mama has THRIVED! Violet weighed just 0.3 pounds was so weak she couldn't lift her head, let alone stand up. 4 months later and Violet is a happy, healthy, energetic, fearless kitty. She's intensely curious and has come so far physically! In under 4 months, my girl went from too weak to lift her head to a 3am zoomie machine! Lol, the best part is that I never had to implement any of my plans to get my 3 adult boys to accept, nor my plans for helping Violet to not be scared of her big brother cats. Violet, and this is absolutely not an exaggeration, literally RUNS THE SHOW among her siblings. I don't know how she does this, but when it's time to eat Violet has gotten the 3 older male cats to wait until she decides which plate of food is going to be hers! They actually sit back and wait for her to select her plate and begin eating before any of those three guys even APPROACH their food! Then if Violet finishes her meal and feels like doing this, she will go over to one of my male cats and nudge them and no freaking joke, the male cat will walk away and Violet will eat some of his food! She also runs the playtime dynamic among the 4 cats. If one of her brothers approaches her to play, she usually plays with him. But if another cat tries to initiate playtime and she's not in the mood she let's him know immediately that he better back the eff up and leave her alone! Then the times when Violet will initiate play, the male almost always obliges. I can't tell if it's a welcome suggestion to the male cat and he truly does want to play with her, or if he just goes along with it because somehow she has declared herself queen of this little feline family and - no clue how - my 3 male cats OBEY HER COMMANDS! So basically she decided she was the boss, told them she was the boss, and they, all 3 of them, were just like "Okay, Boss!" OMG it's so funny!

[@ShiMarie-n7c]

I need advice with this I brought a new kitten home it’s been 2 days I just need help

[@mandyroxurworld]

I can’t even begin to explain how much calmer this has made me feel already!

[@rtxclan6249]

if u want 2 cats to be friends then keep them fighting, it worked for me, THEY MUST BE UNDER A YEAR!!

[@miskyloo887]

Patience is the key and not to rush it.. My male cat was horrified when we brought in another male.. Of course we kept them separated initially but the few times they did see each other they would scream and yell.. And on the odd occasion had a couple of punch ups.. It took about 4 months of feeding them in separate spaces but also able to see each other.. And later having them both on leash during little introductions.. Its also best not to leave them Alone together even after they seem reasonably friendly.. Now they absolutely adore each other and quite frankly even ignore us😀

[@Yana.d8]

Thank for the tips because my old male cat hates our new baby male cats, i hope they will close soon😭

[@miskyloo887]

@@Yana.d8 good luck! One thing I did was feed them on either side of a glass door so that they could engage in a social activity from afar.. So keep them separate but place kitten from time to time in older cats area and adult cat in kittens area so that they get used to each others smell..

[@achritushunter6950]

my cat is not only hissing it is doing the bruce lee sound to a tiny kitten and on attack mode

[@d.c.taylor-sullivan3026]

My cat no just hissing she sound like snake to sometimes🤦‍♀️

[@achritushunter6950]

@@d.c.taylor-sullivan3026 its been almost 2 months my kitten has grown half my old cat size im afraid its gonna fight back i guess cats chooses their friends too

[@messibessi11]

SAME!! I’m glad it’s not just my cat... he’s so puffed up I can’t even handle it

[@fernandaescobar3721]

Mine just growled at me when I dared let the kitten in my room after she had already kicked her out... Now the kitten is back down stairs and Sansa is ignoring me.

[@yvaz3373]

@@achritushunter6950 my cats have been together for 5 months now and the older still hisses at the young one. Not as often as she used to but she is still resisting friendly approach. He is probably as big as her now and yes, he does attack her back sometimes but fortunately never is real aggression, I mean the one meant to hurt. I have identified it as territorial spats, lots of swatting and hissing but no real damage. They have period of calm, everything seem to be ok between them and then all the sudden they are at it. I really hope this will go away one day. The older seems less defensive now but it has been very slow progress.

[@squidlings]

It's been a year and existing cat still hates new cat. Unfortunately new cat got bigger and now bullies existing cat. 😔

[@maritzap9465]

I have a new kitten and my girl adult cat does not like him, but my other is okay. I hope my kitten doesn’t become a bully to both, cus he’s a bold one

[@suzanneoshannessy7666]

My kitty is hissing at me I just brought other kitten home to keep him company I don't think kiity like me

[@elliekavanagh3398]

Suzanne OShannessy omg same

[@jernasenpai]

Same !! Just brought a new cat home and my cat was upset and started hissing at me . I don’t know what I that means 😭

[@olivetree8563]

Pinay Papi exactly!! My cat isn’t angry at my new kitten anymore, just angry at my family and it sucks so much omg i started crying because my cat was so anfry

[@olivetree8563]

angry*

[@suzanneoshannessy7666]

@Alex F thank you for yr advice Kitty loves Charlie now and Charlie adore Kiity Yihee

[@taylerrenee9710]

Well… I was never a cat person, I got a cat and then a kitten and here we are… lol I’m a cat lady now! Haha

[@katieapgar3492]

I can’t tell if my older cat is playing too rough or biting the kitten hard on purpose. I’m thinking I might need to keep them separate until my kitten gets bigger

[@MultiSergiio]

That's exactly whats happening with my cats, no curved tail no ears down but my cat seems to go really rough on my kitten thus he cries a bit.

[@katieapgar3492]

Sergio Lujan what’s the age difference

[@KittenSchool]

Hi Katie! It's common for bigger cats to play rough with new kittens. I would allow them to play while you are watching. If the kitten keeps trying to get away, or cries out/hisses and seems genuinely scared I would separate them. Like kids sometimes playtime can get out of hand and everyone will need a "time out". When the kitten gets bigger things should be on a more even playing field!

[@dekanyzsanett]

Hi Katie, did it work out? I have the same problem, it’s like the older cat can’t control his excitement and after some licking and gentle play he suddenly chases the kitten down and she gets scared, hisses and growls. When it happens I separate them but it happens again and again when I try to socialize them. Heelp😿

[@jesseerickson4117]

Zsanett Dekany I have the same problem. Has the situation worked itself out? Suggestions?

[@MaysamR]

I watched many "how to introduce cats" videos and this one is my favorite. It is reasonably easy to do, to the point, and concisely tells many useful tips. Thanks!

