My Domestic Violence Story | The Ending No One Expected.

Today I am opening up about my domestic violence story for the first time in 10 years. I never had a bruise or a hospital visit. Domestic Violence looks so much different than we see in the media.
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[@SimplyLibbyt]

I cannot believe how much love you guys have shown me on this video. I appreciate all of you telling me your stories and sharing with me ❤ it takes so much vulnerability to do that! I will be doing a follow-up video to this one soon. If you are currently in this situation or know someone who needs help please reach out for help. (Easier said than done, I know.) ❤ DV hotline: [phone] Or text: 88788

[@karencristobal4999]

I would wait until my husband was asleep and then would pack a box. Every night (and take it to storage on my work lunch hour the next day after hiding it in my trunk). Knowing that I was packing was the only way I could breathe. I packed my whole house and he never noticed. And then I rented a house and called him and told him I was gone. He had been so so so emotionally abusive. It was 15 years ago and I still wake up every morning with a grin on my face and joy in my heart. I left. I left. I left!!!!!

[@debbiesteffen448]

Your joy at your freedom is palpable. I am so happy for you and proud of you ❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊

[@Barbara-yv8rk]

I can hear yr freedom. So well done

[@StrawberryFieldsNIR]

Great job, your secretive packing then moving. The 'rule' is, never tell the abuser you are leaving, because things can go very bad, really quickly.

[@delicate1]

Beautiful, moving in silence.

[@l.5832]

I had to wait 3 months to get my pay out before I could afford to leave my abusive husband. I was terrified the whole time but had no where to go. He had been breaking my possessions so I was afraid to go to a shelter because all of my belongings would be destroyed if I left them behind. So I bought 2 key locked door knobs and installed them on to the doors of 2 rooms and moved all my belongings in to those 2 rooms. I also slept there. Husband was furious and threatened to kick the door down. NONE of his possessions were in either room. I told him to go ahead and kick the door in and I would photograph the damage and present it in court and the judge would surely give me a much better settlement than what I had agreed to. It worked, and I got through those months and got my financial settlement. Seven years since I left and I would NEVER go back!!!!

[@NitrosMom074]

I was married for 13 years to an emotionally abusive man. We married when I was 19. In 13 years we lived in 11 places and he had 9 different jobs. We screamed at each other every single day. I brought him to the ER more than once to have wall plaster dug out of his fists. No one knew and they all thought we were the perfect couple. I was so insecure that I thought he was the best I deserved. He shoved me onto the bed hard and I hit my head on the footboard hard enough to cause a large lump. That was it. Somehow I knew that would have been the start of more. I’m now 67 years old and I remember the abuse like it was yesterday. Thankfully at 35 I found a man who treats me like gold. We’ve been married for 32 very happy years!

[@deannarounds3295]

So happy you got away. I lived with that too and it took me 23 years total to get away from him/ Best decision I ever made. I also found my 2nd husband who has been the joy of my life!

[@NitrosMom074]

@@deannarounds3295 thanks! I’m glad you’ve also found someone who respects you and keeps you happy!

[@willieallan953]

Verbal abuse leaves no physical marks but leaves behind the kind of marks that last long after the person is gone!

[@susansmithey5317]

I remember my abuse like it was yesterday. It’s been decades. I now know these guys NEVER change.

[@valerielove9837]

I agree. My ex I was with for 11 years. My family told me he changed and had gotten married. I was happy for him. But found out his marriage only lasted 1 and a half. So obviously, he didn't change.

[@flamefox8989]

Let's take a moment for all the women & children devastated by men's violence. Especially those who were murdered 😢

[@maggyjones4749]

Also women who are violent as well!

[@karlareadstheclassics217]

😢😢😢

[@sarah2.017]

Don't forget about the people in LGBTQ+ and poly relationships who experience abuse. There was a fatal case in my city a while back involving a lesbian couple.

[@charminbutterfly32]

Take a moment for the men that get abused too 😞

[@sarah2.017]

@@charminbutterfly32 Men are indeed more likely to be mentally abused.

[@AZHITW]

When the people who love you tell you that the person you're about to make a commitment to is not what you think; listen to them.

[@karlareadstheclassics217]

That's a big problem. All too often they don't listen.They can't hear you.

[@deannarounds3295]

3 days before I got married the first time my Mother asked me if I was sure and told me it was not too late to change my mind. I told her I loved him and knew what I was doing. (I was 21 and in a sexual haze!) I divorced him after being married over 20 years and it was hard and scary because I was stalked and threatened but I made it. Remarried a few years later and still married and it has been 22 year married plus 2 years lived together.

[@paulabailey9791]

​@karlareadstheclassics217 the abusers will do everything they can to make it seem like those who are speaking up are the wrong ones.

[@donnaoleson9499]

I was raised by a horribly abusive Dad. He would use his fists , feet , 4 sided yardstick. My brother , sister , and I would get on the bus so absolutely bruised , big welts on our bodies that every bump the bus hit sent us all into extreme agony. I moved away from home at 17 cuz I couldn't take it anymore. I ended up getting married at 18 to an equally abusive man. I ended up bloodied and battered more than once a day. I was working at the local hospital as a CNA and after ending up in the ER several times was quickly let go. He was an alcoholic and without fail , every weekend he was arrested for various reasons. 4.5 years later he threw me out of the house that my 2 jobs paid all of the bills. He chased me half way down main street with a loaded shot gun pointed at the back of my head. Luckily the city cop was parked at the end of main street and quickly pulled up , threw me behind his door , pulled his gun on my then husband. After he had him face down on the street and in handcuffs , he unloaded the shot gun , and told me to run to my friends house and after he jailed him , he came to check on me. I filed for divorce the next day. A year later I met my present husband. He was an absolute God send. Almost 40 years later , we had 4 kids during the first 10 years , and now have 7 wonderful grandchildren. Leaving that abusive relationship was the best thing I ever did.

[@robertamckiski8682]

1:45

[@mariesara]

Violence is not only physical, psychological violence is even more destructive...

[@chrissy24-7]

Controlling behavior, insults that are thinly veiled become more open, your sense of self gets bruised and they take advantage of that. Thank God I got out

[@mariesara]

@@chrissy24-7 Me too

[@lizzyp174]

Don't forget financial abuse

[@Rickettsia505]

@@mariesara mine was never physically abusive, and because of that, I stayed far too long. Once I was divorcing him, he chest butted me. It was in public, so did not go further than that. But that act was the key that completely released me.

