My Daughter Has Been Acting Out Of Character r/Relationships

[@felix0-014]

Tbh I was concerned that OPs daughter in story 1 was developing schizophrenia since she had a lack of responsiveness, bizarre behaviors, whispering to herself etc. I am sooooo glad she just got her period XD

[@skinni_the_P00hBear]

I'm not finished yet but I knew it was her period lol.

[@tikimillie]

What How does that work

[@felix0-014]

@@tikimillie what do you mean?

[@JK-sh8rc]

Honestly, I've never heard of a young girl acting crazy because they got their first period. And in spite of the fact his daughter is 12, it seemingly never once crossed OP's mind that she got her first period when it should have been expected any day as the average age is between 12-13.

[@felix0-014]

@@JK-sh8rc she probably just freaked out thinking she was going to die. If nobody warned her about periods, it would make sense for her to panic and freak out because periods are sudden and can have quite a heavy flow without notice. Not to mention the cramps and stuff. If she looked up her symptoms chances are WEB MD said it was cancer lol

[@Dee-jq2ob]

All the women to the first story yelling at their tables “she started her period”, all of us knew it. We remember that awkwardness at that age and I am 60 😂

[@carolroberts4614]

Me too, and I'm 69!

[@heyitsevie]

As soon as I heard she was 12, I knew it was just her period and a confused dad 😂

[@BootyCrusader]

My first period was oddly relaxed? I just sort of didn’t care much I think. I wasn’t even at home- I was at a weekend trip I went on monthly to give my mom a break from my ADHD ass, and I found some droplets of blood in my underwear, went to the “camp counselor” (more or less, just a person who was in charge of 4-5 kids in a bungalow), and took her to a private room and told her I was having my first period. We went to the supermarket after, got some pads and new underwear, and that was that. I wish it was that okay and relaxed for others- I think having a book about puberty that I got around age 9 really helped. I read that book a lot. :)

[@thuslydude]

nahh i was methodical abt mine. got it when i was a single digit, marched home, and told my mom "im bleeding from down there" lol

[@tikimillie]

I was pretty fucking chill about it, i was like, “mom i think i got my period” and that was about it. Idk how that first story works

[@SkyEcho751]

Listening to the story of the Brother who writes notes for his siblings, and I remembered a concept of Chivalry "To be a Chivalrous is to cultivate a paradox, be both strong yet soft, powerful enough to fight your foes, but caring enough to be gentile with children." It's the concept that to be a man, one must exist with to sides that are seemingly opposed. And it's a concept I hope to live by.

[@HardlyBardly]

D'aww, the tough guy brother writing motivational notes for his siblings was freaking adorable x3

[@madisonwaycaster9832]

My first period was also very traumatic. I was raised in a conservative christian household and the topic of the difference between men and women physically was never brought up. I never even noticed or questioned why women had breasts and men didn't until that point. I started my period at school and when I realized I was bleeding I asked to go to the nurse's office, and was refused. I got bullied alot and would fake being sick so I could go home early but I was so confused/scared/embarrassed by what was going on I didn't explain it to the teacher. So I sat in my blood waiting to die all day until only getting out of my seat to go home. When my mom came home after hearing what happened she explained what was going on and furiously called the school for not letting me go to the nurse's office. Moral of the story: Talk to your daughters about biology and sex. Please because being blindsided by this shit is horrifying and traumatizing.

[@tagh4055]

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[@TiffWaffles]

I am so thankful that my mother explained to me what would happen to me during puberty... Body changes, hormones, and periods when I was young. When I started my period, I knew what it was and what was happening to me. My mother taught me how to put a pad on and we had a conversation about what periods meant again. I thought that what my mother taught me was commonplace until I met somebody in high school who had parents like yours. When she started her period at one of our friend's houses, she screamed like she was being murdered and was convinced that she was bleeding to death. It took hours to convince her that what she was going through was perfectly normal. It actually took our friend's amazing stepmother having a conversation with this poor girl to get her to feel better.