[@KittenSchool]

Hello Maysam, thank you so much for the comment I really appreciate it! I am thrilled that you found the video helpful. Introducing cats is usually NEVER easy, but it doesn't have to be a train wreck either. Too many people give up quickly when all the cats need is a little more time to acclimate to each other. I have very rarely seen a situation where two cats could not finally find a middle ground and at least tolerate each other. Hope your cats are doing great! *Caroline

[@anatheaeolian2163]

I was so worried my cats were not going to get along because i heard my first cat hiss a few times and I thought that ment it was not going to work out. But my cat is just behaving the way you explained so I will continue to strive for progress with my kitties.

[@caabichweiler]

heyy, how are they going now?

[@anatheaeolian2163]

Camilla Bichweiler much better! Definitely took a while but they know each other’s personality now. I also made sure to treat them equally cause I can tell the older one got jealous if I was to only pet the newer cat. But they sleep close to each other now, share the water bowl and liter, i even caught them grooming each other a few times.

[@caabichweiler]

omg I'm so happy for u! I have two cats also, the older one is 6 years old and the new is 7 months. the thing is, the younger arrived first at home and she's here for 2 months now and the older is here for 1 month. they sometimes play together, but mostly of the time they just tolerate each other or even fight. should I have hope?

[@ghaliamohamed8249]

@@caabichweiler how are they going now 🥲

[@sbkmarkel]

@@caabichweiler any update?

[@PhoenixtheII]

Love at first sight, isn't true for humans either. It's infatuation.

[@clairerobinson7658]

Thanks so much especially the reassurance that it takes time. My new kitten is so scared. So happy I found your channel

[@KittenSchool]

Hi Clair! Thanks for the nice comment, and I am so glad you enjoyed the videos. Welcome to Kitten School!

[@marcocosta63]

As someone who just got a new kitten with an already existing cat, this video was extremely helpful and encouraging. Thank you!

[@KittenSchool]

Glad it was helpful! Appreciate the comment Marco Costa, and good luck with your new kitty!

[@blank9239]

FINALLY TYSM THEY FINALLY GOT ALONG IT TOOK FOREVER LOL

[@giovannadecarlo9515]

how long did it take for youu?

[@FernandoFonseca10]

Yeeiiii! How long?

[@Dannythegirl]

Thank you this is the most logical and useful tips. Cause separating for weeks in just insane

[@Wolffeathers21]

I've been trying to introduce my cats for a month now to my existing cats but we have a dominant male and he growls at my new kitty and is starting to get aggressive toward my female cat. Putting him on a feeding schedule has made him more antsy and energetic. I don't know what to do.

[@khalil7011]

I gotta ask is he neutured? I'm having the same issue right now but the kitten (6-7 months old) is not neutered so he's dominant over my shy female one

[@marinamavrogenis4381]

My older cat does this to my one year old cat as we are introducing the new kitten. I just slow things down by keeping kitty in base camp, baby gate, and feeding all the gates on their side of the gate. Then I give my older cat treats and attention all the time in front of the door of kitty base camp. I'm at 5 wks, so don't feel bad, but what i'm doing is working. My older gett is growling and hissing lots less. And my 1 year old cat and kitty still get individual play sessions so their relationship can keep growing. Just don't worry if it takes a few mths. My older cat (8yrs) just really, really needs time! Good luck, I just noticed your comment was 5 mths, I hope it's going well!

[@musichi7]

I have the same issue right now. Can you share me the updates of your cats now??

[@Wolffeathers21]

@@musichi7 Yeah sure thing. I kept at it and just kept feeding them together. I restarted their distancing, so I fed them pretty far apart and got them closer together even slower than I did before. This seemed to work for a while but It became clear eventually that they were just destined to not get along. I noticed my dominant cat would generally put on a show by hissing and such, but he never growled or had any body language other than defensive-aggressiveness. My new cat is very, very tolerant and well mannered, so be never reacted to the aggression. I started letting my new cat out during the day and then putting them in his safe room at night. That way I could supervise their interactions and be aware if anything happened between them. After a while, I stopped putting him in my room at night because they didn't have any violent interactions. The two cats still don't really get along but they tolerate eachother a lot better. My dominant cat was poorly socialized since he was an orphaned kitten, so I don't think he'll ever be friendly with my newest cat. Nowadays, I try to minimize negative interactions. I paid attention to exactly when my dominant cat would hiss and I tried to remedy the areas. For instance, my dominant cat would hiss at my new cat while looking outside an open window, so I now keep two windows open so they don't have to compete. Overall, they can coexist just fine. They're not friends, but it's pretty peaceful.

[@vikiwatson8556]

@@khalil7011 My male kitten is getting fixed today, hope that helps !? I am going insane with these two

[@caitlinware9174]

the amount of cats she has makes me feel better about getting 2 kittens with my 2 older 11 year old and 8 year old cats.

[@lyndawilks1887]

Oh wow I am SOOO glad I happened upon your video!! I’m only on day 2 of introducing my 18 month old cat to a new kitten and I thought all was lost. My cat is not responding well at all. When he first saw the kitten he was very vocal with his opinion. And it wasn’t in a good way. I thought I was being a bad mother by putting the kitty in the garage for a while but I think I’m going to have to give it a go when my cat comes in so he can see the house is still “his”. I think I’ve been too unreal with my expectations and should slow down the pace they interact for now. I honestly thought I would have to take the new kitty back so I thank you for giving me hope! Any other advice would be appreciated. Lynda

[@Fayeluria]

Hi Lynda! I'm curious if it worked out in the end?

[@sbkmarkel]

Any update?

[@Thundamunka]

@@sbkmarkel the cat owns the house and she is now the "older cat" hahah. But for real how did it turn out? Im on my second day of introducing, it started really well they were playing my older cat was going a little too hard, and only hissed twice, once when the kitten was sleeping next to him, but he proceeded to just continue sleeping and the second time when my older cat saw the kitten sleeping on my wives lap. We proceeded to move her and the older cat claimed his "throne" haha. Now he is a little offended with me cuz i yelled at him when he was being too rough on the kitten, this gets e reeeeally anxious but this video really help. Cheers

[@CreeseDF]

@@Thundamunka I think they're talking to the original commenter

[@vegetarianontheright]

Thank you for this. Gives me hope! My new cat is hissing and growling a lot.

[@mylesnmore]

Oh man, my cat right now isn’t liking my new kittens. He isn’t taking it well. I hope this video is right.

[@sophiemaskell7215]

me too! its been a week for me and my cat hates me for bringing home a kitten!

[@mylesnmore]

sophie maskell SAME. He hisses at me now.

[@sophiemaskell7215]

@@mylesnmore oh no! I did buy some feliway classic plug in and I think that has really helped. I bought the spray bottle too to spray around the door of where the kitten is. And I think that's really helped, maybe give that a go?