[@valerielove9837]

Well said

[@ShaynaHof]

I never realized that DV could be emotional abuse until I was out of the relationship. No bruises either, just a decade of emotional abuse,gaslighting, and manipulation. Thankfully I’m in a much better place now ❤️

[@deannarounds3295]

I worked in human services for 40 years and when I was in my late 30s I was sent to a training on emotional abuse and I sat there in that training going OMG he does that , I do that , WE do that! I could not believe it. Went to therapy alone because he would not go as there was nothing wrong with HIM. I did get away but it still took a few years. Best decision I ever made!

[@heatherfoxx2148]

What's even worse is when everyone else thinks the guy is so sweet and loving and takes such good care of you and you just want to scream out...how is everyone so blind. 😢

[@josetteschembri9777]

Exactly the same thing that happened to my dsughter. He was liked by everyone and nobody believed her. Even though seperated he still treats her very bafly

[@outroseok]

this was me with my ex, he is a very social person so when we broke up all his friends and everyone assumed I was at fault bc they didn't know what he put me through behind closed doors.

[@reneemartel8802]

Exactly

[@SS-vg8rc]

@@outroseok same here

[@candyfloss39]

So true.

[@ninijellybeanie6853]

I am also a DV survivor. I don’t know if you will actually see this but I want to tell you with all of my being that I am SO SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU. People don’t know what to say when they hear these types of things… they don’t want to believe that it is possible. They secretly want us to be lying or exaggerating… because nobody wants to hear the truth. I hear you, I see you and I believe you ❤.

[@LoriPlourde-vb1xs]

@ninijellybeanie6853, I agree with you 100%, coming from a dv survivor myself. Libby, I hear you in every way!! God bless you both.

[@ninijellybeanie6853]

@@LoriPlourde-vb1xs hugs to you!! ❤️

[@charminbutterfly32]

This 💯

[@1HorseOpenSlay]

After high school I moved in with a guy that was a manager for a company. Serious dv. I said I was moving out, and he killed my pets while I was at work. 30 years later, one night I had a knock at my door. ( my gramparent used to live here). I didn't recognize him till he said " I'm derek, I'm looking for lisa." I used to be really pretty with long hair. I now have short hair Thank God he didn't recognize me, and thank God I don't turn on any porch or outside lights. It was so dark that he couldn't see my face! I tried to change my voice and said " she don't live here." He said " where does she live?" I said she moved out of town with her husband." I did a background check on him and found that he had been in prison for years for violating a restraining order and attempted murder on a girl. He never left a single bruise on me while we're together. But the terror and danger were level 10.

[@Jahtutson]

This abuse is very similar to those talking about narcissistic abuse. A strong connection and much support. In case you didn't know.

[@G.G.8GG]

Well said. Your story is very much like mine, except you got out of it sooner. Mine was long ago. Thanks for putting out the message. I would just like to add: IF ONE STAYS, YOUR KIDS WILL BE DAMAGED. No matter how many things you engage them in, no matter how much love you give them, no matter how many excuses you make for daddy, no matter how many hoops you jump through. They WILL BE AFFECTED by disrespect and verbal, mental or physical violence. There's no such thing as making it up to them.

[@susanq6398]

Unfortunately, you are right. I did everything I could to shield my children and give them the tools for life. All 3 have sought therapy and only one is doing ok but is on various medications to help.

[@OfftoShambala]

@@G.G.8GG a lot of women leave then they have to send the kids to stay with the guy and then you don’t know what he’s doing to the kids.

[@vanessam3195]

Abuse can look so different than bruises. I struggled with that too.

[@Melissaiskind]

Im 58 and your story was my story 35 years ago. I had 3 children and stayed 15 years. He went to prison for domestic violence against me and the kids and i left for good. I eventually got remarried and we never looked back. Your story resonated so much with me. You’re so strong. Thank you for sharing your story and letting people know these situations are more common than most people know❤

[@freedomspromise8519]

Some women fall for these men due to childhood abuse/trauma. It’s like we grow so accustomed to abuse we accept it as normal. No self-esteem at all. Thinking it’s all we deserve and if we just try harder things will be different. It even affects how we raised our own kids. That control is crazy.

[@augiemusky]

It seems that it’s that break from each other that allows you to step back and see what you have been accepting, without realizing how ugly things have become.

[@user-kr9rq6cc4d]

I used to work in a domestic violence shelter. It was so frustrating and difficult to witness women, with their children and some without, still be in contact with their abusers, while seeking shelter away from them, only to return to them later. I’m so happy for your peace and willingness to be honest with the world, as other men and women need to be educated and see by your example that they can survive without that so called loving partner, and be 100 percent better off without the fear, conditional love and financial support. You did it and they too can do it. So happy for you and your child to be safe and free and learn that any kind of abuse is not be an acceptable way to live. Keep telling your story.❤

[@jbeauty4150]

I want to leave but I can't work .I filed for disability but got denied. I don't know what to do. I have no family or support system.

[@TheShizNat]

@@jbeauty4150is there a shelter near you?

[@sarah2.017]

I have never been a DV victim, but I once worked with a woman who had stayed in a shelter after fleeing an abusive boyfriend. That shelter's #1 rule, and #1 reason for kicking women out, was contacting the abuser, and if she went back to him, that shelter would not provide services to them for 6 months. They would refer them to other programs, but they couldn't stay there. I know that most DV victims make multiple attempts to leave, but this place didn't want that to happen, and they meant business. This was in the Phoenix, AZ area in the 1990s.

[@tricia2701]

I’m 66 years old and grew up with abusive parents. I was frequently bruised, but no one noticed. I will never understand how people can not notice.

[@ireneroland3070]

They did notice , unfortunately they didn’t want to get involved.

[@kimmathe6701]

I have wondered this myself. Only one time did I hear someone ( my dad's nephews wife) stand up to my dad. I spilled milk and he was berating and belittling me, with: verbal and emotional abuse. I was filled with shame ( not mine to carry) fear , embarrassed, and feeling very alone. She said , you shouldn't treat her like that. Being treated abusively, was the norm. I haven't seen Ellen , in decades . It takes courage to speak up and speak the truth about abuse. I think there's many reasons. One may be they also fear the abuser themselves. Another reason is they justify not speaking up or reporting it, by saying ,it's none of their business. It's a personal affair. Maybe , you want to stay on the good side of the abuser , because of an emotional investment, they offer you , something that's to your advantage , like: money, vacations, a pay check, friendship ,etc. Abusers don't abuse everyone . They have their scapegoat or victims . They can be charming , have an agenda, are charismatic , If your friends are with the abuser , then it's sad but others will not speak up for the victim. There's a duality going on.