[@morninggoblins]

Yeah I also panicked when I had my first period. Mind you, my mom had given me the talk, it's just that when it actually happened I freaked out and didn't remember lol. She figured out what was going on and calmed me down and gave me the world's most awkward hug and it was all good, but having blood just suddenly come out of you I think is just a universally scary experience even with the best, most prepared parents

[@WobblesandBean]

My mom didn't. I was raised in a VERY religious, conservative household and my mom left me wholly ignorant of such things. When I first got my period, I was horrified 😞

[@morninggoblins]

@@WobblesandBean I'm so sorry, that must have been terrifying. I don't get why more conservative families are so hush-hush about periods, even if it's considered shameful you would think you would want to warn a kid

[@anahkit]

@@WobblesandBean Same! Except my mother wasn't religious, she just grew up thinking it's not something to be spoken of, and didn't even like my brothers or father knowing. I got mine exactly on 00:00 on the start of the new year when I was 11, so I thought I was cursed and gonna die cause it actually came quite a bit... But my cousin was on the phone with my mom when I started crying, so she and my mom ended up telling me I was okay and explained it after. I still remember vividly how terrified I was and I STILL wish I was told beforehand cause it traumatised me a lot since fireworks started going off and stuff while I was crying and thinking I'm dying.

[@angelicgalaxy4534]

My mom prepped me for my period before I had it. She told me straight up,"Hey, you're going to bleed every month for a few days". I told her,"I don't want to bleed". She said,"Well,too bad There's nothing you can do about it". When my mom had her very first period,she had no idea what a period was. She had it at church and was freaking out in the restroom. (My grandma/her mom) basically went like," Oh, you're going to need these". She just tossed some sanitary stuff to my mom and never explained it. Grandma was too embarrassed to discuss period talk.

[@catandrobbyflores]

I was prepared but I still panicked. It's one thing to be told what's going to happen and when it finally does.

[@maxrobertson2834]

I am actually happy that the op in the first story went to neurologist first bc I have heard way to many stories of people who menstruate not being taken seriously, and then something very big happens bc no one believes them

[@DominicanaChika]

"Im keeping the engagement ring!!!" "Nobody asked for it!" Damm Sam! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@cu-8190]

the story about the brother's notes is so wholesome... I always adored my big brother but to him I was more of an annoyance than an actual sibling because of our 10 year age gap, which is why I am even happier for them having auch a great sibling relationship!

[@carlrood4457]

"Character is who you are in the dark" (i.e. when you think no one is watching you). Big brother is cool. I can say as a parent (3 teens and a 12 year old) that when your kids show they love one another unprompted, it really gets to you.

[@Evidoll]

The little notes story reminds me of an episode of "My Wife and Kids" where the older brother was the one secretly making cookies so the rest of the family could have something nice to look forward to.

[@sleepwalking3345]

That poor poor girl in the first story, i feel so awful for her, terrified how her parent would cope when she dies :(( i just wanna give her a big hug that poor girl. I remember my first, wasnt scared i remember thinking omg the blood is way thinner than i thought and was this bright brilliant red. I also thought she was going through a dissociative episode. This is why you need in depth info on periods. So so awful

[@MyUniqueBeauty]

My mind didn't immediately go to first period but I can definitely see it. When I first started mine I was just too embarrassed to tell my dad. I stayed home from school and just panicked in the bathroom. I eventually convinced my dad to call my mom for me. That turned into a more embarrassing teenage hijinks of sorts that day as my dad proudly took me shopping for my first pads. I can still remember how much I wanted to crawl under a rock and die that day. 🤣

[@low-keydrama1260]

Oof i get u too. Periods affect girls differently. Ik for me, I just felt wet down there, went to the bathroom and found out. I was a bit freaked but thankfully up to that point my mom kept telling me about what periods were and not to worry and to either tell her and/or a teacher

[@cynthiaappleton4668]

Well, my daughter started doing some very odd stuff about a month before she turned 13. I found the dishwasher loaded strangely and then I found all of her cloths out of her dresser. I asked her to pick up after her dog, she did not use any poop bags. She started picking it up with her bare hands. She stoped showing and taking care of her long hair, I came home from work and she had cut it all off, it was very long, Very Long. I set up a turning 13 party for her, and on the day of the party I took her to get the cake. She demanded that I take shopping and out to lunch. When I said no, we will be having food and lots of good stuff at her party. Let me tell you, she lost what was left of her mind!! She started hitting me and trying to jump out the window of the car. My now adult daughter has severe mental illness and it started one month before her 13th birthday, and I had no clue, as I am writing this, I am holding back tears for her. Mental illness is no joke and sometimes it manifest is some stage behavior. I am not saying this is whats going in your world, I'm just saying sometimes they ( our kids ) do not know whats going on inside themselves. best of luck to you and your family.