[@marielaf8014]

Can I ask you if it is better now?

[@mylesnmore]

Marie L YES! Thank God. It took a month, but my cat is “more cool” with them now, not perfect but he has admitted the truth and has calmed a lot. I kept them in a separate room for week 1 and my Cat never saw them but he knew they were in there. He hissed at the door and isolated himself and didn’t eat much - totally stressed out. On Week 2 I would bring the kittens out for a little bit so my cat could see them everyday (not a long time), he basically hated them. Around week 3 I would swap rooms for a little while, put big cat in kittens room, put kittens in outside area where cat dwells, and then let them be in same room periodically for more time; my cat started to ease up. Week 4 I just opened the rooms up for them both to travel around, and my cat has conformed more, only very few times my cat would hiss but the kittens don’t care about him they just play and explore the house. They sorta respect him and then disrespect him and so I think my cat has surrendered. Basically, take it slow, follow your gut. I’m thankful for the advice in the video, I didn’t do everything but I did take it slow and it was needed for my Cat to admit the truth of the new development and share his territory. Onwards.

[@FernandoFonseca10]

I came here all stressed out, first night with a new kitty and my two cats are like WTH!?

[@1940limited]

Right now we have 5 happy cats in the house. It's more than we planned on, but things happen. :-) Perhaps we have incredible luck or have always, somehow, had mellow cats find their way to us. In 40 years of cat ownership we've never had a problem introducing a new cat to the residents, whether it be a kitten or an adult. We turn the new cat loose and let them get acquainted. Of course, all cat activity is supervised until we're sure the coast is clear. It's always been a matter of hours, not days. Last November we took in a stray that had been hanging around the house all summer. I was amazed at how quickly the cats acclimated; no hostility at all. For those of you not as fortunate, this video should be invaluable. As stated, never give up. Patience, scent, communal feeding, plenty of attention to the residents, and supervision are keys to success!

[@ninnon1426]

that’s probably because your cats are used to sharing their space and having company which makes life so much easier 😫 i have a cat thats been alone all his life and now we’re trying to introduce a kitten its so tough

[@gracek412]

So if my cat only likes me and hates everything else ever to exist do u think he’ll like my hopefully new kitten

[@davidhamid8025]

It’s not working for me. How about you?

[@gracek412]

David Hamid it worked they love each other

[@davidhamid8025]

Grace Kenny Ty

[@davidhamid8025]

Grace Kenny Any advice?

[@cedessierra92]

So we have a 7 month old kitten and recently got a 5 month old kitten and he doesn’t hiss at him but he smacks he all the time. I’m a bit worried because he is way bigger and my 5 month old fights back a little bit cries and some times doesn’t defend himself We have had the 5 month old for a few days. Sometimes my older cat is sweet and licks him but other times he hitting at bitting. Is there anything we can do different to help them adjust?? Well the older one mainly.

[@tayloralexissimon4470]

mercedes blount I’m having the same issue. Has it gotten better for you? Any tips. Mine is 2 months & 8 months

[@Rosala4Roxx]

@@tayloralexissimon4470 Hey! I am having the same issue rn, and i really really wanna hows it going with your cats? Any update? Mine is 7 months (male, not neutered) and 2 months (female). He doesn't hiss at her anymore, but would bite her around the neck until she cries out. I keep separating them when he does that. However, sometimes he's licking her and then suddenly bites her. It's been 4 days already. PLEASE REPLY!

[@sarapearson7994]

@@Rosala4Roxx you should get your male neutered as soon as possible! kittens can become pregnant at 4 months old and he'll be less aggressive/territorial once he is neutered. It also prevents health issues later on :) That should also help with the neck biting

[@israamorad5634]

Any updates?

[@zoiailiankova322]

I loved the video. Your voice is so relaxing and explanation is convincing. I feel much more confident about introducing my cats. Thank you

[@brittanybunn1518]

So we should have our kitten sleep in the bathroom and let our grown up cat have the house at night right? Thanks for the video it's very helpful! We're getting a new kitten in 2 days and I want to make sure it all goes well :)

[@sbkmarkel]

How are things now?

[@amir021idm]

My cat is the dad he wanted to jump his 4 weeks old daughter kitten omg

[@TheRivrPrncess]

i like your methods better than others I've heard. Good tips. I wish my Catarina could have a companion, but she's 18-20 and I can't have two cats(apartment rules and can't afford 2).

[@KittenSchool]

Thank you! There's a lot of opinions out there on this topic but these are what have worked for me!

[@jess05188]

4:31 But what do i do if my existing cat doesnt want me to touch her? I think shes a little mad at me for getting a new kitten so when i try to touch her she growls at me. I want her to know that i still love her, even more than the new kitten, but she wont let me interact with her except for feeding her. Please help, i really dont want my little baby cat to hate me. :(

[@rachelharmon6489]

Scent switching works very well, you have to exchange blankets they use! Smell is so important to cats! ❤

[@TomTom-fn3es]

Thank you so much 🙏🏻 We follow some of your tips , After half day we slowly saw some result. After 2 days , Cats were palying with each other 😃😇🐈

[@milesornelas6993]

I don’t know what to do I’m actually crying. My older cat has attacked my new cat twice and doesn’t seem to get any better. I’ve tried to separate them but my older cat grows more hate for my new kitty. Help

[@Melody-ih8sb]

oh no :( im so sorry i cant help, but i hope it gets better..

[@michelle.shackelford4520]

Update??

[@milesornelas6993]

@lucielle they still don’t get along :/ it’s always step one over and over. My older cat doesn’t seem to change. I’m thinking of giving away my youngest considering that my older cat is getting more and more depressed as days go by

[@noalazmi468]

@@milesornelas6993 oh no! do you have separate rooms to use for each cat? my cat doesn’t like my kitten that we’ve had for a month already but we separate them and occasionally put them together each day. we think once my new kitten is older it should be easier because she can defend herself if needed. I hope you don’t have to give away your younger kitten!

