My Engagement Ring and Secret Girlfriend?! Answering your Assumptions

[@MarySpender]

🎹 *Bonus Assumptions* For My Very Lovely Supporters www.patreon.com/maryspender

[@burdeninmyhand]

For the next video: Wear a Ramones T-shirt! (Now that you spoke about the punk rock issue)

[@reverendlee7617]

You are married to your guitar! LMAO Actually proud of you. I seen you perform with Leo, and you are still going!

[@jonbongjovi1869]

Let's see you make a song.....that is as FAR out of your comfort zone! (EX: Frank Zappa had no heart ,and mocked love songs. If he were a brave composer, he'd have challenged himself to write a Love Song that he's proud of.)

[@JamesThomas-zl9er]

With 600k subscribers I think you’ve done very well to only get that limited a clutch of madness 😂😂😂

[@lemsdarkapprentice2535]

such fascinating insight, loads of thanks [el'sda2].

[@joeys24]

You’re just an honest , real, sweet person who just happens to be a wonderful musician. Your videos are infectious and your personality is so adorable. Thank you for just being you.

[@antfart9791]

Love her ,engaged or not, with pick or fingerstile,she looks genuine to me, when i look in shes eyes and listen shes deep voice,i feel what i suffered and made me stronger,Mary keep going love you so much.♥

[@like2view]

What Joey said!!

[@jeffersoncosgrove1910]

This. ^-^

[@wizewoods9130]

@@like2view what Charles said that Joey said!!

[@GeoffreyMays]

You took the words right out of my mouth! Mary Spender, you are a veritable delight !

[@victo44344]

Mary I absolutely love your speaking voice. You should do audiobooks. I do like your singing and playing of course, but you mostly speak here and I think it is just great.

[@MrPnew1]

An angel

[@tetedur377]

I heard Mark Henwick lost his reader of his "Bite Back" series. Not sure if he has another, or not.

[@korento3000]

You have a lot of male fans commenting on here, so I just want to shout out that as a female aspiring singer-songerwriter working on my first EP, you are one of my go-to 'spiritual counsellors' and a major musical inspiration, despite my genre being very different from yours! Thank you for being you, and for your stunning voice and music.

[@trep53]

I like the Mary Spender I see on KZbin, her music, her voice, her style. There’s no mystery that Mary works hard at her craft.

[@philash824]

I found your channel because of the excellent sultans of swing cover with the equally talented Leo, and I love both your singing voice and your normal voice, and you are amazing in general

[@davidschumaker8107]

Same here! I kept scrolling to see if anyone else first noticed Mary with that hilarious video!

[@MicovskiMC]

Same

[@shawnmcmillan1294]

That's also how I found Mary! You are spot on with your comment.

[@keensoundguy6637]

I had been watching both Leo's and Mary's channels, having discovered them independently, so it was a nice treat to see that collaboration.

[@douglasjackson1998]

Same here. I am hoping to one day get to see a video of Mary visiting and playing with Mark Knopfler.

[@giulioluzzardi7632]

Great news, 4 years as a working Musician and presenter and under your own initiative and hard work deserves praise . Dream big and stay free.

[@CasperLCat]

I love that you don’t give out ANY real information on your personal life, even though you could create more “buzz” and viewership if you did. It’s so refreshing when a younger person, raised in our tell-all world, values the concept of a truly private life, because they value themselves.

[@JamesMears76]

It's weird that so many people are interested in your relationship status, they need to get over it 😂 some very interesting questions and answers though, cheers!

[@MarySpender]

Haha! Well, I mean, they're free to ask! It's not as exciting as they hope.

[@josephhughes9490]

​@@MarySpender . I got to tell you I really was wondering about the ring 💍. Actually glad you clarified your status for some reason. You are kind of in our lives somewhat so its oddly normal for us to want to know even though it's none of our business..😅

[@luisdetomaso867]

It's just modern simp culture

[@XenaTheQuadCamBikah]

You nailed it, people are weird! 😊

[@FormulaProg]

Why is it weird? Don't answer that. It's not.

[@GlenLaForceMusic]

It’s amazing how people have to be so unkind. You are an honest person who I enjoy watching the way you navigate through your music. You have put in a lot of hours.

[@josephpetrocelli3930]

My wife and I have been playing guitar and singing together since we met in 1971. It never gets old. I have learned from your videos and we thank you.

[@st6086]

Wow, as someone who has been married for only 10 years so far, I love the sound of that.

[@ljfinger]

I don't know if you're engaged or faking your accent, I only know that you're delightful to listen to and to watch.