[@artemisameretsu6905]

Yeah sadly if it's mostly psychological it'll pop up around puberty, most kids start showing symptoms around this age. I was hella depressed at 12 and suffering cptsd I'd do the whole dissociating, not hearing anyone or not being able to respond when I did. Not caring for anything and just basically being like the OPs daughter so while reddit posters laughed that no one thought of periods, weird shit happening as a teen is really common with the mentally and neurologically ill

[@helookalikaman79]

@@artemisameretsu6905 try being depressed and ask for help and no one cared... at 11 y/o no one cared....

[@TiffWaffles]

... You would have noticed something off about your daughter YEARS before she had her first break down. One of my sisters has bipolar disorder and she started exhibiting signs of this when she was four and just got worse as the years passed without treatment. Mind you, I do know that mental illness exhibits differently in other people, and my sister definitely has other issues- but we noticed something off as young as four when she had breakdowns when she was four that lasted the entire day.

[@lorisreality8681]

Why on Earth don't parents WARN kids about what periods are and how to deal with them ahead of time??? It's so unnecessary to make your child afraid they are literally dying because you feel icky about certain topics. I was 9 and seriously thought I was bleeding to death and was crying for no reason. If someone had told me ahead of time that it might happen to me soon, what to do, and that it was normal, a huge scary memory would never have happened to me.

[@lizthedisjointedzebra692]

I don't think it's always that, it's just impossible to picture how you will feel. I was well-educated on periods, having had sex ed twice(we moved, so I got it again lol), a good health course in 7th grade, and an older sister. But it still freaked me out when I had my period, because you can just feel it, the cramps, the nausea, the DRIPPING. It was just so different, and so much more WEIRD than I had imagined.

[@JohnWilliams-wl9px]

⁠@@lizthedisjointedzebra692my youngest sister screamed bloody murder when she got hers. And my family was open about it. It’s just one of those situations you never know how you truely react until it happens to you.

[@joshuanobil6896]

the story about the brother leaving notes was next levels of cute

[@jakeand9020]

I have two daughters, I knew what was up in story one with the age and soap all over the bathroom floor. We educated our daughters when they started approaching that age so they knew what was going to happen, physically and emotionally. It was still a bit rough for them, their mother has heavy flow and they followed suit.

[@amouzakis]

Man I didn't realize my period experience was so unusual - my mom prepared me so well (I learned decades later she was horribly uncomfortable but she didn't let it show an oz) I had books and diagrams and knew it was coming for years - when it finally came for the first time I was PSYCHED haha xD

[@Gothchops]

The little notes story is absolutely adorable 😍 What a fantastic brother to have 💜✨️

[@minelliabrissiaud2321]

That first story at first reminded me of another story I heard (was by another youtuber) about a guy who was raising his neice since his brother died. The brother had debts when he passed, so the guy took on a second job and put an end to his dating life entierly to provide for the neice. When the neice got older, she was convinced her late father had a lot of inheritance money and that the uncle wasn't dating because he was a predator lusting after her. She called her uncle "pɘdo" constantly and ran off to get married to a guy much older than her. The uncle got rightfully fed up and not only disowened her, but gave her her father's remaining debts back which she ended up having to pay. Of course the older guy she got with left in a heart beat and she had to find two jobs instead of going to college. I am so glad story one was not anything close to that and that the daughter didn't hate her dad. Having your period can definitively be stressful, especially when you don't have anyone to relate to at home and assist you. I'm glad the psychiatrist could help both op and his daughter in this.

