My Coming Out Story

[@nicolasnashall2982]

My youngest son came to me when he was 18 and said he had something he had to tell me. His face was so grave, he had tears in his eye and so I was filled with dread thinking he was in trouble or ill. He took a deep breath and said “I’m gay”, I waited for him to add to this with the serious news, but that was it! I was so relieved I remember telling him not to worry me like that again (not the best response in hindsight) and that I was absolutely fine with him being gay. Fast forward 8 years and he is now engaged to a wonderful chap and I couldn’t be more proud of the man he is. He like you dated girls and I think this was because he wanted to “fit in” with his friends, but he had always preferred playing with his sister and her friends when he was young rather than with his brother. I wish you all the best and hope you have an amazing life. Kate (from 🇬🇧) x

[@cloudsunicorns194]

You sound like a wonderful mom.

[@JimmiAlli]

The mother always knows.

[@andfolk254]

Nicola your response to your son’s coming out was so sweet. It made me smile. He’s a lucky man.

[@snipercow861]

Scientifically the last child is most likely gay

[@wendyannh]

What a wonderful response! Your son is very lucky to have a mom like you. It’s such a shame that so many people have to worry so much about coming out.

[@psychicmediumleoshelton5027]

"Ellen wasn't this amazing person as she is now"...paused the video, scroll down a bit, looked at the date this was posted...smirked...restarted the video.

[@Matt-hs7gs]

Hahaaa!! 🤣🙌

[@Battledrone]

Same

[@carolynalfieri5633]

I met my first girlfriend when I was 17. I was "lost in love" and was never home. Dad was about to lecture me when I told him that I had something that I needed to tell him first. He asked, "What, you knocked up?" I said, "No. I'm gay and xxx is my girlfriend". The poor man was in such a state of shock that all he could say was, "As long as it doesn't interfere with your homework, it's fine." Then he left the room. He came around after the shock wore off. I'm 51 now and met my wife in SLC!

[@민미-z7m]

I live in Korea and in Korea gay is bad. I am gay and it has been so hard to keep my sexuality and relationships a secret. From the time of being a little girl I knew that I was not like the other girls in my class so this helps me feel like there are people like me. When people tell their stories of coming out it gives me hope that one day I will be able to also. I wish that one day Korea will be as accepting as parts of America. Thank you for giving me hope. (p.s sorry if my english is not good I am learning)

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Thank you for being so brave and living your truth the best you can. I never thought my home country of the U.S. would be accepting but we're slowly making strides and all you can do is hang in there, be safe and have a good support system. There are some resources in the description of this video if you are able to access them maybe they will help you. Just know that you are ok and exactly who you are suppose to be.

[@Alice-it9oc]

I’d really love to know how you’re dealing with it today.

[@minnietrout814]

My son teaches English in Busan. 😊 I hope you’re doing well today. And btw: you speak great English. ❤️

[@raym1477]

As a gay disabled man myself, I appreciate hearing your coming out story.

[@deborahjansson8622]

Thank you for sharing your story. I remember my mom telling me that she would disown me if I ever told her that I was gay. I was 18 at the time. I also tried to live straight, and in that, was blessed with an amazing son. But, ultimately I had to be me, and came out to my mom and sister when I was 30. By then, mom was amazing and was able to except me just as I am, and love me and my partner. ❤️

[@karkitty202]

I don’t want to offend or anything negative of the sort but I am curious(obviously answer only if you want to), what’s going on with the mother of your son? Does she understand and accept you for you? Do you guys get along? I’m sorry if this is personal, I’ve just never had the opportunity to ask someone in your situation these questions

[@wendyannh]

@@karkitty202 That might be one of the most bizarre questions anyone has ever asked another person. The “mother of [Deborah’s] son”? And “what’s going on with” her?? WTF? *Deborah* is the mother of her *own* freaking son!!

[@rbriseno8756]

Thank you for sharing. When my BFF told me she was gay, I could tell it was difficult for her to do so. I don't recall being super surprised, but I think I told her something like, "be you, be happy." That conversation was many, many moons ago. I'm 52 and she is 48 and has been married to her wife for 6 yrs. I love my BFF no matter what.

[@meghaha8966]

That’s so sweet

[@pattib3828]

As a proud sister with two gay brothers, I look forward to a day when people don't have to come out. They can just be the beautiful light that they are. Let's quit with the labels.

