My Dad Killed My Mom In Front Of Me | Other People's Lives

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@veggirl99
@veggirl99 3 жыл бұрын
His voice is very telling - you can almost hear the trauma. So fuckin sad
@eviltwin2611
@eviltwin2611 3 жыл бұрын
so true-- the fragmented personalities
@Nina-vv3ev
@Nina-vv3ev Жыл бұрын
yeah & still confused that his dad is unfortunately a POS.... doesn't want to face that reality... that his mom was murdered by his dad wtf
@JLYT2024
@JLYT2024 Жыл бұрын
@@Nina-vv3ev don't think he's confused mate. His "disability" will probably never allow him to feel the gravity of the situation unfortunately. Poor kid
@Nina-vv3ev
@Nina-vv3ev Жыл бұрын
@@JLYT2024 disability?
@JLYT2024
@JLYT2024 Жыл бұрын
@@Nina-vv3ev I mean I could be wrong and I'm not wasting my life watching this again to pin point where but I'm fairly sure he said he was autistic as a reasoning as to why it took him so long to "understand it" and depending on where he lands on the spectrum it makes a big difference on the way he is able to view this.
@sarosb2
@sarosb2 3 жыл бұрын
I hate hearing the pain in this persons voice
@lamma746
@lamma746 3 жыл бұрын
fr it made my chest tight. I could feel the intense pain.
@jordanleighwheatley
@jordanleighwheatley 3 жыл бұрын
I wish there were a way to interview the 911 dispatcher who took the call from a 9 year old about this horrible situation. Or to interview a 911 dispatcher who's taken similar calls
@rochellestone332
@rochellestone332 3 жыл бұрын
They have an episode where they speak to a 911 dispatcher, def check it out
@jordanleighwheatley
@jordanleighwheatley 3 жыл бұрын
@@rochellestone332 I mustve missed that one! I still haven't seen/heard all of the ones from before I found their channel but I'm trying to catch up lol. I've been addicted to channels who listen to 911 calls lately and it's just fascinating to hear the human experience
@nola3963
@nola3963 3 жыл бұрын
@@jordanleighwheatley it’s on their podcast. One of the earliest episodes.
@jordanleighwheatley
@jordanleighwheatley 3 жыл бұрын
@@nola3963 I haven't gotten all the back on that stuff yet. I only found them within the last year. I've only seen a few non-video episodes so I'll go searching
@nola3963
@nola3963 3 жыл бұрын
@@jordanleighwheatley enjoy the wild ride 😥🤞🏻🔥
@blacknight2149
@blacknight2149 3 жыл бұрын
I’m a survivor of domestic violence. Most of my abuse was verbal like this situation and if ANYONE is reading this and listening you MUST use this situation to realize it can escalate horribly. Leave! That happened to me. My ex beat me up and miraculously had hidden his gun and forgot where it was. He was high too on opioids. He was ripping the closets apart in front of me looking for the gun and he told me he was looking for it. He never found it that evening. I’m away now and safe but this story is very close to my heart and I appreciate this man sharing this tragic experience. Thank you 🙏🏻 God bless.
@katieclark596
@katieclark596 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy you're safe & out of there!
@ashley9534
@ashley9534 3 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you got out❤️
@blacknight2149
@blacknight2149 3 жыл бұрын
@@katieclark596 thank you! My life is so much better now I’m away
@blacknight2149
@blacknight2149 3 жыл бұрын
@@ashley9534 thank you! My life is so much better now.
@bean-phaidin
@bean-phaidin 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad you're safe 💚
@aquarius_x2
@aquarius_x2 3 жыл бұрын
Not a lot of men speak out on domestic violence. I appreciate him sharing about his parents and his own domestic violence situation. My current significant other and I got together and bonded because we both survived marriages with domestic violence. Rule 1 since day 1 was we will never touch the other person while angry. 6 years and a very cute kid later, we're still going strong. ❤
@imsofa_kinghappy9742
@imsofa_kinghappy9742 3 жыл бұрын
the stories told on this podcast are ones more people need to hear. heartbreaking but so real. love yall, keep going!