[@hsd9690]

@@michelle.shackelford4520 it can 8-12 months don’t give up yet Imma do this soon

[@AnneMarieBrown12]

HELP ME PLEASE😩😢 I have a soon to be 2 year old female tortoiseshell named Penny, she’s the best!! Found her in the desert her in AZ when she was approximately 4 months old (veterinarian guess) 3 weeks ago we found 2 little girls 😮same scenario as Penny😢.. theses girls are about 10 weeks old (veterinarian guess) … here’s the issue …Penny wants NOTHING to do with the girls! she hides in the corner in the closet… Won’t eat and won’t drink… i’ve done everything that you’re supposed to do but nothing seems to be working… The growling is so sad to me because she’s doing it to me 😢 I noticed this morning that she is throwing up a little bit, but there’s really nothing to throw up… and I also noticed a little bit of blood in her stool now😮 So of course I googled it and it states that it’s mostly stress related 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ A part of me feels that I should rehome these kittens☹️😔I don’t know what to do!! I just want Penny to go back to the way she was💔 just thought she could use some friends because she is so loving and full of energy!! Also… I forgot to mention, Charlie💚 Charlie is my 12 years old and he can honestly careless about the girls.. they do not bother him at all thankfully🙏🏼 Because I think about rehoming the girls does that make me awful 🥴??? I am also completely stressed out… I have not stopped crying in the last 48 hours😭😭 I need advice ASAP

[@imahfbskdbd9683]

My cat : "IM GONNA KILL YOU " *crazy unstopable hand movement* Me: Yup this is never gonna work

[@Theantinarc]

"New kittens need socialization and can't be left alone for long periods of time" "Give your existing cat full access to the entire house and lock up kitten" 😂

[@sulkoma]

I introduced a new cat & my older cat still seems to hate him :( the younger new one isn't hostile at all, just really playful, but my new cat always has a wild look in his eyes now & never seems to look like he can relax, just wants to look at the new cat the last few weeks they seemed like they were sort of playing together but my older cat didnt really know how to respond to being tackled so would hiss, but seemed to be having fun with little chases but he seems angrier now & I don't know why any idea? I introduced them slowly using a spare room connected to a bathroom The strangest thing is, my cat always loves neighbourhood cats & befriended an old neighbours cats who were always hostile to other local cats but not mine but my cat hates this kitty, It's a bit upsetting to see him no longer so happy in his home :(

[@Jossefitnessqueen]

How did it go? 💔

[@meganmcpherson4191]

This video made me feel a little better! I got a kitten yesterday and my existing cat (1 year) doesn’t seem too happy. She does the following, but the kitten starts the hissing. It stresses me out bc my first cat is my baby girl. I’m hoping they learn to get along!

[@elleandlivplayz6976]

Me: already lets my kitten anx the cat that visits my garden meet they hate eachother also me : realises i should have watched this video first SUGAR

[@gastonpossel]

I have a 1.5-year-old female and a 3-month-old female kitten struggling to get along. The older one had been introduced to another -temporary- male cat when she was younger, and she accepted him at day 3, being her the dominant (so I thought she was a pretty social host). When I brought the little kitten I expected a similar outcome, but I was wrong. After some growling and hissing, she appeared to accept the kitten also at day 3 or 4, even letting her sleep by her and lick each other. But somehow this changed overnight, and she's been HATING the kitten for a month now. The kitten is playful and doesn't seem intimidated, but my 1.5-year-old queen has stopped playing altogether, avoids contact, and I fear she's very depressed. Help

[@teacher13531]

I’ve watched several videos on introducing another cat with the existing cat and I loved yours the most! The steps taken weren’t to hard and I loved your encouragement at the end when you said, that you have never had a failure of bringing new cats into the your home. Thank you 😻

[@KittenSchool]

You are so welcome!

[@msLittleDrama]

Hi everyone! My resident cat is chasing my new kitten. Kitten would hiss and run. A lot growling and slapping while the two meet face to face. I did all the steps mentioned in here for twice and still no hope. I’m this close to giving away the kitten. The kittens has been here for more than 2 months now

[@alicemc8774]

I’m having the same problem. Does anyone have any advice?

[@thathyena2949]

Me wanting to do this in secret so I can trick my grandparents into letting me keep Honey a street rescue we got a week ago 👉😎👉

[@DarkShadow23150]

How did it go?

[@mawwalersh7893]

What do I do I gave my kitten away And now it’s mum is growling and hissing real bad it it’s kitten my cat was very friendly now I’m scared of it … 😂😂 send help

[@lisapellegrino5942]

Thank you for your positivity! Your video is so encouraging! I have been very worried about introducing my 13 year-old Chloe to a new cat we adopted. Your video has given me the confidence to persist with calm and patience. Thank you!

[@GopherwoodExpress]

I got my kitten a week ago and have been trying to follow the steps but I think I screwed up today by introducing them too soon, my big cat had a hissy fit, kitten hid under chair, big cat charged up to chair and gave the yowl of death before she raced back upstairs to her territory. I feel like I've blown it and have to start all over from the beginning :(

[@CutiieDeviilX3]

Thank you for the reassurance! 😂 turns out I’ve been doing this all correctly already! I’m so glad

[@KittenSchool]

Hi AstroCatts, hope things are going good with your cat family. Thanks for the comment!

[@CutiieDeviilX3]

@@KittenSchool They have started playing! Just waiting for the cuddles

[@someoneykofc]

We got a new cat for my Persian cat because she's mostly lonely since me and my family aren't always at home but she's attacking the new ginger. He's really shy but she's very territorial, any tips?

[@richasshole3084]

Thank you so much, you are so beautiful for sharing this video! I wish I knew about the rubbing the blanket to get used to one another. I have them separated currently and have them relaxing. They unfortunately got into a fight before I could get my kitten away. I won’t give up and I really love this video I’ll be watching again your voice is so calming!

[@dianam6499]

i feel horrible for my Luna 9 years old, and horrible for Luci the 3 months old bb🥺🐈‍⬛

[@abdomellouki9624]

Thanks for the video ❤️ I have a very dominant male Cat. He gets angry when he see another cat and I'm planning to get him company. I wish those advices will work with him ❤️

[@biankapaloma]

Alec Mell take all the time in the world to do the proper presentations. Believe me, totally worth It. Think in cat time, not human time.

[@scottweiss9618]

Hi Alec, Read my Comment, about what NOT to do.

[@biankapaloma]

g bridgman yes. That is true. I have 4 cats, 3 males, 1 female. Things got violent due to external problems with 2 of them(Baltazar and Dante), but my little Ada, makes a situation go from 0 o 10 on violence scale. She is very tyrannical sometimes. 😆

[@1940limited]

@@biankapaloma Our little girl is now 13 years old. I'm thinking maybe she's too old to put up a fuss about a new cat. But she's always been pretty good about accepting "strangers." The male cats adapt right way.