[@dawn4224]

We are all vulnerable to abuse. If it happens, tell someone right away. Do not hide it! Proud of you.

[@elisabethkiesel4567]

There are ALWAYS SIGNS at the beginning….job loss, dragging you around/moving around, asking you to do sign a loan, etc are all signs of instability.

[@sarah2.017]

In other words, isolation.

[@beccachurch]

You dodged a bullet from him. I was there and I am so proud of you facing it all!

[@gdhhayes2129]

He was a sociopath with narcissistic traits as narcissism is part of the sociopathic makeup. My dad is a professionally diagnosed sociopath who has abused his way through 3 wives and gone to prison for sexual abuse of a minor twice. I was his first daughter and victim, but back in the 70s the police simply said it was a domestic affair, thus did nothing. Laws changed by the time he exploited a step daughter in 1990. Being charming and mirroring his victim of choice is a part of the oackage. Once they have properly caught and secured their victim then they begin breaking them down. I believe this is why the abuse ramps up once we are pregnant. My mom has BPD with covert Narcissistic traits. I grew up an emotional train wreck thus rejected all opportunities for a relationship with non abusive young men (they felt boring to me) and thus married a guy and experienced a relationship similar to the one described in this video, sans the obvious cheating. I'm confident my ex spouse did cheat but not in the blatant manner of this guy. But the abuse cycle hits very close to home. My escape came after a 7 year path of emotional healing on myself. I first had to grieve the pain and trauma of my childhood and continue on a path of becoming independent with some self confidence until I was emotionally self secure enough to leave.. I made my final escape after 17 years of marriage.

[@sandrarj6429]

I'm so glad you have found a partner who loves you. My childhood was traumatic because my mother remarried a narcissistic b@*$t@rd and never left him.😢

[@laurawalsh2829]

Thank you for your courage in sharing your story. It amazes me people think DV is only physical. I survived verbal, emotional and mental/psychological abuse. As a writer, you understand the impact of words, tone of voice, even the looks from your partner. When I got into a DV survivors’ group; the internal work within ourselves when things started to escalate was so helpful (and you mentioned that at points) and shifted the focus from him (narcissistic) to myself. I could not change him, but over time I began to change my response to him. I worked on me. I eventually did get out with my son in a safe & non-violent manner. His behaviour towards me worsened in that he tried to maintain control, but he didn’t succeed. Our son still loves us both and is grown now. It was tough for a while, but the more I saw my ex’s behaviour towards me, the better I felt about my decision to leave, so my son wasn’t exposed to a toxic home environment any more.

[@maryschneider8154]

Do NOT feel sad about his suicide! I went through something similar, although , as far as I know, he’s still alive. It’s been 38 years and I still have nightmares. I had two sons from a previous marriage and he took advantage of how bad I felt about myself from the divorce. We had a son together who he used as a weapon when I didn’t do what he wanted me to do. I finally had enough and went to a community college to get a better education so I could get a good job. Obviously, my being independent didn’t go over very well. He would use his middle finger and poke me in the middle of my breasts where no one could see. I moved out with my 11 year old son(my other sons had joined the service and were gone). I got a good job and put my son through college. We are strong and resilient!

[@Arlene_witha_y]

It’s incredible how almost identical our stories are! IDENTICAL! from talking keys, purse, phone, making threats, abuse in a way with no proof. Always had to be out, the pushing too hard.. getting pregnant when you were thinking of ending it. Almost everything!

[@ankiking]

I hope you got out safely and that you are safe with your baby now.

[@juliah8601]

I did cartwheels for you when you said he unalived himself. Never ever ever feel guilty about that or like it was in any way your fault. That ending wasn't unexpected at all. The surprise is that he didn't take the lives of you and your son before his own, which is what happens when they know they've lost control over you and you try to leave. You're free, and that is such an amazing gift. ❤

[@crazeekids9744]

I was in an abusive marriage for 13 years . No one knew. He was very charismatic and had everyone convinced that if we had any problems in our marriage that they were because of me.

[@alwaysearlymorning]

My friend lives with an abuser and that just breaks my hart. Every time I remind her that she can take her 2 kids and come live with me for a while, but she's not ready to do that:( I hope, she will at some point. I'm so proud of you, girl. I know how difficult it was to leave him.

[@carenlissner454]

I hope she will do that too, but when she feels safe. She's lucky for a patient friend like you. Some people give up. There are DV agencies that will help you help her make a plan for emergencies (of course, calling 911 is first if it's an absolute emergency.)

[@alwaysearlymorning]

@@carenlissner454 thank you so much. At the country where I live it's more complicated to get help, but I'll look up the options.

[@janetdiaz5824]

Please contact a domestic violence shelter. Tell them about your friend. They can help you figure out what you can do to help your friend. I would tell her she can leave an emergency bag at your place. She may have to leave with only the clothes on her and the kids backs. An emergency bag will have dental care, basic hygiene and maybe money or gift cards to Walmart. So she can buy supplies.

[@ankiking]

To know that you have a place to go makes all the difference. Just keep telling her she deserves better and that she has a place.

[@Dbellerive22605]

You just told my story. To a tee!! All the way to the self harm! Except, my ex lived and tormented us for the next 12 years!! The ONLY reason he has stopped is because he lost one of his legs. These personality disorders are no joke!! They are scary, violent, vindictive and harmful!!! I’m so glad you and son didn’t have to endure anymore than you did. ❤

[@kimleone5496]

I have physical and emotional scars and I have found nearly 50 years later that many people knew something was wrong but did nothing to stop it. This channeled my whole life. I have feared relationships because I was afraid of getting hurt again. Nobody did a damn thing

[@kimmathe6701]

You don't remember the good moments , because as a trauma survivor, you were trauma bonded, and abused. That out weighed the good. Emotional and psychological abuse leaves scars. We are not to blame ourselves. Because, we were trusting and hoped and prayed things would get better. Look up intermittent reinforcement. Along with trauma bonding, we get stuck . There's also financial abuse .... We lose self worth , esteem, and some victims believe the lies that we can't survive without them and it normally, takes many attempts at leaving and finalizing, that you're done! and not coming back to the abuse. If our. parents have neglected or abused us, then it's familiar to get involved with an abusive person , without even knowing( denial ) that it is abusive. It's trauma bonding and we have an excessive sense of responsibility. It's hard to accept that we are not loved , but instead were abused and used. I am so happy to hear that you are involved in a healthy relationship. You deserve it! Congratulations. You passed the test. Thank you for sharing.