[@charleshertoghs202]

Thanks for your story. I recognize myself in what you said. I was 18 when I came out. Now almost 70 and 48 years with my man. Wish that to you to. Big hugs

[@bee-pv8ph]

This is BEAUTIFUL I hope you and your man have many more amazing years together

[@charleshertoghs202]

@@bee-pv8ph thanks sweet man Big hugs

[@carly582]

I'm nearly 30 and still havnt come out

[@marie_eria]

This is the sweetest thing,,,Please tell your husband we all said hello! Big hugs to you too, and wishing for the best! stay healthy! :)

[@wendyannh]

@@carly582 I hope you are able to find the courage to do so - and that your loved ones take it well. And I hope and pray that one day this will simply never even be an issue for people at all.

[@stepha2642]

When my ex came out to me I said to him “as long as you’re happy, I don’t care about anything else.”

[@CourtneyLachiver]

I was in a similar situation like yours. There was a dude I met online and never met him in person. We wanted to date but at the time I didn't have a car so it was an online relationship that was very brief. Flash forward years and years later, he told me he had something to show me. I was like, "sure, what is it?" He then said to me, "I'm transgender, I've felt this way since I was very young, I identify as a female." She expected me to be repulsed but instead I was like, "that's freaking awesome! I'm happy you feel comfortable telling me this!" She was very relieved and at ease.

[@stepha2642]

@@CourtneyLachiver he knew I'd be cool with it. He wasn't worried at all.

[@chromeo3945]

I just uglycried all over my phone at the end of this video.. I am exactly who I'm supposed to be. Thanks, man

[@emilioincerto]

No need to cry. We all grow up and deal with becoming a sexual being as we enter adulthood

[@bee-pv8ph]

@@emilioincerto crying is beautiful, nothing bad that needs to be prevented, especially in a situation where you're learning self acceptance. There's definitely a need to cry

[@karkitty202]

You /are/ exactly who you’re /supposed/ to be man.

[@Emsky1989]

Thank you for being brave enough to post this. My story is sort of similar, well, my wife's story anyway. She came out as transgender about seven/eight years ago. At first, I'll admit, I wasn't 100% accepting of it and found it weird with her wearing a skirt, I asked her to take it off. An hour later, I told her to put it back on and I became fully accepting of her ever since then and I couldn't be prouder of her. She went through a time where her parents weren't accepting it at all. Her dad's coming around ever so slightly, where she couldn't wear women's clothing to see her parents, but now he's allowing that, but still dead name her and uses the wrong pronouns. However, her mum has come around almost full circle, where she sometimes dead names her in front of her dad, but they can talk about women stuff together, which I'm happy about as she and my wife are so close. When my wife came out as Transgender, she also made me realise something about myself, I came out as Pansexual not long after she came out and I couldn't be happier. I am honoured to have gone through this journey with my wife, who I love with my heart. We've been married since 2013 and hope we can spend the next seventy years together xx

[@ember6391]

I'm so proud of you for being who you are Spencer, congrats for being brave enough to do this.

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the comment and the love. ❤️

[@lizajane1878]

As a Christian hearing you speak. I heard you. ❤️ thank you.

[@tmaffeo]

Ty so much for sharing your “ coming out story” my son was 23 when he told me and sadly and selfish , the first thing I thought about was not being a grandmother . a mother has unconditional love for their child and that’s what I told him I love you no matter what . For my husband and being Italian, it was hard for him but now he accepted it . My Son is now 42 and I wouldn’t change him for the world 🌻🌻🌻

[@lynn2574]

It hurts my heart to hear the struggles you had. You must have felt so isolated at times. I was raised in an extremely conservative church that taught the same thing about homosexuality as yours did. I don’t have the right vocabulary often, and am sometimes uncomfortable talking about sexuality with friends, but my heart and arms are unconditionally open. I’m grateful to my LGBTQ + for loving me through my ignorance while educating me. ❤️ Just found your channel, and really enjoy your videos.