[@abdomellouki9624]

@@biankapaloma Oh i will thanks 🙏

[@dripjojo5383]

I have a white Persian cat and now Iam master of taking cat with my hand I even. Puted him in his cage And I think my cat trusts me a bit He really like playing my school is starting tomoroe so I won't be able to play with him until 01:00 Also my cat is 56 days old

[@bobertbobston276]

Lol I wish it were this easy, two males that have both been through a lot, and are highly territorial, are a lot harder to do this with! But I won't give up🙏🏼❤ love them both wayyy too much!❤❤

[@fr0z3n33]

I’m struggling because my 9 months old cat doesn’t like my 8 week old kitten btw my 9 month old cat is on my profile picture

[@HandsomeLongshanks]

I'm so glad I found this video. I'm just not happy I found it on day 4 haha. I haven't yelled at my cat for hissing or swatting but I have sternly said "hey, be nice" and then gently took him away to security and praised him for being a good boy who's scared. They are getting along better but my big guy still is stress puking because of the new kitty and I'm like "ugh, at least he isn't peeing everywhere"

[@yeseniadekayie5395]

r they besties now?

[@mohitduggar4097]

my cat attacks me when her kitten is nearby.....she has never done this before.....please help.....what should i do?

[@helloitsme4139]

Shes bening overprotective mother, give her space and time, she'll come around, good luck !

[@echotheglaceon]

Thanks for the tips! I tried to keep my new cat separated from my old but he's snuck out a few times and gotten hissed at. I feel like since she's seen him too many times before she properly got used to his scent, she's not going to adjust well.... I'm really worried about them getting along

[@KittenSchool]

Hi Kelci, I think some occasional hissing is ok. There will probably have to be some hissing and even a swat or too before the cats really get to know each other. Unless there is serious fighting go on, or one cat is attacking the other (beyond a swat or hiss), I would let them interact more when you are there to supervise. If you keep them separated for too long then they won't get the chance to meet, work out their social hierarchy order, and learn to live together. It isn't easy at first but I think it can work out if you're patient and allow the cats to adjust on their own terms. Good luck!

[@vbmelchor]

Kitten School Hello, I just bought a new kitten today and before given any chance to meet via scent or sounds, my two cats met this kitten face to face. One of my cats doesn’t seem bothered at all competitively, but one of them because very hissy and has been acting strange. Any tips on how to mend the relationship since it started out so badly?

[@ADRIXHEVA]

Bradley Melchor what ended up happening?

[@messibessi11]

Did they ever get along?

[@zubuxstein]

The comment about not raising your voice to a cat is not true. My cat understands very well, she knows whats going on and does comply to firm loud commands. At least my resident cat does not freak out and is not afraid of me. She is super dominant, and does need a reminder who is the boss in the house. The soft calm talk, she will do laps around you in no time.

[@InvincibleJ]

I was not ready for that last voiceover!! 😂🤣

[@aadisris.d2352]

But in my case it's the new kitten who's hissing at the older one, where he's trying to approach the new kitten🤣🤣🤣

[@rachellebrise3687]

Sameee!!!!

[@hjahn3104]

me too! have you had any luck with the situation?

[@kkoch666]

SPAYER! That's an awesome shirt!

[@z.einaaa]

Hi thank you so much for congratulating me we got the kitten the first day wasn’t so well but to our surprise the kitten was the one hissing and growling but then my three year old cat started hissing and growling and was so angry. It’s the next day the kitten really wanted to play with my three year old cat but she didn’t want her to touch her and right now she’s sleeping in the closet she usually sleeps in the living room but I guess that she smelled her smell everywhere in the house except the guest room so I’m starting to get a little scared that my three year old cat is not going to exempt her as her new friend

[@spy6205]

Thanks for your tips. We’ve successfully introduced two cats previously - a sweet and docile senior boy and a curious but shy girl kitten. It was so easy and quick. While never becoming best friends, they enjoyed each other’s presence and would sit near each other on the couch or explore happenings in the home together. We lost our 20 year old boy this past Thanksgiving. We are now working towards introducing our new 10 month old boy to our existing (now 6 year old) girl cat. She’s grown even more anxious, timid and shy as she ages but we can tell she’s lonely being the sole cat of house currently. Our new boy is very sweet and playful so we’re hopeful that some of that energy wears off on her. We’re going to start the introduction process in the next week or so and videos like these are incredibly helpful in knowing what are good signs vs bad (especially in regards to the hissing - our girl loves to make her feelings known by hissing when she’s upset). Thanks again and please send us any good luck you’ve got!

[@janssensantos4231]

hi! i got a 3 month old kitten... and its been a week now... my resident cat seems ok now with his scent being in the house.. but his visuals seem to trigger the resident cat :(

[@fatimazohra9149]

Again great advice from you! I always wonder, how these methods work with multiple cats at once in a single home.

[@1940limited]

While cats are solitary animals by nature, ours have always seemed to enjoy companionship, as stated in the video. Multiple cats should never be a social problem. It's just a lot of work and expense taking care of them! :-)

[@scottweiss9618]

Hi Fatima, I live in a multi-cat house. Read the comment I left... it is a regular War Story.

[@scottweiss9618]

@@1940limited Hi G, yeah, for years I never had a problem with multiple cats. Then I sort of had a problem when I brought in Betty, the Super Alpha from my Feral Cat Feeding Station. Betty was sort of special, with a foot in both Worlds. I first saw her as a kitten eating out of a dish in front of a door. So, she was a little bit Hand Socialized at the right age for it. but when her People moved and left her behind, she came charging into the Feeding Station and took over. She looked like she had Brit Short Hair Blood and those things are built like bull terriers. But some kids got BB guns for Christmas and turned the Territory into Fields of Death. So I brought Betty inside. I loved her, but she did corner out all the other cat's Them To Me Quality times. After just a few years, Betty was still young, she dropped over dead.... I guess it was a BB or a Pellet she had been shot with that finally cut into something important. Then, wow, to see how the other cats re-positioned. Yeah, whenever somebody dies in a Multicat Household, it is like Musical Chairs. You know, it might break your heart when some favorite Snuggle Bug dies, but then, you'll be surprised when another cat just steps into that role. "My Turn". But every once in a while there can be Real Problems and drama. Like Caroline says, we're always able to ride it out.

[@Peanutbutterree]

Help please I just recently got a new Kitten because I felt like my cat is lonely I understand it is normal for cat to hiss at each other and my cat is hissing at my new kitten but I can’t find any information on whether or not it is normal for my cat to hiss at me as whenever I try to touch my cat she hisses at me note that this is the first time she is hissing at me.