[@sharonevans1257]

Your husband taking his life wasn't your fault! He was a narcissist

[@gdhhayes2129]

He was a sociopath with narcissistic traits as narcissism is part of the sociopathic makeup. My dad is a professionally diagnosed sociopath who has abused his way through 3 wives and gone to prison for sexual abuse of a minor twice..

[@cyndib3587]

And he was caught with no way out except..... (Pregnant mistress) so he imploded. Imo, of course.

[@kimberlylykes2627]

I’m so glad you shared this. Being bruised isn’t the only thing that means you’re abused. I’m sorry for your loss but thankful you are safe now.

[@karenbradley598]

I’m really glad you’re here to tell everybody about it

[@SimplyLibbyt]

Me too! thank you! ♥

[@karenbradley598]

@@SimplyLibbyt you’re most welcome. Best luck to you and your future hopefully it’s brighter than the past.

[@janejones1797]

I’m so sorry for what you went through. Sharing your story will help others.

[@1940sDream]

I agree Jane. I felt so alone going through it & I was out of state from my family. When I did come back to my state, it got worse & the police didn't believe me... You are right. Thanks, take care.

[@angelapolykandrites2422]

Thankyou for sharing your story. I work with women survivors and am so grateful to be able to help them in the healing and moving forward process. I am always in awe of the strength these women have to be able leave, to save their lives and their children's lives. I've worked with women who have had boiling oil poured over them, stabbed, violently raped, kicked to within an inch of their lives. The horror stories I hear break my heart, fuel my anger, and disgust to know a human can inflict so much pain to another. I am also so proud of these women for gaining strength when often they have no family or social networks, but they are surviving regardless of the physical and emotional scars. And for those who can't escape I pray they find a way out before their lives are taken. So to all the women out there, PLEASE find strength, remember your worth, you can and you will survive. My love to all women survivors and those just surviving, day by day, living in toxicity until they have the opportunity to get out. ❤❤

[@holleythompson981]

Too many of us have had abusive partners!! Thank you for sharing your story, it was very brave of you!! I was young and dumb, but got out and now have a wonderful husband of 34 years.

[@heatherlentz5872]

Lundy Bancroft “Why Does He Do That…” & “When Dad Hurts Mom…” books really helped me understand the dynamic at hand and how to better protect my daughter and I. We were never hit either, but on the other end of a list of other abusive behaviors too. There is hope to not internalize an abusive person’s abuse.

[@Elizamcculloe]

I’m a Libby too! I also had an abusive relationship. My first marriage and my son’s father, I too was young. I realize now 40 years later I have PTSD any arguments between a man and woman upset me more than it should.😮 It’s rough but I’m learning why it upsets me so and through the love of Jesus Christ I am healing!!

[@Petra-ms3ku]

No ones ever talked about it like this before. My ex too knew exactly how to hurt and terrify without ever leaving a mark. The eye contact. Daring me to leave…. Big hug from one survivor to another. I see you. ❤️

[@mrs.tinklebinkle8574]

In my short marriage I didn't have visual bruises. All my bruises were hidden or not seen because he was mentally and emotionally abusive and controlling. Happy I got out of it within 2 years.

[@grandmamoses6977]

Back in the early 60's my neighbor had been enduring abuse from her husband for years when one time he beat her in front the 4 kids. They were small and ran for cover under the dining room table. That night when he went to sleep she tied him up in the sheets and took a ball bat to him and with every crack of the bat she told him: you will do this and you won't do that. She took the bat to every part of him but his head. He never hit or argued with her again. Why don't women who get abused take advantage of sleep and the good ole ball bat. Why don't men realize that at some point they are going go to sleep. She straightened her husband out for the better. She was an Italian Catholic and wouldn't get a divorce.

[@angelamachado5000]

I’ll tell you why… because if you beat your abuser(especially with a weapon) the police are going to haul you off to jail! Doesn’t matter how many times you ended up in the hospital or how many times you called the law who never do anything more than tell the abuser they should leave for the night…. Once you’re in jail who knows what is being said or done to the children …

[@s.d.7946]

Because it's wrong. My husband always wanted people to think I was abusing him, he would have loved this and used it to his advantage.

[@sarah2.017]

My friend's ex-husband's dad died when he was 5, and his mom married the first man who noticed her afterwards. You guessed it - he was an abuser, and for some reason, it never occurred to him that his 3 teenage stepsons would beat HIM up. He left after that. And no, my friend's divorce was NOT because of abuse; looking back, they simply weren't as well-matched as everyone thought they were. They weren't the best co-parents either, but their kids have turned out well. It probably wasn't the first time your neighbor had been beaten up, but good for her for making it the last.

[@krickette5569]

I have a friend who did this to her (now Ex) in the 1990s. He came home drunk and proceeded to beat her up, then he passed out on their bed. She wrapped the sheet around him, stitched it closed and beat him with a broom handle. Then she packed her stuff and left.

[@oldeuropemyhome76]

Because he knows where she keeps the kitchen knives and because she will need to sleep too, leaving the children unprotected. A so-called “family drama” will be the result.

[@fancytapes5851]

You poor girl. What a terrible experience. Most of us have no idea what's going on behind other closed doors. Well done for speaking out. Well done for getting through it all and still having a beautiful smile for the world.

[@melissaandrews1603]

First, congratulations for being brave enough to share. Second, I’m so proud of you for putting Kelly first. You are NEVER, NEVER responsible for another persons actions. When someone you love so deeply hurts you so deeply it does something to the love you thought you shared. I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years. We never had children. We moved a lot. He even went to prison and I would go every Sunday to visit, like a good little girl. But, one day I just walked away. Years later I ran into him at McDonald’s. I was with my now husband and two children. He told me he had cancer. I felt nothing. Later, when he died, I felt nothing. I didn’t go to the funeral. Didn’t give condolences to his family. Nothing. This was my very first love. I gave up everything for him. But, after 12 years I came to realize he didn’t give up anything. He didn’t love me. I’m sorry you had to live through this. Im sorry Kelly will never know his biological father. I never knew my biological father, either. But my Daddy that did love me, that gave me his last name, that raised me to be a strong independent woman was the best Daddy ever. And, I believe if Kelly gets the love and nourishment he needs from his father figure he will not become a statistic. Love and prayers to you both. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

[@SimplyLibbyt]

Thank you for sharing your story with me! 12 years is a long time, and I am beyond happy that you had the strength to walk away. That takes so much! Feeling nothing when your abuser passes is so normal. I felt so much shame for that, but it is incredibly valid. I am glad that you had someone step in as a father and raise you. Watching kelly and colton bond just makes my heart so happy. Hugs and love!! ❤️