@redrk9731
@redrk9731 3 жыл бұрын
Idk about *need* but they are interesting
@ohnoheb
@ohnoheb 3 жыл бұрын
@@redrk9731 well it’s good to share stories and people get more insight to “other peoples lives” lmao they should be heard by many more!
@SianMais
@SianMais 6 ай бұрын
I know this video is old, but this struck a cord with me. My best friend was murdered by her child’s father in 2022 and her son witnessed it and had to run to a neighbour for help. It’s been the biggest heart break of my life and hearing this man’s story, makes me think of her sweet boy and what he’s going through daily. Another friend of ours and I pledged to always rally around him and cover him with love. He’s reminded of her when we come around. Ugh. Prayers for this man. So traumatic
@erin4057
@erin4057 3 ай бұрын
This story broke my heart… so glad you are there for him. ❤ I was in an abusive relationship when my son was about 2-5. He was shielded from a lot of things but not everything. He started acting out several years later and I found out in addition to everyday stressors, he was still haunted by those early years. He is 19 now, and we just talked about it a bit a few months ago. He is doing better these days, but you can see the effects of trauma in his life. Not just from that but some other things as well. I still bear so much guilt even though I was a victim also… but at least I am alive. 🙏🏻
@rochellestone332
@rochellestone332 3 жыл бұрын
It's amazing he can tell this over podcast but not in therapy. I feel like even though he's clearly hurting telling this, he's finally letting it out and that's a start
@aphroditesapple4580
@aphroditesapple4580 3 жыл бұрын
This interview crushed my heart. I PRAY he gets into therapy. I feel like he was telling the story, but not actually letting himself feel the deep pain. The way he talks about not realizing his mom was really gone until he was 21, makes me think he's just blocked this all out for such a long time. I think he may be avoiding therapy so he doesn't have to feel this pain, and I don't blame him, I can't even imagine the depth and despair of it. I just think that's the way he will truly begin to heal. So much damage done.
@TalkingThrones
@TalkingThrones 3 жыл бұрын
It's a lot harder when it's a face to face convo. Telling this through the podcast allows him to stay anonymous as can be.
@hadeelrashid5646
@hadeelrashid5646 3 жыл бұрын
Omg you can hear the trauma in his voice. It just sounded like he didn’t even wanna talk about it.💔
@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper
@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper 3 жыл бұрын
He sounds like Archie bunker
@naturegirl8248
@naturegirl8248 3 жыл бұрын
This makes me so sad. You can hear the pain in his shakey voice. So heartbreaking.
@imogensharma
@imogensharma 3 жыл бұрын
His father makes up part of his identity, he has to believe in the good side of his dad to be comfortable in his own skin. So courageous and strong for sharing his story. I sincerely hope people who live in homes where there is verbal violence listen to this and are motivated to get the help they need. Abuse is abuse. The mum could have been saved the dad could have been helped if domestic violence was taken seriously by authorities. Thanks as usual guys, very eye opening.
@veronicajohnson9053
@veronicajohnson9053 3 жыл бұрын
Yes! My father tried to do something similar luckily he was unsuccessful and they are both alive. But I cant bring myself to hate him. I have to see the good in him.i have a relationship with both my parents still.
@ronwynkubie5093
@ronwynkubie5093 3 жыл бұрын
You can hear the pain in his voice. This broke my heart
@gracielaglows
@gracielaglows 3 жыл бұрын
I could tell this one hit home for Joe, seemed to have a hard time during the interview. Wow, that person has so much strength, saying he’s not doing anything for domestic violence is wrong, he’s speaking here which is huge
@keatonscreations
@keatonscreations 3 жыл бұрын
These guys asks the best questions.
@blacknight2149
@blacknight2149 3 жыл бұрын
I agree!!! These guys are some of the best most respectful interviewers I’ve ever seen.