[@janclebro6997]

We got our new kitten twenty months ago. I can only say it's been hell and I've shed copious tears. Our older cat has sprayed every surface in the house, he's bitten us and he's absolutely hated his new sister, attacking her whenever he could. We've been told he's a despot male and that we should never have got him a sister. They've been stressed, we've been stressed. But over the past three weeks she's been finally starting to win him over. Not friends yet, and she's still very scared, but there's definite progress at last.

[@taheratarannumsiddiqui9946]

is everything fine now? can u tell us the updates of your cats

[@janclebro6997]

The situation is better now, and she's got the upper paw now that she's bigger than him. She gives him a little swipe if he gets too close. Also, he's only three legged, so he's very much at a disadvantage. She likes to smell him all over while he eats. But they're not friends, he still bullies her.

[@valeriavega464]

Can someone please help me? I have 2 cats a male cat and a male kitten and my male cat doesn't really like my kitten but the thing is that my cats are father and son and I dont really under stand why they fight so if someone could please help me that will be greatly appreciated

[@kimhimes1617]

This was super helpful & reassuring! We were starting to get worried but this helped so much! Thank you!

[@nohomo4774]

video starts @0:55

[@marierichards4665]

It's been 6 weeks and my senior cats still hate my new kitten. To be fair, I don't blame them. She is constantly launching herself at them to get them to play. I've done everything--the isolation of the kitten, the scent swapping, the meet and greet with the kitten in a crate, I've put the kitten on a leash, I've bought the pheromone stuff--nothing seems to be working. I am at a loss.

[@shaunoshaungo1305]

I'm currently having the same issue as well 😢

[@doloresaquines1529]

Cats are territorial creature. It Will take time.

[@musliovci5719]

how did it go??

[@saidamagomedgadzieva2912]

The painful part is that my old cat started hating me as well, even when I pet him he hisses at me😖😖

[@reganh2338]

Thank you so much for this! We’ve had my kitten for 3 days now. And I had him in our master bedroom. But i didn’t think about our cat being shut out. So now at night I put him in our bathroom and I let our other cat roam. My question is when do you officially know they’re good to be left alone without supervision?

[@Smoke3380]

You will just know. When they dont fight extra brutal anymore, when you can wash dishes without worrying about them. If you can sleep with no wild fighting, then its probably ok. Start small. Personally it took 3 weeks for my cats. From really bad to friends.

[@cngles]

How can i make a mother cat in my house adopt another cat , i let them sniff each other but the mother cat hissed at my kitten then went away

[@CathysWorld383]

My cat is so pissed. I don’t know what to do. My new cat is crying outside the door and really wants in my room, but if I let her in here my older cat will attack her. It’s breaking my heart man.

[@borox9875]

how’s the cat now

[@taminy2051]

Thank you very much for your very helpful video. We have a new kitten Nala (3.5 month), since Sunday, 31st July 2022, and our resident cat, Hexi (3 years), is not very happy. As we never had to introduce a new cat, we were very insecure. Your video helped us a lot to regain confidence and to give our two ladies the time they need.

[@allisonwendell9942]

I really wished I had seen this video three years ago when introducing my younger cat to my older one. But I learned a great deal. I'm about to get a little kitten and I feel better that I will do it right this time around. Thanks for this vide. My two current cats don't hate eachother, they tolerate one another and just stay out of eachother's way. So that's the best I can hope for after three years. LOL

[@KittenSchool]

You are so welcome! Good luck with your new kitten, and remember take the steps slow. It sometimes takes time, but they will adapt!

[@analothor]

argh...one bowl one litter tray, this is gonna be a real pain...

[@reginabrown921]

This is the best tutorial video that is out there.

[@missyscastle]

`i hope u r still reading comments after 4 yrs..im 72 years old and use a walker...i adopted teddy from a shelter 6 years ago and it was a rough start with biting me for months he is now he best cat ever..one week ago i adopted a second cat..a 5 yr old totally sweet cat named kiki..teddy hates her..the r both fixed..heres what ive done although people keep saying let them fight it out i wont do that!..i have new kiki in my bedroom but 3 times teddy was able to get past me because i need to open door wide to get through with walker..now i block teddy with 16x29 canvas... and it was a terrible fight but not in the last 3 days...here is what ive done..ive switched items back and forth that each cat has laid on for scent purposes ..i ordered 2 comfort zone calming collars that will be here in 3 days..local shops were out of stock..especially feliway products..i decided on collars because i paint with acrylics and need ac and fans running to keep a lower temperature..i live in a 600 sq ft apt..teddy does go to the door where kiki is often but now walks away without throwing a fit,,i have separate potty boxes..i have a nanny cam in with kiki to watch her.. and a mirror set up so i can c under the bed..i give her fresh food..blue buffalo and purina pro and fresh water and when i go in to c her she comes right to me and she loves being petted and scratched but not being picked up..she plays with toys, eats drinks great and loves the bedroom window...teddy is still on the move seeking her out in the living room as i switch cats occasionally when its safe to make the switch..what more can i do to make a happy safe home for all of us..i already love kiki..im not taking her back to the shelter unless its a final heartbreaking decision..i hope i never have to do that! can u help me..this is my first experience of having cat fights...ty for reading my short novel...sharon elmira ny

[@nunosoares2329]

Caroline. So many cute kitties in this video and enough time to watch them all especially handsome Sing Sing. Great tips. Thanks Caroline for what you do. You're awesome :-)

[@1940limited]

I always look forward to her latest video.

[@snowps1]

We adopted a spayed female a month ago. She has settled in. Last Saturday we picked up a foster unspayed female. The initial meeting was pretty tame until my cat smelled the butt of the new cat. Then all hell broke loose. Right now they each have their own room and we are taking turns letting them out. Twice a day I feed them soft food about 4 or 5 ft apart. Some days are good. Other days my cat has attacked the foster cat. I know it takes time, but is it possible for my cat to accept this unspayed cat? If they would get along, i'd adopt the foster, too. But she is from the Humane Society and all of their surgeries are on hold right now. So I have no idea when she can spayed.

[@Diana-gx3tx]

Great questions. I hope the administrator helps you out.

[@Deidredit]

This is so helpful. We are getting a new kitten in the next couple weeks as long as she is negative for FIV (Her momma has it so the kittens have to be tested). We have a black cat named Kimba we've had since kittenhood (She's 13 years old now) and I'm expecting a lot of the hissing and growling that you mentioned. I'm hoping this kitten can provide her with some companionship in her older years that she never necessarily received from other cats before. She had a brother (Himalayan) for only about six months until he developed urinary tract infections and was blocked several times. We were in college and had little to no money to help the little guy out so after 3500 dollars we had to put him down, so Kimba didn't have much of a chance to hang out with her brother. I'm hoping she will find comfort in another kitty sibling.