[@carlrood4457]

I've heard this one before, but it's always shocking and how once the crazy is let out, it just explodes.

[@luvondarox]

1:25:00 Pfhaha, Kay is trying so hard to (badly) flirt with OP, and they are just not having it.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

Harassment is Harassment irrespective of how someone presents. The keeping a record of the incidents idea is important.

[@jdd9993]

When OP said his daughter was 12 years old, her puberty immediately came to mind.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

I am only in the second paragraph, of the first story, and want to share 2 words with dad. She is 12, so puberty, and period. This is such sn important time when a girl needs a mom, or female mentor. However, your daughter is do very blessed to have you as a dad, because you handled everything like a rock star. My dad didn't want to hear anything about my period from the first one, until....well he has passed away so I guess ever. ETA. I have absent seizures. They started around puberty. Aside from my staying completely still ( I don't even blink), aand just stare straight ahead, no one would know I was having a seizure.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

It isn’t uncommon for absence seizures to occur around puberty. That huge influx of hormones can do a real number on you.

[@WyntheRogue]

The note story hit me in the feels button, gotta love the occasional wholesome nuggets that float around reddit. :3

[@lizzyfowler8499]

First periods are the worst. I had terrible cramps a day or 2 before any bleeding, and we were camping at the time, so I was literally crying curled up in a camp chair, parents split between freaking out and wondering if I'm being dramatic because I didn't want to do something. Lightbulb when the blood came right when we got home. It was awful and terrifying though.

[@kaykay8855]

The runaway groom Story: I don't get how a parent can be jealous of their own child and people forcing 'reconciliation'. I don't get SIL or people like SIL. The wedding dress story: what did the fiance think, that if op wore a dress to their wedding she would magically transform into the traditional feminine girly-girl of his dreams and that she'll drop her 'non-feminine' hobbies? I'm so glad op called off wedding.

[@rubymeaddle]

It's narcissism, narc moms abuse their daughters more because she sees the girl as a rival.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

I’ll never quite understand why folks would rather put in the effort to change a person than find a partner that fits their preferences. If you want a traditionally feminine woman, then maybe don’t date a woman who wears bespoke suits/is not traditionally feminine.

[@cu-8190]

same thing happened to me and i also wonder why anyone would do that, some mental gymnastics going on in their mind

[@summersands8105]

Just and FYI...lots of straight women wear white suits when they get married. Some of the suits are just as beautiful as any wedding dress.

[@LightSage89]

The wedding one makes me feel bad for the OP and their family. I am also a person who has cut a parent out of my life. If I ever found out that someone had invited my father to an event that he wasn't welcomed to in a misguided attempt to force reconciliation, I would be so angry. Especially if the person who invited my father knew about all the stuff he put my family through. The only time I have seen my father in the last 10 years was for my grandmother and his mother's funeral. I didn't approach him or talk to him. My mother and sister stayed as far away from him as possible. And my father at least had the decency to not approach us in return. It was probably the best thing he had ever done.

[@boooo13]

Okay I had to stop the video because I was laughing so much at how Markee said 'I don't care about anything' and 'I wear leather jackets'. Not sure why but it made my day better and just wanted to share that.

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

Drama Bingo should be a thing for every family. It sounds awesome!

[@jerriewyatt905]

Thankfully my mother told my older sister and me about periods well ahead of us starting , so we weren’t surprised when it happened.. I did think that might have been what was going on with her OP’s brother will make a great dad one day..

[@alosialee]

I didn't panic when I first started my period because my mom did a fairly decent job preparing me for it. Then again she had an absolutely traumatic experience with her first given she was 8 when she started. I did well with my daughter as well though in her case she has medical issues with her reproductive organs so when she started hers, I was at work, even though she knew how to take care of it with pads and the like and did extremely well on her own, by the time I got home she was so exhausted from trying to hide it from her brothers and step dad and from the more intense pains she suffers with hers that she broke down and cried in my lap the moment I got home and she told me. I did the same as the OP in the first story. As soon as she told me even though she already had supplies ready for her we still went out to get her a fun period starter kit with various options, OTC meds to help with the pains, and of course chocolates and a stuffy to help make her feel better. Fun fact by the way. The company that brings you Ben and Jerry's, Talenti, and Breyers ice creams also bring you Kotex and Seventh Generation pads and tampons. They seem to know what's up. 😂😂😂