[@jameswcollett]

Mary's accent sounds "genuine" to me - that is, that is her natural voice. Although Wikipedia claims she was born in Germany, she's clearly been raised in a very English environment. She sounds like she was educated at a nice private school in the South East. If she's engaged, then a legion of fellas will be devastated. 😅

[@jamesscully529]

As far as the accent question, the person spelled Sir Patrick Stewart's name wrong. Probably spells 'Mary Spinder' wrong as well.

[@charleslambert3368]

@@jameswcollett > sounds like she was educated at a nice private school in the South East Same goes for Sir Patrick but guess where he grew up?

[@jameswcollett]

@@charleslambert3368 Patrick Steward grew up in the North East of England. He's clearly honed his accent and done a good job of it.

[@garry-t5056]

You're successful Mary because you are an accomplished musician/singer/song writer, very articulate, open about things you want us to know and present yourself with a smile. Long may you continue because your videos always brighten my day.

[@TheSafetySmith]

Don't change a thing, we like you as you are. Your perfections and imperfections (if you have any). Its greatly satisfying to see someone living and not just existing.

[@ShawnFerrell]

This woman is frustratingly perfect.

[@JediCrackSmoke]

LOOOOL!!! Simp harder!

[@4spbiz]

I know right!

[@urbangrouse]

Frustratingly? I find she's a breath of fresh air!

[@pmonkeygeezer6212]

@@urbangrouse Frustratingly is a good word, as I think most men would do her, and most women would wanna be her or do her, if they liked that kind of thing. But they are not in a position to do her or be her, hence they are "frustrated". Hope you can see this!

[@eltarb67]

I agree this is beyond perfection !

[@direwolf7080]

Its obvious just listening to you talk you are a good and sweet person. The fact you are an incredible musician is just the cherry on top

[@smoorej]

The combination of a brain-meltingly gorgeous voice, physical and spiritual beauty, and total “what you see is what you get” honesty makes every one of your videos an absolute joy, whether you pick up a guitar or not. You could start another channel where you just read Shakespeare aloud and you’d get tons of subscribers.

[@PromptStreamer]

I actually expect there to be more comments about how beautiful her face is. There are very few.

[@chrisshaw6451]

How on earth can you say you're not brave enough Mary? You are one of the bravest people i know, look at all you have done and acomplished, you are FIERCE and inspiring my friend. 👍❤️

[@cobar5342]

Mary is a class act in every way

[@LaMusicade4]

Such a beautiful lady. NO nose ring!

[@Futs101]

Those reflections about being on YT full time, as much of an accomplishment as it is, you "almost" got emotional about it. 😳 Even though i haven't been here since the beginning, im not far from it. And i for one am excited to see that patreon and yt icon pop up so i can see what you've posted! Keep up the awesome work Mary 😁💞

[@MarySpender]

Wow thank you so much. I am constantly emotional about it - in a positive way!

[@tedgourley6274]

Mary, thank you for allowing us to accompany you on your journey. Watching and listening as you evolve as an artist and person is truly an honour. You are one of a kind.

[@rzh3443]

As an older fan ( I like your singing) , a real engagement ring would break a lot of hearts out there judging from the usual commenters !

[@ogfail1867]

I have been a fan since you dueted with Leo on Sultans of Swing. I love your finger picking style. Keep doing what you're doing!!

[@DennisAlvarezMusic]

Hello Mary, I've been enjoying your content for several years now. I'm so happy to hear that you are able to do what you love for a living. I've been a full time gigging musician for about 29 years and I'm still loving it. I think that you are fortunate to have grown up in a a time that someone with real talent (like yourself) can make a living from their own music done their way without having to bow down to the record labels. You are proof of that fact.

[@Adileigh23]

I don’t know how I stumbled upon this channel, but I’m glad I did.

[@chrisreich40]

Young lady, you're not old. You're never going to get old. Old is those of us who bought Beatles singles when they were first released. Yeah, that's old. Stay young, young lady!

[@TheSoundofTanay]

I can’t be the only one who first fell for her music, and then for her. - another one of your admirers from across the globe!

[@jaqcp]

I knew I couldn't be the only one. Hope we don't have to duel for her affections one day!

[@jessilopes]

@@jaqcp oh dear... 3 way duel it is sir.. ;-)

[@itsjim2875]

I'm way too old - I'll just sit back and watch you guys fight over her.