[@notyeo6027]

I really wish I saw this when I got my kitten 😭😭😭😭 I have to give my cat away because my older cat won’t stop hissing at the kitten and the older one wouldn’t eat or anything now the kittens gone she’s normall now 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 and i got the kitten because of my depression 😭😭😭

[@leahusif8145]

Not Yeo umm ok

[@scottweiss9618]

Hi Caroline, Hi Everybody, Oh, I learned one thing when I took in Tiny Little Siamese Tommy when he was so little that I didn't even think he was weaned yet and was syringe feeding him around the clock. My Old Kitten Roary (who had been the youngest and so was the last one to be spoiled as being the darling kitten, but now he was over 4 years old) ... Roary was almost demonically crazy with hissing, getting Puffy, and dramatics. I thought he would KILL little Tommy and so I prepared a Carrier to be little Tommy's Safe Haven. But after a while it occurred to me that Roary's Sound and Fury was all AVOIDANT. Apparently Roary understood that the New Kitten wasn't to be killed, but Roary did want it to go away, and if Tommy wouldn't go, Roary would, and Roary would leave. Well, Little Tommy didn't make the situation any better, because as he became a very active kitten and realized that Roary was Inhibiting his Aggression, well, Little Tommy took advantage. I would try to give Roary his Quality Time, but Tommy would butt in and interfer. It took over 8 months until Little Tommy began to settle down and me and Roary could re-establish our old Quality Times. Oh, and then a new Rescue came aboard: Calico Peggy, also fresh from just having been a Kitten. Well, when Roary saw how Peggy tore into Little Tommy, and how Tommy respected that, and he saw how AFRAID Peggy was of him (Roary is BIG, only doesn't seem to know it) well, Roary, decided to stop being so Inhibited with Tommy and apparently kicked his little butt. Yeah, for a few weeks, between Peggy and Roary, Little Tommy was walking around with patches of fur missing and bite marks on his throat. Couldn't have happened to a better kitten. But, yeah, as Caroline Says, everybody is getting along fine now. Oh, and, yeah, BE CAREFUL if one of your cats is really being Dramatic and Excited, that is, all hissy and puffed up and crazy. Listen to this Horror Story. When Peggy was still an outdoor kitten and none of my responsibility (she was still CUTE and the whole neighborhood was feeding her and I thought someone else would give her a home, so the heck with her, right?... after about 6 months all that would change), well Roary was at the door going crazy to drive Peggy off, and I was pushing him back with my bare foot, and he BIT ME. I mean Roary is as big as a damned Raccoon!. Luckily it was just one Fang that went in, but it went in all the way. I guess I had a half inch nail hole in my foot... but it was an Animal Bite! I should have went to the Emergency room, but I was worried that the Doctor would see it was an Animal bite and make a big deal about Rabies and want to cut off Roary's head and do a lab test for Rabies. So i stayed home. Well, I put antibiotic ointment on it and every day IT DIDN'T GET ANY WORSE, and that was good enough to keep from going to the doctors . But it was red and my foot was swollen for about a month (that is, swollen all the time, and then for months after that, it would be swollen if I would be up and around), and it was about 3 months before the wound even scabbed over (it was a seeping wound that whole time), and it was 5 months before the scare tissue finally closed off the wound. (Now I look at it and Pray to God and my Angels that they let me get away with all that... and I reach down and touch it and it still hurts enough, like it is saying "remember me"). So Anyway, if it ever happens to you, just swear up and down that you dropped a barbecue fork off the kitchen counter and it stabbed your foot, and stick with the story. It is a shame that the Gawddamned Doctors have partnered up with the Gawddamned Social Workers so that everyone is afraid to go to the Hospital because those Stormtroopers will kick down your door for not being a perfect angel. But, anyway, ROARY was REALLY sorry he bit me. He knew he screwed up! He could taste my blood and as he was a Socialized Domestic Cat, well, biting his Human Guardian must have been a Nightmare for him. I once knew a Feral Kitten whose mother had brought him to my feeding station, and I was careless when I tried to catch him to take him to the Vet to get fixed, and he bit my thumb.... no big deal. Well, even HE was sorry! And he started following me around to re-assure me that he didn't mean it (so he was REALLY EASY to catch the next time). But, yeah, if you are going to separate Cats when they are all crazy, then wear shoes and heavy gloves. Like Caroline says, speak softly. what I do is I adopt the tone of pretending that I'm confused and don't know what the problem is, and so I am asking them if everything is alright. "Are you guys Okay?" And when they are both watching me instead of each other, then I reach in with reassuring touches. But I learned to not get Between them if the eyes are still locked on each other. Once Bitten, a Thousand Times Shy. Oh, Old Foxxy had jumped up to sleep with me, and he suddenly started scratching his ear with is hind foot... well, I must have thought he was BITING ME and so I screamed like a Girl! I guess I got Post Traumatic Stress. Roary too. He's still really sorry. Maybe that is why he was so Inhibited with Little Tommy. Roary never wanted to bite anything or anyone ever again.

[@1940limited]

Our youngest cat, a little B&W boy who was the runt of the litter, will come running every time another cat in the house gets attention (we have 5). No matter where he is he seems to know the other cats are getting attention even though he gets plenty, too. There's no hostility, but it's really funny how he butts into everything.

[@KittenSchool]

Wow! You have sure experienced kitty armageddon! A tooth through the toenail - OMG...agony! Scott you are totally right: when cats go into "Crazy Mode" they do not differentiate their beloved mom/dad, their own siblings, or their best friend from the enemy. You really do have to watch out to make sure they don't scratch or bite you - cat bites can be BAD. I have a foster friend who was recently attacked by a momma cat who turned on her when another cat ran into the bathroom where she and her kittens were being housed. My friend tried to separate the two cats and momma attacked her. She spent 48 hours in the hospital getting IV antibiotics! It was a lesson learned for all of our foster group. It's easy to let your guard down once you think you "really know" the cats and not take precautions. I don;t want people to be scared of cats, but I want them to be careful...for their own sake AND for the kitty's sake. Thanks for sharing, Scott! **Caroline

[@1940limited]

@@KittenSchool We call it going into a trance.