[@annallen3426]

I thought it was first period immediately, so many of my friends were never told what a period was and thought they were dying and either acted like OPs daughter or screamed so loudly they got their answers soon but OP should have 100% told his daughter, or asked his sister to, around the time she was 10 of what is to be expected. It's a trauma that occurs far too often in kids because parents either don't want to think about their kids growing up or (in a lot of single dad households) dads are so uncomfortable talking about the changes in a girl's body they ignore it all until it happens. I got a lecture at 9 and a few months later had my first one and thankfully knew. I hope dad works on learning more about periods and cause I don't know if he'd recognize signs of PCOS, endo, toxic shock or anything like that. I hope she's okay and dad gets comfortable talking about it with her and she with him because all that worry could have been saved for something else

[@catandrobbyflores]

I give props to any dad that tries to explain even if they mess up. Its better than the kid thinking they're dying or something.

[@SilverMKI]

Puberty, relationships, sex, etc should all be routinely taught all through school right from the first year people attend. Knowledge is power.

[@Reality_TV]

Sam's story was CRAZY! I'm SO glad he didn't marry that crazy girl! Daniela was off her rocker! She actually claimed to be pregnant! Wow! Another tactic. Sam really selected a woman who was a lot like his mother. Thankfully, he disconnected from her.

[@notareallifetiger4817]

I have PTSD that causes me to disassociate a lot and I act very much like that daughter when it happens, so I was very concerned. So glad it was just her period.

[@AndyPrimeOne]

All kids freak out first time in daycare/school, you just keep taking them and in a week or so they will adjust and it is fine.

[@chaosgoettin]

first story: if this is a "normal reaction" on developing your first period, and people of reddit thought about it first, then there is something wring with y'all's sex ed. I understand it's a dad, but dear single fathers: if you have a daughter, educate yourself on womanly body functions and periods, so you can prepare your daughter for it. If you are unwilling, get your kid to a family member who would, as soon as your daughter hits 10. If your daughter already has it, that's quite late and one of those stories where the kid not only has a panic attack, but fears for her life for no reason. An all who say: "10 is too early": I knew of one girl who got it with 9, soooo......

[@platinum_noelle]

Single dads out there, please talk to your daughters about periods before they're at that age(if you don't know much, do research AND talk to the women in your life). Not talking about it will blindside her when it happens, and she'll be terrified to even bring it up a lot of the times. It's a normal bodily function, not a secret to keep lol

[@art-byfayleif3938]

That brother is so sweet, 😢 such a good brother

[@roserussellperry1719]

I panicked when I had my first one. I thought I injured myself and hid it from my mother until she saw a spot on the back of my dress. It happens to many young ladies.

[@mbyerly9680]

So much heartwarming! My Grinch heart hurts.

[@starlaaster523]

So mom is giving all her inheritance to two kids without the ability to manage money but expects the child who gets nothing to be fully responsible for them. So when the brothers blow all their money in a month op is expected to be their full-time caregiver and financially responsible for them. Thats bs. Then he finds out mom didnt tell him she was dying. Everybody treats him badly and he is done with all of them.

[@CannibalChxrry]

The brother leaving notes is so sweet. His girlfriend is a lucky woman, and will definitely be the happiest woman. 🖤

[@kbf9644]

#Wedding Siblings: I relate to way too much of this. The new baby is going to have the best grandpa and uncles ever. 🌻

[@jbrennan381]

2:03:55 I want to add to this comment, it's never smart to start an issue with someone you don't know very well, in their own home. You're in their territory, regardless of if what they do next is morally correct or legal, you are in a danger zone. In your own home or in public is one thing, but you don't know what they have at their disposal in their own home. Know your surroundings, know what you're surrounded by, don't make stupid decisions. Plus standing up to dunces who hold these kinds of ideologies doesn't (usually) change anything. That's not to say don't call people out on their BS, but choose your battles wisely, and don't get yourself injured or killed over a difference in ideologies, even if said ideology is f***ing stupid.