[@ailiz7]

GREAT!!! AWESOME!!!! You have till this day no clue how great it was that he is gone forever!!! I heard your words and still pick up that you have still not fully realized what really happened to you snd your child. That msn did not care at ALL about his child, it‘s sooo sad for that child that he got such a horrible person as his biological father, I hope you really get to heal and be honest with yourself, so that your son NEVER becomes a person like that criminal!!! You did NOT HAVE A PARTNER, please do not ever call him your partner again, if a stranger would have ATTACKED YOU AND YOUR CHILD the way that evil man did, would you have ever call them „partner“. A stranger who is a criminal might have had more compassion for you and your unborn child than he did with both of you, the amount of DAMAGE he WILLINGLY inflicted FOR LIFE to both of you, he KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING, do not EVER think he did not wanted it so, evil men ATTACK their offspring bc they think it‘s their right to do so and bc they were also attacked when a child, why should their child have it better???!!! That is the sick way they think and ACT. I really hope you are being honest with yourself and avoid any other man until you really see that you NEVER LOVED THAT MAN, that WAS NOT LOVE, and be honest that you PUT THAT MAN BEFORE THE WELL BEING OF YOUR UNBORN CHILD, yes that is what you did, so be honest of hoe much you really love your own child, bc every mothers HEALTHY INSTINCT is to PROTECT THEIR CHILDREN and by staying with him, you PRIORITIZED that evil man before your child, it‘s called codependency and it‘s a type of addiction and it is not love.

[@jeanettesjourney9147]

Wow thank you for sharing. My story is so much like yours. It was just a lot more years ago. My ex husband also avoided leaving marks except the first time. We'd only been married a few weeks and went camping sleeping in the back of his canopy covered Toyota pick up. They were really tiny back then and it was a bit crowded. My ribs were jammed into the wheel well and I asked him if he could move over I little and he violently shoved me into the wheel well. I tried so hard to hide my tears. Later he pulled out my shoulder, slammed our baby girl into her crib face down because she wad crying and later ordered our 8 year old son because he was crying too get into bed then he ripped out his pillow from under his head and tried to smother him with it. My son was hyperventilating afterward telling me his nose was so sideways he couldn't breath. And of course my ex really believed all if this was justified because we made him mad. It was a horrible divorce and he even broke into my car, attempted to break into my house breaking a window, stole $4000 from my credit card and went to jail for 3 hours. To this day he blames me for everything and even told me recently that he forgives me. I'm so sorry you lost your husband but I'm sure you know it could have played out for years in ways that would have been so much harder for you and your son. God bless you.

[@SS-vg8rc]

I am so sorry you went through that. You were manipulated so much. It’s a lot to take in.

[@OneLove101.]

Having been on the receiving end of both types of abuse, I can tell you a million years later, the words have stayed with me. You’re worth so much more, getting out can seem impossible, but you can do it. Even if you pack one item at a time, make a plan to get away. Even if you have to leave with nothing but the clothes on your back ❤️ There’s organisations that can help you 🙏

[@deannarounds3295]

I always said if he had hit me I would have been gone but did not recognize the emotional and mental abuse for years. I kept thinking I could fix it. I was so very wrong.

[@debwebrox]

Thank you so much for telling us your story. The more you talk about it, the less effect it has on you over time, plus you're helping other women that are going through the same thing!!

[@kansashighlights624]

Congratulations on getting out. I'm so glad you have found somebody good now.

[@narfeggio]

Thank you Libby for sharing this. Abuse is abuse. You were physically, emotionally, socially, financially, abused. Bruises or no, physical harm or no, abuse is abuse. Also please forgive me for saying so, but if you never went to a memorial service for your abuser, never saw an obituary, etc., wouldn't it be possible his friend lied that he died? In my experience suicidal threats from the likes of him are empty threats and they are there to make the victim feel guilty and responsible for the other person's happiness. When you told your story, i couldn't help but wonder if this was a lie to get him out of being a father to your child. And an attempt to make you feel bad for not complying with his unreasonable demands. A parting shot. But also a way to hurt you even worse if he shows up again later demanding anything like custody or visitation. Again, forgive me. I've simply seen some crazy shit out here and wanted to clue you in to the idea just in case. You may have direct evidence of his death which would make this speculation ridiculous. Regardless of all that paranoid nonsense of mine, you are a strong person and a survivor. Plus you are a fun and vibrant person. Dont give up - you are worth it all!

[@lindaconnelly7836]

Thank you for sharing your story. I also survived a very abusive relationship (married). So much of what you said took me back to that horrible time in my life. I survived and although it was hard raising 3 children on my own, I've been grateful to have made it out alive. I know he would have done something to me. I remember waking up at night to find him standing over me with a knife in his hand. You are a survivor too. I wish you healing and happiness.

[@serenepeacefulrelaxingmusi3874]

It's not your fault in any way. He chose to do what he did. He must have spun such a web of lies and deceit that he trapped himself, and decided there was no way out because he couldn't live up to being an adult with normal behavioural standards. You did the right thing. I'm so happy to hear that you now have a good man in your life. All the best 😀

[@teresafraser3049]

I'm so proud of you in finding courage in sharing your story which will help so many people that are being abused as well as healing your wounds by telling your story 🙏🙌🙏 I to survived an abusive marriage back in the 80's when people NEVER talked about this. It was hell living with him and hell living without any support from family and friends BUT that made me stronger 💪 💯 I found this amazing counselor that helped me to heal my wounded self for 3 years which saved my life. I then met my beloved present husband and have two children together. We live a magical existence together ❤️ The day I escaped was the day I saved my life 🙏

[@sch728]

The second he was physically abusive he’d lose that statistic of “the love of my life.” I was married to a narcissistic, emotionally and verbally abusive man for 26 years of hell. I had four kids with him and felt so trapped. As I told him hundreds of times: Our love was like a brick wall. Every time he was verbally or emotionally abusive to me and/or the kids, one brick was removed. Not only did I fall out of love with him, but I despised him-still do. The crap he pulled in the divorce was unreal. Now I’m in an apartment and poor and he has a sugar mama. Life isn’t fair sometimes, but I couldn’t be happier! Can you imagine the hell he would have put you and your kid through? Same with the other women. Be glad he’s gone. Sad but realistic.