@ec-3po
@ec-3po 3 жыл бұрын
As a victim of dv myself, I feel like it is so easy for the person who hasn’t experienced it to say, why didn’t you just walk away. I used to even say it myself, “I don’t feel sorry for these women because they keep going back. It’s almost as if they’re asking for it.” Today I am so embarrassed that I ever uttered those words. Since the pandemic, dv has been exponentially on the rise. I’m so glad this topic was discussed because of everything going on. We need to make sure that our friends are ok. I know we have a lot going on in our own lives but it’s always important to reach out, especially if you suspect someone is suffering. Also, a lot of men experience dv and are afraid to speak up because it’s so taboo in our current society. This is an article of a woman’s dv story. she said the abuse started when lockdown from the pandemic began. It’s from time magazine. time.com/5928539/domestic-violence-covid-19/
@keatonscreations
@keatonscreations 3 жыл бұрын
Gosh, how can you ever move past something like this.
@peacechickification
@peacechickification 3 жыл бұрын
You don’t. You keep living life, but it’s always carried with you.
@stevenpfleuger5639
@stevenpfleuger5639 3 жыл бұрын
Because if you don’t, you’re stuck and eventually you realize being stuck is worse than moving forward
@keatonscreations
@keatonscreations 3 жыл бұрын
@@stevenpfleuger5639 I know you have to move forward and yet I can imagine that it’s always in the back of your mind. What a tough thing
@samspam1788
@samspam1788 3 жыл бұрын
I hope this isn't inappropriate to say but I really love this guy's accent
@_JEBUS
@_JEBUS 3 жыл бұрын
He has the Boston accent.
@subekennedy9554
@subekennedy9554 3 жыл бұрын
I was thinking that too. I love it lol
@lesser8700
@lesser8700 3 жыл бұрын
This dude married someone he met when he was 20 and she was 16 then had two kids with her and murdered her. Damn.
@LaurenCarducci
@LaurenCarducci 3 жыл бұрын
I truly hope he gets to finish his essay film ❤️ and if you're reading this you did so much for the domestic violence community by coming on this podcast thank you
@blodgettshouseofinsanity
@blodgettshouseofinsanity 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I hoped if I told my story of my parents it could possibly help someone in someway. I haven’t done much in regards of domestic violence awareness. I’m very happy to see by reading some comments that i’m telling my parents story is “helping” (I don’t know if that’s the right word) people who are victims of domestic violence
@Rashelleb23
@Rashelleb23 3 жыл бұрын
I am so frustrated that this podcast doesn’t get the views it deserves! These stories are always amazing and inspiring and delicate and raise understanding & it’s so annoying that it’s so underrated.
@yyg4632
@yyg4632 3 жыл бұрын
I am so sad for this guy that he never got "closure" in the way that people normally would by talking to the dad about it. Im happy for him that he learned to still forgive the dad, it's very big of him. That video interview idea is so cool, my mom also passed and I don't live with my dad anymore, so I also don't have many memories of them, I may try it too. It's a really loving idea. He seems like such a loving person and I hope he heals more and more in the future from this
@hapikohw
@hapikohw 3 жыл бұрын
I had a childhood friend whose father killed her mother in front of her, and then tried to do the same to her grandmother when she tried to run with her.
@feliciaw4710
@feliciaw4710 3 жыл бұрын
I weep for him. My children are so attached to me. I couldn't imagine and my heart goes out to him. That's not easy for him.
@lunasmith2568
@lunasmith2568 3 жыл бұрын
This one was really special for me to hear. My best friends dad killed her brother and himself after a few years back and I’ve never talked about if with her since. So this kind of was a partial way for me to see how she could possibly be feeling about everything without having to bring up bad memories.
@Prince_Flight
@Prince_Flight 3 жыл бұрын
They never clickbait🔥
@daymarie1111
@daymarie1111 3 жыл бұрын
I hope he does go to therapy not only for what happened to his parents but he was also in an abusive relationship. I know the need to know your parent(s) as people when you lose them young. My dad died when I was 14 totally different than his situation but I never knew my dad as a person. I've learned things I wish I didn't but wow my heart goes out to this caller.