[@kellyreilly-robinson2130]

I love your understanding of your parents. At 48 my life growing up was confined to religious beliefs of our church. When my children were born I knew it would be unconditional love and it is. Thank you for sharing your truth! You are amazing

[@diamondpaintingwiththebesties]

I just found your channel and thank you for sharing your story. My daughter is gay and she came out to me a little over a year ago.. it didn’t change a thing but what I struggled with was why she waited so long to tell me... but talking to my LGBTQ friends, they helped me understand that it had nothing to do with me but for her to accept herself. Thank you so much

[@tylerl4768]

You are a wonderful parent

[@diamondpaintingwiththebesties]

@@tylerl4768 thank you so much

[@niknoks6387]

My mum said but you got married to a man and had kids. I said yeh that’s what’s was expected. I’m 50. So at 32 I came out, I have been with my wife since I was 2002 and we got married in 2008 (UK) . once mum got over the shock she was fine. I’m glad I didn’t come out at 18 when I first knew, although it would have made life easier, I would never have had my kids and my wife now. Had it have been now, I would have come out in my teens. Times change eh! We have to stick together as one big gay family eh! X

[@amibelle9270]

I'm sorry but you knew you were gay and still married a woman, isn't that an unfair thing to do to someone?

[@niknoks6387]

@@amibelle9270 in the 80’s it wasn’t the same as now. If it was now I wouldn’t have married a man first, I wouldn’t have come out to my mum in my teens not when I was 32. My first gay experience was at 32. I never cheated in on my husband. I didn’t leave him because I was gay, I left him as he was abusive, mentally.

[@amibelle9270]

@@niknoks6387 I re-read your comment again and realized you're a woman, sorry about the confusion and good for you.

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

@@amibelle9270 So is fair when woman do it to a man? Double standard

[@johnnytownsend4204]

Thanks for this. At my first PFLAG meeting, the VP of our branch asked her son to speak. He came out that day to her, and he was scared, even though his mom was in the leadership at PFLAG. His older brother had come out a few years earlier, followed by his lesbian sister a year or so after that, and he felt like the last hope for a hetero kid in the family. Most of us back in the day were scared to come out for one reason or another. I was excommunicated from the LDS Church for being gay. Now I'm with my husband, also an exmo, who did his mission in Italy as I did. We both still speak Italian to each other every day.

[@jaybirddee3790]

Thank you!! You’re like the gay Stanley Tucci of our dreams. Kudos to you for having such strength and for sharing with such poise and love.

[@theonionqueen3519]

Oh my god...the shiver that went through my body when he mentioned Matthew.....it still breaks my heart so much.

[@jimmywhite3922]

Spencer!...I'm having butterflies after KZbin introduced you to me tonight! That was awesome and encouraging and you just radiate love and positive energy. I'm late to the party but I'm in. 😉

[@a.j.stauft1779]

Omg such a good chat..wow your here in Canada 🇨🇦 just keeps getting better..yeah..Calgary saying yeah..another gorgeous man in our Canuck ranks..perfect..love how you explain your thoughts..so cool thank you 🥰💋

[@DaLuCkYnUmBeR13]

My eyes.... were.... sweating. So incredibly proud of you, your strength, and your determination, Spencer. You’re such a positive influence and I know all of your stories have impacted so many people. Thank you for this video and thank you for existing 💕

[@Spencer2TheWest]

You’re the best! Miss you girl!

[@DaLuCkYnUmBeR13]

Spencer2TheWest Miss you too!

[@carriecadieux7745]

I really enjoyed this video. My daughter Leah went to Kenya 8 years ago(wow seems like yesterday. ) Leah was 14 at the time and when she returned she talked so much about you. You are a great role model. Leah came home learning that you were gay and I must say how proud I am that she didn’t bat an eye at it. I think I did something right as a parent. People like you make parents jobs easier. Leah learned so much with her years of volunteering, attending the leadership camp right here in our home village of Bethany, and our many years of volunteering at We days in both Ottawa and Toronto. ( I felt like a groupie)I wish you only happiness and hope you find that special man out there! Thank you for all you do for our youth, you make a big difference!❤️

[@ashleyjohnson8248]

The last part about mourning the loss is so true and hit me in the feels!!

[@mickiedownend7845]

My heart cries for you. What is wrong with people that think they are better than anyone who is different.

[@VampyrGrl]

What

[@kristinabranch3097]

Spencer, you are so very loved and a example of what a good man is. Thank you 🙏 for that. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤍

[@ReneeKnightYogaRani]

Why is it not okay in our society for a man to think another man is cute, or a woman to this another woman is attractive, without having a sexual connotation to it? Thank you for telling your story. I'm sorry that anyone is still experiencing prejudice for their sexual orientation which isn't really an option, it;'s part of who we are.