[@cass2771]

My ‘assumption’ - is that you are a genuine, ‘you get what you see’ sort of person. Love your work, thank you ❤

[@rayschoch5882]

"Mary talking" videos are among my favorites. Smart, direct, knowledgeable. May the music video company continue to thrive and prosper. You've been extraordinarily careful NOT to reveal anything about your love life. I assume you think it's none of our business, and you're correct. I never noticed the switch of ring fingers. I always assumed your nose ring was real, and am happy that you dispensed with it. I've always used a pick, but don't just strum or play chords, which seems (to me) a kind of hybrid technique. Next time you're in the states, Mary, catch a Larkin Poe show if you can - two women of about your age, one with an operatic alto voice, the other an excellent slide guitar player. Their blues rock/hard rock style is not at all like yours, but you have similar musical backgrounds (starting at an early age, though they went public a decade sooner).

[@Musician-Lee]

Despite your music and songwriting being the original reason I signed up through Patreon, these videos are in a class of their own and I love them. I can’t help loving those two dogs though, managing a cameo spot at the end …

[@larisonjohnson]

My assumption…Regardless of how you answered any of those other assumptions, I’ll always come back for the next video. ❤

[@edpetrikk2027]

Don’t go changing..rearranging..don’t change the color of your hair ..Through all the good time ..Through all the bad times ..I love you just the way you are 💕

[@Peter-oh3hc]

Well played sir

[@coldlakealta4043]

Billy Joel: I Love You Just the Way you Are (1977)

[@batboy242]

Mary, thank you for kindness and sweet personable outlook on You Tube! Love your comments and videos Fran

[@rocketpost1]

I'm an old geezer Mary but always find you entertaining and easy to watch. You are so natural in front of the camera.

[@honeysucklewoes1627]

Holy crap...people actually ask you this sort of stuff??? Bless your sense of humor and patience. And thank you for your music!

[@lauriemacquanan2141]

The voice /accent is great!! These questions were thought up JUST to get YOU to answer!!

[@danmayberry1185]

Mary, Rick and Rhett brought your work to my attention. I'm so glad your drive and discipline have brought your talents forward, and enabled more of us to enjoy the fruits.

[@richclayton5785]

Well, you answered a couple of them and very cleverly dodged the rest; tis your right. I met (discovered) you when you did Sultans of Swing with Leo. How long has that been now. Nice getting to know you.❤

[@lj5899]

Speculation is... recreation, for many of us out here. So if engaged, a blonde, or punk rock queen... Please stay your course my dear! Thanks for the video Mary!

[@johndowney3294]

it's not just us giving you time it's your being worth our time, and you are definitely that, which takes more work than I think most folks realize so thanks🙌

[@fredaaron762]

You are so right about Lizzie McAlpine. I took my daughter and her closest friend to see Dodie last February and Lizzie McAlpine opened the show. A truly memorable concert and it was really cool that I may have been the oldest person in the audience that night.

[@mikehoskin]

Glad that you are doing what you are meant to do….your music, your ideas and the reviews are important to the arts and culture…. You amaze me with your creativity and passion to stay on track with living your dream 👍😁👍

[@davidcole5183]

Don't ever change that beautiful brown hair

[@adrianpalmer3077]

Are those real questions coming from people watching your videos?!? It's really, really hard to believe it that these guys ever graduated from kindergarten! 😊 Oh, I just love how you make fun of them in such a nice, elegant, lady -like, subtle way! 😊

[@svbarr]

Prior to amplification the pick/plectrum was the best way to be heard over other instruments - particularly in the higher frequencies. Listen to any blue grass band - the pick or picks flatpickers use cut through the mix.

[@HermelJaworski]

I really appreciate your honesty and kindness, as well as your confidence in yourself. The questions about relationships, lovers or engagements are tiring, they are only being asked to female musicians and youtubers. Why is nobody asking Adam Neely whether he's engaged or not?

[@Blueshade]

I just love how kind and creative she is.Such humility and so easygoing. Watching her videos is like relaxing on a comfy couch in front of a fire and just being cozy.....

[@Kleis1]

Someone hoping u had a secret girlfriend is just wishfulness. You are an amazing songwriter, musician, producer, editor, performer. All different kinds of people get to be in the front row in this venue. Please keep doing what you do. Enjoy every minute possible. For me, you are an inspiration as well as a joy to hear. Keep being your brilliant self.

[@toddbigeasy]

not sure what the Miley Cyrus video exposed. but it was a great cover.