@lilypowder1
@lilypowder1 3 жыл бұрын
That is such a difficult concept to grapple with, especially as a child. We place our parents on a pedestal and look up to them. As a child, he knows that his mom is gone and that his dad was the result of it but doesn’t understand the full gravity of the situation. That’s a lot to place on someone. And it is common for children who witness domestic violence at home to then enter DV relationships themselves because certain warning signs or red flags were not addressed in their household/didn’t stand out. This is why it’s so important to talk about topics like this so that we can end the cycle of abuse. Thank you to all the guest that come on & share their stories and thank you to Greg & Joe for giving them the platform.
@sam.silker
@sam.silker 3 жыл бұрын
completely unrelated, but this person has a really interesting voice & i was captivated hearing him tell this awful awful story ... but in the future, he could probably look into voice acting, his voice is so nice to listen to despite the dark subject matter
@AnotherLosttSoul
@AnotherLosttSoul 3 жыл бұрын
I was thinking the same thing!
@amandahugginkiss61
@amandahugginkiss61 3 жыл бұрын
The vulnerability in his voice…. Please thank him for sharing this with us. I wish him the best. 🙏🏼
@GGPop808
@GGPop808 3 жыл бұрын
Oh man my heart broke on this one... listening to him talk .. sending him lots of love 🌿 Can’t shame anyone’s faults, he for sure sees the good , that’s very positive
@Higgs631
@Higgs631 3 жыл бұрын
This ranks up there with the most powerful and heartbreaking thing I’ve ever heard on OPL or any other podcast.
@monitalks8150
@monitalks8150 3 жыл бұрын
wow.. the fact he has love & real forgiveness in his heart for his dad is crazy to me but also inspiring. i haven’t talked to my dad for reasons that could never equate to this situation & it’s been 11 years. now i have 2 daughters & am getting married but before that i had a lot of demons to fight & didn’t care if he were to ever try to mend it (he hasn’t) it feels like way too much to tackle, i don’t share similar feelings as far as the emptiness it left this guy for obvious reasons but i was always ok with it. idk this has my head goingggg thanks for the episode and to the dude who shared his story wish him all the best
@iligalvan
@iligalvan 2 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh. Sameeee my dad and I haven't been cool since I was like... 13? I'm about to be 30 and just hearing stories like this, is like maineee what am I doing?! my dad also hasn't tried and neither have I. Its sad and I hope we will one day. But its also just why? Ughh its hard
@jacquelinealanis5709
@jacquelinealanis5709 3 жыл бұрын
The same thing happened in the state where I live. Except the father also killed him self. My heart goes out to this guy, so brave for telling his story
@caroltassin4049
@caroltassin4049 3 жыл бұрын
I was actually waiting for you to get text messages & realize you up-loaded the wrong video, no problem! Very powerful episode, glad he's doing what he needs to go on & live life the best way he can! All the best to him!
@Mariamatters96
@Mariamatters96 3 ай бұрын
God protect this man and his sister. May they make families of their own and spread the humbleness that he has onto his kids. He is right. His dad did a horrible thing but forgiveness sets us free from the hate and pain.
@haileyoslund
@haileyoslund 3 ай бұрын
21:39 Thank you for this nuanced and beautifully worded summary. Nobody is all bad all of the time or they wouldn’t have a family, partner, kids, etc. It doesn’t excuse the horrible things people are capable of, but it does shed light on how complex situations really are.
@Blacklace911
@Blacklace911 3 жыл бұрын
Wow this is so sad.. I wish him love and happiness. Such an amazing podcast !!
@bean-phaidin
@bean-phaidin 3 жыл бұрын
If you can read this, you are so important and powerful. More men need to talk about these things. Thank you for sharing your story.
@blodgettshouseofinsanity
@blodgettshouseofinsanity 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. It was hard to do that interview, especially since I don’t talk about that day much. I felt it was important to do because I thought maybe there is someone out there listening who has experienced a similar tragedy, and perhaps my story will help them to cope with their feelings and emotions.