[@rhondabeckwith8782]

Do you really know how courageous you are? I truly believe you are here in this world to inspire and help us weaker pple to over come difficult things..you are perfectly perfect and much more. I feel good each time I listen to you.. Not to mention how funny you can be.. So happy I stumbled upon you..btw greatest smile and laugh ever..thank you for sharing all your vulnerabilities..hugs xo Rhonda

[@tinkerbell_faye]

Thank you so much for sharing your strory. It's people like you who help us LGBT feel supported. It means a lot. Thank you, truly.

[@MelissaSchwartz143]

🥺🥺🥺 you’re such a good story teller. So captivating and I’m so happy you were able to come out and I’m so glad your family wanted to understand you and ultimately accepted you and loved you the way you are.

[@stephr7637]

This is such an important post. As a MH nurse, as a friend (and I hope an ally) to gay people, and as someone who despite being cis and straight was raised in a judgemental family that didn't value females so felt a little of the 'I'm not acceptable as I am', thank you so much for explaining in such an eloquent way why every person counts for exactly who and what they are regardless of what others may think or have been conditioned to. Thank you.

[@kathryngordon5115]

I know this was posted a long time ago - but I just saw it for the first time. You are an amazing human being - and I am so grateful for your channel. Growing up lesbian around the same time you did - this meant the world to me.

[@archxpat]

Your are an amazing guy. As a gay man I know what a process coming out is.... and how many times it has to be repeated! I told my parents pretty much the way you did & got the same reaction. We are lucky to have the support.

[@gabrielaparadamorose6183]

Eternally proud of YOU and even more thankful to have seen this genuinely sincere video that shares your whole heart! I always felt while reading your book that there were missing chapters. When you say that your disability isn’t your biggest challenge it means that the Hetero world has a lot of work to do still. You are loved for being exactly who you are and for having the courage of a true warrior to use your public platform with grace to help others. ((Hugs))

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Gabby thank you so much for always supporting and understanding who I am. You are so loving and I really appreciate everything you do for me and so many others!

[@LLStark]

Wow! This was good! I'm surprised I even watched the whole thing; but it was so interesting and beautifully put; hey once i started i couldn't stop...i am not gay or bi but i sure can identity with a lot of your story...you r so cool...and funny...and down to earth....and i can go on and on so 😎🤗 #thanx4sharing ❤

[@sargunhanda6706]

AMEN! With my Crohn's Disease and other personal struggles, people think it's the hardest thing for me - but it's actually coming out to my family (I still haven't; I don't have the courage to do so yet...) Thank u for giving me strength and hope for the future when I come out ❤ Also, I'm a youth speaker at WE Day Seattle this year, so I can't wait to meet/see u in May!

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Dear Sargi thanks so much for the comment and sharing something so personal. Here are a few resources if you need some help on talking about it. Its important to do it when you're ready, and you'll know when that time comes. Keep up the good work and we'll see you in Seattle. itgetsbetter.org/ www.thetrevorproject.org/#sm.00010ebdq11784cqbylcje0dew8np

[@psychiron]

I was at the WEDay event where you came out during your speech. Idk if it was the first time you stated it, but it was a great moment being there and hearing the crowd cheer for you with so much support.

[@CassiesWorld]

Thank you for sharing your story. You are so strong !💖 It made me feel less alone. I really appreciate it

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Thanks Cassie and I’m glad. You’re not alone.

[@sensationalsix1644]

I know this is an old video, and I’m not even sure how I ended up here, but I wanted to say that your story is beautiful and so very relatable. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@celticmandoplayer]

Spencer, just now finding your channel and this video. Congrats on coming out ! Yes, it's scary, but I have to say easier these days, thankfully. I came out in 1978 (yikes!) and the world was a very different place, a more dangerous place for us whether you were a guy or a sister like me. Thankfully, we're accepted so much more today. We've come a long way, Baby! Kudos for your video, too. I hope that it helps because, yeah, it really does get better and coming out is very freeing.

[@mattparsons1510]

I was in tears the whole time, I’m so so blessed to have ppl like you on earth who are able to be a shining light for ppl. Thank you ❤️

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Thank so much! So sweet of you!

[@johnwmcmahan7889]

Beautiful My Friend. I love you so much and am so proud of you and all that you do. Thank you for being a voice. Your TRUE voice.

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Love you honey! Thanks for 20+ years of friendship!