[@justinekingmaker493]

This is so much more common than the typical "Bruises" abuse. My ex husband was emotionally abusive, controlling, financially abusive... I met him while we were serving in the Navy and moved from Rhode Island, where we had been stationed, to Virginia, his home state. In Rhode Island, I should have seen the signs/red flags but ignored them. He didn't like me talking to other guys, even if they were in my unit. We moved into our first apartment after he returned from a Med Cruise (six months at sea) and I was nearly seven months pregnant when he returned. He was very kind and sweet while I was pregnant, but as soon as I went into labor is when the controlling and verbal abuse began in earnest. In the hospital, I was in labor and he'd bark orders at me, expecting me to "hurry it up." Excuse me? Not like I had much of a choice here. But it got gradually worse. It was stupid stuff at first, things I could easily ignore or shrug off. It was when he was re-stationed outside DC and we moved to his home state of Virginia is when he became even more controlling. We moved to his home town, over a two hour drive from his office. He cut off the Long distance telephone service (this was pre-cell phones and everyone had landlines) so I couldn't call my family or friends in Illinois. He refused to allow me to drive anywhere on my own. I had to call his mother or sister for rides. When they finally convinced him to let me have my own car, he made sure it was a clunker that couldn't go far so I'd only be able to use it to run local errands. He forced me to have a Naval doctor, not a local one that was over an hour and a half drive away. This also meant I couldn't set my own appointments because it was a long distance phone call. He would shove me into walls, doors, onto the bed or sofa. He would grab my wrist, but in such a way that it didn't leave marks but I could not twist out of it. He, at one point, actually said to me: "I'll never hit you where it will leave a mark so you can't prove it!" Finally, after two years of this abuse, I caught him cheating on me. I kicked him out, told him to pack a bag and go stay with his mother. Luckily I was on EXTREMELY good terms with my In Laws. They loved me but had no idea of what was going on. When I kicked him out, I immediately called my father in law and told him why my husband was heading over. My father in law was amazing. He told me to not be scared that he couldn't hurt me anymore. A few days later I rented a moving truck and started packing up to leave. My father in law even came over to help. He told me: "Don't you worry, if he even tries to fight you for custody (of our two year old son) we'll fight him for custody and get him back to you where he belongs!" Thankfully my In Laws were amazing people, salt of the Earth and I loved them dearly. They helped me get out of that abusive situation with their own son!

[@Nickifoster-hl3ux]

I am so glad you had that support ❤

[@maudeboggins9834]

Alas abusive partners are always cheating. I found that out after 5 years together. I had had enough of my marriage & learned a lot more after those years were over. I was truly fed up & wished I had left him earlier. Thank you for sharing you incredibly painful story. Bless you

[@sharonniconishin1012]

Hi from Australia. I know this was a year ago but I just found it, and I hope so many people find it. Here in Australia right now there are so many women suffering because of DV. It’s awful.

[@castingmynet6134]

I'm so sorry that you went through this. Thank you for not giving all the brutal details. God bless you, sweetheart. ❤ I'm working to heal my insecure attachment style, and so many people who don't get out of these situations also struggle to believe they are worthy of love. I'm sending prayers that you will continue to find healing.❤🙏🏻

[@Novemberrain111]

He was never the love of your life bc he treated you so bad. You felt relief bc you no longer had to deal w the pain he caused you. Sounds like he had mental issues the whole time leading up to his ending. Stay strong sis❤

[@julieryan1616]

Thankyou for sharing your brave,,I had an abusive first husband,, controlling and making you feel your not enough,it was mental and physical,and also had affairs,, fortunately I had no children with him, Eventually I left him thank goodness,,,that was over 40 years ago,but you never forget that feeling of fear,I've been married to my 2nd husband now for many years and have 2 grown up children,He is a man ,no proper men abuse women they are just bullies and cowards,I'm glad you are ok now keep strong ❤❤❤

[@laneebrewster6576]

Bless your heart- I agree-domestic violence is abuse in all forms - I won’t deal with a relationship because I remember the horrible feelings of being trapped

[@danoyse8233]

Libby, you need to look at where you are now. See how strong you are. Never go back. Repair yourself. It may take a longtime. You need to value yourself. I stayed in a relationship, believed in marriage. My mother passed comment to me one day, when she was visiting. She told me he was so charming, but if you think he’s fooling me, or I don’t see what you’ve become, you are mistaken. It was like I needed permission to get the hell away from him. She said my sons were learning this is acceptable for men to treat women like this. My daughter would think his behaviour was right. Having children will not help you with a narcissistic psychopathic personality.

[@Jahtutson]

He was jealous of the newborn. That's probably why he wasn't there the first three days snd why he ridiculed how you cared for the baby. He saw you were a good momma. 🙂 You are a strong woman. I hope you know that!❤

[@cherylrogers3302]

So many of us have been through something similar to this, bruises or no. Thank you for being brave and kind enough to share your story. There are so many people out there now going through this that need to know that they are not alone. You are truly an inspiration.

[@Marinayjosedoniz]

I was beaten so bad for years by my ex the last time he kicked my teeth out with steel toe boots he left me for dead in front of our children I had to learn how to walk talk and eat again, I’m so glad we got out ❤

[@AmirahJoy]

That’s awful, I’m so sorry! I’m glad you left. I hope things are better now! Prayers for you and your kids. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@AngieGryszan-gw9gz]

❤I am glad you got out too! From a survivor who is not currently being physically abused but has been in the past and is currently living with a narsasistic abusive person and can't find a way out due to financial reasons.

[@donnie9455]

​@@AngieGryszan-gw9gzFinance is no reason too stay. Be brave and it wil turn out fine in the end !

[@deannarounds3295]

@@AngieGryszan-gw9gz If you have a local women's supportive services they can get you in to a shelter and help you get support and find a job if you need one or a better one if you have one. It is all confidential too. If you are not sure if there is a support service in your area call your local welfare office and they can give you the info. You do not have to tell them your name to get the referral. I wish you the very best - you have more than earned it.