@ginakerns9903
@ginakerns9903 3 жыл бұрын
This is so sad he's trying to make this right for his father . God bless him My heart is broken for him
@JB-pe2yn
@JB-pe2yn 3 жыл бұрын
It never gets better!! Leave while you can ❤
@yyg4632
@yyg4632 3 жыл бұрын
I will never understand the level of selfishness where you are aware that you're costantly hurting your loved ones around you but still refuse to get help. You can't even blame mental health at that point, because people like that dad surelly must be aware, even for a moment, that they don't cope with things normally. It just seems like it should be so much easier to want to fix yourself when other people's lives are involved.
@justice6471
@justice6471 3 жыл бұрын
pleaseeeee do an episode with a 911 dispatcher. it’d be very interesting to hear the other side of the people that take these calls.
@justice6471
@justice6471 3 жыл бұрын
@@tokaalkorashy8952 omg thank you!
@Lucywald2012
@Lucywald2012 3 жыл бұрын
There’s so much in his story I can relate to. Wow. I really hope he is able to get help and support for this, through therapy or something. It’s difficult to work through but worth it. My heart really goes out to him.
@sagrammyfour
@sagrammyfour 11 ай бұрын
You guys must take a heavy burden of pain home with you. It takes a kind, loving, committed person to comfort and help you heal. Hats off to your families.
@kalsonwouj3d830
@kalsonwouj3d830 3 жыл бұрын
It happens more often than one would imagine, and more awareness needs to be raised. If you're in a violent relationship just get out. Don't overthink it, GET OUT.
@Jaysennx3
@Jaysennx3 3 жыл бұрын
How traumatizing 🙁
@sarahashlyn_
@sarahashlyn_ 3 жыл бұрын
I understand the feeling of loving a parent who does some majorly messed up things. Everyone calling them a monster, but you can’t help but love them...because they made you...Their your parent. I couldn’t bring myself to hate my mom when she did messed up stuff (when everyone else sees her as a monster) so I understand where he’s coming from.
@jeanniejewel2272
@jeanniejewel2272 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. You may have saved some lives due to your honesty. Blessings to you and your sister as you heal from this trauma.
@mariebrasic4909
@mariebrasic4909 3 жыл бұрын
I went to school with this brother and sister. Their dad strangled the mom.to death with a blow dry cord. He drove the kids to grandmas and turned himself in right after. It was a small town so it was really sad and scary.
@chill_innn
@chill_innn 3 жыл бұрын
uhm didn’t he say she was shot..?
@rubystone2502
@rubystone2502 3 жыл бұрын
@@chill_innn I think he was talking about a different family
@TheAverageSavage1021
@TheAverageSavage1021 3 жыл бұрын
@@chill_innn she’s speaking of a different situation, just similar circumstances
@sk8rhoe911
@sk8rhoe911 3 жыл бұрын
a very similar thing happened to a girl i used to be close with when i was little and she was never the same again (rightfully so) but she carried such a pain behind her eyes at such a young age it was heartbreaking i think about her often even though i haven't seen her in probably ten years now
@SatanWasWhiteyBulger
@SatanWasWhiteyBulger Жыл бұрын
Yet.. The girl who’s carried such pain in her eyes since early childhood. The fact that you’ve put this on the internet where it is possible to be tracked and seen. How you’ve let this fact be known is absolutely beautiful to know she comes to your mind & memory. Is heartbreaking and brings tears to my eyes but in the good kind. You haven’t forgotten her. You remember her and that’s wonderful to know it. It’s so sweet. I hope one day she could read this comment because I know what it feels in my heart to be the girl with pain in her eyes that others can clearly see even with the amount of effort to smile and cover with makeup. I hope she can read this.
@TheMoomba2008
@TheMoomba2008 11 ай бұрын
It sounds like he grew up to be a good and compassionate person that both his parents would be proud of even with the horrible trauma he experienced. God Bless him and his sister.