[@LaurenMcGillOtt]

Can't believe I'm just seeing this now! Love you Felicia, so proud to have you as a friend.

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Awww thx boo! You’ll always be my Felicia!

[@westindiesgalfruits2335]

You're the most adorable human being ever and I love your KZbin channel ❤❤❤

[@shoshannafachima1306]

You are a bright light in this world. I saddens me that you were bullied in school.bullying is horrible. You spoke eloquently and with such feeling.may be blessed to find mr.right and hopefully raise a wonderful and compassionate family

[@beepb00p78]

Honestly, you're an absolute icon.

[@sherryc2443]

This touched my heart. Thank you for sharing.

[@stacygodfrey4939]

Amazing story. You are so brave and your Parents reaction/response is how every parent and human should react.

[@deboralavalley2577]

Be yourself always and and be proud of who you are and never let anyone put you down

[@wyomingirl4260]

I found your videos recently and was amazed. I remember seeing you at the public pool as a kid. I remember setting the record for highest/most tiers of the pyramid challenge in swim class at RSHS. I wish my best friend from that time, someone you might have known, could have seen this. Nick would have been so proud of your bravery and living your true life.

[@fawnajohnson6130]

I was the first person my dad/mom came out to as trans, but I wasn't the first to know. My brother snooped on his/her phone, discovered an affair, and showed it to my mom. It was definitely a rocky time, but the bad air is cleared. I'm happy that I got to be the first person my dad/mom to came out to by his/her own will

[@ohiorich1]

I applaud you. You said everything right. (yes I know how odd that sounds, but you said everything well, and so that everyone could understand). I applaud YOU. Yes I have just recently found you here on You Tube, and I am glad that I have. You impress me, and you have taught me. So THANK YOU, for you being you. I am glad I have met you (on here).

[@diannedelledera3096]

Thank you for having the courage to share your message. Kudos to your parents! Life is so difficult, if we would just accept ourselves and accept others with love the world would be such a great place!

[@peregrinekipling378]

You are a fantastic gentleman! Thank you for this brave and moving video, and all your shared experiences with us. Be proud and happy and healthy always! Lots of love to you! xxx PS I remember Matthew Shepherd and that terrible time. Thanks for remembering him too.

[@BeautyBySilence]

Hey Spencer, maybe you don’t remember but I remember you were a guest speaker at my junior high, St. Kevin’s in Edmonton (now it’s destroyed, but yeah). I found your video on my suggested videos feed and decided to click it because I saw a familiar face. I’m glad you’re able to live your life happy as a gay man and I hope you find a boyfriend/husband if you haven’t already. I’m bi and my family knows, but they don’t approve of it. They just don’t want me to talk about my sexuality, which is sad but I will still love girls and boys and still believe in God. Maybe one day they’ll come around.

[@cherrychassis]

Your story is wonderful and empowering! I am pansexual and I come from a conservative family who wasnt phobic but still werent 100% on board with me coming out. I wasn't raised to only focus on having a man in my life but after getting into middle school I noticed it was something that kids and adults made fun of either light heartedly or with cruel intent so I actually thought there was something wrong with me. I only cared about the persons soul not their appearence and to me this was how it should be but at the same time I was scared of what people would say or do to me and I was scared my family would hate me. I didn't know what I was until after I graduated highschool because at that time I only knew there was straight, gay, lesbian and bi. . . I didnt know there pan existed or anything else so I just told friends I was bi and my family that I was straight for most of my life. I honestly don't know if my mom is 100% with who I am to this day because she was never comfortable discussing things with me in detail but I have no filter around her so she KNOWS I find people attractive reguardless of their sexuality or gender. As I got older I surrounded myself with people who were open minded or part of the lgbtq+ community and it is the best decission I have ever made because I made life long friends who do not judge me or others for who they are! I wish youtube was more developed when I was in school because videos like this would have helped me so much when it came to my self esteem and confusion but I am so happy you are able to reach out to the younger generations and even adults who are still trying to find themselves or who are scared to come out to thier family. Thank You Spencer!!

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Thank you so much for sharing something so personal and ultimately beautiful. It can be hard to live your truth but it sounds like you are doing it with grace, which is best case. Keep living your truth and I have a feeling your parents will eventually come around, now that we are starting to have a language it will take some time for people to get use to it. Keep leading by example!