[@kyb3rcrystals]

i also remember my first period and how scared i was and how i called for my mom all terrified haha. i’m pretty sure i knew it was a thing before too? i don’t remember, but periods didn’t occur to me either lol.

[@cevanbrown2314]

Story 1 was so sweet and cute. I can just imagine the daughter tell this sory to her kids. "Your grandfather was so protective that he took me to a neurologist and therapist bc I started my period.My mood swing was that concerning." lol😂😂.

[@sargampareek2774]

8:59 cutest story ever 😂

[@mogulmade]

Right!?

[@Gymtoshi]

Story 1: as a girl raised by a single father, I guessed it was due to her period starting immediately. I reacted very similarly. It’s hard to express how embarrassing it was for me. I couldn’t connect the fact that it was normal for girls until over a year of having them. I felt a lot of embarrassment and shame

[@rubymeaddle]

Suited bride: Why do men propose to women that they don't like? It's pathetic.

[@jodycotton9454]

I think the best update would be when he’s been married for a few years with a kid or two and is then an amazing Daddy too!

[@adelaideemiliem2772]

Aw, I’m glad the daughter got help. I felt so bad thinking of her worried for her dad if she died. My Girl Scout leader told a similar story. One girl got her first period and was scared and only told one friend. Her friend started crying and told my girl scout leader that she was bleeding to death. The leader freaked out and asked where, and the response was “in her underwear.”

[@BLKWIDOWX]

listening as i fall asleep 😊 gnight markee. watch every video. love ya

[@skyelindsey687]

S1 reminds me of when I started mine. I was 14 and it was the summer between 7th & 8th grade. My family consisted of 4 women and 2 guys and in 5th grade pe class they had explained to us what a period was. I wiped and saw the blood. So I simply walked out into the living room and said either I’m dying or I started my period. My 2nd oldest sister burst out laughing at how nonchalant I was. All mom had to do was show me where the pads were because I already knew everything else.

[@lieswil]

1st story, what a terrible upbringing. Letting her decide at age 5 not to go to school, not educating her about her body...12 is much too late to discuss this.

[@boxbox5371]

about the school thing I remember when I was 4 my mum took me to school on my first day and I didn't want to leave her and wouldn't stop crying till they said i could phone my mum. it happens but u need to be stern and just let them go you cant coddle them

[@feliciadixon3402]

What a GREAT brother. 🥲

[@kirashepard5942]

My Mother talked me so much about period when i was little that when it happened to me i knew exactly what to do and didn't panic, i think sexual education should be obligatorio for Young kinds to prepare them for this if parents don't know how to aproach the subject.

[@teacheschem]

Period was definitely my first thought with the floor being a mess!

[@friendlyfire2615]

Lotta 2 1/2 hours long vids recently, loving it!

[@DesiresPleasures]

Yep the soap is what made me think first period too!!! The crying was like yep she’s got her first period and thinking she’s going to die like I thought! I remember my mom told me “One day you’ll start your period and that means you’ll become a woman soon after” um would have helped so much if she would have warned me about the blood down there!!!!

[@lorifiedler13]

Excuse me, but parents didn't tell op and her husband they were in town for a full month And attending their golden child's wedding that OP didn't even know about.

[@SimplyjustKatey]

In the first story, I immediately knew the girl got her first period. I think many young girls learn about the stereotypical red blood but aren't aware period blood can range from crimson red to dark brown and even a pink color when spotting. When I first got my period, I thought I accidentally shit myself because it was a deep brown color. I tried to hide my shameful secret, but my mom figured it out when I complained of (what I now know are) cramps.

[@angeleyesgreen1586]

Last story: op needs to stop giving everyone keys to his place

[@scarlettg.5772]

1st story I instantly thought period. To many girls aren’t taught about them. I thought she probably thinks she’s dying and doesn’t know how to tell her dad.

[@frazzledhaloz3184]

I have petite mall seizures…. It’s a case of zoning out!