@mirrrstery
@mirrrstery 2 ай бұрын
Unfortunately you can never be the same after something like this, poor guy. You can hear the pain in his voice 😢
@barosalearninglab
@barosalearninglab 9 ай бұрын
What a warrior. Hope he continues to work on his peace.
@RainForestLeDoux
@RainForestLeDoux 5 ай бұрын
Regardless he turned out to be a good, understanding man.. respect
@anonymoususer855
@anonymoususer855 6 ай бұрын
If the caller ever reads this comment, I am so sorry this happened to you. I wanted to give you a comfort hug. My heart broke hearing your story. You're very brave for telling it. 😢
@kimberlywalker3970
@kimberlywalker3970 11 ай бұрын
I feel horrible for this young man. I hope one day he truly finds peace.
@kendallbetts2377
@kendallbetts2377 3 жыл бұрын
Great content. I love hearing the different perspectives.
@mgf7_
@mgf7_ 3 жыл бұрын
Love you guys! 💛
@brianbrenton1025
@brianbrenton1025 6 ай бұрын
My grandma knew everything that was good about me. She was fearless. She is everything I aspire to be.
@mustard_tiger86
@mustard_tiger86 3 жыл бұрын
Hallelujah its not a fetish episode
@miffitron
@miffitron 3 жыл бұрын
Wow, I knows so many people with trauma, but this is unbelievable, I can’t even imagine having to deal with The sudden murder of your parent, by your other parent, and then subsequently losing them before you have a chance to have a relationship with them; and all of that on top of being on the spectrum, and having a hard time understanding and managing your feelings. What an incredibly strong individual, sending all the good vibes their way!
@jkbc
@jkbc 6 ай бұрын
what a traumatic life experience, I hope he can move on by now
@ashley9534
@ashley9534 3 жыл бұрын
My dad passed away a few years ago and I’m in therapy for it. If you’ve already listened, Should I listen? Is it graphic?
@h4ley3lder
@h4ley3lder 3 жыл бұрын
not graphic, very surface level details of the murder. more about his trauma and the situations around it
@ashley9534
@ashley9534 3 жыл бұрын
@@h4ley3lder thank you.
@YuriTardedx
@YuriTardedx 3 жыл бұрын
*owns a gun* Joe- “is he a police officer”
@panjabipandit
@panjabipandit 3 жыл бұрын
I meaaaann it is a logical assumption. Many states make police officers take their guns home with them. Especially if they're an off duty officer they're allowed by law (LEOSA) to have a gun within reach & can carry anywhere. Might explain why someone has access to a gun other than y'know the fact that they can buy one themselves lol.
@yyg4632
@yyg4632 3 жыл бұрын
It is so so damn sad that he had to be in that house in the first place. I'm sure if he or his fam could go back in time the best choice would be for him to live with a family member for a while if all that abuse was happening in front of him, or of course for the mom to leave. Stats say that living in a house with abuse and fighting is so much worse for a kid than a divorce.
@Stroh538
@Stroh538 12 күн бұрын
Damn my heart breaks for this kid. So much courage though, speaking on this, both parents will be proud of you buddy.
@eneedham789
@eneedham789 3 жыл бұрын
I know someone whose dad killed their mum too. Absolutely horrifying.
@eneedham789
@eneedham789 3 жыл бұрын
Just re reading about the case now, and she discovered her own mum’s dead body in the next room. I can’t even imagine what that does to a person
@lynnc5291
@lynnc5291 2 жыл бұрын
It’s probably easier to do this Podcast because he knows they are there to listen not counsel. I hope this experience being positive encourages him to seek a therapist that he genuinely likes and trusts with his feelings
@rosac464
@rosac464 3 жыл бұрын
Yesterday my friend got killed by her husband in a murder suicide. Apparently no one knew that he was dangerous. That’s why guns are so dangerous, people can snap.
@Metztli0
@Metztli0 3 жыл бұрын
I love this podcast, it’s so real, so raw.
@azkabanfamily
@azkabanfamily 2 жыл бұрын
I dated this guy who told me his dad killed his mom. I didnt believe him. I literally didnt understand and i was young minded. I feel so bad for being a d to him. I made jokes. But now i know not to make fun of serious issues.