[@katvalasek4673]

I totally relate to what you say about mourning the person who you think they are. I have a transgender child. I had to mourn my son to accept by daughter. You are very very insightful. She is also gay too. She has had her reassignment surgery and still enjoy women. I got a double whammy. Thank you for your thoughts. God bless you!

[@bucketofsunshine6366]

My kids are only 5 and 8, but they both know already that "boys can marry boys" and "girls can marry girls" and that I'll always love and accept them no matter who they might love when they grow up. I'm so glad your own parents were accepting. I'll never understand people who can disown their own children over what makes them happy.

[@kellyryan26]

This is the second video from your channel that popped into my feed. So glad your coming out has a wonderful ending. I loved your Mom’s comment regarding the Mrs. Timberlake handbag! Precious! And you are adorable!

[@yvette8250]

Hi! I just stumbled upon a few of your videos. This one and 3 other ones really touched me so I had to subscribe. You're an amazing human being. You rock! Sending you love from Bayonne, NJ 🤗🧡🤟

[@karenb7620]

You are an amazing person. I love your spirit, energy and compassion. What a role model - you should be very proud of who you are xx

[@stephanieoliver10]

Forever grateful for you and your words. Hope you have been well! Sending lots of love ☺️

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Aww thanks so much for all the love! Hope you are well!

[@Fapple]

wow. im a cis hetero able bodied woman in my late 20s and if i ever have kids i wanna make damn sure they know ill accept and love them no matter what their sexuality is. Coming from a conservative asian family, I failed lawschool, and having to tell my dad, and the depressing anxiety filled months leading up to that discussion almost made me want to never even tell him and just lie about it, so I honestly can't imagine then what it's like being anxious to tell your parent about your sexuality, especially if theyre conservative, and even not, i think yes because we live in such a heteronormative society, I could see how any questioning or knowingly gay person would be scared to tell their family, I just can't imagine and I don't want to put anyone through that. Im glad you were able to get that acceptance from your parents, and I am glad you shared your story. So so glad.

[@ReyOfLight]

I wish to see a day where people who are on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, don’t actually have to come out but can just be themselves and where their true self is nothing different between that and a heterosexual cis person when introducing a partner to your family etc. Love is love!

[@gabrieledrewery5910]

Congratulations. It must be a hard thing to go through. Always worried that you can't be yourself. I can't imagine. I'm glad you found your happiness.

[@beverlycongelliere1215]

I’m so very proud of you congratulations💫

[@ollygandkaren]

Hi from the uk, you are a fantastic human being and I love you , I love your videos please keep making them x

[@carieluce8409]

My daughter is now with another woman . She found the love her life. He dad is having a hard time. You are such a inspiration in si many ways !!!

[@annetteparent5593]

You made baby Jesus cry...but they are tears of joy...thanks for sharing. By the way don’t forget to bring me back some Vernor’s from Windsor!

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Annette Parent hahaha thanks so much!

[@ouellettetimothy9808]

Good for you! Be out, Be proud, Be yourself!

[@RDP920]

Great video. I love your smile and your spirit. Thank you for sharing.

[@EXRAY479]

I think that no matter who you should still be valued and are accepted wherever you go and that go’s for all people no matter what you still matter and should be valued for who you are. and make sure to value you’re self for who you are no matter what.

[@marynielson1527]

Just found this channel - so love your sense of humour and honesty. Look forward to more and thank you Spencer.👍

[@ScottishWoman24]

I know that this an old video, and just tonight I discovered your channel. I am 51, and identify as cis, but I remember Matthew Shepherd. That was a sad and scary time. You keep being you. Live your best life possible. You rock!

[@shannaparker4628]

I ran across you & have been glued for hours now watching all your videos. I just absolutely love you! Every single thing about you. I'm straight so I've never had to come out but I have family that has & the strength that it takes is admirable. I really held on to every word you said! So much so that it's 6:30am where I'm at & I'm laying in bed doing my ugly cry haha all because you speak with such conviction & I can tell for certain that you truly mean what you say. I'm proud of you & who you are, never change... You're making this world a more beautiful place for us all! Lots of love💘

[@laurabart8870]

i love u spencer....u are one of the most loveable amd inspiring people ever....u are so amazing and i can only hope my kids become half the man u are

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Thank you so much! This is so sweet.

[@kerribennett3013]

It is absolutely ok! I was right there with you w/johnathan Brandis! You are exactly who you were meant to be and what I wouldn’t give to have a friend like you in my life!!