[@scottweiss9618]

@@KittenSchool 48 Hours in the Hospital! Well, I guess it was better than what I did. Oh, the Fang didn't go through a toe. It was about an inch in from the outer edge of the foot, and about two inches in from the root of the little toe. So, yeah, I would sleep with the foot up to bring down the swelling, and then band aid up in the morning and stick my foot into the shoe, and the shoe would contain the swelling (I saved that pair of shoes and the Left is, for the Bite Foot, looks like a Basketball mated with an Italian Loafer, as it is all stretched out from the swelling). But, really, I should have put my Schooling on the back burner and took care of that foot (which is easy to say now, but I got straight A's that semester). I don't no how close I came to that wound getting septic, necrotic and my losing the whole foot, or even leg. OH! about getting scratched. In the last couple of years I got my Double Hip Replacement. Well, I live in the Tropics and the Island finally got it's own Hospital and the Hip Program was ramping up but there were Credit Issues with the Hospital (Rich Capitalist Countries don't trust Little Brown Islands, but a VA Nurse got them on the phone and asked "Do we need an official investigation?) But I was on a waiting list for over a year and what happens with bad hips is that bone mass buildup around the bad joints closes off mobility (the tell tale "penguin walk" of Hip or Knee degeneration), so I had the First Operation, and the Doctor never thought of telling me to drop my pants before the operation so he could check for signs of pre-existing infections. But when they got me on the Table, there they were, all the Cat Scratches from cats 'pulling themselves up into bed at night'. Well, the Doctor said "We'll, we can't keep putting off this guy's operation.... we'll double up on the anti-biotics" and went they went on with the operation. But afterwards, he told me before the second operation he would have me stripped naked and check for cat scratches, and turn me around if I showed up with any on Operation Day. Wow! I learned to sleep covered up, and even built a little set of Kitty Stairs so that old Foxxy could climb the stairs to come to bed instead of Grabbing Leg to pull himself up (over the years, Gritting My Teeth became part of our Quality Time). OH! It was after the Hip Replacements when I got the Bite. It turns out the Infections are sort of attracted to Prosthesis Hardware, and so in addition to the pain and swelling in the foot, I was also having some pain from the most recent Hip Replacement (my doctor waited six months between operations). Damn! I guess I should have a Live In Nurse, huh?... to keep me out of trouble. OH! Caroline, this is what you can tell everybody. When I first started out as a Volunteer in the Kennels, all the Cat Workers told me their basic rule: "At the first sign of aggression, DROP THE CAT". That trick came in handy when I had my Feral Cat Feeding Stations and I would try to save time by just snatching up cats to take to the Vet instead of putting out traps (yeah, just "Grab Catches" are good for the little Half Feral Kittens who never distrust you as much as Mom does), but as soon as I realize my grip isn't just right and they might be resistant, I just drop them just like that, and I pretend that nothing happened and go on putting out food or whatever, and then the little kitten will be looking like "WTF just happened?", but since nothing of consequence did actually happen (accept that I touched them and everything is still alright), they forget about it relatively quickly. but, yeah, if Little Fluffy ever goes 'All Animal', DROP and or STEP BACK. Always great talking with you Caroline.

[@3SweetyAngel]

I gotten a new kitten since 4 days and well it wasn't a great start.. my 1 Y old cat had a blowed up tail and she was scared asf. (i rescured her when she was younger 5-6Month from the streets) it tooked us a long journey to heald up and trusted us fully itn her new home. and now i decied to get a secound cat for my 1Y old for not beign alone.. well what can i say... the newest cat is hissig alot and growling my big cat and ofc my oldest cat does the same.. at first i didint know what to do, i seperated them in the first night (still do it.). I dont know what to doooooo!! I what them to love each other!! I need some help.

[@andreacammarota9579]

Thanks for these videos, I keep coming back to them for HOPE as we go through this transition. We are 2 1/2 weeks into bringing our new kitten, Lulú, into our home. I’ve watched your videos and followed all the advice. My resident cat, Her Grayce , is about 3 y/o. She is still at the hissing, growling, & swatting stage, although she has hissed then turned her back to clean herself in front of the kitten. Once she even showed the kitten her belly, but simultaneously growling (a bit of mixed messaging?) It’s mostly growling & hissing. My first concern is that Her Grayce will charge in the kitten’s direction, unprovoked by Lulú. She stops short of pouncing, but I think that’s only because I’m there to say “No, not ok.” And then I move Lulú away. Second, Her Grayce is not very food motivated. She casually grazes through the day. So even though they have set feeding times, she may or may not be ready to eat more when it’s time to feed Lulú. So the simultaneous feeding has been tough bc if I bring Lulú in to eat while Her Grayce is eating, Her Grayce just leaves the room. Any ongoing advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again for these videos!

[@mhyre6325]

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[@mas1964-rp]

New to this channel and read your comments. Was wondering how it’s going. I’m in the beginning stages of introducing and it truly is challenging

[@niecynoo32]

If it’s been a week, and my cat still sits at the door growling and hissing at the new kitten, should I attempt a see, but not touch meeting? Or just keep hoping she will eventually stop growling/hissing before trying that?

[@KittenSchool]

Yes, but make sure you are able to supervise and separate in case your big cat tries to attack or bite the kitten. Have you tried taking a blanket that the kitten has slept on and letting your adult cat sniff it?

[@anyaaftab3056]

it’s been three years n my cats still swat each other n very occasionally get into a growling match n actually start fighting

[@vixxcelacea2778]

You should reintroduce them. It's not good or normal for cats to actually fight. Having a small swatting match or some hissing to re-establish social heiarchy might be normal in cats that aren't super close, but fighting is not cool. It's stressful and could escalate to cats actually hurting each other. If reintroducing doesn't work, you should probably rehome one of the kitties unless you are willing to split your house and keep them away from each other for 15-20 years.

[@SAYITAINTALBERT]

My cat gets PISSED at me and it was hissing at me so I tossed a sandal at him. And I feel like he has pent up aggression. The other kitten left but she’s so cute. Maybe I should give it time.

[@KittenSchool]

No throwing sandals at your cat! Try being patient and gentle, and allow your cat plenty of alone time to process the new kitten. It does take time!

[@stacyeasley3346]

Thank you so much for doing videos such as these. Your cat introduction videos really help. Like you said patience is so important.

[@KittenSchool]

Hi Stacy! Thanks for the comment, so glad you liked the video! **Caroline

[@pegjones7682]

My Mr Grey lost his older friend, he miowed for days. Finally I got him a kitten,let him smell the cage first.then introduced them . He picked up the kitten by the scruff of the neck carried it to the living room and washed it. Friends and playmates ever since.