@kaylalindstedt6887
@kaylalindstedt6887 5 ай бұрын
His family probably doesn't want to talk about his parents relationship because it began when she was 16 and he was 20 so statutory rape and was probably extremely toxic the whole time. He sounds like he doesn't really need to hear any more negative things about his dad.
@franciscaott4385
@franciscaott4385 2 ай бұрын
😢 his voice, you can literally hear the pain
@tavern2468
@tavern2468 3 жыл бұрын
If I called this show I could probably have 2 hours to myself to talk about trauma and ghost stories
@dancer1023105
@dancer1023105 2 жыл бұрын
this poor kid, ugh i hope god watches over him for the rest of his life
@KDu400
@KDu400 2 жыл бұрын
As a mother, I would want my children to forgive their father. Hate and anger are so toxic to your soul. I am sad to hear that pictures and videos were destroyed…those belonged to their children and they weren’t for the other family to ruin. I understand the pain and anger, but that really hurts my heart for this person 🤍
@TheGabz0rz
@TheGabz0rz 3 жыл бұрын
I always want to share my story but Ive never gone to therapy to even talk about it let alone to anyone else. Is therapy a requirement lol? I feel like my story is too intense...and too many traumas. I can sadly relate to this story.
@planetluna9554
@planetluna9554 3 жыл бұрын
No requirements! The fact that you wrote this comment shows you may be ready to open up about it. Trust me I can relate. I have traumas I carry that I may not ever let see the light of day again, but when it’s pulling on your heart, You never know how much you, or the person you’re telling can take away from your story. You could change your life, or others! Sending love and healing to you, Gerb. I hope you have a fulfilling day.
@natsuminefightme
@natsuminefightme 3 жыл бұрын
Therapy is not a requirement but I can tell you how it can help. Therapists are trained to be empathetic, non-judgemental, and create a safe environment to talk about difficult topics. Of course, a very good friend can also feel safe and be helpful. In therapy specifically, you don’t need to worry about the content ever leaving the room. The other advantage is that the therapist is an outsider, so you don’t need to worry about their perspective as they wouldn’t have been another family member or sibling or whoever who experienced the trauma with you - so they can remain objective and really help you through tough moments. Sometimes, speaking about the incident, or maybe not specifics but your understanding of it can help you take the control of your life in a different way. Often traumatic situations leave a person feeling powerlessness or impact them in a way that they may not even realize. There is nothing right or wrong - it’s about understanding. And trust me... therapists are trained to handle intensity. It’s very common for someone to not want to speak due to intensity, but rest assured that you won’t be driving them away with the intensity. There are some places that offer therapy for specific certain types of traumas, I.e. sexual abuse, addictions, etc. It may go a long way to research into your options of where to get trauma-based therapy. Good luck... sending hugs and peace. 🙏🏼💯
@idyllwildchild
@idyllwildchild 3 жыл бұрын
If he hasn't, he should try to get in contact with other children of convicted killers. I've seen how healing it can be to connect with others who understand how you feel.
@lexylex2702
@lexylex2702 11 ай бұрын
It’s so sad to hear of how he says “it was only verbal … nothing ever happened”. It starts verbally then physical …. He needs to understand that his father made a choice and he is the person he turned out to be, it was just a matter of time. I hope he finds the peace he is looking for but by denying what his father is, will never help. What we are when we are young is not what we really are… what we grown into is what we really are. I am not saying this to be mean at all, I am just speaking truth ❤
@rebekkahmartin9426
@rebekkahmartin9426 3 жыл бұрын
I was adopted and my adoptive parents were absolutely awful. My "dad" pointed a gun to my head at one point, because I "scared his hunting dogs". Also threatened to kill me because I took the family car (without permission) to a store to buy crafting supplies.....wild times. Still a pretty good guy, though.
@nola3963
@nola3963 3 жыл бұрын
How’s your relationship with him now?