[@bethdumont9020]

Thank you for this. More people need to be aware that abuse and violence can also be psychological in nature. Psychological abuse is waaay more insidious than physical abuse is. I met my late hubby via a dating agency. Yes - he job hopped - a lot. We had 2 sons in 1990 & 1992. Our youngest son, born in 1992, got diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum in 1998 when he was in grade 2. During this process, my hubby admitted that he, too, was like our son when he was a kid. Hubby's abuse - & now our son's abuse - took the form of making me responsible for their weaknesses. I've had to become my son's Financial Administrator & Guardian because of the strength of his disability. While my son recognises a need to make some changes, he doesn't think he can. I have advice from his psychologist that he can, but that it could take 10 years. It's the constant stepping over my personal boundaries that I find the most problematic. My son recognises he does this. Even after he's been warned, he's getting close to a boundary because of his insecurities he has to physically touch the boundary. I can remember my hubby making a big deal over the fact I'd left my house shoes - neatly - in a corner. Another time, he was pissed because when I went into our air-conditioned bedroom for 30 seconds to grab something and left the door open - I was letting the cold air escape. Today, I had an argument with my son over my way of navigating while driving in a strange environment I was not familar with. I had another one over his habit of disappearing on me - which he did twice in two days. He also regularly does the same thing with his support worker but refuses to accept the premise that the behaviour is the same, albeit for different reasons. I got widowed in 2010. But when you leave a psychologically abusive relationship, you don't necessarily leave the abuse behind like you do in a physically abusive one. What changes is the person doing the abuse - to the random person in a call centtre who doesn't know the answer to your query but also doesn't connect you up with someone who can answer your query. To the person doing an intake interview who "forgets" to alert you to the presence of a policy of the agency that's kinda vital to you. To someone who lets you apply for a tennancy you have no chance of getting because you don't fit their entry criteria. To the medical specialist who can't be bothered to adequately read a medical history they should have access to before they engage with you regarding decisions you need to make about your health. To a support worker who complained to my younger son about his older brother's dog, threatening to report us. ALL this stuff has happened to me since I lost my hubby in 2010. It's also why I've developed c-PTSD. We need to change people. We need to start thinking of the effect we have on others - if I wouldn't like it done to me, I have no right to do it to you.

[@cindicarnes1731]

I am so glad you are here to tell your truth. I watched my daughter go through it. Oh she would not tell me or confirm but i felt something was very wrong. It escalated to him having a gun to her head. And he was a correctional officer. Well he screwed up and is serving 9 years in prison. She is now very happy and married to a good man. It took time but she is doing great. I pray that for you

[@TC-cr2oy]

I was in the same kind of marriage. The gaslighting is so dangerous.

[@nightowl58]

Oh Libby. I just watched your video 😢. I want to give you a big hug. I admire your strength. I am 4 and a half years out of a narcissistic marriage. We don't see the red flags in the beginning because they are so good at what they do but they can't keep the facade up forever, that is when we start seeing the red flags but their manipulation has you questioning your own sanity. Whenever I questioned my husband about his cheating, I also got the response "you've been having another one of your bad dreams". So yes, I felt your pain. Keep your videos coming, you are amazing ❤️

[@brendapyron3514]

When you said your husband had died and you had lost the love of your life I was totally blown away. I will never ever ever ever understand how someone can love their abuser. I hope you are happy now and your children don!t have to grow up with an abuser.

[@littlemj90]

I went through something very similar. The love bombing, the gas lightening, the emotional abuse, the financial abuse and the mental abuse. Physical abuse did happen but all the other abuse had a last effect on my mental health. I already had CPTSD and BPD I left with dependent personality disorder. I barely remember anything. It's a big blur. Longest 4 and half years ever.

[@blessedbabe8318]

Praise the Lord you got your son safe

[@Farmchic3185]

When i met my ex he had a story about how he did have his kids due to an accident that left him in the hospital for days. And he was trying to get them back especially after we got together cause i could help with the kids. I got pregnant and he was still using his other kids to manipulate me into being with him. One day when i was about 6wks he left for the day and my parents came to get me. When i got home he was messaging me saying he would use my depression to get custody of the baby when it was born. I couldnt bond with my child because i was afraid of losing this baby to him. I was around 4mos when i learned the abuse "his ex-girlfriend/kids mom" did to the kids was actually him confessing. And when i say it was bad i mean i dont know how hes not in jail. I also found out beside the 2 kids i knew about he had at least 3 others he was not involved with. My daughter is 7yo and im still terrified he will come around to try and take her.

[@Rickettsia505]

Thank you for telling your story. Im glad you are safe. My ex threatened to end himself. ( he stopped when I told him not to leave a mess. He later tried the same threat on my child. Sadly, he is still alive) I endured many of those same behaviors that you spoke about. I was also naive, and trapped by pregnancy and motherhood. I hated keeping up appearances, putting up a good front, pretending. But I got strong, learned, and got rid of him. Youre lucky yours ended himself, because he would have tormented your son.

[@deannarounds3295]

My ex called me one day at my place of employment and told me he was going to kill himself and he hoped I could live with that because it was all my fault. He said if I would come "home" (I moved out 4 months prior so not my home!) and talk to him he would wait and maybe we could work it out. I told him I was coming - then I called a cousin of his who lived in our same town that was an EMT and asked him to go check on him which he agreed to. He talked him out of the suicide - he was apparently sitting there with a loaded weapon and I am not sure if that was for me or if he wanted to make me watch him die. He never tried that ploy again. He lived 15 years after our divorce and died of lung cancer. He continued to harrass me until 6 months before he died. His whole life was sad.

[@claudiaohler7294]

I lived it. He ended himself. I live the post feelings. Sending you healing. Thanks for sharing.

[@angelathornbrugh8433]

You are a strong amazing woman. I also survived domestic violence. It's been 6 years now . I will Pray for you and your son.

[@charisamartin2152]

You are a brave, strong woman. We are so proud of you! I can’t imagine the heartache from the first push to that phone call 😭😭😭 Hope you have gotten the healing ❤️‍🩹 you need. I’m so sorry for the deception and the abuse 💔💔💔 My mom is also a DV survivor and I saw a lot of violence at home growing up. It’s a scar I’ll always carry, and it’s made me who I am!

[@sunshinedayz2172]

Hello, Thank you for sharing your story..💕🙏💛 I went through a similar ordeal.. Finally free and living safe and healthy..

[@lesleyrawlings4209]

So sorry for what you went through, but very happy that you’re okay now..

[@aproverbshome173]

I have been through situations in my past that were considered abuse. Being older now and a joyfully married woman, I remember back when I was so insecure and needy also. My total trust is in the Lord, and I thank the Lord that He washed my sins away and taught me to trust in Him. As women, we need to be more responsible with the people we allow in our life. For instance, we need to pray and ask God what is His best will for us, waiting for God’s timing, and not allowing warnings to slip on by because we want to feel wanted. The most important thing is to wait, pray, and fall in love with Jesus. Remember, not every man abuses, and that women abuse men also. Now it's your time to hold onto Christ and realize that your worth comes from Him. Most important, forgive so you can move on and get healing. He took His life because he was out of control and did not have hope. You have a wonderful home now and your beautiful child. Enjoy and allow God to lead you. Hugs. I’m praying for you.