[@Because-rt8qs]

Cleaned the floor and burst into tears, yep it's obvious. IYKYK

[@alexandriamarlow773]

the marrying a racist story has me really frustrated, i married into a half mexican family, the mom is mexican dad is white. My entire family is extremely racist and lgbtphobic. I love the family i married into and i even have a trans nephew that i love dearly. Just because the family sucks doesnt mean the future spouse sucks.

[@mattiekarwin3667]

1:32:00 I get it now! It's that one stock episode where the person everyone likes meets someone who doesn't care and makes its the whole world's problem trying to make the person like them.

[@Timesowimey]

As soon as I heard "shampoo all over the place" I knew she had just gotten her period. I felt a little bad for the clueless dad, until it occurred to me that the he should have made damn sure he WAS prepared!

[@LA-mz1dd]

The Friend Mary story. I had a friend do this to me. Up to sexually assaulting me by trying take my shirt off and kiss me. She physically assaulted me when I wouldn't share what a guy was texting me. She wouldn't let me sleep when I refused to talk about somthing. And that was just some of the stuff. She had me walking on glass and it took me a long time to use the words I have and realize what she actually did to me. Mary reminds me of this friend.

[@mogulmade]

Op in Story 1 is an amazing Dad. From the personalized tutoring, to the sensitivity to his daughter, to the quick action and the way he brought in Aunty for what he couldn't handle. Women in the comments casting blame for him not knowing or preparing are trash. Most of you had dads and husbands in the house who don't even know your doctors names or birthdays. 🙄

[@heyitsevie]

"daughter acting strangely" "she is 12" ahhh yes, definitely her period

[@nousernamesarevalid]

I feel like Daniela knew their mother the whole time. Her behavior being similar to the mothers is very suspicious. Its a scary thought.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

If op is going to be forced to care for and financially support both brothers than mother should set them up in support services 💯 OP shouldn’t be forced to care for them. That way the kids can have the money to pay for staffing and living expenses

[@rubymeaddle]

Right they're getting 90k ffs, that can arrange their care

[@miyalove1964]

"It's gaseosaaa" 😂😂😂

[@littlegreycat]

The Gaseo-ah comment. Fabulous. Great job on the Hermione affectation.

[@MrKurtykurt]

Story 1 - Xemmie78: “He was ok after a few weeks. No lasting damage but I now have a 24yr old sister”

[@AAAforshort]

I had a hunch it was getting her period when they mentioned the soapy bathroom but ngl I thought it was something else when op described the glass incident, glad it was the former but kids can act out weird man - I do remember being scared smth was wrong with me when I woke up in blood at night the first time I had mine, but I was 9 so a bit early to even know abt that stuff yet

[@aliciahinkle1525]

My little sister started her period and freaked out thinking something was wrong and I had to sit down and explain to her the whole thing

[@katherinebass530]

I was well aware of everything about periods. My first period wasn't like that. I couldn't have guessed that what it was. I'm sorry for anyone who wasn't educated ahead of time.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: He failed her when he didn't previously explain how periods worked. He should've learned this.

[@WobblesandBean]

I agree. She's 12, I got my first one at that age and it was also brown. HE SHOULD HAVE PREPARED HER. He seriously thought it was friggin' _seizures_ before he thought it was her period?

[@mogulmade]

Get off your damn high horse. That is an amazing father who missed something. There are people who grow up in a house with both parents and still aren't prepared. He is in tune with his daughter enough to immediately notice something was up and listen!!! Then here you come. 🙄

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@WobblesandBean not to mention she didn't feel comfortable enough sharing this with her dad. She needs to take her to a gyno asap as well...

[@arain764niara]

I knew the notes story was gonna get found out from the post.