[@goldenpie6]

@@toddbigeasy the intro skit she says shes single so thats probably it

[@hagedospe]

Love who you like, show it like you want to and do what you like. its your private territory and no one has a right to judge. Best wishes from Germany

[@murphygraham4724]

Mary - your musical journey and just delightful personality, your particular insight and lack of artifice make for an endearing and fun combination. Keep doing you.

[@justinharwood7996]

I was signed to a major label in the golden days (pre Napster) and you have to do so much more to maintain your livelihood than I ever had to so you deserve all the love and appreciation. You have to give much more then we ever did when we had labels running the show. Keep it up and onward and upward.

[@SeanKStephens]

I don't think people realize how much work goes into creating a successful KZbin channel and actually earning a living from it. Good for you for making it this far! I hope to see you continue creating content and growing your audience.

[@podbay]

You are a natural on screen, brilliant, sweet, hilarious, natural, and incredibly talented and very beautiful. Keep it up.

[@liesbepje]

Nice to know more about you now and not having to speculate anymore 😉. Your music is awesome and keep doing what you're doing 😘

[@BillEdge]

I'm a bit late to comment... but I think Mary is the most natural presenter on KZbin (that I've seen). That makes her a global treasure.

[@stevenchristianupton]

Love you, Mary! Keep being your honest, wonderful self.

[@Mitch-6-Strings]

Wow, why do people feel they need to make personal comments. None of this is relevant and can cause anxiety and distress. Mary, you dealt with this with dignity and courage. Good luck on your journey and keep doing what you do 😀

[@michaelsherck5099]

Greetings from one "baby blonde turns into brunette" to another. I started out as a platinum blonde, turned into a brunette which began turning ever darker in my 20s. Then it started turning Grey and fell out. And I started playing guitar because I liked the way a wooden acoustic guitar smelled. Good luck!!! 😅

[@stuartwarner6719]

This video was a chuckle! I usually try not to make assumptions Mary... but here's one I'm pretty confident in making: those people making assumptions about you actually know nothing about you.

[@davidjames6879]

Mary Spender, love your (natural, of course) accent, prefer no nose ring, and you are just naturally beautiful, incredibly talented and make KZbin a great internet destination. Thank you for sharing your "career" with us and keep on keep cracking on!

[@LauraPallatin]

I assume that a whole lot of work goes into everything you produce. Much like the proverbial swan on water, you look effortless and graceful on the surface while working very hard out of sight. Update: I have to believe this! Gives me comfort as I toil away on my own projects! 😂

[@stpeter7432]

More power to your elbow, Mary! You have a terrific talent and it's a real pleasure to listen to your voice - whether speaking or singing. I have absolutely no musical ability but love what you do!

[@countryheathen1834]

Ur English accent is brilliant, i love your personality.

[@biancacamacho9431]

❤❤❤❤❤ Love the way she is , as a Musician , as a Human being , as a KZbinr. Thanks Mary for upload these videos 🎸 god bless you

[@ronalddent4854]

My dear, I'm quite older than you and I appreciate your work and thank you for sharing your talents and perspectives.

[@chrisb9740]

Keep doing what you are doing Mary. Hope to catch one of your shows sometime.

[@colinmaharaj]

Good for you and your relationship. 😊

[@krdixon2897]

I've been playing guitar since I was 13 and now am 58. I get bored with it sometimes but it is truly a part of who I am so its not just what instrument you play but its who you are.. Love the finger style too!

[@oleksandrbyelyenko435]

The nose ring suits you. And looks wonderful.

[@MarkusOsmers]

Happy for you to have all you want, do what you want and for your dream of a music album to come true. You do good work and you earned it!!

[@MrPlayerPerson]

I got you beat, I have been playing guitar since I was 5, and now I'm 62 so I have been playing for over 57 years. I am still a student of the instrument and I learn something new every time I play my guitar. The guitar has been my friend, my enemy, my psychologist, my comforting friend when I am depressed or sad, and always by my side to inspire me to be better and to learn that you are good but there is always room for improvement. Yes, with a guitar, the learning never ends! As far as Picks and Finger Style playing is concerned, I have managed to do a hybrid of Pick & Fingerstyle simultaneously, I have been doing it for over 40 years. Great Job Mary you are an amazing talent and a great KZbin Video creator. Oh, also a great songwriter and musician!!!

[@RubyRoks]

4:21 You'd think people wouldn't assume this after 30+ years of the "sex, drugs, and rock and roll" era being dead and gone

[@patrickjordan2233]

I enjoy your content.. when I transitioned from a part-time journeyman bassist/guitarist/backing vocalist 25+ years ago to a hobbyist song writer/recorder...I slowly began to miss the regular interaction with other musicians? Now I participate vicariously through yourself, Rick, and several others.. Thank You ♥️ Didn't know how much I actually missed it, and you and the other creators help fill that spiritual void 👍😁👍... Again, TY.♥️🙏♥️

[@Ericmongeur]

People are silly 😂 Also, 1st!