[@horselings1067]

Thank you!

[@craftingqueenb]

I just found your channel today and your personality is the best 💕I’ve been binging your vids all day. I’m glad you came out and can publicly be yourself 💕💕💕

[@hafdissigurdardottir3176]

Thank you for shearing your story 🙏 I think that your story will help many ❤️🙏❤️ Love ❤️from Iceland 🇮🇸 🦋🦋🦋

[@TaushaTW]

I don’t have to agree with how someone lives to accept them as a person. Your life. Your choice. God loves you and so do I.

[@averyglabb811]

WE DAY IS AWESOME!!!!!!!!! ♥️😘🤗

[@lyyliesther984]

There is nothing wrong with being an effeminate man. It doesn't mean your gay necessarily. I love your soul anyhow ❤️ beautiful man. I hope you have happiness always in your life and always find your own path.

[@case1962]

A beautiful story.❤ So eloquent. Know you eased and empowered many. Kudos. 👏

[@cloudsunicorns194]

What a beautiful story of you.

[@NonnasNursery00]

I always knew my brother was it didn’t change my mind about him I love him no matter if he is or not. Now that I’m older an have 3 kids along with 7 grandkids, 2 have came out. I couldn’t be more proud of them, an my brother. 🥰

[@SaryAnn626]

I’ve only watched two of your videos, but I love your demeanor. Your heart and kindness are beautiful! I will be watching more!

[@Guitartube25]

Videos like these are so helpful. I am hetero myself, but I feel like encouraged to call my mom and confess her something xD I think this "coming out day" is so adorable and funny (in the best way) Because all those shy humans come together, even over distance to give each other the courage to come out all at once. If I ever become a parent I will mark that date and wait for it, if my child comes out and chooses this date I will be ready with chocolate and movie night and hugs ☺️

[@wendyannh]

It breaks my heart and literally makes me cry every time I hear about a gay or trans person being rejected by their family or friends because of who they are, and I am so glad that didn’t happen to you. It’s just so, so wrong, and so utterly inconceivable to me. I’m as straight (I identify as het, actually, because reasons) as it’s possible to be personally, but my God, how can *anyone* turn on their own children and other loved ones like that? Are they not still the exact same people they were a split second before the words “I’m gay” passed their lips? The tears did start when you mentioned your parents’ initial responses because I really thought that’s where this was going to go - but your quotes from that book about loved ones needing some time to come to terms and realign their thoughts of who you are and their dreams for your future, makes a lot of sense. It also kind of gave me a little empathy for those parents and friends who do have an issue, and hope that more of them will eventually see the light. I can’t imagine having had to live an entire life of hiding and pretending like you did, and am very glad for you that that closet is in the rear view mirror, and that your parents did come to terms. And what a lovely gift to find out that your best friend was right there with you.

[@evonline]

Thank you for sharing your story. You did a lovely job.

[@robinl.970]

I just discovered your channel. You've already won me over. *cue Alanis Morissette playing harmonica* My oldest son (almost 12) just came out as bisexual a couple months ago. I know we still have a long way to go, but I'm so glad he's growing up in a more accepting time, one where there is representation that allows LGBTQ youth to feel supported and not alienated. When he came out to us my husband said "I'm not going to lie, there may be people who treat you differently. There may be people who dont accept you. But here in this home with me and your mom and your brother, you are safe and loved and celebrated for who you are. You always will be." And I was like damn. Thats why I chose this man to make babies with. Lol. 💗

[@АнастасияГорбачева-е1л]

Thank you for sharing! My admiration to you and your shining personality✨✨ cried in the end, at the part when you told about your mom and Timberlake purse. I am so happy that your experience with parents got to the point that they are happy for you to be who you are! I live in a homophobic country but hope someday it became more tolerant. And we would never be afraid of being who we are

[@enblndn]

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing dear dear you.

[@Spencer2TheWest]

Love you!

[@angelawoodward9969]

I think you are truly inspirational selfless and a wonderful human being. This world needs more people like you. Sending love to you.

[@SarahG1183]

Thank you for sharing this. It was raw and beautiful. THank you for your candor

[@aliciaweiss326]

First grandchild, only boy, and born into a religion that told you being gay was bad- hey, no pressure!

[@barbaraciprane2250]

You are very well spoken, the ones