@rebekkahmartin9426
@rebekkahmartin9426 3 жыл бұрын
@@nola3963 - Great! People are weird and I understand that no one is perfect, but I can also understand that he had his own issues. While I will never excuse his behavior towards myself and my siblings - I can forgive, because that's what well adjusted people do. He was living through his own process, I'm living through mine and only Christ can judge.
@sidneyrivera8583
@sidneyrivera8583 3 жыл бұрын
Love this podcast so much 💗
@AmericanGadfly
@AmericanGadfly 3 жыл бұрын
I havent talked to my mother in 4 years. Itll be another 30 before I even consider it
@teemarie5478
@teemarie5478 Ай бұрын
What a heartbreaking site 😭🙏❤️
@VGNAL
@VGNAL 3 жыл бұрын
aw when his voice started to get shaky :(( 11:00
@niamhballantyne6337
@niamhballantyne6337 3 жыл бұрын
Where can you find the home videos he talks about?
@nate6795
@nate6795 3 жыл бұрын
Love this show guys keep it up it’ll blow up one day soon bet
@gingerbee98
@gingerbee98 Ай бұрын
His was a perspective I wasn't expecting...
@N0n750
@N0n750 2 жыл бұрын
What American dialect is he speaking? It’s beautiful. I’m from Sweden so I’m not good with American dialects. My heart breaks for him. I wish him healing.
@damnmuggle
@damnmuggle Жыл бұрын
East coast accent
@damnmuggle
@damnmuggle Жыл бұрын
Boston
@katieclark596
@katieclark596 3 жыл бұрын
I wanna be his friend aw honey
@cynthiaschofield1551
@cynthiaschofield1551 3 жыл бұрын
Omg I went thru so much terrible abusive situations like this. We used to plan how we would kill him(my father) in his sleep Its nice to know Im not alone in the syndrome at least I thank u for ur ability to tell ur story My dad was a drug abuser &person abuser this is all so farmiliar I wont tell my story but thank u for verifying These things do happen Sorry again
@magicalranter224
@magicalranter224 3 жыл бұрын
if Forensic Files covered this one the episode would be about two minutes long
@beardedrake9983
@beardedrake9983 3 жыл бұрын
Holy fuck the title. I'm not ready for this..
@haleytice
@haleytice 3 жыл бұрын
I would never forgive a murderer.
@lamma746
@lamma746 3 жыл бұрын
He’s not just a murder to him. This story is about him and his valid feelings. You do you but it seems like you’ve never experienced his exact form of trauma.
@haleytice
@haleytice 3 жыл бұрын
@@lamma746 I don't know why you're being defensive. My feelings are also valid and I would never forgive a murderer. Never did I state that he shouldn't feel the way that he does.
@natsuminefightme
@natsuminefightme 3 жыл бұрын
@@lamma746 I don’t think most people experience one parent killing the other parent, so that part of the comment seemed a bit defensive. Knowing that, there are many people in that situation or similar (Google-able) who would feel similar to Haley - in that they could not forgive. There’s also nothing wrong with that. Forgiveness is NOT the only option. It’s up to the injured party to decide what helps them gain inner peace.
@moonlightcat7401
@moonlightcat7401 3 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday joe
@dabull4456
@dabull4456 2 жыл бұрын
This guy really loved his dad mane
@baybeetacoo8734
@baybeetacoo8734 Жыл бұрын
Wait, mom was 16 when she got with dad, and he is 4 years older. Oh boy
@lalabunnybunbun6372
@lalabunnybunbun6372 3 жыл бұрын
I’m sobbing in my living room lol
@lalabunnybunbun6372
@lalabunnybunbun6372 3 жыл бұрын
My dog is staring at me
@bulma463
@bulma463 3 жыл бұрын
Did u re-upload this?
@valeriemendoza5952
@valeriemendoza5952 3 жыл бұрын
So irrelevant but I love this guys accent
@KptnHaddock_
@KptnHaddock_ 3 жыл бұрын
I thought the same
@yyg4632
@yyg4632 3 жыл бұрын
Unrelated but the dude's accent is cool
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