[@MarySpender]

Haha - well to be honest I encouraged it!

[@funnymanricktwo]

So, you're saying we have a chance. Yeah!😊

[@RoboSteave]

No, don't do it! Don't go blonde. I guess I'm not a gentleman since I prefer brunettes. (I'm sure she's concerned about being attractive to me.). Thanks for the answers to these burning questions!

[@musicman70707]

Where did anyone get the idea that you were a blonde?? You are the quintessential smart, down to earth brunette.

[@larnregis]

I have another assumption: Your voice is so soothing, you were recorded while reading a dictionary. This record is sold to people with sleeping issues.

[@rottingemptiness]

Your private life is not important to us , but your music is !!!! 🎸🥁🎤🎷

[@davidhorizon8401]

To me, nose rings distract from the face. Ear rings accent the face. Maybe I'm just too old! But Mary, you are beautiful inside and out.

[@kylelambert8322]

Under 30 and agreed.

[@frederickherring2284]

Me too, The music is what counts

[@13soxs]

Nose ring no thank you, much nicer without.........

[@donnieglenellyn]

I enjoy your videos for one important reason; listening to someone who is down to earth, humble and just trying to enjoy life in daily basis. The music is secondary to what’s really important in a person

[@rickjette9482]

I think you look better without the nose ring. Maybe I'm just too old to appreciate face jewelry.

[@davidjarvie9546]

Enjoyable video Mary.i cant believe your in your 30's You look so young.thanks 🇬🇧💙👍

[@frederickglasser5617]

Mary, you are so genuine, so down to earth, that to say you're the real deal is a gross understatement. Keep making us smile and warm is with your mellifluouity.

[@Killervaughn74]

As someone who has been singing playing guitar and and a few other instruments for over thirty years with a wide range of methods of turning music into money for many years (original/cover bands, metal, funk, d'n'b, acoustic, pubs, festivals, busking, cruise ships, Mexican restaurant rooftops in Thailand, more adventures than I can even dare to recall) and though I don't make my living through music alone anymore (my choice) I just find you so disarming Mary. There's such an understated wonder and humble charm in your delivery, and while picking up a guitar in the early 90s wasn't going to hurt my chances.... I still play every day because I love it more than anything, and even in my living room the looping tasks I set upon myself are just silly, but eventually nailing it is not silly. Thanks for inspiring me to think about why I love music so much. And just quietly let out a sigh of relief...that's not an engagement ring 🤟😉🤘 Keep it up Mary. You're top tier 🎸🎹🎵

[@g3e_star]

Thankyou for being yourself as always 😁🎸🕉️

[@stuahlers1528]

“We love you just the way you are”! Wait, isn’t that a song lyric? ❤

[@TheTechMargin]

Love the nose ring, I am still rocking mine and I am in my prime as I like to say (ban middle-aged from all dictionaries!)

[@2ndCH4NCE]

Fun video. Thank you for mentioning Lizzy McAlpine. Wow. What a treat to know of her now.

[@wolftaco5975]

its really refreshing someone being open and honest about life, just like music when you play guitar or play any instrument the notes don't lie :) you play how you feel at the time.

[@southernflight1]

Mary Spender, nothing but love and respect for you ma'am. I hope you can get to Texas someday. Cheers, Don Shell

[@matthewmcguire5217]

You answered those questions exceptionally well; especially the ones you avoided answering which didn’t deserve an answer. Great job!

[@carrotsandrunning]

The nose ring was neat :) Could still rock it for a few more years i'm sure.

[@dethangel88]

Assumptions seem very elementary, but this goes to show, nobody knows who you are, more than yourself. Keep staying true, keep being you, the bright always shines. I will always be a fan, thank you Mary. ❤

[@darrelljohnson7052]

One of the best 80 bands that came out of Europe was the band "Adorable"! The song Sunshine smile is truly hypnotic!🤯🤙💜

[@robertbull6895]

It’s fascinating that so many viewers feel a need to analyze the life of those who choose to be creative and share their skills and talents with others. Maybe it reflects how little they think and do something about their own? 🤷‍♂️🙏

[@nelsonnichols922]

I found that my favorite guitarists primarily finger picked as opposed to using a plectrum, so I dedicated myself to improving that skill