[@terrirose3975]

This so describes my first marriage, he was not emotionally abusive, but could not definitely keep a job and we moved soooooo much. If it wasn't for my 2 kids, I would have left him much sooner. Instead he cheated on me, so thare's that and my way out. Ugh! Hugs to you my sister!

[@nursejen6273]

Recognized a lot of stuff from my first marriage. My current husband I remember when I was trying to juggle so many thing and get dinner made. He called me when I was picking up my daughter and I told him I was in my way home then I could get dinner started. He said “I can start dinner “ I just posed I think my mouth literally fell open. I had to tell him I guess you can boil water for the noodles. I didn’t mean to insult him I just never had help only criticism or if I did have “help” it came with so much emotional distress and energy it was just easier to juggle it all myself. Even asking him to take out the trash after I literally did everything else he was ask why I couldn’t do it. My husband now takes out the trash not only do I not have to break down crying, but I don’t even have to ask😮. It sounds sad when you say it out loud, but that was my life for years. And like you it was good in the beginning and I never had any physical bruises.

[@SimplyLibbyt]

I am so happy that you got out of that marriage and found who you are with now! The whole narrative of your everyday life changes when they are gone. Not to mention, when you get into a healthy relationship, it is literally SHOCKING. You deserve someone who makes you feel less stressed, and you dont have to ask things of. I am so proud of you and i know out kiddos are happy to see us thriving in healthy relationships ❤️❤️

[@susettedavis]

I really admire you. You have suffered so much. You have an inner strength that you don't realize you have. You are ready to actually enjoy the ride. The uphill climb is over.

[@user-yc5kf3vp9q]

I was with a few DV. Girl I hear you loud and clear.. that’s why I stay single now. You with a kid. Raise your kid first before you want another relationship. Can’t trust anyone these days❤🙏🏻☮️

[@lyriasfaves]

I stayed 30 years because "no one else would want me". Their lies become so ingrained in us we begin to believe them. I have been out for 5 yrs... best thing I ever did. I will NEVER allow another person to have control over me ever again. Not my body not my mind not my happiness.

[@lisacregger4446]

Omg like a broken record, I am back in 😢have no where to go.

[@lyriasfaves]

@@lisacregger4446 I got a job with a non-profit in another state ... got the job online because of covid... rented a uhaul van and drove to Montana where I bought a $500 car out of a junkyard and lived in it and a storage room and my office for a month while finding an apartment. It wasn't comfortable, but I did it. After a year, an old friend in the same situation with violence called me for help from a shelter. As soon as she finished her counseling program there, I took the Train to Arkansas and brought her back with me. We have huge lists of all the things we always wanted to do and for 4 yrs now we split everything right down the middle, I was able to retire and she will be going on disability taking into consideration the 3 TBIs and 20 broken bones her gave her the last time. Anyway, what I mean to say is don't give up on getting out. You can do it. You are worth it. I walked out with what I could fit in my car but would have gone on foot with a backpack... it was that or end everything and I wasn't ready to give up. I am so happy now. Planning my dream trip to Europe...retired...and happy with myself, for probably the first time in my life. I understand things are more complicated with children but mine are grown, and now suffering from the emotional abuse in their own choices because that is what I showed them how to do and is what they know...I will always carry that. Good Luck... all my best to you. I hope you make it out.

[@alieliot664]

My ex was the same way when it came to hurting me in places that wouldn’t leave bruises, eventually I ended up in the hospital and he spun it into somehow being my fault and I was the aggressor. Your story has helped me a lot ❤

[@happyluv]

Well I'm relieved he's gone out of the picture. The trajectory for this scenario was that you and the baby would be killed. The man was truly insane, thank your lucky stars he turned on himself rather than you. Nice girls often end up with these types of guys, its like the men have a radar for picking out vulnerable women. At least you have a lovley little boy so thats absolutely wonderful.

[@carolannmiller7911]

That's what NPD Abuse does! You and your son are SO better off! Kind of like good ridden to bad rubbish! So happy for you!

[@melissamoves8355]

I was in the same toxic kind of relationship with my spouse who gas lighted me and manipulated my family to eventually have me place in a psychiatric hospital to control me and my assets. When I did finally have the courage to leave the house to escape his physical emotional and mental abuse he donated everything I owned to the thrift store and killed himself leaving our 12 year old son to find him. I had actually called the police because he was sending me messages threatening self harm as well as calling me to come over because he had something to give to me. He told the police I was crazy had my father-in-law there saying the same things so they left my son went into his room the next morning and found him deceased. He left a suicide letter. We had a closed family service but got a call from the mortuary asking if one of the women he used drugs and cheated on me with could come in for a private viewing that she had called several times and just needed a private moment with him. I declined the request.

[@kerimebozaoglu9283]

I’m so sorry that you went through this. And yes you’re right just because you don’t see any bruises doesn’t mean there is no abuse. There is so much more to abuse than just bruises because the wounds we don’t see are the wounds that cut the deepest and hurt the most. I think only people who have gone through or are going through it knows exactly what that means and feels.

[@KP-wb4do]

Thank you for sharing this. I love you. I love your courage. So many of us hide our stories because we feel embarrassed or ashamed. And we aren't to blame for what happened to us.

[@SimplyLibbyt]

❤️ thank you so much! I was so ashamed of my story for so long. But they hold so much power.

[@ruthie1967]

I am familiar with your story. You're right nobody knows because we're too embarrassed to tell. Some people don't understand why we stay but until you're in that situation you just can't understand. I pray your life turns around and you find the happiness that you deserve.

[@vidabacevicius9567]

Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. You are wonderful and beautiful and your son is very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom! lotsa love. xoxo

[@SimplyLibbyt]

Thank you soo much for being so kind!! ❤️❤️

[@back2me08]

My ex-husband used to say that because he didn't punch me in the face, it wasn't abuse. I left him 20 years ago. The mental and emotional abuse still creeps up on me from time to time. The worst part of it all is he loved to slp me in my left ear. He destroyed my equilibrium in that ear. Long-term results of that, I am now disabled and no longer allowed to drive! Due to the balance and distance issues, I have suffered more than 40 concussions. I have permanent brain damage.

[@bakerwannabe4435]

So thankful that you are safe now. I’m sorry that you experienced this horrible abuse.

[@annetteaughney9182]

I just found your channel. Oh boy, I am so sorry what you went through. I am so glad you are safe and happy. Just by the way you speak, you seem a beautiful soul. Love and best wishes to you and your family💞

[@oermama]

You are so brave 👏🏻👏🏻👍 and no doubt you help people by sharing. This is the second video of yours I’ve watched, I do hope you are still happy with your friend.