[@catalinaaddams8581]

Daniela HAS to be Colombian 😂 I mean I’m assuming this all happened in Colombia so OP and her amazing family are (at least in my mind) Colombian as well It’s the drastic differences in personality, the chisme, the OP’s outstanding English, and especially the whiplash for me that makes me make this assumption

[@hannahevertson8306]

For the girl with the suits she definitely doesn't need to 'get better'. She likes the way her suits make her feel when she wears them and that's what matters. It just makes me wonder why her fiance (i really hope it's actually ex by now) was even with her when he seems to hate everything about her. He doesn't like the way she dresses or presents herself, doesn't like her hobbies, I assume the previous point means he doesn't like engaging in said hobbies with her, and doesn't seem to want the same things in life. Girl needs to get herself a better partner and dude really needs to extract his head from his bum hole.

[@bantubrat343]

I’m not crying you’re crying ! 😭

[@maxinemyers9215]

Love your video’s, thank you 💐

[@lightningmcdeutschland]

my friend has the most embarrassing period story, she was 11 and had no idea her period would start, her class was sitting on a WHITE carpet listening to the teacher read and her period came right then and there

[@owl6637]

Called that it was a period. I got mine at 10 and thought I was dying too 😂

[@CanonSkyrissian]

idk if my fiancee told me there's a family member she doesn't want to invite to our wedding, the last thing I'd do is invite them behind her back, especially if I know why she doesn't want them there. and even if I don't, it's not my place to pass judgment

[@littlegreycat]

It’s good the brother didn’t marry the woman who decided to make unilateral decisions about contact with his abusive mother.

[@danacarter9147]

Agreed. After that helllstorm, 2nd OP's brother will seriously need to keep his guard up with the next woman that enters his life, because that next woman may be just like the mother, or the ex-fiance; another smiling face telling lies.⚠️

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

Tell Mary if she wants unconditional love, to get a dog. Human relationships involve standards, _especially_ the healthiest ones. She's been testing dominance on you; that's bad friendship on her part - evidently a fact she needs to learn the hard way by getting dumped. There's no room for power games in a healthy relationship.

[@rubymeaddle]

Mary's behavior was down right abusive

[@MrThedrachen]

I have had two start their period in my house. My niece thought she pooped herself overnight. I asked if she was menstrating and she didn't know what I was talking about. I braced myself and explained the whole thing and she said "oh, like getting your period?" 🤦 She's really smart, so I forget she doesn't always know the technical words. After that, we worked really hard to prepare our son and normalize it for him. Menarche is scary enough for cis girls, but it's so much worse for trans boys. He was panicked at first because it was kinda orange, and also thought he was dying. But since I had normalized it so much for him, he just showed me right away and I was able to reassure him that yes, sometimes it's funny colors, it doesn't mean you're dying.

[@littlegreycat]

Since S has a therapist she should have told the therapist. In most places you aren’t allowed to just toss some one out.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

OP NTA. OP quit feeling bad for Sam's ex. If she didnt want to be humiliated, she wouldnt have betrayed Sam like that. She has known your brother for years and knows what your mom and stepdad have done md knows Sam's and the rest of you guys feels towards your mom and stepdad. Ex showed that she is just as horrible as your mom and stepdad. I feel for Sam but truly he dodged a huge bullet. If he had married her, she would be ignoring his legit wants and feelings for things she thinks right while not giving a crap about him. It would be an toxic or abusive relationship, her wanting your bro to be a door mat. So stop caring about her or people who are supporting what she did. Comfort your bro depending on who paid for the honeymoon and where might go and see if more can come too just to get away from everyone.

[@raleighransom4561]

I feel like a lot of the comments on the post about the woman who is into men's fashion, doesn't wear or enjoy wearing skirts or dresses, owns several bespoke suits, and has her own regular tailor for Christ's sake were a bit mmm I dunno. not good, to put it mildly. like why would this specific person ever think that she'd have to say explicitly that she'd wear a suit in her own wedding? why wouldn't that just be a given? like no, people aren't mind readers, but I don't think the fiancé in this case would need to be clairvoyant to have known OP would rather wear a suit, he just would have needed to respect (or, and I know this is a wild concept but, even love) her personal style. because she's the woman he's marrying.

[@taylorslade961]

Story 1: OP really failed as a father when he didn't prepare her for this. His sister at least should have brought it up, but no one thought to teach this girl about her body. If they had at least taught her how her body works she would have at least known what was happening and could have called her aunt.